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May I have your attention, please?

Sometimes the dating scene can be like sliding doors. We are constantly passing one another, rarely slowing down long enough to connect. What does it take to get the attention of someone you like? How do you get the “right” kind of attention?

When you don’t have a lot of confidence, it isn’t always easy to get the attention of someone you are interested in. If you are shy, especially a shy woman, it’s particularly difficult to stand out from the crowd. What get a man’s attention?

Ladies, what turns your head and get’s you interested?

When was the last time someone got your attention and made you take notice? What did they say or do to make you perk up?

Happy Friday!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

248 comments Add your comment

Kym

November 18th, 2011
3:11 pm

Exactly ITL..let one of their daughters come in with a Professor from the college..the first thing they will say is “Uh Man how old are you?” next will be the sounds of of buckshot on old dude’s a$$, a thud from him hitting the floor, and the Daddy saying..”I blame Oprah”

DreamsMaterialize

November 18th, 2011
3:15 pm

You might want to add dads into the mix, especially when it’s their daughter.
ITL Different when dads do it. I would say that what dads do isn’t even called “blocking”. We just shut the whole place down. We purposely go ALL the way overboard, to the point that after the fact we might even be a little ashamed we took it so far. lol

Into the Light

November 18th, 2011
3:19 pm

LOL@Kym. You just described my daddy to a tee, with the exception of blaming Oprah. He’d say, “Oh, well. He got what he deserved.” :lol:

@Dreams: If you think you might be a little ashamed, wait until you see babygirl with her eyes squeezed shut wishing to be invisible. Oh wait, that was me…but, still. :)

HST

November 18th, 2011
3:25 pm

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again…I notice the condition and placement of a woman’s purse. I prefer that she has a designer bag but that is not definitive. I also think that women shouldn’t put their purse on the floor…for me, that shows a lot.

Secondly, I notice her hair, is it real, highlighted properly, colored and such (so many variables).

For me, these 2 things must be there or I won’t waste my time. However, that isn’t to mean that I’m not open to a woman who doesn’t make my initial PERSONAL quality control. I’m just not going to be the one to initiate the first words.

As a man, I notice women always look at my grooming firstly. My nails, hair, cologne, off the rack or not, accouterments and articulation of conversation. I fear no group of women as long as those ideals are in check. You must also have your person in check; however, the first comes by the latter.

Kym

November 18th, 2011
3:26 pm

ITL..I will be 40 years old next year. My daddy is 62., at my houseblessing last year..my father along with the minister apparently felt it necessary to ask the lawd not only to protect my home and all within but also to ward off all men who meant me no good. He even said before any one come up in there talking about taking up residence they would have to meet him first. I tried to remind him(not so quietly) that I was grown..and he (none to quietly) reminded me that I am the same difference in age to him now that I was the day I was born. Yeah I blame Ben Cartwright(Bonanza)

Leggs

November 18th, 2011
3:28 pm

@HST ~ you notice if it’s ” highlighted properly?” Are you a hairdresser that would know this or are you just referring to if the color suits your fancy????

And you prefer she has a designer bag…even if it’s a knockoff…sounds crazy and shallow.

Into the Light

November 18th, 2011
3:32 pm

LOL@Kym!! I think your daddy and my daddy might be brothers. Or at least first cousins.

Leggs

November 18th, 2011
3:32 pm

Tossing clothes around room looking for blog vest….

Into the Light

November 18th, 2011
3:33 pm

sounds crazy and shallowmoist.

Kym

November 18th, 2011
3:35 pm

ITL…girl he is old school I do mean country old school. I love him to death..but that day…he was in rare form.

Into the Light

November 18th, 2011
3:35 pm

Speaking of Bonanza, Kym, I bet you if I called my daddy right now, he’d be watching one of three things: Wagons Ho, Gunsmoke, or Bonanza. I call my parents nearly every night after work, and they (meaning my dad, controller of the remote) are almost always watching one of those three shows.

kimmie

November 18th, 2011
3:36 pm

Light/Leggs – crazy, shallow AND moist

But hey, you like what you like!! :lol:

Kym

November 18th, 2011
3:38 pm

Now ITL I am not gonna lie..I like myself some Bonanza..them Cartwright boys and they daddy had the swagger….

