What is it about men and their money?
A guy once told me that he was advised by his mother to never give women money. It seems to be a way to suss out which women wanted him as a sponsor instead of a partner. If a man showed no desire to help a woman out financially, would that be a sign that he is smart or inconsiderate?
Women today generally prefer to hold their own financially. I don’t know a lot of women who have a salary requirement for the men that they date. I wonder if they would look to test a man to see if he would be a good provider, though. How important is being a provider to women?
Do you think men today use wealth to attract women?
Guys, what are your thoughts about your money and your confidence? Are the two related?
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Lady~
November 30th, 2011
8:18 am
Good Morning MIA!!!!!!!!!!! Another interesting topic!
The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior
November 30th, 2011
8:41 am
Men use wealth and power to attract women, always have.
From the time when Gronk knocked Ugh over the head for Mmph, power and wealth have been at the epicenter of (most) men’s thinking.
You learn early. Popular = girlfriend(s). And if you’re a teenage boy with little atheletic skill, political skill, or any other talent that appeals to young women; then you learn that lesson hard.
If you learn it well you become Bill Gates, or a powerful CEO with your arse on your shoulder and at 30+, still trying to get the prom queen.
As for money, it’s a means to that end.
I’ve never had a problem giving a woman money, because I never give more than I’m willing to. And I’ll straight forwardly tell a female that “that’s as far as I’m willing to go.”
Having money, looking for it from/in other people, and withholding money is less about cash itself and more about the power the act conveys.
Mornin
Leggs
November 30th, 2011
8:52 am
Good morning.
Yes, men use money to attract women, just like women use their bodies to attract men.
I wouldn’t want to “test” a man to see if he’s a good provider. All I have to do is watch how he handles his own business while I handle mine. Nonetheless, being able to provide for US is the a responsibility we both will have to share.
Harder...please.
November 30th, 2011
8:55 am
Money and confidence related? The seeds of confidence and self-respect are sown before a child enters elementary school.
Robert
November 30th, 2011
8:56 am
“your money and your confidence? Are the two related?”
I believe this quote: “Man makes money, but money does not make the Man.” It does not matter how much money you make or how many houses and cars you own. The only thing that matters is you both share a common goal which gives you both confidence that leads to a successful relationship (love & marriage).
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
8:59 am
I am pondering about the correlation with money and ego……………….are they interchangeable?!?
Alternative Black Man
November 30th, 2011
8:59 am
Gay men all have their own money so this is not an issue. We are more concerned with other measruements if you get my drift…;)
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
9:03 am
Chuckle ABM!!!!!!!! I certainly do…….lol
Randyt (aka. no new t-shirts lately)
November 30th, 2011
9:03 am
“How important is being a provider to women?”
As one progresses in to the 40’s or beyond, this is very important…and should be important to all. The reason is in the statistics…money problems are the number one cause of divorce. Love has an amazing ability to run and hide when there isn’t enough money in the account to buy food or pay the mortgage. So it is easier to deal with that up front rather than let infatuation become contempt.
Regarding the connection between confidence and money in men…absolutely in my life. It gives a man a freer hand to be genteel, charismatic, and thoughtful….and this shows.
Dan was exactly right above.. In high school, if a guy was ugly, fat, and had an IQ lower than the average winter temperature, he could still be dating a doll as long as he had that “Letter Sweater”.
Women are attracted to money and confidence. It suggests masculinity and power…and they want that in their men.
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
9:07 am
Confidence and money? Yeah I think one boosts or fuel the other.
Oh….morning
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
9:08 am
I think one CAN boost or fuel the other. I don’t believe every man succumbs to the game of sponsorship.
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
9:08 am
Here recently I find many men using power and yes money comes with power, but power is less tangible and some women just a man who flaunts it………..This is making me think about the series of Mad Men! smh! lol
Mike P
November 30th, 2011
9:09 am
If a man showed no desire to help a woman out financially, would that be a sign that he is smart or inconsiderate? That isn’t the right question to ask.
The real question is… Is it smart to show a desire to help a woman he’s with financially?
Ans.. Well that depends on what the man wants from the women and whether she’s giving in to him or not.
If the man is in relationship-seeking mode = invest in the woman (assuming she is worth it to him); but if the man is in play-n-fun mode = don’t invest in the woman, deal with her in equal transaction basis (pay to play, give and take). If she’s asking for $100 and you only getting $50 worth from her, she too expensive, too much trouble and prolly not worth it; on to the next one!
Good morning blog folks
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
9:09 am
*just loves that is*
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
9:10 am
taking notes Mike P! just interesting! lol
Randyt (aka. no new t-shirts lately)
November 30th, 2011
9:11 am
Regarding money and confiedence…if a man wants to show off his money, it ussually is covering an inferiority conplex.
That said, one can use money to show off, or one can use money to be free. I prefer the latter (and still remember too well the days when I had neither).
The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior
November 30th, 2011
9:11 am
I mean, I know plenny of confident foolish people, plenny.
As for money making one more confident….meh. I saw it in college; people without true confidence will latch on to just about anything (arbitrarily) to make themselves feel better about their station in life or whatever.
I was always taught that, when you strip away the awards, there should be more underneath.
Randyt (aka. no new t-shirts lately)
November 30th, 2011
9:13 am
“usually” and “complex” I need to edit before hitting send, sorry.
Robert
November 30th, 2011
9:13 am
” If a man showed no desire to help a woman out financially, would that be a sign that he is smart or inconsiderate?”
It depends on the situation. For example I will help a woman if she needs help paying her bills (rent, car, food) especially if she has kids. I have compassion. I will not help pay her phone bill, cable, hair, nails or other non-essential bills.
Fion
November 30th, 2011
9:15 am
” I wonder if they would look to test a man to see if he would be a good provider”
You don’t have to test a man, operative word being “man”. Just pay attention to his world and how he functions in it.
The more organized and efficient his world operates, rest assured the more detailed the plan is he’s working from.
Randyt (aka. no new t-shirts lately)
November 30th, 2011
9:17 am
” If a man showed no desire to help a woman out financially, would that be a sign that he is smart or inconsiderate?”
i think this is not this simple. I think you have to explore the reasons, the consequences, and the motives before handing out cash. If you don’t know this, then it could be just another example of the guy standing at the Interstate exit with a sign (that you have seen there for months)…may be real, or may be a way of life.
Randyt (aka. no new t-shirts lately)
November 30th, 2011
9:20 am
@ fion re: 9:15…well stated and true.
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
9:23 am
Giving to get is always how the game is played. Whether it’s just ass or whether you’re looking for something permanent. Ain’t nothing free. Not even love. You have to give time, willing to give of yourself, etc.
But yeah, I know…we’re talking men and their money.
disco
November 30th, 2011
9:24 am
good morning. the blog men are representing in full effect this morning. that’s what’s up. now if I could only find the real life men….
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
9:27 am
Ain’t nothing free. Not even love. <———-BAM there it is and Yes C we are discussing men and their money…..lol
Randyt (aka. no new t-shirts lately)
November 30th, 2011
9:28 am
@ Celisea…good post. When I was an early teenager, I read a word in a book that has stuck with me for decades. The word is “Tanstaafl”. It is an acronym for “There Ain’t No Such Thing As A Free Lunch”. I try to NEVER forget that…ever.
You are 100% correct…almost everything has a price tag on it somewhere.
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
9:30 am
Lady – Exactly. I’m sure this conversation could take on many scenarios.
disco
November 30th, 2011
9:31 am
randy – I like to say “nothing’s free, it’s included”. included in the price you already paid or in the work you already put in.
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
9:32 am
Randyt – And even with that being a given, we still find some that want but not willing to give. Or willing to give on their terms…I don’t consider that giving.
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
9:32 am
Now this makes me think about the book and movie Indecent Proposal! Should the question now be how much will you sell your soul for since nothing is free?!!?
TinselTown
November 30th, 2011
9:33 am
Power and Wealth are the greatest aphrodesiacs the world has ever known. Always has been, always will be. I’m sure a lot of people will give the patented answer “Oh, it’s not about that. It’s about love and being sweet.” But it isn’t. The two biggest causes of divorce are sex (lack therof or adultry) and money (lack therof). There’s always going to be a bigger house, nicer car, better vacations and more luxurious opportunities. Most (but not all) women will pay more attention to these with a wink and a nod.
I make a very nice living and have had no problem dating. It’s just amazing how much that attention intensifies when women get a whiff of the bank account. Some can get downright aggressive….
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 30th, 2011
9:34 am
Its not the cars, the clothes or the money. Its always the dude. Thats where it begins. If a dude doesnt know that basic principle he is losing from the jump.
kimmie
November 30th, 2011
9:38 am
Morning All!
Hey Dan, like what you’re saying this morn. I also agree with Leggs – you don’t have to test a man. Just observe how he handles his business. Another case for really getting to know someone before you jump in with both feet.
As for not helping a woman out financially being inconsiderate, I think that’s the wrong question. If he saw me really having a hard time, like not having enough to eat or lights or water cut off, I would hope he would have some compassion for me. I would do that for him or any of my friends. Now if I kept living beyond my means and blowing my check on clothes and whatnot and being generally irresponsible, he would be smart not to enable me. Beyond that, I’m an adult.
“God bless the child that’s got his own” was drummed into me. I was raised not to take money from people, especially men, because nothing is free and they will always want something in return. Independant as all grown adults should be, but not overbearing with it. Raised to keep money stuff seperate until you are serious and making a commitment to each other.
Leggs
November 30th, 2011
9:40 am
I’ve known from an early age that nothing in life is free. You may not shell out any greenbacks, but payment is made through other avenues in your life.
@Tinsel ~ money and sex are the 2 biggest reasons why the divorce rate is so high. I’m not concerned how big a person’s house is or how expensive their car may be. Sure it’s all nice, but it’s not a grading factor toward him. More concerned he has his own place and his own car and I don’t mean a place in the corner at the shelter, or a Marta bus pass as his only means of transportation.
Fion
November 30th, 2011
9:41 am
@ Lady
“I am pondering about the correlation with money and ego …are they interchangeable?!?”
Just for the record, if you run into a man who’s ego moves in conjunction with his income, you just met a fool. Ego (Identity of self) has nothing to do with income (money).
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
9:42 am
And IMO how you feel about her or him determines and says a lot. A woman not looking for sponsorship won’t take handouts or take just to be taking and a dude not looking to sponsor won’t do just because she’s getting drunk from the smell of money. Yes if she’s struggling or having it hard and he’s a friend (boyfriend, man friend, BFF…whatevs) I would think he would lend a helping hand.
But I think we all know most men that don’t have good intentions lead with the wallets, snag with their wallets, date with their wallets, sex with their wallets, talk with their wallets…so forth and so on. If you can make it happen without the wallet THEN you are the man.
The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior
November 30th, 2011
9:43 am
Yeah, I have a friend in TX that had a woman and her kids (plus his) living with them. She only had *one* bill, and when that didn’t get paid, he put ‘em out.
