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May I have your attention, please?

Sometimes the dating scene can be like sliding doors. We are constantly passing one another, rarely slowing down long enough to connect. What does it take to get the attention of someone you like? How do you get the “right” kind of attention?

When you don’t have a lot of confidence, it isn’t always easy to get the attention of someone you are interested in. If you are shy, especially a shy woman, it’s particularly difficult to stand out from the crowd. What get a man’s attention?

Ladies, what turns your head and get’s you interested?

When was the last time someone got your attention and made you take notice? What did they say or do to make you perk up?

Happy Friday!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

248 comments Add your comment

Celisea

November 18th, 2011
8:20 am

Morning,

When was the last time someome goty attention?

Very very very recently. In this case though as much as I could with, I can’t seem to get him to understand thay a bit more clarity is needed. Maybe he does maybe it’s not worth trouble.

Celisea

November 18th, 2011
8:23 am

As mu as I could go with it… is what I meant…..maybe blogging on the go ain’t for me

Lady~

November 18th, 2011
8:25 am

Morning MIA~ ;)

hmmmmmm @ the topic…….

Leggs

November 18th, 2011
8:35 am

Good morning.

“How do you get the “right” kind of attention?” – That’s the million dollar question. Being around the caliber of men you want to attract will definitely help, but that’s easier said than done.

“Ladies, what turns your head and get’s you interested?” – A well dressed man gets my attention, then his conversation ignites me wanting to get to know more about him. A nice smile with all his teeth helps as well.

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 18th, 2011
8:37 am

Apparently to get noticed on facebook you have to take pics of your private areas and post them. I dunno

Lady~

November 18th, 2011
8:43 am

DK it is sad what the Book of Faces has come to……………

Celisea

November 18th, 2011
8:43 am

A man that’s crisp, not self absorbed. A man that is intentional in efforts. None of that run of the mill stuff……..that’s the kind of man that gets m attention

Linds

November 18th, 2011
8:44 am

Happy Friday!

The last time someone got my attention, he did something really nice for someone else and didn’t say anything about it. I took notice of the fact that he wasn’t expecting anything for doing it, and it seemed to come naturally to him to be kind, generous, and sweet (not fake, rehearsed or out of pity/obligation). It’s cliche but being genuine is key.

Another thing that I’ve noticed before is when someone really tries to be understanding of other people’s perspectives, even when it doesn’t make sense to them at first. I’m definitely interested in someone who will not judge me or others for anything. Life is too good and too short for all that.

I’m also interested in someone who is quick to laugh and smile. And I don’t mean laughing at other’s expenses or flirtatiously smirking at a cutie either. Again, being authentic is key.

Celisea

November 18th, 2011
8:44 am

Alright folks….have a good one

Lady~

November 18th, 2011
8:59 am

Linds good post!

SlimNu

November 18th, 2011
9:01 am

Good morning,

O/T: (sorry so early) But why in the sam hill do you have your two little girls in short-sleeved tshirts, pajama bottoms and flip flips with NO jackets out at Mickey D’s. Then yo azz has on cutoff short short blue jean shorts with flip-flips in the cold weather???? There is no excuse for not at least having your kids dressed appropriately for the weather. Sorry, now back to your regulary scheduled program.

Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

November 18th, 2011
9:01 am

Getting attention is not that difficult…getting ACTION is quite different. To get attention, all you have to do is get closer just smile and make a seemingly innocent, friendly, comment/conversation starter, i.e. weather, a question about where to find something in Publix, innocuous compliment about the style of a lady’s outfit, or the old standby, “is it Friday yet?”. The key is to present friendly, comfortable, and polite…big smile, big smile.

The hard part is the transition from the idle chit chat to “By the way, I’m Randy, nice to meet you”, and then to “I don’t normally do this with someone I just met by accident, but maybe if you come here often perhaps I could buy you a cup of coffee sometime…you seem like an interesting person and someone I’d like to know more about”. That part is hard. And though it might actually work on rare occasions, I do not recommend saying something like, “I’d like to kiss every inch of your body, are you free for the next few hours”. I don’t recommend that.

Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

November 18th, 2011
9:08 am

i went back and reread WD’s commentary and saw this line that tells all…”rarely slowing down long enough to connect”.

There lies the problem. The true key lies in a song by an old group, Simon and Garfunkel, ”

“Slow down, you move too fast,
You’ve got to make the morning last,
Kicking down the cobblestones,
Looking for fun and feeling groovy”

Just do it…slow down. you will be stunned at the benefits.

Into the Light

November 18th, 2011
9:08 am

Morning, all! TGIF!!

What initially gets my attention is a nice smile or perhaps a nice gesture that I happen to see. What keeps my attention beyond that is good, intelligent, witty conversation.

“I’d like to kiss every inch of your body, are you free for the next few hours”. I don’t recommend that
LOL. :lol:

MsMarriedUp

November 18th, 2011
9:09 am

Awwwlllll… now I liked that heading… that got my attention. LOL!

True, RandyT… getting attention is not hard at all. It’s the getting the right attention that’s hard!

Wish I had a min to describe what I did to get the attention of the one person I wanted to meet. Oh my God…I never sweated so much in my life!!!!!!!!!!!!! And to this day he still teases me about how he had to do all the work. Oh.. to freakin’ hilarious!

Into the Light

November 18th, 2011
9:13 am

(waving at Randyt) Hey!! Can you believe my Dawgs have a chance to clinch the East tomorrow???

Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

November 18th, 2011
9:22 am

Changing my name to “The unknown Vols fan”. Keep two bags around in case my first one falls off.

Hard to believe ITL. I won’t lie, I thought UGA was a pretender for most of the season, but I can’t argue with the performance you’ve displayed the last few weeks. Your beatdown of Auburn was very impressive. KY, in addition to not being very good to begin with as always, has always snatched defeat from the jaws of victory. they have a losing mentality and truly find a way to lose games they actually are competitive in. You will beat them by thirty points unless Richt pulls his horses out to save them for the SEC title.

That said, as you know, my Vols have played Alabama, LSU, and Arkansas and a few more in the top 15. Honestly, UGA may surprise me, but LSU and Alabama are both in a league of their own. It is them and then all the rest. They have few if any holes. That game will not be easy.

Peaches

November 18th, 2011
9:27 am

I offered him the seat next to me so he could get a better view of the game….been together since!

Into the Light

November 18th, 2011
9:35 am

Can’t argue with that, Randy. LSU and Alabama are both great teams. But as you know, on any given day, anything can happen. If we beat KY tomorrow, and go on to beat the gNATS, well….who knows??? :)

disco

November 18th, 2011
9:38 am

good morning.

slim nu – at least the parent was underdressed as well. you would have been a lot more annoyed if the momma looked warm while her kiddies looked cold.

abc

November 18th, 2011
9:46 am

I don’t think there’s anything a chick could specifically do to get my attention. I’m either magically interested, or not. Likewise, I don’t do anything to try and attract any specific kind of attention to myself. If someone notices, fine and great; if not, cool.

kimmie

November 18th, 2011
9:50 am

Good morning!

I like Linds post

Light/Randyt – I am FIRED UP about the Dawgs!

Topic – Well groomed, nice teeth and a warm face get my attention. Note I said a warm face, the intense type scare me. Then being able to hold an intelligent conversation and an ease about himself that puts others around him at ease is nice. Must have a sense of humor. A gentleman that does not come out of the gate crude talking about sex. I like a man that’s a little more smooth with his, because as I’ve quoted before on here “an empty wagon makes the most noise”. Dudes that are all bragadocious usually come up short.

As for what has always attracted men to me? I’m just myself. I never leave the house not looking my best. I am intelligent but I don’t take myself too seriously. I can hold a great conversation and I don’t talk down to anyone. I have a good, if not goofy, sense of humor. Dudes seem to like my butt. I got put in the friend zone quite a bit, but thats okay. I got a friend and a lover in my husband!

SlimNu

November 18th, 2011
9:50 am

disco – Yeah but either way she needed her butt whooped. It’ll be her kids getting everybody else’s kids sick.

