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Holiday Gifts: Does size matter?

Tis the season to stress over gifts! The trickiest part of gift selection when you are dating comes down to this: should you get a big gift, little gift, or medium one?

I don’t believe spending a lot of money on someone you have just started dating is a great idea. I would even skip gift exchange altogether. I wonder though, when you have been in a committed relationship, do you think that giving an expensive gift is important?

If money is tight this year, what can you give the person you are dating that still makes a great impact?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

301 comments Add your comment

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
6:36 am

Good morning……….

Can’t sleep been up since about 4:00 a.m. I’m not buying a gift for anyone outside of family. I agree….folks you may have recently met or spending time with, will maybe get a card and a slice of cake…..lol IMO, anything more might just be too soon, inappropriate or a bad call. Live in the moment and enjoy the season.

If you have a SO, buy according to your level of like….never mind the price tag :) Sometimes small but significant can be more effective than all the fanfare.

Dude

December 13th, 2011
7:41 am

Guys- Don’t listen to the women on this at all, if they say you shouldn’t get them anything they are lying, be safe and get something for them, if you don’t and they do you are effed. And women never forget.

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
7:51 am

Morning MIA!!!!

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
7:59 am

Wow, I haven’t exchanged a gift with a mate in a minute so this is almost not applicable to me……prior I would get nice gifts and I believe in getting what a person what or needs or truly like so it’s not really a huge surprise and I stay within my speeding limits for that year.

This is definitely not even a concern this year. I am not even spending to much on my own child. I am however sponsoring a family @ a local women’s shelter during this season. Its been a tough year for many, even those who work everyday so imagine those who are not and have beautiful kids in these circumstances…..So being a blessing to someone else will be my gift to someone else! ;)

Fion

December 13th, 2011
8:19 am

@Lady
Standing ovation. Confetti , balloons and streamers falling from the ceiling

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
8:31 am

Too Cute sir! ~Thanks!

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
8:40 am

Hey Lady, we are doing the “shoebox” thingy. I don’t have all the details but a coworker mentioned something about to our team and we’ve adopted that idea. It was either that or pajamas and books.

I talked to the new guy all the way in today :)

MzNewy

December 13th, 2011
8:44 am

Good morning MIA!

I believe in thoughtful heartfelt gifts. I take notes throughout the year on folks and get them something they may have mentioned in passing. As for SO, I think the same should apply. However, if you are just dating, a nice card suffices. Big elaborate gifts have never been my thing becaues I don’t believe in waiting all year to let someone know what they mean to you.

Kudos to Lady on what you are doing this year.

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
8:46 am

He C & MzNewy!!!!!!

Yep C its all about helping others!!!!! Glad you talked to the new guy!!!!! Good things sis!!!!! ;)

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
8:48 am

Big stuff is just show off to me anyway. Unless you’ve noticed a SO in need of something (big) that maybe they can’t afford or don’t have the funds to do at the time and you can…and it’s more so a necessity then okay. But just showing off and spending money? That’s tacky. I can’t speak for all women but I would venture to say something well thought out or about is more striking than bells and whistles.

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
8:51 am

& C you bring up a great point. If I had that serious SO I would give much thought to something they have longed for that year and I knew circumstances on their end couldn’t make that happen. The though and appreciation will be genuine and it wouldn’t be a ploy to send a message of hope of desperation. Maybe big item we stay together forever……I can’t do the random gift thing. I never played that game really……

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
8:53 am

Exactly Lady…me either. Buying gifts just to spend money…no can do.

DreamsMaterialize

December 13th, 2011
9:00 am

Morning
I buy for my daughter, neices, and nephew. Everyone else is on their own. When it comes to dating though, I’m not into big gifts. I’m into thoughtful and useful gifts.

Guys- Don’t listen to the women on this at all, if they say you shouldn’t get them anything they are lying,
Dude I was talking to a co-worker about this the other day. He was saying that his wife loves that Christmas song “All I Want for Christmas Is You”. He went on to say that that was some BS and suggested trying that on Christmans morning.

Guy: Merry Christmas baby.

Girl: Merry Christmas! Soooo, I don’t see anything in your hands. Are you hiding it? Oh, oh, oh, it’s a surprise!

Guy: Ummmm, no. You said all wanted for Christmas was me. Well…here I am!!!

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
9:05 am

DreamsM too funny! One of my fav Christmas song is Luther Vandross “A Kiss for Christmas” LOL I promise that is all I want but from WHO will make it whole! LOL

Alternative Black Man

December 13th, 2011
9:09 am

Size matters, width matters, texture matters….

Dude

December 13th, 2011
9:11 am

I find myself remembering the line from Star Wars – “It’s a trap”

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
9:12 am

hush Dude LOL too funny! You are getting in the jokes! all women don’t have to have the gifts…..on that one day! Lawd holidays! & just think Valentines is next! smh lol

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
9:12 am

meant you ALL are getting in the gift jokes! lol

disco

December 13th, 2011
9:13 am

good morning.

celisea – shut up (sorry that was the hater in me. she shows up from time to time. I told her to go sit down somewhere).

I’m always tickled when folks decide to NOT exchange gifts and then one party buys a gift anyway thinking that those were just empty words. male friend of mine (who is creeping no less) had that conversation with his sidepiece. no gifts. he shows up empty handed and she presents him with a rather expensive watch. I asked him if he declined the watch. he was like “heck no – that watch was nice”. I asked if he planned to at least get her something and he responded with a firm no. in short, some folks must get off on playing themselves.

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
9:15 am

Merning disco (waving at you…now wave back)….muah!

disco

December 13th, 2011
9:24 am

I don’t mind buying gifts. I do mind folks (especially grown men) who solicit gifts.

DreamsMaterialize

December 13th, 2011
9:25 am

DreamsM too funny!
Lady There are just some things in life that you know better than to do, no matter how much you hear to the contrary.

I’m always tickled when folks decide to NOT exchange gifts and then one party buys a gift anyway thinking that those were just empty words.
disco I always tell people not to get me anything. I’m a simple dude. My parents still ask me what I want for Christmas or my birthday. I still them that a phone call will do. I tell women the same thing. Some listen, some don’t. Go figure.

disco

December 13th, 2011
9:28 am

well dreams – “some listen, some don’t” – please tell about some of the gifts you have received from folks that you told you weren’t exchanging gifts. how did they feel? did they guilt you into getting them something? I know a lot of us will agree that some folks really do feel good about giving but I also believe that some folks really do give expecting reciprocation OR they give because they are trying to be affection.

DreamsMaterialize

December 13th, 2011
9:28 am

& just think Valentines is next! smh lol
Lady What is Valentines Day? Don’t think I’ve ever heard of it.

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
9:31 am

good answer DreamsM 9:25 to me! good one! I chuckled!

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
9:31 am

I ain’t knocking getting a gift and I’m not against buying one. To Diva’s post, if it’s something new then no..not happening. Now if we’re well into relating and having a well established relationship, IMO buying a gift sort of goes without saying. To what extent and knowing your SO well enough to get the “perfect” gift is what should be happening at that point.

Randyt (I have this t-shirt and it is a stinker)

December 13th, 2011
9:32 am

There may be some women out there who really are content with “just you”, but I have never dated one…and I believe in them as much as I believe in fire breathing dragons and unicorns. Women most of the time, IMHO, want to feel appreciated. If it costs a bundle at The Shane Co., they don’t care it looks like crap…it will work. That said, they will still break up with you right after you deliver, and right after they give you the shirt and tie.

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
9:33 am

Women most of the time, IMHO, want to feel appreciated

And there you have it.

