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What happened to chivalry?

There is this perception that women today are treated with less chivalry. I always consider chivalry another form of kindness. I am optimistic and a bit of a romantic, so I don’t like the idea that women are treated with less kindness in today’s society.

When I am on Marta, I still see men giving up their seats to women and children. I still notice men taking up for their women if they notice any signs of disrespect. So when people ask what happened to chivalry, I like to answer with another question: What happened to kindness?

Do you believe that we are generally less kind to one another? If women are treated with less chivalry, do you think men are less appreciated?

How do you define chivalry? Do you think it is necessary and needed?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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sfw

November 17th, 2011
8:15 am

Do I believe that we are less kind to one another-Yes
Are women treated with less chivalry-Yes
Are men less appreciated-Yes
Is it needed-Yes

How can we change this, I have no idea……

webby

November 17th, 2011
8:35 am

I was raised to treat others, particularly women, with respect. As a non-traditional male student in college a couple of years ago, I held a door open for a young woman as I was leaving and she was entering. She frowned at me and, looking me straight in the eye, opened the other door to walk in. I honestly believe some of this has to do with the notion that by showing such a kindness, the man is implying the women is weak or incapable of doing such for herself. I hold the door as a courtesy, regardless of the gender of the person behind me.

IndependentWoman

November 17th, 2011
8:35 am

I was raised by my Dad to be independent, so I often do things for myself – like change the headlights in my car, carry heavy objects, etc. So it’s not necessarily chivalry that I think is fading, but just general kindness. It seems to me that men especially no longer have any concern for women and children. Simple things, like holding a door open for a woman with small children, are foreign ideas to a lot of today’s men. I won’t even start talking about the number of women and children who are injured or killed at the hands of the men who say they love them. We live in a different world now. Kindness, unfortunately, should no longer be expected.

LeeH1

November 17th, 2011
8:36 am

Women’s equality killed chivalry. When women complain when men open doors for them; when women often times now makes many times what men make, but still want men to pay for their dinner and movie tickets; when women snarl at men for being patronizing, superior, dominating, chivalry dies.

Women who demand equal funds for girl’s sports cannot insist that men do all the heavy lifting for them; women who insist on equal paychecks should not insist that men pay for the priviledge of taking them out; women who insist on equal opportunity should no longer insist that men let them come first.

Besides, this is also a class thing. So women who insist on tearing down class distinctions, should not be surprised when they are torn down. Bad drives out good, and equality drives out superior actions by dominating men.

When men are made the fools in comedy shows, women get the kinds of men they want and praise. When boys are treated as loud mouthed and sarcastic laugh getters on comedy shows, women get the kinds of boys they grow up to be.

What is needed is a new set of manners, where men don’t make gestures to women that re-inforce that they are weaker and need protection that other men do not. Women need some new manners, too.

But I won’t hold my breath.

sfw

November 17th, 2011
8:43 am

Put it simply
You are damned if you do and damned if you don’t

Foxy

November 17th, 2011
8:49 am

GM kids!

Foxy believes in the law of attraction – act like a lady and you will get a gentelman.

Celisea

November 17th, 2011
8:52 am

Morning,

Foxy I agree and

Mike P

November 17th, 2011
8:57 am

You can’t just act like a lady, you have to BE a lady to get a gentleman; else, you’re going to end up with that other man.

Good Morning Blog Folk

Celisea

November 17th, 2011
8:59 am

Opp….hit enter too quick

I was saying that IMO it’s nothing more than kindness and consideration. It extends though beyond being being that “lady” that lands a gentleman. Too many men now frown on the “lady” of yesteryear. Too antiquated too stuffy. So even in that regard being a lady can has become subjective. Overall as I said it’s just plainly kindness and consideration.

Celisea

November 17th, 2011
9:02 am

Being a lady I would thinks means to act accordingly.

disco

November 17th, 2011
9:02 am

good morning. I am a proponent for chivalry but must say that I was quite tickled when a guy phoned in to a morning radio show and said that if he pushed the unlock button on his key chain and the passenger door went “beep beep” then his wife should consider that opening the door for her.

sfw

November 17th, 2011
9:04 am

Kindness and consideration is all but dead now, it’s more fun for people to bully and berate each other than actually helping each other out. The most help people will give to each other now is to give them a vague direction and send them on thier way, if that even helps out at all.

Celisea

November 17th, 2011
9:07 am

Hey just because it’s rarely practice doesn’t take away the meaning

Audra

November 17th, 2011
9:09 am

Wow, LeeH1, angry much? :)

I guess I don’t understand – you’re saying that promoting basic fairness (e.g. equal funding for girls sports, equal pay), negates the need for men to be considerate to women? So if we complain when men are “patronizing, superior, and dominating” we lose our right to kindness? How about men not being patronizing, superior, and dominating?? The men I interact with are none of these things, nor are they unchivalrous. I guess you’re right, it’s a matter of class.

And while I agree with you that a woman should offer to pay (or split the bill) if she is going to be an equal, there is nothing wrong with opening a door for a lady, and most of us appreciate it. Even those of us who make more money than our men. Like it’s been stated several times before, it’s about kindness and consideration. And in my world nothing about equality takes that away.

Mike P

November 17th, 2011
9:12 am

@Celisea: Nope, well, yes and no…

If you are a lady (believe inside that you are, If you’re going along with the law of attraction theme), you could behave normally, and you would naturally “act” like one.
but if you believe you’re not a lady, you’ll have to “act” as in pretend.

“Too many men now frown on the “lady” of yesteryear. Too antiquated too stuffy.”
I can’t speak for other men, but those are the only women I date. I don’t find them to be stuffy or antiquated, I find them to be rare.

sfw

November 17th, 2011
9:14 am

VERY RARE!!!!

Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

November 17th, 2011
9:16 am

Common courtesy is dying attribute, period. The Army taught me one of the most valuable lessons ever about child rearing…you lead BY EXAMPLE. When my children were growing up, I addressed THEM with”yes sir”, no sir”, the quotes above, etc. from the time they could talk. they watched me hold doors, open car doors, and try to always demonstrate courtesy. Now, one has his Doctorate, one has an MBA in International Business, and one recently graduated with her undergrad degree in Communications. All have been successful partly because of respect and common courtesy…and on Father’s Day they remind me who taught them that. I guess I got at least one thing right amongst all the things I didn’t ;-)

Today, we have some pizz poor examples by parents for the last couple of decades and it shows. When I was entering the job market in high school and college, I did the bag boy/cashier thing, all of the normal part time jobs. One was McDonalds. Back then, if you didn’t say “please, thank you, yes sir, yes maam, and THANK YOU”, your azzz would be out the door in an hour. Now I swear I thank cashiers more than they thank me.

Celisea

November 17th, 2011
9:17 am

MikeP – I there with you….in other words you can’t fake it. Either ya is or ya ain’t…lol I’m happy to hear you say that. I find it rare too that some can still appreciate one.

Roy Jones

November 17th, 2011
9:20 am

Real equality can be tough.
If women want pay equality along with other forms or equality then they should get used to “manners equality”. If I am unwilling to open a door for a man then why should I open it for you?
No special treatment just because you have a vagina.
Those days are gone.
Along with a mom that does not work and a man providing for a family of four on a single income.
Good riddance,

Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

November 17th, 2011
9:24 am

“I hold the door as a courtesy, regardless of the gender of the person behind me”.

Great comment. Me too. The only time I ever have regrets is when I hold the door and then fifty people walk up and just keep coming :-) I do it then too, but I then wonder how many people are now in line ahead of me, LOL.

Kym

November 17th, 2011
9:27 am

Good Morning All,

Yes, I believe that the attitude of it’s all about me..what’s in it for me..what can you do for me..has invaded us all like the aliens and we have become less concerned with helping our neighbors(fellow human beings). Sad state of affairs but becoming increasingly true, and yes kindness is needed now more than ever.

kimmie

November 17th, 2011
9:36 am

Morning All!

I thought we covered this about a month ago. Anyway, I’m with you Randyt & Webby, I hold the door out of courtesy for anyone. If I see someone struggling with packages or small children, I will help them. I call it good manners and hometraining.

All that bs about “act like a lady”, women’s lib – what does any of that have to do with simple kindness?

SlimNu

November 17th, 2011
9:49 am

Happy Chilly Thursday…

I am considerate & kind in general but if someone is not reciprocating that, then I don’t waste my energy on miserable folks…because in my mind, I assume that’s what’s wrong with them since there is no excuse to be a d!ck

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

November 17th, 2011
9:51 am

I will hold open a door as common courtesy, I respect people and knowing not all warrant, appreciate, or expect chivalry it doesn’t change my perception. The lady/guy don’t have to say a word to me for holding a door open for them. I made that decision not them.

Morning Back Kimmie, Kym, Celisea, Foxy:

Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

November 17th, 2011
9:54 am

@ BF re:
“I respect people and knowing not all warrant, appreciate, or expect chivalry it doesn’t change my perception”

EXACTLY! Well stated.

Sniffer!

November 17th, 2011
9:57 am

People dint even greet u in the office esp here in the U S A!

they just walk past u.

I used to find that very hard,saying’ good morning’ to folks,black and white and never getting a response.

Now,I target my kindness to folk who are like minded.

The rat race(capitalism) has made folks so unfeeling,so inhuman,so unconcerned for the welfare of the next person. How can I open the door for that sucker coming in when I (not me personally) have to rush and punch that clock to get credit for my hours?

Fcks chivalry! :lol:

(I do open doors tho personally)

SexyCool

November 17th, 2011
9:57 am

Topic – Use. Rinse. Repeat.

T-Shirts – “Today, we have some pizz poor examples by parents for the last couple of decades and it shows.” <<–THAT needed to be said again.

