Dating: Mixed signals
Most of us have been subjected to the mixed signals of dating. You get a green light, then you get a red one. Things get red hot, then suddenly they turn cold. What gives?!
A friend of mine is dating a guy who only kicks up his efforts when she acts as if she is not interested in him. She will ignore his calls and text messages for a few days and put him on the back burner. That is when he kicks it into high gear and pursues her more. Their most romantic dates usually occur after she decides he is out of her life.
Perhaps it is about having a challenge; maybe he is dating multiple people and wants to keep her in the mix. Do you think that mixed signals is really just a sign that someone is being played?
What do you do when the person you are seeing starts to get a little flaky and inconsistent? If you really like them, do you try to be a little patient or can mixed signals be the deal breaker?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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MzNewy
November 22nd, 2011
8:42 am
Mixed signals usually indicate the person is unsure of the pursuit. Thus they get put on the back burner. Why make someone a priority when you are only an option? It means they are more than likely dating someone else and want to keep you around just in case things don’t work out with the number one…
MsMarriedUp
November 22nd, 2011
9:06 am
Just to note: the behaviors that go on in dating are the same things that happen in marriages…which brings me to noticing this in my marriage. When I’m nice and sweet, he can sometimes act the complete you-know-what. But when I got the ass, then the roles reservse. Once I did ask him about this.
“Why do I have to be mean for you to be sweet?” He didn’t have an answer.
Internet Guy c(._.)o
November 22nd, 2011
9:11 am
“It means they are more than likely dating someone else and want to keep you around just in case things don’t work out with the number one…”
I agree with this. Also, it is very immature and somewhat disrespectful to treat someone that way.
I have seen the same type of behavior from women who like to keep a well-intentioned guy in the “friend zone” and string them along in order to use them (favors, pay for a dinner, more).
When someone does that, call them out on it, and prepare to move one.
It’s a sure sign of someone with a) alterior motives, b) selfish or self-centered personality, c) the wrong priorities and someone who has little concern for the feelings of others.
No thanks. Plenty of women out there who will treat a guy right. Why waste time on a woman who’s so “high school.”
I’m tired of this kind of stuff.
DreamsMaterialize
November 22nd, 2011
9:11 am
Morning
Mixed signals could mean the other person isn’t interested, or it could mean that you’re misinterpreting the signals as mixed. Sometimes we just over-analyze things and make them way more complicated than they really are.
disco
November 22nd, 2011
9:20 am
good morning guys. glad to see I’m not the only one here today. looks like it might be slow one.
Audra
November 22nd, 2011
9:27 am
Hello!
Generally, I find that guys who are giving mixed signals are either keeping you around as their “Plan B” or are actively seeing someone else and don’t want you to know it. If a guy wants to be with you, he will. If he’s playing mind games, there’s a reason. I was letting myself be led around by a dude who was sending mixed signals for over a year. Finally I realized that I was his “Plan B.” Screw that – who wants to be second best? I’ve since given him the boot.
Mike P
November 22nd, 2011
9:30 am
Good Morning All,
I can’t speak for all men, but when I give off mixed signals: Its usually when I meet a women I’m sexually attracted to (fleeting) and only have one thing on my mind while the woman has romantic interests in me (on-going). When I’m sexually aroused and its been a minute for me, I’m on fire with her but when I’m good sexually speaking and she wants to do romantic stuff with me I started to feel crowded and annoyed (to hate me for that, can’t help it). This is especially true when I have no romantic interests in her whatsoever.
The rap lyric from Rocko comes to mind: We ain’t going steady! We jus’ mess-around!
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
9:32 am
Good morning,
Back at work….boooo (no really…glad to have a job)
On topic: I’m not okay with mix signals and I try as much as possible to not send any. If I feel the signals are mixed or not sure the direction in which the whole thing is headed, I’m going ask…pointblank. If I cannot get a solid answer, as I admit I could be the one misunderstanding or misinterpreting, I will move on or away from the situation. I won’t dangle though until you can decide. I would think if it’s really not what’s perceived, a conversation will easily clear things up.
I think many many times people simply aren’t sure…and that’s okay. The other side of that coin is it’s not fair to have a person in limbo and you can’t have it both ways. Every person that really do send mix signals knows in their heart of heart they’re unsure. If you want to hold that spot with a person you have to act on your intentions. Can’t sit on your hands and hope for the best.
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
9:35 am
MikeP – I think that’s about as honest as it gets. I think that probably happens with many men.
Audra – You too are spot on. If I think at the slightest I’m plan B, I’m not waiting. I will give you an opportunity to help me out. If not I’m moving on. Sometimes you don’t want to but you have to keep self first and foremost.
Robert
November 22nd, 2011
9:37 am
“can mixed signals be the deal breaker?”
Guys beware….What might seem like a innocent jesture might be preceived as “mixed signals”. For example older women between the ages of 40-50 who have alot of experience might judge your actions against someones else’s. The men in their lives may have had a tramatic effect on them (lied, cheated, etc.)which will make them suspect every little thing you do. I prefer to be judged by my actions not what somebody else did. Avoiding sending “mixed signals” requires trust and respect for any relationship to succeed.
Mike P
November 22nd, 2011
9:39 am
I can see how a guy would do these kinds of things; but what I don’t get is why do women do it… Its a man’s game. SOME and not ALL women get emotionally attached to the man they having sex with, so why play it like I man. When I women give me mixed signals; I usually go in the other direction, unless she’s HOT!!!
Leggs
November 22nd, 2011
9:41 am
Good morning.
Mixed signals, hot then cold, simply lets me know he’s not really into me and probably have a few others in the mix. I’m not on the back burner for anyone other than my child.
@Audra ~ are you say you are now solo and have come to grips with the fact that you two are not in sync?
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
9:42 am
Well I don’t do the sex thing with no relationship….I will get attached. I don’t even try and trick my ownself with that one…lol I understand some say they can, but I’m of the belief that that’s how we’re designed.
Into the Light
November 22nd, 2011
9:45 am
Good morning, all!
ITL’s LIfe Lesson #726: Don’t treat someone like a priority, who treats you like an option.
@Mike P: Wow. That was real talk in your 9:30.
Into the Light
November 22nd, 2011
9:46 am
Sometimes we just over-analyze things and make them way more complicated than they really are.
This can happen, but I say trust your gut. If you feel that something is off kilter, it probably is.
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
9:49 am
ITL – but I say trust your gut. If you feel that something is off kilter, it probably is
True…intuition is on automatic. You’re gut feeling will NEVER lead you wrong. Too, being over-analytical is no crime neither should be a deal breaker. If asking questions is “asking too much” something is not right.
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
9:51 am
Robert – You only date older women? You said you turned 35 but all of your posts seem to reference the “older women” crowd. No biggie just something I noticed.
disco
November 22nd, 2011
9:52 am
in a twisted sort of way a mixed signal is about as direct a signal as you can get. think about it.
when meeting new guys I generally put it out there that if any woman (wife/girlfriend/baby momma) calls me questioning what my number is doing in his phone she will get an earful even if I have to make something up. this is beneficial because a lot of men are sloppy and a lot of women are snoops and the guys know this. this doesn’t always keep the two timers and double dippers away but they know that getting involved with me raises the stakes a bit. I’ll let a creeper know that he’s creeping – not me. I’ll have all your business in the street. most realize I’m probably not the one for them.
celisea – a lot of folks agree that women get emotionally attached when sex is involved. on a level I agree it’s true of many women but I’m not one of them. i am totally capable of swinging by his spot (don’t bring that mess into my own home – let him wash his sheets in the morning), handling business, getting dressed and rolling out. in my honest opinion, while a lot of guys will say that’s ideal I think they feel some kind of way when you up and leave them like that.