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
9:35 am

@DreamsM Saint Valentine’s Day, commonly shortened to Valentine’s Day,[1][2][3] is an annual commemoration held on February 14 celebrating love and affection between intimate companions.[1][3] The day is named after one or more early Christian martyrs named Saint Valentine, and was established by Pope Gelasius I in 496 AD. It was deleted from the General Roman Calendar of saints in 1969 by Pope Paul VI. It is traditionally a day on which lovers express their love for each other by presenting flowers, offering confectionery, and sending greeting cards (known as “valentines”). The day first became associated with romantic love in the circle of Geoffrey Chaucer in the High Middle Ages, when the tradition of courtly love flourished.
Modern Valentine’s Day symbols include the heart-shaped outline, doves, and the figure of the winged Cupid. Since the 19th century, handwritten valentines have given way to mass-produced greeting cards.[4]

LOLOLOLOLOLOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
9:37 am

Women most of the time, IMHO, want to feel appreciated

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
9:38 am

& I LOVE the little things! ;)

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
9:38 am

so DreramsM some white hot chocolate would suffice! lol I had to go there! LOL

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
9:38 am

meant DreamsM that is! smh! lol

Leggs

December 13th, 2011
9:40 am

Morning…

When newly dating someone, I think “Happy Holidays” is good enough. Now, while in a relationship you will never hear from my mouf “I don’t want anything.” The price of the gift truly is not important to me. I’m enriched that you though enough to give me a gift.

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
9:40 am

now playing Happy by Surface! #appropriate! lol

Randyt (I have this t-shirt and it is a stinker)

December 13th, 2011
9:42 am

“If money is tight this year, what can you give the person you are dating that still makes a great impact?”

For the man, anything…
For the woman, don’t even try…

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
9:44 am

lol @ Randy! you all got it today….lol smh

Randyt (I have this t-shirt and it is a stinker)

December 13th, 2011
9:49 am

The only thing that I have experienced that is “safe” was actually a Valentine’s Day gift. the lady I was seeing was really tight for money, and her ex-husband was being a dIIIk about the child support for her three children. She had been really hurting because they hadn’t had a new pair of jeans to go to school in in two years. So, I bought her gift certificates to be used to buy her kids a new pair of jeans each…and flowers from me. Packaged them in a nice gift bag and gave them to her over dinner. That worked. She may not care for you, but she usually does care about her children.

Alternative Black Man

December 13th, 2011
9:49 am

I find that my lovers just want a good holiday meal? Like a tube steak smothered in underwear. Also I am very good at stuffing sausage or making some gourmet glazed sticky buns.

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
9:49 am

I love doing someone’s favorite list…….its fun!

Randyt (I have this t-shirt and it is a stinker)

December 13th, 2011
9:50 am

:-) @Lady I have the scars of experience.

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
9:52 am

Alrighty then ABM! get it in!

Dude

December 13th, 2011
9:52 am

Everyone here should go to youtube and watch “beware of the doghouse” and all will be explained, it’s a JC Penny commercial from last year, but there is no other video that is more true during the holiday season.

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
9:52 am

I know Randy and I respect your scares! Enjoy your stories!

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
9:53 am

Enjoy your scars that is! I am a bit sidetracked! lol

kimmie

December 13th, 2011
9:54 am

Morning All!!!

Celisea, I’m loving hearing about your new friend!!! See that’s whats up. You are giddy not because he’s blowing a lot of money on you, but paying attention and getting to know you.

On topic – In new relationships around the holidays, I would bake dude some cookies and give a card. I had been dating my now husband a little under 3 months and that’s what I did for him. He gave me a nice little wooden box of assorted teas.

Once established, I’ve never spent a ton of money on bf’s. I used to hear of other couples that did and sometimes I thought I and the guys might be coming up short. I would hear people saying they got a coat, a watch, jewelry, a wardrobe, an expensive purse, etc. Adding it all up it would sound like at least $500 if not more was blown. I’ve just never been in a position to do that. I make sure my kids, neices & nephews have gifts first. I loved doing nice things for my parents when they were alive and I make sure I give money to my grandmother.

Yeah, I try to listen and observe to find out what people truly want and need. That makes it easy.

Alternative Black Man

December 13th, 2011
9:57 am

I think if its a new relationship you should just shower that person with attention. My lovers always shower me with something.

Randyt (I have this t-shirt and it is a stinker)

December 13th, 2011
9:58 am

I apologize in advance for the following sexist remark…but it is what it is. Women are in no real danger most of the time when it comes to buying for a man…because he doesn’t put that much stock in it to begin with. A man is in extreme peril when it comes to gift giving because there are a thousand mines in that minefield because the women highly values the meaning and message…and it is a tightrope that is easy to fall off of.

Leggs

December 13th, 2011
9:59 am

I hate that song, Happy, Lady! Reminds me of this punk I dated who was never happy (unless drunk).

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
9:59 am

Leggs!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LOL

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
10:00 am

Kimmie – Exactly Kimmie. He asked me this morning during mid sentence “are you a good girl” I had to ask him his definition…lol It was a nice conversation. I know I don’t know enough of anything yet to be anything but giddy but I hope he’s as say 6 months to a year as he is now. I find him very easy to talk to. I tell ya sometimes going in with folks and getting/being in can spring surprises.

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
10:01 am

Lawd Randy!!! You are crunk and bout to go for the kill! o_0 lol it is rocket science and I feel two folks truly into each other knows what to grab to make that person feel much more appreciated…..lol

kimmie

December 13th, 2011
10:02 am

I hate it when folks say they don’t want anything. It’s puts a damper on things. Even for the folks that have everything, I will just get them a bottle of wine or a fancy bottle of sparkling cider if they don’t drink, and wrap it up pretty. Or I will bake them a favorite cake.

I never tell people not to get me anything. It’s a drag and kind of a slap in the face, I think. People just want to show you kindness, so allow them in their own way. I don’t ever want people to stress over giving me something. I am truly grateful for anything. If you thought about me and sent me a card, that truly warms my heart. It’s nice when pictures are included too! :)

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
10:09 am

Leggs now playing You Should be Mine Jeffery Osborne! enjoy that one bc I do! ;)

Leggs

December 13th, 2011
10:13 am

I like that one, Lady.

@Celisea ~ giddiness, anticipation, wishfulness are wonderful things to feel (again).

Dude

December 13th, 2011
10:17 am

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
10:21 am

dude I can’t open the link @ work let me try to get it to my BB and see what is so true! lol

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
10:24 am

Dude it is not that serious lol chuckle @ the dual bag!

DreamsMaterialize

December 13th, 2011
10:24 am

but I also believe that some folks really do give expecting reciprocation
disco I think so too. If you give just because you like to give, that can be accomplished with a card.

On two different occasions I’ve received watches. One was actually a Movado. I didn’t keep either one.

There were a couple of other occasions, but I didn’t accept any of them, except one. In grad school a girl asked me to help her with physics so she could pass. She ended up getting an A- and asked me what I wanted for a gift. I told her she didn’t owe me anything, was just glad she did well. She still bought me a movie, Eve’s Bayou. That was her way of saying thanks, and I didn’t want to deprive her of that…plus Eve’s Bayou is one of my favorite moives. lol

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
10:25 am

If you have a mate I feel needs and wants will be met some way some how whether its a holiday or just because…………..if you don’t have a mate one can continue to do what please them with giving to others…….

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
10:26 am

that is a good movie DreamsM!

Dude

December 13th, 2011
10:27 am

Yeah say that it’s not that serious when you have been in the doghouse for a while, I got my gf a wii fit when they just came out, bc she said she wanted it, cost me like 300, it was a great gift I thought, for months I lived in the doghouse.

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
10:29 am

I screamed Dude! too funny!

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
10:30 am

I need a mate first Dude I said early on this isn’t applicable to me. I hadn’t brought a real gift since being married……I brought the ex-boyfriend lion cuff links bc he loves lions and he loved the gesture…..

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
10:31 am

oh the links had his initials on the back he thinks he is important you know….I love personable gifts though

Audra

December 13th, 2011
10:32 am

If you just started dating someone it’s weird and creepy to get them too much. However, even if you just started dating you should get them SOMETHING. Something small, but nice, or that they can use. I’m a big fan of a nice bouquet of flowers or movie/theater tickets. Doesn’t have to be extravagant, just something small and nice, or that you can do together, which also shows that you like them and want to see them again!

As for a long-term relationship, I don’t think price matters there either. Get them something that will mean something to THEM, whatever it is that they like. My ex always used to get me a spa day or a weekend away at a cabin in the mountains, something like that. Awesome!

