Dating: Mixed signals
Most of us have been subjected to the mixed signals of dating. You get a green light, then you get a red one. Things get red hot, then suddenly they turn cold. What gives?!
A friend of mine is dating a guy who only kicks up his efforts when she acts as if she is not interested in him. She will ignore his calls and text messages for a few days and put him on the back burner. That is when he kicks it into high gear and pursues her more. Their most romantic dates usually occur after she decides he is out of her life.
Perhaps it is about having a challenge; maybe he is dating multiple people and wants to keep her in the mix. Do you think that mixed signals is really just a sign that someone is being played?
What do you do when the person you are seeing starts to get a little flaky and inconsistent? If you really like them, do you try to be a little patient or can mixed signals be the deal breaker?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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273 comments Add your comment
Leggs
November 22nd, 2011
3:14 pm
@ABM ~ the problem is when DL men use their wives/gfs as shields because they’re scared to come out…THAT IS THE PROBLEM!
Into the Light
November 22nd, 2011
3:17 pm
Married guys are so hurt by the nagging wife that I feel sorry for them. These guys are so tired of their wives who have gained weight and are always riding them. They are good guys who are in bad relationships
But it doesn’t explain why the married man would turn to another man instead of another woman. Unless he is gay, in which case the wife could never make him happy, because he’s living a lie.
disco
November 22nd, 2011
3:17 pm
maybe we should do like Michael baisden (I think) and have good man Monday/good woman Wednesday on the blog.
Alternative Black Man
November 22nd, 2011
3:17 pm
Ture but the wives make them fearful. They are presured into being in a lovelss marriage. its very common for sure. Black men on the DL have too much to lose financially. My problem is not the marriage but its just things are not very romantic in a bathroom stall that is broke and smells like old pee pee!
SlimNu
November 22nd, 2011
3:19 pm
ABM – Um, you do realize you’re getting ONE side of a story which may or may not be true. All wives ain’t that bad or nags…There are always at least two major roles taken in a relationship and that’s between the two people involved. I’m sure if you ever talked to the wives, you’d hear a different perspective.
Sniffer!
November 22nd, 2011
3:20 pm
I’m
Hysterical
That’s what u get when we say ‘LETS VACATE!’
and u guys remain…..talking talking and talking
Now this
ABM!
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
3:21 pm
Ture but the wives make them fearful.
BS….not feeling this conversation. Men that are not happy with their wives should turn to the wives, work it out, leave whatever….turning to a man is NOT the answer.
I’m taking a pass on this conversation. I don’t mind…judge me.
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
3:23 pm
And just like this blog is not open to hearing a woman talk about her married man fling or a married man talk about his flings,
weI’m not open to hearing man on man action, especially when they have wives and families…yep closed minded.Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
3:25 pm
LOLOL Mmeello’s 3:20
Alternative Black Man
November 22nd, 2011
3:25 pm
Celisea…you sound jus like some of these women. Angry, over weight and close minded. these men are facing bullying wives and have a lot to lose with kids and money. Our society has forced them to marry and now they are in the grips of angry judgemental women like Celisea
Sniffer!
November 22nd, 2011
3:26 pm
I’m out Happy ThxG!
I don’t want to be soiled by this abomination in any way.
Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB
November 22nd, 2011
3:27 pm
Smells like azz in here suddenly…don’t take it personal ABM, but its how it goes down…lol.
Into the Light
November 22nd, 2011
3:27 pm
Our society has forced them to marry and now they are in the grips of angry judgemental women like Celisea
No, they chose to make a commitment they knew they couldn’t keep and deceive themselves, their wives, their kids, and their families in the process. Don’t try to blame women because these men are too chicken to stand up and say who and what they are, ABM.
Alternative Black Man
November 22nd, 2011
3:30 pm
We as a race of people want so many equal rights but we cannot be sensitive to other pople wanting the same. thats our problem. So many rude quips.
Sad.
Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB
November 22nd, 2011
3:30 pm
No body forces anybody to marry, if them cats like that lifestyle, they should LIVE IT, not live the double-life.
Leggs
November 22nd, 2011
3:30 pm
@ABM ~ curious, why you have to throw in “over weight?” You don’t even know the woman and you throwing daggers. You came on here asking a topic question and the little feedback you do get, you hit under the belt (no pun intended).
Alternative Black Man
November 22nd, 2011
3:30 pm
If these men said who they were….wives like Celisea would sit on them and suffocate them.
Alternative Black Man
November 22nd, 2011
3:31 pm
She was the one making the closeminded comments first leggs. She must be over weight if you are defending her.
Into the Light
November 22nd, 2011
3:32 pm
If these men said who they were, they wouldn’t have wives!!
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
3:32 pm
ABM – I’m not going to go there. Yep, I am….except for overweight
We don’t want to talk about dookie shoots on here. Not even us women. If you’ve followed that’s a rarely touched subject so NO, NOT GONNA TALK ABOUT YOU DOING ANOTHER BROTHER….somebody’s husband. Nope. Not going to listen to you justify your actions by giving one sided stories. And yes, I too smell ass on here. Judge me.
Alternative Black Man
November 22nd, 2011
3:32 pm
I don’t know…maybe I am just tired of having to meet my men in the workout sauna or waffle house bathroom. I have to make the effort while the wives sit around
Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB
November 22nd, 2011
3:33 pm
ABM…. I am actually glad you stopped in, so I can ask this question….Why is it that, the GLBT community is so flamboyant, your sexual desires pertain to your bedrooom, why is it that there are so many that are dead set on being a standout gay person?