Celisea

November 17th, 2011
9:58 am

Morning Blackfoote. You summed it up nicely, it’s you and what you do. Doesn’t matter about the othwr person. A person that’s geniunely considerate won’t waste time trying see if it’s deserved or have motives.

disco

November 17th, 2011
9:58 am

kym – I’m not even going to lie this early in the morning. I have learned to embrace the “what’s in it for me” attitude sometimes. I own my selfishness and I defend it. sometimes you have to be selfish or folks will take advantage. some people are okay if you are always the one to drive or if you are always the one to initiate something or if you are always the one to volunteer to take care of something. you have to get selfish when dealing with those kinds.

kimmie

November 17th, 2011
10:00 am

Morning Bf!

It never fails. Whenever this topic comes up we can count on the usual: 1-somebody always comes on talking about how they held the door for some woman and she didn’t appreciate it,2-some tired dudes moaning about how life is miserable and he doesn’t have to be considerate to women anymore because of women’s lib, 3-the “women don’t act like ladies anymore” women-bashing crew. So you have time to size up a woman and assess if she’s a lady or not or too independant before you hold the door so it won’t slam in her face or help her if she’s struggling with some packages?

It really isn’t that serious. If you don’t want to do anything kind for your fellow woman or man, then don’t do it. Real simple. The world won’t come to an end. But don’t come on moaning that you’re a “nice guy” or “good woman” and can’t find anyone interested in your tired behind.

smh!!

Into the Light

November 17th, 2011
10:05 am

Morning, all!

Am I having deja vu??

Now I swear I thank cashiers more than they thank me.

Exactly, and one of my pet peeves. Another? When you thank someone and they say, “yep.” Whatever happened to “you’re welcome?”

Celisea

November 17th, 2011
10:06 am

Mmello….a person don’t if they can only extend based on whether or not given first. Sort of how my uncle explained how to survive relationships…both give 100%….. not 50/50. Do it because it’s who we are as humans…not because of reciprocity. Yes we would all appreciate coming back or extended back. Shouldn’t prevente from displaying just because someone else don’t or won’t.

Typing from a device….not fun.

Kym

November 17th, 2011
10:06 am

@disco….I have come to accept that the world is full of givers and takers and some folks only know how to take..you can’t stop giving just have to know who to give time too..someone told me that when folks disappoint us after we discover they are taker we have to go..dang feel sorry for you..you missed out on a good friend..oh well..NO SOUP FOR YOU!..and move on.

SexyCool

November 17th, 2011
10:08 am

kimmie – agreed. My stance is this – I do what I know to do and was taught to do regardless of whether or not other folks act like they have any sense/manners or not. Well, at least, most of the time, I am human.

Just this morning, I had to stop in the street for these two very overweight folks who were jaywalking and on top of that, crossing the street at negative two miles an hour. I have to admit – I gave them the death ray glare. (I should say a prayer for forgiveness and a bible verse. Dear Lord, forgive me for shooting death rays at the people crossing the street this morning. Amen. Oh…and the Bible verse. “Jesus wept.”)

Celisea

November 17th, 2011
10:08 am

Off topic….Dentists aren’t fun…..boo

Kym

November 17th, 2011
10:11 am

I have to admit..I am more of the revenge type..you hurt me and..well..you might get soup but I wouldn’t eat it if I was you..I tell folks all the time..one of my all time fav quotes is “they send one of ours to the hospital, we send one of theirs to the morgue..that’s the Chicago Way.” But I am a work in progress..I am getting better.

Celisea

November 17th, 2011
10:12 am

And the dude complaining because he feels acts and priviledges are tied to the vagina. With that attitude hope he’s sworn off vaginas all together.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

November 17th, 2011
10:13 am

LOL…..@Kimmie

Funny this early, y’all makes my day.

kimmie

November 17th, 2011
10:14 am

Kym – Yes, I’m not going to stop giving. That’s who I am, a giver. Now I am just sharper about those I give to. Those that are truly in need and are appreciative.

If I’m always expecting something in return, then I’m really no better than those I complain about.

kimmie

November 17th, 2011
10:15 am

Sniffer!

November 17th, 2011
10:15 am

Cel.. I was talking about folks in the office..folks I know on the regular..

some of them..I take it that they are hung up on their bills to worry about saying good morning to a fellow worker…I font bother either,Now! they’re stuck in their ways.

Kindness in general… I’m good to everybody regardless.

If u a lady/woman,a thank u is appreciated

I have no issue with dudes on this coz many will nod or acknowledge u with a thanks

Females? Ofcourse there are some with scars who frown but we pray for them and KIM

We can’t judge the rest of the fish coz of one stinking one.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

November 17th, 2011
10:17 am

Celsiea…….LOL

disco

November 17th, 2011
10:17 am

dang kym. too early to be sending folks to the morgue. still I understand the give/take nature of relationships but folks who are taking (or trying to take) all the time better wake up. or at least try to get their take on somewhere else. I’m not the one.

ITL – pet peeve? folks who are still saying “my bad” instead of I’m sorry or I apologize. your bad? really? as for the sorry – you’re welcome thing, it played out very nicely in a movie called take the lead with alfre Woodard and Antonio banderas. it’s the typical inner city high school movie where the dance teacher taught the kids respect.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

November 17th, 2011
10:21 am

Sorry Celisea I was laughing too hard when I tried to spell your name.

Mike P

November 17th, 2011
10:21 am

@Celisea: by design, vaginas are receivers and men, real men are the givers, not complainers. If a women isn’t receptive to a man, being a man, then she’s out of sorts/out of bounds/not for you. If a man complains about being a man, then he is out of sorts/out of bounds/out of his mind.

O/T: I love y’all women, esp. my black women… Ya’ll the best; thank GOD!

Celisea

November 17th, 2011
10:22 am

Meello – I use to feel like like that cause I work with folks that have serious entitlement issues. I learned to kill with kindness. I won’t give them a reason.

Kym

November 17th, 2011
10:24 am

Speaking of giving….Uhh does everyone know that thanks to the folks over at 11alive you can Krispy Kreme doughnuts for a mere 1.11..coupon is on their website.

kimmie

November 17th, 2011
10:25 am

Exiled – About the coworkers who won’t speak – my husband was telling me about this sister that works at his law firm that would not reciprocate when he said hello or good morning. It would be awkward because they might be just the 2 of them in an elevator or a hallway. He asked a few of his other coworkers that he was friendly with about her, males & females, and they said she was the same way with them. Now other than the admins, everybody there is a lawyer mind you. But she only spoke to those she thought were higher ranked than she. The problem with that is that she’s of the lower rank. Now a few of those she did not speak to have now been promoted! Now she’s skinning and grinning and they ig her!

SexyCool

November 17th, 2011
10:25 am

One donut equals two miles. (lol)

Kym

November 17th, 2011
10:28 am

@SC well they are giving you a dozen..sooo you could run there..and eat and run with the donuts back to work…honey life is too short to not eat a hot Krispy Kreme..cold milk..

Celisea

November 17th, 2011
10:28 am

Blackfoote – NP…lol

MikeP – Some don’t get “by design”

Leggs

November 17th, 2011
10:29 am

Good morning.

Chivalry is alive and well. It’s not seen as much as in the past, but for some it’s still front and center. And, holding the door for someone regardless of the gender is simple common courtesy.

@Sniffer ~ I feel you on saying good morning to co-workers in the hallway and they walk right by you. That is very, very rude.

disco

November 17th, 2011
10:34 am

I am not a fan of the krispy kreme donut. I prefer the heavier, fry cake type donuts.

as for the rude co-workers, am I the only one who has ever wished that the workplace was like high school? you could just have at it in the cafeteria or in the parking lot at 5:00 or if it was really meant to go down, right there in the lobby/conference room/mailroom/wherever. yeah, I’ve wanted to snatch a chick at work before.

Leggs

November 17th, 2011
10:37 am

@disco ~ yes indeed!!! Especially the co-workers you KNOW are SNAKES!!!!

SexyCool

November 17th, 2011
10:39 am

I can appreciate that logic.

However, I have to temper that with the fact that yesterday, life was too short to not eat that Snickers, and I figured that because I’ve been doing all this running, one Checker burger, fries and strawberry Fanta wouldn’t hurt. And then there was the fact that the handful of vinegar and salt potato chips that I had at midnight was no big deal. Top that off with the fact, that this week is a non-running/rest/recovery week for me and well……

I’m just working to have a higher percentage of good choices than I do bad ones because really, life is a bit more long than it is short….most of the time anyway.

Sniffer!

November 17th, 2011
10:41 am

Kimmie?

now that’s even terrible for anybody to have hangups like that.

But I have seen it all…it can make the greeter feel uncomfortable because here u are,being kind and somebody is acting like they didn’t hear u but u know they have coz u just there with them.

There is a lady here(thankfully she’s an external auditor) and she won’t answer even if its just the two of u in the elevator.

I wonder what will be going on in their heads?

disco

November 17th, 2011
10:48 am

LOL. leggs you sound like you really felt what I said. I like to say I had an ally mcbeal moment. if you remember that show ally used to have entire scenarios play out in her head. I can’t count the number of times over the years I’ve bust someone in the mouth in my head. yeah, I know, I’ve got issues.

kimmie

November 17th, 2011
10:53 am

Exiled – Hubs says she is a real beyotch! She acts like her ish don’t stank. He said the thing is, it’s a big place and the “big dogs” are not readily apparent to everyone. Plus you don’t know who might have some influence over projects and cases and promotions that might come your way there, so it would behoove you to at least be courteous to everyone.

Jeff

November 17th, 2011
10:53 am

@Lee, well said.

Women as a group have pushed chivalry out the window. Chivalry still happens on an individual basis occasionally, but as a society? No, it’s dead.

Kym

November 17th, 2011
10:57 am

@Disco…girl testify!! I swear some folks you work with can take you there..meet me out back..you may walk over but you gonna limp back heifer! Sorry flashback. What was the topic again.

Innocent Bystander

November 17th, 2011
10:58 am

I believe Dave Chapelle said it best, “Chivalry is dead and women killed it.”