Made sure they had somewhere to stay, but she had to get gone.
Point is, men have no problem with money – as it has been stated – but when it’s bee proven that female can’t handle her end…well, there’s no sense in pouring money down a proverbial drain.
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 30th, 2011
9:44 am
Tinsel – I do agree with the downright agressiveness when they get a whiff. I guess with me.. I make my money, my money doesnt make me.
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
9:45 am
Fion know you know I meet some fools along the way on this journey! Great post!!!!!
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
9:45 am
TinselTown – You sound like you’re still in a place of getting while the getting is good….because your possessions are doing the getting for you.
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
9:46 am
meant now you know!!!!!!!!!!!!!! dammit! smh
Randyt (aka. no new t-shirts lately)
November 30th, 2011
9:49 am
As some have suggested above, there is a difference between looking for security and looking for “flash”. “Flash” is often superficial. Security suggests that the dude has worked for and appreciates what he has been blessed with.
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
9:51 am
& may I add it is OK to look and appreciate for security! *wink*
Kym
November 30th, 2011
9:52 am
Good Morning All.
I am going to try..try..to work less and blog more today..:-)..Yes I do believe men look for money and power to catch themselves a woman or women.(depending on your beliefs) I mean if a man has more than one wife then he is responsible for the care of all of the wives. I am not going to state it as fact..but I would venture a guess to say that in societies where multiple wives are welcome, the man with the most wives is usually the richest guy in town.
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
9:54 am
scurity in general that is! yep I am all over the place! smh lol that is me!!!!!!!!!
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
9:54 am
securtity!
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
9:57 am
Like the dude interviewed by Elizabeth Vargas the other night. He’s married to twin sisters and a third woman. The have 24 children and seemingly a lovely home. I’m thinking how does he take care of 28 people???!!! But somewhere he got their buy-in. They said he was in construction but somewhere in the whole of it all, he got their buy-in. Maybe in this case not solely on money getting tossed in the air but I’m sure he’s got to be producing funds to keep that set up going.
kimmie
November 30th, 2011
10:00 am
Lady – I’m glad you added that 9:51 post. Bottom line, nobody wants someone that can’t handle their business. Even if you don’t have a lot, it’s how you manage what you have that can make a difference and put you in a better position than someone making twice the money.
I was thinking about yesterday’s topic. It seems some women today feel they need to apologize for being women. So what if most women are not comfortable in a NSA situation and just mindlessly getting with whomever comes along? So what if we crave security in a mate? These are the things that set us apart from men and animals. We are the gatekeepers of our bodies and our hearts. We compliment men in these respects. We should never apologize for it.
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
10:00 am
Wow C! does that take the cake! sheesh! :/
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
10:00 am
Enter your comments here
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
10:01 am
Thanks Kimmie!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Great Post!
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
10:02 am
These are the things that set us apart from men and animals. We are the gatekeepers of our bodies and our hearts. We compliment men in these respects. We should never apologize for it. <——Amen Kimmie!
Leggs
November 30th, 2011
10:03 am
@Lady ~ too funny…you still spelled it wrong.
Randyt (aka. no new t-shirts lately)
November 30th, 2011
10:03 am
I think a guy with multiple wives better have a dayum big house with plenty of rooms to hide in. With that much estrogen around, there would be at least one with PMS most of the time. That scares me…especially if there are knives laying around.
SexyCool
November 30th, 2011
10:04 am
kimmie – word.
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
10:05 am
Kimmie – I’m sooo feeling your 10:00…you are absolutely right. I’m guarding my heart. A man can call me what he wants but if you can’t present or represent in a way that’s comfortable and in a way where I feel secure overall, nothing doing. I will apologize for my tone or if I snap..something of that sort but I will not apologize for my decisions.
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
10:06 am
Randyt – Jealousy was rampant. They’re were all sitting calm and collected but they said jealousy was the one issue he was having to deal with. Elizabeth made no quams in telling him pretty much…you got it going on. He didn’t even have a bedroom of his own. The three women had their own and he just rotated with each of them.
Leggs
November 30th, 2011
10:10 am
@Celisea ~ if one doesn’t guard their heart a fool would be made of them. By guarding your heart, you’re simply respecting yourself and your values and not letting the nice words of a man get to you. Words are words, but action speaks volumes! Too many forget to connect their words with their actions.
Randyt (aka. no new t-shirts lately)
November 30th, 2011
10:10 am
@ Celisea… seems like another example of, “be careful what you wish for. You might get it”.
Fion
November 30th, 2011
10:11 am
The game is the game and it comes in various forms, even marriage.
The greatest line from the Pimp of all Pimp’s Iceberg Slim, “anybody can control a women’s body. The key is can you control her mind”.
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
10:11 am
Leggs if you knew what was on the other side of the computer screen lol you will tell me to pay attention!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LMBAO!
Ok let me knock out this task. Will check in later
Kym
November 30th, 2011
10:12 am
@Celisea is this that family from that reality show? I thought they were questioning if they could legally have the whole Big Love thang going on? Dang you..now I want to watch the news story.
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
10:13 am
Leggs – Exactly
Randyt – He was sitting there like a bump on a log. He claimed he “understood” but yet was like “oh gheesh, just wow, sometimes it’s ummmm” I’m thinking man please. You know good and dang well you’re getting the best of 3 worlds. He was having cake, ice cream and getting to eat it all.
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
10:15 am
Kym – Check out this link. When I went to ABC News site the story was on the front page.
http://abcnews.go.com/2020/ElizabethVargas/
SexyCool
November 30th, 2011
10:16 am
I can’t understand the mentality of those women. I like having my own man.
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
10:16 am
The Dargers Family
Randyt (aka. no new t-shirts lately)
November 30th, 2011
10:17 am
@ Celisea…maybe too much of a good thing makes you dumb or tongue-tied.
Kym
November 30th, 2011
10:19 am
@Celisea..girl I am already ahead of you..I am looking at the family pictures now.
DreamsMaterialize
November 30th, 2011
10:19 am
Morning
Do you think men today use wealth to attract women?
Men of any day have used wealth to attract women.
Guys, what are your thoughts about your money and your confidence? Are the two related?
I’m sure lots of guys’ confidence is related to their wealth. This may sound corny, but my confidence is tied to my spirituality. I believe with everything in me that the Creator wants the best life possible for me, and I believe that He has blessed me with all the physical and mental abilities necessary to successfully navigate this life. This is preordained, and I draw confidence from that.
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
10:20 am
Me either SexyC….I have real issues with that. Imma be asking questions left and right. I ain’t gonna even lie, it’s better for a dude to know upfront not to get involved with me and that sort of scene because in the end he’s gonna be regretting he ever knew me…lol I can just tell him it’s gonna get reaaaal ugly. I’m that kind of woman.
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
10:22 am
Kym – I was speechless while watching. They ain’t bad looking women either.
Randyt – He was just dumb and camera shy. Oh and the other thing that got me was they dress up on Sunday and HE, yes HE read from their scripture and explains. THEY DRESS UP….the go nowhere. At least I didn’t see them heading out for church. I don’t know if because they’ve been in secret they didn’t attend a physical building but it seems they dress up, stay home and have Sunday Service. He was the man too. Yeah she was putting it to him. He couldn’t find too many words.
Kym
November 30th, 2011
10:25 am
@SC well according to the story..the guy’s mama is the one who encourage the women to pursue the fellow as a team. They later added one of the women’s twin sister. I say go for it. Everyone is of age and no children are being molested or sold off…so hey..It’s your thang..do what you wanna do..
SexyCool
November 30th, 2011
10:30 am
Yeah…no…still isn’t logical in my world.
Kym
November 30th, 2011
10:31 am
But you got to admit..dude must have had some kind of game,cause I mean even in Polygamists groups..they have got to have their share of lame dudes.
Fion
November 30th, 2011
10:37 am
The basis of this in its simplest form, women receive their validation through/from men. A woman can’t validate herself.
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
10:40 am
really fion?!?
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
10:41 am
Huh?
kimmie
November 30th, 2011
10:43 am
Fion – So dudes that can’t validate themselves are REALLY lame, aren’t they?
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
10:45 am
Soooooooo, who validate men?
Kym
November 30th, 2011
10:45 am
Uh women can’t validate themselves? Wait did I read that wrong? Lawd here we go and it is so early in the day.
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
10:46 am
And what does “validation” mean? I’m living breathing walking and alive
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
10:46 am
Fion I am waiting on your assessment sir……..
GracieL
November 30th, 2011
10:47 am
I’m most impressed by the things/qualities that money CAN’T buy!
Of course, that mindset has not helped my personal financial portfolio at all! Neither has the fact that I feel uncomfortable accepting any money or any material gift more expensive than a bottle of good Scotch. I may be scraping by, but I’m scraping by just fine on my own, thankyewverymuch!
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
10:47 am
Okay….I could REAAAALLY go there on this one but I won’t. Imma just hush.
kimmie
November 30th, 2011
10:49 am
Ladies, he doesn’t even know himself!LOL!!!
Fion
November 30th, 2011
10:50 am
Do you really think this dude has some magic line that zaps these women into some subconscious state or is he tapping into an innate need that women have? Surely these aren’t the only 3-women in America in this type of relationship.
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
10:50 am
I guess we need validation of his validation explanation…LOLOLOLOL
Fion
November 30th, 2011
10:50 am
@ Celisea
yeah, please do.
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
10:50 am
And again……..HUH?????
Fion
November 30th, 2011
10:51 am
Ladies, I’m all ears. Please tell me how you validate youself.
Fion
November 30th, 2011
10:51 am
meant yourself.
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
10:51 am
smirk lol smh a bit far fetched……………
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
10:52 am
Just make it easier and explain what you said. Maybe since we aren’t validated or been included in a 4-way relationship we just aren’t able to explain.
kimmie
November 30th, 2011
10:54 am
So a percentage of women that probably does not come to half of one percent is representative of most women in America? Ohhkaaayyyy
That’s the dumbest shi– I’ve read on here in a long time!
Sniffer!
November 30th, 2011
10:54 am
You are 100% correct….almost everything has a price tag on it somewhere
Good morning!
If she is well packaged,(azz),bosoom is reasonably abundant,the whiff is enchanting,the teeth are ice white,the walk is gracious and gazelle like,the face is agreeable,the azz seems to be looking back at me from All angles the price is my mind is Hugh!
I start checking myself to see if I dressed proper today before I step to her
Sometimes we let some go coz we feel we can’t compete
All u do is put ur left hand in ur pocket,hold the little boy by the head to restrain him,look at her one more time as she walks away and just charge it to the game.
There she goes….
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
10:56 am
I validate myself daily and while a man could compliment my flow if I had one he doesn’t. I feel couples validate each other in man perspectives however validation and esteem I think is internal and if you search too hard for others to validate me wouldn’t that be consider thirsty and desperate in a sense?!? Help me out. What is your take Fion?!?!
Kimmie I wanna know your thoughts too…………..