Into the Light

November 18th, 2011
3:38 pm

I guess so….but dang. I love it when my SO notices and compliments a new hairstyle/color, but I’mma have to draw the line at, “Ooooh, baby…you needa get your roots done!” Un uh. Not this girl.

Into the Light

November 18th, 2011
3:39 pm

Girl, I had the biggest crush on Little Joe…. :)

WOW

November 18th, 2011
3:44 pm

Those that often REQUIRE such minute things to even began oftentimes won’t meet qualifications for getting off the ground floor

SexyCool

November 18th, 2011
3:51 pm

LMAO…(then looks back at my purse sitting on the floor behind my desk chair.)

Kym

November 18th, 2011
3:54 pm

All I want to know is why any dude is interested in women’s purses..I mean are you a designer or something? There’s a story there.

Alright folks I am off see you after the Turkey Day!! Wishing you and yours a wonderful holiday be safe!

kimmie

November 18th, 2011
3:57 pm

Be safe Kym!

Leggs

November 18th, 2011
4:00 pm

And I thought of mine on the floor under my desk (lol)…

Into the Light

November 18th, 2011
4:01 pm

Happy Thanksgiving, Kym!

I don’t like for my purse to be on the floor, but that’s my OCD. :)

Leggs

November 18th, 2011
4:05 pm

And that it’s not a designer bag…

Into the Light

November 18th, 2011
4:08 pm

LOL@Leggs. Mine is, but he probably wouldn’t like it, because I got it at the outlet mall. I’m sure it’s SOOOO last year. :)

SexyCool

November 18th, 2011
4:09 pm

My grandma used to say that if you put your purse on the floor, you will always be broke.

Well, I don’t really have that problem. So…….as long as I’m not eating off of or out of my purse….um, yeah…..

And really, when you think about it, a purse is just a bag that you carry stuff in, much like a backpack or duffel bag. I don’t believe I’ve ever heard of anybody having a problem with those bags being on the floor.

Besides, all I really care about is that my bag is close by when I need it.

Leggs

November 18th, 2011
4:11 pm

Like hell it’s not a designer bag….someone designed it.

Into the Light

November 18th, 2011
4:13 pm

Ugh, SCool! You put a backpack and duffel bag on the floor, too? I bet you don’t have your hi-lites done, either, and I bet your clothes are off the rack…. LMBO! :lol: :lol:

Leggs

November 18th, 2011
4:14 pm

Where do you put a duffle bag, ITL….

You guys remember dufflebag dude????

SexyCool

November 18th, 2011
4:17 pm

Leggs – I think En La Luz was being a smartie. (lol)

It’s funny – n the highlights, whenever I’m sitting around my house bored and I look at my hair and think it’s too dark, I ‘chunk’ a box of color in it. Sometimes, it’s bronze. Sometimes, it’s honey blond. And I usually end up with “some form” of highlights. (Although, I’m sure it’s nothing that would meet the super high standards outlined above.)

DreamsMaterialize

November 18th, 2011
4:18 pm

HST Do you have highlights? Leave the “womaning” to the women. I sure as he!! won’t be taking criticisms from a woman about whether my lineup in the back should be square, round, or faded. Whether I prefer the four-in-hand or Windsor knot should be of no concern to her.

kimmie

November 18th, 2011
4:19 pm

Wonder if he has highlights and carries a designer bag? :shock:

kimmie

November 18th, 2011
4:20 pm

Dreams – I see we were thinking alike!LOL!! Yeah, I can’t stand dudes all up in “girl stuff”!

DreamsMaterialize

November 18th, 2011
4:21 pm

Wonder if he has highlights and carries a designer bag?
kimmie Get out of my head! lol

Into the Light

November 18th, 2011
4:22 pm

Couldn’t resist, SCool!

I’m a double Windsor girl, Dreams.

Leggs

November 18th, 2011
4:22 pm

@SexyC ~ wasn’t sure the degree her OCD takes her (lol).

Into the Light

November 18th, 2011
4:24 pm

“Don’t talk about me like I’m not here!!!” (said in my best Julia Roberts as Shelby voice).

