May I have your attention, please?
Sometimes the dating scene can be like sliding doors. We are constantly passing one another, rarely slowing down long enough to connect. What does it take to get the attention of someone you like? How do you get the “right” kind of attention?
When you don’t have a lot of confidence, it isn’t always easy to get the attention of someone you are interested in. If you are shy, especially a shy woman, it’s particularly difficult to stand out from the crowd. What get a man’s attention?
Ladies, what turns your head and get’s you interested?
When was the last time someone got your attention and made you take notice? What did they say or do to make you perk up?
Happy Friday!
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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November 18th, 2011
1:58 pm
For every one woman that says something like: “A well dressed, presentable man with good manners gets my attention” I would wager 10 more are thinking: A well dressed man who’s a “bad boy” and drives around in a leased car, looking like he’s got some “bling bling”, or so sometimes it seems that way.
From personal experience, being a well-dressed average-to-slightly above average, physically-fit professional is simply not enough.
I’m sure it’s not always the case, or maybe it was mostly from younger women who only give attention to the “bad boys” until they’re divorced/stranded/abonded and their biological clock is running out.
It makes it very frustrating to try and be a nicely presented & honest guy when you’re rewarded with being ignored sometimes.
I’m sure there’s a parallel for women as well.
I guess it true what they say:
Water, water, everywhere-but not a drop to drink! (Plenty of women around, but very few ladies).
My $.02
Kym
November 18th, 2011
1:58 pm
@RandyT..see..see..double standard. Like this rash of teachers messing with the high school boys. You fellows wanna pass out cigars to the teenage boys.. me I wanna shake the teacher-trick.
Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)
November 18th, 2011
2:01 pm
Kym
I know.
Lady~
November 18th, 2011
2:02 pm
Kym I promise I thought the same thing! smh lol
Lady~
November 18th, 2011
2:04 pm
interesting…………..
Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)
November 18th, 2011
2:07 pm
@ Kym and Lady…It has its juvenile fantasies I know. Truthfully most of, if not all of, the consequences are bad. But I won’t lie, when I see one of those hot chickas on the news I wonder why I didn’t get that kind of offer when I was in high school. My only offers weren’t that attractive and I passed (one I do have some regrets about but my Mom picked up on it before I did).
Sniffer!
November 18th, 2011
2:07 pm
My buddy here at the j o b has a sick wife…diabetes..it has been kinda rough these past months for him…lost weight etc
He told me he was coming late today….he is a deeply religious man. Not loud…quiet etc
Now!
He came in when I was out for lunch and is in his office
But he is playing sorrowful music…at loud volume.
Out of characre!
Sniffer!
November 18th, 2011
2:08 pm
I hope it’s all good haven’t asked him yet
Tentative to….
Lady~
November 18th, 2011
2:09 pm
i hear ya Randy………….I don’t get it it personally but it happens
Sniffer!
November 18th, 2011
2:09 pm
Oooos character!
Lady~
November 18th, 2011
2:10 pm
Many chronic illnesses are taking over families Sniffer! Just lost my best friend to heart disease…….I have been shook ever since her death…….
Into the Light
November 18th, 2011
2:11 pm
C’mon, For Real. You and MeeMaw Peery coulda had something special, and now you’ll never know…….
(ITL passing For Real the can of Comet):
disco
November 18th, 2011
2:19 pm
kym – when I first bought the current house that I live in my son was in high school, maybe 15 or 16. one of my neighbors who was probably mid 40s to mid 50s had the nerve to comment – directly to me no less – on how fine and how sexy my son was. I ignored the comment hoping the moment would pass. she brought it back with a “did you hear me”. I had to get her straight right then and there. I then instructed my son to stay away from her. I encourage my son to be helpful and all but I told him if he saw her in need of assistance he was not to help. chick won’t be asking my son to help carry the groceries inside and then trying to get broke off. i remember telling my mother I’d do an amy fisher on her.
