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Do women audition to be a wife?

A lot of my male friends want to “see” that a woman can come home, cook, and be all domesticated. To them, this is the sign of a mature woman ready to be a wife (I’m not kidding, I have heard this repeatedly.)

I always ask my guy friends to cut their dates some slack when it comes to this. Just because a single woman is out on the town, traveling around, and enjoying her carefree life, doesn’t mean she can’t make room for him.

I hear a lot of men say that girlfriends audition to become wives. Is that really necessary, though? I’d argue that it is not important to show and prove domestic abilities, but perhaps I’m missing something.

If women audition to be a wife, are men put through the same scrutiny to be a husband?

Do men expect wifely duties from girlfriends and significant others?

Do women look to their boyfriends to do husband things?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

220 comments Add your comment

Single and Happy

November 8th, 2011
7:42 am

What are wifely duties?? What are husband things?

Button

November 8th, 2011
8:15 am

Do men expect wifely duties from girlfriends and significant others? Yes
Example: S ex, s ex and more s ex and maybe maybe a few home cooked dinner

Do women look to their boyfriends to do husband things? Yes
Example: Finance, car repairs, lawn maint, and other manly chores.

Optimus Prime

November 8th, 2011
8:18 am

Husbands have been put through the “checklist” since the dawn of time. Who is the best provider? Who has the most to offer me? Is he attractive enough? What is his status in the professional world? Does he treat me like a queen? I don’t think that’s bad. It’s just the law of the wild. To rail and fight against it would be like trying to dig a hole in the ocean. Accept it and move on. To think that women are put in that same spotlight is simply reality. But there is always someone that offers more, or rather, DIFFERENT things. It’s simply what you place the most emphasis on and can you live with it. Love IS a part of it, but love alone simply isn’t enough. If you think it is, you have been reading too many romance novels. It’s called FANTASY.

MzNewy

November 8th, 2011
8:21 am

You can’t audition…because anyone can be anything for “a little while”. By no means do I recommend playing house though. Just because you can act the part when you still have an out (there are no papers involved so at any time either party can say “deuces”) does not mean you can do it on a fulltime basis. There are other things involved in being married besides a female being able to cook, clean and perform s exual acrobatics. If you are fully vested in the relationship, these things will come.

CoolShadow

November 8th, 2011
8:22 am

We audition for most things in life that we have to gain acceptance for. Whether it’s for a boyfriend/ girlfriend, interview for a job, induction into a fraternity/sorority or simply a role in a theatric production, life at times is one continuous audition. We’re consistently attempting to prove ourselves worthy of some goal we’re trying to attain. For some of us, we’re just conducting our lives and being ourselves, whereas someone else perceives it as auditioning. In relationships, I think it’s auditioning when someone changes or upgrades their style, routine, etc., to snag someone but slacks off or simply stops doing what they did once they get that person they were after.

Do women look to their boyfriends to do husband things?

What do you considere husband things? If it’s what I think is meant, sure some women do; some will even try to get friends to do them, especially those men assigned to the friend zone. :(

SlimNu

November 8th, 2011
8:26 am

Good morning all…

I was washing dishes after cooking at the beau’s house and he comes up behind me asking in a joking way, “Are you auditioning?” So it’s funny this topic came up.

As far as ‘roles’ it seems, even as much as the traditional way of life has changed a bit, that many people still see women being the main caretaker of home/domestic chores and men seeing to the more laborous(i might have made that word up) duties.

Greg S.

November 8th, 2011
8:40 am

Those men are not looking for wives. They are looking to replace mom! In marriage, the roles are flexible and change from time-to-time. Guys, if you can’t love your woman deeply and beyond the lovemaking then you better seriously consider not getting married. Marriage is not a cookie-cutter situation by any means!

GracieL

November 8th, 2011
8:48 am

Good questions today, Ms. Diva! I don’t “audition” in this way because I’m not interested in being a man’s domestic servant and/or mommy. Experience has taught me that if I behave in such a way, I will at least get temporary work as such. A man enjoys such conveniences, but that does not inspire him to fall in love and pursue. I see women make this mistake all the time: they do everything for him, and he… lets them.

John

November 8th, 2011
9:04 am

I agree with Greg, and would add that someone who’s mature enough to have lived on their own (away from parents) makes better roommate material, regardless of the romantic relationship.

bad guy

November 8th, 2011
9:11 am

Certainly a man “auditions” a woman to be his wife. I know I was looking for someone who would not be a narcissist (tends to be the high maintenance women) and not care for my children to be. Come on ladies, you can’t be Ms. Career (hottie, party girl, etc.)only.

Men are required to do “manly” things (lawn, car, hh repairs, etc.) while providing the bulk of the income as well. Everyone has their part to do in raising a family. Our home involves both parents working hard all day to pull it off. You divas out there that think men are born to take you dinner and put you on a pedestal are sadly mistaken. Arm candy does not a good wife make….

You want the money, we want a good home life. Maybe that is why so many are living in single homes today?

Leggs

November 8th, 2011
9:11 am

Good morning.

I hear a lot of men say that girlfriends audition to become wives. Is that really necessary, though? Yes! Just like women audition, for lack of a better word, to become girlfriends. Just like the other day the question was asked are you good on paper, personal interaction is the interview from the stats on paper. You showcase yourself in a way where the man or woman wants to see if a second interview is warranted. Then the probationary stage. When you pass that and can weather whatever is taking place, you are then hired for a permanent position. This may or may not lead to marriage, but for now, it’s a long-term commitment.

Do men expect wifely duties from girlfriends and significant others? Some men do. From ironing their shirts, uniforms, cooking, possibly tiding up for them. Yes indeed. I have a gf who complains that her bf wants her to help keep his home a little cleaner because he’s horrible in that department. Sheet, you better put in your budget for a cleaning service once a week.

Do women look to their boyfriends to do husband things?Most definitely. If we’re dating, and something needs repairing, I would like to be able to go to my bf for assistance without nare frown on his brow!!!

GracieL

November 8th, 2011
9:18 am

bad guy also makes a good point at 9:11,

Regardless of gender, if you’re interested in moving toward a committed domestic partnership, then it’s worth your effort to demonstrate what you bring to the table in that regard. (Narcissists generally do not make good partners for anyone!) However, communication is important to establish that such a partnership is indeed what both people seek. If that’s not clear, then — and I see it all the time — a person can get caught up in “giving” mode, mistakenly thinking that the “taker” will, at some magical moment, decide to step up and reciprocate. This is not always the case.

disco

November 8th, 2011
9:38 am

good morning guys. this topic like so many others highlights the need for balance. whether or not a person considers themselves to be “auditioning” it is almost a given that someone is sizing them up for one reason or another. thing is that the criteria that’s important to one may not be so important to another. just another reason to do you and not try to be who you think a person wants you to be. personally, I keep my own house clean but I’ve never been the girl to clean up at the boyfriend’s house. if I contributed to the mess then I’d help clean it but I didn’t proceed to clean his place in order to “audition” for the spot.

Leggs

November 8th, 2011
9:40 am

That’s a much better word, GracieL, “demonstrate.”

Peach Blossom

November 8th, 2011
9:56 am

Of course we audition, we just don’t call it that. Now to be honest, men audition too. Men are hunter-gatherers and we’re the nurturers. The sad thing is that men want to be nurtured in bed and, rarely anywhere else. Women are expected to be whores in the bedroom, chefs in the kitchen and ladies in the living room. Men want to be millionaires by the time they are thirty. I just want a man who loves me and respects me. Life’s an audition.

