What happened to chivalry?
There is this perception that women today are treated with less chivalry. I always consider chivalry another form of kindness. I am optimistic and a bit of a romantic, so I don’t like the idea that women are treated with less kindness in today’s society.
When I am on Marta, I still see men giving up their seats to women and children. I still notice men taking up for their women if they notice any signs of disrespect. So when people ask what happened to chivalry, I like to answer with another question: What happened to kindness?
Do you believe that we are generally less kind to one another? If women are treated with less chivalry, do you think men are less appreciated?
How do you define chivalry? Do you think it is necessary and needed?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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323 comments Add your comment
kimmie
November 17th, 2011
2:12 pm
Light – Ya darn skippy!
disco
November 17th, 2011
2:16 pm
oops. I don’t know if I was saying accuse me or confuse me with – either way. I guess y’all got it. slim nu – don’t sleep on a good fried bologna sandwich. my mother would even fry up an egg to put on that bad boy.
Leggs
November 17th, 2011
2:17 pm
Call and reschedule…she’s your friend. She’ll understand…wait my phone is ringing…
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 17th, 2011
2:17 pm
As I went to lunch, a lady was behind me about 35, 40 feet. I got to the door and waited as she came down the hallway, she walked up as I held the door open looked me in the eyes and said thank you. She proceeded on to her destination and I mine, I don’t know what else to say.
SexyCool
November 17th, 2011
2:20 pm
Yeah…no…she is a friend that has been wanting to hang out for a while. And she usually calls last minute. Well, Sunday, she texted me about hanging out tonight….So….
kimmie
November 17th, 2011
2:22 pm
Blackfoote – Blame it on Oprah.
Lady~
November 17th, 2011
2:23 pm
I just turned down 3 different dates……smh I think I am over dating……sigh
Kym
November 17th, 2011
2:23 pm
@kimmie..I know..I know..whinny men are driving all the good women to cats and BOBs..yeah here’s a thought maybe they should blame themselves..but that would be too much like right.
@disco I know..apparently this foolishness started in the late 90’s..
Speaking of booze..I almost bought this Ninja Blender on OVC last night..they made the best looking “rita” on the show..
Into the Light
November 17th, 2011
2:24 pm
Hurry, Leggs! We have SweetTarts and Laffy Taffy, too!
Why is it hot in a stadium after a football game?
Because all the fans have left.
Leggs
November 17th, 2011
2:24 pm
You can do things, SexyC. Go out tonight and get it over with, or call her apologizing for cancelling but you need to go home and rest offering another day and time to get together.
DreamsMaterialize
November 17th, 2011
2:24 pm
Hey Everyone
I see the chivalry topic is up to bat again. I hear women say chivalry is dead sometimes, but it’s not dead for me. As a man, there are certain things I’ve decided I’ll do or won’t do, and I stand by those things. I don’t allow a person’s acknowledgment or lack thereof to influence me to behave or choose differently. If that’s the case, then I’ll be changing my principles everyday. So, I’m a gentleman ALL the time, and I get satisfaction solely from the belief that I’m doing the right thing, not because someone does or doesn’t say, “Thank you.” I extend that courtesy to every woman, and if she declines, that’s her choice. You’re a man because you’re a man, not because women have/haven’t commissioned you to be one.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 17th, 2011
2:24 pm
Leggs:
That’s a Dick Tracy line “I’m on my way”.
Leggs
November 17th, 2011
2:24 pm
You can do two things….
SexyCool
November 17th, 2011
2:24 pm
While I was upstairs, I had an opportunity to say thank you no less than three times. One was to the dude that held the door open with his foot because he had boxes in his hand so I could pass through.
Kym
November 17th, 2011
2:25 pm
@Blackfoote..the nerve of that heifer to thank you for holding the door and looking you in the face too..see see look at what Tyler Perry has brought us too..him and that dang Beyonce.
kimmie
November 17th, 2011
2:26 pm
Dreams – Preach!
Lord Velonese
November 17th, 2011
2:28 pm
@LeeH1
You are my Hero, I agree 100%.
SexyCool
November 17th, 2011
2:28 pm
Leggs – if I don’t do it today, it probably won’t happen for the rest of the year. (lol)
I’ma suck it up and go.
