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Holiday Gifts: Does size matter?

Tis the season to stress over gifts! The trickiest part of gift selection when you are dating comes down to this: should you get a big gift, little gift, or medium one?

I don’t believe spending a lot of money on someone you have just started dating is a great idea. I would even skip gift exchange altogether. I wonder though, when you have been in a committed relationship, do you think that giving an expensive gift is important?

If money is tight this year, what can you give the person you are dating that still makes a great impact?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

301 comments Add your comment

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
11:21 am

Dude – You sound hurt

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
11:21 am

I hear ya Dude! Enjoy!

Dude

December 13th, 2011
11:22 am

Hurt…..how so

SexyCool

December 13th, 2011
11:24 am

disco – interestingly enough, I have decided that once I bring them back out, I am going to limit them to ones that I absolutely love and to displaying no more than 7 or so.

I have been trying to *discover* something else that I want to collect, but so far, nothing has really peaked my interest.

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
11:25 am

You sound hurt…all my money, no accountability, no phone numbers no babies…just fun fun fun. So now you’re about to unleash the wrath of dude on a bunch of unsuspecting women?? C’mon dude…don’t be like that. Maybe it’s me and I’m reading too much into what you said.

Dude

December 13th, 2011
11:26 am

Hurt, no, I am the one that does the dumping, not the other way around, I just simply don’t care for a relationship, too much work. I like easy things and loose women lmao!!!

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
11:29 am

Alright then dude….no judgement here…it’s your life…LIVE IT :)

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
11:32 am

How about I sent an email to the mayor months (as in months) ago and it was just read today??? :|

DreamsMaterialize

December 13th, 2011
11:32 am

SexyC your Snowglobe collection reminds of a friend’s mom who used to collect elephants. There were elephants ALL over the house…and NO she wasn’t a Delta. lol Btw, have you seen the movie Snowglobe with Christina Milian?

SexyCool

December 13th, 2011
11:36 am

Yeah, no, Dreams, haven’t seen the movie.

Elephants everydamnwhere?!? Whew….That’s the thing about collecting stuff. I don’t want to become OVERtaken by snowglobes.

I once went to someone’s house and it was plain to see that they had a fondness for roosters. Eek! It was a bit unsettling to say the least.

Dude

December 13th, 2011
11:41 am

I knew a chick that was really into unicorns, like everywhere in the house, hundreds of them

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
11:43 am

3 more days…………….

SexyCool

December 13th, 2011
11:46 am

Yeah…too much of anything is an imbalance. #signsofmentalillness

DreamsMaterialize

December 13th, 2011
11:52 am

Yeah, no, Dreams, haven’t seen the movie.
SexyC My bad. You’re not missing anything. When you have kids, you tend to see movies you wouldn’t normally watch. Snowglobe was one of those.

disco

December 13th, 2011
11:53 am

I immediately thought of an old rap line “too much of anything makes it a habit” but I’m drawing a blank as to the song or the artist.

SouthernBelle

December 13th, 2011
12:07 pm

I expect a gift period!! If we were new a small gift. If we are not new and we are not..I just told him what I wanted gave him a list of 5 things to choose from. I also asked him what he wanted and he told me to. I always want a gift…Southern Belle talking!

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
12:09 pm

:) SouthenBelle!

Exiled!

December 13th, 2011
12:13 pm

@Disco?

kush will make u draw a blank,just looking on the distance,no expression and distant!

Lol

@Dude? So u just unleashing ur Big gift to them? :lol:

Lucky guy!

On topic: I have been told what she wants. Problem is I don’t have the money!

Doghouse!
I don’t want anything and ‘anything’ is my usual answer!

Exiled!

December 13th, 2011
12:15 pm

Dude

December 13th, 2011
12:27 pm

It’s a dick in a box lmao
Christmas -Dick in a box
Valentines day -Dick in a box

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
12:33 pm

Dude you’re a hot horny mess! smh LOL wow!

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
12:33 pm

If you’re this giddy I’m sure she’s skipping.

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
12:33 pm

It seems the time has paused. The day is now dragging! sigh

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
12:34 pm

shut up C too funny! LOL

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
12:35 pm

Lady – And when he done with his venture he’ll be back to empty ole dude. Ain’t gonna tell me men don’t feel it to. He’s hurt and he sounds like it. He’s masking it but I’m not buying. I just hope he ain’t a 30/40 something year old reverting back to the tirades that younger men do when they’re first crushed. That would be stupid. If he’s older he should know how to gracefully move one. That’s what they tell us ladies to do. Not get back out there and stick everything in your path.