Mike P

November 8th, 2011
10:00 am

@WD:
WD wrote; “A lot of my male friends want to “see” that a woman can come home, cook, and be all domesticated. To them, this is the sign of a mature woman ready to be a wife (I’m not kidding, I have heard this repeatedly.)”
My Reply: Not sure why you think others believe you were kidding, domesticated women are highly desired by men who are looking to settle down with his potential wife. And Yes, in many cases, it does show a level of maturity in women.
WD wrote; “I always ask my guy friends to cut their dates some slack when it comes to this.”
My Reply: We could, but then we won’t take the date seriously and our behavior will reflect accordingly.

WD wrote; “I hear a lot of men say that girlfriends audition to become wives. Is that really necessary, though? I’d argue that it is not important to show and prove domestic abilities, but perhaps I’m missing something.”
My Reply: don’t expect to get the part (cast as wife), if you can’t, don’t won’t audition for the part. Some other aspirant will gladly audition; odds are she’s more likely to get the part.

WD wrote; “If women audition to be a wife, are men put through the same scrutiny to be a husband?”
My Reply: Seriously!!! Wise diva, seriously???

Good Morning all :)

Leggs

November 8th, 2011
10:07 am

Excellent post, PeachB!

Leggs

November 8th, 2011
10:08 am

Where’s SexyC?

Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

November 8th, 2011
10:13 am

I’m not sure I agree on any level with the “audition” concept. I never even notice whetehr a woman cooks or not (other than if she has a fetish for brocolli “Houston, we have a problem”…I’m convinced brocolli is lethal). That said, I want her to be relatively self-sufficient also and not a slob, but other than that, no audition necessary.

For me, I’m a good cook already and enjoy cooking, I can wash my own clothes and clean my house and have for many years, I’m a bit “ironing” challenged, but as long as the Hispanic cleaners down the street cleans and presses my shirts for a $1 each, then we both are happy. And I can be a bit messy, but will eventually scrub things and straighten up. I am self-sufficient in every way.

Bottom line is I am more interested in a wife’s lovemaking skills in the kitchen (and the living room, dining room, laundry, all bathtubs and the main shower), than her cooking skills, and cleaning said places. I don’t expect her to clean up after me, nor me after her ;-)

Leggs

November 8th, 2011
10:16 am

Typical man, esp. last paragraph (lol).

Lady~

November 8th, 2011
10:17 am

Morning Crew!!!! Auditions hmmmm…..let me catch up! lol

Lady~

November 8th, 2011
10:19 am

(I’m not kidding, I have heard this repeatedly.) <——-WD lawd I can write a chapter about this statement lol smh lololololol!!!!

Leggs

November 8th, 2011
10:20 am

O/T….oh boy, just received a call from HR. I still have too many hours. My question is this, how the hell am I suppose to use my hours up when they keep accruing. Mind you, not really complaining, but come on! {{Sssssh, they just don’t want to cash me out (lol).}}

disco

November 8th, 2011
10:20 am

dating sure is hard for chicks like me – the not so much into nurturing types. I’ve never been much of a nurturer. it’s not my personality. I’ve taken vocational assessments and I’m told I would fit well in legal, military, corrections, probation, etc. go figure. when my son was about 5 he bust his head open and needed stitches. while I handled it and did the emergency room thing I remembered thinking about having to mop the blood off of my kitchen floor (I know that’s wrong on many levels). once I was dating a guy who had a cold and acted like he needed around the clock care. I’m like dude, it’s a cold, walk it off. call me when you get something more serious but I’m not feeling you whining over a cold. I’m definitely special and it definitely takes special types to deal with me. still – as for “auditioning”, I guess it would be extremely difficult for me to fake being a nurturer.

oneofeach4me

November 8th, 2011
10:21 am

Audition?? Here is the thing… I am NOT good at pretending nor being fake. What you see is what you get. That is what the dating period is for….to see if you WANT what it is you are getting! Right?

Lady~

November 8th, 2011
10:21 am

Do men expect wifely duties from girlfriends and significant others? They ones I encounter do.

Do women look to their boyfriends to do husband things? If we are together and I mean down for the cause the relationship would somewhat mimic a marriage sorta…….I don’t have to live with you prior or during but the needs and wants will be expected I think especially since I had a taste of marriage briefly…..lol

I Love Life Cereal

November 8th, 2011
10:22 am

I don’t take these questions here too seriously, as the questions themselves show a little bit of a lack of understanding of the real world.

People are (fairly often) sizing each other up when they are looking for something. That is human nature.

In the same way that men size up women for several reasons the same can be said for women sizing up men.

My issue is not with this. I do, however, have a problem with the pettiness I see sometimes from women who do not appeared to consider a man’s character, values, and emotional maturity.

Unfortunately I have been out several places where women repeatedly ignore worthwhile (educated, average-to-slightly above average physically, etc.) men for silly things.

No wonder the same and similar women are still single well into their 30s. And in a growing number of cases, obese as well.

It’s enough to make a man almost want to give up sometimes, if not for there being other places & races to look for women. :)

Lady~

November 8th, 2011
10:23 am

meant “The ones” not they…..sigh lol

Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

November 8th, 2011
10:25 am

;-) @ Leggs

Seriously, when I hear a man with a long list of ‘domesticated’ type requirements, I think “this dude doesn’t want a wife, HE WANTS A MOTHER OR A MAID. I think back in the fifties, this kind of a list was somewhat relevant, when lady stayed home and cooked, cleaned, and popped out and cared for babies…but that dynamic is rare these days.

Now I absolutely do believe men as mates are subject to a giant shopping list:

1) can he provide well
2) can he provide well
3) can he provide well
4) can he provide well
5) can he provide well
6) can he keep me interested physiccally…but this is expendable if first five are in place.

William

November 8th, 2011
10:25 am

Traditions are still vital to a harmonious union.
I am not talking about “Leave it to Beaver”
June Cleaver traditions. You and your “Partner”
have to acquire your own and make them yours.
Through mutual understanding of the wants,needs
and upbringing of the other.
James Evans: “Two things Florida.”
Florida: “Don’t say it James!.”
James: Two things; “The kitchen and the bedroom,
the kitchen and the bedroom.”

disco

November 8th, 2011
10:26 am

hmmm. I’ve never had life cereal.

Exiled!

November 8th, 2011
10:30 am

Good morning!

@Randyt?

I can clearly see why u have so so many T-shirts! You are ’self sufficient’ and only want/need a woman for her sexual prowess!

No woman can come in unless she can fulfill a need to somebody..tangible need that is,other than sex.

A lot of women(traditional) will ‘own’ the kitchen and all (most) of the home inside stuff. Unless she’s really lazy then well,that’s another story.

On topic!

Yes,if we are talking about long term relationships,we All audition.

If there are no Expectations,then the the Outcome is not Expected.

You both coast…like some waste dumped in the Ocean.

Not good!

(very good posts do far)

Exiled!

November 8th, 2011
10:31 am

Exiled!

November 8th, 2011
10:34 am

Disco!

that’s why u ain’t married!

And I aint being harsh,just honest

Man(married) want to be nurtured…that’s my experience

Try it!

Lady~

November 8th, 2011
10:37 am

William I am screaming LOL @ YOUR POST! too funny!!!! TWO THANGS! LOL

abc

November 8th, 2011
10:37 am

Yes, of course men are scrutinized by women as to whether they’d be good husbands. Yes, of course women look to their boyfriends to do “husband things”. The reverse is also true — unless you’re not interested in having a spouse, which you clearly are not. Nothing wrong with that I suppose. But, if that’s not what you’re after, I don’t see why you’d expect commitment to the role by others.

Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

November 8th, 2011
10:38 am

Hey Exiled (aka meeeellllooooww) and Leggs

I was teasing about the sex part. Honestly I want a lady that is just plain interesting and I totally trust and feel safe with to be with first, want a best friend second, exciting lover third, interesting travelling companion fourth. Somewhere down the list would be clean and neat domestically. Can she cook? Hellz I may not even notice for months.

