Anatomy of a great date
One thing I know for sure is that the best dates are the ones where both people leave feeling like they have a great connection.
You can always take the easy route and plan for dinner and a movie. I’ve done that and had a wonderful time, mainly because there was intense chemistry. So is chemistry fundamental to a great date?
I think it is! A great date can be adventurous or quiet, romantic or playful, sexy or mysterious. If you don’t feel strong chemistry, chances are your great date won’t go beyond date one.
Should you go on a second date if the first date was fun but zero chemistry?
What do you think is the anatomy of a great date? What makes a date great in your opinion?
When was the last time you had a great date?!
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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mark
November 28th, 2011
7:46 am
Enter your comments hereDinner and Good Conversation! make a Great Date for me.
mark
November 28th, 2011
7:46 am
Dinner and Great Conversation make a Great Date For me.
Lady~
November 28th, 2011
8:21 am
I agree Mark! Happy Monday MIA!
Lady~
November 28th, 2011
8:23 am
Should you go on a second date if the first date was fun but zero chemistry? hmmmmmmm Would it turn into the dreaded Friend Zone….
When was the last time you had a great date?! recently……….
Big Al
November 28th, 2011
8:33 am
If she is still in my bed when I wake up in the morning, then it was a great first date.
Celisea
November 28th, 2011
8:42 am
Rainy morning today…
IMO, both parties leaving with the feeling of a great connection is the icing on the cake. In an almost normal scenario, it takes a couple (not 3,4,5) dates to get it off the ground and see where things could potentially go. That’s just what I think though. Of course that’s if potential is there. If it’s a bust then you already know.
morning….
ATL Guy
November 28th, 2011
8:48 am
There’s always so many factors to a date. I’d say if it feels natural & not forced with a sense of spark that keeps it interesting … that is a great date. Come away with both people excited to meet up again. If you go into a date with a mindset you’re just out to have a good time regardless by throwing cautious to the wind, people seem less nervous and usually works out better. If the connection wasn’t there; all good, but keep it fun
Lady~
November 28th, 2011
8:54 am
Of course that’s if potential is there. <————– C that is so true!
SlimNu
November 28th, 2011
9:10 am
Good morning everybody,
Celisea – Looks like our bootleg blogging got shut down Friday.
Celisea
November 28th, 2011
9:14 am
Slim – I know right…just when it was getting good….lol I bet others would have eventually come out to play.
Shame on you WD for making us work…for real…
Celisea
November 28th, 2011
9:15 am
Lady – Yep, exactly. I think ATL Guy framed it pretty well…if things feel natural and there’s a spark, well there you have it. That’s why I said icing on the cake. Not that it don’t happen but every now and then you get dynamite. More often than not, you get a spark. Which is good and what I consider potential.
SlimNu
November 28th, 2011
9:17 am
C – Thank goodness I only had to work till 12 that day. And what’s even more crazy is those few hours were killing me. lol
Celisea
November 28th, 2011
9:19 am
I was here allllllllllll day
SlimNu
November 28th, 2011
9:24 am
I’m so sowwy
Mike P
November 28th, 2011
9:29 am
Good Morning Blog Family
I hope everyone enjoyed the extended Holiday Weekend
I believe this is a recycled topic. I’ll be lurking today; popping in when things get interesting.
SlimNu
November 28th, 2011
9:32 am
Mike P – I second that emotion…
Anyone believe we’ll get any “Snow” tonight/tomorrow? lol
Celisea
November 28th, 2011
9:37 am
Don’t know if I believe but I’m sure hoping
Lady~
November 28th, 2011
9:38 am
Slim bring the snow on! lol I have my blckeye pea soup frozen and ready for the crock pot! lol
Lady~
November 28th, 2011
9:38 am
*Blackeye*
SlimNu
November 28th, 2011
9:44 am
Lady – My sister came up from Bama this past weekend and my mom sent some of her winter beef soup. It’s frozen and waiting on deck to be defrosted and devoured. Mmmmm lol
Lady~
November 28th, 2011
9:50 am
doesn’t a warm front and cold front produce snow?!? hell its the ICE that will shut the city down! its early….last year it was later in the winter and din’t affect our snow days…………….lol
Lady~
November 28th, 2011
9:52 am
*didn’t* sheesh….I don’t even have Monday Blues either smh lol
thewindwhistler
November 28th, 2011
9:54 am
that is a great question. i really like it. When was the last time i had a great date. That was 1955. My date was “Miss Bus Stop” and we were watching “Some Like it Hot”, it was great, Miss Bus Stop was fantastic, he movie was ok.
SlimNu
November 28th, 2011
9:55 am
True, that ice Ain’t no joke…we can barely drive when it drizzles outside, let alone snow and ice. I drive a little car and that sucka was blowing all over the road yesterday. Imma change the name of my car to a Nissan Kite lol
MssBoss
November 28th, 2011
9:56 am
I just had a great date this past weekend. Yes chemistry is a huge factor. We went to Dave & Busters played a few games and grabbed a bite to eat at the bar. I think any atomosphere that allows you to be comfortable and time to talk is a great place for a date.
kimmie
November 28th, 2011
9:59 am
Morning Peeps!
Hey, don’t knock dinner & a movie so much! Why do you think so many fall back to that? Because it works! A fantastic meal (doesn’t have to be fancy) and a good movie can be great and lead to some great conversation IF THERE IS CHEMISTRY!