Into the Light
November 22nd, 2011
9:57 am
while a lot of guys will say that’s ideal I think they feel some kind of way when you up and leave them like that.
Guys?? How would you/have you felt when a woman did this?
Fion
November 22nd, 2011
10:00 am
@disco
“guys will say that’s ideal I think they feel some kind of way when you up and leave them like that.”
I can honestly say it is an ideal situation.
Audra
November 22nd, 2011
10:00 am
Hey Leggs! Yes, I am SOLO! Dating here and there, but nothing serious. I would like to find The One, but haven’t been divorced for all that long, and I’m kind of liking the single life though at times it’s lonely. The dude who was sending the mixed signals was my “starter” thing right after the split from the ex. I was wounded and needed attention. When I got stronger I realized that dude is a playa…
@Mike P: Women do it for the same reasons men do it! Although I will say that after sex becomes involved, you’re right, we do get attached. But when a dude is in the friend zone or my Plan B? I’ve been guilty of mixed signal in that situation, sorry to say…
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
10:04 am
disco – Kudos to you lady. For me it’s not even an overwhelming thing that happens….as it relates to feelings. It’s just when we (being relationship we) reach a certain level and intimacy is a given or next, I’m already filled with the warm fuzzies and stuff. Maybe too because for me sex is not typically off the rip. I’ve had time to marinate in the joy juice of spending time and feeling each other. Not being funny or knocking anyone, I’ve just never had sex like “right away.” I think that’s probably too the reason feelings have an opportunity to get rolled up in there.
I think if I would have had times where sex was quick or early on (not judging anyone), then I would know for certain if I could or couldn’t. As it stands…from my experience, I simply can’t.
SexyCool
November 22nd, 2011
10:04 am
Yeah…no…mixed signals = dealbreaker.
Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB
November 22nd, 2011
10:06 am
What up folks, there is no such thing as a mixed signal, u know what you see, trust your eyes and ears, your heart will lie to you, becuase it is concerned with its own agenda.
Disco/ITL, to your statement/question, it depends on the woman, most guys would like to be the one who leaves in the wee hours, u don’t want to be lookin like Eddie was in Boomerang.
Leggs
November 22nd, 2011
10:08 am
Cool, Audra. Be careful. You’ll get stronger each day. Just don’t settle.
If I decided to have a Plan B and make a bootay call, please get dress and leave afterwards. I wouldn’t want you hanging around for breakfast the next morning. Watching you getting up and getting dressed to leave is a pleasing sight for me.
Leggs
November 22nd, 2011
10:10 am
Chat with you guys later, going to by food for my Thanksgiving dinner
Into the Light
November 22nd, 2011
10:12 am
Have fun, Leggs!
Audra
November 22nd, 2011
10:12 am
Ha! Funny, Leggs.
disco
November 22nd, 2011
10:12 am
fion – a friend of mine just recently employed the love him and leave him method and said old boy has been blowing up all of her methods of communication ever since. of course they had previously dated, broke up and he got with another chick. I think my girl went over there specifically intending to put it down to prove a point.
I watched heat the other night and as always got a kick out of deniro’s line about not having anything in his life he couldn’t walk away from in 30 seconds flat. I love and appreciate the folks/relationships in my life but if it ain’t right I can step.
jake – I know. I think that’s part of it. when a guy gets to leave he’s thinking he just put it down on her but when roles are reversed, well I don’t know exactly what a guy thinks when roles are reversed. I know I’ve had them call whining about why did you leave.
Into the Light
November 22nd, 2011
10:13 am
Jake, if I’m reading you correctly, you’re saying that it depends on what feelings you have or don’t have for the other person?
DreamsMaterialize
November 22nd, 2011
10:13 am
This can happen, but I say trust your gut. If you feel that something is off kilter, it probably is.
ITL Yep, that’s what I was saying. Sometimes the simple answer (gut) is the answer. Sometimes the signals aren’t really all that mixed. We just don’t want to accept what the signals are saying. lol
Fion
November 22nd, 2011
10:16 am
@ITL
as long as we both know that’s the deal going in, for the man it’s ideal.
it’s like being on the craps table and you’re shootin’ with house money. You can’t lose.
Purple Reign
November 22nd, 2011
10:18 am
“What do you do when the person you are seeing starts to get a little flaky and inconsistent? If you really like them, do you try to be a little patient or can mixed signals be the deal breaker?”
When a person gets inconsistent or flaky…I usually just get quiet and watch and let them contact me after things settle I assess all that has happened and make my decision then. If they were just not sure about us and needed to work some thing out I am onboard…but if it’s just emotional flip flops I back away. Also, when a person is flaky I tend to hold my feelings in because I am not sure of theirs.
Into the Light
November 22nd, 2011
10:19 am
it’s like being on the craps table and you’re shootin’ with house money. You can’t lose.
Until a woman backs it up on the dance floor and violates you….
Sorry, Fion, I couldn’t resist….
Fion
November 22nd, 2011
10:22 am
……see man. you just ain’t right.
Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB
November 22nd, 2011
10:25 am
ITL, you got it…if she is just a nightfighter, u will be cool with her gettin the hellz on, but if its a piece that you really enjoyed or want to enjoy more, you might feel a little insecure, especially if you don’t feel like you gave a championship performance.
disco
November 22nd, 2011
10:30 am
dreams – that’s pretty much what I meant when I said mixed signals are, in themselves, pretty direct.
good one ITL.
personally, I’ve always been a little abrasive or rough around the edges. I’m not overly emotional and far from clingy. friends and I have joked for years that I’ll know I’ve met the man for me when he tells me to shut up and I do it. this is the joke because ordinarily I’m a mouthpiece and would definitely not shut up. The ex (I guess it’s official now since we let the relationship fizzle out slowly) came by over the weekend to change outdoor bulbs and air filters etc. we went to breakfast, chilled for a bit and he left. not 5 minutes after leaving he called talking about how much he missed me and missed spending time and blah blah blah. I could have responded in kind and made him feel good but I was just like “you brought it on yourself”. I won’t deny that I was thinking about giving him some for the road but he’ll never know it.
Mike P
November 22nd, 2011
10:33 am
g’bye Leggs… get your thanksgiving day stuff done
To the Blog women: you’d be surprised what men will do for someone special, keep y’all s standards high ladies!
Robert
November 22nd, 2011
10:33 am
@Celisea – I date women between the ages of 30-50 range. I prefer a mature woman who enjoys the company of a mature man. The example I gave in my comments (women 40-50) reflects my opinion dating women in that age range who are quicker to react to “mixed signals” based on their life experiences which may or may not be true.
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
10:34 am
Robert – Up to 50? Really…cool on your range. Gotcha
Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB
November 22nd, 2011
10:36 am
Disco….u should have gave him a shot, but, he over there changing bulbs and whatnot, guess u got it, “in the jar” if needed…u wrong for that though.