Celisea

November 8th, 2011
10:39 am

William – James Evans: “Two things Florida.” Florida: “Don’t say it James!.”James: Two things; “The kitchen and the bedroom,
the kitchen and the bedroom

LOLOLOL…you ain’t right William

disco

November 8th, 2011
10:42 am

exiled. no offense taken. I hear it all the time from everyone from my mother to assorted friends. it’s just not who I am. I didn’t do dolls, I don’t do pets. heck, as much as I love “relations” I don’t always need to be hugged up afterward. sometimes you just need for someone to move over and get out of the way. I own it. oftentimes, things are all good (and this is with male and female friends) until someone is in that “I need a hug” place. I’m not generally the friend you need to call when you need a shoulder to cry on. I’m the friend you need to call once you’ve decided how to handle the situation. at that point, I’ll ride out with you and help you handle business but that whining/crying stuff isn’t for me.

Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

November 8th, 2011
10:42 am

Actually I was asked (again) to host Thanksgiving for all my family. I’m the best cook in the group and make a gigantic spread for Thanksgiving, my house has a double oven and is big and great for hosting, my den is huge with a 60inch High Def for all wanting to lounge, drink punch, and watch football or golf, and enough couches laying around for everyone to take a nap after gorging.

I love hosting on Thanksgiving…(may be the wife some of you never had ;-)

Lady~

November 8th, 2011
10:43 am

I believe in joint measures….I don’t want to be the primary cook….But I am a great prep helper and I will even have the groceries brought but for the most I would love and have been blessed with my man doing the cooking….I really lived this life so I know it can work….I love to entertain and will hold it down….I am a logistics chica…..I will create the blue print but I would love to have the cook in place to execute……Kid you not here lately the men I run into aren’t feeling this….the truly want their woman in the kitchen 99.9% of the time….I am not that chic. I can cook and will periodically but it can’t be my primary. just being honest…..lol

Mike P

November 8th, 2011
10:45 am

@Randyt I don’t see the point being a relationship with a woman without them fulfilling their roles, its not worth the headache, and same is also true for men. What you seeking can simply be handled by a good friend or fwb. just saying.

Lady~

November 8th, 2011
10:46 am

I have been spoiled and a man told me that recently too…..smh lol

Mike P

November 8th, 2011
10:47 am

Hey Exiled!: you definitely know what you are talking about. Y’all better listen to meellow

Leggs

November 8th, 2011
10:48 am

I am so looking forward to cooking for Thanksgiving. I love it! Just wish my family could have come.

Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

November 8th, 2011
10:52 am

@ Mike P…I don’t disagree. But I’ve been married, have grown children, and my needs and desires probably differ from what they might have been in my twenties, It is what floats each one’s boat. I don’t need the Leave It To Beaver” kind of home structure, but someone else might. I understand what ‘disco’ is saying too, but that doesn’t fit me, because I do occasionally desire nurturing. But it does fit her. I am saying that at the place in my life I am currently at, domestic things aren’t as important to me. Now in twenty years, I may need a nurse type who can cook, clean, and change my Depends undergarments for me…but not yet. One size does not fit all.

Lady~

November 8th, 2011
10:52 am

Exiled is right about owning the kitchen sadly sigh lol…I will hold the house down but I don’t want to own the kitchen …smh lol

Leggs

November 8th, 2011
10:53 am

R.I.P. Mr. Joe Frazier (the first man to knock Ali down).

Lady~

November 8th, 2011
10:54 am

Leggs I am cooking two dishes for thanksgiving and excited! lol

SexyCool

November 8th, 2011
10:56 am

Leggs – here I am.

I kinda don’t get Wise’s logic in the second paragraph of her post. Don’t women who are out on the town still have to eat, clean and manage their single households? What part of being a “woman about town” eliminates any of those needs?

And yes, determining a woman’s domestic abilities and a man’s ability to lead and provide for a household in the way that you would expect either of them to do so is a critical part of determining the direction/longevity of a relationship…or at least it should be if you have any interest in the individual outside of the “lay-down.”

Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

November 8th, 2011
10:56 am

Also @ Mike P. I understand totally your comment about a friend with benefits (and frankly have considered it, but have not a clue how to go about finding one), but generally I am monogamous and I do like full time or almost full time companionship. A wife, ‘the elusive soulmate’, etc. would be nice.

GracieL

November 8th, 2011
10:59 am

Mike P,

I appreciate your old-school perspective. Understanding comes from considering a the broad range of perspectives that exist in our society, especially those that hold true from one generation to the next.

However, I don’t think those requirements are the norm for the current generation seeking to marry and start a family. Even for mine (I graduated in the 80’s), men were looking at potential mates with a critical eye toward her ability to contribute FINANCIALLY to their union. A girl from a rich family — yeah, dream catch! She doesn’t need to work; get in good with her folks! But most I know were looking at not only her ability to spend the marital money wisely and be responsible in the home, but also in how much her education and skills could bring in to the bank accounts. Combined income/purchasing power, what neighborhood, how much house, what kind of vacations, can we afford to buy all the latest electronic gizmos… All these things seemed to be important to men in the 80’s, and in today’s depressed economy, I think men are even MORE concerned with money when they seek to tie the knot!

Rickman

November 8th, 2011
11:00 am

I don’t know if I’d put it that way (audition), my wife and I have been Married 27 years, 2nd. time for both of us, we never had any kids, neither one of us wanted to. She takes care of everything inside the house, groceries paying the bills, laundry etc.etc.etc. and I do all the outside stuff. But she also dosent work, hadn’t in a long time. I like coming home and having dinner ready and her being there after a long day. And I wouldn’t have it any other way …. she is the Love of my life.

Lady~

November 8th, 2011
11:04 am

good post Rickman

Robert

November 8th, 2011
11:05 am

I like to turn this thing around and be the “auditioner” for a woman looking for a husband. My resume is complete (job, home, car, etc.). I am an excellent cook (breakfest, lunch, dinner). I will cook for you every day and gladly do the dishes. My home is always clean and well kept. You can have the remote control for the TV while I massage your feet. I consider it an honor to run your bath water. I will take you to work and pick you up. It is my duty to make sure you get to work on-time and home safely. Is there anything else you need? Just ask….

SexyCool

November 8th, 2011
11:10 am

So, Robert, the way I read this – it is your desire to be a house husband?

kimmie

November 8th, 2011
11:13 am

Morning Gang!

SCool, you and I think so much alike! Because I was thinking the same thing. Even if you are out-on-the-town & carefree, you gotta come home some time and eat, wash, etc. All adults should be able to be self-sufficient, period. Now the level of the sufficiency will vary. Everyone is not going to be a gourmet cook, but you should be able to fix yourself basic meals or at least know how to work a microwave and a toaster!

Yes, life is indeed an audition. As a girlfriend, I had a BIG problem doing “wifely” things around the house. Big problem. There were just certain things a man was not going to get from me unless he put a ring on it. I love to cook, and I cook often for family and friends anyway, so he would get that benefit anyway. But laundry or yardwork or any housecleaning above surface cleaning behind myself – uhm no. He saw how I kept my own house, so he knew I had good hometraining. No need for me to “audition” at his house as well.

To marry, a couple should decide what skills they have that compliment each other. Decide strengths and weaknesses. Then go from there as far as “duties” are concerned. They may or may not be the “traditional” roles of husband and wife. The wife may be better at managing finances, the husband may be a better cook. But when one can’t perform their normal duties, the other should be able to step in. That’s what a partnership, marriage, should look like.

Lady~

November 8th, 2011
11:16 am

good post kimmie! i so agree!

Rickman

November 8th, 2011
11:19 am

@Lady~

Thank You Lady

kimmie

November 8th, 2011
11:21 am

Life Cereal – How do you know these men you see women ignoring are “worthwhile”? Do you live with them? You can’t judge a book by it’s cover. They may be a “cereal killer”!LOL!!!