And I’ll be fine. Just got the itis/don’t wanna be at work combo going on right now.
kimmie
November 17th, 2011
2:28 pm
I had no less that 7 coworkers say hello to me today. I said hi right back too. On about 3 occasions I initiated the hello.
See TLC’s horrible influence on me?
Into the Light
November 17th, 2011
2:28 pm
@BF: Yay! People with manners do still live in this world. I like that you held the door for her, and that she was lady enough to make eye contact and thank you.
SexyCool
November 17th, 2011
2:29 pm
It is interesting how solid dudes come in and post sensible opinions.
kimmie
November 17th, 2011
2:29 pm
SCool – It will be one of those times you don’t feel like going but you end up having fun after you get there.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 17th, 2011
2:30 pm
LOL…..blame Oprah and Tyler P.
Leggs
November 17th, 2011
2:31 pm
That’s why I put that option first. I figured you would. You just wanted to vent a little. You’ll feel better once you get away from the job and will have a blast with your friend.
Into the Light
November 17th, 2011
2:32 pm
I’m gonna start a 12-step group for the blog. I’ll go first:
(standing and facing the blog)
Hi, my name is ITL, and I’m addicted to politeness. Today, I said hello to 14 co-workers and even smiled at them. I held the elevator this morning for someone who was running late. I am also guilty of using “please” and “thank you” multiple times.
(ITL now hanging head in shame and sitting down)
SexyCool
November 17th, 2011
2:33 pm
kimmie – just make sure you don’t go setting fires in bathtubs or showing up on dating shows with unreasonable expectations.
disco
November 17th, 2011
2:34 pm
kimmie/SCool – once I met a friend to go to a Spanish club. I went out with the intention of being sociable, kicking it for a bit and being out the door by 10pm. a quick in and out. we ended up shutting the club down. I took salsa lessons and my friend interpreted when fellows were asking me to dance or if I wanted a drink. heck it was an absolute blast. one of those true good times that are few and far between.
Sniffer!
November 17th, 2011
2:35 pm
Lady?
truthfully answering if u don’t mind…
U dating a lot,how much are u spending on them
other than gas and shine clothes and shoes?
see,a good looking but- broke- that- month chic(with plenty water and none else in the fridge) can
date date date date and eat nice meals every nite,not even have the intention to go on date III
…..until pay day! Then send the dude a text…
Please don’t call me AnyMore!!!
no explanation!
SlimNu
November 17th, 2011
2:36 pm
told a gf that I would meet her for dinner after work. I just wanna go home
SC – I felt like this yesterday, especially with the rain. But I went anyway and I was glad I did. You’ll feel better once you get off work i’m sure.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 17th, 2011
2:38 pm
Thanks Ladies, I just can’t let a door or any object swing back in some one’s face. Thing is she didn’t have to say anything, I got me and her if she needed more assistance.
Lady~
November 17th, 2011
2:38 pm
I am really not sir……that is why I ended that foolishness a while back…..not up for it……..kindly no value @ all so why go?!?
kimmie
November 17th, 2011
2:38 pm
disco – See those unexpected good times like that are the best!
SCool –
Lady~
November 17th, 2011
2:39 pm
and I am not spending anything…..I am not that chic…never have been so why start now?!? I am really OK it is just funny when the rhetorical calls and text come…..just glad I don’t bite @ every invite…….its played out……
disco
November 17th, 2011
2:42 pm
okay. here is my 12 step pitch.
my name is disco and I’m addicted to bargains. I’ve become so used to my neighborhood shoe stores having BOGO sales that I walked out of off broadway shoes tuesday night without two pairs of boots that I wanted (identical boots, one pair black, one pair brown) because I didn’t want to pay full price for both pairs. thing is I’m still thinking about those boots but I’m really trying to remain strong and not cave in and go back and get them. who is my sponsor anyway?
kimmie
November 17th, 2011
2:42 pm
Light – Looks like we are going to have to eliminate Beyonce’ as your sponsor. Is there another powerful,female you had in mind that you can call when you feel yourself falling off the wagon?
kimmie
November 17th, 2011
2:43 pm
disco – Oprah
disco
November 17th, 2011
2:48 pm
ooh. not oprah. can I have another sponsor?