Sniffer!
November 30th, 2011
10:56 am
in my mind is High
Fion
November 30th, 2011
10:56 am
@ Celisea
Chick read my 10:50 post
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
10:57 am
*many*
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
10:58 am
Fion – Dude, I just did…it’s still dumb. Was something suppose to change by re-reading it? Yeah I’m with Kimmie..that’s the dumbest sh!t I’ve EVER read on here.
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
11:00 am
wow!
disco
November 30th, 2011
11:00 am
lady – re your thirsty comment. I recently saw an episode of the jeffersons and they made a reference to folks being hungry. not quite full circle but close.
Randyt (aka. no new t-shirts lately)
November 30th, 2011
11:01 am
I’ve seen women go through a “validation” phase after a divoorce often. They guard the kids for awhile, but eventually they want to know that they are still attractive and desirable. They have often been beaten down by their exes and the whole brutal divorce process, and just want someone to say that they are pretty. Usually they are extremely vulnerable during this period.
this is not saying that all women need men to validate them…just saying that I’ve known a bunch who sooner or later need that after a life type beatdown.
Fion
November 30th, 2011
11:02 am
@ kimmie
You are missing my point. My point is not this specific relationship. The question some raised was how can 3-women do that.
The guy is he tapping into an innate need that women have
kimmie
November 30th, 2011
11:02 am
Lady – My thoughts? I think Fion is trying to start some mess. His attitude is stank. Looks like he wore the pink panties today and they are in a bunch. We were having too civil a discussion in here. I won’t waste my fingers trying to type any kind of explanation of my validation to him.
It’s a real “little” man that has to resort to put-downs of women. But hey, let him knock his little self out!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 30th, 2011
11:03 am
A man should offer help financially to his woman, most wont even ask. When I’m in tune with her she wont have to ask intuition takes hold. I can’t understand a man not wanting to help his girl, friend, or family. I know I’ve been jilted monetarily mostly by family, still no excuse not to help somebody.
Good Morning:
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
11:03 am
yep disco…………………..
Fion
November 30th, 2011
11:04 am
Meant the guy is tapping into……….
Kym
November 30th, 2011
11:05 am
Okay according to my dictionary app..Validate means the following..
to make valid substantiate confirm–
I can confirm and affirm that I am a woman physically and apparently so can my gyno doc(she is a woman too).
to give legal force to legalize
Well according my driver’s license and birth certificate I am legally a female(woman)
to give official sanction confirmation or approval to–I guess since my upbringing has always been to be the best woman I could be..and no one has called me out for shaming them yet I’m good.
Whewww so glad..I was almost worried..:-)
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
11:05 am
got you Kimmie! thx
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
11:06 am
so I was right Kym! hmmmmmm it is internal
Jeff
November 30th, 2011
11:06 am
It’s very interesting how women who take the money are portrayed as pure in motivation worthy of our sympathy for their situation, but men who give the money are not.
kimmie
November 30th, 2011
11:07 am
Fion – And again, these 3 women are representative of an innate “need” of all women?
Please go somewhere else with that mess.
And Randyt, men at times want “validation” too. They want assurance that they “still got it”.
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
11:09 am
Dern it…where’s my post. Fion you better be glad…lol
I was saying you’re one of the ones that pop out when SEX comes up or you want to make a crass remark about someone. You NEVER participate in discussions.
Sniffer!
November 30th, 2011
11:10 am
Fion u are right that these are not the only women doing it in USA
but they do it because for them,it’s a cultural thing
They all come from polygamous families.
Validation is mores based
What’s considered good is based on what your society or culture considered good
Women ate validated by the actions of other women on their society(culture)
Same as men
What’s the argument by the way?
disco
November 30th, 2011
11:10 am
blackfoote – family will take you there. I’ve got two brothers. one can borrow money and pay it back even if it takes a while. the other one has been accepting “gifts” for years. I have a cousin who borrowed and was to pay me back at tax time about 6 tax seasons ago. I could go on.
kym – you forgot “to make somebody feel valued as a person, or feel that his or her ideas or opinions are worthwhile”. I’m just throwing in a definition. as you all have noticed, I’m shying away from the topic.
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
11:10 am
Annnnnd I was saying that I sniggled when you mentioned that young thang in shorts in 42 degree weather. You got the gas face from her cause you was a D.O.M. oggling her.
Kym
November 30th, 2011
11:11 am
Lawd..Fion dude you on some old Herman Cain bs..just making up stuff to prove a point even you can’t follow.
This 3 way family is a religious thing with these folks. They are not advocating for the lifestyle for everyone.. just wanting their own acceptance and validation(This is today’s secret word kids!, so they came out with their story. But here you go with your foolishness..
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
11:12 am
Ut oh, I don crossed boundaries. I’m sorry and I’m getting off for a while as punishment.
Randyt (aka. no new t-shirts lately)
November 30th, 2011
11:12 am
@ Kimmie…you are 100% correct. I had my “validation” phase too. One day I realized that i needed to build my self-esteem from within me not externally. After that, the “numbers” game no longer mattered.
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
11:12 am
and disco that is why I said a man could compliment my flow! I truly support that defintion as well however its not making me or breaking me if a man doesn’t is my point…..Good point disco!
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
11:14 am
I feel in a releationship we need each other so the other person POV is equally important but his stance was women are validated by men like it is all or nothing and I just can’t accept that…..
GracieL
November 30th, 2011
11:17 am
I just don’t know I would even go about accepting monetary assistance from a man!! Whenever I’ve been half of a couple, we split the bills. The ex and I never fought over child support — never even took it to a judge. So when men try to impress me with their material achievements (like the guy in the Lexus who made a big deal of showing it off and talking about it as if I friggin’ care!), it’s clear he just doesn’t get me. Any schmuck with $40K can buy a Lexus. SO? That doesn’t mean he’s smart, or smart with his money, or a person of integrity, or has the hero instinct, or possesses any talents that would turn me on.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 30th, 2011
11:18 am
disco:
LOL………Tax time is the biggest representative for lies when money is involved.
The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior
November 30th, 2011
11:19 am
As I stated earlier:
Some people have no sense of self, they use institutions, people, places, things – both tangible and intangible (money/power) – to, yes, validate themselves.
In the cosmic sense that some people measure their lives by the successes of others. Similarly, some people measure their lives by their perception of what is expected of them, by society, family, etc.
Validation from others shouldn’t be needed (IMO), it should be an internal mechanism (again, my opinion). But I (we) know people, male and female, that latch on institutions, people, and events in their lives to define them as a person.
As opposed to relying on their own definition of self to empower them.
Into the Light
November 30th, 2011
11:20 am
(opening the blog door and cautiously looking both ways before stepping in)
Good morning, all!!
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
11:21 am
Good post Dan and BTW hello!
disco
November 30th, 2011
11:21 am
blackfoote – it’s really funny when little kids are anticipating tax time. I overhead my friend’s 8 year old telling his sister he couldn’t wait for income taxes. that really tickled me.
The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior
November 30th, 2011
11:23 am
To all (Ms. Lady, Randy, Kym, Ms. Leggs, Mrs. Kimmie, and the soon-to-be Mrs. SC) – hello!!
And for those I neglected to mention my apologies.
Kym
November 30th, 2011
11:26 am
Hey there Dan the man!!
kimmie
November 30th, 2011
11:27 am
Dan – Your 11:19, I agree, that makes sense. Not putting one gender down, just telling like it is.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 30th, 2011
11:28 am
My hero’s from yesterday, the moving crew and Fulton Co. Sherifs. I want to shake each one hand for going against the grain and thumbing their nose at the bank for trying to forclosing on a 103 year old lady that’s been living in her house for fifty years.
Fion
November 30th, 2011
11:31 am
@lady
Going back and forth between work. Answer to your 10:56
Let start with in no way was my comment meant to be chauvinistic.
One the clearest facts that women use a validating measurement is childbirth. Women often say that they don’t feel complete or that their Womanhood is not full without this act. Why would a woman feel this way if there were no need to satisfy the void.
Why is it there? Why is there this need.
Kym
November 30th, 2011
11:32 am
@Blackfoote..I was just talking with coworkers about that..now the family member that took out that 2nd mortgage on her home..need they tail beat from here to hell and back.
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
11:32 am
give me a minute Fion to process that bc to a degree I still don’t agree with your example given but I see your point……#processing
Into the Light
November 30th, 2011
11:32 am
@BF: I saw that story! That is one spirited lady!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 30th, 2011
11:35 am
Kym:
That’s the root of her problems, a family member.
For Real
November 30th, 2011
11:35 am
What Blog Fam!
On topic: Here are two quotes from my Paw-Paw that I live by:
- “If a man’s confidence is wrapped in money he ain’t got no money.”
- “Boy! You can’t control puddy! Oh you kin do lots to it but you can’t control it.”
Validation should change over time due to ones maturity. When you are young your family validates you. Once you get your foundation and understand who you are then validation SHOULD come from within. Needing validation from others, the church or society is a bigg azz red flag. And that’s all I got to say about that.
Kym: News Break!!
http://news.yahoo.com/man-sues-former-hostages-says-broke-promise-190902970.html
Randyt (aka. no new t-shirts lately)
November 30th, 2011
11:36 am
Off topic…I’m wondering if Demi would be up to dating someone more age appropriate than she has in the past? I wonder if I…hmmm. “A man’s reach should always exceed his grasp or what is a heaven for?”.
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
11:38 am
Randy I would hope so. not judging her @ all but its plentyin her age range to keep it moving gracefully. good thought!
For Real
November 30th, 2011
11:38 am
I concur Black….. And Kimmie is right, I would like to be the first to break a bat on that family member’s back that put that lady in this position.
kimmie
November 30th, 2011
11:38 am
Random – The picture of the dude in his military gear on that Call of Duty game cover is HOT!
Fion
November 30th, 2011
11:39 am
@Kym
Outside of this realionship there are thousands of women trickin everyday. The chicks trickin are Mormon in your world?
The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior
November 30th, 2011
11:39 am
Messers Dreams, DK, and Meeelloo. Ms. Cel; again, my apologies.
@Kimmie:
It’s one of the things I don’t miss about being single; having to or feeling the need to, validate another adult.
I get tragedy, I *really* do. But you’re here (as am I), you made it through, and you can’t change what(ever) happened.
Some folks stay stuck in/at a point in time.
Randyt (aka. no new t-shirts lately)
November 30th, 2011
11:40 am
@ Lady…yep, she’s available, I’m available…seems natural to me
Kym
November 30th, 2011
11:41 am
What in the ham fat! Fion..dude..I am a mom and while I love my son and would kill a rock and dare a brick to breathe about him. I can assure you that was nothing but a move of God that he made it here. Cause he was not in my plans. Never once in my life have I felt that now my life is complete cause I have a kid. The boy is 6′1, wears boat buoys for shoes and has an appetite that would shame a plague of locust. Who in they right mind would seek that out? Matter of fact I could plead temp insantity some days just dealing with him. Seriously who are these women you get for your research.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 30th, 2011
11:42 am
Hi Light:
She sure had some spunk for her age, she’s 10 years older than my grandma. My grandma has that same spunk, stuff like that comes with golden age.
kimmie
November 30th, 2011
11:42 am
Randyt/Lady – Got an issue with the “age appropriate” thing. Only because if it had been the other way around, Demi hand been the younger one, it would have been perfectly “appropriate”. No one would have said a word about it!