Stupid joke, I know, but really, who are you to sit back and judge. Everyone has a right to want what they want. So what if one is obese? So what if you are over 30 and single? Maybe they are single by choice. Do you and don’t worry about other people.

kimmie

November 8th, 2011
11:22 am

Rickman – That is a nice post. You and your love are doing what works for you and you are happy. That’s all that matters.

Celisea

November 8th, 2011
11:22 am

LOLOLOLOL…… ceral killer funny

Celisea

November 8th, 2011
11:23 am

cereal killer is what I should have said

Robert

November 8th, 2011
11:26 am

@SexyCool – Yes, I would love to be “house husband”, best friend, lover, or whatever will bring the passion I desire in my relationship. I am auditioning. Anybody want a “house husband”?

Leggs

November 8th, 2011
11:27 am

Nice post kimmie/Rickman.

@SexyC ~ I was wondering if you saw on GMA this morning the blonde who’s speaking out against Cain and what she said when she saw him again after he “sexually harrassed” him and why she’s doing this after all those years?

Celisea

November 8th, 2011
11:29 am

Look at Robert showing out :)

For me, your list is is fantab but are those the things what you think a woman wants to hear? Can you start that routine and keep it going? Do you have staying power. I ain’t knocking your resume but that sounds all too perfect. Too, I don’t want you there when I’m gone. If I’m working you should be too. Making sure all is well and sufficient transportation, okay but if you talking about kissing me off and a greeted kiss (where you never left the house), um that’s a problem.

See that’s the thing with “auditioning”….both man and woman need to be who they are…period. If that makes you a winner, so be it. If “performing” weren’t such a stressed point, we might not see so many headed for divorce. All this dang auditioning and you end up “hiring” a stage character that you eventually can’t stand or want to live and deal with.

Celisea

November 8th, 2011
11:30 am

And the funkmiester is back…Jesus

Okay won’t say anymore on this….sorry folks

Mike P

November 8th, 2011
11:31 am

@Rickman: on your 11:00 am post: that’s what I’m talking about, that right there is where its at.

@Randyt: understood buddy!

Leggs

November 8th, 2011
11:31 am

A lot of “house husbands” need a gym membership.

disco

November 8th, 2011
11:33 am

speaking of house husbands. I worked with a silly little girl once who had a house husband. apparently her husband had an affair with a co-worker and she figured the best way to handle that situation was for him to stay home. all I could do was shake my head while thinking “what do you think your husband is doing all day while you are at work”. but again, to each his own. I’m like celisea – when I go to work, you go to work.

SexyCool

November 8th, 2011
11:34 am

Yeah…I had half an ear on that.

I don’t doubt that there was quite possibly some inappropriate action on his behalf. However, I am certain that, to a degree, her own actions could have led to whatever happened between them in the back of that car. Does that absolve him of any responsibility for his actions? Certainly not.

But having moved in the social circle of politics, there is a LOT that goes on when you have adults in situations where both of them are seeking to take advantage of whatever “opportunities” present themselves.

SexyCool

November 8th, 2011
11:36 am

Additionally, if there was ONE attempt that was rebuffed and the rebuff accepted, I don’t call that harassment.

Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

November 8th, 2011
11:38 am

Hey Leggs…beautiful weather this weekend. Since i worked my azzz off at two houses this weekend, I have to live my life vicariously through you and others, so…my guess is the boytoy called to say hi. What’s the scoop?

Exiled!

November 8th, 2011
11:39 am

They are tumbling down the rafters,(hos) like roaches.

Herman’s crotch is (was) hyperactive back then.

Aren’t most bros like Herman,sometimes.

I can’t run for Public Office myself

so u know!

(my closet is stacked full, of panties) :lol:

Celisea

November 8th, 2011
11:41 am

I guess what I don’t get about Herman Cain is did he honestly think this mess wouldn’t surface? I mean they allowed you to get midstroke of campagning and bam, garbage gets tossed. Did he not know this is how politics work? Did he think he could shrug stuff off like nothing?

Exiled!

November 8th, 2011
11:42 am

Reaching out to ur nikkers,between ur thighs, is harassment Sexxy!

as long as she didn’t give him consent to proceed

I believe her

I mean its four women

Really

SexyCool

November 8th, 2011
11:50 am

Meelow – you are certainly entitled to see harassment as you fit.

Although it would seem by your own post at 1139a and the closet full of panties that you claim to have, you have admitted, by your definition of harassment, to harassing several individuals.

Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

November 8th, 2011
11:50 am

The idea of being a house husband is intriguing except for one major problem…daytime television. it would turn one’s mind to total mush in a few weeks. If I had to watch Kelly and Regis, The View, or God help us all, Maury, Montel, and Jerry or if I had to sit like in A Clockwork Orange, with my eyelids forced open and watch that stuff for hours, I’d chew through the locks on the door and run naked down the Interstate. Even the daytime news stations are crap. I would put a gun to my head. In a month, I would be having shouder spasms, involuntary twitching, and decorate my walls with the National Enquirer.

Daytime TV succcckkkkksssssss.

SexyCool

November 8th, 2011
11:52 am

Randy – just because you own a television doesn’t mean that you are forced to watch any of its programming at any given time. (lol)

Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

November 8th, 2011
11:54 am

I know SC, but I tend to keep it on to break the silence. Plus I have this stupid idea that it has to be getting better…not.

Exiled!

November 8th, 2011
11:55 am

No I wasn’t admitting harassment

But relations

Why don’t u think,from the woman’s description(account) of events,it’s not harassment ??

I thought u wld be kinder and sensitive to another woman’s viewpoint,never mind get race.

Exiled!

November 8th, 2011
11:56 am

Never mind her race,rather!

disco

November 8th, 2011
11:59 am

randy – if daytime tv is your only concern think of all of your other options. you don’t have to watch those channels. what are you into? there’s sports channels and western channels and when all else fails there’s dvd. or you can arrange to hang out with all the other house husbands in the neighborhood. hmmm. let’s see. what would groups of men do with themselves with all that free time?

Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

November 8th, 2011
11:59 am

I’ve watched “harassment” from the sidelines plenty over the years. What intrigues me is that I have seen some women sue for harassment when the ugly guy gets suggestive, but fawn and glow when the office stud says things a hundred times worse. I guess that is why it is defined as “unwanted” comments…right for the ones they like, but illegal from the ones they don’t like. Seems to arbitrary to me.

Lady~

November 8th, 2011
12:04 pm

I don’t want a house husband and quiet frankly I don’t have to be a stay @ home wife I don’t think hell it would take me a moment to process been working since 15……..lol but anyway i see both incomes contributing to the lifestyle

Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

November 8th, 2011
12:06 pm

I know disco…just amazes me that there is a huge audience for that crap. A truly scary sociological phenomenon.

Speaking of that, my daughter had on the new season and pre-show for the Real Housewives of Atlanta. If those and frankly most reality shows demonstrated and represented marriage or relationships in the USA then they do make me want to just find an FWB and not even try to look at marriage. The thought of being married to any of the “Real Housewives of (fill in the blank) would make abstainance look really good.

Celisea

November 8th, 2011
12:06 pm

I don’t think either that folks look better for drudging up the past or things that have been laid to rest or putting stuff out to make folks look bad. Where were all these so called victims before now.

I just think Cain should have thought about all of this coming out and had a strategy and been prepared. Singing hymns ain’t exactly what folks want to hear.