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
3:33 pm
And there you go, whining like a woman. Get your panties out of a wad. Better yet, leave the panty wearing to us please. Nothing sexy about women boy shorts with a big schlong bulking up the front.
Alternative Black Man
November 22nd, 2011
3:33 pm
Sounds like Celisea is A) Single B)Overweight and bitter and C)Had a few men leave her for other men. LOL!
Into the Light
November 22nd, 2011
3:34 pm
Maybe you should look for a single man who is free to date you publicly and openly.
disco
November 22nd, 2011
3:34 pm
jake – your smelly comment was funny. good one.
ABM – refer to the very first post of the day. why make someone a priority when you are only an option to them? enough said.
Alternative Black Man
November 22nd, 2011
3:34 pm
You would have to ask a queen Jake.
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
3:35 pm
maybe I am just tired of having to meet my men in the workout sauna or waffle house bathroom. I have to make the effort while the wives sit around
And who’s fault is this?????
Leggs
November 22nd, 2011
3:35 pm
I never Celisea, ABM. I’m not defending her, I’m asking why you calling names.
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
3:36 pm
Nope…ABM, I’m the women you dream to be…lol
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
3:36 pm
woman….
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 22nd, 2011
3:36 pm
Hey there, how are you folks today? I chime in and y’all talking about men booty’s. LOL……Jake you crazy man.
Alternative Black Man
November 22nd, 2011
3:37 pm
I dont dream of being a woman…especially not some lonely bitter woman like you Celisea….lol
Into the Light
November 22nd, 2011
3:38 pm
Exactly! If you don’t like sneaking around, then don’t date married (wo)men! Find a single person that you are compatible with!!!!!
Sweet Pea
November 22nd, 2011
3:38 pm
Hey everybody or whomever still exist in ghost town!
Jake-you are crazy! LOL
ITL- I agree with you. No one is holding a gun to any man’s head to force them to marry a woman as that is what he chose to do.
ABM- If the man you’re involved in “ain’t” man enough to take you to a room instead of a pissy stall then perhaps you need to regroup and think about whether it’s even worth worth it. I’m sure there are enough available men who are unattached in this city that you can get involved with instead of being with someone who is being deceitful to you and their spouse! Just remember there are two sides to every story and more than likely the one that you’re with hearing is the one he wants you to hear. With the divorce rate being so high, I’m inclined to say that anyone is staying married for the very reasons you described. I’d rather walk with peace and my sanity than to remain in a world of unhappiness.
And like the sharks on Shark Tank say, I’M OUT!!!
Leggs
November 22nd, 2011
3:38 pm
Ok, ABM, is done and knows why this blog doesn’t have topics to suit his area of expertise. He’s not even serious.
Going to cook until topic changes.
Into the Light
November 22nd, 2011
3:38 pm
(waving) Heeeeyyyy BF!
Sweet Pea
November 22nd, 2011
3:40 pm
corrections as follows: you’re hearing..
With the divorce rate being so high, I’m inclined to say that no one is staying married for the very reasons you described.
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
3:44 pm
We as a race of people want so many equal rights but we cannot be sensitive to other pople wanting the same. thats our problem. So many rude quips.
And don’t bring or compare race relations to you wanting to have open range with folks’ husbands. It ain’t right and it won’t ever be right. I’m not recommending finding anybody…you already know. That’s why you’re poking around looking for an ear that will listen. You know better.
Judge me..I don’t care.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 22nd, 2011
3:45 pm
Hey Light:
Whats’ cooking, please no Boston Butts.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 22nd, 2011
3:48 pm
Celisea:
LOL……Double dog dare, wow what have I missed today y’all on fire.
Into the Light
November 22nd, 2011
3:48 pm
LOL@BF. You are so crazy! Leggs is cooking right now…I’m still at work.
disco
November 22nd, 2011
3:49 pm
boston butts? looks like Atlanta butts are on the menu. okay. that was wrong. i take it back.
Into the Light
November 22nd, 2011
3:51 pm
BF, looks like you’re gonna have to save disco a seat under the stairs.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 22nd, 2011
3:51 pm
LOL….ATL Butts
Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB
November 22nd, 2011
3:51 pm
Hey I am just tellin you what I smelled, I thought it was chitterlins since its Thanksgiving and all but on second sniff, it was confirmed…..it was open azz that I got wiff of…lol
.
Celisea
November 22nd, 2011
3:52 pm
LOLOLOL….Boston Butts..
Heeeey Blackfoote. Some dude coming on here whining and amped to fire back cause he knows he ain’t right. Wanting to have free range with folks’ husbands and wanting folks to say it’s okay. Hell if it’s not okay with any other (man to woman woman to man), cause you gay you gets (yes gets) a free pass? Cause you gay you want folks to tip toe (pun intended). Naw!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 22nd, 2011
3:53 pm
Light:
I know I come up for fresh air, and it’s contaminated with ass…….LOL
disco
November 22nd, 2011
3:54 pm
ITL – between you and me I will never go willingly to sit beneath the stairs. y’all are going to have to call blog security or something. mumbling under my breath “hmmph. I wish I would go sit under some stairs.”
Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB
November 22nd, 2011
3:55 pm
Hey, I may have to retire from bloggin again, yesterday tossed salads were brought up, now we have a real-live Butt Cowboy on here!!!