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Dating: Ready to hear the magic number?

The next time you get the crazy idea to bring up the “magic number”, really think carefully if it’s worth it. It is important to have an honest discussion about your partner’s sexual health, but too much detail could end up being problematic.

I know we all say we are mature enough to handle info about our partner’s past, but the reality is, that’s not always the case. One thing we seem to get hung up on is not knowing about the context of the number. You wonder if there were multiple relationships or multiple hook-ups – or both. As soon as we get the digits (digit?), we start doing the mental math of how many partners, per year of sexual activity.

The number starts doing a number on the relationship and then there is trouble in paradise. I have seen it happen a lot! So are you really ready to talk about the magic number or do you just think you are?

How do you handle the discussion of the magic number? Do you opt for full disclosure or do you go the “need to know” route?

Have you ever told someone you were dating your actual magic number or did you fudge the numbers to appear less or more?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating

246 comments Add your comment

MzNewy

November 7th, 2011
7:42 am

LOL “the number” I answer honestly. My thing is that folks should not ask questions that they may not be able to handle the answer to…Good Monday morning MIA.

CoolShadow

November 7th, 2011
7:51 am

Do people still actually ask that? So far, only one woman has asked me that and I fudged the number because I knew how she’d process the answer (i.e., without logic, context and matching up her number against mine).

Kat

November 7th, 2011
8:38 am

Similar to “it’s not the years; it’s the mileage,” I think the number isn’t important – it’s who was involved in those numbers that matters. If your number is “3,” but those people were in one fell swoop; well, that paints a very different picture when you paint by the numbers.

Stonethrower

November 7th, 2011
8:51 am

Reminds me of the time Julio got robbed on Sanford and Son and the robbers told Fred when he asked who it was. “You don’t know and you don’t want to know”!

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
8:52 am

Good morning,

Oh the “Numbers” convo again…Unless you’re a sex addict, used to be a prostitute/gigalo/porn star, or have some sort of STD, I think it’s really pointless to ask because more often than not, you won’t be getting the real number anyway.

Adam Lambert

November 7th, 2011
9:05 am

hey why not just talk openly about any pertinent issues you have with sex, instead of playing these mindless games then months later somebody’s getting cursed at, cheated on, talked about, slapped around, thrown own, or killed! Then, if not the latter, the stupid process goes on again!

sheeesh!

Adam Lambert

November 7th, 2011
9:06 am

thrown “out”

OUCH ! i bumped my head

November 7th, 2011
9:13 am

Don’t stir none they won’t be none is my motto Besides thats my busniess and another motto is “Don’t ask any questions you might not like the answer to” AKA your busniess.

your daddy

November 7th, 2011
9:25 am

As a gay man, if I insisted on low milage dates / partners, I would have to date 16 year olds! Seriously, how many men don’t sleep around as much as possible when single? Is it really a rational expectation for a typical man in this modern time to be completely celibate when not in a relationship?

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
9:26 am

Good morning.

I don’t bother with one’s number. Never have. As long as I know he is disease free, have never had a disease, I’m fine. The past is the past. I expect him to have a number. I don’t have the number’s conversation. From what I heard from others, it never leads to a constructive conversation.

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
9:27 am

YD: I don’t think anyone said In between relationship sex was a No-go. I’m sure for many folks that IBRS is what gets them though those single times

OUCH ! i bumped my head

November 7th, 2011
9:28 am

your daddy is right gay or straight

OUCH ! i bumped my head

November 7th, 2011
9:29 am

Ditto to leggs

DreamsMaterialize

November 7th, 2011
9:29 am

Morning
I never ask anyone, and I’ve only had one woman ask me that in several years of dating. What is it that you’re really trying to glean from that information? Health, sexual behavior, freak meter? Why not, instead, ask questions that more directly address issues?

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
9:29 am

Also, if you aren’t falling through because my vaginal walls are loose, enjoy the ride and be quiet. Kinda kidding…

your daddy

November 7th, 2011
9:34 am

And which single, 20 or 30 something man (or sometimes women) … doesn’t get it on as much as possible? For the most part, hormones + youth = slut.