SexyCool
November 30th, 2011
11:42 am
I saw the coverage on the 104 year old lady. Rickey Smiley sounds just like her when he is doing his old lady impression.
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
11:43 am
randy she is beautiful! my girl celebrity crush! lol I wanna have the hots in my 40s and 50s too! something inside of her that makes her graceful!
love me some demi!
kimmie
November 30th, 2011
11:44 am
Dan – I concur.
Randyt (aka. no new t-shirts lately)
November 30th, 2011
11:45 am
Actually Kimmie, was not Bruce Willis a lot older. So she has flipped in both directions. I’m suggesting that she might want to meet me in the middle.
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
11:46 am
yep kimmie!!!!!!!!!! not a word!
Fion
November 30th, 2011
11:46 am
@ Kym
ok then without hte birth of your son.. How would you validate yourself ?
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
11:47 am
Fion giving birth is not validation and going to the bathroomisn’t either. you lose me. those are natrual acts……….help me understand further. another example please
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
11:48 am
Stop it pleeeeeeeease
Yeah, my heart skipped a beat for that little old lady. I was proud to see those men not having the heart to remove her. I believe they said her daughter was 83. I’m mad too at the person that did the 2nd mortgage. We know she didn’t do it.
kimmie
November 30th, 2011
11:48 am
Randyt/Lady – She is quite beautiful. She seems like a cool person too.
disco
November 30th, 2011
11:49 am
whew… we are still beating the validation horse. can someone in here validate my blog parking ticket? jeez…
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 30th, 2011
11:49 am
SexyC:
When I heard her talking I was trying to figure where have I heard her before, Ricky Smiley sounds just like her.
Fion
November 30th, 2011
11:51 am
@Lady
There are a lot of women that don’t want to have kids, but they all dream of being married. Why?
Fion
November 30th, 2011
11:52 am
@ disco
don’t worry. I’ve got meetings all afternoon and just wanted to answer lady before I left.
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
11:52 am
pondering Fion…………hold on
Kym
November 30th, 2011
11:53 am
@Fion..I am valid honey cause I am me. In all my glory. I am a little bit crazy, a little bit country, and I have learn how to be solid as a rock when sh**t hits the fan and I have to tuck in roll. I validate me everyday just by staying true to who I am. My son is precious to me..but the boy ain’t my life. Now I am gonna stop talking to you cause I have started rhyming my blog post.
O/T @For Real..where in the sam hell do they find these joker? These new crooks..got some cajones(sp) I will give them that. Robber gonna sue the people he rob..foolishness I say.
cba
November 30th, 2011
11:53 am
BF, cosign on your 11:28
Randyt, JLo probably need to have a conversation with Demi LOL
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
11:53 am
hit me Fion msjenkins8@gmail.com after your meetings
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
11:55 am
I’m hungry. I did good yesterday. I didn’t eat dinner though. My kid asked for FF so I stopped on the way. I though had a couple pieces of fruit and a bag of Cracker Jacks. I haven’t had breakfast so I’m starving right about now.
Fion
November 30th, 2011
11:56 am
@ Kym
it really ain’t that serious. Just conversation. Don’t blow a gasket.
Be easy Holla.
kimmie
November 30th, 2011
12:00 pm
Someone is eating something here that smells really good! Smells like some grilled steak and onions!
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
12:01 pm
I going for lunch…I can’t make it too much longer..lol
disco
November 30th, 2011
12:01 pm
thanks fion (though I can’t front. I’m the same way sometimes when it comes to arguing moot points. drives my friends/family crazy – probably why I do it and probably why you are doing it).
kym – nothing surprises me when it comes to suing folks. heck, suing is one of the new hustles. why work hard when you can just aim for that one good settlement.
I’m hungry. if my co-workers happen to hear my stomach growling they might sign me up for some charity list.
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
12:01 pm
I am working through my luch drinking hot chocolate! smh
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
12:02 pm
lunch wow! #dead
Kym
November 30th, 2011
12:03 pm
Well I am on my way to subway..turkey day has messed me up..so I am on a salad kick..for now..well atleast until Christmas.
Into the Light
November 30th, 2011
12:09 pm
I see a can of Progresso in my very near future.
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
12:09 pm
share ITL please I am loving soup here lately!
For Real
November 30th, 2011
12:13 pm
FF = Frosty Flakes
FF = Fish & Fries
FF = Foote & Foots
FF = Fresh & Funky
FF = Fast & Free
FF = Facal & Faeces
FF = Faecula & Fênghwang
FF = Foetation & Foeticide
The people want to know Celisea.
Into the Light
November 30th, 2011
12:16 pm
You got it, Lady! Chicken and wild rice or turkey noodle?
smh @ For Real. You are so silly.
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
12:16 pm
For Real…you are a nut….lol I refresh the page and see all of the FF…lol
fast food
Into the Light
November 30th, 2011
12:17 pm
Oh! I thought it was french fries. LOL
I guess it’s a good thing For Real asked after all.
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
12:22 pm
ITL – Know I know “FF” could mean a number of things…lol
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
12:22 pm
Now I know
Into the Light
November 30th, 2011
12:28 pm
LOL. Yeah, all I had was “french fries”….my list wasn’t nearly as exhastive(ing) as For Real’s.
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
12:29 pm
What is the afternoon topic going to be?!? #curious lol
Into the Light
November 30th, 2011
12:31 pm
How about “People You Meet at the Mall”???? For Real, you go first.
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
12:34 pm
man sis I don’t frequent malls…….but when I am out I people watch…..but we discussed that right?!? lol For Real is a nut! LOL!
Into the Light
November 30th, 2011
12:41 pm
For Real met his girlfriend at the mall….
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 30th, 2011
12:41 pm
What a lady that don’t do malls, my kind of gal.
Sniffer!
November 30th, 2011
12:42 pm
Finger food
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
12:43 pm
no sir! I would rather be curled up! #realtalk I am not a shopper on any given day. If I need it I go in get it from Ross or Marshalls Keep it moving with a smile! lol
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 30th, 2011
12:48 pm
I went to Target midnight Friday morning to get a tv, my first time I ever did the Black Friday shopping. Store was to open at midnight and they had lines on both sides of the building, I thought when the doors open people go in. Shoot when 12 came around the line never moved at 12:15 I pulled out of the parking lot and reasoned with myself why I never done any Black Friday shopping.
The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior
November 30th, 2011
12:50 pm
We went to Walmart, Target and then to Best Buy (started at 9:30 and ended at 3:45), got most of the stuff for “the family”
Randyt (aka. no new t-shirts lately)
November 30th, 2011
12:51 pm
Sidebar with Leggs…according to the “Buzz” Adele is the top contender at the Grammys this year. I like her songwriting a lot.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 30th, 2011
12:55 pm
I felt like Charlie Brown on Halloween. At least he got a rock, I didn’t get shi…….LOL
Dan:
By 12:45 I was in my bed wondering what the hell was I thinking for thinking I could just walk up and go in the store and find the tv I wanted to buy.
Into the Light
November 30th, 2011
12:56 pm
I used to love the black Friday sales. My mom and I would go every year. But the earlier the stores started opening, the less fun it became (for me, anyway).
Lord Velonese
November 30th, 2011
12:56 pm
You can’t have it??????
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
12:56 pm
Blackfoote I was in the comforts of my bed read a novel…………I have never done BFS in my life…….I am a cyber shopper as well but atill have purchased anything. I am a last minute shopper so hey…….smh
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
12:57 pm
reading that is smh
Randyt (aka. no new t-shirts lately)
November 30th, 2011
12:57 pm
@ Blackfoote…did they ever find that lady that maced the crowd to get an Xbox or something? That person needs the kind of punishment they used to hand out in the country when i was a kid. WTF kind of a stunt was that?
The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior
November 30th, 2011
12:58 pm
@12:45 I was standing in the middle of Target talking to the manager about customer service, sales, and workflow.
By 1:30, he actually figured out it was a good idea to open more than 2 registers for 300 people….
Sniffer!
November 30th, 2011
12:59 pm
Do men do black Friday?
Really?
standing and lining in the q to buy household goods?
Hmmmmmmmm
Randyt (aka. no new t-shirts lately)
November 30th, 2011
12:59 pm
Maybe it was Pepper Spray I guess. Tear gas is no fun…got that t-shirt a few times.
Randyt (aka. no new t-shirts lately)
November 30th, 2011
1:00 pm
@ Sniffer (formerly known as…) yup. I have a few times but it is a pain in the azzz…and sometimes cold.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 30th, 2011
1:01 pm
Lady:
I’m like you, I figure out what I want to get and then it’s tunnel vision all the way through to the register.
SexyCool
November 30th, 2011
1:02 pm
BF – TheDude endured that madness…and somehow did end up with the 40″ for $257(?)
Oh…and hey Dan-son…how’s married life?
Leggs
November 30th, 2011
1:03 pm
Haven’t boughtt anything for myself in quite some time. Picked up 5 lovely blouses and a nice knit skirt….whatcha talking about now??
Into the Light
November 30th, 2011
1:03 pm
Speaking of nutcases on the loose, did y’all see the story about syringes and needles in clothes at a Bartow County Wal-Mart?
Leggs
November 30th, 2011
1:04 pm
Read on page 3 where you’re talking about “validation.” Let’s see if anything better is on on page 4.
Sniffer!
November 30th, 2011
1:04 pm
I saw Jlo pic at the beach with that 23 year old
Jlo needs intervention!
she got Major esteem issues or it’s a vaginal itch condition she got
She likes her v lubed all the time .. after a split she dont take time Think and refuel but proceeds to get it On
Hmmmmmm
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 30th, 2011
1:07 pm
Randyt:
I heard about that woman I think in Cali, yep somebody from the sport/gun aisle should have sprayed her ass back I wonder what she would have thought if that had happened to her.
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
1:08 pm
screaming @ Sniffer! too damn funny! I thought she was going bact to Puffy! I was wrong. LMBAO!
