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Marriage material? Prove it

If you are perpetually single and want to get married, you may have to start sending out your “marriage material” signals. There are some people who do live their lives in a way that is conducive to marriage. Then there are others who talk, live, and conduct their lives in a way that screams “Single for life!” – and maybe that is turning people off.

When you first meet someone you are interested in, they may size you up and put you under “marriage material” scrutiny. How do you think you would come off? Single for life or ready for marriage?

Do you ever worry that your fabulous single life may send the message that you are not willing, ready, or able to give it up and merge with someone else?

What changes, if any, should be made so that you can prove that you are indeed ready for love and marriage?

P.S. I hope everyone has a safe and spectacular holiday!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

138 comments Add your comment

Jaded Guy

November 23rd, 2011
7:47 am

Fellas, sadly, there are ONLY TWO kinds of women in this world:

1.) The ones who have lied to & cheated on you

2.) The ones who haven’t lied to & cheated on you YET (but WILL)

CoolShadow

November 23rd, 2011
8:11 am

When you first meet someone you are interested in, they may size you up and put you under “marriage material” scrutiny. How do you think you would come off?

That depends on the interpretation of the scrutinizer; you can only control the type of person you want to project, not how it’s taken by others. And just because someone may look like marriage material doesn’t mean they are. For example, if you’re a man looking for a wife with culinary skills, this might be an opportune time to take notice. But just because she’s in the kitchen doesn’t make her so. There’s a big difference between the woman who is roasting, stuffing and basting a turkey and the other who is opening a can of cranberry sauce or coating the dinner rolls with butter. But both can make the claim that they were “in the kitchen”.

Big Dick Johnson

November 23rd, 2011
8:13 am

Marriage is for suckers. Why buy the cow when she’s giving you free milk.

Sparkle

November 23rd, 2011
8:14 am

What is marriage material? Who knows. The majority of people who are married, tend to hate one another, cheat, lie and make up tons of excuses. There are a few who actually take time out to enjoy each other. Because a person is single doesn’t mean that they aren’t marriage material, they just haven’t connected with someone that they want to spend their life with. It’s not a bad thing, it just hasn’t happened. It’s so unfortunate, that people think that if you aren’t married, don’t have kids, dog, a dirty house, etc..that something is wrong with you. Why should people do the Hollywood marriage? Get married, adopt kids, divorce a few months later and move on to the next person.

LOL

November 23rd, 2011
8:17 am

@ Jaded Guy – Somebody must be heart broken :( So sorry to hear that you have had that experience but the truth is that all women don’t cheat. I have never cheated on my man. I respect him more than that and never will. So maybe you should do some self soul searching to see what it is you are doing wrong. Maybe you are pushing them away because of your past experiences or maybe you are not stepping up your game enough. Maybe you are just picking the wrong type of women are your standards too high or maybe even too low. Research yourself. All women don’t cheat.

Move your hips, wouldja

November 23rd, 2011
8:29 am

But what if you are dating, but never want to set foot within the chains of marriage again? WINNING!!!!!

Optimus Prime

November 23rd, 2011
8:35 am

I agree with MYHW, the car tag on the limo driving away from the reception should read “Game Over Buddy”. The only phrase he will utter for the rest of the marriage is “Yes honey, I was wrong.”. The reason she’s smiling when she walks down that aisle? She knows she’s given her last BJ. And the best date you were able to take her on because of that great bonus check? Well, that’s the bare minimum, now. How do you turn a nymphomaniac into a nun? Marry her. Why doesn’t a married man bother to remember his mistakes? No sense two people doing the same thing.

Dude

November 23rd, 2011
8:49 am

Nope, no reason to get married, they only slow ya down, leave it to the rest of the world to procreate. Never sign that paper.

Patricia O

November 23rd, 2011
8:52 am

I firmly believe that unless you are planning on having kids, you should never get married. Even then, having children is vastly overrated. have a great Thanksgiving everyone!

TinselTown

November 23rd, 2011
9:06 am

Why are you people so down on marriage? It’s a beautiful thing where two people join together to share their love, dreams, wants, needs and live the rest of their adult lives together in harmony. They give each other a shoulder to cry on, someone to laugh with….

I’m sorry…I can’t type any more of this drivel with a straight face or clear conscience…..

Dude

November 23rd, 2011
9:13 am

Tinsel, I am not saying one word about not living, sharing, crying, so on and so forth. I am only saying not to sign the paper, look at goldy hawn and kurt russel, they are still not marriend and have been together for decades. Just don’t sign that paper, getting away from that crap is a pain in the butt.

Celisea

November 23rd, 2011
9:30 am

Morning lovelies,

Now I know I’m not the only one working today. :)

On topic: Marriage material? What is that exactly? I’m going to have to go with Sparkle’s take on the whole thing.

While I’ve never said it outright on here, I don’t get all the dribble about it. I see too many people living selfishly yet taking and expecting to make the journey. I was getting feedback from a girlfriend last night and she asked me what is it really that you want or want to do? Honestly dealing with people and issues and relationships and matters sometimes just makes me tired. I understand working at it but something being too hard, well…..

Anyway, the holiday is upon us and I’m excited….excited to be away from the hustle and bustle, excited that we’ve been given the green light to scoot early, happy to be alive and grateful to make it this far down through another year.

abc

November 23rd, 2011
9:40 am

Being a good cook doesn’t make a woman marriage material. Nor does keeping a clean house, or anything else along those lines. A man that looks for that is really looking for a surrogate mother.