People lie, but be careful

November 7th, 2011
9:38 am

People likely won’t tell you the truth, but ask anyway. Also check out the Sex section in ‘Living Well Despite Catchin’ Hell; The Black Woman’s Guide to Health, Sex and Happiness’. The statistics will scare you, epecially for folks in the ATL. For men and women to read. See: http://www.amazon.com/Living-Well-Despite-Catching-Hell/dp/0964355477/ref=ntt_at_ep_dpi_3 [but good erotic poems are given as a treat for educating yourself, also the benefits of good, safe, healthy sex are discussed.].

Exiled!

November 7th, 2011
9:44 am

So Wise Diva keeps a ledger if her number,ha?

And ‘context of the number’?

that’s another new euphamism I didn’t know about. (???)

Just use condoms instead of talking about numbers and if u really want her and want to hit raw,a blood test will do.

If u still not satisfied then ask her if she’s a Virgin.

If not,the KIM

Asking for her numbers will get a guy cursed Big time!

Good morning!

Exiled!

November 7th, 2011
9:46 am

A ledger of her numbers!

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
9:50 am

Why not, instead, ask questions that more directly address issues?

Chick: I’m sooo glad you decided to actually use my number and I’ve been enjoying this brief time getting to know you.

Dude: Me too, but let’s not jump the gun just yet. This is only the beginning.

Chick: hehehehe, I know that silly. That takes time.

Dude: Well, actually i’m a bit older now so time is what I don’t want to waste.

Chick: Mmmmk? So, what is it you want to know?

Dude: Hmmm, let’s see??? What’s your favorite color?

Chick: Oooh, that’s a hard one. Just kidding…that’s easy. It’s purple.

Dude: Easy huh? How about have you ever been arrested before?

Chick: Oh heck no! How about you?

Dude: Hold ya horse sweetie. I’m not done yet. I’m just now getting down to the nitty gritty.

Chick: wow, ummm…okie dokie Mr. Running the Show. (giggles)

Dude: Time to get a little more deep. So….um….(voice deepens) Have you ever danced with the devil in the pale moonlight?

Click…dial tone

Dude: Hello?? Figures! I knew she was a slut, Next!

GoldPig

November 7th, 2011
9:56 am

As Chris Rock so eloquently put it, “Just be glad you’re f*cking her now.”

Robert

November 7th, 2011
10:05 am

Whenever I meet someone new and we both enjoy each others conversation and the questions turn to personal subjects such as passion and sex I always remind myself of how fortunate I am to be in the company of a beautiful woman who I am not worthy of due to my own life experiences (too many female sex partners to count). At this point in my life I try to highlight the goodness in this person not her past. I am a romantic and appreciate a woman who wants to date one man only. Most guys would prefer to date a thousand women. “I would prefer to love one woman a thousands times.” I hope I am not judged by my past.

abc

November 7th, 2011
10:06 am

A chick will not tell you the truth about it, so why ask? You’re not “going where no man has gone before”. Accept it. If she’s unacceptable in some kind of moral or ethical way, you don’t have to know the number to figure that out.

Whenever a chick has asked me about my number, I just say, “Well, what’s yours?” That usually prompted a subject change.

kimmie

November 7th, 2011
10:10 am

Morning Peeps!

I’ve only been asked once, and I really didn’t answer then. That was about 20 years ago. Like CoolShadow said, do folks still ask that? I’ve always thought it was stupid anyway.

I still go back to what I always say. Take your time and really get to know a person. Asking that stupid number question to me is being lazy. Dig deeper and try to gauge what a person is really about and their lifestyle. Some stupid arbitrary number really won’t get you anywhere.

How was everyone’s weekend? Mine was relaxing. Saw that movie Bad Teacher. It was cute.

kimmie

November 7th, 2011
10:12 am

If she’s unacceptable in some kind of moral or ethical way, you don’t have to know the number to figure that out.

abc I agree!!