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
1:09 pm
Blackfoote that can’t find that fool makes no damn sense……….hope her bills are paid! smh
Randyt (aka. no new t-shirts lately)
November 30th, 2011
1:10 pm
OT…was in the “out of the ordinary” news yesterday that some lady was dating a tattoo artist. He was suppossed to do a nice, full back scene from “The Chronicles of Narnia” and apparently was pizzed at her and instead did a pile of “poo” with flies all over it .. the top fly is right up at her neckline. That is one “tramp stamp” vision that will be a turnoff for her next beau. Can you imagine looking down at that while…well you know.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 30th, 2011
1:10 pm
SexyC:
TheDude was lucky, I wanted that tv and I put in the smallest effort to get it. That’s why I didn’t get it……LOL
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
1:11 pm
meanth they not that
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
1:13 pm
It is time to pay bills!!!!! Where are all the men @?!? lol funny #endofthemonth #dead lol
The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior
November 30th, 2011
1:13 pm
@meeloo
Black friday is about electronics, lowest you’re gonna get all season
46″ LED HDTV – $500
Surround sound speakers,blu ray/dvd combo – $200
Xbox 360 + Kinect for $250
Them cheese sammiches paid off big buddy!!
Into the Light
November 30th, 2011
1:14 pm
@Randy: I saw that! He even got her to sign a release saying the design was “at the artist’s discretion.” You know what, though? Every person who has ever been cheated on smiled a little when they read that.
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
1:14 pm
back to C’s point nothing is free #digressing pay me no mind I am talking out loud smh
Sniffer!
November 30th, 2011
1:15 pm
Randyt?
how old were u when u last went?
Lady?
even her dancing/pranking on the dance floor when she sangs seems like she trying too hard to be It.
I don’t think she values herself that much
There must be abuse or some to that effect in her life.
And Demi…reading the twitter back and forth …is a real sore Cougar
That’s what u sign up for when u snag a much younger Wanted dude
Competetion!
SexyCool
November 30th, 2011
1:17 pm
That was it exactly. Luck…and he did put in a hella-effort. He started out with lawn chair and iPod in the BB line at 6p. Moved over to Target around 10p. Then only ended up with a television on a fluke. It appears that an older teen had come to the store with the family of one of his friends. TheDude says that when he made it to the section where the tv’s were, the teen had a television in a cart and appeared to be on the phone with his mother, pleading with her to “just come to the store and bring the money.” His mother must have declined his request. After about five minutes, the teen walked away from the cart, then stopped, turned around and told TheDude that he could have it if he wanted it.
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
1:18 pm
Sniffer! what is your twitter moniker sir?!?! hit me upi @ladylwj817 love me some twitter!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 30th, 2011
1:19 pm
LOL…….@Lady
You saying when the bills are due, we turn into magicians and do a disapearing trick.
Randyt (aka. no new t-shirts lately)
November 30th, 2011
1:19 pm
@ Meeeelllloooowww, I’d be willing to help console both JLo and Demi. It is a tough job but someone has to step up i guess.
Leggs
November 30th, 2011
1:19 pm
@Randyt ~ glad I went back to read page 4. Q100 was talking how Maroon 5 knocked Adele off her perch and is now #1. Who cares. Adele is going to win a plethora of awards in 2012!!! Her songwriting tells a story and that’s what a song should do. One of my least favorite records is Happy Anniversary by JoJo and Kay C (sp?)…that song is repetitive and extremely sickening. I heard one singer jokingly state he didn’t like Adele because he wished he had written the lyrics to “Someone Just Like You.” Artists need to get back to the lyrics…
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
1:20 pm
don’t be mean about Demi…….lol she will bounce back I have no love for Jlo though sorry
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
1:20 pm
make it rain Blackfoote YOU ARE THE MAN!!! & I amy let you validate me! just kidding LMBAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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November 30th, 2011
1:21 pm
Ever made a decision being the right thing to do but struggled doing it? Ever felt like doing it but wanting to take it back? If it’s the right thing to do, then why the feeling of blue?
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
1:21 pm
may! just may!
Ever felt like.......
November 30th, 2011
1:22 pm
Need help here
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
1:24 pm
what is the conflict Ever felt like…….
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 30th, 2011
1:24 pm
Wow that’s why I feel like Charlie Brown, that would never happen for me like that.
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
1:26 pm
screamin @ you LOL smh! i love that lil big head boy! lol
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
1:27 pm
Well Ever felt like as Randyt says been there done that….soooo many times. If you know for certain you did the right thing then you’ll feel better. Can you speak more specifically? Is there any give to reconsider or is it just one of those things that you should probably leave alone?
Randyt (aka. no new t-shirts lately)
November 30th, 2011
1:27 pm
@ Leggs re: “Her songwriting tells a story and that’s what a song should do.” RIGHT!!! 100% agree.
I listen to a lot different music genre, and one I really like is Rascal Flatts. May be too country for most here but their lyrics are so right on the feelings.
Into the Light
November 30th, 2011
1:27 pm
LOL @ the mental image of BF in that yellow and black shirt. C’mere, BF, kick this football. I’ll hold it for you…..
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
1:28 pm
dead ITL lol kick harder peanut!
SlimNu
November 30th, 2011
1:29 pm
Daaaaang, 5 pages already?! Hello all…what are we discussing now besideds Cougars and Pepper Spray?
Into the Light
November 30th, 2011
1:30 pm
Randy: I know a couple who used “Bless the Broken Road” as their wedding song. I love that song, even though I cry every time I hear it.
SlimNu
November 30th, 2011
1:31 pm
EFL – You sound like a depressed Dr. Seuss
Into the Light
November 30th, 2011
1:31 pm
LOL@Lady.
C’mon, BF…I’m waiting……
SexyCool
November 30th, 2011
1:31 pm
TheDude has effectively talked me out of going parasailing on our vacation next week. He says it would probably be better for me to do it next year AFTER I’ve taken swimming lessons. He thinks that me not being a great fan of height combined with my inability to swim makes parasailing not the best choice.
We are going to take the bike tour instead.
Randyt (aka. no new t-shirts lately)
November 30th, 2011
1:33 pm
@ ITL I was going into a relationship a few years ago when that song was big…and the relationship ended about the time “What Hurts the Most” came out. They were bookends to my relationship
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
1:33 pm
Blackfoote did a short Dr. Suess yesterday. Bet ya’ll missed it.
Into the Light
November 30th, 2011
1:33 pm
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
1:33 pm
Slim flag on the play for you! I am walking away for a moment lolololol silly
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
1:34 pm
Randyt – One thing I can say about you…you are quite resilient and seem to do well in the landing a lady department.
Into the Light
November 30th, 2011
1:34 pm
Don’t get me started on “What Hurts the Most” or “I’m Moving On”. Yeah…..
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
1:36 pm
“Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” ~ Dr. Suess for you Ever felt like…….
Into the Light
November 30th, 2011
1:37 pm
SC, TheDude is offering sage advice. I’m relieved that you are taking his suggestion.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 30th, 2011
1:38 pm
LOL
That validation door is swung wide open, some action is required and I’m not gonna handle it by being dormant. You woke a sleeping wolf I’ll just give a woof woof at you for now.
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
1:38 pm
I hear you Blackfoote! woof back!
Randyt (aka. no new t-shirts lately)
November 30th, 2011
1:39 pm
Ever Felt Like.......
November 30th, 2011
1:40 pm
Thank you Lady and Celisea
Leggs
November 30th, 2011
1:40 pm
If she knew he was pissed at he, all I can say is “Enter at your own risk,” or lay down on tattoo chair at your own risk.
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
1:40 pm
You are welcome!
SlimNu
November 30th, 2011
1:41 pm
C – I’ll have to go back and check that out because I did miss the Dr. Seuss short.
ITL – I will be sad with my dad and feel bad, bad, bad. Bad, sad, dad. The best dad I ever had, had, had made me feel bad, bad, bad. Was more than my dad but one of my best lads. Now my lad of a dad has made me sad.
Lady – To the corner I go, go, go. Flag on the play fa sho sho sho. Will come back and not do it no mo mo mo.
Okay, i’m done lol
i'm swiss™
November 30th, 2011
1:41 pm
You guys need to check out tigerdirect.com
You can get those deals on electronics from the comfort of your couch.
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
1:43 pm
LOL too funny Slim!
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
1:43 pm
You got that right Randyt
Blogging and working, doing my thang just when I hear my phone rang.
Got a client on my back asking me about the money stack.
I take a deep breathe and release a long sigh and let them know the limit is the sky
Feeling reassured that their money was safe they hung up the phone but not in my face
Celisea Suess
Sniffer!
November 30th, 2011
1:44 pm
No Lady!
I don’t twiddle twit
I read the twitter back and forth from news reports
I got none to tweet about
Email,including junk plus MIA is way too much and enough for me
Randyt (aka. no new t-shirts lately)
November 30th, 2011
1:44 pm
@ ITL…have your heard Rascal Flatts “Easy”. That one hits a nerve too. That group has a talent for hitting me right where I am.
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
1:44 pm
Slim – LOLOLOL…love your Suess. I’m just seeing after posting mine. I like yours better…lol
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
1:45 pm
We should have a Dr. Suess day….about love, life, relationships, situationships…the whole
Kym
November 30th, 2011
1:46 pm
@RandyT I take offense..I like country music..Trent Tomlinson has a quite a few songs spining on my ipod..along with Reba and Kenny Chesney.
As for Black Friday..From time to time I miss the crowds and stealing the last Barney toys out of folks buggies..aww the good old days. LOL!
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
1:47 pm
I should have known better Sniffer! my bad lol
SlimNu
November 30th, 2011
1:47 pm
C – I’m diggin the time you put in your rhyme and maybe even more so than I liked mine.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 30th, 2011
1:47 pm
Celisea:
Dr. Suess help me out I think I missed too……LOL
Sniffer!
November 30th, 2011
1:47 pm
Cel?
Ur 1:45 is a diss to me what Dr Suess?
Uall know I’m here for u
Kym
November 30th, 2011
1:47 pm
Now I am all about shopping on the Q baby..Easy Pay..easy Pay!! I even have the app.
Randyt (aka. no new t-shirts lately)
November 30th, 2011
1:48 pm
Great Kym..I do apologize. Try on Rascal flatts if you like lyrics. And two of my favorite songs from the last 12 years are by husband and wife…”Live Like Your Dying” by Tim McGraw, and “Breathe” by Faith Hill.
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
1:49 pm
LOL…Slim I’m digging that
Blackfoote you didn’t do on purpose? Go back and read. I was skimming and thought awwww shucks look at Blackfoote rhyming. Maybe it’s just the Suess in you…lol
Mmeello – You should post the little IJoke you sent me. That was cute. Clean and and cute.
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
1:51 pm
C’mon MMeello – It will be fun. Folks can Suess about real life stuff….say “he beat me here, he beat me there, he beat me yon and everywhere” just saying…not THAT per se but folks can get some stuff off their chest.
SexyCool
November 30th, 2011
1:53 pm
Life is highway…I’m gonna ride it…all night long…
Kym
November 30th, 2011
1:55 pm
@RandyT ohh I know Rascal Flatts..”Me and My Gang”(movie Cars)ohh I forgot I have Sugarland too and Trace Adkins(HonkyTonk Badonkadonk, and U gonna miss this–I think that is song..) I love his voice.
