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Holiday Gifts: Does size matter?

Tis the season to stress over gifts! The trickiest part of gift selection when you are dating comes down to this: should you get a big gift, little gift, or medium one?

I don’t believe spending a lot of money on someone you have just started dating is a great idea. I would even skip gift exchange altogether. I wonder though, when you have been in a committed relationship, do you think that giving an expensive gift is important?

If money is tight this year, what can you give the person you are dating that still makes a great impact?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

301 comments Add your comment

disco

December 13th, 2011
3:22 pm

kym – not that you said you were giving people speeches for xmas. that’s good. my brother said something similar, talking about he was going to give his kids his condolences this Christmas by explaining that he’s very sorry that they aren’t getting any gifts. he’s got jokes.

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
3:24 pm

MMeello – I will say when I got here folks was making a big todo over him and his past life and it went to his head. Speaking all over the place, folks coming to him for advice. Just never needed the Jesus in him. Got one in the sky I can consult. I remember one day he wanted to question about something and I was like, I ain’t telling you. He said “well so and so spoke to me about her convictions” and I said but you ain’t God so you gets nothing from me…yes “gets” I told him when I feel the need I will kneel and pray to the Almighty and seek his (ballplayer) approval.

kimmie

December 13th, 2011
3:26 pm

Believe it or not, I am making a lot of my gifts this year, for the ladies anyway. I am putting my jewelry-making hobby to good use making bracelets. Everyone that has seen them have been impressed – as good or better than those you purchase in the department stores! Over the last week I have made 15. I am giving one to each of my staff.

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
3:26 pm

and NOT seek his (ballplayer) approval

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
3:28 pm

Well my kid bought her first opposite sex gift. She got him a hit from LIDS for his favorite team. I think about 30 bucks. I told her that was appropriate. I told her to let him know too what’s appropriate cause she better not turn up with lingerie and stuff….lol She wants stuff from “Pink” but it can only be smell good and a bag maybe. Nothing else. Not even PJs. They ain’t married yet.

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
3:28 pm

hat from LIDS

SexyCool

December 13th, 2011
3:30 pm

I would be hesitant to seek advice from The BallPlayer. I mean, really, unless he is just coming to work for kicks and giggles. Because if buddy is working because he *needs* that income, he didn’t do something right and would be the last person whose input I would want.

Oh…wait…there is always the “what NOT to do” lessons that could be learned. (lol)

SexyCool

December 13th, 2011
3:36 pm

there “are” – correction…

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
3:36 pm

LOL SexyC – Yes that’s a not…and yes I say the same thing, you doing what I do and you NEED to do like I do. I’m so done cause I would be going all day. He believes he’s GOD up in here.

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
3:37 pm

But it’s over with and water now under the bridge. He’s really looking like umm fu fu…not sure what was done to him but he crossed policy lines.

Love this song too –

Tell me what you want to hear, Something that will light those ears, Sick of all the insinceres, I’m gonna give all my secrets away……

Kym

December 13th, 2011
3:40 pm

@kimmie that is a excellent idea..and personalized..
@disco..most of the people I get gifts for are kids anyway. My sister and I do enough for each other all year and my daddy just wants pics of his grandbabies to hang on his walls. Me and the boy may go take some pictures after the holidays. We haven’t done that since he was like 8 years old.

Leggs

December 13th, 2011
3:40 pm

@Celisea ~ you played your cards right. You kept your cool knowing he would hang himself. Didn’t take long at all…

SexyCool

December 13th, 2011
3:42 pm

Every so often, TheDude sends me a text message asking me for my sizes. I just got one today. (lol)

Exiled!

December 13th, 2011
3:44 pm

Cel,so ur beef is work related,I gets u(gets yes!) lol

But it don’t mean he is broke tho..he saved his money and it is working for him in another way

Its actually a plus that he has a skill outside if bball which u can’t say the same of these kids on the college ignorant production line…faking grades to make the team and go pro…

T.Owens can’t pay T $5000 and waiting on a team to sign him

Looser!

Exiled!

December 13th, 2011
3:45 pm

5000 child support!

Kym

December 13th, 2011
3:51 pm

Alright folks I’m out..hope everyone has a safe trip to your homes..

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
3:51 pm

Leggs, actually my manager slapped me on the wrist because I did good until he told me to “get out of his office”…I lost my cool. But her manager is cool as ever and gave me some really really good advice about letting folks eventually make a show of who they are. He was pointing to the fact that you gotta get the evidence out there in order to do somethig about it but if you muddy the waters with them then who will they believe? But he agreed with my assessment of his arrogence, believing he’s above having to follow the rules, his blatant disrespect.