Being ‘marriage material’ means that one is not just ready for, but LOOKING for, someone to whom they can commit. Someone that they’ll care about more than themselves. If you’re not there, you’re not marriage material. And, nothing wrong with that — marriage isn’t for everybody. Parenthood isn’t for everybody. Obviously.

Leggs

November 23rd, 2011
9:47 am

Good morning.

Marriage is a beautiful institution when the man and woman genuinely work at making it work with respect and love on the front burner, and seriously want to honor their vows. It’s one of the hardest things to do. It’s not for everyone, no doubt.

The only signal a person should be putting in the atmosphere is their character, good or bad. What category a person puts them in is on that person. Single material, marriage material, or harlot material is your perception and that perception isn’t always accurate.

@JadedGuy ~ have you met abc yet?

Leggs

November 23rd, 2011
9:55 am

@Optimus ~ in line with your comment about the license plate, I have a friend who when she married her sister went up to the husband at the reception and said “We got you now sucker, you bound to her for life!” WTH. Marriage is not a jail sentence, although some feel it is. 28 years later, they’re divorced. Nothing is guaranteed.

Reio

November 23rd, 2011
10:01 am

Mornin all. Quick story. By the way, I have always wanted to get married,settle down and start a family. Years ago, I worked late one evening, not too long, maybe a couple of hours. Finally made it home, parked in the garage, got ou,t went up the basement steps, turned the corner to the kitchen,and there was MY family, having dinner. My wife and four children just munchin away. My son said “Hey dad, better pull up a chair, it’s going fast”. I went to the bedroom, put my stuff away, and went to wash my hands. While rinsing them, I paused for some reason and stared in the mirror with my hands dripping in the sink, and thought to my self, this is all I ever wanted, wife, kids, nice home, nice neighborhood…They’re happy, well adjusted, warm in winter, cool in summer, full tummies…. Thank you Jesus. All I ever really wanted. And then, there were times when I’ve wanted to throw each one of the five off a rocky cliff. Oh well, tis life, tis life.

SlimNu

November 23rd, 2011
10:04 am

Good morning all,

I would like to get married and it be the one and only time it’s done. I’d like to think that I’d be more than willing to do all it takes on my end to put in what I want out of it. Only time will tell though

disco

November 23rd, 2011
10:04 am

Good morning.

Abc/leggs/celisea – I’ve been laying in the cut waiting on y’all.

Abc – caring about someone more than yourself… to me that’s one of those truly romantic notions but I actually do it hear it quite often. Call me selfish but I’m not loving or caring about anyone more than I love and care about me. Parents/siblings/offspring included and I do love my parents/siblings/offspring. I don’t want any man to care about me more than he cares about him. Of course I’m probably just taking that too literally but that’s me. I take a lot of things literally.

abc

November 23rd, 2011
10:09 am

I mean it literally, disco. If you’re motivated more by what benefits the other person’s welfare than your own, then that’s what marriage is all about. If you’re unable to do that, don’t get married. If the person you’d consider marrying isn’t like that about you, then forget about it.

Reio

November 23rd, 2011
10:12 am

I agree abc. Sadly, all it takes is for one of you to do otherwise, and everything falls apart. Can’t make the other one feel the same way you do.

Leggs

November 23rd, 2011
10:13 am

Morning, disco.

SlimNu

November 23rd, 2011
10:16 am

I was just telling a friend that the person who cares the least has the most power. I love hard and give a lot of myself when I do. I just want that person to love me just as hard as I do.

DreamsMaterialize

November 23rd, 2011
10:18 am

Morning
Marriage material is completely subjective and depends on the person doing the evaluating. I don’t worry about whether I project “marriage material” or “single and loving it”. When I meet the person I want to spend the rest of my life with, I’ll project THAT very clearly.

disco

November 23rd, 2011
10:20 am

abc – I know you do. lots of folks do. I don’t. I can’t. and I’m not passing judgment on anyone for feeling as they do. like when I hear parents say they’d give their lives for their child. I understand it in theory and maybe I’d do it considering I’ve only got one but if I had more than one child I couldn’t stand by that. I’d think it would be better to stick around for the others but I’ve heard differing opinions on the topic. again, call me selfish.

reio – now that’s the kind of honesty I’m talking about. folks will take you there. my son is an only child and consequently he’s got what I refer to as “only child syndrome”. it can be mistaken for being spoiled but I don’t think it’s the same. there are just some benefits that come with being an only. over the years I’ve threatened the boy with having more kids just so he wouldn’t be thinking he’s all that.

hey leggs.

Celisea

November 23rd, 2011
10:28 am

Reio – Nice post :)

disco – Let’s do the dang thing…we need to light a fire up in here

abc/Reio – I agree. I think that’s probably the crux of failed marriages. Of course I’m not an authoritarian but really it’s not rocket science. Ya’ll (not “ya’ll”…just saying) will have women knocking themselves out trying to audition and stuff when really you just need the sticktoitivenss. I mean I understand initially there’s got to be something present to get you to that point but I don’t get it and really I got tired some years ago….lol I don’t do all that auditioning, at least not intentionally. If it happens great if not…it’s still all good. I will still do me and be me.

Dreams – I agree.

Celisea

November 23rd, 2011
10:29 am

And sometimes you can find a person that will will having you giving and giving and giving until it’s all gone. What have they done? Nothing but taken.