Into the Light
November 22nd, 2011
10:39 am
Awww, Fion….. I’m sending you a blog hug. ((((Fion))))
disco
November 22nd, 2011
10:42 am
jake – whatever. he brought it on himself.
mike p – ain’t that the truth (re what men will do for someone special). throughout my life I’ve witnessed the ex-girlfriend whining and crying re “he didn’t do that for me”. heck, I was even that chick once way back when. that’s a good lesson to learn early.
abc
November 22nd, 2011
10:42 am
Anyone shopping Black Friday?
Fion
November 22nd, 2011
10:43 am
@disco
You’re not foolin’ me. underneath you are a softy. You just faking the hard thing.
I
SexyCool
November 22nd, 2011
10:43 am
Robert – would you give an example of an acceptable mixed signal? Or a reason a mixed signal should be deemed acceptable?
Because quite frankly, if I even have to wonder about a mixed signal, then I’m already ready to let you move on. And that should actually apply regardless of age.
Sassy Me...Black Koffy no Sugar no Cream ;-)
November 22nd, 2011
10:44 am
I think my girl went over there specifically intending to put it down to prove a point.
Yes she did and from the sounds of things it worked..he who loves less controls the relationship it seems.
I know I’ve had them call whining about why did you leave.
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
10:44 am
If one says “no mixed signals here”…..I guess then it becomes a matter of perception. Yous versus theirs. However, a person’s perception is their reality. What you think you’re projecting is nowhere near what’s perceived. What I’m perceiving is nowhere neat what you feel you are projecting…..hmmmmmm
SexyCool
November 22nd, 2011
10:45 am
abc – I have some very specific items on a list that IF there are Black Friday deals that apply, I may venture out. Otherwise, just being out to be out in that madness, I’ll pass.
Oh…and the deals that I am looking for will be at stores that typically don’t have large BF crowds….like Staples. (lol)
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
10:47 am
if I even have to wonder about a mixed signal, then I’m already ready to let you move on.
Exactly. And IMO, if it’s really misconception, rather than risk missing out, is he or she willing to make it just a little clearer for you to stay? If you’re not REALLY seeing what you’re seeing…lol
Sassy Me...Black Koffy no Sugar no Cream ;-)
November 22nd, 2011
10:48 am
Anyone shopping Black Friday?
Yessir…and not b/c I have to. Since some of the stores will be opening early, my friends and I are going to hit the club after T-day dinner/festivities and either go eat breakfast n then go or just hit the mall straigt from the partay. I’ll be in Chucktown so the weather will be nice n mild. Can’t wait
SexyCool
November 22nd, 2011
10:50 am
Yep…to all of that, Cel. (I understood it…lol)
And IF it’s a simple matter of a miscommunication (because they do happen), well, you should be able to clear that up, right?
Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB
November 22nd, 2011
10:50 am
Fion….you beat me to it
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
10:50 am
Robert – (women 40-50) reflects my opinion dating women in that age range who are quicker to react to “mixed signals”
Would I be wrong to interpret this to say older women have learn when and when not to stick around….for bs
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
10:52 am
SexyC – well, you should be able to clear that up, right?
In a spoken word…lol
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
10:53 am
I’m not shopping BF, I’ll be here all by my lonesome. My kid though wants me to take her shopping Wednesday for new boots that she’s vowed to pay me back. She worked a full week since school is out and she usually pulls 200-300 bucks on a full week. So ummm, why not. I know she’s trying to get as cute as possible for the knucklehead that’s coming over.
Robert
November 22nd, 2011
10:55 am
@SexyCool – “would you give an example of an acceptable mixed signal? Or a reason a mixed signal should be deemed acceptable?”
We are in the holiday season and during this time of year people are prown to send “mixed signals” because of their busy lifestyles. For example if you are in a new relationship and for the first time you both are planning time to be together problems might arise if one of you are recently divorced but have kids and have multiple families to consider. Your partner might get “mixed signals” wondering if the relationship is worth all the hassle it takes to deal with the ex and extended families. Another good example is when you meet your partners friends, both male and female. Your partner may feel “mixed signals” if your old friend(s) decides to embrace you with a warm kiss and hug. Some people may see this as a harmless jesture while others may have “mixed signals”. The holidays are full of opportunities to send “mixed signals” which hopefully are not deal breakers.
Sassy Me...Black Koffy no Sugar no Cream ;-)
November 22nd, 2011
11:00 am
wha?
SexyCool
November 22nd, 2011
11:01 am
Scenario 1 – if you are recently divorced and still working out those kinds of issues, should you really be dating.
Scenario 2 – if someone greets you in an inappropriate manner and you don’t immediately address the issue or take steps to “right the air,” well, um…..really, there is nothing to say really except “Next!”
Into the Light
November 22nd, 2011
11:01 am
huh?
Purple Reign
November 22nd, 2011
11:01 am
I can’t think of anything that I can’t buy off of the internet. LOL I used to not trust internet shopping but now Amazon is my buddy!
SexyCool
November 22nd, 2011
11:02 am
Sassy – I had to read it two or three times. (lol)
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
11:02 am
Hello Purple
Purple Reign
November 22nd, 2011
11:03 am
Robert, those things should be handled upfront.
SexyCool
November 22nd, 2011
11:04 am
Scenario 1 sounds like childcare issues or where the child/children is/are going to be for the holiday. Or a situation where the ex may be there and it’s going to be to uncomfortable to bring a date.
SexyCool
November 22nd, 2011
11:05 am
Too uncomfortable…that is…
Sassy Me...Black Koffy no Sugar no Cream ;-)
November 22nd, 2011
11:13 am
I had to read it two or three times.
Yeah that almost read like a Rubix cube…
SexyCool
November 22nd, 2011
11:27 am
If even the example is too complicated, it would certainly make sense to question involvement in the situation at all.
I think it is a smart dating decision, if at the outset, you determine whether or not a person’s situation is too complicated for you. Matter of fact, that’s just a smart life decision period.
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
11:39 am
Yaaaah, my new coworker brought me a pair of cultured pearl earrings…FROM CHINA. Yaaah, she’s gonna fit in reaaaal well here…lol
SlimNu
November 22nd, 2011
11:45 am
always got a kick out of deniro’s line about not having anything in his life he couldn’t walk away from in 30 seconds flat
disco – Reminds me of something I once read: The higher you build the walls around your heart, the harder you fall when someone tears them down.
SexyCool
November 22nd, 2011
11:49 am
Shortly before I invited Shthead to leave, he made a statement that he could have everything he owned out of the apartment in less than three hours.
On the morning that I issued his invitation to get the phck out, I said to him, “Last month, you told me that you could have everything of yours out of this apartment in three hours. I’ma give you eight. I want you gone by the time I get home from work this evening.”
Sniffer!
November 22nd, 2011
11:52 am
Mixed signals?
Met her,she seems nice but u can’t be really sure about her….so u not going at the same speed like when u approached and pursued her. So u kinda take it slow…not call as frequently ad u did…it happens…at the same time the chic may be sold on u…and she gets ansty coz he seems tentative.
Scenario Two…..after u get some(after the renowned three month rule)
U realize it’s not All that….as on the bill of sale…
Give a man time to recalibrate to see Exactly what he got…
Mixed signals can also be a juggling tool…he’s somewhere else….
