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Do women audition to be a wife?

A lot of my male friends want to “see” that a woman can come home, cook, and be all domesticated. To them, this is the sign of a mature woman ready to be a wife (I’m not kidding, I have heard this repeatedly.)

I always ask my guy friends to cut their dates some slack when it comes to this. Just because a single woman is out on the town, traveling around, and enjoying her carefree life, doesn’t mean she can’t make room for him.

I hear a lot of men say that girlfriends audition to become wives. Is that really necessary, though? I’d argue that it is not important to show and prove domestic abilities, but perhaps I’m missing something.

If women audition to be a wife, are men put through the same scrutiny to be a husband?

Do men expect wifely duties from girlfriends and significant others?

Do women look to their boyfriends to do husband things?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

220 comments Add your comment

Robert

November 8th, 2011
12:39 pm

@Lady – Your writing style reminds me of someone else. She used the same character you use on her name. No disrespect intended. Just curious.

Celisea

November 8th, 2011
12:40 pm

Kimmie – I agree…we ain’t a forgiving country/people. I just don’t get what he don’t get. I agree though with SexyC about the women. Heck all of us have someone to toss some unwanted advance. 99.999999 percent of the time, if it’s nothing you’re interested in or “no bite”, you make it known and that’s it.

Robert – While you’re offer is sweet Atlanta Station is not an area I frequent. How old are you…if I may ask? I like your gentlemaness (is that a word) though :)

Lady~

November 8th, 2011
12:41 pm

oh cool NP! got you.

disco

November 8th, 2011
12:44 pm

co sign kimmie re stuff never being put to rest. I can’t count the laughs we have when we get together and start bringing up old stuff. some stuff I’m sure some of us would love to say a prayer over and shovel some dirt on top of. many years ago I made the mistake of wearing lingerie in a deep purple color and the guy called me barney. I was all off 100 pounds so it wasn’t a weight thing. I’ve got a girlfriend who to this day will crack jokes on him calling me barney. to counter it I have to reminder of the time she was doing the do and got flipped over the back of the couch. and my groups of cousins take things back even further that. we’ll remind somebody of who used to wet the bed.

kimmie

November 8th, 2011
12:53 pm

Celisea – For the most part I agree that if one advance is made and rebuffed and dude moves on, no harm. But it can also depend on “how” the advance was made.

For example, I was harrassed in an interview a few years out of college. I’ve always been a tough cookie, but I was in tears after that interview. Not only was his “advance” disgusting, he threatened to blacklist me. He didn’t get the opportunity to “advance” again because I told him he could keep the job. I also let the family friend that set up the interview with him know what he did and documented what happened.

Lady~

November 8th, 2011
1:12 pm

my sister is giving birth currently!!!! what a blessing a nephew is upon me!!!

cba

November 8th, 2011
1:18 pm

This fourth victim of Cain really has me puzzled or the media is not presenting all the facts. She asked Cain for help in finding a job . So did he pay for her flight like he upgraded her room to a suite? I would think if a company fly you in and put you in a suite, you are a finalist or you have the job. Somehow, I don’t think she was applying for CFO. My gut tells me, the two of them have a prior connection. Its hard for me to believe a 50+ yr old former CEO would just stick his hands up a lady dress without having prior sexual relations with her.

Robert

November 8th, 2011
1:18 pm

@Celisea – I will be 35 on 11/13. Atlantic Station is not in your area, please let me know your preference.

Lady~

November 8th, 2011
1:19 pm

i agree cba and frankly she is a non factor simply bc I feel there is more to it….I just wish he would fall back really…….public office may not be it…..

Lady~

November 8th, 2011
1:20 pm

but hell politics is dirty why cry @ the end though smh……charge it to the gmae you played

Rickman

November 8th, 2011
1:22 pm

@Mike P

Thanks Mike … It dosent get any better than that…Trust Me

kimmie

November 8th, 2011
1:23 pm

Lady – Congrats on the nephew!!

Lady~

November 8th, 2011
1:30 pm

Thanks Kimmie!!!

cba

November 8th, 2011
1:36 pm

Herman dranked the kool-aide, he allowed people like Boortz and the TP to convince him that he could pull this off. He knew all alone once his candidacy began to make some progress, they were going to stick a scope up his A !!

I had a skeleton in my closet from back in high school. My wife also attended the same school but she wasn’t aware of it. Once we got married, I told her about it and about two or three years later, a guy she worked with told her about it. She said Oh, cba told me that years ago….BAM !!!!

Lady~

November 8th, 2011
1:38 pm

see! like I stated his delivery sucks!