Celisea

November 23rd, 2011
10:32 am

disco – My child severely suffers from “only child syndrome.” She’s not really bratty but yes you can almost spot an only child. I can be standing in line at the store and I guess folks within earshot listening to the both of us talking will ask, “she’s an only child?” Or teachers…OMG teachers say it ALL THE TIME……I can tell she’s an only child.

disco

November 23rd, 2011
10:39 am

celisea – yeah I was constantly telling my son how good he had it just in the little stuff like getting to pick what kind of cereal I bought. that was always a big one with us growing up along with the fight over who got the prize in the box. he never had that – he always got the prize. he always pointed out that he felt he got the short end of the stick when it came to chores. kids with siblings got to split up the chores while he didn’t have that luxury. he also never had to share a room. I have one cousin, poor thing, never had her own room until she was grown and moved out.

Celisea

November 23rd, 2011
10:45 am

Yep, you have to put some restraints and pullbacks there because they’ll grow up believe the world evolves around them.

Leggs

November 23rd, 2011
10:45 am

I sometimes feel guilty that I have only one child. She doesn’t! She would tell me she doesn’t want a sibling because I would have to share my attention with another, but more importantly in her eyes, she would have to share her toys and her room.

I’m blessed that I have a relatively good child.

@disco ~ my first room of my own was when I moved away to college. Loved, loved, loved my first apartment. Warm and cozy and all mine!

Reio

November 23rd, 2011
10:50 am

I honestly don’t remember wondering whether I was marriage material or not. I guess I assumed I was. I knew that I needed to put myself in a position to afford to take care of a wife and children, so I did that, never really thinking about when I would get married. I just knew that I would eventually. Was always a one woman man. I gave quite a few of them the boot, but I sent them packing before I started another relationship.

DreamsMaterialize

November 23rd, 2011
10:52 am

I’m not loving or caring about anyone more than I love and care about me. Parents/siblings/offspring included
Disco Did you have your child out of self-interest/self-love? If the answer is “No”, then what was your motivation?

Dreams – I agree.
Celisea I’m with you when you say it’s not rocket science. You’ll show your “marriage material” to the person you want to marry, and if they feel the same about, then they’ll have no problem recognizing it. How are you this morning?

disco

November 23rd, 2011
10:52 am

I wasn’t an only child but I was the only girl and the oldest so I never had to share a room. I never felt guilty about only having one. when my son was younger – maybe 7/8 or so – he was obsessed with having a sibling. he even asked once if my tubes were tied. yeah – a 7 year old talking about somebody’s tubes being tied. when I replied that my tubes weren’t tied he said “you mean to tell me I could’ve been had a baby brother”. I laughed but now looking back I wonder if I did the right thing. I mean siblings are pretty important parts of a person’s life. I tell myself my son is cool because he and my youngest brother are only 4 years apart and were brought up more like brothers than nephew/uncle.

Reio

November 23rd, 2011
11:03 am

I was number 5 of 6. One older brother, 3 older sisters, and one younger brother(15 months younger), so I shared everything. My sisters taught me to be more patient with women. “Don’t be so quick to dump them”. “Some of those women were very nice”. Looking back on it, maybe I was quick to get rid of them, if I decided that they weren’t marriage material. Cause I figured that if the ultimate goal of dating was something other than getting married, then one should let the other one know this. Of course, then it’s all about having fun, and rolling in the hay, which you can do with anyone.

disco

November 23rd, 2011
11:04 am

dreams – I just think a person needs to love themselves properly before they can love someone else. it’s like always taking care of others but neglecting to take care of yourself. if you aren’t well, you can’t care for others. I can get with you saying you love someone as much as you love yourself but when it’s more – I just don’t get that. heck, as far as I’m concerned it might even be dangerous to love someone else more than you love yourself. a chick up this way just shot 4 people behind loving someone more than she loves herself.

Leggs

November 23rd, 2011
11:06 am

I admire those with a loving, caring marriage. It’s endearing to see a couple in love, especially a couple married for decades and the twinkle is still there.

abc

November 23rd, 2011
11:09 am

“Loving yourself” is a very narcissistic concept. Self-preservation is instinctive, but “loving yourself”? “Hating yourself”? These sound like psychological problems to me.

I can’t imagine not sacrificing for my children, including taking a bullet for them. This is parenthood in a nutshell. Likewise, there’s nothing I wouldn’t do for my wife. Selflessness is a worthy goal; selfishness is self-defeating.

Leggs

November 23rd, 2011
11:09 am

Dang, disco. Never understood fighting over a man, let alone harming others for what you perceive as showing your love for/possession of that person. Hell, harm/shoot yourself.

Celisea

November 23rd, 2011
11:10 am

I have to admit….I’ll go through hell and high water, take a bullet (seriously)…..probably give my life without a second thought….for my kid. I would. I think there are two people in the world that you can lover hard and deeper than yourself. A spouse/SO and a child. With that being said you can love without losing yourself. You can love without tolerance (to some degree). I love my kid but I won’t tolerate shenanigans….because I know down the road who will that benefit? Certianly not her and dang sure not me. I don’t even think you love kids like that when they’re first born. You come to love them like that over time, trials, ups and downs, the good and the bad. My 81 year old aunt was watching my kid play one day, I was sitting on the porch with her. I guess my kid was 7 or 8 ish….she said “you know they say when they’re babies their in your arms, when they grow up their in your heart. As silly as it sounds I was frustrated off and on during her baby years because of the struggling…not just financially but all of it…giving of myself, giving back when I could have (not really) gotten in the wind, giving up sometimes friends because a baby placed me on a different page, wanting to love but not really having the capacity to do it at that time, her daddy being the person who he was….I kept waiting on this “feeling” to hit me…lol I was thinking heck all that crying and stuff folks do in the movies and tv ain’t real. I had to come to know and understand. Ahhhh yeah, I get it now. No matter how mad she makes me, NOTHING…there is absolutely NOTHING she can’t get from me or that I’ll do for her.