Lady~
November 18th, 2011
2:21 pm
disco I know this is narrow thinking but I do cringe @ dating younger….I have yet to do it……and I know it is accepted but that right there is disturbing……smh
For Real
November 18th, 2011
2:21 pm
For Real now sitting at Kym’s lectern waiting to be learned.
ITL: That’s just nasty but the funny part was how disgusted she was when I told her I was gay.
Leggs
November 18th, 2011
2:22 pm
It may be sorrowful to you, Sniffer, yet soothing to him.
Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)
November 18th, 2011
2:22 pm
Randyt peeking down the hall.
Randyt looking to the left…all clear.
Randyt looking to the right…all clear.
Straight shot to the exit door.
Time to make like the Marathon man
Have a happy holiday y’all. Talk after the break.
Sniffer!
November 18th, 2011
2:24 pm
@symbol! 1:58..
Look,to get a woman u don’t have to denigrate the next guy..just be U!
Confident!
whining is neva a winning strategy…
Besides,if u say u a well dressed man urself and got ur ish together but still failing to snag a chic,then u need to switch it a bit.
Don’t come in here whining maaaan!!!!
Sniffer!
November 18th, 2011
2:26 pm
maybe Leggs good observation!
Leggs
November 18th, 2011
2:27 pm
@disco ~ a few years ago I was driving make a left hand turn. Drove by a bunch of cars. About the 5th car was this cute guy behind the wheel. I got his eye and he caught my. I gave the flirting while driving honk. Immediately thereafter I realized it was one of my good friend’s young sons. I literally gasped. When I got home, I called her and told her what I did. We both laughed. Man these kids are growing fast.
DreamsMaterialize
November 18th, 2011
2:27 pm
Funny, I remember my mom blocking on me when I came home from college one Christmas. We were in the mall, and she wanted to stop in this store. I told her I’d wait outside. While I’m sitting down this older woman (about 30) sat down and started chatting me up. I remember she seemed so refined and elegant…just gorgeous. We were having a good little conversation when my mom walks up and says in a pleasantly exaggerated tone, “Hi I’m his mother. He’s just in college. Nice meeting you. Come on Dreams.” As we walked away, I was like “what was that all about”, and she just said, “She ought to know better.”
Kym
November 18th, 2011
2:28 pm
@disco..see that right there is grounds for a beatdown..my son is that type..let me help you Ms. So-So..heaven help a heifer if she hems my son up..I will beat her tail and call the cops myself..and do the time straight up…that crap ain’t cute.
Lady~
November 18th, 2011
2:29 pm
Your mom was on point Dreams!
disco
November 18th, 2011
2:30 pm
leggs – glad you and she could laugh about it. I still look at my neighbor funny and it’s been about 6 or 7 years now. just don’t trust that chick. she recently had a business trip in the city my son currently lives in – gone ask me for his number so she could take him to dinner while she was there. you can cool believe she didn’t get that number. he may be an adult now but I’ll still bust her up about him.
Willie Dynamite
November 18th, 2011
2:31 pm
Dayum who blocks the best? Kids or Mothers?????
Sniffer!
November 18th, 2011
2:33 pm
For Real
doing a drive by Leggs,trying to get a Cougar flirt..grinning and winks 
Leggs frowns and don’t bite
She turns to look away
For Real
:-I as he bends to pick up the Viagra pack and puts the pill back in.
Leggs
November 18th, 2011
2:35 pm
@disco ~ we were only able to laugh because he looks older for his age, and I hadn’t seen him in many years. I did feel a little bad thinking I flirted with her son…uuuuggghhh!!
And, that was extremely stupid and disrespectful of her asking you for his number…grown or not grown you already told her 6 to 7 years ago to stay clear or else someone be flatlining and it ain’t you. She gots ballz…
Kym
November 18th, 2011
2:36 pm
We need to switch topics this stuff irrates me. I still think about that teacher in Clayton preggie by the 17 year old with twins..no less. Dumb trick! There was one a year ago..wanted the boy to get her preggie out in Gwinnett. WTH!! I was all they can think about is Xbox360 war games..Madden..and cheerleaders..what is the old lady gonna do for him other than buy him some games and give him some milk and cookies???