Leggs

December 13th, 2011
10:33 am

@Dude ~ I am sitting at my desk in hysterics. That commercial is so true I can’t help but give it props.

DreamsMaterialize

December 13th, 2011
10:34 am

that is a good movie DreamsM!
Lady Indeed.

kimmie

December 13th, 2011
10:37 am

Dreams/others – Have you ever heard the superstitions about giving watches or shoes? If you give shoes they will walk out of your life, if you give a watch your time with them is limited.

I’ve never given a guy shoes, but my husband collects watches and I found some really cool, rather inexpensive ones when I went to Cali a few years ago. So I gave him 2 that year for Christmas. He’s still around, so I guess that shatters the myth!LOL!!

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
10:39 am

yep Kimmie lol as a country gal we somewhat live by those things lol smh

kimmie

December 13th, 2011
10:39 am

Dreams – This guy I was seeing loved The Godfather, so I gave him the trilogy for Christmas. See that’s the kind of gift I like giving.

DreamsMaterialize

December 13th, 2011
10:45 am

This discussion sort of reminds me of something that happened last year when we were shut down all week from that ice storm.

I didn’t want to risk driving, so I took a walk to the grocery store. On the way, there is a dry cleaners owned by an elderly Asian couple. They were both outside chipping away at the ice with shovels so that, if by chance someone decided to come, they could get in and out of the parking lot. As I walked by I greeted them and said, “you guys are out working hard.” The guy said, “Yeah, I tried to make my wife stay home, but she wouldn’t hear of it.” His wife then says, “How does it look for me to be at home doing nothing, while he’s freezing, chipping ice? He has a bad back you know. We’re in this thing together.” He jokingly says, “She never listens to me.”

Forget all the big shiny things. Someone who will get in the trenches with you is what counts.

disco

December 13th, 2011
10:46 am

Dreams – I love “Cicely’s trying to kill me!!!”

kimmie – I’ve heard the shoe thing all my life but I never heard the watch thing. for people who actually wear watches (like myself) watches are an easy, safe gift and you can find one in all budgets. some chicks called me out once though for wearing a watch. said I was old acting (old soul) because I wore a watch. apparently the message was that folks use their phones to tell time these days. still, I wear a watch everyday.

kimmie again – a few years back I considered getting a guy the clint eastwood box set. saw the price (when first released it was a few hundred dollars) and quickly re-thought that idea. still, I’d like that one for myself as I love westerns. hmmm. forgot all about that. maybe I’ll check the price now.

Dude

December 13th, 2011
10:47 am

Shiny things just help you keep her there.

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
10:47 am

indeed sir! nice warming story! ~there is hope!

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
10:51 am

Lawd Dude. Are you two still together?!?! Were you let out the doghouse? If so what did you nuy to get out?!? #curious?

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
10:51 am

meant buy to get out the doghouse?

kimmie

December 13th, 2011
10:52 am

Forget all the big shiny things. Someone who will get in the trenches with you is what counts.

Dreams – You got it! This is what’s most important.

kimmie

December 13th, 2011
10:54 am

disco – I didn’t know wearing a watch was considered “old”. They have all sorts of cute, funky ones now, all blinged out if you want. Sounds to me like those chicks were a bit out of touch. I wear a watch every day too. I don’t have time to fiddle for my phone every time I need to see what time it is!

Dude

December 13th, 2011
10:59 am

Lady- I flew her dad into town for her bday as a surprise. that got me outta the doghouse but I hated her ultra religious dad.

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
11:00 am

I still wear a watch. For years I only wore Fossil…. I think it’s classic and looks classily classic.

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
11:01 am

oh that was thoughtful Dude but you have to respect her dad bc you seem to love her so I am sure your pain was measured out with her happiness!

SexyCool

December 13th, 2011
11:02 am

Wearing a watch is old acting?!? LMAO…make ‘em stop.

Yeah…the thing my grandma would say about watches as gifts to a mate “Time’ll run out on ya’.” Um, yeah…okay, right.

Dreams – LOVEDED the Asian couple story.

Yeah…I too have learned to go with a standard response when someone asks me what I want – “I love candles, big snow globes and gift cards.”

kimmie

December 13th, 2011
11:04 am

That was nice, Dude. Having to put up with her dad made it mean even more.

Dude

December 13th, 2011
11:04 am

Not with her anymore, I am lovin the single life, I am single for life, I don’t wanna settle down, too much of a pain in the ass.

disco

December 13th, 2011
11:05 am

SCool – you like snow globes? I haven’t even seen one in years. do you collect? if so, what’s your most interesting one? I have a little collection of shot glasses though I’ve fallen off on my collection efforts.

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
11:06 am

for Life Dude wow that is extreme but you know you!

kimmie

December 13th, 2011
11:07 am

Little stocking stuffers are fun, put in little stockings that you can get from the dollar store. A gift card for Starbucks or Dunkin Doughnuts, a cute key chain, stuff like that.

kimmie

December 13th, 2011
11:07 am

disco – I used to collect shot glasses, I’ve got over 100. Had to stop because I have nowhere to put them.

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
11:08 am

Dude – Sorry to hear that. Hang out with us :)

Dude

December 13th, 2011
11:09 am

I am not sorry, but I can chill here for a bit, slow day at work.

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
11:10 am

Okay…we’ll be your friends for the time you can hang out. Tell us alllll about it. It’s therapeutic here sometimes.

Dude

December 13th, 2011
11:12 am

Not really much to tell, we broke up, on to better things

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
11:12 am

what better things Dude being single that is?

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
11:14 am

Okay…married or just “together”

SexyCool

December 13th, 2011
11:15 am

Yes, ma’am. I collect. The most interesting one that I can think of right offhand is a heart shaped snowglobe with two hearts as the centerpiece and little bitty red confetti hearts as the snow. I don’t like the plastic ones that are dome shaped. And I have gotten away from buying the little ones that are less than three inches high.

(I also have a really cool one that has Noah’s Ark inside.)

Sad to say, that since we’ve moved they have ALL been packed away. (lol)

Dude

December 13th, 2011
11:16 am

I go on vacation when I want, my money is my money now, I have freedom to talk to whoever I want whenever I want, about what ever I want, why would I want to go back to the other situation, I am lovin being single. More money, more fun, more variety, hell, I don’t see why anyone would want a marriage or closed relationship, I respect those that do that, but it’s not for me.

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
11:17 am

Dude – Just make sure you let the next lady know you’re not in it for the long haul…just for the fun of it. That’s only fair to her.

disco

December 13th, 2011
11:19 am

SCool – that is really cool. snowglobes never turned me on but I can appreciate them as a collection. you need to at least put a few on display and maybe rotate them from time to time. in addition to shot glasses I have a cookbook collection. this usually amuses folks because I really don’t do too much cooking.

Dude

December 13th, 2011
11:20 am

yup yup, I make no promises of what I am doing the next week, or the next night for that matter, most of the time I don’t even need phone numbers. protection is always a good thing, no babies :)

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
11:21 am

Dude – You sound hurt

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
11:21 am

I hear ya Dude! Enjoy!

Dude

December 13th, 2011
11:22 am

Hurt…..how so

SexyCool

December 13th, 2011
11:24 am

disco – interestingly enough, I have decided that once I bring them back out, I am going to limit them to ones that I absolutely love and to displaying no more than 7 or so.

I have been trying to *discover* something else that I want to collect, but so far, nothing has really peaked my interest.

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
11:25 am

You sound hurt…all my money, no accountability, no phone numbers no babies…just fun fun fun. So now you’re about to unleash the wrath of dude on a bunch of unsuspecting women?? C’mon dude…don’t be like that. Maybe it’s me and I’m reading too much into what you said.

Dude

December 13th, 2011
11:26 am

Hurt, no, I am the one that does the dumping, not the other way around, I just simply don’t care for a relationship, too much work. I like easy things and loose women lmao!!!

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
11:29 am

Alright then dude….no judgement here…it’s your life…LIVE IT :)

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
11:32 am

How about I sent an email to the mayor months (as in months) ago and it was just read today??? :|

DreamsMaterialize

December 13th, 2011
11:32 am

SexyC your Snowglobe collection reminds of a friend’s mom who used to collect elephants. There were elephants ALL over the house…and NO she wasn’t a Delta. lol Btw, have you seen the movie Snowglobe with Christina Milian?