Willie Dynamite

November 8th, 2011
2:12 pm

Afternoon All-
On Topic – We all audition whether we call it that or nat. We all put folks through auditions whether we call it that or not. IMO, that’s what dating and relatonships before marriage is just a big audition.

Side Topic – Cain is realizing now why businessmen may be good on paper but it takes a politician to run and win a major campaign. Politics is a dirty cutthroat game. He didn’t see the dagger coming from the right. He only defended the left.

Celisea

November 8th, 2011
2:21 pm

Robert Robert Robert…I thought you was going to say 25. Actually I’m downtown, Atlantic Station is just a stone’s throw away…lol. I dunno, I might be guilty of wrongfully pegging folks that hang out there. Just not my spot.

Willie Dynamite

November 8th, 2011
2:22 pm

Cain – Also, any minute now we will see his Wife finally make some appearances by his side on the campaign trail.

Exiled!

November 8th, 2011
2:31 pm

Yea,he just wanted some white tail..

but groping without romancing first and getting permission ain’t it!

It’s kinda lame….the bane of most folks with money but no game.

Lord Velonese

November 8th, 2011
2:31 pm

“Just because a single woman is out on the town, traveling around, and enjoying her carefree life, doesn’t mean she can’t make room for him.”

I run into this being a single man, I am making up for lost time, and my peers at church (especially) think I am being selfish for wanting to look out for number one right now and spoil myself some. Do to my job allowing me to travel freely, I have finally got back into just going places for a weekend (like out of state). I’ll let them know when I am taking Applications again :P auditioning for wives and husbands, thats funny, but true I guess.

Exiled!

November 8th, 2011
2:33 pm

Sweet talk and romance and spoil

Smashing will follow,without resorting to tackling

It Reeks of Kobe Bryantish moves like….

disco

November 8th, 2011
2:33 pm

hmm. which is worse? money with no game or game with no money?

Leggs

November 8th, 2011
2:34 pm

@SexyC ~ back to HCain. I asked because I found it quite strange that she said when she saw him again wherever, she shook his hand and exchanged pleasantries. If I amdisgusted over what I deem to be sexual harrassment, I won’t be shaking your hand.

Back to regularly scheduled topic! I am up for air, let me see what you guys are now talking about.

Exiled!

November 8th, 2011
2:38 pm

Disco?

No money but got game?
No Problem

the women of Atlanta will sponsor! :lol:

Lady~

November 8th, 2011
2:40 pm

exiled i spited my soda out you a fool!!!! smh lol LOL

disco

November 8th, 2011
2:41 pm

I’d say I’m glad I’m not a woman in the A except that I know the sad truth is that women all over the place are sponsoring fellas. one lady told me that she didn’t mind supporting her guy friend because buying him things and giving him money made him happy and making him happy made her happy. the chick was missing meals and barely making rent but she and he were happy. again I say – to each his own.

Leggs

November 8th, 2011
2:44 pm

@Randyt ~ if you live your life through me, you’ll be sitting on the couch right with me. Haven’t heard from boytoy in about 2 weeks? He may be getting tired.

@Celisea ~ just had a convo with a gf last night. Neither one of us understands the hype surrounding Atlantic Station.. Not my cup of tea.

Last week, Tom Joyner, was wanting the women to come foward so he could see HCain’s taste in women. Are all 5 women white?

Anyone know the last time Allgood took on a case pro bono??? Yeah right!

Leggs

November 8th, 2011
2:48 pm

What I don’t get is 2 of the stories seem to be the same. He puts his hands on their thigh, under their skirt then takes their head and pushes it down to his crotch. Naw sister, something is missin. No one goes straight for jugular like that all sloppy like. Rather, I hope not.

SexyCool

November 8th, 2011
2:50 pm

Leggs – her entire story/motive gets major side-eye from me. Plus when you look at information that has come out about her legal/financial issues – two bankruptcy filings, decreased child support, IRS lien, court judgement for loan – yeah, it’s pretty easy to conclude that she has motives other than just wanting an admission.

And then for her to say, “I really don’t want to be here today.” No on put a gun to her head to call Gloria Allred or to schedule press conferences and appearances. I mean really, it’s common knowledge that the morning news shows pay people to give interviews.

Combine that with the report that it is said that her 13-year old son said she “needs to tell on him.” Who tells their 13year old son that someone tried to put his hand up your dress 15 years ago?!?

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

November 8th, 2011
2:50 pm

Hey disco,
A few friends and I were at a sports bar Sunday watching the Falcons game. One met a lady and she didn’t know any of us proceeded to buy all of us pitchers of beer. I don’t do beer that much so she bought me and my a friend she liked shots. Later on in the evening she asked him if she could them a room. All we could do was laugh at him because he’s married and couldn’t go.