Mike P

November 23rd, 2011
11:10 am

My two Cents…

You Male, Looking to Marry = Loser “Single for life!”
You Male, Want to remain Single = Winner “Marriage material”

You Female, Looking to Marry = “Marriage material”
You Female, Looking for fun = “Single for life!”

That is all…

Good Morning All

Celisea

November 23rd, 2011
11:10 am

Dreams – I’m good this morning…I’ve been better but hey I won’t complain. How are you?

Celisea

November 23rd, 2011
11:13 am

And you can love a man that deep too. Only a man though has made me blind with furry. I think some of that is fueled from what you feel from within…but that’s just me…if that make sense.

Celisea

November 23rd, 2011
11:14 am

abc – Your 11:09…I agree.

disco

November 23rd, 2011
11:15 am

leggs – she did. she shot the dude she was involved with, shot some members of her own family (who knows why) and killed herself.

Celisea

November 23rd, 2011
11:16 am

“won’t do for her”

Reio

November 23rd, 2011
11:17 am

Celisea – That’s true love. I know the feeling. Even though I have had thoughts of throwing each of them off a rocky cliff on more than one occasion. Hehehe.

Leggs

November 23rd, 2011
11:18 am

@disco ~ WOW.

Leggs

November 23rd, 2011
11:19 am

Not that it matters, but how old was she and he?

disco

November 23rd, 2011
11:20 am

well I owned up to being quite literal early on. recently some chicks were talking that “I’d do anything for my children” mess. I had to enter my two cents with “while there’s a lot I’ll do for mine, there’s a lot I won’t do for him too”. I won’t issue that blanket statement about I’ll do anything. I know a woman who is serving prison time right now for a crime her son committed. she said that she figured she could handle prison better than he could. I love my son but I don’t think I’m going to prison for him. jail? maybe. prison? don’t think so.

disco

November 23rd, 2011
11:25 am

here’s the link. looks like it’s been updated since I read about it a few days ago.

http://abcnews.go.com/US/north-carolina-jilted-lover-case-latest-child-victims/story?id=15007068

abc

November 23rd, 2011
11:25 am

Taking a child’s consequences upon yourself does the child more harm than good. That’s just mis-placed. You can protect a child from a lot of things, but you can’t do much to protect them from themselves — especially once they’re grown. Issues of ethics, morals and character have to be taught and enforced at an early age.

My approach with my kids was to tell them that I wasn’t here to be their buddy, that my job was mainly to eliminate in them behavior that I didn’t like. As they grew into teens and late teens, I reiterated over and over that what I wanted for them and of them was self sufficiency, because the old man ain’t gonna be around forever, and I want to know they’ll be okay. Going to jail for any of them wouldn’t serve that purpose very well.

Leggs

November 23rd, 2011
11:29 am

Must admit, I find myself thinking about marriage in terms of whether I can do it again. Not sure if one needs to “project” that they’re marriage material. All one needs to do is “project” who they are and let others determine if it’s package they want to unwrap.

Celisea

November 23rd, 2011
11:31 am

Reio – I’m there with you. Wanna kill ‘em some days.

disco – Loving your child unconditionally for any parent in their right mind means to the degree of what’s best and what’s right. It doesn’t make you lose sight of what’s right nor delusional. When I speak, I’m speaking in terms of shielding from any and all harm…physically, emotionally, etc.

If my child commit a crime please know I’m not bsing, what’s right? Paying the price. At all cost, you do what you have to do for your child. That’s no different than tough love.

disco

November 23rd, 2011
11:31 am

abc – now on that point we agree. my recent breakup was because the SO was doing too much (translation – EVERYTHING) for his adult daughter and both of them are completely comfortable with that scenario. when I call him on anything he simply says “but that’s my baby”. true story – he told her she needed to get her resume together and look for a job. a few weeks later he asked how the job search was going and she replied that she was waiting for him to prepare her resume for her.

Celisea

November 23rd, 2011
11:33 am

More explicitly….my child steals and not caught? I’m calling the police. A parent’s job is as best you can to do the rearing in a well-rounded fashion. One sided delusional love only makes them a mennace. I tell her all the time, if she does anything illegal or wrong or a crime, I’ll be the first to turn her in. She knows I’m not playing. Smooching and buying a kid everything they want is so far removed from real love.

DreamsMaterialize

November 23rd, 2011
11:51 am

I just think a person needs to love themselves properly before they can love someone else.
disco I would go a step further and say that you CAN’T love someone else unless you love yourself first. With that said, I think you can love someone more than yourself, given that you already love yourself. Why else go through with having a kid? You could surely have decided not to have the child out of “self-interest”, but I’m guessing there was something that you held higher than yourself that caused you to want your child to live.

Celisea Things are good on my end. I’m trying to get out of here early today, but I’m not sure it’s going to happen.

Leggs

November 23rd, 2011
11:53 am

@abc ~ your post @11:25 is so on point! Great post.