SexyCool

December 13th, 2011
11:36 am

Yeah, no, Dreams, haven’t seen the movie.

Elephants everydamnwhere?!? Whew….That’s the thing about collecting stuff. I don’t want to become OVERtaken by snowglobes.

I once went to someone’s house and it was plain to see that they had a fondness for roosters. Eek! It was a bit unsettling to say the least.

Dude

December 13th, 2011
11:41 am

I knew a chick that was really into unicorns, like everywhere in the house, hundreds of them

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
11:43 am

3 more days…………….

SexyCool

December 13th, 2011
11:46 am

Yeah…too much of anything is an imbalance. #signsofmentalillness

DreamsMaterialize

December 13th, 2011
11:52 am

Yeah, no, Dreams, haven’t seen the movie.
SexyC My bad. You’re not missing anything. When you have kids, you tend to see movies you wouldn’t normally watch. Snowglobe was one of those.

disco

December 13th, 2011
11:53 am

I immediately thought of an old rap line “too much of anything makes it a habit” but I’m drawing a blank as to the song or the artist.

SouthernBelle

December 13th, 2011
12:07 pm

I expect a gift period!! If we were new a small gift. If we are not new and we are not..I just told him what I wanted gave him a list of 5 things to choose from. I also asked him what he wanted and he told me to. I always want a gift…Southern Belle talking!

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
12:09 pm

:) SouthenBelle!

Exiled!

December 13th, 2011
12:13 pm

@Disco?

kush will make u draw a blank,just looking on the distance,no expression and distant!

Lol

@Dude? So u just unleashing ur Big gift to them? :lol:

Lucky guy!

On topic: I have been told what she wants. Problem is I don’t have the money!

Doghouse!
I don’t want anything and ‘anything’ is my usual answer!

Exiled!

December 13th, 2011
12:15 pm

Dude

December 13th, 2011
12:27 pm

It’s a dick in a box lmao
Christmas -Dick in a box
Valentines day -Dick in a box

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
12:33 pm

Dude you’re a hot horny mess! smh LOL wow!

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
12:33 pm

If you’re this giddy I’m sure she’s skipping.

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
12:33 pm

It seems the time has paused. The day is now dragging! sigh

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
12:34 pm

shut up C too funny! LOL

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
12:35 pm

Lady – And when he done with his venture he’ll be back to empty ole dude. Ain’t gonna tell me men don’t feel it to. He’s hurt and he sounds like it. He’s masking it but I’m not buying. I just hope he ain’t a 30/40 something year old reverting back to the tirades that younger men do when they’re first crushed. That would be stupid. If he’s older he should know how to gracefully move one. That’s what they tell us ladies to do. Not get back out there and stick everything in your path.

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
12:36 pm

he’s and too

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
12:40 pm

Ain’t gonna tell me men don’t feel it to. <————–Word is bond.

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
12:43 pm

Lady don’t you get the feeling we’re being watched?

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
12:44 pm

empty <————– that word is powerful C!

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
12:44 pm

Fion

December 13th, 2011
12:44 pm

@Celisea
why in blue blazes is it sooooooooo! hard for you to accept what the man said. You asked him how he was rollin’. He told you. Now you tellin’ ’bout his world. Lawd. Lawd. Lawd!!!!

Dude

December 13th, 2011
12:45 pm

Think what ever you want C, I gracefully moved on and no I am not hurt, I just like having a good time, I didn’t do well with relationships, I didn’t cheat, but I just don’t do well with it. Yeah I am 30 something, I really could care less if you think I am masking it or not. I have my fun, I earned it and it may be that I haven’t found the right woman for me. But until I meet that woman, I am not changen

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
12:45 pm

ummmmmmmm flies around the room and capture Fion and flies away. lol continue C who is watching us?

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
12:47 pm

Dude I hear you you sound familiar I’ve heard your song too many times that is why I am not barking @ you about it. I hear you through and through!

Fion

December 13th, 2011
12:47 pm

@Lady
I’m at lunch and stepped back in rfom this morning. Reading back, this is a trip.

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
12:48 pm

C just made a good point and that is be honest with your playmates. That is all I require from you if you need such lololol

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
12:48 pm

I know Fion.

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
12:48 pm

Lawd Fion, I don’t know. You’re so right my brother….so right.

Fion

December 13th, 2011
12:49 pm

BTW, pretty good chicken salad sandwich too.

Dude

December 13th, 2011
12:50 pm

LOL, I like my women like I like my cheese, fat free american singles!!!

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
12:51 pm

NP Alex O’Neal If You Were Here Tonight!

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
12:51 pm

whatever Dude. play on bruh!

Dude

December 13th, 2011
12:52 pm

Later guys, I gotta split, work picked up on me

SexyCool

December 13th, 2011
12:53 pm

It’s benefits open enrollment period. I am no longer astonished by the number of folks that cannot properly complete this paperwork.

And let me not get started on buddy who is 40+ and needed to be walked through filling out his W-4.
(sheesh….)

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
12:53 pm

Alright Lady, Fion and Dude…I’m turning the reigns over to ya’ll. I’ve got a meeting.

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
1:00 pm

I have a series of testing to do but well I am still here……lawd Friday where are you!

lucinda

December 13th, 2011
1:01 pm

Jumpin in for my every coupla months stop in. Maybe y’all don’t know that?

On topic: I like “experience” gifts, as in, take me someplace or to do something that’s new for me, or somehow a special experience. I’m not so much a possession type person, I’d rather travel someplace or see a play or….

So, I took my SO away for the weekend for his gift. He likes “stuff” more than I do, but he doesn’t really need anything and the stuff he might really want is out of my budget. So rather than get him something he really doesn’t want, I opted for an exeperience gift. A new concept for him. Turned out to be the perfect gift.

KM

December 13th, 2011
1:07 pm

If the price tag matters more than the thought behind the gift, then she’s not worth keeping.

kimmie

December 13th, 2011
1:18 pm

Celisea/Lady – I dated a guy once that sounded just like Dude. He said he had never been hurt, he just didn’t do well in relationships. He would act like we were getting closer and sounded like he was changing his mind, but then revert back to his original stance. I had to let that go. I respected that he told me that upfront, so when I caught feelings I had noone to blame but myself. Had to cut off all ties though. Not a bad person, we just didn’t want the same things.

Randyt (I have this t-shirt and it is a stinker)

December 13th, 2011
1:23 pm

“If the price tag matters more than the thought behind the gift, then she’s not worth keeping”

I agree but this can be very discriminating. I remember one of my college roomates coming in one night excited because he figured out what the perfect gift was for his fiance…a sleeping bag. I said “uh Les, are you sure that is the perfect present???”. He said, “oh yes, she’ll love it”. After Christmas I asked how well that had gone over, and he seemed in complete bewiderment about her reaction…not good.

The problem with buying for many women is that they, a) want it to be a surprise, and b) they want it to be exactly what they want. A man can hit one or the other pretty well, it is the combination that totally messes a guy up…kind of like guessing the numbers on a combination lock.

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
1:23 pm

yep Kimmie I run into them periodically I hear what you saying and him too……gotta respect one’s state.

Randyt (I have this t-shirt and it is a stinker)

December 13th, 2011
1:29 pm

Although I understand and empathize with Dude, I’m not sure his solution is the best choice…or wouldn’t be for me. i was raised in a culture that pretty much demanded, literally and figuratively, that you have to climb right back on the horse that threww you…for your own self respect. I’m not saying that one should run right back out and get married, hellz no. I am saying that building a wall around you doesn’t keep others that might hurt you out, it just keeps the you that might feel again, in.

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
1:29 pm

building a wall around you doesn’t keep others that might hurt you out, it just keeps the you that might feel again, in. <Thank you ole wise one Randy! ;) What are you drinking sir?!? lol

Randyt (I have this t-shirt and it is a stinker)

December 13th, 2011
1:33 pm

@ Lady, just spent a lifetime watching people…and I just have plenty of the scars. LOL (and Makers Mark is my oldest friend, but am somber and sober today ;-)

Exiled!

