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Can women really handle no strings?

There is an ongoing debate whether women can’t handle strictly physical relationships. Some believe that women can do it – but not for extended periods of time. Others believe that women “convince” themselves that it is fine with them, while secretly holding out for a real romance to bud.

Let’s take a little totally unscientific poll here:

Do you believe that women can handle casual sex? In your experience, is it a good idea or bad idea?

Are there circumstances that casual sex with no strings attached recommended?

For the record, I believe it is completely possible to be involved with someone and not be emotionally attached. But enough about me. What do you think?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

334 comments Add your comment

SexyCool

November 29th, 2011
11:41 am

Most of the people that I have encountered who say that they do not want to get married still want to have a stable person in their lives.

Lady~

November 29th, 2011
11:45 am

disco chica you are funny!!!! Howdy MIA~

SlimNu

November 29th, 2011
11:46 am

Leggs – Yeah, that was so crazy…But goes to show, you just never know the mental state of others.

Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

November 29th, 2011
11:49 am

The older i get, the less I believe either sex can handle a totally physical relationship…or frankly any other LTR kind of relationship. Simply put, there are two bodies, and two minds, and two emotional makeups that have to be on the same plane and at the same time. Difficult balancing act.

As I have said many times, IMHO there is no such thing as free sex. It always has a price tag, whether physical, emotional, or financial. Feel free to disagree, but that is my experience anyway.

For Real

November 29th, 2011
11:50 am

ScooL: San the marriage, I don’t believe you can find one stable person that wants an unstable person period. Well perhaps for a booty call cause ain’t nothing like that crazy cudda-cat.

For Real now remembering crazy cudda-cat from Jamaica trying to put a curse on his hammer.

Fion

November 29th, 2011
11:52 am

@ disco
I hear ya
As we cruise the hwy of love there’s nothing wrong with pulling over for a roadside fill up. You may even have a flat and need to pull out the spare. You could blow a head gasket and even need to take it to the shop for extended maintenance. Bottom line u need what u need and u need to get it in.
Requirements change as life changes.

For Real

November 29th, 2011
11:56 am

Slim: I do not understand these “kill you and then myself” people. If you are such a coward and can’t face the life you made, then go ahead and kill yourself but why kill everybody?

In the words of the famous race horse that broke his leg during a race – “No need for that, I got three other legs I’ll be fine”

Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

November 29th, 2011
11:59 am

I’m not caapable of addressing the NSA issue from personal experience…but it would seem to me that for it to work, both need to be getting equal amounts of “booty on the side” or problems or jealousy issues might surface if one is doing abundantly well and one is in a dry spell..

As Rodney Dangerfield once said, “I get no respect from my wife. We have this pact where we always smoke after sex. I’ve been carrying around the same pack since 1978. My wife’s up to three packs a day”.

disco

November 29th, 2011
12:01 pm

randy – I agree. it all costs folks just need to make sure they can afford the piece they are trying to get.

fion – heck yeah we better get it in while the getting is good. over the weekend some friends and I discussed not knowing that the last time you got some was going to be the last time you got some. particularly we were talking about the end of relationships but also simply aging out of the sex game. think the little old 90 year old widow lady who hasn’t had any in 10-15-20 years.

Leggs

November 29th, 2011
12:02 pm

Breaking News from ABCNEWS.com:

Herman Cain Reassessing Whether He Will Remain in GOP Race [11:39 a.m. ET] = DUH!!!

Fion

November 29th, 2011
12:05 pm

@Randyt
There’s no disgrace in that at all. It’s a wise man that knows his limitations.

Purple Reign

November 29th, 2011
12:06 pm

Some women can, some women can’t

kimmie

November 29th, 2011
12:06 pm

Leggs – I was watching a news show last night about him. The reporters all agreed he really does not want to be Prez or even VP. He just wants to sell his book and make money speaking. He had no idea he was going to blow up like he did and all his past dug out of the closet & affecting his family. My husband has been saying that all along.

SexyCool

November 29th, 2011
12:07 pm

Leggs – last night when they were reporting the “shocking” 13 year affair, my thought was “At this point, there is nothing shocking about any sexual allegation that involves Uncle Ruckus.”

Leggs

November 29th, 2011
12:10 pm

Cute, SexyC!

You hear about someone from the media using her cell phone to call Cain and he immediately answered. He vehemently denies having “sex with that woman” (although he didn’t use those words (lol).

To hear his wife say “he would never lie to me, he couldn’t look me straight in the eyes and lie” simply shows how gullible she is. All men and women can look another in the eyes and lie especially if you’re a politician! As BMW would say, Come On, Son!!!

Sniffer!

November 29th, 2011
12:12 pm

Good mornifternoon!

On topic:

A woman can— until she feels she’s being used like a condom…

When All is said,done and wiped,its the woman that defaults to a ‘victim’ status even when it started off as consentual and Agreed!

That’s the Conundrum.

Now I need some..who is game..No feelings?

Leggs

November 29th, 2011
12:14 pm

Haa haa haa, my boss just came out of his office with his IPAD to tell me about CNN’s breaking news. Told him I alread received mine from abcnews (lol).

Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

November 29th, 2011
12:14 pm

“When All is said,done and wiped,its the woman that defaults to a ‘victim’ status even when it started off as consentual and Agreed!”

Very True!!!

Fion

November 29th, 2011
12:15 pm

@Leggs
“simply shows how gullible she is”

easy now. eeeeeeesay!!!!!

Leggs

November 29th, 2011
12:16 pm

“When All is said,done and wiped,its the woman that defaults to a ‘victim’ status ~ wrong, the person who accepted the phone call/request is the victim.