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
1:57 pm
I had a man just yesterday he sent me packing on my way. I took the bus the train the boat, dern the dumb boat wouldn’t float. I took a trail to higher ground and there a man, new love I found. He made me dinner and washed my back and after that we hit the sack
Leggs
November 30th, 2011
2:01 pm
@Randyt ~ I love Rascal Flatts. Was watching Glee with the tall crumb snatcher last night when their opening number was a song by Melissa Ethridge. Was so surprised when she started singing along with me. I looked at her and she said “come on mommy, we know more white music than black music!” It was funny yet true.
Randyt (aka. no new t-shirts lately)
November 30th, 2011
2:01 pm
I stand corrected…there are Rascal Flatts followers on the blog. So many of their songs hit me…I guess deep down we all have the same experiences, and just think we are the only ones.
Randyt (aka. no new t-shirts lately)
November 30th, 2011
2:01 pm
I stand corrected…there are Rascal Flatts followers on the blog. So many of their songs hit me…I guess deep down we all have the same experiences, and just think we are the only ones.
Into the Light
November 30th, 2011
2:02 pm
@Randy: “Easy” is a good one. I look back at times I’ve done that, and thought, “Did my laugh sound as fake as I think it did? Did my smile seem like I was trying too hard or was it just me?” but I would’ve rather died than let him think he had me down.
@Slim Seuss: LOVE IT!! Hop on Pop and Bad, Sad, Dad will be offered in a boxed set from Amazon. LOL
Randyt (aka. no new t-shirts lately)
November 30th, 2011
2:05 pm
Thats great Leggs. That show has some great moments. I loved it and occasionally pull up the Youtube when Gwenneth Paltrow did Stevie Nicks “Landslide”. I don’t have a clue what the words mean, but I know my story and almost every divorcee’s story is in there in the lines somehow.
Randyt (aka. no new t-shirts lately)
November 30th, 2011
2:06 pm
@ITL…’got that t-shirt too’.
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
2:06 pm
No Dr. Suess? Boo hoo shame shame on you(s)…lol
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
2:08 pm
Ya’ll heard me talking about doing rhymes and making light and passing time. Ya’ll went right with singing tracks…Melissa Ethridge and Raschal Flatts. That’s okay I’m rhyming right on making tracks for my songs.
Kym
November 30th, 2011
2:09 pm
@RandyT..I am gonna need you to find some happy country music..Might I recommend Shania Twain or so Carrie Underwood..wait..never mind..these lyrics are more my version of happy..
Right now he’s probably slow dancing
With a bleached-blond tramp
And she’s probably getting frisky
Right now, he’s probably buying
Her some fruity little drink
‘Cause she can’t shoot whiskey
Right now, he’s probably up behind her
With a pool stick
Showing her how to shoot a combo
And he don’t know
I dug my key into the side
Of his pretty little souped-up 4 wheel drive
Carved my name into his leather seat
I took a Louisville slugger to both head lights
Slashed a hole in all 4 tires
And maybe next time he’ll think before he cheats
Randyt (aka. no new t-shirts lately)
November 30th, 2011
2:10 pm
@ ITL…”…how hard it is to make it look so easy”
Yup…been there done that…
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
2:11 pm
So now I’m done with my rhymes, it seems I’m almost out of time. I got a meeting with the man, the man who thinks he can can can. I can’t stand him, he makes me ill I’ll be alright it’s just a thrill.
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
2:11 pm
Whew…I crack me up…lol
Randyt (aka. no new t-shirts lately)
November 30th, 2011
2:11 pm
@ Kym…I love that song!!!! I might have sprayed on some of that bathroom Polo myself a time of two
Into the Light
November 30th, 2011
2:13 pm
LOL@Kym. I thought about that song the day we were talking about bathroom attendants
“Right now…he’s probably dabbin’ on 3 dollars worth of that bathroom Polo….but he don’t know….”
That line cracks me up!!
Into the Light
November 30th, 2011
2:14 pm
(shaking Randy)
Get out of my head!!!
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
2:14 pm
what’s poppin’ now good MIA folks?!?
Kym
November 30th, 2011
2:14 pm
@RandyT LOLOL!!! Bless your heart..Polo always smelled like weed to me.
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
2:15 pm
One more time before I go I like the language I like the flow….
What’s up with my eye I’ve wiped all day, the itching the running the itching away. Guess I’ll call doc, get him on the phone and make a quick run before I head home
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
2:16 pm
“and wiping away” guess I’m in rhyme overkill
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 30th, 2011
2:16 pm
If I didn’t have a heart, my life would be torn apart. I’m working everyday trying to fix, with all this BS in the way I resist. People tell me it will all be good, I say ok and hope that it should. I play for fun and have no grief, I live a good life without any beef. Well for now I must be gone, back under the stairs to grab my bone. I wish you well from my happy little home, if anyone needs me just ring my phone.
Randyt (aka. no new t-shirts lately)
November 30th, 2011
2:17 pm
I don’t even like Polo (it enters the room before I do), but sometimes in a crisis one does what one has to do
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
2:17 pm
O_o okay Blackfoote lol
Into the Light
November 30th, 2011
2:18 pm
Well for now I must be gone, back under the stairs to grab my bone
Kym
November 30th, 2011
2:19 pm
Ohh I loves me a good cuss out song..I also like Gretchen Wilson too..
disco
November 30th, 2011
2:19 pm
randy – oh but I gets my country music on. even have some on my ipod. I also trip folks out a bit when I break out my aerosmith.
kym – colt ford’s mr. goodtime was my country jam for a minute. and I can always fall back on the “old” Leanne rhimes.
Sniffer!
November 30th, 2011
2:19 pm
How many strong men in here do cold showers? like me?
Into the Light
November 30th, 2011
2:19 pm
That line is so funny to me. I can just picture the bathroom attendant monitoring how much Polo he’s putting on, making sure he doesn’t exceed the $3 mark.
Oh, and the “white-trash Shania karaoke”….that makes me giggle, too.
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
2:20 pm
Yaaaaah, Blackfoote.
I knew you could do my brother the Suess. Didn’t leave me hanging or leaving the coop. While others are igging and tracking ’bout tracks, I ‘preciate the rhyme and having my back!
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
2:20 pm
riiiggghhhtttt ITL! lol
Kym
November 30th, 2011
2:20 pm
@ITL..yeah I went there too..grab your bone..ohhhhk
SlimNu
November 30th, 2011
2:21 pm
ITL – Every time I go home I get the great opportunity to read and read and RE-READ all those books to my 2 year old niece. lol
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
2:21 pm
Reprint:
I knew you could do it, my brother the Suess. Didn’t leave me hanging or leaving the coop. While others are igging and talking ’bout tracks, I ‘preciate the rhyme and having my back!
Corrections
Into the Light
November 30th, 2011
2:21 pm
Aw, Celisea, don’t fret
this day for the rhyming is not over yet
there are far more rhymes to be said and made
before end of day goodbyes are bade….
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
2:22 pm
Yaaaah ITL…
Randyt (aka. no new t-shirts lately)
November 30th, 2011
2:22 pm
@ disco…one of my favorite songs is “I Don’t Want to Close My eyes” by Aerosmith. If I remember correctly it is one of the few by Aerosmith that Steven Tyler did not write, but the lyrics of it hit a nerve. Great song.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 30th, 2011
2:24 pm
Light:
That wasn’t meant to come out that way. My doggie bone, the kind to sharpen the fangs with…….LOL
Into the Light
November 30th, 2011
2:24 pm
Awww, Slim! Isn’t that the BEST?? I’m always checking out the Kohl’s Cares for Kids books and stuffed animals for the Misters 1 and 2 and Princess 1.0
Lady~
November 30th, 2011
2:25 pm
Roses are red, violets are blue,
Call it what you want to, but I need to be with you.
Into the Light
November 30th, 2011
2:25 pm
If you say so, BF…..
disco
November 30th, 2011
2:25 pm
randy – aerosmith’s greatest hits is some good driving music. and I bought a “tequila makes my clothes fall off” tshirt in Nashville once. I thought the shirt was cute – didn’t know it was a country song at the time. i also like that dido chick. y’all going make me play my “white” playlist on the drive home today. yeah – that’s what I call it.
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
2:28 pm
Purple Reign Purple Reign where are you, we need a rhyme or two from you???
Kym
November 30th, 2011
2:30 pm
Pandora helps me get my country fix..
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 30th, 2011
2:32 pm
Roses are red and
Violets are blue
I smiled at them
When I thought of you
Randyt (aka. no new t-shirts lately)
November 30th, 2011
2:34 pm
A really funny country music song for anyone who has ever done anything really stupid because of a woman, is by Dierks Bentley called, “What was I Thinkin”. First time I ever listened to it was at church. Andy Stanley was doing a series onn making good decisions and before the sermon, a group came out and sang this song. Funny but hits home.
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
2:35 pm
Fangs and pangs are the name of the game. Retract them please or you’ll leave her maimed.
Leggs
November 30th, 2011
2:36 pm
@BF ~ that was cute…not sure if you want to keep “back under the stirs to grab my bone…” Ummmm, the visual is not nice (LOLOLOL)
Lord Velonese
November 30th, 2011
2:37 pm
“Do you think men today use wealth to attract women”
I try my best to hide it.
“Glances at the divorce rate”
“Glances at the Gianormous list of men I know cleaned out”
“Glances at the divorce rate in Aviation”
Conclusion: I’d rather be a Lonely woe is me than just another Statistic. As some men ruin it for other men, ladies ruin it for other ladies and that’s the truth.
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
2:37 pm
Blackfoote – What are you doing out sporting your fangs? Haven’t you been banished under the steps to remain?
Kym
November 30th, 2011
2:38 pm
I’ll tell you who I don’t like..Taylor Swift..it’s too bubble gum for me.
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
2:38 pm
Hey Lord V, you’re just in time, stop your whimpering and give us a rhyme.
disco
November 30th, 2011
2:39 pm
I was at a party once hosted by some Hispanic friends. they were playing something that I did not understand the words to but you could tell they were saying “don’t stop, get it get it”. it was live. had a real good time that night.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 30th, 2011
2:39 pm
LOL
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 30th, 2011
2:41 pm
Leggs:
I already explained that……..LOL
Leggs
November 30th, 2011
2:41 pm
@disco ~ I quoted “Dido” yesterday….she has a haunting voice on some of her songs. White Flag got into my bones.
The one song that truly gets into every fiber of my being is Angel by Sarah McLachlin. It’s a sad, yet beautifully sung song.
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
2:43 pm
And Lord V…..Make it fun and make it light, we want refreshing and sexy, we want delight
No gloom, no sadness no same ole “blahs.” Now go ahead give it a try and reach for the stars.
Leggs
November 30th, 2011
2:45 pm
@BF ~ going backwards to read things after I’ve posted, I now see that.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 30th, 2011
2:46 pm
Celisea:
You’re doing great, keep it going I got 15 minutes left.
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
2:49 pm
I actually was going to stop but I can’t can’t cause I’m just hot!!
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
2:50 pm
Blackfoote – LOLOLOL…I’m sure somebody is saying wth?
