What happened to chivalry?
There is this perception that women today are treated with less chivalry. I always consider chivalry another form of kindness. I am optimistic and a bit of a romantic, so I don’t like the idea that women are treated with less kindness in today’s society.
When I am on Marta, I still see men giving up their seats to women and children. I still notice men taking up for their women if they notice any signs of disrespect. So when people ask what happened to chivalry, I like to answer with another question: What happened to kindness?
Do you believe that we are generally less kind to one another? If women are treated with less chivalry, do you think men are less appreciated?
How do you define chivalry? Do you think it is necessary and needed?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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?oftheday
November 17th, 2011
12:23 pm
disco your honesty just awarded you a 50K bonus!!!! LOL
Leggs
November 17th, 2011
12:26 pm
@mark ~ thanks for the laugh. I have to remark that that was a proper response for her reaction. People don’t seem to remember how nice it is for the man to walk a woman to the door. He’s not trying to wait for you to put your key in and attack you.
SexyCool
November 17th, 2011
12:28 pm
Ruben Studdard is divorcing that chick he met at the Walmart CD signing.
Sniffer!
November 17th, 2011
12:29 pm
@mark?
she looked scared coz after spending on her during the nite out she thought u were coming inside for PAYBACK!!
Lol
I tell ya…some of them are hardened by these jack azz jokers with pants on the ground! Lol
Leggs
November 17th, 2011
12:29 pm
Leggs
November 17th, 2011
12:30 pm
Laughing at you SexyC.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 17th, 2011
12:31 pm
Mark:
Funny story, seems if y’all had good evening she would have built up a small amount of trust. You never know how a person reactions will be at any time.
Lady~
November 17th, 2011
12:34 pm
~ Chivalry isn’t dead~ There are many kind, appreciative, humbled ladies out there also……..Afternoon MIA~
disco
November 17th, 2011
12:36 pm
y’all done made me reflect on my grandmother. thinking about rude folks reminded me of how she used to say “some folks ain’t worth the spit it takes to cuss ‘em”. so true.
well since I’m rolling in the blog dough when the blog bar opens back up for business the drinks are on me. bartender – stop my tab at $5,000.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 17th, 2011
12:41 pm
Hey Lady:
I haven’t run into any hard nosed women. If I did and I wanted to make something out of it I’d accept the challenge.
Kym
November 17th, 2011
12:42 pm
Chik fil la is the friendliest place in town..just got back mgr…made a mistake with my order ..fixed it..thanked me and I thanked him.. I remember next time to be rude, roll my eyes and say Madea made me do it.
Now who is still whining?
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 17th, 2011
12:43 pm
LOL…..@disco
Lady~
November 17th, 2011
12:43 pm
Hi there Blackfoote! I am certain you will hold your own too.
Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)
November 17th, 2011
12:44 pm
If your self esteem is tied to someone expressing gratitude for courtesy you extend…then you might have codependency issues. Be courteous because YOU know it is the right thing to do, not what gratitude you get or don’t get from someone else.
Lady~
November 17th, 2011
12:47 pm
I agree Randy. Being kind is just that…….Kindness does ROCK and is natural for many.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 17th, 2011
12:47 pm
Amen Brother RandyT:
Sassy Me...Black Koffy no Sugar no Cream ;-)
November 17th, 2011
12:50 pm
Be courteous because YOU know it is the right thing to do, not what gratitude you get or don’t get from someone else.
nice post…worth repeating…
Kym
November 17th, 2011
12:51 pm
If this ship has now sailed..I would like to suggest an alternate topic..These kids today…I’ll start..
These kids today are crazy…apparently the new way to get drunk or high is by soaking tampons in vodka and inserting them..yeah I said inserting them..boys and girls..This is the generation that will be taking care of us when we are old.
SexyCool
November 17th, 2011
12:53 pm
Kym – I’m sure Dose can tell you who to blame. (lol)
SexyCool
November 17th, 2011
12:56 pm
Oh…and just one more thing about Wise’s post – “When I am on Marta, I still see men giving up their seats to women and children.”
I’m on MARTA nearly EVERYday. I rarely see this happening, even in the seats by the door that are, by law, for the elderly and handicapped.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 17th, 2011
12:56 pm
Kym……LOL
I’m gone to lunch on that note.
Kym
November 17th, 2011
12:58 pm
@SC..I watched the story clip on Colbert..went to the internet and reviewed the full story..seriously this generation of kids..no way we gonna survive their leadership..I say we stick a sign up sell everything at fire sale prices..and let China have at it.
SexyCool
November 17th, 2011
1:15 pm
Craziness….
Actually, I had to go out to the airport Atrium right now to get some lunch. While in line, I really gave some thought to this whole “bitter Black woman” phenomenon, and oddly enough, I realized that I don’t have any women like that in my immediate circle.
By the same token, of all the people that I am loosely connected to, the ones that seem to have the attitude issues and negative outlooks typically seem to have less education and face economic challenges.
Lady~
November 17th, 2011
1:16 pm
It is weird when MIA pauses………chuckle.