@disco…if he’s single it don’t matter where u break bread…but ur bed is preferable.
@Celisea,girl loosen up….u too tight fisted(legged)
Happy Thanks Giving!
disco
November 22nd, 2011
11:59 am
I like that slim nu. it made me think of deliver us from eva – not sure why – when dude said they gave eva a cross necklace and “the next day, jesus was gone”.
sniffer – a jumpoff type situation will never go down in my house. that’s bringing the wrong type energy into my home. if I get into a jumpoff situation it will have to go down elsewhere.
Purple Reign
November 22nd, 2011
12:01 pm
Hello Celisea!
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
12:32 pm
Mmeello – @Celisea,girl loosen up….u too tight fisted(legged)
Which is it? What should I be…wh@ore or nun?
SexyCool
November 22nd, 2011
12:35 pm
Just had to give props to TheDude….the first Thanksgiving that we were together, I prepared the ENTIRE Thanksgiving dinner – that HE requested without any help at all. The night before, I slaved in the kitchen, over the sink and the hot stove, and I complained my ass off.
Last year, he was right there with me, doing prep work.
Today, he is at the house, peeling the potatoes for the candied yams, sweet potato pies and the potato salad.
I so love that Dude!!!
disco
November 22nd, 2011
12:38 pm
SCool – sounds like he learned a lesson and this year he’ll be thankful that he didn’t have to listen to you complain the whole while you fixed dinner.
SexyCool
November 22nd, 2011
12:44 pm
He learned very well. And I didn’t think I complained *that* much that first year. However, his memory of my complaints is obviously great motivation. (lol)
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
12:56 pm
Mmeello – I just reread you 11:52…you spend an awful lot of time in your head thinking…lol
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
12:56 pm
What happened to the flow? Things were moving along nicely.
Sassy Me...Black Koffy no Sugar no Cream ;-)
November 22nd, 2011
1:07 pm
Who knows Celisea..I’ve gotta go back in the lab for a min and then I’m ouuuuuut..
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
1:08 pm
Sassy, girl I almost hopped in your trunk when you mentioned your holiday line-up. Shoot I ain’t mad, go on and get out and get your holiday started
SexyCool
November 22nd, 2011
1:11 pm
Sassy – I pictured you saying that like Taye Diggs in The Best Man when he said that he was going to blow Nina Long’s back ouuuuuuut!
(lol)
LeeH1
November 22nd, 2011
1:16 pm
This is a holdover from earlier days. To see this as a form of humor, watch old movies with Doris Day. She was an expert in being pursued, and then giving mixed, and sometimes hostile signals, to men. Laughter usually resulted.
Sassy Me...Black Koffy no Sugar no Cream ;-)
November 22nd, 2011
1:18 pm
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
1:20 pm
I see how this is going to be…just me and a couple of others dragging the blog along during the holiday week…lol Like making stuff up to talk about. That’s alright come December I’m out half the month.
Sassy Me...Black Koffy no Sugar no Cream ;-)
November 22nd, 2011
1:21 pm
go on and get out and get your holiday started
Okay?!
Sassy Me...Black Koffy no Sugar no Cream ;-)
November 22nd, 2011
1:22 pm
That’s alright come December I’m out half the month.
Now see…you ain’t have to throw it in our faces like that…but I ain’t mad atcha..
SexyCool
November 22nd, 2011
1:22 pm
I want to….but…gotta work….gotta work….
I know, Cel, I’ve been sitting on my hands to keep from talking to myself.
Fion
November 22nd, 2011
1:22 pm
Another slow news day. Let me ask this.
Ladies, when you’re out with your girls and you run into a crew of guys.
3-of you 3-of them. How do you figure out who to make a play for?
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
1:23 pm
Actually Sassy I thought I had “plans” but ummm not so much now so even then I guess it’s shop til you drop or passout…lol I’m sure though I can find plenty to do.
Sassy Me...Black Koffy no Sugar no Cream ;-)
November 22nd, 2011
1:24 pm
Alright…gotta go in the lab n do some work. If I don’t have a chance to come back before I go, HAVE A HAPPY THANKSGIVING BLOG FAMILIA!!!!!!!
peace
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
1:24 pm
SexyC – I know, Cel, I’ve been sitting on my hands to keep from talking to myself.
Funny how hard it is…lol
Leggs
November 22nd, 2011
1:27 pm
What’s going on. Still mixed signals…I’m a little like disco. Perhaps too blunt for my own good, but my directness has helped reduce foolishness from many a man!
SexyCool
November 22nd, 2011
1:31 pm
I received this notice on FB – “cuzz i goin to get married”
I’m cringing…(lol)
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
1:34 pm
I keep “almost” typing something and then erasing and refreshing…lol
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
1:37 pm
I haven’t done anything to my hair since going to the salon last week. Today it’s flat. I’m a “volume” girl. It’s time for another appoint in a couple of days.
I’m wearing a new skirt that I bought over a month ago. Today I decided to wear it. I was saving for a special occasion but…I’m special so I wore it. It feels nice on
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
1:39 pm
Annnnnd, I got it for 24.99…CLEARANCE. It started out for $129.00
Leggs
November 22nd, 2011
1:41 pm
That’s a damn good steal, Celisea.
Into the Light
November 22nd, 2011
1:44 pm
Heeeellooooo?????
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
1:44 pm
Oh, and the CFO called this morning and got all hot in the collar with me because I didn’t spaze out over some rep that pretty much wouldn’t hop through hoops for her. I didn’t either so she got mad with me. I escalated to that team’s executive box……to cover my behind. Don’t trust her being as mad as she was cause somebody’s head didn’t roll like she wanted.
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
1:45 pm
Leggs it’s Jones of NY….heck yeah!!!! I jumped at it when I saw it on the rack.
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
1:46 pm
CFO for one of my clients
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
1:47 pm
And the accounting director for a health care system in Atlanta cause somebody didn’t get something done for her while I was gone. I GET SO SICK AND TIRED OF THE FEELING OF ENTITLEMENT….gheesh
Back to more pleasant things
SexyCool
November 22nd, 2011
1:47 pm
CEl – standard CYA – that’s what’s up.
Into the Light
November 22nd, 2011
1:48 pm
I wanna go home. Hmph.
Leggs
November 22nd, 2011
1:50 pm
I
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
1:50 pm
Exactly….I typed it word for word too. I wanted to say “what’s your point”
DreamsMaterialize
November 22nd, 2011
1:51 pm
Feels like molasses in this joint. lol How you doing Cely Cel? What’s good SexyC and Leggs? I see you all holding it down.
Leggs
November 22nd, 2011
1:51 pm
It feels really good to get a jump on Thanksgiving cooking.
SexyCool
November 22nd, 2011
1:53 pm
Nuttin’…chillin….like Bruh man from da fif flo (holding up four fingers)…
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
1:53 pm
Hey Dreams…what’s shaking? I’m good.
I haven’t cooked nor do I plan to cook. I haven’t for 3 years now (for Thanksgiving). Don’t judge me but I’m heading to the rib shack tomorrow and buy food for 2 days and that’s what we’re eating Friday and Saturday. Traditional Thanksgiving will be served at my mom/sister’s. That’s where the clan will be. And and yes, I get “joned” to death by my sibs for not cooking.