Leggs

November 29th, 2011
12:18 pm

@Fion ~ perhaps too harsh on her, but meaning, a woman who says her man could never lie and look her straight in the eyes is in fairyland…

Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

November 29th, 2011
12:20 pm

“All men and women can look another in the eyes and lie’

Not all, Leggs. I can’t. I’ve gotten caught at every dayum thing I ever tried, so my face would give me away in a heartbeat…except in a high stakes poker game. Even then, not stoic, but exactly the opposite. There you lie in word and expression in every way to get an advantage. “If you aren’t there to tear the other’s heart out and eat it, then get out of the game”. :-)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

November 29th, 2011
12:20 pm

When you rise up, that can’t be the thing you’re thinking about. Whether it be I want to do this or I can’t do this it has to be everybody on the same page. I opt out my energy level isn’t there for that anymore, slow and a sure thing works for me and people that can work it and have no feelings about it don’t stop til you get enough.

Leggs

November 29th, 2011
12:22 pm

Never said he would get away with the lie, but he tried, just like you admit.

GoldPig

November 29th, 2011
12:24 pm

No they can’t. It’s a genetic flaw.

Fion

November 29th, 2011
12:29 pm

@Leggs
Not that you were harsh, but no need to hold her anymore accountable than anyone else.There are men and women living lies everyday.

Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

November 29th, 2011
12:29 pm

I never tried to be be unfaithful and lie in my marriage. Never did. She would have known before I did. Hellz if five women were walking toward us in the mall, she would know before I did which one I was going to focus on. I’d get busted every dayum time.

As for lying period, my mom would beat my azzzz if she even thought I was lying (sometimes I got my azzz beat when I wasn’t lying). then early in my dating career, I had the misfortune of always dating intuitive women. They would know I was stepping out before the night was over…even when i went to another town. Learned before I was married not to even bother trying.

Sniffer!

November 29th, 2011
12:30 pm

Nope Leggs!

a guy and chic will be cool fugging until until dude meets girl at a function,another curry buddy in tow….

Curry budy -1 ‘ but how come u ain’t told me u fudging somebody else’

Dude :shock:

Sniffer!

November 29th, 2011
12:31 pm

NSA sister number one

November 29th, 2011
12:36 pm

I have a jumpoff that i call when I am in need, he gets mad at me when he finds out that I am dealing with other men, so the question is can a man handle a NSA. So far the two I am dealing with can’t number one: always making smart comments and sending me crazy text number two: if i catch you (several occasions) its not gonna be pretty. Had number one on Tuesday and Number 2 last nite and im sure they are both doing the same thing except I am open and honest about my expectations and NSA…

i'm swiss™

November 29th, 2011
12:36 pm

Me.lo — curry buddy == some seriously spicy fuggin’

Lady~

November 29th, 2011
12:39 pm

swiss i screamed lmbao!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! smh curry buddy!

Leggs

November 29th, 2011
12:43 pm

@Fion ~ of course, men and women both lie. I’m holding all accountable if they believe EVERTHING a person says. Now, I feel that statement is harsh, but true.

disco

November 29th, 2011
12:43 pm

randy – poor thing. it almost seems like you are at a disadvantage in life if you can’t get a decent lie in every now and again.

i'm swiss™

November 29th, 2011
12:44 pm

Lady — Yeah, talk about having that fiyah booty:lol:

disco

November 29th, 2011
12:44 pm

of course – I’m banking on that fact being the lie.

SlimNu

November 29th, 2011
12:45 pm

swiss – I thought he meant he traded didn’t curry spices with someone else

Sniffer!

November 29th, 2011
12:48 pm

Swiss u funny!

I was laughing at yesterday’s blog bout how u closed the blog with ur d on Leggs mouth

That was funeeeey! :lol:

Lady~

November 29th, 2011
12:48 pm

smh swiss lol

i'm swiss™

November 29th, 2011
12:51 pm

“I was laughing at yesterday’s blog bout how u closed the blog with ur d on Leggs mouth”

Me.lo — Yeah, now that was my kind of E.O.D. :lol:

SlimNu

November 29th, 2011
12:53 pm

different, not didn’t

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

November 29th, 2011
12:55 pm

There was a dude looking at me and the lady I was looking at, then back at me to see what I was going to do. He wanted to make sure I didn’t get her attention he went up to her then she looked at me then he looked at me I knew at that moment he didn’t want me to make any contact with her. Yeah guys get nervous jitters when they think they’ve been out manuevered. The lady walked away from him and he kept trying to talk to her while lookig at me. WTF.

Purple Reign

November 29th, 2011
12:57 pm

Blackfoote, wow. He was insecure.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

November 29th, 2011
1:02 pm

What’s up Purple? Yep we got some dudes out here like that. You know what we call them CB’s cockblockers.

Beatrix Kiddo

November 29th, 2011
1:06 pm

NSA#1 is going to mess around and catch an STD if she don’t calm that cudda-cat down.

Beatrix Kiddo

November 29th, 2011
1:08 pm

And so are her partners.

Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

November 29th, 2011
1:11 pm

Thank you disco. I save them for poker and do it very well then because that is a “play” and the audience is your opponent. As for the rest of the time, it is easier to be truthful than to try to explain a lie you are caught in…and most lies are eventually caught.

TRUTH

November 29th, 2011
1:13 pm

Sure. They can. Only if they get to change the person into what they were looking for in the first place. Just sayin’….

Leggs

November 29th, 2011
1:13 pm

@Me.lo ~ I hadn’t seen that closing yesterday, of course you would like that!

Leggs

November 29th, 2011
1:16 pm

@BF ~ that post made me laugh. Heck, when he got out of his seat is when you should have realized he didn’t want you to move in on her. And, the look on her face while looking at you probably said “dude, I saw you looking at me, why you let this joker approach first???”