It depends on how much of a bust the first date was if there would be a 2nd date. Both people could be perfectly nice but if there are long pauses without conversation and being with them was like watching paint dry, why bother? Just because they SEEM NICE and you think they DESERVE A CHANCE? When I was dating I did not waste my time like that. I’d rather grab a friend or relative and hang out, someone I could have good conversation with.
kimmie
November 28th, 2011
10:00 am
Slim I get so scared when I can feel the wind blowing my car!!
Leggs
November 28th, 2011
10:01 am
Good morning!
@SlimNu/Celisea ~ I was just about to log on when the comment box disappeared on Friday morning.
Leggs
November 28th, 2011
10:03 am
If we get any snow, probably just be a dusting on the yards.
SlimNu
November 28th, 2011
10:04 am
They said it should melt on contact so not really expecting much of any weather issues.
Celisea
November 28th, 2011
10:09 am
Leggs – I felt your presence Friday….I was waiting for you…lol
Sad Sack
November 28th, 2011
10:10 am
Big Al hits it on the head!!
Bubba J
November 28th, 2011
10:18 am
Good meal, good chemistry, spontaneous wild-n-crazy sex, and enough maturity to just appreciate it and not get all weirded out afterward makes it for me.
SexyCool
November 28th, 2011
10:23 am
GM – had a lovely holiday. TheDude managed to score one of those 40″ televisions from Target. He has now hooked up the entire surround sound system. I am learning tolerance and attempting to patiently allow him to adjust to his new toys. (Watching 60 Minutes with the reverb on…..help me, lawd geezus….lol)
Cel – I saw your recount of meeting the “cutest” fella. I’m thinking that he after his interview, he will be seeking you out.
Celisea
November 28th, 2011
10:23 am
to just appreciate it and not get all weirded out afterward
Just being able to bang and that’s all huh? Only a man can do this…lol If you’re finding this to be a common thread, more than like it’s a natural thing that’s happening and probably could be phrased as “catching feelings” rather than getting all weirded out.
AtlSouthside
November 28th, 2011
10:23 am
Ladies,
How do you feel about a man paying for the dinner date w/ a gift certificate?
Celisea
November 28th, 2011
10:25 am
SexyC – Let’s hope so
Yes, I’m hoping he got the job. I didn’t go back there Saturday because of my early hair appointment.
Lady~
November 28th, 2011
10:26 am
@AtlSouthside it is fine with me bc I am a groupon and any other kind of coupon using chic!
Celisea
November 28th, 2011
10:26 am
TheDude managed to score one of those 40″ televisions from Target.
If that ain’t a great start to the holidays…..woo hoo
Celisea
November 28th, 2011
10:27 am
AtlSouthside – I’m okay with
Lady~
November 28th, 2011
10:28 am
They now have with living social and others trips and vacations using coupons so it works out for both……saving and merging funds for great outings is wining to me…..just being plain ole cheap bothers me though. There is a difference…..
czBrat
November 28th, 2011
10:30 am
HiYas!
co-signing MssBoss 9:56. simple and true. and no, not really interested in a second date if there’s no chemistry.
spontaneous wild-n-crazy sex
i take it we’re not necessarily talking about first dates then, huh?
SexyCool
November 28th, 2011
10:35 am
Great date. I think the expectation of “greatness” is overdone. Every date is not going to be a great date. Some of them are just going to be ol’ regla ass dates. And that’s what you need – consistent run of the mill regular punctuated by doses of great.
I think we have too much of a tendency to overuse extra, exaggerated descriptive words. Me? I am more than happy with having a whole lot of good and with moderate amounts of great sprinkled in for good measure. It keeps me from being overstimulated and it makes certain that I am still able to recognize greatness when it occurs.
(BTW – I blame The Bachelor and shows of that ilk. lol)
Leggs
November 28th, 2011
10:36 am
@AtlS ~ I am fine with it.
@Celisea ~ they should have kept the back door open on Friday.
@czB ~ I think he is talking about first dates…guess he feels that .that would make the first date quite successful.
Reio
November 28th, 2011
10:38 am
Morning folks,
Wise Diva Asks about a “great” date. Don’t want to get too philosophical here, but seems to me that during the course of a relationship, one can only expect a few “great” dates. Hopefully many good ones and some decent ones as well. But few “great” ones. If You Look forward to the next one, no matter how few or many you’ve had with this other person, I’d say you’re on your way. Maybe I’m looking at “great” the wrong way(probably am).
SlimNu
November 28th, 2011
10:42 am
Some of them are just going to be ol’ regla ass dates
I don’t know why but I find the way this reads to be funny!
SexyCool
November 28th, 2011
10:44 am
SlimGoody – I laughed when I typed it.
Reio
November 28th, 2011
10:44 am
Granddaughter went back to Marietta yesterday. Enjoyed her very much. Huge vocabulary for a four year old, but cries much too much for a four year old as well. Somebody spoiled he, and it ain’t me. BIG cry baby!
Celisea
November 28th, 2011
10:44 am
Funny and true. If you’re expecting dynamite EVERY SINGLE TIME, that will kill it. I like getting blown away every now and then. Too much of that I would image is lethal…lol Too, that will raise the bar to a place I don’t think anybody can maintain.
Leggs
November 28th, 2011
10:47 am
LOLOL @ Reio…nothing worse than a cry baby. Guess it’s less tolerable when it’s a boy!