December 13th, 2011
1:33 pm

Blame that on Atlanta PS system SexxyCool!

That’s your employment catchment area..

Those erased test scores,Remember!

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
1:35 pm

A MM for the one with those wise scars! enjoy sir! I want some wine BTW! ;)

Randyt (I have this t-shirt and it is a stinker)

December 13th, 2011
1:37 pm

@ Sexy Cool, i know I mentioned this before, but i was in WalMart last year a couple of days after Christmas, and thought I would buy some Christmas bows while on sale. They were 50% off of one dollar. The kid, looked normal enough, pulled out his smart phone and began hitting some numbers. I thought he was calling for a manager to tell him how to code the discount. Nope…he was using his smartphone to figure out what 50% off of one dollar was. Now that is scary. Knew the smartphone, but third grad math…nope.

Randyt (I have this t-shirt and it is a stinker)

December 13th, 2011
1:38 pm

grade, not grad…can spell, just can’t type.

SexyCool

December 13th, 2011
1:38 pm

Meelow – I would buy the APS excuse if all of my employees were native Atlantans. But…you may be onto something as far as their education levels/comprehension abilities go. We don’t need “rocket surgeons” (lol) to throw luggage.

SexyCool

December 13th, 2011
1:39 pm

Damn, T-shirts….wow!

Dude

December 13th, 2011
1:39 pm

K, just got back, I see that I am the topic of conversation still, yes I have scars, yes I have been hurt before, I am not hurt anymore, I do not have walls up, etc. etc. I just simply don’t like relationships, I enjoy my freedom to do whoever and whatever I want to do without having to deal with stuff when I get home. This is said in a calm and collected tone, not angry nor defensive. Some people do well in relationships, some do not, I think you are looking into things more than is really needed.

SexyCool

December 13th, 2011
1:42 pm

Dude – I understand. :)

kimmie

December 13th, 2011
1:42 pm

A lot of folks are just bad at gift-giving. If that’s the case, you may have to resort to flat-out asking someone what they want. Or be more observant.

Sometimes too, there are too high expectations on the part of the receiver, due to their confusion over the status of the relationship. She thinks you guys are at the diamonds level, where you think just a nice sweater is enough.

You really need to be getting to know each other better. That should keep unpleasant surprises to a minimum.

Randyt (I have this t-shirt and it is a stinker)

December 13th, 2011
1:43 pm

I’m just saying that isn’t right for me, Dude. You know your situation better than me. What you have written is fine and well presented, and I wish you the best. I’ve been free for over a decade now, and still can’t decide which is better or worse, and, like you have more money and material things than I ever imagined…and most of the timw my love life is better…that said, I’m still unsure ;-)

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
1:44 pm

kimmie

December 13th, 2011
1:46 pm

Dude – I understand too.

lucinda

December 13th, 2011
1:49 pm

Randyt
Sleeping bag for Christmas! LOL. Bet he was sleeping in it in the back yard for a while….!

But you never know. One year my ex gave me a little vacuum cleaner and it was EXACTLY what I wanted so I was happy.

As for the single vs. relationship/married debate ~~~ To Thine Own Self Be True.

Exiled!

December 13th, 2011
1:49 pm

Randyt..I think u are fine just collecting(soiled) tshirts!

:lol:

Dude

December 13th, 2011
1:50 pm

Thumbs up everyone

Exiled!

December 13th, 2011
1:53 pm

Going into a conference but before I go ladies,did u answer the question:

Does size matter? -;)

kimmie

December 13th, 2011
1:53 pm

All the complaining about gift-giving really takes the fun out of it. But if someone is pouting and acting bratty because you didn’t spend an arm and a leg on them, well that’s another way they are letting you know what you’re dealing with.

Randyt (I have this t-shirt and it is a stinker)

December 13th, 2011
1:54 pm

There are so many questions that have to be decided regarding new relationships after one burns down, that i am surprised any new ones work. You have the questions of freedom, space, children, and the biggest of all…that extreme desire not to put your arm in that firee again, because you remember every bad thing about the last time you got burned.

People become kind of like the vinyl liner on my 13 year old swimiing pool…hard and brittle and unbendable. i can replace it at great expense, or live with it sagging.

Dude

December 13th, 2011
1:54 pm

Oral sex is always a good stand by if you don’t get the right gift

Exiled!

December 13th, 2011
1:57 pm

Throat cancer Dude!

Throat cancer!

be careful with that lizard tongue of urs licking every damn coochie!

Randyt (I have this t-shirt and it is a stinker)

December 13th, 2011
1:59 pm

Does oral sex come before or after the gift swapping? I can see problems there if not careful ;-)

Dude

December 13th, 2011
1:59 pm

Exiled!

December 13th, 2011
1:59 pm

Ohh damn it

It’s SimpleMan!

Randyt (I have this t-shirt and it is a stinker)

December 13th, 2011
2:00 pm

Dayum Exiled, I’ve been a little hoarse lately…don’t make me start thinking.

Exiled!

December 13th, 2011
2:01 pm

Randyt

the gift is ur toll pass!
Lol

Dude

December 13th, 2011
2:01 pm

Fion

December 13th, 2011
2:02 pm

@Randyt
Aye man, let me know and I’ll you the Ph# of my barber.

Exiled!

December 13th, 2011
2:02 pm

Ur peach pass if u will

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
2:04 pm

Dude

December 13th, 2011
2:10 pm

1:59 that is what I ask for,for christmas, no surprise lol

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
2:12 pm

dude you getting it right! its live out there in the single world! lol

Willie Dynamite

December 13th, 2011
2:15 pm

Afternoon All,
Gift giving- size doesn’t matter until it matters. Figure that one out and you’ll be ok. As for me I was am terrible at gift giving for the Wifey. I was told that I’m great with the kids. I had to work on that as she is somewhat shifty. I am doing better at listening to the needs and wants. i try to take care of 100% of the needs so that i can single out the wants. Works for me.

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
2:16 pm

good deal Willie!

Kym

December 13th, 2011
2:16 pm

Good Afternoon Sugafoots!

Someday I am gonna be able to blog like I did back in the day. These jokers think I came here to work..geesh…j/k

Are you folks still on topic or just throwing out random comments?

O/T Happy Belated..Belated Belated Birthday Leggs! I know you got your party on enough for everyone.

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
2:19 pm

Dude – I already said I understood. Just let folks know you’re in it for smashing only…that’s all I say. More than likely at the risk of you having fun someone will get hurt. You put it on the table, you’re a stand up dude.

Dude

December 13th, 2011
2:23 pm

Cel, yup it’s on the table, I prefer solo, less drama, less trouble, maybe in my 40s I will look for someone to settle down with, but I am not ready to give it up yet, I am still good friends with the girls, in fact a lot of them know each other, they get along, so on and so fourth. So it’s all good.

SlimNu

December 13th, 2011
2:23 pm

I know i’m walking in all late and isssssh but men, often times we women will drop little hints to help you out in the gift-giving arena just in case you’re challenged. It’s just a matter of listening. MEN on the other hand, yall aren’t really into it (some of you all anyway). So it can be a bit more of a struggle to come up with something creative when you have everything. I still don’t know what to get the beau. He said all he wants is me but that feels like a pop quiz that I don’t want to fail (as previously discussed in here). I’d like to get him something nice but right now, the only thing that comes to mind is a HUGE bottle of Goose lol

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
2:23 pm

I AM NO LONGER WORKING WITH THE BALL PLAYER….I’M BEING REMOVED OVER THE NEXT 45 DAYS………..YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHH

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
2:23 pm

Slim have you decided what you buying your boo?!?

Kym

December 13th, 2011
2:24 pm

In regards to gift-giving..ohh nevermind..I agree with Kimmie give fromt he heart..put some thought into it and quit itching and moaning.

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
2:24 pm

I guess that will remove any potential lawsuits

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
2:24 pm

GO C! enjoy it!

Kym

December 13th, 2011
2:25 pm

uhh Celisea is that a happy scream or a lawd what is I gonna do now scream?

