Every time I think of my college days I remember that dating was not a big priority for me. Believe it or not, I was a raging nerd who was either in the chemistry lab or working! I often wonder if my dating options were most plentiful back then. Was it easier dating as a college student and I didn’t know it?
Well according to writer Brian Jenkins, women in Georgia colleges face some daunting challenges. Makes you wonder if college is the best shot at finding a mate. Or maybe it is simply the time to play it single?
Check out Brian’s guest blog about dating in college and weigh in!
W. Keith Campbell, psychology professor at the University of Georgia, believes women on gender-unbalanced campuses are paying a social price for success, precisely because they have outperformed men. Katie Deray, a senior at the school, stated, “If a guy is not getting what he wants, he can quickly and abruptly go to the next one, because there are so many of us.” She claims it’s common to see six provocatively dressed women hovering around one or two guys at a bar or a party. The University of Georgia is around 60 percent female.
Oddly, the situation at many Georgia campuses is similar to the situation at retirement communities, where women reap the rewards of outliving their husbands by having to compete with other widows for the affections of a small number of living bachelors. Because of the gender imbalance at many Georgia colleges, male students claim they don’t have to work very hard to get the attention of females.
It seems strange, but most students at the University of West Georgia claim it’s actually easier to meet prospective dates while out on the town instead of on campus. Is this a good thing? Will Irvin, author of Missing Pieces: 22 Secrets of a Successful Relationship, stated, “Only two percent of men find relationships at a bar stool, with the number only going up to nine percent for women.” Maybe those looking for love are better off starting a study group.
Regarding first dates, Mandy Boland, a student at the University of West Georgia, thinks group dates make it easier to get over the first date awkwardness. But who should take the initiative after the first date? Dayton Presslar, a junior at the school, brazenly stated, “For guys there are no dating rules. Guys are simple. Rules for dating are more of a girl thing.”
Here’s some advice given to me by Adina Solomon, a junior at the University of Georgia who is also a reporter for The Red & Black student newspaper: “If you hang out mainly with people who share your values and motivations, you’ll eventually find a suitable partner – or last night’s mistake, depending on your preferences.”
What do you think? Is college dating different from dating post-college? Do we face the same challenges? Does it get better? How much does maturity and life experience impact our dating habits?