SexyCool
November 22nd, 2011
1:53 pm
Leggs – I was at the store yesterday morning at 630a gettin’ my groceries…
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
1:58 pm
Okay..I think year before last I cooked collars but pretty much…nope. I’ve gotten soooo lazy with my kid being a big girl. I even buy desert.
Holding my head down in shame.
Leggs
November 22nd, 2011
1:59 pm
@DreamsM ~ going to tackle the greens. Biggest headache for me when making a big dinner.
@SexyC ~ here I thought if I got out early today I could by pass most of the crowds. I did, but I also went to 3 stores. Biggest surprise is Reynolds Wrap went from 25 sq.ft to 20 sq.ft to now 18 sq.ft.
@Celisea ~ it’s just me and rug rat, but I want my own food. Nice to raid the fridge late at night for something. I think my child will be with her dad and his mother. I want no part of that, but she’s free to go.
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
2:01 pm
Legg – I’m purchasing a couple of slabs and some big sides…for late night raids…lol Come Saturday, I’m be ready to toss anything left over.
Into the Light
November 22nd, 2011
2:02 pm
I’m watching the minutes tick by….literally FORCING myself to complete tasks. I have the “itis” bad.
Purple Reign
November 22nd, 2011
2:03 pm
(opens the door and peeks in…)
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
2:05 pm
Me too ITL…my concious is kicking at me because it’s not to get paid and not work but I’m struggling today.
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
2:05 pm
Purple – Did you speak to me earlier??
Leggs
November 22nd, 2011
2:06 pm
@Celisea ~ I’m not a big fan of turkey, but got a fried turkey. I’d rather have your slabs…didn’t think of those. Pretty sure the cul-de-sac will have open door welcome mats (lolol).
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
2:08 pm
I don’t think I’ve had traditional turkey for some years now. My brother fries turkeys for his cul-de-sac and a couple of others….my mom lives across the street from him. He goes out back in the opening of his garage and him and the decons at church sit outside and talk and snack until he’s done frying for everybody.
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
2:08 pm
he
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
2:09 pm
deacons
disco
November 22nd, 2011
2:12 pm
celisea/sassy – I’m still up in this piece too. I do have some time I’ve got to use up as well so I’ll be a bit MIA in December as well. need to commit to which days.
fion – it hasn’t happened recently but I’d say we’d have to take it old school and call “dibs”. if we both call dibs at the same time then someone will have to punch the other in the arm. (did anyone else use to do that?)
SCool – hush up. “I’se married now”
celisea – I don’t know what compelled me to put sulfur 8 in my hair the other night. I think it was because I didn’t want to melt down any coconut oil. I will say that it’s been about 3 days and my hair is fabulous but I can still smell the sulfur 8 from time to time.
Into the Light
November 22nd, 2011
2:14 pm
tick tock tick tock….
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
2:15 pm
disco – Imma send post cards in December…lol Sulfur 8 you say? It’s changed over the years. It’s very light now. Remember it was all brown and gunky and heavy and EVERYBODY knew “your mama greased your scalp” with it even 10 days later? LOL I’ve been sleeping on my hair so it’s just straight now. That’s already the appointment has already been set.
disco
November 22nd, 2011
2:18 pm
celisea – I say the movie the help reminded a bunch of chicks that they were supposed to feel entitled. and yes I did say sulfur 8. some folks laugh when I tell them I have some. still, I don’t use it often but every few months or so I’ll pull it out. you’d think those folks would work on the fragrance. heck, I guess they did work on the fragrance. it’s nowhere near as strong as I remember it being back in the day.
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
2:20 pm
That’s okay….is what I meant
Heck I even ate my lunch before 11:00 so the day REALLY seems long. Lunch time for me was over 4 hours ago.
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
2:24 pm
disco – My mom always said it was very good for creating healthy hair. Back then it was connected plaits (sp) and Sulfur 8…lol
Alternative Black Man
November 22nd, 2011
2:32 pm
Why is it that this blog only talks about man and woman relations? I would like for some topics to be geared towards gays.
Leggs
November 22nd, 2011
2:35 pm
Probably because gay men haven’t been on with their POV. We’ve had a few lesbians on discussing things, but to be honest, ABM, you can do what a lot of posters do here = submit topics to WD yourself.
Into the Light
November 22nd, 2011
2:40 pm
….and cue the crickets….
Alternative Black Man
November 22nd, 2011
2:44 pm
I find this blog has a lot of things I can relate too but there is not a strictly alternative blog on the AJC.
As for this topic, I can tell you that mixed signals is something I am totally familiar with. I have dated a lot of married men who act like they do not want anything to do with me in public but when we are in a bedroom, backseat of a car or restroom they certainly have the green light.
I like the strong manly type but they are always having wives and freinds who would make fun.
Into the Light
November 22nd, 2011
2:44 pm
Okay….let’s see…..
If your house was on fire, and all the people and animals were out safely, but you had time to rescue ONE thing, what would it be and why?
disco
November 22nd, 2011
2:45 pm
i think even the crickets left.
Into the Light
November 22nd, 2011
2:47 pm
Can’t say that I blame them, disco.
Leggs
November 22nd, 2011
2:48 pm
Well, there weren’t any mixed signals ABM, they were married. You decided to ignore the mixed signals.
If you’re relationships consists of those men on DL, then you’re willing to ignore the mixed signals and your hurt is self-induced.
Leggs
November 22nd, 2011
2:50 pm
I’m done! Coming on here talking about men with wives and wanting a forum to discuss it. Where’s my cricket….
Into the Light
November 22nd, 2011
2:52 pm
I don’t know, grasshopper….. LOLOLOLOLOLOL
Leggs
November 22nd, 2011
2:53 pm
@ITL ~ ummmm, birth certificates.
disco
November 22nd, 2011
2:53 pm
leggs it sounds like you’d use the cricket to hit someone in the head with or something. besides – I think wives talking about husbands with boyfriends is a much better spin on that very same topic. not so much to be against the gay angle because I’m not. I’m against the side piece angle. know your place and stay in your lane.
Into the Light
November 22nd, 2011
2:54 pm
Speaking of crickets, my inner Martha says she’d like to have a Cricut. That thing is amazing!!!
Into the Light
November 22nd, 2011
2:55 pm
Oh, birth certificates. That’s a good one. I’d take my Granny’s bible. It’s filled with her handwriting and notations…
Leggs
November 22nd, 2011
2:59 pm
@disco ~ that spin would leave this blog on fire with men talking about the bitterness of a woman, which will then turn into something else. I know 2 women whose husbands left them for a man
Into the Light
November 22nd, 2011
3:01 pm
SlimNu
November 22nd, 2011
3:03 pm
Oooohhh weeeee
ABM – Why do you even get involved with married guys?
disco
November 22nd, 2011
3:06 pm
they talk about the bitterness of women all the time anyway. I figure cheating stories are a dime a dozen but dag when your SO leaves you for same sex that’s a story I’m willing to listen to (imagine me in the real live telling going “oooh. for real? and then what?).
Alternative Black Man
November 22nd, 2011
3:11 pm
Married guys are so hurt by the nagging wife that I feel sorry for them. Also, most strong silent types are “out”.