Leggs

November 17th, 2011
10:59 am

@disco ~ yes, I remember Ally McBeal. Much like that scene in Monster-in-Law where JLo smacks the living daylights out of Jane Fonda or does she smashes her face in her bowl of oatmeal???? Perhaps both took place in her head.

@SexyC ~ everything in moderation. You’re definitely entitled, but put the chips away at midnight.

SexyCool

November 17th, 2011
10:59 am

I really don’t get the folks who are in the elevator with you and don’t speak. I mean like really, you are three feet away from me and you can’t part your lips in greeting.

These days, I just make it look really crazy on their part if they don’t respond. I get on the elevator and in a bright, loud voice say, “Good morning/afternoon! How are you doing toDAY?!?!?!!!” Even if they mumble, they have to respond.

It just feels weird to me to be that close to someone and not acknowledge them AT ALL…….

Into the Light

November 17th, 2011
11:04 am

I’m LOL on the co-worker scenarios. I’m having an Ally McBeal moment today, too. Reminds me of that old saying, “Some people are like slinkies – not really good for much, but it makes you smile when you push them down the stairs.”

@Kimmie – I got some aloe socks. WOW!!!

Marshall Hunslow

November 17th, 2011
11:04 am

I open women’s doors when given the opportunity. I let them order first. I wait to enter an elevator until the ladies have entered first. I don’t think chivalry is dead.

Kym

November 17th, 2011
11:04 am

Now I will say that if a person has been identifed by me as the enemy and you know you have cut your drawers with me. You won’t get two words out of me. I don’t look your way, speak, or acknowledge your existence, if that joker was on fire I wouldn’t get them a glass of water. I will only say something if necessary, and I will avoid that at all cost.

kimmie

November 17th, 2011
11:05 am

SCool – It would seem to take more of an effort to pull the ig off than just to go ahead & speak. You don’t have to hold a conversation.

Marshall Hunslow

November 17th, 2011
11:05 am

Oh and SexyCool, please don’t speak to me on the elevator. If I don’t know you, it’s not necessary.

kimmie

November 17th, 2011
11:06 am

Light – Wonderful aren’t they?!!

Into the Light

November 17th, 2011
11:08 am

Kimmie – they are AMAZING! I’ll be giving quite a few as stocking stuffers this year.

Celisea

November 17th, 2011
11:08 am

Exactly, I’m like……Morning!!!! How are you?! Fantab!

Yeah after that fanfare they can help but speak…..lol

SexyCool

November 17th, 2011
11:08 am

Marshall – feel free not to answer.

SexyCool

November 17th, 2011
11:10 am

And really, you will stand to the side and let me enter/exit the elevator but prefer that I not greet you?

Okay, somewhere in an alternate reality that makes sense.

Celisea

November 17th, 2011
11:13 am

I used to be where I wouldn’t but that’s a strain and drain to your person. I can step higher and lightet on the high road. Let folks wallow alone

abc

November 17th, 2011
11:14 am

I often don’t speak in the elevator because I’m holding my breath trying to avoid the odious cocktail of perfumes and colognes. Man, it was like standing at the perfume counter at Macy’s this morning.

Seriously, I’ll say hello and all, but I don’t really want to hold conversations in the elevator. It’s not an appropriate place for one, especially as it gets more crowded.

Celisea

November 17th, 2011
11:15 am

It irks me not one bit, that’s them and their stupidity and ignorance.

Sniffer!

November 17th, 2011
11:15 am

Kimmie..now there is a dude at my job like that…won’t answer back but likes to sniff and fawn at the big dawgs…

I won’t spend two sentences on that sucker anyway

There are sick and conniving folks like that!

reebok

November 17th, 2011
11:15 am

i hold doors, pull out chairs, hold the elevator, always let the female (whether i know her or not) precede me through a door or out of the elevator. i even know the proper rules for revolving doors and cabs, which is rare. it’s the way i am. haven’t had anyone glare at me, but if someone did, it wouldn’t alter my behavior.

SexyCool

November 17th, 2011
11:16 am

I don’t want a whole conversation either, especially if I don’t know the person – and even less so, if it’s a dude because I don’t want to give an impression that I’m open to a come on.

But sht, a “Hello” really can’t be too much, can it?

Dose of Reality

November 17th, 2011
11:16 am

Some of the people hit the nail on the head earlier in this posts…. especially sfw, webbie, LeeH1…. Women demand every ounce of respect, but rarely show any…. when a man (I can testify personally to this) does things like hold the door open, pay for dinners, movies, gifts, etc., say polite things, and the list goes on… Society degrades us as suckers!!!!! Not saying this is always the case, but I must ask myself daily, Why are there so many Women in Society who continuously stick it out with the BAD Guy but belittle the GOOD Guy? As a “Nice” guy, I always end up as the scape goat, the man who ends up being a counselor, rather than an actual boyfriend to a Woman..

I was raised to appreciate, respect, love, etc. my Women, I grew up around several “Strong” independent Women and they never acted like how so many of these misguided Women act today…. So I believe that the decline of chivalry and kindness is based solely on misguidance rather than just Women having just as much revenue, power, etc. as the modern Male.

Frankly, I am going to point fingers at Terry McMillian(sp), Tyler Perry, Oprah, Beyonce, The Group TLC, “Various Politicians”, BET, TV One, UPN, ABC, and other female figures and networks who have greatly contributed to the decline of chivalry in society…. Let the “Stop being a HATER remarks” start in 5, 4, 3, 2, 1…..

SexyCool

November 17th, 2011
11:18 am

LMAO!!!!
(That’s all I’ve got in response.)

abc

November 17th, 2011
11:18 am

I submit that if you think you’re being polite in holding the elevator for someone, you may be perpetrating rudeness by making others in the elevator wait. Another elevator car will come soon enough for the straggler.

I’m all for being polite, though. Holding doors and chairs, first-in-first-out, a little tip of the hat in greeting, whatever. It isn’t appreciated very often, though. In fact, it bugs lots of chicks. I don’t have a problem with that either, I just leave them alone.

SexyCool

November 17th, 2011
11:19 am

Okay, wait, you’re blaming T-Boz, Left Eye AND Chilli? Dayum!!!!

More LMAO!!!!

Old Boy

November 17th, 2011
11:19 am

Anyone who is upset at the death of chivalry needs to aim his anger/frustration at the Women’s Rights Movements of the 60’s. It is impossible for women to be treated equally and for women to be treated with chivalry. The nature of chivalry is that it is treating a woman differently based upon her gender.
I am definitely no arguing that people can’t still be kind. Men and women should hold the doors for each other; men and women should relinquish seats for elderly or a parent with a small child. The fundamental difference is that it is no longer based on gender and, based on the ‘demands’ imposed by the bra burners, it should not be.

Celisea

November 17th, 2011
11:20 am

And I will say outright YOU HAVE NO MANNERS. A chick recently let door go while coming out the cafe with food in my hand…I said it. She tried to explain. I kept walking

Kym

November 17th, 2011
11:21 am

@kimmie..girl after reading the last few post..I think you should become a psychic..we have had all your predictions on one page..Could you give me Friday’s lotto numbers? These jokers..well at least blaming Tyler Perry is a new one.

Kym

November 17th, 2011
11:23 am

@SC..ohh I missed that..TLC..well alright then..might as well blame Salt n Pepper too..and don’t forget Queen Latifah..and my girl MC Lyte..

Celisea

November 17th, 2011
11:24 am

Its not limited to holding doors. Sounds like folks want awards for that. IMO holding a door is almost a natural reaction.

SexyCool

November 17th, 2011
11:25 am

Dose – “Women demand every ounce of respect, but rarely show any…. ”

You are obviously picking the wrong women.

Kym

November 17th, 2011
11:25 am

Alright we have votes in for Gloria Steinman(sp)..and Jane Fonda..

kimmie

November 17th, 2011
11:26 am

SCool/Kym – :lol: :lol: :lol:

Extremely pathetic!!!!

wkeef

November 17th, 2011
11:27 am

I am 76 years old. My folks raised me to be courteous to all, open the door for women, assist them if they needed help with packages, etc. Today I continue to practice these normal habits but I must admit, I draw some stares, as though I am real strange, from youger females when I offer courtesy. I think nothing about being nice to the weaker sex – now that is going to draw some ridicule.

These days I see a couple in a restaurant, the guy walks in as well as out in front of the female; a complete of lack of respect. The female, as far as I can tell, never says a word about it. I feel sorry for the girl.

My Mama would have drop kicked me to hell and back if she saw me doing that.

Girls, you don’t know what you are missing.

SexyCool

November 17th, 2011
11:27 am

The only man that I expect to hold a door/open a door for me is the one that I am marrying. Anybody else is just bonus.

SexyCool

November 17th, 2011
11:29 am

…and appreciated just as much.

Kym

November 17th, 2011
11:29 am

And what is playing on Pandora right now..Gotta..what yo..gotta get a ruffneck..

sfw

November 17th, 2011
11:30 am

Just popped in and I see the lack of kindness has already surfaced, go ahead and do exactly what I said would happen, bully, berate and send him off in a vague direction that gives him absolutely no help. This goes for men and women, I don’t differentiate screen names.

SexyCool

November 17th, 2011
11:31 am

If displaying chivalry is an action that YOU take and that YOU make a decision about whether or not to extend, how, then, is it someone else’s fault for you deciding whether or not to be chivalrous?

Are you saying that you are not in control of your own actions?

disco

November 17th, 2011
11:32 am

celisea/kimmie – I have long been a fan of the kill them with kindness method but I have run up against a real live evil hateful demonic spawn type chick. I would speak to her, just the two of us or in a group, and she would look me right in the eye and then give me the full body up and down and continue to not speak. later for that one. she’s somewhat of a superior (not directly thank goodness) so I’ve put her into the I will only speak if directly spoken to category and I keep my responses short and simple.

I did try a new tactic for a while with one. kill them with fashion. old girl was overweight, funny shaped and insecure about it. I spent about two weeks coming to work fly as heck just to rub it in her face that she couldn’t wear what I could wear. childish I know but I must admit I got a bit of satisfaction out of it every time she had to hear someone compliment me on something.

kym – you sound like a girl of my own heart.