O/T – I missed life after last night but am I the only one that thinks Antonio fargas looks a lot better now than before? not saying he’s fine or anything but I just think he looks better – not as funny looking or something.
kimmie
November 17th, 2011
2:48 pm
disco – I have been good about not spending half of my check on shoes for myself. I have only bought 2 new pairs for the fall/winter season. But I have a new handicap. Buying shoes for my new 9 year old stepdaughter. She is so cute and looks great in everything and is a budding fashionista. I cannot help myself. I am in dire need of a sponsor.
Into the Light
November 17th, 2011
2:49 pm
Oh, no! Beyonce can’t be my sponsor??? Well, shoot.
Into the Light
November 17th, 2011
2:51 pm
Kimmie: Mrs. Obama can be your sponsor. I love that she is not above snagging a bargain!
Kym
November 17th, 2011
2:53 pm
Hear Ye..Hear Ye..I would like to now call to order the meeting of the I Hate a Whiny Pink Panty Wearing Man Club.
First we shall take a reading from the book of MCLYTE..text will come from Keep On Keepin featuring the women of Xscape.
“Many have tried to strict regulations lazy motherf– get put on probation
Those that didn’t perform well, they gets no answer when they ringa-ring my bell
You’re playing with my time Trying to jerk me, hurt me then desert me
You better work me while you got the opportunity To be in the mist of the L-Y-T-E
Only the strong survive, only the wise excel
Only the lonely die slowly..Left all alone trying to control me”
kimmie
November 17th, 2011
2:53 pm
Light – That’s precisely what I don’t need – someone who loves a bargain as much as I do!
Kym
November 17th, 2011
2:54 pm
Oprah can be my sponsor..someone else can have Madea..
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 17th, 2011
2:54 pm
I Love women, I used to cheat on them, I lied to them, I put them off. I apologize for my behaviour to all women past and present. As I matured from the boyhood games I respect women, I never have hit one, they will always be that apple in my eye. I grew up! Now sitting back down under the stairwell.
For Real
November 17th, 2011
2:56 pm
While in the Mall……
Why do people take old people to the mall then get mad when the old person gets tired?
Who pushes a Sears cart thru the mall and then decides to push the cart to the food court? Oh and the only thing in the cart are pocketbooks and coats.
So biker-tight pants and fluffy boots is the style now?
Saw a car that had a note posted on the window. The note said “This window is broken”
I fear my sons selection of women to marry will be a very, very small since it appears all the little girls like each other.
Pajama pants, head scarf and houseshoe… When you absolutely want to make every mitty ficky in room know you are lazy as hell.
Are strechy pants suppose to rise?
There must have been a sell on brown duck boots and green shirts.
PSA!!!! Attention ladies, if your heel is hanging off the back of your shoes, then your shoes are too small for your foots.
PSA!!! Attention dudes, there is no such thing as a pimpbelly.
No maam I’m not married but if I was my wife would not be interested in attending a sex toy party thrown by a lady in mall.
This is the GOD’s honest truth….
Old Lady: Hey can I get a dollar?
For Real: I’m sorry I do not have a dollar. (Said while choking from the 1986 pee smell)
Old Lady: Awwww come on you all Marvin you know you got a dollar.
For Real: No maam I do not….
Old Lady: Wanna fugg!!!
For Real: I’m gay!
Old Lady: That’s just nasty!!!
Random Chick: Did she just ask you to fugg?
kimmie
November 17th, 2011
2:56 pm
Kym – I love Keep on Keepin!
disco
November 17th, 2011
2:59 pm
before somebody assigns me to madea I’ll have to self select a sponsor. decisions decisions. I’m thinking I want an old school diva type as my sponsor. someone who understands my desire but knows it needs to be checked. plus I need my sponsor to be older because if I view them as a peer I might be tempted to challenge them. I’m gonna go with Gladys knight but I reserve the right to change sponsors if necessary.
kimmie
November 17th, 2011
2:59 pm
4 Real –
Were you at South Dekalb Mall?
You know you wanted that cougar! LOL!!
kimmie
November 17th, 2011
3:01 pm
disco – How about Ne-Ne as your sponsor?
For Real
November 17th, 2011
3:03 pm
Nope. Cumberland