These guys are so tired of their wives who have gained weight and are always riding them. They are good guys who are in bad relationships. The problem is how black society frowns on same sex. If we would only be more open minded…
Leggs
November 22nd, 2011
3:12 pm
It’s a story that is indeed fascinating, if one stays on the story at hand. When they don’t, the bashing occurs.
Leggs
November 22nd, 2011
3:14 pm
@ABM ~ the problem is when DL men use their wives/gfs as shields because they’re scared to come out…THAT IS THE PROBLEM!
Into the Light
November 22nd, 2011
3:17 pm
Married guys are so hurt by the nagging wife that I feel sorry for them. These guys are so tired of their wives who have gained weight and are always riding them. They are good guys who are in bad relationships
But it doesn’t explain why the married man would turn to another man instead of another woman. Unless he is gay, in which case the wife could never make him happy, because he’s living a lie.
disco
November 22nd, 2011
3:17 pm
maybe we should do like Michael baisden (I think) and have good man Monday/good woman Wednesday on the blog.
Alternative Black Man
November 22nd, 2011
3:17 pm
Ture but the wives make them fearful. They are presured into being in a lovelss marriage. its very common for sure. Black men on the DL have too much to lose financially. My problem is not the marriage but its just things are not very romantic in a bathroom stall that is broke and smells like old pee pee!
SlimNu
November 22nd, 2011
3:19 pm
ABM – Um, you do realize you’re getting ONE side of a story which may or may not be true. All wives ain’t that bad or nags…There are always at least two major roles taken in a relationship and that’s between the two people involved. I’m sure if you ever talked to the wives, you’d hear a different perspective.
Sniffer!
November 22nd, 2011
3:20 pm
I’m
Hysterical
That’s what u get when we say ‘LETS VACATE!’
and u guys remain…..talking talking and talking
Now this
ABM!
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
3:21 pm
Ture but the wives make them fearful.
BS….not feeling this conversation. Men that are not happy with their wives should turn to the wives, work it out, leave whatever….turning to a man is NOT the answer.
I’m taking a pass on this conversation. I don’t mind…judge me.
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
3:23 pm
And just like this blog is not open to hearing a woman talk about her married man fling or a married man talk about his flings,
weI’m not open to hearing man on man action, especially when they have wives and families…yep closed minded.Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
3:25 pm
LOLOL Mmeello’s 3:20
Alternative Black Man
November 22nd, 2011
3:25 pm
Celisea…you sound jus like some of these women. Angry, over weight and close minded. these men are facing bullying wives and have a lot to lose with kids and money. Our society has forced them to marry and now they are in the grips of angry judgemental women like Celisea
Sniffer!
November 22nd, 2011
3:26 pm
I’m out Happy ThxG!
I don’t want to be soiled by this abomination in any way.
Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB
November 22nd, 2011
3:27 pm
Smells like azz in here suddenly…don’t take it personal ABM, but its how it goes down…lol.
Into the Light
November 22nd, 2011
3:27 pm
Our society has forced them to marry and now they are in the grips of angry judgemental women like Celisea
No, they chose to make a commitment they knew they couldn’t keep and deceive themselves, their wives, their kids, and their families in the process. Don’t try to blame women because these men are too chicken to stand up and say who and what they are, ABM.
Alternative Black Man
November 22nd, 2011
3:30 pm
We as a race of people want so many equal rights but we cannot be sensitive to other pople wanting the same. thats our problem. So many rude quips.
Sad.
Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB
November 22nd, 2011
3:30 pm
No body forces anybody to marry, if them cats like that lifestyle, they should LIVE IT, not live the double-life.
Leggs
November 22nd, 2011
3:30 pm
@ABM ~ curious, why you have to throw in “over weight?” You don’t even know the woman and you throwing daggers. You came on here asking a topic question and the little feedback you do get, you hit under the belt (no pun intended).
Alternative Black Man
November 22nd, 2011
3:30 pm
If these men said who they were….wives like Celisea would sit on them and suffocate them.
Alternative Black Man
November 22nd, 2011
3:31 pm
She was the one making the closeminded comments first leggs. She must be over weight if you are defending her.
Into the Light
November 22nd, 2011
3:32 pm
If these men said who they were, they wouldn’t have wives!!
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
3:32 pm
ABM – I’m not going to go there. Yep, I am….except for overweight
We don’t want to talk about dookie shoots on here. Not even us women. If you’ve followed that’s a rarely touched subject so NO, NOT GONNA TALK ABOUT YOU DOING ANOTHER BROTHER….somebody’s husband. Nope. Not going to listen to you justify your actions by giving one sided stories. And yes, I too smell ass on here. Judge me.
Alternative Black Man
November 22nd, 2011
3:32 pm
I don’t know…maybe I am just tired of having to meet my men in the workout sauna or waffle house bathroom. I have to make the effort while the wives sit around
Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB
November 22nd, 2011
3:33 pm
ABM…. I am actually glad you stopped in, so I can ask this question….Why is it that, the GLBT community is so flamboyant, your sexual desires pertain to your bedrooom, why is it that there are so many that are dead set on being a standout gay person?
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
3:33 pm
And there you go, whining like a woman. Get your panties out of a wad. Better yet, leave the panty wearing to us please. Nothing sexy about women boy shorts with a big schlong bulking up the front.
Alternative Black Man
November 22nd, 2011
3:33 pm
Sounds like Celisea is A) Single B)Overweight and bitter and C)Had a few men leave her for other men. LOL!
Into the Light
November 22nd, 2011
3:34 pm
Maybe you should look for a single man who is free to date you publicly and openly.
disco
November 22nd, 2011
3:34 pm
jake – your smelly comment was funny. good one.
ABM – refer to the very first post of the day. why make someone a priority when you are only an option to them? enough said.
Alternative Black Man
November 22nd, 2011
3:34 pm
You would have to ask a queen Jake.
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
3:35 pm
maybe I am just tired of having to meet my men in the workout sauna or waffle house bathroom. I have to make the effort while the wives sit around
And who’s fault is this?????
Leggs
November 22nd, 2011
3:35 pm
I never Celisea, ABM. I’m not defending her, I’m asking why you calling names.
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
3:36 pm
Nope…ABM, I’m the women you dream to be…lol
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
3:36 pm
woman….
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 22nd, 2011
3:36 pm
Hey there, how are you folks today? I chime in and y’all talking about men booty’s. LOL……Jake you crazy man.
Alternative Black Man
November 22nd, 2011
3:37 pm
I dont dream of being a woman…especially not some lonely bitter woman like you Celisea….lol
Into the Light
November 22nd, 2011
3:38 pm
Exactly! If you don’t like sneaking around, then don’t date married (wo)men! Find a single person that you are compatible with!!!!!
Sweet Pea
November 22nd, 2011
3:38 pm
Hey everybody or whomever still exist in ghost town!
Jake-you are crazy! LOL
ITL- I agree with you. No one is holding a gun to any man’s head to force them to marry a woman as that is what he chose to do.
ABM- If the man you’re involved in “ain’t” man enough to take you to a room instead of a pissy stall then perhaps you need to regroup and think about whether it’s even worth worth it. I’m sure there are enough available men who are unattached in this city that you can get involved with instead of being with someone who is being deceitful to you and their spouse! Just remember there are two sides to every story and more than likely the one that you’re with hearing is the one he wants you to hear. With the divorce rate being so high, I’m inclined to say that anyone is staying married for the very reasons you described. I’d rather walk with peace and my sanity than to remain in a world of unhappiness.
