What is it about men and their money?
A guy once told me that he was advised by his mother to never give women money. It seems to be a way to suss out which women wanted him as a sponsor instead of a partner. If a man showed no desire to help a woman out financially, would that be a sign that he is smart or inconsiderate?
Women today generally prefer to hold their own financially. I don’t know a lot of women who have a salary requirement for the men that they date. I wonder if they would look to test a man to see if he would be a good provider, though. How important is being a provider to women?
Do you think men today use wealth to attract women?
Guys, what are your thoughts about your money and your confidence? Are the two related?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Sniffer!
November 30th, 2011
4:26 pm
and to piggy bank on that ladies
how will u know ur stuff stank unless some man(men) takes a bite and either says hmmmm,nice
Or says shayyyt,,it’s funky!!!
So Fion was right
We validate U!
SlimNu
November 30th, 2011
4:30 pm
Oh the perfect boo for me,
Where are thou thee?
Is he where I cannot presently see?
Or is he simply fleeing me?
Scared him with this desperate energy?
Because thy biological clock ticks too loudly?
Guess alone is what it’ll have to be….just me
lol
Leggs
November 30th, 2011
4:30 pm
@Sniffer ~ that’s where you’re wrong…”most” of know when our stuff ain’t fresh….never would want a man to validate that.
kimmie
November 30th, 2011
4:30 pm
Exiled – Stank folk can smell their own stank, until they become immune to the stench!LOL!! You don’t need anybody else to validate your funk!
For Real
November 30th, 2011
4:31 pm
Zippppppppppppppppppppppppppppp!!!!!! Kimmie gets some validation
Zippppppppppppppppppppppppppppp!!!!!! Slim gets some validation
Zippppppppppppppppppppppppppppp!!!!!! Celisea gets some validation
Zippppppppppppppppppppppppppppp!!!!!! Move Mellllooo.o I said validation not bull nutsation
Zippppppppppppppppppppppppppppp!!!!!! ITL gets some validation
Zippppppppppppppppppppppppppppp!!!!!! Kym gets some validation
Zippppppppppppppppppppppppppppp!!!!!! Leggs gets some validation
For Real now taking off his shirt and screaming who wants to validate with Hollywood Cole!
SlimNu
November 30th, 2011
4:31 pm
Leggs – Ain’t dat da truth…If a chick lets you still go there when she ain’t right, she’s only hoping you’ll be too h0rny to notice
Into the Light
November 30th, 2011
4:34 pm
Dang, For Real… you sure you brought enough for the class to share???
Sniffer!
November 30th, 2011
4:34 pm
so how come it always stank if they know already
and besides if u don’t get a compliment or he dont come for seconds,thirds how u gonna know u rock good?
u need some dude to tell u,’baby u hit the spot last nite’ or some to that effect..
Yes ladies
disco
November 30th, 2011
4:35 pm
slim nu – she’s not hopeful, she’s nasty.
for real – you nasty boy.
Leggs
November 30th, 2011
4:37 pm
u need some dude to tell u,’baby u hit the spot last nite’ or some to that effect..
Yes ladies = NO. You still missing the point. We don’t need to ask him “baby, did I make your toes curl” or for him to ask the same of us. We validated ourselves in knowing we are good at our trade. As long as I believe it, I can put it down for you where you will come back for seconds…that’s a form of validation I can recognize….don’t need no words.
Into the Light
November 30th, 2011
4:37 pm
Well, Exiled, if you woulda stopped once you saw the little tree air freshener she had hanging from her zipper you coulda saved yourself some pain. Wait….is that why you won’t….????
Into the Light
November 30th, 2011
4:40 pm
Um, Leggs….may I suggest you use a word besides “trade”??? LOL
Leggs
November 30th, 2011
4:40 pm
That is funny, ITL….
SlimNu
November 30th, 2011
4:40 pm
Sniff – Some folks have hormonal imbalance…or a bacterial infection where their pH is off balance. Too many improper bacteria in her ‘environment’.
Leggs
November 30th, 2011
4:41 pm
Yeah, I know “trade” didn’t sound right.
Ok, we know when we have “SKILLZ”….(is that better)?
kimmie
November 30th, 2011
4:41 pm
so how come it always stank if they know already
Exiled aka Sniffer Of All Things Funky – You don’t know when you not too fresh?