Linds

November 18th, 2011
9:59 am

abc-

what is this magic you speak of?

Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

November 18th, 2011
10:00 am

Totally off topic, my daughter sent me a Youtube of Adele. Awesome song and my daughter sent it because she knows i’ve walked on the Seine where it was shot. Great song…and “been there done that” (the lyrics I mean).

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hLQl3WQQoQ0&ob=av3e

abc

November 18th, 2011
10:02 am

Chemistry magic. It’s either there, or it isn’t. Beyond nice hair, tight behind, fair of face, what’s to be of interest? It’s chemical.

Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

November 18th, 2011
10:02 am

@ ITL win, lose, or draw in the championship…you made it and earned the right to be there. Congrats.

Mike P

November 18th, 2011
10:05 am

Good Morning Everyone,

Here’s my $0.02:

Getting attention isn’t hard at all, guys always notices a woman when she enters a room. Getting the attention you want and from the person you desire is another thing all together. I don’t think you can force it. If the guy is interested, he’ll make his way over to you. All men already know what/who he wants, so no effort is really all that necessary to get his attention. He already knows, if he doesn’t acknowledge the fact that you have his attention could be because one of the following: he is not interested, he is very shy himself, he’s with somebody already, or some other woman already has his undivided attention.

Leggs

November 18th, 2011
10:07 am

@Randyt ~ love the song and love Adele. Her videos are simple videos where she lets her remarkable voice outshine her videos. Although it’s a sad song, it’s beautifully sung.

Audra

November 18th, 2011
10:11 am

I think it’s hard to get the attention of the kind of man you want, the RIGHT kind. It seems they are all taken! Then you get hit on by every one you DON’T want, LOL. I guess this is just the way it goes until you find the one that you click with.

DreamsMaterialize

November 18th, 2011
10:15 am

Morning
There are lots of things about women that get my attention. It depends on my mood, the setting, and the woman. Lots of things can get my attention, but an intelligent woman can keep my attention.

disco

November 18th, 2011
10:19 am

well I’ll attempt to answer the topic question at face value. I’m talking the stranger across the room type situation. first things first, for me, is what a guy is wearing and how he’s wearing it. no denying you can put two folks in the exact same get up and one just wears it better. I like a man that looks good in his clothes. and I’m not just talking suited up. some fellows look really good when balling in their basketball shorts and tshirts and some don’t. I’m also attracted to the fresh, sharp haircut. not really feeling the bald head look and I’m not a fan of the cornrowed, dreadlocked man, long haired man. I’m a big fan of the quiet, pensive type fellow. he’s pleasant and speaking to folks but not out there trying to be the life of the party. trust me when I say I don’t have a shy bone in my body. if I see it and I like it, I’m on it. the bigger issue is I just don’t see it that much. I was out last weekend in a town where I essentially knew no one except the person I was with. didn’t see a single man worth batting an eyelash over. not a single one.

Linds

November 18th, 2011
10:20 am

I want to know what does a woman have to do to get the attention off of her from a mangy guy…and also, when a woman gets the attention of a good guy, how does she keep it?

Kym

November 18th, 2011
10:28 am

Good Morning All–Happy Friday!!

What gets my attention! Funny!! If you can make me laugh you have my attention. A sense of humor is so important.

I am so happy I am off all next week…I have to make a long drive for turkey day..@RandyT have you read “The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo”?
know it’s old but I figured it was worth a listen on the drive up north.

Marcus

November 18th, 2011
10:29 am

++

a guy who spends alllllllot of money on me —- ALWAYS gets my attention!

Mike P

November 18th, 2011
10:31 am

@Linds: here my answer, don’t act or doing anything; however, “BE” someone worth keeping, then you won’t have any trouble grabbing and keeping good guys.

