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Do women audition to be a wife?

A lot of my male friends want to “see” that a woman can come home, cook, and be all domesticated. To them, this is the sign of a mature woman ready to be a wife (I’m not kidding, I have heard this repeatedly.)

I always ask my guy friends to cut their dates some slack when it comes to this. Just because a single woman is out on the town, traveling around, and enjoying her carefree life, doesn’t mean she can’t make room for him.

I hear a lot of men say that girlfriends audition to become wives. Is that really necessary, though? I’d argue that it is not important to show and prove domestic abilities, but perhaps I’m missing something.

If women audition to be a wife, are men put through the same scrutiny to be a husband?

Do men expect wifely duties from girlfriends and significant others?

Do women look to their boyfriends to do husband things?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

220 comments Add your comment

Willie Dynamite

November 8th, 2011
4:04 pm

Leggs – True

Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

November 8th, 2011
4:12 pm

Well, it is a shame that I chose the profession I am in, instead of what I have discovered I am good at. I think I would feel much more rewarded and in demand as a g finder. Confuscius say “man who does what he really loves will never work a day in his life” Had I only known. Oh well. Nite y’all.

Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB

November 8th, 2011
4:26 pm

What up folks, I would answer the topic, put I know yall are well past that, whats good

SexyCool

November 8th, 2011
4:34 pm

Hey Jake…winding down for the day.

I’ve said I was going to run this evening…but I just experienced an energy lull that will *need* to pick back up so that I can make it.

Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB

November 8th, 2011
4:36 pm

Hey Scool, it looks like its about dead around here, I’m doing the same, bout to break camp…I will get at yall 2morrow.

Leggs

November 8th, 2011
4:39 pm

@SexyC ~ forgot to tell you that the last running gig you volunteered for, I saw some members of BGR on the news running in the race (about 2 weeks ago)…

SexyCool

November 8th, 2011
4:42 pm

Oh…yeah…the Atlanta Marathon and Marathon Relay – It was cold as all get out on that bridge that morning while I was volunteering. I should have gotten the handwarmers as suggested. Eek…

But we had a GREAT time! It ended up being a pretty emotional day for all of us.

I’m signed up to run in it next year.

Leggs

November 8th, 2011
4:43 pm

Excellent, SexyC!

SexyCool

November 8th, 2011
4:45 pm

http://www.ajc.com/news/north-fulton/family-stole-from-15-1219674.html

“security spotted five people – including two juvenile girls – trying to steal more than $1,700 in CDs, DVDs, clothing, handbags and a bottle of Dove soap”

I bet it was the soap that did them in. (lol)

Leggs

November 8th, 2011
4:47 pm

And the mother should be ashamed of herself involving her 16 year old daughter.

Leggs

November 8th, 2011
4:48 pm

Tighten up everybody, crime is going to be off the chain this holiday season…

SexyCool

November 8th, 2011
4:49 pm

She should. But those kinda folks don’t care about things like that. And you kow what I always say – This is probably not the first time they have done this. It just happens to be the time they got caught.

Leggs

November 8th, 2011
4:56 pm

I thought they’ve done this 15 other times?

Can I Get an "Amen"

November 9th, 2011
12:49 pm

I think part of the bigger issue opened up by WD is what role(s) do we expect our significant other to play. And, probably more importantly, does our significant other expect to play the role we want? The more I think about it, the more I agree with WD – we do audition for each other, although “audition” implies “acting” and that may throw some folks off. But lets just say we “evaluate” each other for to see if there is “role compatibility.” If there ain’t, then that particular relationship will be relegated to something less than “meaningful.”

CKM

November 9th, 2011
12:51 pm

I dated a man for 5+ years. I did alot of things at his place as far as cooking meals, some cleaning, etc. When I FINALLY broke it off (for various reasons), one of his “reasons” for wanting me back was, “he needed someone to help him around his house with cooking and cleaning.” My reply, “WTF! You need to hire a maid!” Never looked back. BTW, I enjoy cooking for others, because I like to cook. If it’s expected…like it’s my duty….forget it.

Can I Get an "Amen"

November 9th, 2011
1:12 pm

CKM -

Sounds like maybe your significant other wasn’t playing the role(s)/giving you what you needed and you made a decision to push the relationship to the back burner. Done. Been there.

Over time I’ve changed how I view relationships and am much more experienced at quickly determining whether someone can be role compatible or not. It just helps me categorize the relationship fairly quick. Not to cast aspersions on people – we’re all different. It just helps me keep my expectations where they should be and I don’t commit much emotional or other personal capital to the relationship.

We seem to live in a “meat market” kind of world where finding someone who comes close to meeting your expectations is hard enough. If you do find someone close to compatible, and the compromises are too significant, I think you hang on and enjoy the ride. If you’re lucky it may last a lifetime.

XAB

November 9th, 2011
4:38 pm

There is a big difference between a girl a guy wants to date, one he will not date and one he wants to marry and settle down with. Women also seperate guys into the same three groups.

Guys want a slut in the bedroom, a mother for homemaking dutues, and a mom to raise the kids. A good paycheck would not hurt either.

Married longer than dirt

November 9th, 2011
11:47 pm

If you want childeren your women need to interview for a wife. If not just make the best of a good time.

Jez Curious

November 10th, 2011
4:33 am

Are there no men thinking outside the box and figure maids can solve this housekeeping situation?

Keith

November 10th, 2011
5:38 am

I think you have too much time on your hands ……