Lady~
November 18th, 2011
2:36 pm
Mothers Willie! our six sense rocks!
Leggs
November 18th, 2011
2:36 pm
Kids…
Lady~
November 18th, 2011
2:37 pm
yeah I always imagined if I had a son I would be that mama…..smh ok moving on………
i'm swiss™
November 18th, 2011
2:38 pm
Thanks, For Real & Willie D. And you know I will be having some cake & eating pie, too…
Willie Dynamite
November 18th, 2011
2:38 pm
I say Mothers. Only because (under 18 I can understand) but, Moms still side-eyeing and blocking when the Son is in college. Now thats rich.
disco
November 18th, 2011
2:41 pm
my son can go older but there’s a limit to this madness. I don’t worry about him though because he knows his momma is crazy and he doesn’t want to spend the rest of his life putting money on my books.
Leggs
November 18th, 2011
2:42 pm
For Real doing a drive by Leggs,trying to get a Cougar flirt..grinning and winks – Pretty much.
But, I didn’t frown because he didn’t bite…he too smiled and looked. Too bad it was my friend’s son.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 18th, 2011
2:44 pm
Hold on a minute older women taught me a lot when I was coming up.
Kym
November 18th, 2011
2:46 pm
@disco..my son’s favorite line for me..”is look old lady I ain’t gonna to no foster care!” (taken from Riley on the Boondocks) I am with you..that chick is lucky you didn’t cuss her out. Old a$$$ heifer..
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 18th, 2011
2:46 pm
Well they weren’t that much older. I’m 16 they’re 19.
Uh oh
November 18th, 2011
2:48 pm
That’s what these mamas are in fear of….putting it on those young college boys. Getting loose will be twice as hard
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 18th, 2011
2:49 pm
I was and still is in love with Pam Grier. She just don’t know I exist, but I’ll take her on today even at her age 62.
Lady~
November 18th, 2011
2:49 pm
This is my first entire week off for Thanksgiving in my whole 9 year professional tenure! I truly overlooked this on the calendar! I still am in disbelief but I will embrace it!!!!~
Happy Thanksgiving MIA~
Peace!
Leggs
November 18th, 2011
2:51 pm
@Lady ~ we are in the same boat. I have never had the entire week off either. I am so looking forward to going to the store Monday morning and getting all that I need hopefully without a big crowd.
SlimNu
November 18th, 2011
2:51 pm
Lady – If you like, I’ll trade you my work week for your week off.
DreamsMaterialize
November 18th, 2011
2:56 pm
oh mothers got blocking on lock, no doubt.
Kym
November 18th, 2011
2:58 pm
@Dreams..your mama was right..dirty old woman..she should know better.
i'm swiss™
November 18th, 2011
3:03 pm
Oh, hey, BTW… Totally off topic, but any accountants out there looking for a new gig, let me know. Also, any technical trainers (must have strong web development skills), hit me up.
Willie Dynamite
November 18th, 2011
3:04 pm
Black – You are right. Looking back I sure do appreciate a few of those ‘Dirty old Women’.
Leggs
November 18th, 2011
3:05 pm
Guess you guys are right…I was thinking of little children….
Into the Light
November 18th, 2011
3:07 pm
oh mothers got blocking on lock, no doubt.
You might want to add dads into the mix, especially when it’s their daughter.
DreamsMaterialize
November 18th, 2011
3:11 pm
your mama was right..dirty old woman..she should know better.
Kym yeah you couldn’t have told me that then though. I was feeling myself. I have a daughter, so I get it now. A 30 year old cat trying to chat up my daughter at 19 is gonna catch the Jimmy Supafly Snooka from the top ropes.