Lady~

November 8th, 2011
12:07 pm

lol randy I agree smh lol

disco

November 8th, 2011
12:15 pm

I can only say to each his own re folks’ tv watching habits. I’m always the odd man out when the conversation switches to tv shows. I think the only current shows that I can say I watch with any regularity are life after and will to live on tv one. Other than that I don’t keep up with any shows – especially reality type shows. Never seen any of the housewives, never watched american idol or so you think you can dance or survivor. None of it. I’m a total square when it comes to tv. Those type shows just don’t appeal to me. Still, the networks are giving the people what they want. My co-workers are all over this stuff and I’ve even been at church functions where folks are discussing these shows.

Robert

November 8th, 2011
12:25 pm

@Celisea – I work from home (M-W) and commute to my office on (Th-F). My schedule is flexible. To answer your questions –
1. are those the things what you think a woman wants to hear?
I think a woman wants a man to be honest and let her decide what she wants.

2. Can you start that routine and keep it going?
It all starts with passion and desire. If you really want to please your woman.

3. Do you have staying power?
I am a one woman man full of passion and desire. If we both share the same passion and desire the sky is the limit.

I am still auditioning. What can I do to help you?…….

disco

November 8th, 2011
12:25 pm

I just looked in my waste can and saw a humongous pile of candy wrappers. no one ate that candy but me. it’s awful. I understand now why some drinkers like to leave their empties on the table. it’s eye opening.

SexyCool

November 8th, 2011
12:25 pm

Meelow – race has nothing whatsoever to do with my viewpoints regarding this woman or the accused (of which I am NOT a supporter.)

Lady~

November 8th, 2011
12:25 pm

Celisea

November 8th, 2011
12:30 pm

Robert

LOLOL…boy you better stop :) I can’t knock it…I’m impressed

Celisea

November 8th, 2011
12:31 pm

I am still auditioning.

And you’re funny too….

SexyCool

November 8th, 2011
12:32 pm

As to being kinder and sensitive based on my gender, um…yeah…no…my bllsht detector works regardless of race, creed, color or gender.

Additionally, as one who has been approached, propositioned, received several passes over my entire career, my position still remains that after ONE advance is rejected and none occur after that rejection, it is not harassment – especially not by the legal definition – “the act of systematic and/or continued unwanted and annoying actions of one party or a group, including threats and demands.”

Robert

November 8th, 2011
12:32 pm

@Lady – Do I know you? You seem very familiar to me.

Lady~

November 8th, 2011
12:35 pm

What seems familiar sir?!?

Robert

November 8th, 2011
12:36 pm

@Celisea – If you would like a sneak preview of my audition I will be at the Atlantic Station (Sports Bar) this evening having a cocktail or two. Please join me. You might be happily surprised. “House Husband”.

kimmie

November 8th, 2011
12:37 pm

Celisea/others – A lot of folks think that past behavior is indicative of future behavior/lifestyle/morals etc. Nothing is ever really “put to rest” especially with the advent of the internet. Many may say it’s not fair, but that’s life. I’m sure once a person has committed a crime and done their time and paid their debt to society they would like to be able to apply for a job and not be still judged on their past behavior. Life just doesn’t work that way.

Robert

November 8th, 2011
12:39 pm

@Lady – Your writing style reminds me of someone else. She used the same character you use on her name. No disrespect intended. Just curious.

Celisea

November 8th, 2011
12:40 pm

Kimmie – I agree…we ain’t a forgiving country/people. I just don’t get what he don’t get. I agree though with SexyC about the women. Heck all of us have someone to toss some unwanted advance. 99.999999 percent of the time, if it’s nothing you’re interested in or “no bite”, you make it known and that’s it.

Robert – While you’re offer is sweet Atlanta Station is not an area I frequent. How old are you…if I may ask? I like your gentlemaness (is that a word) though :)

Lady~

November 8th, 2011
12:41 pm

oh cool NP! got you.

disco

November 8th, 2011
12:44 pm

co sign kimmie re stuff never being put to rest. I can’t count the laughs we have when we get together and start bringing up old stuff. some stuff I’m sure some of us would love to say a prayer over and shovel some dirt on top of. many years ago I made the mistake of wearing lingerie in a deep purple color and the guy called me barney. I was all off 100 pounds so it wasn’t a weight thing. I’ve got a girlfriend who to this day will crack jokes on him calling me barney. to counter it I have to reminder of the time she was doing the do and got flipped over the back of the couch. and my groups of cousins take things back even further that. we’ll remind somebody of who used to wet the bed.

kimmie

November 8th, 2011
12:53 pm

Celisea – For the most part I agree that if one advance is made and rebuffed and dude moves on, no harm. But it can also depend on “how” the advance was made.

For example, I was harrassed in an interview a few years out of college. I’ve always been a tough cookie, but I was in tears after that interview. Not only was his “advance” disgusting, he threatened to blacklist me. He didn’t get the opportunity to “advance” again because I told him he could keep the job. I also let the family friend that set up the interview with him know what he did and documented what happened.

Lady~

November 8th, 2011
1:12 pm

my sister is giving birth currently!!!! what a blessing a nephew is upon me!!!

cba

November 8th, 2011
1:18 pm

This fourth victim of Cain really has me puzzled or the media is not presenting all the facts. She asked Cain for help in finding a job . So did he pay for her flight like he upgraded her room to a suite? I would think if a company fly you in and put you in a suite, you are a finalist or you have the job. Somehow, I don’t think she was applying for CFO. My gut tells me, the two of them have a prior connection. Its hard for me to believe a 50+ yr old former CEO would just stick his hands up a lady dress without having prior sexual relations with her.

Robert

November 8th, 2011
1:18 pm

@Celisea – I will be 35 on 11/13. Atlantic Station is not in your area, please let me know your preference.

Lady~

November 8th, 2011
1:19 pm

i agree cba and frankly she is a non factor simply bc I feel there is more to it….I just wish he would fall back really…….public office may not be it…..

Lady~

November 8th, 2011
1:20 pm

but hell politics is dirty why cry @ the end though smh……charge it to the gmae you played

Rickman

November 8th, 2011
1:22 pm

@Mike P

Thanks Mike … It dosent get any better than that…Trust Me

kimmie

November 8th, 2011
1:23 pm

Lady – Congrats on the nephew!!

Lady~

November 8th, 2011
1:30 pm

Thanks Kimmie!!!

cba

November 8th, 2011
1:36 pm

Herman dranked the kool-aide, he allowed people like Boortz and the TP to convince him that he could pull this off. He knew all alone once his candidacy began to make some progress, they were going to stick a scope up his A !!

I had a skeleton in my closet from back in high school. My wife also attended the same school but she wasn’t aware of it. Once we got married, I told her about it and about two or three years later, a guy she worked with told her about it. She said Oh, cba told me that years ago….BAM !!!!

Lady~

November 8th, 2011
1:38 pm

see! like I stated his delivery sucks!

Willie Dynamite

November 8th, 2011
2:12 pm

Afternoon All-
On Topic – We all audition whether we call it that or nat. We all put folks through auditions whether we call it that or not. IMO, that’s what dating and relatonships before marriage is just a big audition.

Side Topic – Cain is realizing now why businessmen may be good on paper but it takes a politician to run and win a major campaign. Politics is a dirty cutthroat game. He didn’t see the dagger coming from the right. He only defended the left.

Celisea

November 8th, 2011
2:21 pm

Robert Robert Robert…I thought you was going to say 25. Actually I’m downtown, Atlantic Station is just a stone’s throw away…lol. I dunno, I might be guilty of wrongfully pegging folks that hang out there. Just not my spot.

Willie Dynamite

November 8th, 2011
2:22 pm

Cain – Also, any minute now we will see his Wife finally make some appearances by his side on the campaign trail.

Exiled!

November 8th, 2011
2:31 pm

Yea,he just wanted some white tail..

but groping without romancing first and getting permission ain’t it!

It’s kinda lame….the bane of most folks with money but no game.