Robert – Nice post.

oneofeach4me

November 7th, 2011
10:14 am

I have never asked numbers. He will wrap it up until the relationship is a monogamous one and it’s been at least a year AND once we have both had blood test to rule out and STD’s or Diseases. Numbers don’t give you ALL the info you need, cause it only takes sleeping with one person to catch something.

SexyCool

November 7th, 2011
10:14 am

Why does this keep coming up?

SexyCool

November 7th, 2011
10:17 am

And I certainly don’t think anything about the number is “magic.” (lol)

kimmie

November 7th, 2011
10:19 am

SCool – I wonder why it keeps coming up too, but maybe because there is a movie coming out about it.

Mike P

November 7th, 2011
10:20 am

Good Morning,

No one should be asking/telling about numbers, this INCLUDES credit scores! As that number has nothing to do with the present person, rather her/his past…

Lady~

November 7th, 2011
10:26 am

Morning MIA!

Lady~

November 7th, 2011
10:27 am

good post Mike P I certainly agree!

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
10:27 am

Sounds like we’ve pretty much summed this up, again. What’s the new pre-noon topic?

O/T: Have any of you seen that show Will To Live? They are reenactments of true life stories. The one I recently saw was about the chick in 2009 in DC that made up a story that she was pregnant to her family, boyfriend, friends. Well, she had to produce a baby at some point. So she lured this pregnant homeless chick by telling her she worked for an agency that helps provide clothes, furniture etc for babies. Well, she kidnapped her for 3/4 days and sliced the ladies stomach open with a box cutter. Surprisingly, the mother and baby survived after escaping from the apartment on the 4th day, with stomach & organs falling out. I recall the story but didn’t really know all the details. I was like WHOA!!

SexyCool

November 7th, 2011
10:28 am

A movie? Who knew?

I mean I expect topics to be washed, rinsed and repeated from time to time, but this one seems to appear with greater frequency than most.

kimmie

November 7th, 2011
10:31 am

SCool – I think it’s called “What’s Your Number?”, a romantic comedy.

And yeah, it’s always rather stupid.

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
10:31 am

Morning Lovelies,

Number? Magic number? I have no problem answering TRUTHFULLY however and IMO, this type question would be a red flag for any man asking. I would want to know why you want to know? If you’re feeling me then go for it but don’t be tryna find out first. Anything outside of you or aside from you is not really not your business.

IMO, most men that want to know the number know that they done a ton of women but want to make sure you ain’t been trekked through like they’ve done to others….that’s just my opinion though. It’s like they want to be a wh@re but want the woman they get to be presteen and virginal.

I also think people (man or woman) say what they think you want to hear. You want a virgin? Then you be the virgin you want. You want a woman presteen….you get it done first. Don’t run through a ton of women and ruin it for some other cat and THEN you want someone that can’t even find their cl@t.

GracieL

November 7th, 2011
10:33 am

I don’t ask and I don’t tell. However, I am happy to produce my paperwork (current lab results) upon request! Sadly, I don’t meet many men who are “man enough” to do the same, though. Too bad for them.

Lady~

November 7th, 2011
10:34 am

good post C!

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
10:35 am

Hey Lady….how are you this lovely Monday morning?

SexyCool

November 7th, 2011
10:38 am

Well, being that there is a movie coming out, I’m sure that more folks will make this an issue.

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
10:38 am

Anybody see the story on the coach at Penn State? Made me ill. Someone claims they saw him having sex in the shower with a 10 year old. Just makes me ill. Nasty joker

http://gma.yahoo.com/penn-state-officials-step-down-amid-child-abuse-081520222.html

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
10:39 am

SexyC – I’m sure. Too in this day and age where anything goes, I would think numbers get tossed out as well.

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
10:39 am

To add, I know a person would probably freak out if their SO had a HUGE number of partners…but would it make one feel anymore relaxed if the SO were still a virgin or only had slept with one other person? (speaking for the 30 and older crew)

Button

November 7th, 2011
10:39 am

Good morning, I’m with you Gracie on the I don’t ask and I don’t tell, however, what’s more important to me is your s exual health then your number game.