SexyCool

November 17th, 2011
11:32 am

sfw – Buddy did not come into this forum seeking any assistance.

kimmie

November 17th, 2011
11:33 am

sfw – Huh?? :shock:

SexyCool

November 17th, 2011
11:35 am

And you are more than welcome to help him all you like. I’m sure he would be very receiving of your advice.

SexyCool

November 17th, 2011
11:36 am

I loveS me some Storage Wars. Those folks are funny as sht.

Celisea

November 17th, 2011
11:38 am

Disco-There is always a die hard can’t be won by kindness in the pact…lol

SexyCool

November 17th, 2011
11:38 am

Dose forgot to add the Housewives, the Basketball Wives, the not wives and Deelishis from Flavor of Love.

SexyCool

November 17th, 2011
11:39 am

Exactly, disco. For those folks, you have to show ‘em cause you can’t tell ‘em.

Captain America

November 17th, 2011
11:39 am

Any single white females up for some fun this afternoon?? 6′ 175 brown hair, blue eyes, ready to please!! ;) ~

Celisea

November 17th, 2011
11:40 am

Wrong site capt’n

SexyCool

November 17th, 2011
11:41 am

Captain – you should try Craigslist.

kimmie

November 17th, 2011
11:43 am

Next time a guy won’t hold the door open for me, I will blame Oprah.

Next time a guy says hello, I won’t speak but I will tell him I blame Beyonce’.

Adam Lambert

November 17th, 2011
11:46 am

In line at a hospital cafeteria one day, I questioned the cashier about the total price of my plate. It seems that I was also charged, to my surprise, for the cardboard tray itself.

A woman in line behind me (ok I must tell y’all she was middle-aged, black “professional”), mouthed out something about me “hurrying up.”

I started boiling inside. But I kept control and told her she needed to be patient.

I write this little story just to point out that so so so many of you women just have NO freaking respect for your fellow man, especially your fellow black man.

You have been mistreated for a good part of your lives. Had one bad relationship/marriage/affair after the other. Sadly, you have been abused/assaulted sometime inyour lives.

I’m not saying Every woman. But a significant number of you are this way.

The woman in line behind me was more than rude. For I recognize a oppressed, bitter-at-life tone when I hear it. Especially from black women.

Looking back, I wish I had told her to go absolutely to H.E.L.L. Because that is just what she deserved.

Adam

C. Tampa Ironworse

November 17th, 2011
11:46 am

I open doors for all women I don’t know. Once I get to know them, they’ve irritated me enough that they can open their own door. XXOO

kimmie

November 17th, 2011
11:47 am

That does it, I can’t take it anymore.

I’m going to lunch.

Kym

November 17th, 2011
11:49 am

@disco..I told you we have to be related..some how..

@kimmie..well frankly I am blaming everything on Tyler Perry..Madea made me do it..will be my new tag line..

My son knows to hold doors open and frankly I have yet to see anyone man or woman not say thank you. No one has given him the gasface..just a simple thank you. If they didn’t say anything it didn’t stop him for getting the door or holding it for the next person. It is just what you do.

Ya’ll some sad, strange, little dudes..you have my pity.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

November 17th, 2011
11:50 am

What:

Are you guys swearing off women. Do women rights negate your rights? Is it damagin to your self worth if she makes more money or has a higher job position? Stop the whining now, that shi makes us appear weak and that I’m not.

Leggs

November 17th, 2011
11:51 am

SexyCool

November 17th, 2011
11:52 am

Well, dern Adam, so sorry your feelings were hurt.

Dale Gribble

November 17th, 2011
11:53 am

I’ve always been the kind of guy to open doors for women, and my wife has always loved that about me. She wasn’t quite sure what to think when I told her we men just do that because it puts us in a position to check out the woman’s ass if she’s good looking. :)

Adam Lambert

November 17th, 2011
11:53 am

To sum it up, i’m saying it’s very hard to continue to be “nice” and chivalrous to many of you. Sometimes it comes down to “franky, my dear, I don’t give a d.a.m.n.”

Adam

Adam Lambert

November 17th, 2011
11:54 am

Feelings sexycool? Really?
You totally missed the point woman.
And I wonder trick will be coming into your bedroom tonight?

Adam

Dose of Reality

November 17th, 2011
11:56 am

SEXYCOOL,

Are you Chilli from TLC??? LOL

SexyCool

November 17th, 2011
11:57 am

“Started boiling inside” – that is anger. Anger is a feeling stirred by a perceived injury. Injuries hurt.

And I am quite okay with whatever insult you were attempting to throw my way. I’m not mad….or hurt. (lol)

Dose of Reality

November 17th, 2011
11:58 am

Dose forgot to add the Housewives, the Basketball Wives, the not wives and Deelishis from Flavor of Love.

Yes!!! Not to mention that Pesky Spice Girl Group from the 90’s

Adam Lambert

November 17th, 2011
11:59 am

And I guess the brother who got the cold stare when he opened the door for your “sista” got his feelings hurt as well huh?

“which” trick was what I meant to say.

SexyCool

November 17th, 2011
11:59 am

Dose – you’re a comedian, aren’t you?

SexyCool

November 17th, 2011
12:01 pm

Yeah…no…I don’t know that chick. I have no idea why she displayed a lack of manners.

And just for the record, the person in my bedroom is the one that I’m engaged to.
(All smiles.)

Celisea

November 17th, 2011
12:01 pm

Adam you sound bitter. You can ALWAYS take a try outside the race. We are really in need of black men going in with no appreciation for women of your own race. Matter of fact I welcome a different race to take your spot if they can appreciate us as simply women. Not “yall” and “you black women.”

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

November 17th, 2011
12:01 pm

Dale Gribble:

Now that’s more like it.

sfw

November 17th, 2011
12:02 pm

Adam-You seem very hurt and also seem like you are taking your hurt out on all women
Kimmie-You seem like you are looking for a way to get angry at people, if they irritate you simply ignore them and go on, you don’t have to respond to every single post.
That same thing goes for a lot of you, if you want to talk about chivilry, a big part of that is the manners that most of us were taught as children, if you don’t have something nice to say STFU.

Adam Lambert

November 17th, 2011
12:03 pm

oh, so you’re psychologist now?
and you missed the part where I said “I kept my cool.”
Why do you think I was inside the hospital to begin with?
And to have someone try to rush me through a line on top of it!
Oh, never mind.
I’m through with you cool girl.
bye

Leggs

November 17th, 2011
12:03 pm

It’s useless trying to clean up a slur/slight made against someone else.

Dose of Reality

November 17th, 2011
12:04 pm

SexyCool

November 17th, 2011
11:59 am
Dose – you’re a comedian, aren’t you?

In fact, Yes I am!!!!! LMBO!

Leggs

November 17th, 2011
12:05 pm

I see why so many lurk. Well, I’ve always known, but this is getting ridi*cu*lous!

Dose of Reality

November 17th, 2011
12:05 pm

SexyCool

November 17th, 2011
11:59 am
Dose – you’re a comedian, aren’t you?

You are Correct… I am!!!! LMBO!!!!

disco

November 17th, 2011
12:06 pm

well kym since I’ve probably got somewhere in the family of 100+ cousins (no exaggeration) and since this blog is anonymous there might be a miniscule possibility of that being so. either way, I love a kindred spirit because I am so often “misunderstood” – ha ha. I’m told my mother was a real special piece of work in her day and now she’s the main one always trying to calm me down. I’m like kids don’t take after strangers.

I’m usually complaining that the day is dragging by but this morning wasn’t playing. it came, it saw, it went. that’s what’s up.

Dose of Reality

November 17th, 2011
12:06 pm

Ooppssss… Didn’t think the last statement was posted, so my last reply came in similar statements… sorry…

Adam Lambert

November 17th, 2011
12:08 pm

Another story: Marta bus. A man and a woman had an argument. Woman called the man: “you greasy black man!” both parties were black. The man wasn’t me.

I have seen a LOT of this (none of it involving me).

I’ve seen women disrespect men time and time again. Of course it goes both ways. But disrespect so many women have for their fellow man is at an all-time high. I’ve been around a very long time.

Women, many of you (not ALL) but many of you are only beating men down!

Adam

?oftheday

November 17th, 2011
12:09 pm

For the men in the house. You have 2 options for a job, both options require same education and responsibilites. 1) 60K and 95% of coworkers are men 2) 100K and 95% of coworkers are females Which job are you taking??? No lieing plz

Dose of Reality

November 17th, 2011
12:11 pm

LOL!!!! How ironic is it that on a blog that talks about rekindling ‘Chivalry” and “Kindness”, there seems to be a bit of hostility between certain people of different sexes on this blog…… Do some of you know each other personally????

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

November 17th, 2011
12:11 pm

Leggs……LOL

I had no idea it’s like this, I need to wake up from the Father Knows Best and Leave It To beaver dreams.

SexyCool

November 17th, 2011
12:12 pm

Is Adam Lambert your real name?

Celisea

November 17th, 2011
12:12 pm

No matter the stories and (bad) experience, I wonder how it’s always charged to black women???

Dale Gribble

November 17th, 2011
12:14 pm

?oftheday: I’d definitely take the 100K where 95% of my coworkers are females. Call me crazy, but I like being around women.

Sniffer!

November 17th, 2011
12:14 pm

U know mental illness is a mfcka…I know coz my young bro has it..,

There was a guy on the train yesterday,sitting behind me..

He wld talk alone in one voice then he responds to himself in a different voice ….I tell u!

I hope he ain’t got demons of the one person he shot

But…

moving on…….

SexyCool

November 17th, 2011
12:15 pm

Dose – while I cannot speak for how my posts are interpreted, I can assure you that not a single ounce of hostility has come from my person.