It’s stink folk walking around every day, over the entire world. We’ve talked about them on here.
And every person that does the do is not “Downey Fresh” every time.
Also, can be fresh as a daisy, but that doesn’t mean you can rock good!
Per today’s topic, if a lady comes back for seconds, how does he know it’s not just because he’s got money? She might have to hold her breath but feel his bank account is worth it! Wouldn’t be for me, but just sayin!
Sniffer!
November 30th, 2011
4:42 pm
Belief don’t mean it’s the truf
U said it urself yesterday
Ur friend thinks she hot but All the guys know she bombs coz they have validated it and know its stank
Leggs!! Come on now!
Leggs
November 30th, 2011
4:44 pm
@Sniffer ~ I’m saying if I don’t “believe” in my skillz I can’t execute.
Same as any other job. If you don’t project that you know what you’re doing, you will soon get the pink slip.
You have to first believe before you go further….
SlimNu
November 30th, 2011
4:44 pm
Sniffer – Don’t get it twisted, yalls ballz be off the wallz wit dat stanky stank sometimes lol
Leggs
November 30th, 2011
4:45 pm
Stank and having lost elasticity of the vaginal walls is not the same thing…..it can be, but that’s not the context in which the statement was made.
Sniffer!
November 30th, 2011
4:45 pm
Kimmie
If a dude just humps,nuts,picks up their pants and says good nite boo,No compliment no flattery some is up
If dude rocks it rocks it rocks it All nite
Ur stuff is good
Even if he don’t compliment much
Well ladies I said it,
if there is no encore
U stank or ur performance ain’t All that!
SlimNu
November 30th, 2011
4:47 pm
Well Sniffer, if there isn’t an encore, couldn’t that very well mean you got it right the first time and no do-over is needed? It’s kinda hard to fly in a hot air balloon when it’s depleted
kimmie
November 30th, 2011
4:48 pm
Sometimes its a cultural thing, the stank. The different foods people eat. So to them & their own people, they don’t stink.
Lots of reasons having noting to do with bad odor can be why someone doesn’t want to come back for seconds.
Sometimes a one-night stand is just that – one night. Could be very memorable and magical, but still one.
Sniffer!
November 30th, 2011
4:50 pm
But belief without validation is none
Empty words !
If ur neighbors don’t say none good about u
Well well
See ladies the taste of the puddy is in the what?
U say it..
Leggs
November 30th, 2011
4:51 pm
@Sniffer, you don’t always get compliments/flattery after doing the do….sometimes a slap on the buttocks while you’re walking into the bathrooms says it all (lol)…
kimmie
November 30th, 2011
4:51 pm
Exiled – It could be him too, lacking. If he had performance issues he may be too embarrassed to try again.
You must be bored at work, cause really this is a moot conversation, but I’m playing along!LOL!!!
Leggs
November 30th, 2011
4:54 pm
@kimmie ~ come on now, you know Sniffer never thinks the man is at fault..
kimmie
November 30th, 2011
4:55 pm
Leggs – If some only knew though!
Leggs
November 30th, 2011
4:56 pm
@Randyt ~ do you believe you can hear lust/longing in a phone call when the person is trying to act like they’re not lusting after you (LOLOL)? Do you believe you can see it in their eyes when they thinking they’re acting all nonchalant. I’m cracking up….
Leggs
November 30th, 2011
4:57 pm
I know, kimmie, believe you me, I know.
kimmie
November 30th, 2011
4:58 pm
It’s been fun kids, but gotta run!
Be easy!
?!$?
November 30th, 2011
8:03 pm
……..open dat doe naw……..day gooooooooooone!!!!!!!!!!
Shoe and Tell
November 30th, 2011
10:27 pm
I am a young woman who came from a family of money. My father had always been a fantastic provider, so whenever my parents argued, he always used this as a fighting point. In turn, whenever I wanted to do something, wear something, or speak out against something that my mother didn’t agree with, she would threaten to withhold the luxuries to which I had grown accustomed.
A week before graduating college (which was paid by a full academic scholarship), I moved to New York and became completely financially independent. Now 24-years-old, I still have never dated a man who makes more than me. I’m not sure if I ever will. It isn’t something I avoid intentionally, but perhaps a defense mechanism.