Lord Velonese

November 8th, 2011
2:31 pm

“Just because a single woman is out on the town, traveling around, and enjoying her carefree life, doesn’t mean she can’t make room for him.”

I run into this being a single man, I am making up for lost time, and my peers at church (especially) think I am being selfish for wanting to look out for number one right now and spoil myself some. Do to my job allowing me to travel freely, I have finally got back into just going places for a weekend (like out of state). I’ll let them know when I am taking Applications again :P auditioning for wives and husbands, thats funny, but true I guess.

Exiled!

November 8th, 2011
2:33 pm

Sweet talk and romance and spoil

Smashing will follow,without resorting to tackling

It Reeks of Kobe Bryantish moves like….

disco

November 8th, 2011
2:33 pm

hmm. which is worse? money with no game or game with no money?

Leggs

November 8th, 2011
2:34 pm

@SexyC ~ back to HCain. I asked because I found it quite strange that she said when she saw him again wherever, she shook his hand and exchanged pleasantries. If I amdisgusted over what I deem to be sexual harrassment, I won’t be shaking your hand.

Back to regularly scheduled topic! I am up for air, let me see what you guys are now talking about.

Exiled!

November 8th, 2011
2:38 pm

Disco?

No money but got game?
No Problem

the women of Atlanta will sponsor! :lol:

Lady~

November 8th, 2011
2:40 pm

exiled i spited my soda out you a fool!!!! smh lol LOL

disco

November 8th, 2011
2:41 pm

I’d say I’m glad I’m not a woman in the A except that I know the sad truth is that women all over the place are sponsoring fellas. one lady told me that she didn’t mind supporting her guy friend because buying him things and giving him money made him happy and making him happy made her happy. the chick was missing meals and barely making rent but she and he were happy. again I say – to each his own.

Leggs

November 8th, 2011
2:44 pm

@Randyt ~ if you live your life through me, you’ll be sitting on the couch right with me. Haven’t heard from boytoy in about 2 weeks? He may be getting tired.

@Celisea ~ just had a convo with a gf last night. Neither one of us understands the hype surrounding Atlantic Station.. Not my cup of tea.

Last week, Tom Joyner, was wanting the women to come foward so he could see HCain’s taste in women. Are all 5 women white?

Anyone know the last time Allgood took on a case pro bono??? Yeah right!

Leggs

November 8th, 2011
2:48 pm

What I don’t get is 2 of the stories seem to be the same. He puts his hands on their thigh, under their skirt then takes their head and pushes it down to his crotch. Naw sister, something is missin. No one goes straight for jugular like that all sloppy like. Rather, I hope not.

SexyCool

November 8th, 2011
2:50 pm

Leggs – her entire story/motive gets major side-eye from me. Plus when you look at information that has come out about her legal/financial issues – two bankruptcy filings, decreased child support, IRS lien, court judgement for loan – yeah, it’s pretty easy to conclude that she has motives other than just wanting an admission.

And then for her to say, “I really don’t want to be here today.” No on put a gun to her head to call Gloria Allred or to schedule press conferences and appearances. I mean really, it’s common knowledge that the morning news shows pay people to give interviews.

Combine that with the report that it is said that her 13-year old son said she “needs to tell on him.” Who tells their 13year old son that someone tried to put his hand up your dress 15 years ago?!?

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

November 8th, 2011
2:50 pm

Hey disco,
A few friends and I were at a sports bar Sunday watching the Falcons game. One met a lady and she didn’t know any of us proceeded to buy all of us pitchers of beer. I don’t do beer that much so she bought me and my a friend she liked shots. Later on in the evening she asked him if she could them a room. All we could do was laugh at him because he’s married and couldn’t go.

Hey Y’all:

Exiled!

November 8th, 2011
2:50 pm

Leggs,

I suspect some here(blogettes) I disgusted,reviled,floored,debaucherised,u name it here(????) More by Herman’s taste in Those women than the actual charges they allege.

watch this space :lol:

Leggs

November 8th, 2011
2:52 pm

I see my “g” is missing…

Exiled!

November 8th, 2011
2:54 pm

So its better(credible) if Herman groped an Uppity lady?

Leggs

November 8th, 2011
2:54 pm

@SexyC ~ I’m siding with you, except she said she has not received payment for any interview thus far. WTF’ever. Allgood taking a case like this pro bono is suspect in and of itself.

@EX ~ NO DOUBT! Be careful, a class-action suit may be filed against you (lol).

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

November 8th, 2011
2:54 pm

Not your G spot?

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

November 8th, 2011
2:58 pm

All is good.

Leggs

November 8th, 2011
2:59 pm

And, George Stephanoplous (sp?) made it a point to ask Allgood if she was a Republican probably to show she’s not bias…again whatever! They’re all sneaky to me.

Willie Dynamite

November 8th, 2011
3:01 pm

Really I want to know what Woman has had a Man grab the back of their head and physically push it down to the crotch area and not fight back? Lets see- flight, interview, dinner and then front seat of car in the hotel parking spot asking to come up for a night cap. Left hand on upper thigh tickling the pantyline. Right hand cupped on back of head. Alrighty then. Whether she’s telling the truth or not she was auditioning for something.

Leggs

November 8th, 2011
3:01 pm

@BF ~ :lol: you surprised me because I just knew Ex would make a comment along those lines! You little tall devil lurking in the corner like that! :lol:

The joke just fell that way!!!! I see you’re quick this afternoon.

Leggs

November 8th, 2011
3:03 pm

Exactly, WillieD. All cards aren’t on the table and those that are, are marked!!!

Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

November 8th, 2011
3:05 pm

@leggs…saying “not receiving compensation for interviews” does not tell the whole story. People are called and told, “we don’t pay for interviews, however we can provide lodging and meals and airfare and tickets for a week in New York City. also we can pay for pictures”. Just misleading. One can be amazed at how much benefit one can gain from “no compensation”.

Exiled!

November 8th, 2011
3:06 pm

Leggs..u think she registered Republican then came out with the charges?

that’s a stretch….it’s easily proven by the records if that’s true

I actually feel sorry for the wife…classy lady

She knows about the two lawsuits But

Not these other roaches coming down

We Republicans like to get down with chics..on the low low
Unlike Dems

I think he’s too much…no dilution in there

well well well

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

November 8th, 2011
3:07 pm

Leggs I ate my wheaties today.

We’ve been on that line where the married dude gets all the play, it is true and thriving. Guess I’ll have to stay under the bridge until the river runs through it.

Exiled!

November 8th, 2011
3:07 pm

We know Repubs

Not we

Willie Dynamite

November 8th, 2011
3:09 pm

I’ll probably get in trouble for this, If this doesn’t kill Cains campaign just wait until the Blondies that didn’t say NO to the hand on the back of the head come forward just cause.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

November 8th, 2011
3:09 pm

Or the river washes me out.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

November 8th, 2011
3:11 pm

What the hell in my case a Tsunami.

SexyCool

November 8th, 2011
3:13 pm

Let me try this AGAIN…I’m having issues with this site today….

I could give a fck less about HC’s taste/preference in women. In fact, YOU are the one that keeps attempting to insert race into this conversation and quite plainly stating your assertion about his desires.

Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

November 8th, 2011
3:13 pm

Leggs, this is too much not to jump in, sorry ;-) There is an experienced g-spot finder that lives at my address if you have lost your g. References can be provided, and results are guaranteed or your money is promptly and cheerfully returned. It is amazing how many ladies lose their g-spot and a quality g-spot finder is a worthy investment LOL. The “gentleman” has even contemplated putting a discounted add on Dealswarm since this service is so widely needed these days with so many missing “g”s.

disco

November 8th, 2011
3:13 pm

blackfoote – I’m not even hating that she saw something she wanted and went after it but I’m amazed that she didn’t just buy the target fellow a drink but bought drinks for all of y’all. that’s impressive. and not that she was willing to pay for the room too. shucks, I wish I would run into a brother fine enough that I wouldn’t mind paying for the hotel room. I’d make him earn it though. okay – I guess I’m being silly this afternoon.

disco

November 8th, 2011
3:14 pm

randy – you got jokes but I agree that such a skill is in great demand. heck, it might even be a community service. some women can’t get down right difficult during a drought.