Audra

November 18th, 2011
10:33 am

That’s a good point, disco. I have noticed sooo many men that don’t take care of their appearance, weight, etc., and don’t realize that this is a turn-off to the ladies. These things are important to women too!! In the immortal words of ZZ Top: Every Girl’s Crazy ‘Bout a Sharp-Dressed Man. ;)

We spend a LOT of time and money keeping ourselves in shape, dressing nice, etc. (at least most of us do), so guys, do the same or don’t be surprised if you don’t get attention from the ladies you want! Everyone wants someone they’re atracted to – just a basic biological fact.

Audra

November 18th, 2011
10:33 am

oh, and for the men who get this: THANK YOU!!! You look great. :)

Into the Light

November 18th, 2011
10:40 am

@Kimmie – Me, too! I am so fired up for Saturday’s game. I’ll be an ice cube, until the sun gets to our side of the stadium around the 3rd quarter, but it will all be worth it if we leave with a “W”.

Thanks, Randy. :) You might very well be one of the few UT fans I actually like.

Mike P

November 18th, 2011
10:40 am

@Audra: You’re welcome lol

I am going to re-post your comments for the ladies as well:

We (Men) spend effort, time and money keeping ourselves in shape, dressing nice, etc. (at least most of us do), so ladies, do the same or don’t be surprised if you don’t get attention from the hot guys you want! Everyone wants someone they’re attracted to – just a basic biological fact.

oh, and for the women who get this: THANK YOU!!! You look amazing. :)

Leggs

November 18th, 2011
10:42 am

I appreciate that, MikeP…thank you.

disco

November 18th, 2011
10:46 am

mike/audra – I’m not even attacking folks for whether or not they are in shape (though not denying that’s a valid point). I’m being straight shallow with mine. some folks just don’t fill those clothes out as well as others do. I can’t stand to see a man or woman in a bad A suit and it’s just hanging all willy nilly because they can’t fill it out right. I hate to see women wear boots with skirts and there is enough room for another leg in the boot. I won’t even start on the folks that are busting out of their clothes. there’s something out there for everyone. folks need to try to find what works for them/with them and stick with it.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

November 18th, 2011
10:48 am

I don’t know when I’m recieving attention, women aren’t walking up to me and I understand they don’t have to. I create my own attention by approaching a lady with a smile and easy conversation. I give her attention and if she don’t like my presentation that’s fine, it’s her choice and I move on.

DreamsMaterialize

November 18th, 2011
10:53 am

As far as getting a woman’s attention, I just be myself. That’ll be enough to get the attention of the women who are looking for a guy like me. I pitch my product to those in the market to buy what I’m selling. I get compliments on my teeth, so I’m guessing my smile is an attention-getter for some.

Mike P

November 18th, 2011
10:53 am

@disco: that’s cool, everybody got their pet peeves and are entitled to them.
For me its physical fitness, health, and self-confidence. either you got it or you don’t… you can’t fake any of these… I take very good care of myself physically and I don’t smoke so of course I will require the same from any woman I may choose.

Sniffer!

November 18th, 2011
10:54 am

Audra?

the crappy dressed dude,with torn shorts(no saggy,no no) and some decent sneakers with a nicely dressed chic in some Sexxy outfit tagging along?

that’s the ultimate power move! :lol:

On topic:

Who gets my attn?

A nicely dressed chic with shapely leggs…Always! If she hot butt like Kimmie’s(I’m sure it’s hot),Perfect. Now if she pulls off a smile and is not frowny but very engaging….Help me,I’m sold!!!!!!

That’s how a chic can get attn from any man for that matter!

A dude just needs swagg…whether u a drug dealer,professional in some other capacity,whatever. It don’t matter….swagg(confidence) is the key!

TGIF

(not even one man in that town Disco?? Must have been some rural post)

Kym

November 18th, 2011
10:59 am

Please..for the love of all that is holy and unholy..please if you have to tell someone you have Swagger..guess what..you don’t got it. That has to be the most over used word ever….

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

November 18th, 2011
10:59 am

I’ll know through eye contact and a smile whether my advances are worth the trip. I’m oblivious to attention because I don’t require it.

Sniffer!

November 18th, 2011
11:07 am

U don’t tell someone u got swagg..that’s like saying u got money

That’s a No No

If u have it shows

Sniffer!

November 18th, 2011
11:07 am