Dose of Reality

November 17th, 2011
12:17 pm

?oftheday

November 17th, 2011
12:09 pm
For the men in the house. You have 2 options for a job, both options require same education and responsibilites. 1) 60K and 95% of coworkers are men 2) 100K and 95% of coworkers are females Which job are you taking??? No lieing plz

LOL!!! I’m taking the job that pays $25,000 with a whole lot of idiots!! Was that a trick question? But seriously, it would actually depend on the job and how easy it was to work with the 95 % males or females within that job. I want to say definitely number 2 because the majority of co-workers around me are women and it pays $40,000 more, but it could be a job in which I’m required to take off my clothes (not a pretty site) and dance on a pole, but I guess that doesn’t take much education but requires a little responsiblity (I hope)… LOL

Dose of Reality

November 17th, 2011
12:18 pm

SexyCool,

Glad your marriage is working out, he is lucky man…. Do you have a Sister?

Leggs

November 17th, 2011
12:19 pm

@BF ~ I’ve seen worse. It was quite nice when the throat slashing had died down. I see it’s picking back up.

disco

November 17th, 2011
12:20 pm

question of day – I’d definitely go with the men. I’m bout sick of these females (and I am female). these chicks need to learn to check the drama at the door. this “frenemy” mentality/trend is killing me.

SexyCool

November 17th, 2011
12:22 pm

Actually, Dose, engaged and I am probably way luckier than he is. (lol) He is a fantastic dude!!!

And I am out of the hookup business. My last two attempts fell flat.

mark

November 17th, 2011
12:22 pm

i was raised to show respect to a woman but todays women, cant handle it case in point i was dropping a young off at her home after a wonderful evening i turned my car off to only walk her to her door and she look scared as Hell. i told her honey im only trying to be nice but walk yourself to the door and if the boogy man jumps out and Get yo ass im pulling off…lol

?oftheday

November 17th, 2011
12:23 pm

disco your honesty just awarded you a 50K bonus!!!! LOL

Leggs

November 17th, 2011
12:26 pm

@mark ~ thanks for the laugh. I have to remark that that was a proper response for her reaction. People don’t seem to remember how nice it is for the man to walk a woman to the door. He’s not trying to wait for you to put your key in and attack you.

SexyCool

November 17th, 2011
12:28 pm

Ruben Studdard is divorcing that chick he met at the Walmart CD signing.

Sniffer!

November 17th, 2011
12:29 pm

@mark?

she looked scared coz after spending on her during the nite out she thought u were coming inside for PAYBACK!!

Lol :lol:

I tell ya…some of them are hardened by these jack azz jokers with pants on the ground! Lol

Leggs

November 17th, 2011
12:29 pm

Leggs

November 17th, 2011
12:30 pm

Laughing at you SexyC.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

November 17th, 2011
12:31 pm

Mark:

Funny story, seems if y’all had good evening she would have built up a small amount of trust. You never know how a person reactions will be at any time.

Lady~

November 17th, 2011
12:34 pm

~ Chivalry isn’t dead~ There are many kind, appreciative, humbled ladies out there also……..Afternoon MIA~

disco

November 17th, 2011
12:36 pm

y’all done made me reflect on my grandmother. thinking about rude folks reminded me of how she used to say “some folks ain’t worth the spit it takes to cuss ‘em”. so true.

well since I’m rolling in the blog dough when the blog bar opens back up for business the drinks are on me. bartender – stop my tab at $5,000.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

November 17th, 2011
12:41 pm

Hey Lady:
I haven’t run into any hard nosed women. If I did and I wanted to make something out of it I’d accept the challenge.

Kym

November 17th, 2011
12:42 pm

Chik fil la is the friendliest place in town..just got back mgr…made a mistake with my order ..fixed it..thanked me and I thanked him.. I remember next time to be rude, roll my eyes and say Madea made me do it.

Now who is still whining?

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

November 17th, 2011
12:43 pm

LOL…..@disco

Lady~

November 17th, 2011
12:43 pm

Hi there Blackfoote! I am certain you will hold your own too. ;)

Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

November 17th, 2011
12:44 pm

If your self esteem is tied to someone expressing gratitude for courtesy you extend…then you might have codependency issues. Be courteous because YOU know it is the right thing to do, not what gratitude you get or don’t get from someone else.

Lady~

November 17th, 2011
12:47 pm

I agree Randy. Being kind is just that…….Kindness does ROCK and is natural for many.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

November 17th, 2011
12:47 pm

Amen Brother RandyT:

Sassy Me...Black Koffy no Sugar no Cream ;-)

November 17th, 2011
12:50 pm

Be courteous because YOU know it is the right thing to do, not what gratitude you get or don’t get from someone else.

nice post…worth repeating…

Kym

November 17th, 2011
12:51 pm

If this ship has now sailed..I would like to suggest an alternate topic..These kids today…I’ll start..

These kids today are crazy…apparently the new way to get drunk or high is by soaking tampons in vodka and inserting them..yeah I said inserting them..boys and girls..This is the generation that will be taking care of us when we are old.

SexyCool

November 17th, 2011
12:53 pm

Kym – I’m sure Dose can tell you who to blame. (lol)

SexyCool

November 17th, 2011
12:56 pm

Oh…and just one more thing about Wise’s post – “When I am on Marta, I still see men giving up their seats to women and children.”

I’m on MARTA nearly EVERYday. I rarely see this happening, even in the seats by the door that are, by law, for the elderly and handicapped.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

November 17th, 2011
12:56 pm

Kym……LOL

I’m gone to lunch on that note.

Kym

November 17th, 2011
12:58 pm

@SC..I watched the story clip on Colbert..went to the internet and reviewed the full story..seriously this generation of kids..no way we gonna survive their leadership..I say we stick a sign up sell everything at fire sale prices..and let China have at it.

SexyCool

November 17th, 2011
1:15 pm

Craziness….

Actually, I had to go out to the airport Atrium right now to get some lunch. While in line, I really gave some thought to this whole “bitter Black woman” phenomenon, and oddly enough, I realized that I don’t have any women like that in my immediate circle.

By the same token, of all the people that I am loosely connected to, the ones that seem to have the attitude issues and negative outlooks typically seem to have less education and face economic challenges.

Lady~

November 17th, 2011
1:16 pm

It is weird when MIA pauses………chuckle.

Into the Light

November 17th, 2011
1:20 pm

Back from lunch, and already regretting that piece of apple pecan pie. Y’all might need to set up a phone tree to keep me awake! :lol:

@Mark: smh at that woman. Even if I’m out with friends, I always wait to make sure they’ve made it in the house safely, or if I’m dropping them at their car that they are in safely and the car is cranked.

@Kym: :shock:

Kym

November 17th, 2011
1:26 pm

Sniffer!

November 17th, 2011
1:39 pm

Scool?

Crazy sexy Black women are there,maybe not in ur immediate family but there….

this is a different topic right!? Lol

I think most men have come across them…as to their prevalence? I don’t know but there is a gazzilion of them out there.

As a woman who don’t switch the other way,u probably are oblivious to them..

Now,there are crazy men out there too..well,not crazy but downright wacko…if the murders of women by them is anything to go by.

Surely? Who murders a woman just coz her pudy is damn good and coz shes offering it to another bidder?

Sniffer!

November 17th, 2011
1:42 pm

Cel?

well,it boils down to pudy in my calculations.

:lol:

SexyCool

November 17th, 2011
1:43 pm

Meelow – I’m not saying they don’t exist. I’m just saying that I don’t directly deal with any. In fact, I tend to pull up from Negative Nancy’s. Most of the time, I am able to manage my life in a positive fashion and I don’t want anyone around me dragging me down with their attitudes and drama.

SexyCool

November 17th, 2011
1:50 pm

Um, dude, I really don’t want to hear ANOTHER update on what’s going on with your custody fight/child support case. In fact, if you would have the CSO correct their information, they wouldn’t send your mail to my office and I wouldn’t have to see you at all.

Leggs

November 17th, 2011
1:51 pm

@SexyC ~ that’s how I feel about people garnishment notices. Because I’m in the legal department, the mailroom sends these to me and not to HR. I have since corrected this error, but man o man….

Kym

November 17th, 2011
1:52 pm

Okay I ate too much..I am gonna need someone to roll or push me to my car..

SexyCool

November 17th, 2011
1:56 pm

Leggs – exactly. I know buddy just needs to vent, but dammit….I don’t wanna hear about it AGAIN………

kimmie

November 17th, 2011
1:57 pm

sfw – I respond to any post I want in any way I want.

I started to say STFU back, but I’m not getting down in the gutter with you! Now get your pink panties out of their wad!

:lol:

Kym

November 17th, 2011
2:00 pm

@kimmie..lawd..you done done it now! He gonna hit you with his manbag!

Into the Light

November 17th, 2011
2:01 pm

LOL@Kym. Where’d you go????

sn: someone here was talking about fried bologna sandwiches and got me craving one….looks like ITL is making a Publix run after work…

Kym

November 17th, 2011
2:04 pm

@ITL I went to Chik Fil la..I swear they put crack in that food or something..oh and I went and got my doughnuts..which I will possible have to hide from the boy..

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

November 17th, 2011
2:06 pm

LOL……@Everybody y’all makes day fly.

Leggs

November 17th, 2011
2:07 pm

I just finished eating lunch…now, all I need is a little something sweet. A pack of Smarties would do the trick…

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

November 17th, 2011
2:07 pm

“a day” fly.

Into the Light

November 17th, 2011
2:07 pm

Mmmmmm, Chick-fil-A….. :)

Have mercy. I would much rather be home in my aloe socks than “trolling” for entertainment. Just sayin’…..