LOL :lol:

I’m a little OCD, but not crazy.

Leggs

November 18th, 2011
4:26 pm

@ITL ~ Sounds like you’re both if you’re channeling Shelby….

Leggs

November 18th, 2011
4:35 pm

:wink: does this help any?

DreamsMaterialize

November 18th, 2011
4:43 pm

I’m a double Windsor girl, Dreams.
ITL I like the Double Windsor too if I’m wearing a wide-cut collar. for more narrow, short collars, I go with the half Windsor. For a relatively informal event, I’ll go with the easy simple four-in-hand.

Into the Light

November 18th, 2011
4:52 pm

Shelby, Leggs, not Sybil!!! LOL

Ahhh, a well-dressed man. Love it. :)

Leggs

November 18th, 2011
4:54 pm

Excellent comeback, ITL…

Into the Light

November 18th, 2011
4:55 pm

Thanks. I thought maybe you were thinking of Sally Field as Sybil, instead of Julia Roberts as Shelby in Steel Magnolias. :)

Leggs

November 18th, 2011
4:55 pm

The man in your life should not desire to move into your house, only into your heart.

PEACE~

Leggs

November 18th, 2011
4:56 pm

No, I knew you were talking about Steel Magnolias…

Into the Light

November 18th, 2011
5:05 pm

Gotcha! ;)

That’s it for me. See y’all on Monday. Hope everyone has a fun, safe weekend.

abc

November 18th, 2011
5:09 pm

I have to imagine a high voice with a lisp reading HST’s post up there. It almost makes sense if you read it like that.

Although, I admit, I don’t like colored hair much on a woman either; but there’s almost no such thing as a woman with natural hair color. Wearing certain kinds of sunglasses makes colored hair look like it’s orange, no matter what the artificial hair coloring is. Put them on, all you see are chicks orange colored hair — 9 out of 10, anyway.

HST

November 19th, 2011
9:48 am

First off, women spend a lot of money and time on their hair. In all my LTRs, the women have a hair dresser and spend a lot of money to have fashionable hair. My girlfriends would be pissed if I didn’t notice. I date white girls so highlights or color are almost a standard. You can tell cheap jobs from professional jobs on hair.

I am old school about the purse on the ground. ALL of the women whom I’ve dated are from the same school of thought that was explained above. However, I was taught that by my girlfriends and sometimes their cattiness on the subject. Moreover, why would you put your purse where people walk in their dirty shoes? Then put it close to your body…ick.

When I see fake bags I cringe. I quickly say to the thief, why don’t you care about mind raping someone with your fake bag…it’s called Intellectual property. Yes, I carry and have several wallets from LV and Gucci. I rotate through them and match them to my attire. I do love the finer things in life.

I am into couture and shop every weekend. I live a nice lifestyle and whomever I am with must have an understanding of what we’re doing. That doesn’t mean I expect it from my lady friends, the public or think any less if it’s not present. Most of my LTRs have crazy bag collections that I’ve gifted them.

To the guy who thinks that highlights should be left to the women…ha. Try not complementing your girl after she spends all day at the salon. If you think a women shouldn’t care about your tie then you’re delusional. Leave the “womaning’ to the women…no wonder you’re out here. Women want us to take notice and we want attention from women. It’s called attraction and I bet you would change that tie if it meant a happy ending (in whatever way).

HST

November 19th, 2011
10:02 am

My girl right now can’t stop laughing at abc’s comment. I am in my gym rags drinking my morning Starbucks. I am a guy’s guy but that doesn’t mean I don’t like the finer things in life. abc, I imagine you with a mustache and a scumbag next to you in bed right now. It totally makes sense if you read your post…

My girl wanted me to tell y’all she’s going to pick which LV she wants to use today that I bought her…bitch#s. Her words not mine.

My final thought, I love Khiel’s.

HST

November 19th, 2011
10:46 am

I just can’t quit laughing at some of you. You ladies complain about meeting real men. Yet a man who cares about his appearance and notices a woman’s is just too much…HA! No wonder the woes that some of you speak of are happening. When you have to have last words such as this…

“The man in your life should not desire to move into your house, only into your heart.”

it’s no wonder some of you have the problems that you do.