Into the Light
November 17th, 2011
1:20 pm
Back from lunch, and already regretting that piece of apple pecan pie. Y’all might need to set up a phone tree to keep me awake!
@Mark: smh at that woman. Even if I’m out with friends, I always wait to make sure they’ve made it in the house safely, or if I’m dropping them at their car that they are in safely and the car is cranked.
@Kym:
Kym
November 17th, 2011
1:26 pm
For those who think I could possible make this up..
http://www.kpho.com/story/15981315/teens-using-vodka-tampons-to-get-drunk
Sniffer!
November 17th, 2011
1:39 pm
Scool?
Crazy sexy Black women are there,maybe not in ur immediate family but there….
this is a different topic right!? Lol
I think most men have come across them…as to their prevalence? I don’t know but there is a gazzilion of them out there.
As a woman who don’t switch the other way,u probably are oblivious to them..
Now,there are crazy men out there too..well,not crazy but downright wacko…if the murders of women by them is anything to go by.
Surely? Who murders a woman just coz her pudy is damn good and coz shes offering it to another bidder?
Sniffer!
November 17th, 2011
1:42 pm
Cel?
well,it boils down to pudy in my calculations.
SexyCool
November 17th, 2011
1:43 pm
Meelow – I’m not saying they don’t exist. I’m just saying that I don’t directly deal with any. In fact, I tend to pull up from Negative Nancy’s. Most of the time, I am able to manage my life in a positive fashion and I don’t want anyone around me dragging me down with their attitudes and drama.
SexyCool
November 17th, 2011
1:50 pm
Um, dude, I really don’t want to hear ANOTHER update on what’s going on with your custody fight/child support case. In fact, if you would have the CSO correct their information, they wouldn’t send your mail to my office and I wouldn’t have to see you at all.
Leggs
November 17th, 2011
1:51 pm
@SexyC ~ that’s how I feel about people garnishment notices. Because I’m in the legal department, the mailroom sends these to me and not to HR. I have since corrected this error, but man o man….
Kym
November 17th, 2011
1:52 pm
Okay I ate too much..I am gonna need someone to roll or push me to my car..
SexyCool
November 17th, 2011
1:56 pm
Leggs – exactly. I know buddy just needs to vent, but dammit….I don’t wanna hear about it AGAIN………
kimmie
November 17th, 2011
1:57 pm
sfw – I respond to any post I want in any way I want.
I started to say STFU back, but I’m not getting down in the gutter with you! Now get your pink panties out of their wad!
Kym
November 17th, 2011
2:00 pm
@kimmie..lawd..you done done it now! He gonna hit you with his manbag!
Into the Light
November 17th, 2011
2:01 pm
LOL@Kym. Where’d you go????
sn: someone here was talking about fried bologna sandwiches and got me craving one….looks like ITL is making a Publix run after work…
Kym
November 17th, 2011
2:04 pm
@ITL I went to Chik Fil la..I swear they put crack in that food or something..oh and I went and got my doughnuts..which I will possible have to hide from the boy..
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 17th, 2011
2:06 pm
LOL……@Everybody y’all makes day fly.
Leggs
November 17th, 2011
2:07 pm
I just finished eating lunch…now, all I need is a little something sweet. A pack of Smarties would do the trick…
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 17th, 2011
2:07 pm
“a day” fly.
Into the Light
November 17th, 2011
2:07 pm
Mmmmmm, Chick-fil-A…..
Have mercy. I would much rather be home in my aloe socks than “trolling” for entertainment. Just sayin’…..
SlimNu
November 17th, 2011
2:08 pm
ITL – I went home to Bama this past weekend. I come downstairs to the smell of fried bologna. My mom was making one for my stepdad and i’m like, daaaaamn I haven’t had that in a Minute! You never forget that smell. lol
SlimNu
November 17th, 2011
2:08 pm
Any of yall going to try to see Mike Epps in February at the Civic Center? Tickets go on sale tomorrow…
Into the Light
November 17th, 2011
2:08 pm
Leggs – I’ve got some. C’mon over….I’ll meet you in the lobby.
Into the Light
November 17th, 2011
2:09 pm
Slim, when my co-worker started talking about it, I immediately started craving it. And I’m still full from lunch!! Good grief….’tis the season….
kimmie
November 17th, 2011
2:10 pm
Kym – I really started to ignore it but these bitter beyotchy men need to be called out. I never seen such whiny weakness in my life from so-called MEN.
Into the Light
November 17th, 2011
2:11 pm
ITL’s sad, but true, Life Lesson #542: “male” does not equal “man”
disco
November 17th, 2011
2:12 pm
Kym – I’m more concerned that perfectly good vodka is going to waste than I am about how productive these kids will grow up to be.
SCool – you know they say if you look around and don’t see that person then that person is you. of course, I just had to say that it wasn’t personal (in case someone wanted to confuse me of starting stuff on the blog).
SexyCool
November 17th, 2011
2:12 pm
I told a gf that I would meet her for dinner after work. I just wanna go home.
Leggs
November 17th, 2011
2:12 pm
On my way…