DreamsMaterialize

November 23rd, 2011
11:56 am

Yeah, I won’t do ANYTHING for my kid. I will do ANYTHING I believe GOD wants me to do to raise a GOD-reverent, respectable, honorable, productive child. If that means doing something for them, I’ll do that. If it means letting them fall on their face doing it on their own, I’ll do that too.

Leggs

November 23rd, 2011
12:06 pm

@Celisea ~ when my child was five or six when she attempted to steal some books from Publix. I noticed during checkout that she had 3 children books behind her back while sitting in the cart. I intentionally walked to the car to put the groceries in to see how she would manage to get the books in the car w/o me seeing them. I already knew what I was going to do. While bending down to putting the groceries in the trunk she threw the books in. I placed the rest of the groceries in trunk, took the books and walked her back into the store. I had already seen 2 police officers having lunch in the back. I walked to the manager, gave him the books and took her to the police officers. I told them what she had done and had them talk to her and the repercussions I would have to deal with. I wanted to make an example and scare the crap out of her, which I did. Long story short, I’m not going to jail for my child at any age. Whenever on Memorial Drive I always point to the jailhouse saying you never want to make this bldg your home.

DreamsMaterialize

November 23rd, 2011
12:09 pm

you never want to make this bldg your home.
Leggs You got that right…’cause it sure as heck won’t be my home. lol

disco

November 23rd, 2011
12:10 pm

dreams – the question that you posed could open up a whole new can of something and I won’t go down that controversial road this pre-holiday afternoon.

leggs – I actually waited for the day when my son would actually steal something. figured it was almost like a childhood right of passage. a candy bar, pack of gum something. but it never happened. he didn’t get the thieving gene. guess that came from me because as bad as I was I couldn’t steal. some of my cousins, boy, they’d steal butter out of a hot biscuit as my grandma would say. my brother got caught stealing a transformer when he was younger and the cops brought him home.

Sniffer!

November 23rd, 2011
12:16 pm

If u ain’t married this late in ur lyfe then u ain’t marriage material.

U can talk,rationalize and banter All u want.

Marriage like Love cannot be rationalized and explain like a mathematical formulae.

It happens
Luv just happens

Ofcourse when u meet somebody u want to know if they are marriage material(most single people do) if they are,the connection happens,if they are not,it fizzles.

Some don’t know that they are not marriage material. They date,do this and that but it never happens. Its life. Life is not fair!

Its like going to heaven

Only few of us Chosen will get there! :lol: Some will spend a lyfe of doing good but stumble at the last hurdle. Others spent a life of debauchery but repent in the end! See…

Happy Turkey Eating!

Into the Light

November 23rd, 2011
12:17 pm

Hey y’all.

Just wanted to check in and say hi and happy thanksgiving to all. Well, that and I’m taking a break from cleaning and packing. :)

disco, glad to see you made it back. I was afraid Stairwell Security had caught up with you!

Leggs, did you get those greens made? I’ll be by to get a bowl, and some pot likker. Oh, and if you could put some hot sauce, onions, and cornbread in my to-go bag, it would be much appreciated. I can see me now on the road to Cackalacky, eating greens and making a mess. :)

Sniffer!

November 23rd, 2011
12:23 pm

Reio!

nice post buddy

If u wanna get married(men) try going to church.

Church will make u meek(weak in street lingo)

That’s the character trait u need to deal with a woman(committed woman)

Yes baby,yes sweetie,yes darling …like that…..

If u not willing to succumb for the king haul to that kind of lunar manipulation/twists and turns by a woman,stay single.

Women (in the house) are HARD WORK

(not that I go to church that much but I know what’s required to be that kinda person)

Sniffer!

November 23rd, 2011
12:24 pm

Leggs

November 23rd, 2011
12:26 pm

@ITL ~ greens made, yams made, mac and cheese made. Now, my kitchen is a freaking mess. Flour everywhere. Don’t know what the heck possessed me to get up and make a cobbler from scratch. Haven’t made one in years. Shifting flour and cutting it with shortening is crazy. I don’t miss this part. I used to roll the dough with a glass. But, using this rolling pin is so much easier (LOLOL).

disco

November 23rd, 2011
12:29 pm

hey ITL – you know those rental cops/flashlight police can’t catch me.

leggs – peach cobbler. now that’s what’s up. I LOVES me some peach cobbler. my family, in general, are hounds for banana pudding and sweet potato pie but I love the cobbler and the pound cake.

Into the Light

November 23rd, 2011
12:30 pm

YUM! That sounds worth a detour! I have a feeling I’m going to have time to kill on 85, so I might as well have a plate packed. :)

I don’t know why, but I LOVE sifting flour. I love cranking that little handle and watching that fine flour drift into the bowl. And I never have mastered using the pastry cutter; I usually just use a fork instead. Works as well, and much easier to handle.

Get my plate ready, I’m on the way…

Sniffer!

November 23rd, 2011
12:31 pm

@disco?

I will do anything for my kid is an expression not a literal statement if intent.

just means u have ur kids best interest at heart!(morally good interests)

Going to jail for or taking the fall for ur kids ain’t parenthood! It’s actually abetting and aiding a crime and creating the wrong values in ur kids.

I think u need to loosen up a bit :lol:

Sniffer!

November 23rd, 2011
12:32 pm

Leggs

November 23rd, 2011
12:37 pm

Thanks, ITL, I meant sifting, not shifting (lol). As a child, I too loved cranking the handle and watching the fine flour sift through.