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
12:36 pm

he’s and too

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
12:40 pm

Ain’t gonna tell me men don’t feel it to. <————–Word is bond.

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
12:43 pm

Lady don’t you get the feeling we’re being watched?

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
12:44 pm

empty <————– that word is powerful C!

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
12:44 pm

Fion

December 13th, 2011
12:44 pm

@Celisea
why in blue blazes is it sooooooooo! hard for you to accept what the man said. You asked him how he was rollin’. He told you. Now you tellin’ ’bout his world. Lawd. Lawd. Lawd!!!!

Dude

December 13th, 2011
12:45 pm

Think what ever you want C, I gracefully moved on and no I am not hurt, I just like having a good time, I didn’t do well with relationships, I didn’t cheat, but I just don’t do well with it. Yeah I am 30 something, I really could care less if you think I am masking it or not. I have my fun, I earned it and it may be that I haven’t found the right woman for me. But until I meet that woman, I am not changen

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
12:45 pm

ummmmmmmm flies around the room and capture Fion and flies away. lol continue C who is watching us?

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
12:47 pm

Dude I hear you you sound familiar I’ve heard your song too many times that is why I am not barking @ you about it. I hear you through and through!

Fion

December 13th, 2011
12:47 pm

@Lady
I’m at lunch and stepped back in rfom this morning. Reading back, this is a trip.

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
12:48 pm

C just made a good point and that is be honest with your playmates. That is all I require from you if you need such lololol

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
12:48 pm

I know Fion.

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
12:48 pm

Lawd Fion, I don’t know. You’re so right my brother….so right.

Fion

December 13th, 2011
12:49 pm

BTW, pretty good chicken salad sandwich too.

Dude

December 13th, 2011
12:50 pm

LOL, I like my women like I like my cheese, fat free american singles!!!

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
12:51 pm

NP Alex O’Neal If You Were Here Tonight!

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
12:51 pm

whatever Dude. play on bruh!

Dude

December 13th, 2011
12:52 pm

Later guys, I gotta split, work picked up on me

SexyCool

December 13th, 2011
12:53 pm

It’s benefits open enrollment period. I am no longer astonished by the number of folks that cannot properly complete this paperwork.

And let me not get started on buddy who is 40+ and needed to be walked through filling out his W-4.
(sheesh….)

Celisea

December 13th, 2011
12:53 pm

Alright Lady, Fion and Dude…I’m turning the reigns over to ya’ll. I’ve got a meeting.

Lady~

December 13th, 2011
1:00 pm

I have a series of testing to do but well I am still here……lawd Friday where are you!

lucinda

December 13th, 2011
1:01 pm

Jumpin in for my every coupla months stop in. Maybe y’all don’t know that?

On topic: I like “experience” gifts, as in, take me someplace or to do something that’s new for me, or somehow a special experience. I’m not so much a possession type person, I’d rather travel someplace or see a play or….

So, I took my SO away for the weekend for his gift. He likes “stuff” more than I do, but he doesn’t really need anything and the stuff he might really want is out of my budget. So rather than get him something he really doesn’t want, I opted for an exeperience gift. A new concept for him. Turned out to be the perfect gift.

KM

December 13th, 2011
1:07 pm

If the price tag matters more than the thought behind the gift, then she’s not worth keeping.

kimmie

December 13th, 2011
1:18 pm

Celisea/Lady – I dated a guy once that sounded just like Dude. He said he had never been hurt, he just didn’t do well in relationships. He would act like we were getting closer and sounded like he was changing his mind, but then revert back to his original stance. I had to let that go. I respected that he told me that upfront, so when I caught feelings I had noone to blame but myself. Had to cut off all ties though. Not a bad person, we just didn’t want the same things.

Randyt (I have this t-shirt and it is a stinker)

December 13th, 2011
1:23 pm

“If the price tag matters more than the thought behind the gift, then she’s not worth keeping”

I agree but this can be very discriminating. I remember one of my college roomates coming in one night excited because he figured out what the perfect gift was for his fiance…a sleeping bag. I said “uh Les, are you sure that is the perfect present???”. He said, “oh yes, she’ll love it”. After Christmas I asked how well that had gone over, and he seemed in complete bewiderment about her reaction…not good.

The problem with buying for many women is that they, a) want it to be a surprise, and b) they want it to be exactly what they want. A man can hit one or the other pretty well, it is the combination that totally messes a guy up…kind of like guessing the numbers on a combination lock.