MMeello – Heck yeah work related…I have nothing else with, for, about, over him outside of the job. Gheesh you really thing small of women. Look honey every man don’t turn a woman’s head.

Awwwww man and my other song just came on……..

She’s all laid up in bed with a broken heart
While I’m drinking Jack all alone in my local bar
And we don’t know how we got into this mad situation
Only doing things out of frustration

Trying to make it work but man these times are hard
She needs me now but I can’t seem to find a time
I’ve got a new job now in the unemployment line
And we don’t know how we got into this mess it’s a gods test
Someone help us ’cause we’re doing our best

Trying to make it work but man these times are hard
But we’re gonna start by drinking old cheap bottles of wine
Sit talking up all night
Saying things we haven’t for a while, a while yeah
We’re smiling but we’re close to tears
Even after all these years
We just now got the feeling that we’re meeting
For the first time

She’s in line at the dole with her head held high
While I just lost my job but didn’t lose my pride
But we both know how we’re gonna make it work when it hurts
When you pick yourself up you get kicked to the dirt

Trying to make it work but man these times are hard
But we’re gonna start by drinking old cheap bottles of wine
Sit talking up all night
Doing things we haven’t for a while, a while yeah
Smiling but we’re close to tears
Even after all these years
We just now got the feeling that we’re meeting for the first time.

LOOOOOOVE this song!!!

kimmie

December 13th, 2011
3:53 pm

Celisea – He wouldn’t hold a candle to WH Boo anyway! :)

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
3:54 pm

LOLOLOL…no sireee Kimmie he can’t…lol

kimmie

December 13th, 2011
4:03 pm

The last dudes I would ever be attracted to were athletes, ex or not! They were always the garden tools – even the ones that were halfway smart.

kimmie

December 13th, 2011
4:04 pm

I’m out gang, yall be easy!

Exiled!

December 13th, 2011
4:05 pm

Cel?

Its not what I think about ‘women’ but more about what U put out here.

Bball player’s ears have been ringing from afar coz u been talking talking and talking bout Him

and women talk when they like him to hit

Or when he didn’t make a pass to hit but hit a different one

Its Global women’s psychology 101 :lol:

SlimNu

December 13th, 2011
4:08 pm

I don’t understand what these players spend all their money on during the course of their active participation on a team. Seems they would have learned from previous players to prepare the ‘nest egg’. No need to have 8 properties all over the place, 7 expensive cars, always ‘balling out’ in the clubs with bottle service etc. I don’t get it about TO, Bob Whitfield and others alike…Like take Candi for instance on the Housewives of ATL…looks like she kept her abode humble and turned her poolhouse into a studio. But she doesn’t appear to be just throwing away money for the hell of it..

disco

December 13th, 2011
4:10 pm

exiled – now that’s not always true. women also talk when you get on their nerves or cross them. women talk because we know we can’t rightfully take something and go upside your head. yeah. we talk. I can just hear me and any other woman going off “and I don’t know who he thinks he is…. always walking around here acting like…. he must have me confused with….it’ll be a cold day in…”. you see where I’m going with that.

Exiled!

December 13th, 2011
4:11 pm

Smart chic that one Slim!

(see I give women their due when they deserve it!)

And she got some mad bootey back there too when in pants,jeans! :lol:

Exiled!

December 13th, 2011
4:13 pm

Disco..

yea,that Global women’s psychology 102 remedial! :lol:

SlimNu

December 13th, 2011
4:13 pm

Exiled – I’m almost scared to ask if the props is because of her great money management skills or that junk in the trunk lol

Exiled!

December 13th, 2011
4:14 pm

Both Slim she can have a double major for that! Lol

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
4:38 pm

What disco said….Imma repeat in bold

now that’s not always true. women also talk when you get on their nerves or cross them. women talk because we know we can’t rightfully take something and go upside your head. yeah. we talk. I can just hear me and any other woman going off “and I don’t know who he thinks he is…. always walking around here acting like…. he must have me confused with….it’ll be a cold day in…”. you see where I’m going with that.

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
4:39 pm

Mmeello my 4:38 was for you

cba

December 13th, 2011
4:40 pm

Saw a headline this morning where Katie Couric is single again. I was like dam, I missed that……didn’t know she had remarried. After reading the story, she had this guy living with her the last five years; she’s 54 and he’s 37. Just didn’t see Katie doing the “boy toy” thang. Said he couldn’t keep up and there’s this age difference. I wonder what the age difference was five years ago?? As Ex would say, she’s gotten the cobwebs dusted off and now kicking the “youth” in the streets.