Celisea

November 23rd, 2011
12:38 pm

Leggs – LOLOLOL….not the police. I was about 5 years old and took a few rolls of Life Savers. My mama said you march right back in there and give them back. That was the end of that.

Celisea

November 23rd, 2011
12:39 pm

MMeello – I will do anything for my kid is an expression not a literal statement if intent.just means u have ur kids best interest at heart!(morally good interests)

Told ya man, sometimes you’re alright with me :)

Into the Light

November 23rd, 2011
12:39 pm

Okay, I really have to finish up here, if I’m going to make SC before dark.

Y’all be good, and have a great holiday!

disco

November 23rd, 2011
12:45 pm

sniffer – I owned that I tend to take things literally right up front. yeah – I know what folks mean but in discussion/debate I tend to pick words apart. don’t get me wrong I make figurative statements all the time but I still reserve the right to pick at literal ones if the mood suits me.

as for my being uptight – being called uptight doesn’t hurt me. folks tell me to loosen up/let my hair down all the time (my own momma says I need to smoke). I admit to being a little rigid. I’m cool with me.

DreamsMaterialize

November 23rd, 2011
1:33 pm

Leggs Keep a plate in the oven for me, especially that cobbler. Man, I love some peach cobbler. You making me feel like getting in the kitchen and burning. Ok feeling passed. lol

DreamsMaterialize

November 23rd, 2011
1:35 pm

Ok so what’s up with the chicks fighting in the beauty salon at Wally World? All that heat, perm, conditioner, relaxer, and weave got chicks going crazy. lol

Reio

November 23rd, 2011
1:36 pm

A good sweet potato pie does ot for me. Yum,yum!

Leggs

November 23rd, 2011
1:38 pm

My hands hurt.

@Celisea ~ when I saw the police eating I thought that could be used as a real life scared straight program for my lil crumb snatcher/book stealer.

@DreamsM ~ that feeling passed mighty quickly. :lol: I’m so loving having such a big jump on my cooking. Going to take the week off again next year (God willing I still have a job this time next year).

DreamsMaterialize

November 23rd, 2011
1:41 pm

that feeling passed mighty quickly.
Leggs I actually really like to cook. It’s the cleanup that I hate, and Thanksgiving cleanup is like no other.

SlimNu

November 23rd, 2011
1:43 pm

God willing and the creek don’t rise. lol

Dreams – Peach cobbler is one of my fav desserts. I just hate making it because I actually roll out my own dough for the crust. It’s much easier to order it from This is It :lol:

SexyCool

November 23rd, 2011
1:46 pm

Hey people!!!!!

Celisea

November 23rd, 2011
1:49 pm

Okay folks…we have the greenlight and why am I still here? I need to finish my potato soup and diet coke :) First stop…Phipps, next stop bbq shack :)

SexyCool

November 23rd, 2011
1:49 pm

Dreams – it wasn’t the beauty salon. It was the nail salon. And the person that ended up injured was the innocent bystander.

Thing is, from the description of how everything went down, if that chick had been in there acting like she was for as long as they said she was, I would have been ticked off that security/police were not called a lot sooner.

Celisea

November 23rd, 2011
1:50 pm

Annnnnd I just dropped the diet coke…great

Celisea

November 23rd, 2011
1:51 pm

They looked like straight alleybats. Folks know not to let NOTHING happen. There is always a phone somewhere catching it

SexyCool

November 23rd, 2011
1:53 pm

But typically, the Asian salon workers just talk sht about you in their language instead of addressing you directly. It happened to me a few months back. I was not satisfied with how this dude was doing my feet and I politely told him so. He got pissed off and started yelling at me in Vietnamese. This is a shop that I had patronized for several years across from West End Mall. I told Nina (the owner) that she needed to get someone else to service me.

After that day, I promised that I would not patronize a shop where English is not spoken if at all possible. Now, I go to the shop over in Camp Creek that is owned by someone that looks like me and who requires that English is spoken in her establishment. (Because most of her employees are Asian.)

Leggs

November 23rd, 2011
1:56 pm

@SlimNu ~ rolling out the dough is indeed work. Can you imagine doing it with a tall glass and not a rolling pin (lolol).

@SexyC/DreamsM ~ what happened at the nail salon??

SlimNu

November 23rd, 2011
1:58 pm

It trips me out when you patronize a business and they get upset that you won’t just accept anything ole kinda service. If you wanted a botched toe job, you could’ve stayed at home and done it yourself…not paid someone else to do a crappy job lol

cba

November 23rd, 2011
1:58 pm

DreamsM, I just discovered that Wally World is in my hood, less than 10 mins away……just dam!!
Why did they allow the woman to raise hell for half an hour before calling the POlice???

Alright Leggs, as the ole folks used to say, you putting yo foots in that dinner (lol)
One of my wife’s uncle would say, he gotta take his shirt off to enjoy that meal.

SlimNu

November 23rd, 2011
2:00 pm

Leggs – A tall glass…oh heyal nawwww! lol I’d rather use one of those mini Braves baseball bats before having to use a glass. But you work with what you’ve got I suppose ;-) I miss making homemade biscuits with my mom back in the day. She used to let my sister and I cut the dough with a glass dipped in flower. Awww, the days.