SlimNu

November 17th, 2011
2:08 pm

ITL – I went home to Bama this past weekend. I come downstairs to the smell of fried bologna. My mom was making one for my stepdad and i’m like, daaaaamn I haven’t had that in a Minute! You never forget that smell. lol

SlimNu

November 17th, 2011
2:08 pm

Any of yall going to try to see Mike Epps in February at the Civic Center? Tickets go on sale tomorrow…

Into the Light

November 17th, 2011
2:08 pm

Leggs – I’ve got some. C’mon over….I’ll meet you in the lobby. :)

Into the Light

November 17th, 2011
2:09 pm

Slim, when my co-worker started talking about it, I immediately started craving it. And I’m still full from lunch!! Good grief….’tis the season….

kimmie

November 17th, 2011
2:10 pm

Kym – I really started to ignore it but these bitter beyotchy men need to be called out. I never seen such whiny weakness in my life from so-called MEN.

Into the Light

November 17th, 2011
2:11 pm

ITL’s sad, but true, Life Lesson #542: “male” does not equal “man”

disco

November 17th, 2011
2:12 pm

Kym – I’m more concerned that perfectly good vodka is going to waste than I am about how productive these kids will grow up to be.

SCool – you know they say if you look around and don’t see that person then that person is you. of course, I just had to say that it wasn’t personal (in case someone wanted to confuse me of starting stuff on the blog).

SexyCool

November 17th, 2011
2:12 pm

I told a gf that I would meet her for dinner after work. I just wanna go home.

Leggs

November 17th, 2011
2:12 pm

On my way…

kimmie

November 17th, 2011
2:12 pm

Light – Ya darn skippy!

disco

November 17th, 2011
2:16 pm

oops. I don’t know if I was saying accuse me or confuse me with – either way. I guess y’all got it. slim nu – don’t sleep on a good fried bologna sandwich. my mother would even fry up an egg to put on that bad boy.

Leggs

November 17th, 2011
2:17 pm

Call and reschedule…she’s your friend. She’ll understand…wait my phone is ringing…

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

November 17th, 2011
2:17 pm

As I went to lunch, a lady was behind me about 35, 40 feet. I got to the door and waited as she came down the hallway, she walked up as I held the door open looked me in the eyes and said thank you. She proceeded on to her destination and I mine, I don’t know what else to say.

SexyCool

November 17th, 2011
2:20 pm

Yeah…no…she is a friend that has been wanting to hang out for a while. And she usually calls last minute. Well, Sunday, she texted me about hanging out tonight….So….

kimmie

November 17th, 2011
2:22 pm

Blackfoote – Blame it on Oprah.

Lady~

November 17th, 2011
2:23 pm

I just turned down 3 different dates……smh I think I am over dating……sigh

Kym

November 17th, 2011
2:23 pm

@kimmie..I know..I know..whinny men are driving all the good women to cats and BOBs..yeah here’s a thought maybe they should blame themselves..but that would be too much like right.

@disco I know..apparently this foolishness started in the late 90’s..

Speaking of booze..I almost bought this Ninja Blender on OVC last night..they made the best looking “rita” on the show..

Into the Light

November 17th, 2011
2:24 pm

Hurry, Leggs! We have SweetTarts and Laffy Taffy, too! :)

Why is it hot in a stadium after a football game?

Because all the fans have left.

Leggs

November 17th, 2011
2:24 pm

You can do things, SexyC. Go out tonight and get it over with, or call her apologizing for cancelling but you need to go home and rest offering another day and time to get together.

DreamsMaterialize

November 17th, 2011
2:24 pm

Hey Everyone
I see the chivalry topic is up to bat again. I hear women say chivalry is dead sometimes, but it’s not dead for me. As a man, there are certain things I’ve decided I’ll do or won’t do, and I stand by those things. I don’t allow a person’s acknowledgment or lack thereof to influence me to behave or choose differently. If that’s the case, then I’ll be changing my principles everyday. So, I’m a gentleman ALL the time, and I get satisfaction solely from the belief that I’m doing the right thing, not because someone does or doesn’t say, “Thank you.” I extend that courtesy to every woman, and if she declines, that’s her choice. You’re a man because you’re a man, not because women have/haven’t commissioned you to be one.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

November 17th, 2011
2:24 pm

Leggs:
That’s a Dick Tracy line “I’m on my way”.

Leggs

November 17th, 2011
2:24 pm

You can do two things….

SexyCool

November 17th, 2011
2:24 pm

While I was upstairs, I had an opportunity to say thank you no less than three times. One was to the dude that held the door open with his foot because he had boxes in his hand so I could pass through.

Kym

November 17th, 2011
2:25 pm

@Blackfoote..the nerve of that heifer to thank you for holding the door and looking you in the face too..see see look at what Tyler Perry has brought us too..him and that dang Beyonce.

kimmie

November 17th, 2011
2:26 pm

Dreams – Preach!

Lord Velonese

November 17th, 2011
2:28 pm

@LeeH1

You are my Hero, I agree 100%.

SexyCool

November 17th, 2011
2:28 pm

Leggs – if I don’t do it today, it probably won’t happen for the rest of the year. (lol)

I’ma suck it up and go.

And I’ll be fine. Just got the itis/don’t wanna be at work combo going on right now.

kimmie

November 17th, 2011
2:28 pm

I had no less that 7 coworkers say hello to me today. I said hi right back too. On about 3 occasions I initiated the hello.

See TLC’s horrible influence on me?

Into the Light

November 17th, 2011
2:28 pm

@BF: Yay! People with manners do still live in this world. I like that you held the door for her, and that she was lady enough to make eye contact and thank you. :)

SexyCool

November 17th, 2011
2:29 pm

It is interesting how solid dudes come in and post sensible opinions.

kimmie

November 17th, 2011
2:29 pm

SCool – It will be one of those times you don’t feel like going but you end up having fun after you get there. :)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

November 17th, 2011
2:30 pm

LOL…..blame Oprah and Tyler P.

Leggs

November 17th, 2011
2:31 pm

That’s why I put that option first. I figured you would. You just wanted to vent a little. You’ll feel better once you get away from the job and will have a blast with your friend.

Into the Light

November 17th, 2011
2:32 pm

I’m gonna start a 12-step group for the blog. I’ll go first:

(standing and facing the blog)
Hi, my name is ITL, and I’m addicted to politeness. Today, I said hello to 14 co-workers and even smiled at them. I held the elevator this morning for someone who was running late. I am also guilty of using “please” and “thank you” multiple times.
(ITL now hanging head in shame and sitting down)

SexyCool

November 17th, 2011
2:33 pm

kimmie – just make sure you don’t go setting fires in bathtubs or showing up on dating shows with unreasonable expectations.

disco

November 17th, 2011
2:34 pm

kimmie/SCool – once I met a friend to go to a Spanish club. I went out with the intention of being sociable, kicking it for a bit and being out the door by 10pm. a quick in and out. we ended up shutting the club down. I took salsa lessons and my friend interpreted when fellows were asking me to dance or if I wanted a drink. heck it was an absolute blast. one of those true good times that are few and far between.

Sniffer!

November 17th, 2011
2:35 pm

Lady?

truthfully answering if u don’t mind…

U dating a lot,how much are u spending on them

other than gas and shine clothes and shoes?

see,a good looking but- broke- that- month chic(with plenty water and none else in the fridge) can
date date date date and eat nice meals every nite,not even have the intention to go on date III
…..until pay day! Then send the dude a text…

Please don’t call me AnyMore!!!

no explanation! :lol:

SlimNu

November 17th, 2011
2:36 pm

told a gf that I would meet her for dinner after work. I just wanna go home

SC – I felt like this yesterday, especially with the rain. But I went anyway and I was glad I did. You’ll feel better once you get off work i’m sure.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

November 17th, 2011
2:38 pm

Thanks Ladies, I just can’t let a door or any object swing back in some one’s face. Thing is she didn’t have to say anything, I got me and her if she needed more assistance.

Lady~

November 17th, 2011
2:38 pm

I am really not sir……that is why I ended that foolishness a while back…..not up for it……..kindly no value @ all so why go?!?

kimmie

November 17th, 2011
2:38 pm

disco – See those unexpected good times like that are the best!

SCool – :lol:

Lady~

November 17th, 2011
2:39 pm

and I am not spending anything…..I am not that chic…never have been so why start now?!? I am really OK it is just funny when the rhetorical calls and text come…..just glad I don’t bite @ every invite…….its played out……

disco

November 17th, 2011
2:42 pm

okay. here is my 12 step pitch.

my name is disco and I’m addicted to bargains. I’ve become so used to my neighborhood shoe stores having BOGO sales that I walked out of off broadway shoes tuesday night without two pairs of boots that I wanted (identical boots, one pair black, one pair brown) because I didn’t want to pay full price for both pairs. thing is I’m still thinking about those boots but I’m really trying to remain strong and not cave in and go back and get them. who is my sponsor anyway?

kimmie

November 17th, 2011
2:42 pm

Light – Looks like we are going to have to eliminate Beyonce’ as your sponsor. Is there another powerful,female you had in mind that you can call when you feel yourself falling off the wagon?

kimmie

November 17th, 2011
2:43 pm

disco – Oprah

disco

November 17th, 2011
2:48 pm

ooh. not oprah. can I have another sponsor?

O/T – I missed life after last night but am I the only one that thinks Antonio fargas looks a lot better now than before? not saying he’s fine or anything but I just think he looks better – not as funny looking or something.

kimmie

November 17th, 2011
2:48 pm

disco – I have been good about not spending half of my check on shoes for myself. I have only bought 2 new pairs for the fall/winter season. But I have a new handicap. Buying shoes for my new 9 year old stepdaughter. She is so cute and looks great in everything and is a budding fashionista. I cannot help myself. I am in dire need of a sponsor.

Into the Light

November 17th, 2011
2:49 pm

Oh, no! Beyonce can’t be my sponsor??? Well, shoot.

Into the Light

November 17th, 2011
2:51 pm

Kimmie: Mrs. Obama can be your sponsor. I love that she is not above snagging a bargain!

Kym

November 17th, 2011
2:53 pm

Hear Ye..Hear Ye..I would like to now call to order the meeting of the I Hate a Whiny Pink Panty Wearing Man Club.

First we shall take a reading from the book of MCLYTE..text will come from Keep On Keepin featuring the women of Xscape.