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
10:40 am

They say he’s molested as many as 8 boys and that when the head coach was made aware of the shower scene he reported. They say though nothing was really done. Nasty joker.

SexyCool

November 7th, 2011
10:41 am

What’s my number? “More than some. Fewer than many.”

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
10:41 am

Seems like many of the “romantic comedies” as of late have been about casual sex, friends with benefits, your number etc….

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
10:42 am

Slim – but would it make one feel anymore relaxed if the SO were still a virgin or only had slept with one other person?

Good question. Most (men) on here have said (historically) they don’t want a virgin. Remember the dude that said he was cool with a woman that’s had 20 or so partners? That all she could bring was more goodies (extracted from others) for him? Of course I don’t necessarily think it takes 20 dudes to learn 20 tricks but that’s what he said.

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
10:43 am

What’s my number? Um, if someone asked me my number, I’d tell them (603) 413-4127 :lol: (check it out)

your daddy

November 7th, 2011
10:44 am

SlimNu-

If a 20 plus year old to around 25 year old is a virgin, that person is most likely a member of a conservative religions denomination. However, if that is not the case, the person is either extreemly fugly or has some mental issues.

30 and older? Should not be a virgin and has most likely had multiple bf’s or is divorced.

Peach Blossom

November 7th, 2011
10:45 am

I think it’s all on a case-by-case basis.

If you know you’re going into a one-night stand, then it’s meaningless. And some people just don’t care.

I wish my SO would have been a little more candid when we had this conversation, because once every five years or so my SO’s past is going to pop back into our relationship and bite me. We’re in love, so it really doesn’t matter. The past can be a very good predictor of how the future is going to shape up, not always though. With the Internet, Facebook and other social media, there’re really no more secrets anymore. And nobody likes to be surprised. But I’ve acquired an STD from my SO and from time to time a picture will pop up in the Internet with my SO and somebody else. If you’re in love, it doesn’t matter. My SO’s hot and had more sex partners than I was originally told. It does make me wonder what else I haven’t been told, but we’ve been together so long now, and I do get weary of being surprised every now and then.

And I agree with some posters when they say the past is in the past. But when my SO’s past becomes part of my present, and I’ve got to deal with an STD, then the dynamics change a bit.

I would have appreciated a little more honesty at the beginning of our relationship. It probably wouldn’t have changed anything, but, at the least, I would have been prepared emotionally. Love is a funny thing.

Don’t you love this weather.

SexyCool

November 7th, 2011
10:52 am

“I’ve acquired an STD from my SO”

You make it sound so pleasant.

Lady~

November 7th, 2011
10:55 am

I am well C!!!! Happy Monday to you!!!!!

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
10:56 am

Peach Blossom I would have appreciated a little more honesty at the beginning of our relationship. It probably wouldn’t have changed anything, but, at the least, I would have been prepared emotionally

Wow, I don’t know if congratulation on love or empathy is in order. I don’t know how to “prepare” for the news an STD. You have the ultimate gift but you seem okay with. I think you have to be wise enough to know with most (especially wh@ish natured folks), face value is portion of what they’ll reveal. I don’t mean necessarily numbers but the lifestyle.

hazel

November 7th, 2011
10:57 am

interesting topic
I was once told that…because I had never been with anyone ever.. i wasn’t his type.
Well, I was actually glad that he was honest. Honestly, for me..the magic number would be 0, before me. But that is impossible.
@ Kimmie – I agree with most of what you said.. I just think that individual with a big number has too many issues

disco

November 7th, 2011
11:05 am

good morning all. eww – the number of partners??? this should be a moot topic but to those who feel they need to know, good luck getting an answer. slim nu – I watched that episode of will to live. that chick was crazy for real. also, watched last night’s episode. can’t believe the state of ohio wants to do that guy like that. 19 years wrongfully imprisoned and they don’t want to acknowledge their mistake primarily because they don’t want to pay him. I think the show said ohio pays $47k per year of incarceration.

kimmie

November 7th, 2011
11:15 am

hazel – Most folks issues will come out whether you know their number or not. I was watching this old episode of Oprah the other day that had these two women over 30 that were virgins. It was not religious or they just had not met the right guy. They had all kinds of mental issues they were dealing with(or not dealing with) that had turned off a lot of men.

mark

November 7th, 2011
11:18 am

i dont care about numbers as long as none of her partners were WHITEBOYS !! im cool. i dont screw with sistas that screw Whiteboys nasty heifers.