DreamsMaterialize

November 23rd, 2011
2:02 pm

it wasn’t the beauty salon. It was the nail salon. And the person that ended up injured was the innocent bystander.
SexyC My bad, the nail salon. Man those fumes got chicks going crazy. j/k lol I feel bad for the young girl though. Wrong place, wrong time

Now, I go to the shop over in Camp Creek that is owned by someone that looks like me.
SexyC Funny, I’ve had this conversation lots of times, and it’s amazing how many women have outright told me they won’t go to a nail salon unless it’s Asians doing it, even if the quality were the same. If that’s not self-loathing, I don’t know what is. I’m not surprised you made that choice though. You seem to be a smart and reasonable woman…certainly WAY smarter than the chickadees I’ve had that convo with. lol

SexyCool

November 23rd, 2011
2:04 pm

Leggs – you should be able to see footage of the fight on Channel 2’s website.

SexyCool

November 23rd, 2011
2:12 pm

Dreams – I used to like going to that shop just because of Nina – a real cool chick. But, I’m not going to be taking her my money and when she has employees acting the ass.

I used to be the chick that wouldn’t wait in a nail shop. Hell, there are usually three within rock throwing distance of each other. So, if I walked in and there was a wait, I would just go to the next one.

But now, I will wait a reasonable time for service in the salon at Camp Creek. (lol)

Leggs

November 23rd, 2011
2:16 pm

Thanks, SexyC.

@SlimNu ~ when I started making cobbler, I didn’t own a rolling pin nor a bat. Heck, the thought never entered my mind. The person who taught me how to make cobbler told me I have surpassed her cobbler. Now, that’s a compliment. The Teacher and her Grasshopper. I morphed into a Master (lol).

DreamsMaterialize

November 23rd, 2011
2:27 pm

Conference call at 3pm…really!

disco

November 23rd, 2011
2:33 pm

i am still here.

Reio

November 23rd, 2011
2:39 pm

Don’t nothing bout nails,toes, weaves, Asians ….I saw the video on the internet though.

DreamsMaterialize

November 23rd, 2011
2:49 pm

i am still here.
disco Me too. I’m about to open up the blog bar. What you in the mood for?

SlimNu

November 23rd, 2011
2:51 pm

Leggs – You’re a master Cobblererrerrrr lol

Leggs

November 23rd, 2011
2:52 pm

I need a drank…double please.

disco

November 23rd, 2011
3:00 pm

drank? did someone say drank? dreams – you goin’ buy me a drank? now that’s what I’m talking about. I could go for a shot of jack. thanks man.

DreamsMaterialize

November 23rd, 2011
3:05 pm

Double it is Leggs. I got you disco…double shot of Jack. Double of Don Julio for me.

Leggs

November 23rd, 2011
3:15 pm

@cba ~ hey there. How have you been? Happy Thanksgiving!

I’m really trying to put my big toe in this dinner. My greedy child already took a bowl of my yams.

Leggs

November 23rd, 2011
3:17 pm

Although NaVan is my sipping drink, give me a double of Brandy and a Budweiser. I’m in that mood.

SexyCool

November 23rd, 2011
3:27 pm

What?!? They’ve still got y’all chained to the desk? Dayum, man….

I can’t even complain. I didn’t get to the office until almost 1p. Venue meeting with planner.

SexyCool

November 23rd, 2011
3:27 pm

Picadilly’s food always looks so much better than it tastes.

Leggs

November 23rd, 2011
3:33 pm

There fried fish is always good.

Leggs

November 23rd, 2011
3:33 pm

SexyCool

November 23rd, 2011
3:35 pm

I guess I need to start eating fish, huh? (lol)

Into the Light

November 23rd, 2011
3:36 pm

Traffic is awful on 85. And yes, I am in the car.

SlimNu

November 23rd, 2011
3:37 pm

I’m still here until 5…Friday only work till 12. As far as Piccadilly, they are aight but I like Cracker Barrel much better.

Leggs

November 23rd, 2011
3:38 pm

Girl, stop blogging while driving, even if you’re in traffic. Are you insane! Grasshopper, you need to go back to driving school (lol)….

Leggs

November 23rd, 2011
3:39 pm

BTW, SexyC ~ their corn is always mushy and tasteless.

SexyCool

November 23rd, 2011
3:45 pm

So were the black eyed peas…blechk….

SexyCool

November 23rd, 2011
3:46 pm

My boss just gave me the all clear. But I’ve got some wedding stuff to do. (lol)

And if traffic is as bad as I think it is, ITL may as well be blogging cause she’s certainly not moving. :)

Into the Light

November 23rd, 2011
3:47 pm

lol@Leggs. We’re not moving!

Leggs

November 23rd, 2011
3:52 pm

Wish Picadilly would bring back the Talipia with shrimp sauce on top. That was delicious.

SlimNu

November 23rd, 2011
3:57 pm

Where on 85 is the traffic backed up?

SexyCool

November 23rd, 2011
4:04 pm

We looked at a possible venue today. That would accomodate the non-traditional wedding idea that I initially came up with. We will also be looking at the Cascade Club for a wedding that would be in the current traditional style wedding. At last, but not least, we are looking at a country church type venue that would take us in a totally different direction.

Into the Light

November 23rd, 2011
4:08 pm

slim, from spaghetti junction and north

Leggs

November 23rd, 2011
4:12 pm

Our bartender only allowed us to have one drink before he booked.