Mike P
November 30th, 2011
2:52 pm
Hey Y’all
I haven’t online since this morning and I am not sure if anyone make this post; however, I would like to comment on Fion’s earlier post…
EVERYONE, MALE AND FEMALE… ABSOLUTELY need a Man to validate them…
its the truth, and it’s life, so please do not allow your masculine or feminine ego to be hurt by this fact.
The man (the father figure in your life) needs to validates you as a man or as a woman as you mature into an adult; if those needs aren’t met, the you will most likely spend a great deal of your young adult life (prime child-rearing and married years). That’s why its so important for the man to be available in the life of the child and at the head of the household… no amount of “so-called modern” socialization is gonna change this basic fact.
Conversely everyone needs the warm, protection, and milk from their mothers as well as the love and attention from their parents throughout their childhood.
We all have to remember that no one, absolutely no one comes here on this planet alone, nor can make it all on their own; not even Jesus could have done that.
disco
November 30th, 2011
2:54 pm
celisea – don’t let folks disrupt your flow. you are on a roll so go girl go. okay I’m done. some folks are poets but I’m not one.
Leggs
November 30th, 2011
2:56 pm
@disco ~ I’m not even going to try my hand…I’m too corny for all that baloney (lol)…
Randyt (aka. no new t-shirts lately)
November 30th, 2011
2:56 pm
@ disco…one night a lady i was dating took me to a Mexican restaurant that had a Mariachi band. I saw her whisper in the band leader’s ear and the whole group came over and played (first let me say that I am a Vol)…”ROCKY TOP”. They were awesome. It was hilarious. You never know.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 30th, 2011
3:00 pm
I’m here all alone, where the beautiful roam just kicking it to past the day. I checked out this girl that made my head swirl strutting her stuff by the bay. If all goes well I’ll make my move, to see if anything that I’m her groove. Looks to me I’m out of time check back tomorrow for more petty ryhmes.
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
3:01 pm
disco I like it I like your rhyme, right in the moment and just the time.
C’mon Leggs you got it in you, no such thing as “no rhyming” in you
Ut uh ya’ll…I don’t think I can stop. Don’t tell me I’m rhyming til I quit the clock???
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
3:02 pm
Okay…for real…got a meeting at 3:00
Mike P
November 30th, 2011
3:05 pm
**oops major typos**
should have read **then you will most likely spend a great deal of your young adult life (prime child-rearing and marrying years) being too immature for an adult.**
**Conversely everyone needs the warmth, protection, and breast-milk from their mothers during infancy, as well as the love and attention from their parents throughout the childhood years.**
Leggs
November 30th, 2011
3:07 pm
@Celisea ~ where did disco rhyme (lol)????
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 30th, 2011
3:07 pm
Leggs:
You got it, now flaunt it.
disco
November 30th, 2011
3:09 pm
leggs – I know I’m no lyrical superstar or nothing but dang….. can I get credit for trying?
Lord Velonese
November 30th, 2011
3:10 pm
I’m not whining stating the facts.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 30th, 2011
3:10 pm
disco:
You got too, go ahead and flaunt it.
Leggs
November 30th, 2011
3:12 pm
Nevamind, I see her first sentence.
Lil ole me, biting my nails
Waiting for this ship to sail
Out of the corner of my eye
I spot this apple pie
I rush to eat it whole
Now I’m sitting in the corner swoll….
I’m so stuffed that’s all that’s on my mind.
Into the Light
November 30th, 2011
3:14 pm
LOL@Randy. I love mariachi bands. We were in Ensenda once, and the bandleader came over and asked if we’d like a song. All I could think of was “La Cucaracha”….I’m sure he was thinking “Gee, thanks, stupid gringo lady….no one EVER asks for that!”
Leggs
November 30th, 2011
3:15 pm
Re-reading that made me laugh…
Leggs
November 30th, 2011
3:16 pm
Pitiful but funny….
Into the Light
November 30th, 2011
3:16 pm
Bravo, Leggs, you are quite the poet
All this time and I didn’t know it!
You definitely have the capacity for rhyme
Can you make one almost any time?
disco
November 30th, 2011
3:17 pm
ITL – now that was hilarious. la cucaracha. for real? oh that’s awful. did they play it?
blackfoote – that second one was purely by chance. go me.
Into the Light
November 30th, 2011
3:17 pm
(all of a sudden I’m thinking: “Say….I like green eggs and ham. I do, I do, Sam I Am!”)
Into the Light
November 30th, 2011
3:19 pm
@disco: They did, but I noticed my uncle rolling his eyes and slipping them a bit more money.
Sniffer!
November 30th, 2011
3:21 pm
All your songs are by Swiss singers, why?
No Wacka Flacka,no Gucci or Wayne…
If I knew the verse in Round of Applause,I wld have dropped it..
imagine that song when u having fun at the strip
and they going low
boo boo boo boo
Bump bump bump bump
Round of Applause!!!
Leggs
November 30th, 2011
3:26 pm
Because we were talking about music. Wacka Flacka, Gucci Mane and Lil Wayne doesn’t necessarily have really tight lyrics….
Leggs
November 30th, 2011
3:29 pm
No, no I can’t ITL
But I’ll try, just for you
Now Grasshopper, hear me good
I’m telling you to stay out of the hood
All your smiles, all your jiggle
Will soon have a Pimp banking on that wiggle…
Sniffer!
November 30th, 2011
3:29 pm
what’s ur definition of tight’ music
they also ryhme which ,it appears ,is what ur songs on here are dwelling on
disco
November 30th, 2011
3:31 pm
leggs – I agree with you on but I must say I’m feeling little wayne on this one “I ain’t never ran from a — and I damned sho ain’t bout to pick today to start running”.
Into the Light
November 30th, 2011
3:36 pm
Dear Leggs, that was a wonderful rhyme
It made me giggle, it was so sublime
Please, Leggs, write another verse
You can do it, no need to rehearse!
Randyt (aka. no new t-shirts lately)
November 30th, 2011
3:38 pm
LOL @ ITL…that’s funny. On a side note, what is the betting line on the SEC championship. I admiot I did not take the Dawgs seriously until the last few weeks, but the way they took apart Tech and ?Auburn has made me wonder if you have a chance afterall. Altough I have to tell you, LSU is really good, probably the most balanced LSU team I’ve seen.
Sniffer!
November 30th, 2011
3:39 pm
@People..how do u delete an app from the phone
@Disco., u go to strip joints over there in NC?
Leggs
November 30th, 2011
3:40 pm
@disco ~ there is a slow song that Lil Wayne sings that I really like….Had a Love??? I think that’s the name of it.
Into the Light
November 30th, 2011
3:42 pm
Randy – the last time I checked it was LSWho by 13. I’m going to respectfully disagree with your comment re: the balance of their team. As we saw in their game with Bama, the defense if top notch but their offense and quarterbacks, welll…….
The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior
November 30th, 2011
3:43 pm
Meetings…
I disagree with Mike P that anyone *needs* validation outside themselves.
That would mean I care what “people” think. So much so, in fact, that I am willing to change something about myself.
Nope, neh, no.
Validation, in the way you described it (in your long post pg7), is not validation so much as it is acknowledgement. And as stated, I want acknowledgement from a select few, but I don’t need it.
#strengthofcharacter
For Real
November 30th, 2011
3:43 pm
Love Poem, by boo-virus
roses are red, violets are blue. She drove off the road while putting on lipstick in the rearview mirror and smashed into ditch and her car caught on fire and blew up and they took her to the hospital where she later died from choking on her lipstick.
disco
November 30th, 2011
3:44 pm
leggs – I admit I’m way way late on the hip hop/rap scene. kids keep you current and when my left he took all the “pop knowledge” with him. I might pick up a tiny bit of scoop when visiting friends with teens but I’m in the dark. the last time i went home I felt like the village idiot at the club. the “jam” would come on and folks would hop up to dance and I didn’t even know what the song was. embarrassing I tell you.
Into the Light
November 30th, 2011
3:44 pm
(hit submit too quickly)
LSU is, indeed, very good but I think we have a chance. But hey, win or lose, I’m proud of the Dawgs and what they’ve accomplished this year!
Randyt (aka. no new t-shirts lately)
November 30th, 2011
3:45 pm
ITL…yeah John Chavis the DC from UT has earned every penny they paid him after Kiffin sent him away. I think what i am saying is that they aren’t relying on Les Miles trickery this year to pull games out of their azzz…just running into, through, and over the opponents.
Kym
November 30th, 2011
3:45 pm
@Leggs..How to Love..
Kym
November 30th, 2011
3:46 pm
@For Real..you are one twisted dude! Twisted I say!!
Into the Light
November 30th, 2011
3:47 pm
That’s true, Randy, but darn that Hat, he does seem to find a way to win more often than not.
SexyCool
November 30th, 2011
3:47 pm
A New York woman is being scrutinized and praised after people learned that she used a dating website to procure $1,200 a month in free meals.
According to Business Insider, 23-year-old Jessica Sporty was deep in debt. Sporty found it difficult to live on her $45,000 annual salary after spending nearly $1,500 a month in rent, paying her credit card bill, and buying food. So she signed up for Match.com and was quickly going on five dates a week. Sporty even created a spreadsheet with detailed information on each of her dates, limiting each guy to a maximum of five. Sporty was taken to high-end New York restaurants, and one of her dates even bought her a $200 bottle of champagne. The response on social media has people divided. Business Insider even changed her name to protect her identity in the original story, because she was receiving so much negative attention. One woman tweeted, “gotta give it to her,” but others are saying it’s “the most annoying thing I have ever read.” Most men have responded with anger, admitting that what Sporty did is “their biggest fear.” But scared men, there’s no need to be worried. Sporty is off the market. She’s currently in a relationship and no longer on the dating website. Single and ready to mingle? According to a survey on AreYouInterested.com, New York City ranks as the No. 1 online and mobile dating city in the country.
Shelly
November 30th, 2011
3:48 pm
roses are red
violets are purple
i love my boo for real
and he is so sweet.
he lets me chase him
and catch him
and kiss him
and @*$& him
Randyt (aka. no new t-shirts lately)
November 30th, 2011
3:51 pm
It will be an interesting game. If Murray is protected by your OL then maybe. If they can get to Murray you are hosed, but if you can stay with them for 45 minutes, then a break or two and you can take it home.
Kym
November 30th, 2011
3:52 pm
@SC..awww why didn’t you save that one for tomorrow…I got to go home @ 4…
For Real
November 30th, 2011
3:53 pm
Heyyyyyy…. see that’s why people dont share on this blog.
Zippppppppppp For Real now looking for ITL to validate him.
Randyt (aka. no new t-shirts lately)
November 30th, 2011
3:53 pm
@ SC…that is funny.
disco
November 30th, 2011
3:55 pm
SCool – I’m in the group that give the girl credit. you can call her what you want but you obviously couldn’t call her hungry – at least not on those 5 nights a week.
Into the Light
November 30th, 2011
3:55 pm
LOL@For Real.
