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Holiday Gifts: Does size matter?

Tis the season to stress over gifts! The trickiest part of gift selection when you are dating comes down to this: should you get a big gift, little gift, or medium one?

I don’t believe spending a lot of money on someone you have just started dating is a great idea. I would even skip gift exchange altogether. I wonder though, when you have been in a committed relationship, do you think that giving an expensive gift is important?

If money is tight this year, what can you give the person you are dating that still makes a great impact?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

301 comments Add your comment

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
1:23 pm

yep Kimmie I run into them periodically I hear what you saying and him too……gotta respect one’s state.

Randyt (I have this t-shirt and it is a stinker)

December 13th, 2011
1:29 pm

Although I understand and empathize with Dude, I’m not sure his solution is the best choice…or wouldn’t be for me. i was raised in a culture that pretty much demanded, literally and figuratively, that you have to climb right back on the horse that threww you…for your own self respect. I’m not saying that one should run right back out and get married, hellz no. I am saying that building a wall around you doesn’t keep others that might hurt you out, it just keeps the you that might feel again, in.

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
1:29 pm

building a wall around you doesn’t keep others that might hurt you out, it just keeps the you that might feel again, in. <Thank you ole wise one Randy! ;) What are you drinking sir?!? lol

Randyt (I have this t-shirt and it is a stinker)

December 13th, 2011
1:33 pm

@ Lady, just spent a lifetime watching people…and I just have plenty of the scars. LOL (and Makers Mark is my oldest friend, but am somber and sober today ;-)

Exiled!

December 13th, 2011
1:33 pm

Blame that on Atlanta PS system SexxyCool!

That’s your employment catchment area..

Those erased test scores,Remember!

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
1:35 pm

A MM for the one with those wise scars! enjoy sir! I want some wine BTW! ;)

Randyt (I have this t-shirt and it is a stinker)

December 13th, 2011
1:37 pm

@ Sexy Cool, i know I mentioned this before, but i was in WalMart last year a couple of days after Christmas, and thought I would buy some Christmas bows while on sale. They were 50% off of one dollar. The kid, looked normal enough, pulled out his smart phone and began hitting some numbers. I thought he was calling for a manager to tell him how to code the discount. Nope…he was using his smartphone to figure out what 50% off of one dollar was. Now that is scary. Knew the smartphone, but third grad math…nope.

Randyt (I have this t-shirt and it is a stinker)

December 13th, 2011
1:38 pm

grade, not grad…can spell, just can’t type.

SexyCool

December 13th, 2011
1:38 pm

Meelow – I would buy the APS excuse if all of my employees were native Atlantans. But…you may be onto something as far as their education levels/comprehension abilities go. We don’t need “rocket surgeons” (lol) to throw luggage.

SexyCool

December 13th, 2011
1:39 pm

Damn, T-shirts….wow!

Dude

December 13th, 2011
1:39 pm

K, just got back, I see that I am the topic of conversation still, yes I have scars, yes I have been hurt before, I am not hurt anymore, I do not have walls up, etc. etc. I just simply don’t like relationships, I enjoy my freedom to do whoever and whatever I want to do without having to deal with stuff when I get home. This is said in a calm and collected tone, not angry nor defensive. Some people do well in relationships, some do not, I think you are looking into things more than is really needed.

SexyCool

December 13th, 2011
1:42 pm

Dude – I understand. :)

kimmie

December 13th, 2011
1:42 pm

A lot of folks are just bad at gift-giving. If that’s the case, you may have to resort to flat-out asking someone what they want. Or be more observant.

Sometimes too, there are too high expectations on the part of the receiver, due to their confusion over the status of the relationship. She thinks you guys are at the diamonds level, where you think just a nice sweater is enough.

You really need to be getting to know each other better. That should keep unpleasant surprises to a minimum.

Randyt (I have this t-shirt and it is a stinker)

December 13th, 2011
1:43 pm

I’m just saying that isn’t right for me, Dude. You know your situation better than me. What you have written is fine and well presented, and I wish you the best. I’ve been free for over a decade now, and still can’t decide which is better or worse, and, like you have more money and material things than I ever imagined…and most of the timw my love life is better…that said, I’m still unsure ;-)

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
1:44 pm

kimmie

December 13th, 2011
1:46 pm

Dude – I understand too.

lucinda

December 13th, 2011
1:49 pm

Randyt
Sleeping bag for Christmas! LOL. Bet he was sleeping in it in the back yard for a while….!

But you never know. One year my ex gave me a little vacuum cleaner and it was EXACTLY what I wanted so I was happy.

As for the single vs. relationship/married debate ~~~ To Thine Own Self Be True.

Exiled!

December 13th, 2011
1:49 pm

Randyt..I think u are fine just collecting(soiled) tshirts!

:lol:

Dude

December 13th, 2011
1:50 pm

Thumbs up everyone

Exiled!

December 13th, 2011
1:53 pm

Going into a conference but before I go ladies,did u answer the question:

Does size matter? -;)

kimmie

December 13th, 2011
1:53 pm

All the complaining about gift-giving really takes the fun out of it. But if someone is pouting and acting bratty because you didn’t spend an arm and a leg on them, well that’s another way they are letting you know what you’re dealing with.