SlimNu

November 23rd, 2011
4:48 pm

ITL – Good, I don’t have to go that far north

Leggs

November 23rd, 2011
4:56 pm

HAPPY THANKSGIVING EVERYONE!

Remember what you’re thankful and strive to maintain!!!

SlimNu

November 25th, 2011
8:51 am

Hello? (echo: hello, hello)…..Anybody in here? (echo Anybody in here)

Celisea

November 25th, 2011
8:55 am

Hellooo ello ello ello….I’m here :) I can’t believe WD took off today…lol

Celisea

November 25th, 2011
8:56 am

Bootleg blogging I see it will be today…any other folks out there lurking?

SlimNu

November 25th, 2011
9:02 am

How was your Turkey day Celisea? Looks like, so far it’s just you and I?

Celisea

November 25th, 2011
9:09 am

It was fantab…met the CUTEST guy while having breakfast with my kid. She kept leaning in saying, mama he’s checking you out…lol My kid’s “guy” came over, quite mannerable I must say. It was a PRETTY GOOD DAY….overall.

How was your turkey day? Did you cook?

Celisea

November 25th, 2011
9:11 am

Between Christmas music playing NONSTOP until 12/25 and no one blogging but just us and possibly having to literally work all day, ummm Imma need to take something to get me through…lol

SlimNu

November 25th, 2011
9:19 am

I’m being drowned by Christmas Music already and I’m not really a big fan of it anyway. Bah humbug i know

SlimNu

November 25th, 2011
9:21 am

It was just me and the beau so I actually just ordered some food from Cracker Barrel. Well, did you exchange numbers with the CUTEST guy?

Celisea

November 25th, 2011
9:38 am

Sounds cozy and nice to me :) Let me tell you. We went to the WH on the E/W Connector because it’s always nice and clean and still fairly new. Anyway, I walk in and I have this phobia about eating near the restroom and the only available seats were on that side soooo, we opted for the counter. There were two seats next to one guy so I asked if we oculd sit there and he was cool with it. So he and I chatted a bit but the cute dude was at the counter as well but a couple of seats away. Anyway to get in on the convo the cute guy leans back to say “ummm, you know this is VIP section right” so I said…the only reason I’m sitting here…and we all laugh. Anyway the dude right next to me left and there was the cute dude and 2 seats between. So again, my kid to my right is whispering “mama he keeps looking at you.” Well I can tell he’s regular fixture there because they’re calling him by first name and women in there were giddy to bring him I guess what they know he likes. So one lady brings a glass of hot water with his silverware in it. So I give him an opening and say…”that’s interesting, never thought to do that” and he says “oh yeah, no other way will I eat”….and it goes from there. So he starts talking about world matters and gets into what he does and I’m agreeing and something related…as it relates to my job so that prompts him to ask where work. He says “Really? I have an interview with your company Friday (today)” Said he worked here about 4 years ago and had a call from a recruiter Wednesday and that they wanted to know even though the holidays, if he could come in for an interview today. So we talk some more. By that time my kid has moved but still within ear shot and he asks if that’s my kid and she says…”tell him about me mama (her plans for the day)” so we talk and he laughs and asks her questions about her guy friend and tell her what to expect, what to tolerate (from boys) and what not…so forth and so on. Well I’ve already overheard him talking to the waitresses there and found out he was divorced with custody of a 10 year old. Anway we talked about 30 minutes after we’re both done eating and he says “let me walk you out” By this time the kid is in the car and we’re talking and upon ending the convo he says “so I’ll see you around here?” Posed in the form of a question and I dunno, I didn’t say it (giving out my number or asking for his). We ended the convo WITH NO NUMBERS EXCHANGED…and he was a hawtie too. Anyway I get in the car and my kid say “mama….why didn’t he just ask for the number?” Still, nice guy, nice convo.

SlimNu

November 25th, 2011
9:46 am

WHOA!!! That makes me giddy just reading about it but i’m sure you were all smiles leaving there but still wondering if you two would ever meet again. Maybe he was a bit nervous to ask for the number outright?? Didn’t want to ruin the vibe yall had going with that numbers thing lol

Celisea

November 25th, 2011
9:47 am

I’m not big on too much Christmas music either…I know bah humbug

Celisea

November 25th, 2011
9:51 am

You know Slim…I was kicking myself because he seemed like a pretty cool guy. Said he had custody of his daughter. Her mom was in town and asked me what I thought about all of them (her family is here) getting together. Said he wasn’t sure about her motives. I said well for your daughter’s sake you should do it and no matter her motives you stick with yours and doing the right thing and sending the right message. Maybe I’ll go back there and eat. I told him so you’re just a regular fixture here. He laughed and said he’s there often but was there that morning to give back for the daughter and mom to spend time together. He asked me if I cooked and I looked at him and asked “do I look like I might have cooked”…he laughed and say heck yeah. Anyway he told me he’d already finished his turkey and greens. Said he had a couple of things he would cook after his morning workout. I know I’m kicking myself. I’m not really moved easily so every now and again someone knocks me over.

SlimNu

November 25th, 2011
9:53 am

Well, maybe you will meet again, especially if he ends up getting a position with your company. Is your company a place where you two might run into one another?

Celisea

November 25th, 2011
9:56 am

I hope so…you don’t hear me saying that. I’m going there Saturday for breakfast (I know..I’m fast). You know I don’t think so because the company is so big. Funny thing, the area he’s interviewing with, my department have close relations. That’s a pretty big team so I’m not sure we’d chance running into one another…but you never know.