Leggs
November 30th, 2011
3:56 pm
Thanks, Kym….How to Love. I wish he would make more music like that.
SlimNu
November 30th, 2011
3:56 pm
For Real – Your rhyme reminds me of the rhymes Homie the Clown would say.
Kym
November 30th, 2011
3:59 pm
@Disco..I am with you..she wasn’t missing any meals.
Leggs
November 30th, 2011
4:01 pm
Guess it would look bad for her to ask for the $200 instead of splurging it on Champagne. Champagne doesn’t impress me.
For Real
November 30th, 2011
4:01 pm
Slim, by boo-virus
Slim make me fall up
Slim make me fall down
Slim make me fall
Get up and tie yo dayum shoes you would stop all that dayum falling and buy some fat shoe strings they stay tied longer.
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
4:04 pm
Sorry…just back…I’m LOVING all the poems
SlimNu
November 30th, 2011
4:06 pm
Mr. Fang, Mr. Fang
You’re the guy with the biggest wang
Always making all the girls cry
Cuz after they play they wonder why
why oh why did I ride that thang of Mr. Fang with the biggest wang
Now my private cubby hole will never be the same
Into the Light
November 30th, 2011
4:07 pm
We’ll see, Randy! Like a friend of mine is fond of saying, “Teams are rarely as good as they look on their best day, nor as bad as they look on their worst day. The truth is usually somewhere in the middle.”
kimmie
November 30th, 2011
4:10 pm
You guys are funny!
Dang, I can’t wait to get home so my boo can validate me!!
Validate! Validate!
All Night Long!!!
LSU is going to get validated by UGA!!!
disco
November 30th, 2011
4:15 pm
hush kimmie – but if that’s validation we approached the topic the wrong way. if that’s validation a lot of folks might want to revise their opinions.
kimmie
November 30th, 2011
4:16 pm
disco – LOL!! I’m so confused!!
Leggs
November 30th, 2011
4:17 pm
He’s validating her cush cush is ready for the push push….
Blackfoote, Blackfoote, hurry scoot over Ima coming to join ya…
Sniffer!
November 30th, 2011
4:18 pm
Coz only ur boo has the valodometer Kimmie!
U too Slim…
shame on Leggs friend
She thinks her cootie is da bomb
But the guys think Not coz it bombs
kimmie
November 30th, 2011
4:20 pm
You validatin
I’m salivatin
Don’t knock me for participatin!
Into the Light
November 30th, 2011
4:21 pm
LOL@Kimmie
How ’bout them DAWGS!!!
disco
November 30th, 2011
4:21 pm
remember warren g’s regulators. we now have to scope out the “validators”.
Celisea
November 30th, 2011
4:21 pm
Awwww sookie sookie naw….I knew all ya’ll had poems in ya. Mmm hmmm, tryna make me think it was just the kid in me.
kimmie
November 30th, 2011
4:23 pm
Light – I don’t want to jinx them by using the U word!!! You know, that 5-letter word ending in T!!!
Into the Light
November 30th, 2011
4:25 pm
Dang!! All this validatin’
But I ain’t hatin’
On folks that are in love
Because I know the One above
Has the perfect boo in mind for me.
Sniffer!
November 30th, 2011
4:26 pm
and to piggy bank on that ladies
how will u know ur stuff stank unless some man(men) takes a bite and either says hmmmm,nice
Or says shayyyt,,it’s funky!!!
So Fion was right
We validate U!
SlimNu
November 30th, 2011
4:30 pm
Oh the perfect boo for me,
Where are thou thee?
Is he where I cannot presently see?
Or is he simply fleeing me?
Scared him with this desperate energy?
Because thy biological clock ticks too loudly?
Guess alone is what it’ll have to be….just me
lol
Leggs
November 30th, 2011
4:30 pm
@Sniffer ~ that’s where you’re wrong…”most” of know when our stuff ain’t fresh….never would want a man to validate that.
kimmie
November 30th, 2011
4:30 pm
Exiled – Stank folk can smell their own stank, until they become immune to the stench!LOL!! You don’t need anybody else to validate your funk!
For Real
November 30th, 2011
4:31 pm
Zippppppppppppppppppppppppppppp!!!!!! Kimmie gets some validation
Zippppppppppppppppppppppppppppp!!!!!! Slim gets some validation
Zippppppppppppppppppppppppppppp!!!!!! Celisea gets some validation
Zippppppppppppppppppppppppppppp!!!!!! Move Mellllooo.o I said validation not bull nutsation
Zippppppppppppppppppppppppppppp!!!!!! ITL gets some validation
Zippppppppppppppppppppppppppppp!!!!!! Kym gets some validation
Zippppppppppppppppppppppppppppp!!!!!! Leggs gets some validation
For Real now taking off his shirt and screaming who wants to validate with Hollywood Cole!
SlimNu
November 30th, 2011
4:31 pm
Leggs – Ain’t dat da truth…If a chick lets you still go there when she ain’t right, she’s only hoping you’ll be too h0rny to notice
Into the Light
November 30th, 2011
4:34 pm
Dang, For Real… you sure you brought enough for the class to share???
Sniffer!
November 30th, 2011
4:34 pm
so how come it always stank if they know already
and besides if u don’t get a compliment or he dont come for seconds,thirds how u gonna know u rock good?
u need some dude to tell u,’baby u hit the spot last nite’ or some to that effect..
Yes ladies
disco
November 30th, 2011
4:35 pm
slim nu – she’s not hopeful, she’s nasty.
for real – you nasty boy.
Leggs
November 30th, 2011
4:37 pm
u need some dude to tell u,’baby u hit the spot last nite’ or some to that effect..
Yes ladies = NO. You still missing the point. We don’t need to ask him “baby, did I make your toes curl” or for him to ask the same of us. We validated ourselves in knowing we are good at our trade. As long as I believe it, I can put it down for you where you will come back for seconds…that’s a form of validation I can recognize….don’t need no words.
Into the Light
November 30th, 2011
4:37 pm
Well, Exiled, if you woulda stopped once you saw the little tree air freshener she had hanging from her zipper you coulda saved yourself some pain. Wait….is that why you won’t….????
Into the Light
November 30th, 2011
4:40 pm
Um, Leggs….may I suggest you use a word besides “trade”??? LOL
Leggs
November 30th, 2011
4:40 pm
That is funny, ITL….
SlimNu
November 30th, 2011
4:40 pm
Sniff – Some folks have hormonal imbalance…or a bacterial infection where their pH is off balance. Too many improper bacteria in her ‘environment’.
Leggs
November 30th, 2011
4:41 pm
Yeah, I know “trade” didn’t sound right.
Ok, we know when we have “SKILLZ”….(is that better)?
kimmie
November 30th, 2011
4:41 pm
so how come it always stank if they know already
Exiled aka Sniffer Of All Things Funky – You don’t know when you not too fresh?
It’s stink folk walking around every day, over the entire world. We’ve talked about them on here.
And every person that does the do is not “Downey Fresh” every time.
Also, can be fresh as a daisy, but that doesn’t mean you can rock good!
Per today’s topic, if a lady comes back for seconds, how does he know it’s not just because he’s got money? She might have to hold her breath but feel his bank account is worth it! Wouldn’t be for me, but just sayin!
Sniffer!
November 30th, 2011
4:42 pm
Belief don’t mean it’s the truf
U said it urself yesterday
Ur friend thinks she hot but All the guys know she bombs coz they have validated it and know its stank
Leggs!! Come on now!
Leggs
November 30th, 2011
4:44 pm
@Sniffer ~ I’m saying if I don’t “believe” in my skillz I can’t execute.
Same as any other job. If you don’t project that you know what you’re doing, you will soon get the pink slip.
You have to first believe before you go further….
SlimNu
November 30th, 2011
4:44 pm
Sniffer – Don’t get it twisted, yalls ballz be off the wallz wit dat stanky stank sometimes lol
Leggs
November 30th, 2011
4:45 pm
Stank and having lost elasticity of the vaginal walls is not the same thing…..it can be, but that’s not the context in which the statement was made.
Sniffer!
November 30th, 2011
4:45 pm
Kimmie
If a dude just humps,nuts,picks up their pants and says good nite boo,No compliment no flattery some is up
If dude rocks it rocks it rocks it All nite
Ur stuff is good
Even if he don’t compliment much
Well ladies I said it,
if there is no encore
U stank or ur performance ain’t All that!
SlimNu
November 30th, 2011
4:47 pm
Well Sniffer, if there isn’t an encore, couldn’t that very well mean you got it right the first time and no do-over is needed? It’s kinda hard to fly in a hot air balloon when it’s depleted
kimmie
November 30th, 2011
4:48 pm
Sometimes its a cultural thing, the stank. The different foods people eat. So to them & their own people, they don’t stink.
Lots of reasons having noting to do with bad odor can be why someone doesn’t want to come back for seconds.
Sometimes a one-night stand is just that – one night. Could be very memorable and magical, but still one.
Sniffer!
November 30th, 2011
4:50 pm
But belief without validation is none
Empty words !
If ur neighbors don’t say none good about u
Well well
See ladies the taste of the puddy is in the what?
U say it..
Leggs
November 30th, 2011
4:51 pm
@Sniffer, you don’t always get compliments/flattery after doing the do….sometimes a slap on the buttocks while you’re walking into the bathrooms says it all (lol)…
kimmie
November 30th, 2011
4:51 pm
Exiled – It could be him too, lacking. If he had performance issues he may be too embarrassed to try again.
You must be bored at work, cause really this is a moot conversation, but I’m playing along!LOL!!!
Leggs
November 30th, 2011
4:54 pm
@kimmie ~ come on now, you know Sniffer never thinks the man is at fault..
kimmie
November 30th, 2011
4:55 pm
Leggs – If some only knew though!
Leggs
November 30th, 2011
4:56 pm
@Randyt ~ do you believe you can hear lust/longing in a phone call when the person is trying to act like they’re not lusting after you (LOLOL)? Do you believe you can see it in their eyes when they thinking they’re acting all nonchalant. I’m cracking up….
Leggs
November 30th, 2011
4:57 pm
I know, kimmie, believe you me, I know.
kimmie
November 30th, 2011
4:58 pm
It’s been fun kids, but gotta run!
Be easy!
?!$?
November 30th, 2011
8:03 pm
……..open dat doe naw……..day gooooooooooone!!!!!!!!!!
Shoe and Tell
November 30th, 2011
10:27 pm
I am a young woman who came from a family of money. My father had always been a fantastic provider, so whenever my parents argued, he always used this as a fighting point. In turn, whenever I wanted to do something, wear something, or speak out against something that my mother didn’t agree with, she would threaten to withhold the luxuries to which I had grown accustomed.
A week before graduating college (which was paid by a full academic scholarship), I moved to New York and became completely financially independent. Now 24-years-old, I still have never dated a man who makes more than me. I’m not sure if I ever will. It isn’t something I avoid intentionally, but perhaps a defense mechanism.