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
2:25 pm

Thangs got heated and he stepped waaaaaaaaaaay over his boundaries and company boundaries.

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
2:26 pm

Kym – A HAPPY SCREAM….he’s looking like umm fu fu in his office right about now. I will be working closely with my manager…per her manager. He said he expected to see me step it up more being placed in that position.

Randyt (I have this t-shirt and it is a stinker)

December 13th, 2011
2:28 pm

Kym, was it you that was going to listen to the cds of “the Girl With the Dragon Tattoo? If so, how was it.

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
2:28 pm

Be careful slanging that axe, it might be the same one to cut your own leggs from underneath you. Yeah he showed his tail up in here. Got loud and ghetto.

Dude

December 13th, 2011
2:29 pm

I can’t stand ghetto behavior of any kind really, it just seems obnoxious

DreamsMaterialize

December 13th, 2011
2:30 pm

He said all he wants is me but that feels like a pop quiz that I don’t want to fail
Slim You’re reading too much into it. You been with ol boy for a while, so you know if he’s the “gotcha b!tch!” kind of dude already. From the way you talk about him, it seems he’s a “mean what I say” kinda dude. So, take him at his word.

I’M BEING REMOVED OVER THE NEXT 45 DAYS
Celisea As long as “removed” doesn’t equal “fired”, then YAAAAAAAAHHHHHHH! lol Peace of mind on the job is priceless.

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
2:30 pm

Yep Dude, somebody’s allowed ole boy to believe he was more important that he actually is or means to the company.

SlimNu

December 13th, 2011
2:30 pm

Lady – Naw, not sure at all. My pockets are tight like a gnat’s booty right about now. I might just have to tell him that a Grinch stole his Christmas…it’s called Car note, Car insurance, phone bill, etc :cry:

Kym

December 13th, 2011
2:31 pm

@RandyT it’s me! I have the audio book(unabridge version and it is 16 hours long.) I am in only the 5th hour..the Swedish names are throwing me off.. but the story line has me interested. I listen either in the car..when I am not cussing at talk radio..or at work..I tried listen at night before bed..yeah the narrator made me sleepy.

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
2:33 pm

Nope Dreams….still here. My manager said she’s even moving me across the floor away from him totally. I glad he showed his tail…he did it on her…lol Nawww she’s been tryna see how he’s making strides…uh huh he don’t respect women and he did it to her.

Randyt (I have this t-shirt and it is a stinker)

December 13th, 2011
2:33 pm

Going back to the original question, “does size matter”? Best rule of thumb is “only if it is too small”. Better to err on the high side.

Kym

December 13th, 2011
2:33 pm

@Celisea..okay well then good. I agree Dreams..Peace of mind is key..

Willie Dynamite

December 13th, 2011
2:33 pm

Honest Question – Has any Woman out there ever had a Dude get sideways over the gift he received or didn’t receive for X-mas?

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
2:34 pm

Exactly Kym/Dreams….

I can’t recall a dude getting all bent out of shape over a gift or the lack there of but I have…lol

Lord Velonese

December 13th, 2011
2:35 pm

All I know if she doesn’t like what I get her, then she probably isn’t the one for me. In my opinion Christmas is more for children than adults.

Dude

December 13th, 2011
2:35 pm

I have gotten horizontal if that counts, she got herself some sex lingere

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
2:36 pm

One last….I feel for the person that’s gotta take my place. That’s gonna be someone from my team. Oh woe is her.

Leggs

December 13th, 2011
2:36 pm

When I left, you guys were on page 2. Now on page 5…is the topic still the same???

Lord Velonese

December 13th, 2011
2:37 pm

That’s because you are a woman Cel.

SexyCool

December 13th, 2011
2:38 pm

Dude – you just lost me with this – “in fact a lot of them know each other, they get along, so on and so fourth.”

My question – Is everybody cool with the fact that you are sleeping with all of them? For real?!?

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
2:39 pm

LV – You are right…it was the kid’s dad. He came stepping to my place with nothing in hand tombout when the stores open but doing show and tell of his gifts. Booooy talk about cutting up like a brand new pair of sissors. Don’t know where he got it from on Christmas Day but there was a living room set delivered with the next couple of hours. Whew boy did I clown. That was the old me (said with a sheepish grin). I had the lighter and bleach ready and in hand…I kid I kid

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
2:40 pm

Slim I feel! hell all bills are due! that is all! Thank God for my lil one’s daddy it makes my life easier on the gift end for her. #blessed

SlimNu

December 13th, 2011
2:42 pm

Dreams – You have a point there. I guess it’s probably more of me feeling a bit bad that I am not able to get something spectacular…I told him not to get me anything and he sort of looked at me funny. Not sure what that look meant but we haven’t discussed it since.

Exiled!

December 13th, 2011
2:42 pm

Celisia?

u know sometimes when we guys work with a female and she’s feeling him but he don’t dust her off,they get ansty and hateful..just hrrrrrrrrrr for no reason.

U sure the Ball player ain’t welcome to hit it.? EVer?

Girl please!!!!! :lol:

cba

December 13th, 2011
2:43 pm

Celisea, my thinking was along with DM. The only word I saw was REMOVED. Removed and job don’t match, especially in today’s environment. Good luck to you.
Oh,btw, was this guy a professional ball player and what sport did he play?

Dude

December 13th, 2011
2:44 pm

I am by no means saying that I am doing all of them at the same time, I keep things open, never commit to a relationship and come back and forth, but I am up front about it all. I am never sleeping with more than one person at a time. Just one of those situations that if we are at a bar or hanging out at a bonfire, or so on and so on, if we are both horny we have sex, very simple.

Kym

December 13th, 2011
2:45 pm

All gifts this year..minus the one for the boy are 10.00 and under…and only to people who I really want to give something too. Otherwise everyone else gets…the speech.. “Look Money is short and times is hard..sorry man I couldn’t even afford a card..but you know how I feel and this is true..so Happy Jesus Birthday to you!”

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
2:46 pm

wow I really worked today! 2 more days! yay! Y’all be easy I am out for the count~ peace

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
2:47 pm

Exiled…I literally laughed out loud. I been here 3 months shy of 15 years and handle all sorts of clients and issues, systems and pretty much know this stuff in my sleep and he gon bring his big country behind up here and want me to put on a blind fold and be led by him and it wouldn’t happen. That’s his problem. I’m suppose to “obey” him when half of his ideas are against policy and procedures and have us all getting sued. Ummm, not. And I told him so. You want me to expose 44,000,000.00 cause you’re the person assigned to that client??? And that’s just one dumb thing.

cba – I’m soooo grateful and happy. It would still be going on if he hadn’t lost his cool. He snapped…at the right time in front of the right people. I’d seen and dealt with it all along but they never saw it. Professional ball…..2 teams during his career.

cba

December 13th, 2011
2:49 pm

You’re almost there, Lady :lol:

SexyCool

December 13th, 2011
2:51 pm

Um…okay…

On another note, I was doing something I *rarely* do anymore, listening to morning radio, specifically the Rickey Smiley Morning Show and the DNA segment came on. The chick’s name was Jaquan. The dude’s name was Terrell. The baby’s name was Jaquell.

After the initial interview, the commercial, the one song they played, they came back to announce…………….

That Terrell was NOT the father.

(lol)

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
2:52 pm

Dude – Well all I can say is when I read dudes like you it makes me lock my legs when a man wants to just “see where things can go”…heck you might be the man on the other end of that.

Good luck though and again, I applaud your openess with these women.

SlimNu

December 13th, 2011
2:53 pm

Lady – Thank God I don’t have a child to worry about at the moment…Time isn’t right for me for a little rugrat any time soon. So I give props to all the parents out there doing the damn thang, especially the ones that care! It’s a 24/7 job that doesn’t always pay well, doesn’t offer paid time off, and isn’t always fun.

Dude

December 13th, 2011
2:54 pm

LMAO that is great, I keep up, always use protection, never believe the other person.