“Many have tried to strict regulations lazy motherf– get put on probation

Those that didn’t perform well, they gets no answer when they ringa-ring my bell

You’re playing with my time Trying to jerk me, hurt me then desert me

You better work me while you got the opportunity To be in the mist of the L-Y-T-E

Only the strong survive, only the wise excel

Only the lonely die slowly..Left all alone trying to control me”

kimmie

November 17th, 2011
2:53 pm

Light – That’s precisely what I don’t need – someone who loves a bargain as much as I do! :lol:

Kym

November 17th, 2011
2:54 pm

Oprah can be my sponsor..someone else can have Madea..

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

November 17th, 2011
2:54 pm

I Love women, I used to cheat on them, I lied to them, I put them off. I apologize for my behaviour to all women past and present. As I matured from the boyhood games I respect women, I never have hit one, they will always be that apple in my eye. I grew up! Now sitting back down under the stairwell.

For Real

November 17th, 2011
2:56 pm

While in the Mall……

Why do people take old people to the mall then get mad when the old person gets tired?

Who pushes a Sears cart thru the mall and then decides to push the cart to the food court? Oh and the only thing in the cart are pocketbooks and coats.

So biker-tight pants and fluffy boots is the style now?

Saw a car that had a note posted on the window. The note said “This window is broken”

I fear my sons selection of women to marry will be a very, very small since it appears all the little girls like each other.

Pajama pants, head scarf and houseshoe… When you absolutely want to make every mitty ficky in room know you are lazy as hell.

Are strechy pants suppose to rise?

There must have been a sell on brown duck boots and green shirts.

PSA!!!! Attention ladies, if your heel is hanging off the back of your shoes, then your shoes are too small for your foots.

PSA!!! Attention dudes, there is no such thing as a pimpbelly.

No maam I’m not married but if I was my wife would not be interested in attending a sex toy party thrown by a lady in mall.

This is the GOD’s honest truth….

Old Lady: Hey can I get a dollar?

For Real: I’m sorry I do not have a dollar. (Said while choking from the 1986 pee smell)

Old Lady: Awwww come on you all Marvin you know you got a dollar.

For Real: No maam I do not….

Old Lady: Wanna fugg!!!

For Real: I’m gay!

Old Lady: That’s just nasty!!!

Random Chick: Did she just ask you to fugg?

kimmie

November 17th, 2011
2:56 pm

Kym – I love Keep on Keepin!

disco

November 17th, 2011
2:59 pm

before somebody assigns me to madea I’ll have to self select a sponsor. decisions decisions. I’m thinking I want an old school diva type as my sponsor. someone who understands my desire but knows it needs to be checked. plus I need my sponsor to be older because if I view them as a peer I might be tempted to challenge them. I’m gonna go with Gladys knight but I reserve the right to change sponsors if necessary.

kimmie

November 17th, 2011
2:59 pm

4 Real – :lol: Were you at South Dekalb Mall?

You know you wanted that cougar! LOL!!

kimmie

November 17th, 2011
3:01 pm

disco – How about Ne-Ne as your sponsor? :lol:

For Real

November 17th, 2011
3:03 pm

Nope. Cumberland

SexyCool

November 17th, 2011
3:04 pm

NeNe might be able to afford sponsorships if enough dumbasses buy that $150 t-shirt she is selling.

SexyCool

November 17th, 2011
3:05 pm

Oh…and her real name is Linnethia.

SexyCool

November 17th, 2011
3:07 pm

I watch the Braxton’s show as proof that the Men In Black premise of “aliens among us” is very real.

Art does imitate life.

Kym

November 17th, 2011
3:07 pm

@Kimmie..see this is proof we are totally damaged..I love this song!!

disco

November 17th, 2011
3:09 pm

kimmie – I’d say you got jokes but I guess it’s just that you don’t know me. I don’t watch the reality shows but I’m vaguely familiar with who ne ne is. problem with her as a sponsor is I wouldn’t respect her. I’d try to act right but it wouldn’t be a good look for me to be fighting my sponsor. I’ll never get out of the program. naw… I need ruby dee, toni Morrison, maya angelou or somebody to keep me in check.

funny. i didn’t realize i still had an active imagination.

DreamsMaterialize

November 17th, 2011
3:10 pm

disco and Kym May I suggest Grace Jones as your sponsor? She’s the only chick I can think of off top that’ll keep ya’ll in line. lol

SexyCool

November 17th, 2011
3:10 pm

Nicole Ari Parker looks like she has had another nose job.

kimmie

November 17th, 2011
3:11 pm

4 Real – I got some fluffy boots. I will not be wearing them with skin-tight pants though!

Kym

November 17th, 2011
3:12 pm

@kimmie I was gonna assign you to Nancy Wilson.

@disco..I am gonna have myself two sponsors..Oprah and Dianne Carroll

kimmie

November 17th, 2011
3:13 pm

disco – I am so totally joking. Actually those women you mentioned would be too sensible. Why, with them as an influence and sponsor you just might be able to change the world! :)

Into the Light

November 17th, 2011
3:14 pm

I think I’ll take Ms. Patti LaBelle as my sponsor. Next time someone says hello to me in the elevator, I’ll throw a bottle of water on them and tell them to make their bratty kid behave. :lol:

kimmie

November 17th, 2011
3:16 pm

Kym – Now that’s ironic. My mom’s best friend/my play aunt’s late husband was a first cousin to Nancy Wilson. She keeps in touch and always contacts my aunt when she is in town. Talk about a nice, classy lady!

Into the Light

November 17th, 2011
3:16 pm

(waving out my office window) Hey, For Real!!! I see you over there in the Macy’s parking deck. :lol:

Into the Light

November 17th, 2011
3:17 pm

Kym/Kimmie – Now “Teach Me Tonight” is stuck in my head. :) Love that song.

disco

November 17th, 2011
3:17 pm

well I was joking and not joking. with nene as my sponsor we might have torn DSW up and been on an episode of cops or tru tv’s most shocking or something. mess around and end up wearing orange jumpsuits and plastic shower shoes and wouldn’t that be ironic.

Sniffer!

November 17th, 2011
3:18 pm

Disco…Kesha Cole mum sounds good for ya mama..

she ghetto like u and ur mama

she hard like ur folks

she smokes and dranks like ur mama

she been to jail
She older
if u act out she handle you like she handle any other hood people

Now that’s a match for your azz!
:lol:

kimmie

November 17th, 2011
3:19 pm

Sniffer!

November 17th, 2011
3:20 pm

Oh she got Reality tv money so she ain’t broke broke

sure good enough to sponsor

disco

November 17th, 2011
3:22 pm

sniffer – that was funny but she’s not old enough to command respect from me. to me she’s just another hood chick and since she’s NOT my momma if push came to shove she ain’t nobody to me. and since you brought up my family status I’d like to shout out my auntie who just got out of jail yesterday… big ups auntie and this time don’t cut your ankle monitor off.

Kym

November 17th, 2011
3:22 pm

@kimmie she always appears so classy but you just know there is a undertone of don’t make me slap you in there.

@disco..you could get Mary J Blige for a sponsor.

Sniffer!

November 17th, 2011
3:27 pm

how long was auntie in jail for?

what ?? she stole somethangs?

Anyone else with Jail Shout outs?

lawdy lawdy

For Real

November 17th, 2011
3:28 pm

Thanksgiving dinner at disco house…..

Big Mamma: Okay yall we gon say grace but ferst I need for everyone that’s holdin to put you ish in dis basket.

kimmie

November 17th, 2011
3:34 pm

don’t make me slap you :lol:

You guys are cracking me up today!!!

disco

November 17th, 2011
3:39 pm

there have been some good cracks on here today. y’all are funny.

auntie just did a few months in county for PV (she cut her ankle monitor off). she is now out on work release.

funny about the thanksgiving thing because my mother and siblings went to visit my uncle in jail once and when they had to empty pockets/purses they had a small arsenal of knives, straight razors and mace. fond memory – my mom gave me my first box cutter when I started junior high school. about a year ago my brother came to visit and he was riding with me and attempting to open a new cd. he asked where my knife was. when I replied that I didn’t have a knife in my car he side eyed me and told me I was getting soft.

Kym

November 17th, 2011
3:42 pm

@Disco..I love it..my family not quite that hard..with the knives and such..but we have quite a few light-fingered, hustler in the bunch..my uncle once stole lawn mowers from the local hardware store and sold them to everyone in the town. And I do believe we had our own family cells down on Rice Street and over there at Dekalb County..but I digress.

Sniffer!

November 17th, 2011
3:44 pm

Disco?

u ghetto,hard but a realest chic

we don’t get many like urself…just confident in yr damn self…that’s so admirable.

(u got any kush…u smoke)

U live in a small city in NC or u in Charlotte?

Sniffer!

November 17th, 2011
3:46 pm

Lol @ Kymn!

disco,I had a fight once with Kym on the blog and she promised she wld send her people my way..

Lol

u remember Kym? :lol:

Leggs

November 17th, 2011
3:48 pm

What a funnny read the bottom of page 4 and all of page 6.

Leggs

November 17th, 2011
3:50 pm

Meant, bottom of page 5.

@disco ~ I actually pictured you and NeNe going head to head with the mouth and then a knock down, drag out fight in the middle of DSW!

Kym

November 17th, 2011
3:52 pm

@ the african..Did I really? I must have been mad that day..

Kym

November 17th, 2011
3:53 pm

@disco..just hit NeNe in her throat..take out that Adam’s apple and he/she will go down.

Kym

November 17th, 2011
3:58 pm

And I don’t know why Ne Ne try to play hard..she is from Athens..ya’ll have a good night..

disco

November 17th, 2011
3:59 pm

kym – not that you said y’all got your own cell block. that’s too much. my first “real” adult job was working at the county jail. I didn’t work that job long for obvious reasons. inmates were telling me they used to change my diaper (possibly true, they were my mother’s friends) or asking me to tell so and so this that and the other when I see them. heck I had family, friends, exes all up and through. nope. that job wasn’t going to work for me.

sniffer – I’m quite real with mine. no point in doing a little something for yourself and then trying to get brand new and forget where you came from. I know who I am and I’m cool with me.