And like the sharks on Shark Tank say, I’M OUT!!!
Leggs
November 22nd, 2011
3:38 pm
Ok, ABM, is done and knows why this blog doesn’t have topics to suit his area of expertise. He’s not even serious.
Going to cook until topic changes.
Into the Light
November 22nd, 2011
3:38 pm
(waving) Heeeeyyyy BF!
Sweet Pea
November 22nd, 2011
3:40 pm
corrections as follows: you’re hearing..
With the divorce rate being so high, I’m inclined to say that no one is staying married for the very reasons you described.
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
3:44 pm
We as a race of people want so many equal rights but we cannot be sensitive to other pople wanting the same. thats our problem. So many rude quips.
And don’t bring or compare race relations to you wanting to have open range with folks’ husbands. It ain’t right and it won’t ever be right. I’m not recommending finding anybody…you already know. That’s why you’re poking around looking for an ear that will listen. You know better.
Judge me..I don’t care.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 22nd, 2011
3:45 pm
Hey Light:
Whats’ cooking, please no Boston Butts.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 22nd, 2011
3:48 pm
Celisea:
LOL……Double dog dare, wow what have I missed today y’all on fire.
Into the Light
November 22nd, 2011
3:48 pm
LOL@BF. You are so crazy! Leggs is cooking right now…I’m still at work.
disco
November 22nd, 2011
3:49 pm
boston butts? looks like Atlanta butts are on the menu. okay. that was wrong. i take it back.
Into the Light
November 22nd, 2011
3:51 pm
BF, looks like you’re gonna have to save disco a seat under the stairs.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 22nd, 2011
3:51 pm
LOL….ATL Butts
Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB
November 22nd, 2011
3:51 pm
Hey I am just tellin you what I smelled, I thought it was chitterlins since its Thanksgiving and all but on second sniff, it was confirmed…..it was open azz that I got wiff of…lol
.
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
3:52 pm
LOLOLOL….Boston Butts..
Heeeey Blackfoote. Some dude coming on here whining and amped to fire back cause he knows he ain’t right. Wanting to have free range with folks’ husbands and wanting folks to say it’s okay. Hell if it’s not okay with any other (man to woman woman to man), cause you gay you gets (yes gets) a free pass? Cause you gay you want folks to tip toe (pun intended). Naw!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 22nd, 2011
3:53 pm
Light:
I know I come up for fresh air, and it’s contaminated with ass…….LOL
disco
November 22nd, 2011
3:54 pm
ITL – between you and me I will never go willingly to sit beneath the stairs. y’all are going to have to call blog security or something. mumbling under my breath “hmmph. I wish I would go sit under some stairs.”
Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB
November 22nd, 2011
3:55 pm
Hey, I may have to retire from bloggin again, yesterday tossed salads were brought up, now we have a real-live Butt Cowboy on here!!!
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
3:56 pm
LOLOLOLOL…..ass contamination…..LOL
I know some thinks it’s mean but that dude came with an agenda. Poking to see who will bite.
“I know this is a place for dating but I don’t think I landed in the right spot. Ya’ll don’t talk about doing other men do ya’ll?” That’s how he read while creeping into the blog. And don’t get me wrong, you wanna hang out, hang out but keep it real and come shooting straight.
Into the Light
November 22nd, 2011
4:00 pm
BF and disco, y’all are cracking me up! “hmph! I wish I would go sit under the stairs!”
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 22nd, 2011
4:04 pm
Jake said chitterlings, that’s what I thought it was…..LOL
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 22nd, 2011
4:05 pm
Wait chitlins that’s how they’re pronounced.
SlimNu
November 22nd, 2011
4:05 pm
society has forced them to marry
Is this society bully person any relation to Suge Knight?
Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB
November 22nd, 2011
4:07 pm
ABM, all jokes aside, I don’t care what kinda sin you are into, it aint like homosex is a Felony Sin, and everything else is a misdeameanor, its all Sin. You wrong as hell for sleepin with them married dudes and Celisea is correct, you know this, wit cho nasty azz!!!!
Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB
November 22nd, 2011
4:09 pm
BF…yeah man, you how our people chop and screw words together…
Leggs
November 22nd, 2011
4:10 pm
Alrighty now, Jake.
One dish down a few more to go (lol).
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
4:12 pm
Exactly Jake. Wrong is wrong is wrong. My issue is wanting to “guilt” someone into listening when you yourself know it’s wrong. It’s not judgemental. That’s why I made the case of saying if any one of us…man or woman….came on here what’s the different? Actually it’s gotten soft in here because a person coming talking about indiscretions didn’t make it past a page without getting slammed say 5 more pages.
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
4:12 pm
difference
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 22nd, 2011
4:15 pm
disco;
It’s a special place did I mention the city skyline view. Dennis Haysburg say it best “Are You In Good Hands”? That’s where you’ll be, not you personally. Well I want you to be (in good hands) I know it wouldn’t be with me.
Into the Light
November 22nd, 2011
4:16 pm
What’d you make, Leggs?
Into the Light
November 22nd, 2011
4:17 pm
BF, first day on the new legs? You seem a little unsteady on your feet…. LOL
Leggs
November 22nd, 2011
4:18 pm
Yams are done and got my pot likka started with smoked turkey necks for my collards. Have to take breaks from ripping the collards.
Leggs
November 22nd, 2011
4:19 pm
Ummmm, watch how you say that, ITL (lololol)….
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 22nd, 2011
4:21 pm
Leggs:
I hear you got good some ole stuff, smelling up the neighborhood. I’m feeling this ass scent in here…….LOL
Leggs
November 22nd, 2011
4:23 pm
@BF ~ do you mean you’re NOT feeling the ass scent (LOLOL)….my house does smell good. Aww the smell of vanilla, nutmeg and Karo syrup….
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 22nd, 2011
4:23 pm
Now my senses are gone, meant I’m not feeling the ass scent in here…..LOL
Leggs
November 22nd, 2011
4:23 pm
@BF ~ ummmm, you need to watch how you say that too (LOLOLOL)…
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 22nd, 2011
4:25 pm
Light:
Instigating, I got thrown off by the scent. Wolves do that sometimes you know……LOL
Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB
November 22nd, 2011
4:29 pm
(Jake gets back to blog office and there is BF)
J: What up BF, how it hanging
BF: Shhhhhhhhhsh, man don’t say that!!!!
J: What, what the hell you talkin bout
BF: He is here
J: Who?
BF: Him over there.
J: So I can’t say how is it hangin, (as Jake says the last word, he see ABM eye twinkle as he turns to go to the copier)
J: WTF, what the hell is that he got on
BF: There called azz chaps
J: I QUIT!!!!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 22nd, 2011
4:30 pm
LOL
Into the Light
November 22nd, 2011
4:31 pm
LOL@Jake.
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
4:32 pm
Oh naaaw, where is ABM? He was ready and all angry and name calling at me….a woman, but he’s not made one retort towards the men. Oh okay I see.
Into the Light
November 22nd, 2011
4:33 pm
BF, you and your wolf alter ego are too funny!