Celisea

November 8th, 2011
3:14 pm

Really I want to know what Woman has had a Man grab the back of their head and physically push it down to the crotch area and not fight back?

Ding ding ding….all this dang “victim” mess is sickening. That chick let it go on. She went along with it.

Leggs – Yep, seems like the place for kiddies…lol Last time I was there meeting a friend I was like ut uh, not again. He was cool but it just seemed like nothing but the (early) twenty something crowd.

kimmie

November 8th, 2011
3:15 pm

I could not care less about HC & his women.

I haven’t been to Atlantic Station in a long time, but I loved Rosa Mexicano. They have some killer guacamole they make at the table and the first time I’ve ever had a frozen rita that basically got me drunk. I mean only one and the glass was kind of small. Twelve has some great pom martinis too. Got a nice piece of art at one of the Saturday artist markets.

Not a bad spot to me.

SexyCool

November 8th, 2011
3:18 pm

So…BF – is the only reason your friend didn’t go was because he HAD to go home because he’s married? Or…he had no interest in going because he’s married?

Your telling of the story makes it seem as if it is more of the former over the latter.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

November 8th, 2011
3:18 pm

LOL…..@RandyT and disco

That’s good RandyT G spot finder that’ll work for me……

disco what was more interesting is he told her he was married, she shrugged that off like so what else is new…….LOL

Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

November 8th, 2011
3:19 pm

@ disco…yup, it’s a tough and sometimes thankless job, but someone has to step up ;-)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

November 8th, 2011
3:23 pm

SexyC:

Right it was more he had to go home, why we all laughed so hard at him cause he wanted to do it. Not on my watch I know his wife so pulled him to the side and said you’re more drunk than serious dude sit down.

Leggs

November 8th, 2011
3:23 pm

Not her, Ex, her attorney is Republican.

@Randyt ~ I hope you realize I was talking about me typing “missin”….my “g” was missing…you guys are a riot!

kimmie

November 8th, 2011
3:25 pm

I saw the guy that hosts Chopped down at Atlantic Station once.

disco

November 8th, 2011
3:26 pm

well to heck with veteran’s day (no offense vets). let’s have a hats off to all the fellows that do the thankless job of making toes curl and eyes roll back. as randy said – it’s a tough job but somebody’s gotta do it. what shall we call the new holiday?

Exiled!

November 8th, 2011
3:26 pm

Randyt!

that was so nice of u to Leggs..3:13! :lol:

Yea..u Sexxy are hiding under a race blinker…(I googled ur MIA record)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

November 8th, 2011
3:28 pm

Hey I couldn’t do anything about them exchanging phone numbers, I won’t step in between that. That’s on him from that point.

Exiled!

November 8th, 2011
3:28 pm

Her attorney is Dems Leggs

She the heifer is Repubs

I listened to them live on Piers last nite

SexyCool

November 8th, 2011
3:30 pm

BF – You’re a good friend.

As to the Atl Stn of it all, I like it. We were just down there at the movies last night. I can’t really say that I go down there to hang out. We go to see movies and eat. And BGR runs from there at least every other week or so, and lately, every Tuesday. I will be down there tonight.

I also shop at the Publix and the Target because they are less than 10 minutes from my house. In fact, since I’m usually focused on where I’m going and what I’m doing, I give little thought to other folks outside of cursory glances and being aware of my surroundings type concerns.

Leggs

November 8th, 2011
3:31 pm

Oh, my bad, Ex. I thought I heard Allgood say she was a Repub. Thanks for the clarification.

Leggs

November 8th, 2011
3:36 pm

Then on to your other point, it should be easy to find out when she became a Repub. She wants him to do the right thing NOW…what happened with him doing the right thing 2 years ago, 4 years ago???

@Randyt ~ You’re absolutely correct. There are more ways to pay someone than with greenbacks. Don’t know why they get on tv saying “we did not pay for this interview.” Yep, I paid for my own plane ticket, my own room an board simply because I had to get this off my chest! Alrighty then….

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

November 8th, 2011
3:37 pm

disco theres V-day and theres G-day. Don’t mind getting my hands dirty, its a job well done when the body contorts and make unusual sounds/moans.

kimmie

November 8th, 2011
3:37 pm

SCool – My dad really loved music. After he had his stroke he could not get around as much as usual, but we would get him out of the house as much as we could. Atlantic Station used to have live jazz in the little park area in the summer and one of my brothers would take him down there. He would just close his eyes and listen to the music.

SexyCool

November 8th, 2011
3:38 pm

“Yea..u Sexxy are hiding under a race blinker…(I googled ur MIA record)”

Meelow – was that for me? If so, I don’t understand what it is that you are saying. I’m going to need you to be clearer in what you mean.

If not, disregard.

disco

November 8th, 2011
3:39 pm

g-day? I guess it’ll do. I was looking for something more creative but it’s probably just because I’m really bored and seeking stimulation. okay – sorry for the bad pun.

Exiled!

November 8th, 2011
3:41 pm

Ofcourse Gloria is got to get her cut after the book is sold

everybody is driven by self interest

For Gloria also…her love for the big O in the white house

She is a Pelosi closet in Cali

Heifer :arrow: Money

Gloria :arrow: Dems,a lil money ,Profile

Cain :down:

SexyCool

November 8th, 2011
3:43 pm

Oh…just realized something about Atl Stn – I usually only go during the week or during the daytime. I’m rarely ever there on the weekends, during hangout/cruise time.

Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

November 8th, 2011
3:44 pm

@Leggs, what can I say, I’m just a sensitive guy and I was concerned when you forgot your g. My eyes mist up at the thought of so many women who can’t find or have forgotten their “g”s, ( I also tear up at wrestling and roller derby too).

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

November 8th, 2011
3:46 pm

Thank you SexyC.

Although I have friends that will go that route sometimes I try to bump them over in the right lane not that I’m trying to be Saint Peter’s nephew. I have a large closet as well, if I’m not succesful I get the hell out of the way……LOL

SexyCool

November 8th, 2011
3:46 pm

Oh…and speaking of the movies…We saw Tower Heist. I considered it an “okay” movie.

Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

November 8th, 2011
3:47 pm

@ Leggs, I meant “missing your g”. A lot of people miss the g. I’ve heard from a number of women over the years whose SO has never found their “g”…and they wondered if it was missing. LOL

SexyCool

November 8th, 2011
3:50 pm

But BF – your friend – exchanging the numbers – not a good look. But you know that. (lol)

Exiled!

November 8th, 2011
3:51 pm

Disco..

what’s the fun there on the sticks

come this way A if u want (fanga) stimulation :lol:

(where the playas play)

Exiled!

November 8th, 2011
3:52 pm

in the sticks

Leggs

November 8th, 2011
3:52 pm

:lol: :lol: @Randyt! Mine isn’t missing. It’s hibernating waiting for right person to defrost it (ROFLMAO)…

Willie Dynamite

November 8th, 2011
3:52 pm

As one of the resident Married dudes I’d like to come to the defense of Blacks buddy but I can’t. Just sloppy.

Leggs

November 8th, 2011
3:53 pm

@WillieD ~ BF made a great “wingman” that night! Kudos, BF!!!

Exiled!