Sniffer!

November 17th, 2011
4:01 pm

Lol

I tell ya,u need a good positive attitude on this blog

Otherwise u slap that screen trying to punch some jokker!

I have (innocently) caused my fair share of angst on here..with threats like,’if I see that Mandingo live,I call ICE on him’ lol

:lol:

Sassy Me...Black Koffy no Sugar no Cream ;-)

November 17th, 2011
4:01 pm

about a year ago my brother came to visit and he was riding with me and attempting to open a new cd. he asked where my knife was.

My brother and I are both like that….he keeps a knife on his person at all times and I keep blades of several types strategically placed on my person, in my car and around my house just in case I gotta bust somebody down to the white meat.

At my old job my lab team would sometimes ask me for my box cutter to open packages n such when they couldn’t find the one that belonged to the company….don’t judge me. :lol: A woman’s gotta protect herself..

Leggs

November 17th, 2011
4:06 pm

@Sassy ~ I have two knives in my car, a steel bat by my bedside, a knife in my bathroom and 3 strategically placed in the rooms downstairs.

Into the Light

November 17th, 2011
4:08 pm

I keep blades of several types strategically placed on my person

Why did I get a mental image of Pam Grier hiding razor blades in her afro??? :lol:

SlimNu

November 17th, 2011
4:08 pm

Leggs – Daaaaaaaaaaamn Gina. Your whole crib is a Panic Room :shock:

Sniffer!

November 17th, 2011
4:11 pm

Lol

the gangsta is outa the woodwork!!

Sniffer!

November 17th, 2011
4:12 pm

Which chic got guns?

Leggs

November 17th, 2011
4:12 pm

@SlimNu ~ I’ve always lived alone and had knives everywhere in my apartment. Never owned a gun, but will get one. Once my ex moved out, I went back to my old habits. Not only that, I don’t leave any knives in kitchen dish drainer. I won’t provide a culprit with a weapon.

Sniffer!

November 17th, 2011
4:17 pm

@Leggs?

so where do u keep table/kitchen knives over nite? other than the ’strategically placed’ ones?

Sassy Me...Black Koffy no Sugar no Cream ;-)

November 17th, 2011
4:17 pm

Exactly Leggs…I have a bat right under my bed. It’s a miniature Braves bat with some tape around the neck for grip…it works. I went to a strip club once and for whatever reason didn’t think they were gonna search my purse…when security said I have to check your bag m’aam I let him look and when he found it, he looked at me like :shock: Of course he said we gone have to take that…I said cool I have several more…and left him watch me walk away still looking like :shock:
My friends laughed at that for a while…

Leggs

November 17th, 2011
4:18 pm

Well, not my own knife.

disco

November 17th, 2011
4:19 pm

see… I didn’t happen to have a knife in my car but there was one in my purse (my purse was in the trunk). I have a little miniature souvenir baseball bat in the pocket of my car door for head busting. I do have knives throughout the house (got that from my grandma) and I just got hip to hornet spray as a weapon. got that little tip from a radio call in show. apparently it has a trigger nozzle and sprays like 20 feet. I’ve made a mental note to get some. just got my gun purchase permit and thinking I’m going to get myself one for Christmas. I was looking at kel-tecs but who knew there were so many options when gun shopping.

Leggs

November 17th, 2011
4:19 pm

@sniffer ~ kitchen knives are put away, steak knives, butter knives, plastic knives, forks and spoons are put away.

Sassy Me...Black Koffy no Sugar no Cream ;-)

November 17th, 2011
4:20 pm

Never owned a gun, but will get one.

I’ve wanted one for years but my family REALLY doesn’t want me to get one because they feel I don’t have the proper attitude for one….I agree and that’s why I haven’t gotten one. Buuut I’ve got a birthday coming next month sooo we’ll see.

Leggs

November 17th, 2011
4:20 pm

@SassyMe ~ yes ma’am. Have to have the tape to secure a good grip!!!!

Leggs

November 17th, 2011
4:24 pm

@SassyMe ~ I said I was going to get a gun years ago. Went shopping for one, but never purchased one nor took lessons to learn how to shoot. With mine going off to college, I will definitely get one because that damn cat will be hiding in the closet right along with me!

SlimNu

November 17th, 2011
4:24 pm

Leggs – Guess you can never be too safe.

Sassy- I used to have one of those Braves Bats too that I kept under my bed. I have no idea where that thing is now but I do keep a box cutter on me ;-)

SexyCool

November 17th, 2011
4:27 pm

Um…I….um…have my phone so I can call 911. (lol)

Actually, I am the Queen of Pick Up The Heaviest Thing Close By And Go To Work. One time, it was the leg off of a glass coffee table that had gotten broken.

Leggs

November 17th, 2011
4:28 pm

If anything should go down while I am home, I’ld like to think I can get to at least one of my knives. I’d hate to be in any one room caught off guard AND unprotected. Bronx girls are known to be pretty good knife throwers (LOL)…unfortunately!

Sassy Me...Black Koffy no Sugar no Cream ;-)

November 17th, 2011
4:29 pm

I have no idea where that thing is now but I do keep a box cutter on me

Slim Nu if you ever get the urge to replace that bat and happen to be downtown by the CNN center, you can get one from the Braves store there…I even got one for my lil sister many moons ago and she still has it.

because that damn cat will be hiding in the closet right along with me!

I know right?! :lol:

disco

November 17th, 2011
4:29 pm

leggs – not that your cat will be hiding in the closet with you. makes me think of wanda sykes’ jokes that at least dogs have jobs: watch dog, guard dog, seeing eye dog, drug sniffing dog.

Sniffer!

November 17th, 2011
4:29 pm

I think a lady living Aline ought to have a gun

Wad reading another blog the other day and this chic said a burglar got in and she happened to wake up….the gun was on her pillow and she popped the sucker with it…

she asked him,as he was lying down dying,if he intended raping her…

Dude said ‘yes’ and she kicked him in disgust ..as he lay to die..

Funny,chilling and sad at the same time

Sniffer!

November 17th, 2011
4:30 pm

SexyCool

November 17th, 2011
4:32 pm

Oh…and I’ve got GiGi…except the other night, when we heard something fall upstairs, we both looked at each other and didn’t move a muscle.

Turns out it was just something falling over….but still…..WE weren’t going to go all Becky and go try to find out what it was.

Sassy Me...Black Koffy no Sugar no Cream ;-)

November 17th, 2011
4:33 pm

Dude said ‘yes’ and she kicked him in disgust ..as he lay to die..

That’s what the fk he gets…stupid dummy….she shoulda kicked him in the cajones…

Into the Light

November 17th, 2011
4:36 pm

because that damn cat will be hiding in the closet right along with me!

disco

November 17th, 2011
4:36 pm

I read court transcripts and you would be amazed at the number of female assault victims who said they woke up to someone standing over them in their room. y’all mentioned knives spread out around the house – another good one. old cell phones. you can still dial 911 on those jokers and I’ve got them throughout the house as well.

Into the Light

November 17th, 2011
4:37 pm

because that damn cat will be hiding in the closet right along with me!

LOL. Mine, too. I could see those big green eyes looking at me now like, “Un uh – you go look!”

SexyCool

November 17th, 2011
4:39 pm

We keep the alarm engaged whenever we are home. Even in the middle of the afternoon.

SlimNu

November 17th, 2011
4:39 pm

I am usually pretty cool with being home alone, especially with the alarm on. However, for some reason, I feel the most paranoid or must vulnerable when I’m in the shower. I guess it’s because you can’t really hear anything while in the shower, plus if caught off guard, you’d be totally nekkid AND clean. That’s a rapists ideal target I’m sure

Leggs

November 17th, 2011
4:44 pm

I feel you, SlimNu re shower. I lock all doors to my bedroom and my bathroom when taking a shower.

Into the Light

November 17th, 2011
4:46 pm

I feel the most paranoid or must vulnerable when I’m in the shower

I know what you mean. In every horror movie ever made, somebody buys the farm in the shower. Well, almost every horror film. And doesn’t it seem like little creaks and squeaks are magnified 10x when you are in there??

Into the Light

November 17th, 2011
4:48 pm

I don’t do all that, but now that we are talking about it, I’m thinking of getting a water gun and filling it with pepper spray. “Freeze sucker!”, while you’re dripping wet pointing a super soaker at him. LOL

SlimNu

November 17th, 2011
4:48 pm

Sometimes when the beau gets home after I do, and I’m already in the shower, he’ll come bang ont he door and yell,”Whatchu doing in there!!!!”. Scares the crap out of me every time. I be wanting to kill his azz when I get out. :roll:

Into the Light

November 17th, 2011
4:51 pm

LOL. That used to scare me, too, Slim. That, and when someone walks up and taps you on the shoulder while you’re vacuuming. I scream every time.

Celisea

November 17th, 2011
4:53 pm

Ooookay I come back the totally unexpected.

I just knew For Real was at the West End. Cumberland? WOW

Leggs

November 17th, 2011
4:58 pm

Back to chivalry and kindness:

Be kind to unkind people (they probably need it the most).
Sit on your ego.
Talk less; listen more.
Slow down.
Remind yourself that you are not the general manager of the universe.
Every night before bed, think of one thing you’re grateful for that you’ve never been grateful for before.

PEACE~

Leggs

November 17th, 2011
4:58 pm

Especially the last one!!!!!

Audra

November 18th, 2011
10:07 am

Dreams – right on!! All the men on here whining about being “nice guys” who get crapped on – in my experience they have a fatal flaw. Usually it’s their victimhood.

Have a good day, y’all.

  

November 18th, 2011
11:31 am

All the men on here whining about being “nice guys” who get crapped on – in my experience they have a fatal flaw. Usually it’s their victimhood. kindness”

There you go-fixed that for you.