Into the Light
November 22nd, 2011
4:35 pm
Leggs, you saying pot likka reminds me….on Diners, Drive-ins, and Dives the other night, there was this guy who made greens and served them with pot liquor gravy. It looked SO GOOD!
Leggs
November 22nd, 2011
4:35 pm
roflmao
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 22nd, 2011
4:36 pm
Celisea:
Don’t worry we got your back, no pun intended. Jake putting is putting it out there.
Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB
November 22nd, 2011
4:38 pm
I’m just havin a little fun Celisea, don’t start nothin…!!!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 22nd, 2011
4:38 pm
How in the world do you type the same thing twice, like I do. Laughing too hard……..LOL
Into the Light
November 22nd, 2011
4:44 pm
I’m glad it picked up in here!
Hey, where did disco go?
Leggs
November 22nd, 2011
4:46 pm
She said she wasn’t going under the stairwell w/o security. She’s on the run…
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
4:51 pm
LOLOL…Blackfoote and Jake…I’m just glad ya’ll are saying it because when I go honest or direct I get the feeling folks are clutching their pearls…lol
Preciate ya’ll
Into the Light
November 22nd, 2011
4:51 pm
Hilarious!! We’ve got a blog fugitive!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 22nd, 2011
4:52 pm
Leggs I have a nice warm spot for you. Couldn’t resist to say “Are You In Good Hands”?
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
4:52 pm
And really it’s slows things down when it’s ALLLL KUMBAYA. Sometimes we need to light a fire. Not talking about ABM per se…..
Into the Light
November 22nd, 2011
4:54 pm
Hey Leggs….when you go back to cooking, make disco a pie with a file in it! ROFL!!!!
Leggs
November 22nd, 2011
4:54 pm
@BF ~ awwwwww, thank you. Am I in good hands….you tell me??
Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB
November 22nd, 2011
4:54 pm
ITL,..ole Sweetness went missing didn’t he, but honestly I am scared of them UTB’s,(Up The Butters), I have had my Prostate checked, any man who willfully and knowingly allows this as a practice is a sick individual..
On that note, fellas, get checked, I want you to feel uncomfortable and violated like I did, but besides that, no need to die from a treatable condition…be prepared to reconcile that you have just had a medical exam, its a very weird situation.
Leggs
November 22nd, 2011
4:55 pm
Oh my goodness, good one, ITL!!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 22nd, 2011
4:55 pm
In my case good paws, when the ears are down and the tail is wagging that means I’m happy.
Into the Light
November 22nd, 2011
4:56 pm
Jake, are you doing the “Mo”vember thing?
Sniffer!
November 22nd, 2011
4:56 pm
In a secure location
Mellow peeks,his azz housed in a steel tank for extra security
whispers: is the Azz bandit still here?
Into the Light
November 22nd, 2011
4:58 pm
Awww….look at BF, Leggs. His tail is wagging…tell him to roll over so you can scratch his belly!
Leggs
November 22nd, 2011
4:59 pm
Whew, we went out like gang busters with Celisea/Jake leading the pack.
Leggs
November 22nd, 2011
5:00 pm
Ummm, if he rolls over, “how it’s hanging” will take on a new meaning (lol).
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 22nd, 2011
5:01 pm
Jake:
Had it done back in July during a physical exam, man the docs need to get together and ban that practice. Last year my regular doc was out of the office and his female assistant had to do it. I was uncomfortable double time, getting plugged by a woman. I said to myself this aint right even though it’s for my own health.
Into the Light
November 22nd, 2011
5:02 pm
Well, you won’t have to ask, that’s for sure!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 22nd, 2011
5:04 pm
Y’all aint right either…….LOL
Leggs
November 22nd, 2011
5:04 pm
You have a point there, ITL.
Into the Light
November 22nd, 2011
5:07 pm
Good boy…good boy…now roll over…..
Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB
November 22nd, 2011
5:10 pm
ITL…I am particpating, my Father had it, he was treated and doing great, got an Uncle going through it now, prognosis is good, its real important that we get this message out!!!
Into the Light
November 22nd, 2011
5:14 pm
Good for you, Jake! How’s the moustache coming along?
abc
November 22nd, 2011
5:14 pm
You know the gay guy is a fake, and just posting to troll, right?
Sociopath.
Leggs
November 22nd, 2011
5:17 pm
Thanksgiving should be the time when we are thankful for all we have, including being thankful we live in a society where differing opinions from all sectors of life is the epitome of our free society.
PEACE!
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
5:18 pm
I don’t know if fake but he came here to duke…in case anybody was feeling empathy for him. He already knew what it would be. He was ready to project being a victim because he ain’t found yet anybody that sees right in doing folks husbands.
Leggs
November 22nd, 2011
5:18 pm
Yes, abc. I said he wasn’t serious in his posts. I started to say troll alert but didn’t. Thanks.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 22nd, 2011
5:20 pm
He and doing husbands in the same sentence aint right either……LOL
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 22nd, 2011
5:22 pm
Yeah he was stirring the pot, some folks get a kick out of that.
Into the Light
November 22nd, 2011
5:22 pm
I just can’t imagine how boring your life would have to be in order to troll blogs and start mess to entertain yourself. smh…
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
5:23 pm
I know Blackfoote but he wanted folks to gather around and ask probing questions while he sat center ring (in his twan voice)…remember the dude from Lowdown Dirty Shame….that’s the character that instantly popped in my head…”well see what had happened was” and what person in their right minds will say…in twan’s voice…..”I’m just sick of being taken behind the dumpster and butt pumped while she sits at the booth at waffle house”…..C’MOOOOON in their right mind? I think not.
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
5:24 pm
Yeah some did get a kick…not entertaining sick mess. Plus we’d just gotten the blog flowing again.
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
5:24 pm
It was kind of nice reading random stuff about shopping or cooking. Then here he comes
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
5:25 pm
I’m still here because I have a client that won’t let it go….she’s had something escalated and got folks working on it…so I gotta stick around until folks tell me it’s been done. ENTITLEMENT I TELL YA
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 22nd, 2011
5:30 pm
LOL……@Celisea
Twans voice…….LOL
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 22nd, 2011
5:30 pm
I’m hangin with you Celisea.
Into the Light
November 22nd, 2011
5:32 pm
Whew… The bell just rang!
Y’all have a safe and Happy Thanksgiving, and I’ll see you on Monday!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 22nd, 2011
5:33 pm
Same to you Light.
Leggs
November 22nd, 2011
5:36 pm
Happy Thanksgiving, ITL.
I’ll tell ya, this blog is better than what’s on daytime television. Thank you all.
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
5:36 pm
Blackfoote…Imma be here a few more minutes and then….THAT’S IT! LOL
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 22nd, 2011
5:39 pm
Celisea I’m here to 11pm, I had an employee call off sick today and her shift started at 3. She probably at home or out shopping to cook her TG meal……LOL
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
5:48 pm
Really? 11pm? So you fill in is any one calls out sick? Just great I’m sure is what you’re thinking. Well sir, my day is about done and I’m out in about 10 minutes. About to call this client back and let her know all is a go.
james from
November 23rd, 2011
2:46 pm
you should not expect anything from a person that is “wishy washy” about basic things like, if i like you or not… so when your “friend” is saying one thing and doing another, not only is he or she dishonoring you, and wasting your time…they are in desperate need of space. like the kind NASA provides.
#keepitmovin #fm