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
11:22 am

disco – Yeah, he would be sitting pretty well right now. But even if they wouldnt pay him, they should at least expunge the record so he can find honest work for himself. No one, really in the economy anyway, wants to hire a guy that has a murder charge on his record. That’s just shady if you ask me.

MsMarriedUp

November 7th, 2011
11:23 am

What an interesting fun topic…and comments!

I wouldn’t ask, and if asked I would answer honestly. I don’t know.

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
11:23 am

Looks like some more wild animals escaped the zoo again. Everyone, quick! Grab your blog Paint guns…

SexyCool

November 7th, 2011
11:32 am

“Hide ya’ kids. Hide ya’ wife.”

Exiled!

November 7th, 2011
11:42 am

Celisea’ if u feeling me,then go for it’

that’s funny girl! Lol

Why don’t u want the guy to trust But verify? Lol

that’s do funny to me.

It seems from the posts I read,anybody with no number but an adult is the bad one! Lol

f-cking crazy I tell ya!

We are in the f-cking age!

Off topic:

The movie place is cool,ambiance wise But the food is Garbage!

Most dogs won’t sniff it. Lol

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
11:48 am

But I’ve acquired an STD from my SO and from time to time a picture will pop up in the Internet with my SO and somebody else.

Which STD have you acquired, if you don’t mind me asking? And is your SO in he public eye, some sort of celebrity, porn star? I only ask because it sounds like he pops up on the web fairly frequently???

kimmie

November 7th, 2011
11:50 am

Exiled – I was waiting for your review on the movie place. Fork & Screen in Buckhead has pretty decent food & drinks.

disco

November 7th, 2011
11:50 am

slim – apparently that’s the catch 22. if they expunge his record then they are acknowledging that they were wrong and then they are on the hook for the money. as it stands it looks like they’d rather just leave the poor guy hanging in the balance.

I need for it to be lunchtime like nobody’s business. not so much because I’m hungry but because I need a second wind and I’m hoping a lunchtime conversation will get me going.

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
11:53 am

And, the STD rears it’s ugly head every five years? You seem so non-chalant about the disease because of your love for your man. If you’re dealing with it and comfortable, that’s all that matters.

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
11:54 am

MMeelo – Celisea’ if u feeling me,then go for it’ that’s funny girl! Lol
Why don’t u want the guy to trust But verify? Lol

You missed my entire point. I can count my partners…there’s a clear vivid number. My past is not so busy it’s a blur. My point though is I cast suspicion to a person wanting to know all this stuff before they can go in. What’s up with that? How about we get folks to bring their record to the table…if they’re looking for honor…lol That would be an honorable move if it’s honor you’re looking for. If you’re dealing with adults, don’t ask the number because in my mind…in a man’s mind zero ain’t enough and one is too many.

Exiled!

November 7th, 2011
11:55 am

Peach Blossom

that’s the risk anybody signs up for when they have a sexual relationship with a (stranger) that becomes ur boyfriend or girlfriend….

U are very open and candid

That goes on a lot I wld think

Imagine all these people with baby mamas and baby daddys(multiple) or swear by the pill(morning after)

Lot of raw dogging going on

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
11:55 am

Is that the MO for herpes, to come back every so often?

disco – I guess you have a point there. They said he was still ‘under investigation’ which makes no sense. And I’m starving like marvin, craving some JR Crickets. I think i’ll make this a wing and salad day. I haven’t had their wings in forever.

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
11:58 am

Fever blisters is what I’m thinking too SlimNu.