Hey Y’all:

Exiled!

November 8th, 2011
2:50 pm

Leggs,

I suspect some here(blogettes) I disgusted,reviled,floored,debaucherised,u name it here(????) More by Herman’s taste in Those women than the actual charges they allege.

watch this space :lol:

Leggs

November 8th, 2011
2:52 pm

I see my “g” is missing…

Exiled!

November 8th, 2011
2:54 pm

So its better(credible) if Herman groped an Uppity lady?

Leggs

November 8th, 2011
2:54 pm

@SexyC ~ I’m siding with you, except she said she has not received payment for any interview thus far. WTF’ever. Allgood taking a case like this pro bono is suspect in and of itself.

@EX ~ NO DOUBT! Be careful, a class-action suit may be filed against you (lol).

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

November 8th, 2011
2:54 pm

Not your G spot?

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

November 8th, 2011
2:58 pm

All is good.

Leggs

November 8th, 2011
2:59 pm

And, George Stephanoplous (sp?) made it a point to ask Allgood if she was a Republican probably to show she’s not bias…again whatever! They’re all sneaky to me.

Willie Dynamite

November 8th, 2011
3:01 pm

Really I want to know what Woman has had a Man grab the back of their head and physically push it down to the crotch area and not fight back? Lets see- flight, interview, dinner and then front seat of car in the hotel parking spot asking to come up for a night cap. Left hand on upper thigh tickling the pantyline. Right hand cupped on back of head. Alrighty then. Whether she’s telling the truth or not she was auditioning for something.

Leggs

November 8th, 2011
3:01 pm

@BF ~ :lol: you surprised me because I just knew Ex would make a comment along those lines! You little tall devil lurking in the corner like that! :lol:

The joke just fell that way!!!! I see you’re quick this afternoon.

Leggs

November 8th, 2011
3:03 pm

Exactly, WillieD. All cards aren’t on the table and those that are, are marked!!!

Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

November 8th, 2011
3:05 pm

@leggs…saying “not receiving compensation for interviews” does not tell the whole story. People are called and told, “we don’t pay for interviews, however we can provide lodging and meals and airfare and tickets for a week in New York City. also we can pay for pictures”. Just misleading. One can be amazed at how much benefit one can gain from “no compensation”.

Exiled!

November 8th, 2011
3:06 pm

Leggs..u think she registered Republican then came out with the charges?

that’s a stretch….it’s easily proven by the records if that’s true

I actually feel sorry for the wife…classy lady

She knows about the two lawsuits But

Not these other roaches coming down

We Republicans like to get down with chics..on the low low
Unlike Dems

I think he’s too much…no dilution in there

well well well

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

November 8th, 2011
3:07 pm

Leggs I ate my wheaties today.

We’ve been on that line where the married dude gets all the play, it is true and thriving. Guess I’ll have to stay under the bridge until the river runs through it.

Exiled!

November 8th, 2011
3:07 pm

We know Repubs

Not we

Willie Dynamite

November 8th, 2011
3:09 pm

I’ll probably get in trouble for this, If this doesn’t kill Cains campaign just wait until the Blondies that didn’t say NO to the hand on the back of the head come forward just cause.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

November 8th, 2011
3:09 pm

Or the river washes me out.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

November 8th, 2011
3:11 pm

What the hell in my case a Tsunami.

SexyCool

November 8th, 2011
3:13 pm

Let me try this AGAIN…I’m having issues with this site today….

I could give a fck less about HC’s taste/preference in women. In fact, YOU are the one that keeps attempting to insert race into this conversation and quite plainly stating your assertion about his desires.

Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

November 8th, 2011
3:13 pm

Leggs, this is too much not to jump in, sorry ;-) There is an experienced g-spot finder that lives at my address if you have lost your g. References can be provided, and results are guaranteed or your money is promptly and cheerfully returned. It is amazing how many ladies lose their g-spot and a quality g-spot finder is a worthy investment LOL. The “gentleman” has even contemplated putting a discounted add on Dealswarm since this service is so widely needed these days with so many missing “g”s.

disco

November 8th, 2011
3:13 pm

blackfoote – I’m not even hating that she saw something she wanted and went after it but I’m amazed that she didn’t just buy the target fellow a drink but bought drinks for all of y’all. that’s impressive. and not that she was willing to pay for the room too. shucks, I wish I would run into a brother fine enough that I wouldn’t mind paying for the hotel room. I’d make him earn it though. okay – I guess I’m being silly this afternoon.