Kym

December 13th, 2011
2:56 pm

@SexyC..wait Rickey Smiley went from the gospel comedy to his own version of Maury? Ha! Okay

kimmie

December 13th, 2011
2:56 pm

Just like dating & who pays and where to go, so goes it with gift-giving. Some folks make it waaayyy harder than it has to be.

SexyCool

December 13th, 2011
2:58 pm

Yep, Kym – apparently, this is a weekly Tuesday segment.

Kym

December 13th, 2011
2:58 pm

Attn: UGA grads..apparently ya’ll actually do something other than party down there in Athens.. 11alive is reporting on a story about a major breakthrough in breast cancer research.. Finally some happy news.

Dude

December 13th, 2011
3:02 pm

I’m not a womanizer, I never go after chicks that have boyfriends or husbands, most of them are actually older than I am and we just want to have some fun, all consenting adults, believe it or not the ones that understand it the best are single mothers. They have the kids to take care of and when they go out they just want to have some fun, no strings.

disco

December 13th, 2011
3:02 pm

randy – some women would be really surprised if they actually received exactly what they wanted.

Don’t sleep on the sleeping bags. A good sleeping bag is hella warm – certainly warmer than your avergage quilt/comforter/blanket.

hey kym.

didn’t someone on here mention they go to Cherokee nc regularly? I ask because they’ve got a groupon for the casino today. groupon will suck you in if you aren’t careful.

Kym

December 13th, 2011
3:03 pm

Hey disco..how goes it?

SexyCool

December 13th, 2011
3:07 pm

SlimNu

December 13th, 2011
3:09 pm

Kym – Well booze and boobs sorta does go together more often times than not :lol:

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
3:09 pm

You can daaance, you can jiiiive, having the time of your liiiife ooooo
see that girl, watch that seen, diggin the dancing queen….

this is stuck in my head

Randyt (I have this t-shirt and it is a stinker)

December 13th, 2011
3:10 pm

I guess this is a somewhat subject for me. My first “true love” (I was 17 and she was 16), gave the shirt she bought for me to ther new guy right after taking waht I had given her. Guess she thought it looked better on him (oh she also gave him her virginity too…not sure which hurt worse but I have an idea ;-)

Dude

December 13th, 2011
3:10 pm

SWEET they have a SEQUAL to the doghouse
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_6D6eP6EMj4

Randyt (I have this t-shirt and it is a stinker)

December 13th, 2011
3:11 pm

meant her not “ther” and “what” not “waht”

and for the record, he got the better Christmas presents.

Randyt (I have this t-shirt and it is a stinker)

December 13th, 2011
3:12 pm

Abba on your mind? Okay, that’s random LOL.

kimmie

December 13th, 2011
3:13 pm

Kym – We need some good news on that front!

Kym

December 13th, 2011
3:16 pm

@kimmie yes we do! I am on the hunt for good news..the record exec guy dying yesterday kind of did it for me in terms of bad news. Folks are just losing their minds..

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
3:18 pm

Set Fire to the Ring….another good one from Adele

Exiled!

December 13th, 2011
3:18 pm

Celisia?

tell me the truf here:

is the ball player phine by most female standards?

(no coughs,no butts,nothing,,just say it) :lol:

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
3:22 pm

Exiled – I’ll humor you…not at all and I’m speaking presumptously for the female standard. Too big or something. Not fat but he’s 6′6 and that get’s goofy at some point. Nope never been attracted at all never saw him as cute, hawt or good looking. Sorry nothing to dish for you.

disco

December 13th, 2011
3:22 pm

kym – not that you said you were giving people speeches for xmas. that’s good. my brother said something similar, talking about he was going to give his kids his condolences this Christmas by explaining that he’s very sorry that they aren’t getting any gifts. he’s got jokes.

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
3:24 pm

MMeello – I will say when I got here folks was making a big todo over him and his past life and it went to his head. Speaking all over the place, folks coming to him for advice. Just never needed the Jesus in him. Got one in the sky I can consult. I remember one day he wanted to question about something and I was like, I ain’t telling you. He said “well so and so spoke to me about her convictions” and I said but you ain’t God so you gets nothing from me…yes “gets” I told him when I feel the need I will kneel and pray to the Almighty and seek his (ballplayer) approval.

kimmie

December 13th, 2011
3:26 pm

Believe it or not, I am making a lot of my gifts this year, for the ladies anyway. I am putting my jewelry-making hobby to good use making bracelets. Everyone that has seen them have been impressed – as good or better than those you purchase in the department stores! Over the last week I have made 15. I am giving one to each of my staff.

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
3:26 pm

and NOT seek his (ballplayer) approval

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
3:28 pm

Well my kid bought her first opposite sex gift. She got him a hit from LIDS for his favorite team. I think about 30 bucks. I told her that was appropriate. I told her to let him know too what’s appropriate cause she better not turn up with lingerie and stuff….lol She wants stuff from “Pink” but it can only be smell good and a bag maybe. Nothing else. Not even PJs. They ain’t married yet.

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
3:28 pm

hat from LIDS

SexyCool

December 13th, 2011
3:30 pm

I would be hesitant to seek advice from The BallPlayer. I mean, really, unless he is just coming to work for kicks and giggles. Because if buddy is working because he *needs* that income, he didn’t do something right and would be the last person whose input I would want.

Oh…wait…there is always the “what NOT to do” lessons that could be learned. (lol)

SexyCool

December 13th, 2011
3:36 pm

there “are” – correction…

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
3:36 pm

LOL SexyC – Yes that’s a not…and yes I say the same thing, you doing what I do and you NEED to do like I do. I’m so done cause I would be going all day. He believes he’s GOD up in here.

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
3:37 pm

But it’s over with and water now under the bridge. He’s really looking like umm fu fu…not sure what was done to him but he crossed policy lines.

Love this song too –

Tell me what you want to hear, Something that will light those ears, Sick of all the insinceres, I’m gonna give all my secrets away……

Kym

December 13th, 2011
3:40 pm

@kimmie that is a excellent idea..and personalized..
@disco..most of the people I get gifts for are kids anyway. My sister and I do enough for each other all year and my daddy just wants pics of his grandbabies to hang on his walls. Me and the boy may go take some pictures after the holidays. We haven’t done that since he was like 8 years old.

Leggs

December 13th, 2011
3:40 pm

@Celisea ~ you played your cards right. You kept your cool knowing he would hang himself. Didn’t take long at all…

SexyCool

December 13th, 2011
3:42 pm

Every so often, TheDude sends me a text message asking me for my sizes. I just got one today. (lol)

Exiled!

December 13th, 2011
3:44 pm

Cel,so ur beef is work related,I gets u(gets yes!) lol

But it don’t mean he is broke tho..he saved his money and it is working for him in another way

Its actually a plus that he has a skill outside if bball which u can’t say the same of these kids on the college ignorant production line…faking grades to make the team and go pro…

T.Owens can’t pay T $5000 and waiting on a team to sign him

Looser!

Exiled!

December 13th, 2011
3:45 pm

5000 child support!

Kym

December 13th, 2011
3:51 pm

Alright folks I’m out..hope everyone has a safe trip to your homes..

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
3:51 pm

Leggs, actually my manager slapped me on the wrist because I did good until he told me to “get out of his office”…I lost my cool. But her manager is cool as ever and gave me some really really good advice about letting folks eventually make a show of who they are. He was pointing to the fact that you gotta get the evidence out there in order to do somethig about it but if you muddy the waters with them then who will they believe? But he agreed with my assessment of his arrogence, believing he’s above having to follow the rules, his blatant disrespect.

MMeello – Heck yeah work related…I have nothing else with, for, about, over him outside of the job. Gheesh you really thing small of women. Look honey every man don’t turn a woman’s head.

Awwwww man and my other song just came on……..