Exiled!

November 7th, 2011
12:00 pm

Kimmie!

yea the chic hyped the place as if the food was exceptional

but their HD screen is fab.
We watched that comedy with Ben Steela and Eddie Murphy

very funny tho..

(why are all bad guys/thugs black?)

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
12:01 pm

MMeello – You went to the place in Alpharetta?

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
12:02 pm

Leggs – Maybe she seems nonchalant because they both have it, so she doesn’t deem it much of a problem now. However, I would think when it came to dating in the future (if her and the SO doesn’t work out) THEN it would be more pressing because she’d need to disclose that to the potential gentleman callers know

Exiled!

November 7th, 2011
12:06 pm

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
12:06 pm

I heard Tower Heist was pretty good..guess I’ll try to catch it soon. I wonder if Harold and Kumar was any good.

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
12:07 pm

You like? How was the ambience? Pricey cheap? Good movies? Food a’ight, great so so? Sounds so so.

SexyCool

November 7th, 2011
12:07 pm

Meelow…all of ‘em aren’t black.

SexyCool

November 7th, 2011
12:08 pm

There are plenty, many movies with bad guys in them that don’t have a single black person anywhere in the cast or even as blurs in the background onscreen.

disco

November 7th, 2011
12:09 pm

okay speaking STDs. I had my annual physical last week. got tested for assorted STDs. generally doctor’s office doesn’t call with any results unless there is a problem. I get a voicemail from doctor’s office and get to feeling some kind of way. there’s a new chick working and she called unnecessarily. still the way she phrased it, it sounded like she was telling me I tested positive for several diseases. my heart dropped and I couldn’t talk for a minute. I asked her to repeat herself and she got it right the second time, making it clear that I was tested for such and such and that I didn’t have anything. still, for the sake of clarity I asked her to repeat my results one more time. I called my SO and told him he dodged a bullet because I was on my way to show out.

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
12:12 pm

I called my SO and told him he dodged a bullet because I was on my way to show out.

LOLOLOLOL… That’s so sho nuff love with Peach Blossom because I would be too hot to calm down if a dude passed an STD to me. Want to see crazy? Yeah, that would take me there…no holds barred.

Exiled!

November 7th, 2011
12:13 pm

Movie price for two grown and three kids,17,13,6 $41

Food bill $70 I cldnt find anything worthy,it’s kinda MickyD type so I had pizza and coffee(u get refill),so did Queen +salad. My other daughter had pizza too..can’t remember what the other two
ordered.

Ambiance really great!
A lot of black clicks with white brothers (bonus observation) :lol:
:lol:

disco

November 7th, 2011
12:15 pm

celisea – yeah. he was trying to be all calm and cool talking about I should have at least asked for a second opinion and taken the time to get retested. nope. second opinion and retesting didn’t cross my mind. I went straight to “oh no he didn’t”. it was going to be on. of course, now it’s another inside joke but for that small window of time I might have been looking at some charges.

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
12:16 pm

Thanks Meelloo and thanks for the little extra of A lot of black clicks with white brothers (bonus observation)

Maybe I’ll get a white dude to take me up there…you’re stoopid sometimes…lol

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
12:17 pm

disco – LOLOLOLOL….okaaaaay

Mmeelloo – My sister is saying all the time now when I’m with her, what’s up with all the black chicks dating white dudes? Says maybe she missed her mark. She’s divorced…lol

mark (above) probably ain’t liking this…lol

hazel

November 7th, 2011
12:21 pm

@ kimmie – i can see that… but I was in my early 20’s then. But, I think because too many ppl just depend on sex .. there are less and less real relationships that are based on something that is much stronger.

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
12:27 pm

@Celisea ~ we don’t know if she showed out when he first presented it to her. Apparently, a lot of time have gone by and she/he talked it through and agreed to work through it together.

And, when people post things like this, it could just be a dangling carrot…

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
12:35 pm

Okay again…not sure what’s up with my post getting kidnapped

Leggs – I was saying I agree. I was saying it sounds like she’s forgiven and moved on and they’re okay with it.