Sidenote: I do like her legs!!

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
4:44 pm

MMeello Its not what I think about ‘women’ but more about what U put out here. Bball player’s ears have been ringing from afar coz u been talking talking and talking bout Him and women talk when they like him to hit Or when he didn’t make a pass to hit but hit a different one

NEGRO Please…I’ve had to take so much crap off this joker while maintaining my decorum. I’ve had him escalated EVERYTHING on me because I make decisions opposite of what he thinks yet according to policy and procedures. Everytime he called my manager (before this one) she would say, “yes she’s correct” and that would be the end of that. It’s the new manager with an agenda of her own that’s sort of “fed into” the shenanigans and kept it going. My other manager use to shut it down. She would say “let me handle him”

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
4:45 pm

“I’ve had him to escalate on me repeatedly” is what I was saying

Exiled!

December 13th, 2011
4:45 pm

Cba!

no wonder Katie always has that Big smile!

Lol

Medicaid check

Condoms in the trash

Morning after pill check

Regular pill check

Wipes check
Auto loan for dude paid check

Student loan for guy paid check

Pocket money for guy check

Guy moves in with Katie check

Leggs

December 13th, 2011
4:49 pm

I hope she doesn’t need no “morning after” pill at 54.

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
4:50 pm

Said he couldn’t keep up and there’s this age difference.

Wonder what this meant exactly. I like Katie Couric…always have.

Exiled!

December 13th, 2011
4:54 pm

Leggs,ur kid is going to college I hope

Then u just Import a youngie one to tap dance with :lol:

Cobwebs solved! :lol:

Exiled!

December 13th, 2011
4:55 pm

Cel?

u still talking about Him?

cba

December 13th, 2011
4:57 pm

Celisea, the keeping up was concerning her hectic life but I would think her life was hectic five years ago. She was an anchor then. She met him at a cancer event.

SlimNu

December 13th, 2011
4:59 pm

Leggs – I like how you came from around the corner with that one —> “I hope she doesn’t need no “morning after” pill at 54″ :lol:

Off to the gym…*sigh* Peace out yall

disco

December 13th, 2011
4:59 pm

celisea – did it bear repeating? I’m guessing you can feel me. those soliloquies can go on for a while.

as for all this cougar talk. I’m still not on that bandwagon. a friend of mine said a 23 year old was trying to push up on her recently. she’s got a 17 year old daughter. turns out the daughter has a crush on the guy and my friend said that’s the only reason she didn’t break him off – so she wouldn’t hurt her daughter’s feelings. as is so often said, to each his own.

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
5:06 pm

disco – did it bear repeating?

I guess so…I put it out there again and in bold. I was speaking for myself…no point in me throwing myself in a response when I can just take what “she/he” said.

cba – Gotcha

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
5:07 pm

Meelloo – You stop talking and I’ll stop talking :)

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
5:07 pm

Night folks!!

Leggs

December 13th, 2011
5:08 pm

@disco ~ the 17 year old daughter has a crush on a 23-yr old guy that has the mom thinking about rocking the cradle but won’t because she doesn’t want to hurt the daugther’s feelings. HUH…Like Michael Baisden says, “that’s some fragganacking BS” :lol: :lol:

SexyCool

December 13th, 2011
5:09 pm

IKR – that’s the ONLY reason.

LMAO – Make ‘em stop.

Kat

December 13th, 2011
10:22 pm

Depending on the length of time you’ve been dating (and presuming he/she isn’t dating anyone else), I think a simple framed picture of the two of you on a date would be nice.

Matt

December 13th, 2011
11:37 pm

Who cares about the size of the gift? Y’all should just be thankful that you have a special someone to exchange gifts with. I miss that feeling.

OHolyNight

December 14th, 2011
12:50 pm

Sorry, but if you feel you HAVE to give a gift to anyone, your head is in the wrong place … as in up your ***. The last time I checked many people were out of work and/or struggling to make ends meet. People who EXCEPT gifts are just downright selfish and immature. If you are measuring your mate’s love by what they give you, you don’t deserve anything. My motto: expect nothing, appreciate everything.

Ho Ho Ho!

OHolyNight

December 14th, 2011
12:51 pm

Correction: EXCEPT — meant to type EXPECT!