Randyt (I have this t-shirt and it is a stinker)

December 13th, 2011
1:54 pm

There are so many questions that have to be decided regarding new relationships after one burns down, that i am surprised any new ones work. You have the questions of freedom, space, children, and the biggest of all…that extreme desire not to put your arm in that firee again, because you remember every bad thing about the last time you got burned.

People become kind of like the vinyl liner on my 13 year old swimiing pool…hard and brittle and unbendable. i can replace it at great expense, or live with it sagging.

Dude

December 13th, 2011
1:54 pm

Oral sex is always a good stand by if you don’t get the right gift

Exiled!

December 13th, 2011
1:57 pm

Throat cancer Dude!

Throat cancer!

be careful with that lizard tongue of urs licking every damn coochie!

Randyt (I have this t-shirt and it is a stinker)

December 13th, 2011
1:59 pm

Does oral sex come before or after the gift swapping? I can see problems there if not careful ;-)

Dude

December 13th, 2011
1:59 pm

Exiled!

December 13th, 2011
1:59 pm

Ohh damn it

It’s SimpleMan!

Randyt (I have this t-shirt and it is a stinker)

December 13th, 2011
2:00 pm

Dayum Exiled, I’ve been a little hoarse lately…don’t make me start thinking.

Exiled!

December 13th, 2011
2:01 pm

Randyt

the gift is ur toll pass!
Lol

Dude

December 13th, 2011
2:01 pm

Fion

December 13th, 2011
2:02 pm

@Randyt
Aye man, let me know and I’ll you the Ph# of my barber.

Exiled!

December 13th, 2011
2:02 pm

Ur peach pass if u will

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
2:04 pm

Dude

December 13th, 2011
2:10 pm

1:59 that is what I ask for,for christmas, no surprise lol

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
2:12 pm

dude you getting it right! its live out there in the single world! lol

Willie Dynamite

December 13th, 2011
2:15 pm

Afternoon All,
Gift giving- size doesn’t matter until it matters. Figure that one out and you’ll be ok. As for me I was am terrible at gift giving for the Wifey. I was told that I’m great with the kids. I had to work on that as she is somewhat shifty. I am doing better at listening to the needs and wants. i try to take care of 100% of the needs so that i can single out the wants. Works for me.

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
2:16 pm

good deal Willie!

Kym

December 13th, 2011
2:16 pm

Good Afternoon Sugafoots!

Someday I am gonna be able to blog like I did back in the day. These jokers think I came here to work..geesh…j/k

Are you folks still on topic or just throwing out random comments?

O/T Happy Belated..Belated Belated Birthday Leggs! I know you got your party on enough for everyone.

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
2:19 pm

Dude – I already said I understood. Just let folks know you’re in it for smashing only…that’s all I say. More than likely at the risk of you having fun someone will get hurt. You put it on the table, you’re a stand up dude.

Dude

December 13th, 2011
2:23 pm

Cel, yup it’s on the table, I prefer solo, less drama, less trouble, maybe in my 40s I will look for someone to settle down with, but I am not ready to give it up yet, I am still good friends with the girls, in fact a lot of them know each other, they get along, so on and so fourth. So it’s all good.

SlimNu

December 13th, 2011
2:23 pm

I know i’m walking in all late and isssssh but men, often times we women will drop little hints to help you out in the gift-giving arena just in case you’re challenged. It’s just a matter of listening. MEN on the other hand, yall aren’t really into it (some of you all anyway). So it can be a bit more of a struggle to come up with something creative when you have everything. I still don’t know what to get the beau. He said all he wants is me but that feels like a pop quiz that I don’t want to fail (as previously discussed in here). I’d like to get him something nice but right now, the only thing that comes to mind is a HUGE bottle of Goose lol

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
2:23 pm

I AM NO LONGER WORKING WITH THE BALL PLAYER….I’M BEING REMOVED OVER THE NEXT 45 DAYS………..YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHH

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
2:23 pm

Slim have you decided what you buying your boo?!?

Kym

December 13th, 2011
2:24 pm

In regards to gift-giving..ohh nevermind..I agree with Kimmie give fromt he heart..put some thought into it and quit itching and moaning.

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
2:24 pm

I guess that will remove any potential lawsuits

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
2:24 pm

GO C! enjoy it!

Kym

December 13th, 2011
2:25 pm

uhh Celisea is that a happy scream or a lawd what is I gonna do now scream?

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
2:25 pm

Thangs got heated and he stepped waaaaaaaaaaay over his boundaries and company boundaries.

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
2:26 pm

Kym – A HAPPY SCREAM….he’s looking like umm fu fu in his office right about now. I will be working closely with my manager…per her manager. He said he expected to see me step it up more being placed in that position.

Randyt (I have this t-shirt and it is a stinker)

December 13th, 2011
2:28 pm

Kym, was it you that was going to listen to the cds of “the Girl With the Dragon Tattoo? If so, how was it.