November 8th, 2011
3:53 pm

Randyt?

what type torch/lamb do u use to look up there for the g?

kimmie

November 8th, 2011
3:53 pm

SCool – I’ve never liked going shopping the day after Thanksgiving. A good friend was in town a few years back and wanted to go shopping and see the Christmas lights at Atl Station. That’s when I discovered a little secret – the crowds and parking issues the malls have on that day were not a problem at Atl Station. There was plenty of parking and the crowds were not overbearing. We also found some excellent sales and a great festive atmosphere.

Celisea

November 8th, 2011
3:53 pm

Since I’m near Atlantic Station if I need to do a Target run (say leaving early) or something for work…that’s the best most convenient spot. I think the difference is weekday early day versus weekend night time. I was being entertained on the weekend around 10ish…NOTHING BUT YOUNGINS…LOL

SexyCool

November 8th, 2011
3:53 pm

Dynamite – I’m a fan for life! (lol)

Exiled!

November 8th, 2011
3:55 pm

BF

u wrong for even saying that on here

Revoke man card!

Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

November 8th, 2011
3:55 pm

But you said you were missing your g? specifically that your ‘G” was “missin” (or was it “missin” was “missin” the “g”?) Nahhhh, I like mine better.

Celisea

November 8th, 2011
3:55 pm

Let me go back and read what Blackfoote did that’s so commendable :)

disco

November 8th, 2011
3:55 pm

exiled – at one point in time I was in Atlanta almost every weekend and then I guess I got tired of it or something. I haven’t been down that way in more than a year now.

leggs – not that yours is hibernating and awaiting a defrost. whatever g-finder the team sends out is going to have to work extra hard. wonder if he’ll get time and a half.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

November 8th, 2011
3:55 pm

Tally Ho Folks have a great evening.

Leggs if you can’t find that G spot, I got ya.

Willie Dynamite

November 8th, 2011
3:56 pm

Leggs – almost but Married dudes don’t need a Wingman. Plus if the sponsor chick had a friend then Black mightv’e been in business.

Celisea

November 8th, 2011
3:56 pm

I do really like the Target though at Atlanta Station

Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

November 8th, 2011
3:57 pm

@ disco…90 days same as cash ;-)

Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

November 8th, 2011
3:58 pm

G finer has been known to do some “pro bono” work in cases of dire need.

Leggs

November 8th, 2011
3:59 pm

OMG, I am cracking up. Yes, darling, the word “missin” was missing the “g.”

My eyes mist up at the thought of so many women who can’t find or have forgotten their “g”s,

@BF ~ hush! If that’s how you “got me,” stay under those stairs my dear man (lolol)…

Leggs

November 8th, 2011
4:00 pm

Oops, I see BF dishes something then skips…(LOL).

Leggs

November 8th, 2011
4:01 pm

@WillieD ~ not saying he started out as a wingman. He turned into before his friend made an a$$ of himself and emotional anquish on himself and his wife…that’s one of the duties of a wingman. Doesn’t only entail looking for tail. Keeping tail off our tail is in fine print….

disco

November 8th, 2011
4:02 pm

that makes two of us cracking up. keep the jokes coming. and not financing with easy credit terms. that’s too much. I’d hate to mess up my credit trying to find g’s. maybe a layaway plan?

Willie Dynamite

November 8th, 2011
4:02 pm

SC – shhhh, You gotta read the fine print. i’m still a work in progress.

Willie Dynamite

November 8th, 2011
4:04 pm

Leggs – True

Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

November 8th, 2011
4:12 pm

Well, it is a shame that I chose the profession I am in, instead of what I have discovered I am good at. I think I would feel much more rewarded and in demand as a g finder. Confuscius say “man who does what he really loves will never work a day in his life” Had I only known. Oh well. Nite y’all.

Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB

November 8th, 2011
4:26 pm

What up folks, I would answer the topic, put I know yall are well past that, whats good

SexyCool

November 8th, 2011
4:34 pm

Hey Jake…winding down for the day.

I’ve said I was going to run this evening…but I just experienced an energy lull that will *need* to pick back up so that I can make it.

Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB

November 8th, 2011
4:36 pm

Hey Scool, it looks like its about dead around here, I’m doing the same, bout to break camp…I will get at yall 2morrow.

Leggs

November 8th, 2011
4:39 pm

@SexyC ~ forgot to tell you that the last running gig you volunteered for, I saw some members of BGR on the news running in the race (about 2 weeks ago)…

SexyCool

November 8th, 2011
4:42 pm

Oh…yeah…the Atlanta Marathon and Marathon Relay – It was cold as all get out on that bridge that morning while I was volunteering. I should have gotten the handwarmers as suggested. Eek…

But we had a GREAT time! It ended up being a pretty emotional day for all of us.

I’m signed up to run in it next year.

Leggs

November 8th, 2011
4:43 pm

Excellent, SexyC!

SexyCool

November 8th, 2011
4:45 pm

http://www.ajc.com/news/north-fulton/family-stole-from-15-1219674.html

“security spotted five people – including two juvenile girls – trying to steal more than $1,700 in CDs, DVDs, clothing, handbags and a bottle of Dove soap”

I bet it was the soap that did them in. (lol)

Leggs

November 8th, 2011
4:47 pm

And the mother should be ashamed of herself involving her 16 year old daughter.

Leggs

November 8th, 2011
4:48 pm

Tighten up everybody, crime is going to be off the chain this holiday season…

SexyCool

November 8th, 2011
4:49 pm

She should. But those kinda folks don’t care about things like that. And you kow what I always say – This is probably not the first time they have done this. It just happens to be the time they got caught.

Leggs

November 8th, 2011
4:56 pm

I thought they’ve done this 15 other times?

Can I Get an "Amen"

November 9th, 2011
12:49 pm

I think part of the bigger issue opened up by WD is what role(s) do we expect our significant other to play. And, probably more importantly, does our significant other expect to play the role we want? The more I think about it, the more I agree with WD – we do audition for each other, although “audition” implies “acting” and that may throw some folks off. But lets just say we “evaluate” each other for to see if there is “role compatibility.” If there ain’t, then that particular relationship will be relegated to something less than “meaningful.”

CKM

November 9th, 2011
12:51 pm

I dated a man for 5+ years. I did alot of things at his place as far as cooking meals, some cleaning, etc. When I FINALLY broke it off (for various reasons), one of his “reasons” for wanting me back was, “he needed someone to help him around his house with cooking and cleaning.” My reply, “WTF! You need to hire a maid!” Never looked back. BTW, I enjoy cooking for others, because I like to cook. If it’s expected…like it’s my duty….forget it.

Can I Get an "Amen"

November 9th, 2011
1:12 pm

CKM -

Sounds like maybe your significant other wasn’t playing the role(s)/giving you what you needed and you made a decision to push the relationship to the back burner. Done. Been there.

Over time I’ve changed how I view relationships and am much more experienced at quickly determining whether someone can be role compatible or not. It just helps me categorize the relationship fairly quick. Not to cast aspersions on people – we’re all different. It just helps me keep my expectations where they should be and I don’t commit much emotional or other personal capital to the relationship.

We seem to live in a “meat market” kind of world where finding someone who comes close to meeting your expectations is hard enough. If you do find someone close to compatible, and the compromises are too significant, I think you hang on and enjoy the ride. If you’re lucky it may last a lifetime.

XAB

November 9th, 2011
4:38 pm

There is a big difference between a girl a guy wants to date, one he will not date and one he wants to marry and settle down with. Women also seperate guys into the same three groups.

Guys want a slut in the bedroom, a mother for homemaking dutues, and a mom to raise the kids. A good paycheck would not hurt either.

Married longer than dirt

November 9th, 2011
11:47 pm

If you want childeren your women need to interview for a wife. If not just make the best of a good time.

Jez Curious

November 10th, 2011
4:33 am

Are there no men thinking outside the box and figure maids can solve this housekeeping situation?

Keith

November 10th, 2011
5:38 am

I think you have too much time on your hands ……