She’s all laid up in bed with a broken heart
While I’m drinking Jack all alone in my local bar
And we don’t know how we got into this mad situation
Only doing things out of frustration

Trying to make it work but man these times are hard
She needs me now but I can’t seem to find a time
I’ve got a new job now in the unemployment line
And we don’t know how we got into this mess it’s a gods test
Someone help us ’cause we’re doing our best

Trying to make it work but man these times are hard
But we’re gonna start by drinking old cheap bottles of wine
Sit talking up all night
Saying things we haven’t for a while, a while yeah
We’re smiling but we’re close to tears
Even after all these years
We just now got the feeling that we’re meeting
For the first time

She’s in line at the dole with her head held high
While I just lost my job but didn’t lose my pride
But we both know how we’re gonna make it work when it hurts
When you pick yourself up you get kicked to the dirt

Trying to make it work but man these times are hard
But we’re gonna start by drinking old cheap bottles of wine
Sit talking up all night
Doing things we haven’t for a while, a while yeah
Smiling but we’re close to tears
Even after all these years
We just now got the feeling that we’re meeting for the first time.

LOOOOOOVE this song!!!

kimmie

December 13th, 2011
3:53 pm

Celisea – He wouldn’t hold a candle to WH Boo anyway! :)

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
3:54 pm

LOLOLOL…no sireee Kimmie he can’t…lol

kimmie

December 13th, 2011
4:03 pm

The last dudes I would ever be attracted to were athletes, ex or not! They were always the garden tools – even the ones that were halfway smart.

kimmie

December 13th, 2011
4:04 pm

I’m out gang, yall be easy!

Exiled!

December 13th, 2011
4:05 pm

Cel?

Its not what I think about ‘women’ but more about what U put out here.

Bball player’s ears have been ringing from afar coz u been talking talking and talking bout Him

and women talk when they like him to hit

Or when he didn’t make a pass to hit but hit a different one

Its Global women’s psychology 101 :lol:

SlimNu

December 13th, 2011
4:08 pm

I don’t understand what these players spend all their money on during the course of their active participation on a team. Seems they would have learned from previous players to prepare the ‘nest egg’. No need to have 8 properties all over the place, 7 expensive cars, always ‘balling out’ in the clubs with bottle service etc. I don’t get it about TO, Bob Whitfield and others alike…Like take Candi for instance on the Housewives of ATL…looks like she kept her abode humble and turned her poolhouse into a studio. But she doesn’t appear to be just throwing away money for the hell of it..

disco

December 13th, 2011
4:10 pm

exiled – now that’s not always true. women also talk when you get on their nerves or cross them. women talk because we know we can’t rightfully take something and go upside your head. yeah. we talk. I can just hear me and any other woman going off “and I don’t know who he thinks he is…. always walking around here acting like…. he must have me confused with….it’ll be a cold day in…”. you see where I’m going with that.

Exiled!

December 13th, 2011
4:11 pm

Smart chic that one Slim!

(see I give women their due when they deserve it!)

And she got some mad bootey back there too when in pants,jeans! :lol:

Exiled!

December 13th, 2011
4:13 pm

Disco..

yea,that Global women’s psychology 102 remedial! :lol:

SlimNu

December 13th, 2011
4:13 pm

Exiled – I’m almost scared to ask if the props is because of her great money management skills or that junk in the trunk lol

Exiled!

December 13th, 2011
4:14 pm

Both Slim she can have a double major for that! Lol

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
4:38 pm

What disco said….Imma repeat in bold

now that’s not always true. women also talk when you get on their nerves or cross them. women talk because we know we can’t rightfully take something and go upside your head. yeah. we talk. I can just hear me and any other woman going off “and I don’t know who he thinks he is…. always walking around here acting like…. he must have me confused with….it’ll be a cold day in…”. you see where I’m going with that.

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
4:39 pm

Mmeello my 4:38 was for you

cba

December 13th, 2011
4:40 pm

Saw a headline this morning where Katie Couric is single again. I was like dam, I missed that……didn’t know she had remarried. After reading the story, she had this guy living with her the last five years; she’s 54 and he’s 37. Just didn’t see Katie doing the “boy toy” thang. Said he couldn’t keep up and there’s this age difference. I wonder what the age difference was five years ago?? As Ex would say, she’s gotten the cobwebs dusted off and now kicking the “youth” in the streets.

Sidenote: I do like her legs!!

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
4:44 pm

MMeello Its not what I think about ‘women’ but more about what U put out here. Bball player’s ears have been ringing from afar coz u been talking talking and talking bout Him and women talk when they like him to hit Or when he didn’t make a pass to hit but hit a different one

NEGRO Please…I’ve had to take so much crap off this joker while maintaining my decorum. I’ve had him escalated EVERYTHING on me because I make decisions opposite of what he thinks yet according to policy and procedures. Everytime he called my manager (before this one) she would say, “yes she’s correct” and that would be the end of that. It’s the new manager with an agenda of her own that’s sort of “fed into” the shenanigans and kept it going. My other manager use to shut it down. She would say “let me handle him”

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
4:45 pm

“I’ve had him to escalate on me repeatedly” is what I was saying

Exiled!

December 13th, 2011
4:45 pm

Cba!

no wonder Katie always has that Big smile!

Lol

Medicaid check

Condoms in the trash

Morning after pill check

Regular pill check

Wipes check
Auto loan for dude paid check

Student loan for guy paid check

Pocket money for guy check

Guy moves in with Katie check

Leggs

December 13th, 2011
4:49 pm

I hope she doesn’t need no “morning after” pill at 54.

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
4:50 pm

Said he couldn’t keep up and there’s this age difference.

Wonder what this meant exactly. I like Katie Couric…always have.

Exiled!

December 13th, 2011
4:54 pm

Leggs,ur kid is going to college I hope

Then u just Import a youngie one to tap dance with :lol:

Cobwebs solved! :lol:

Exiled!

December 13th, 2011
4:55 pm

Cel?

u still talking about Him?

cba

December 13th, 2011
4:57 pm

Celisea, the keeping up was concerning her hectic life but I would think her life was hectic five years ago. She was an anchor then. She met him at a cancer event.

SlimNu

December 13th, 2011
4:59 pm

Leggs – I like how you came from around the corner with that one —> “I hope she doesn’t need no “morning after” pill at 54″ :lol:

Off to the gym…*sigh* Peace out yall

disco

December 13th, 2011
4:59 pm

celisea – did it bear repeating? I’m guessing you can feel me. those soliloquies can go on for a while.

as for all this cougar talk. I’m still not on that bandwagon. a friend of mine said a 23 year old was trying to push up on her recently. she’s got a 17 year old daughter. turns out the daughter has a crush on the guy and my friend said that’s the only reason she didn’t break him off – so she wouldn’t hurt her daughter’s feelings. as is so often said, to each his own.

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
5:06 pm

disco – did it bear repeating?

I guess so…I put it out there again and in bold. I was speaking for myself…no point in me throwing myself in a response when I can just take what “she/he” said.

cba – Gotcha

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
5:07 pm

Meelloo – You stop talking and I’ll stop talking :)

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
5:07 pm

Night folks!!

Leggs

December 13th, 2011
5:08 pm

@disco ~ the 17 year old daughter has a crush on a 23-yr old guy that has the mom thinking about rocking the cradle but won’t because she doesn’t want to hurt the daugther’s feelings. HUH…Like Michael Baisden says, “that’s some fragganacking BS” :lol: :lol:

SexyCool

December 13th, 2011
5:09 pm

IKR – that’s the ONLY reason.

LMAO – Make ‘em stop.

Kat

December 13th, 2011
10:22 pm

Depending on the length of time you’ve been dating (and presuming he/she isn’t dating anyone else), I think a simple framed picture of the two of you on a date would be nice.

Matt

December 13th, 2011
11:37 pm

Who cares about the size of the gift? Y’all should just be thankful that you have a special someone to exchange gifts with. I miss that feeling.

OHolyNight

December 14th, 2011
12:50 pm

Sorry, but if you feel you HAVE to give a gift to anyone, your head is in the wrong place … as in up your ***. The last time I checked many people were out of work and/or struggling to make ends meet. People who EXCEPT gifts are just downright selfish and immature. If you are measuring your mate’s love by what they give you, you don’t deserve anything. My motto: expect nothing, appreciate everything.

Ho Ho Ho!

OHolyNight

December 14th, 2011
12:51 pm

Correction: EXCEPT — meant to type EXPECT!

josh smith

December 14th, 2011
1:51 pm

alternative black man, you’re an idiot