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
12:37 pm

I wonder if a person would divorce or leave from catching something from their spouse…married folks I’m wondering. Is that one of those things where you ponder long and hard and for keeping the marriage going you would forgive? I bet if anything a woman would forgive quicker than a man.

I wonder if Peach Blossom’s man would have stayed if the tables were turned. Not being funny. I’m truly wondering.

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
12:38 pm

Well I can’t pose the question to the menfolk because no one is here….but I’m wondering is that would kill the deal.

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
12:41 pm

I think the severity of the STD would have some staying and some walking.

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
12:41 pm

and some SNAPPING!!

disco

November 7th, 2011
12:42 pm

celisea – I recently read of a case where neighbors were involved in an affair. neither couple split up but one couple did move. the wife of the couple that moved contracted an STD and passed it on to her husband. how come the husband turned around and sued his neighbor? I figure he should have chalked that one up to the game but I guess it takes all kinds.

Exiled!

November 7th, 2011
12:45 pm

I don’t know Cee. 12:37?

My best friend in Joburg South Africa gave his then girlfriend,now wife a donation early on in the relationship.

she told me coz we all high school buddies so our relationship is like that…

But she forgave him

Now if it were the other way round,I don’t know honestly.

If it’s a wife that does that,giving the hubby a donation

Well….it’s going down! :lol:

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
12:47 pm

Just wow disco. So that means who she got it from (between him and his wife…somebody was stepping out) got it from someone else. I guess if you can’t hit them, hit ‘em where it hurts..lol

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
12:48 pm

MMeelloo – Well….it’s going down!

I just bet!!!

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
12:49 pm

Question: When you all order food for pickup/carryout, do you tip the counter-person?

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
12:50 pm

No…only when delivered or dining in

SexyCool

November 7th, 2011
12:59 pm

I never tip the counter person.

Exiled!

November 7th, 2011
1:02 pm

If u got it SlimNu,nothing wrong in that.

SexyCool

November 7th, 2011
1:09 pm

Meelow – you tip when you order at fast food restaurants?

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
1:11 pm

@SlimNu ~ I have done it with carryout only.

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
1:12 pm

Meaning delivery to work or home, I’ll tip.

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
1:13 pm

Nevermind, that’s not counter service. I’ll go back to my dark corner.

Exiled!

November 7th, 2011
1:17 pm

As a general rule No.

unless the server has really gone the extra mile in doing something

Wonder why SlimNu asked?

SexyCool

November 7th, 2011
1:22 pm

SlimGoody – are you talking about at places that have a tip jar?

I know they *used* to have one at Moe’s…can’t remember seeing on the last few times I was there.

I used to throw my change in tip jars, but after some consideration one particular day, I decided that all they are doing is the job that they are paid to do, so I no longer even do that.

Exiled!

November 7th, 2011
1:23 pm

Well I think I know why tipping is warranted even in pick up situations, say it’s a group order and u call in…obviously this order needs special handling coz of the speciL instructions etc

Then tipping is in order even if u urself go to pick up

I guess context here matters

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
1:26 pm

I tip sometimes but at other times I don’t. When I ordered some to-go from Red Lobster last week, I ended up tipping. I tipped when I went to JR Crickets just now but I have never tipped at a Subway and maybe some other places. I just wasn’t sure what the protocol was. I mean, they really aren’t doing anything extra other than giving me my food. That is no different than going thru a drive-thru

SexyCool

November 7th, 2011
1:27 pm

Meelow – now that makes sense, but I rarely do that..so…

kimmie

November 7th, 2011
1:35 pm

Me & SO were talking about that tip thing the other day. I am also coming across a lot of places that don’t have the tip jar, but if you pay by credit or debit card they have a line for the tip. Places like Starbucks. You are right, SCool, all they did was ring my order up. I used to feel a little guilty, but now I don’t.

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
1:37 pm

Sometimes I get in my, You haven’t done anything that warrants a tip phase.

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
1:38 pm

kimmie – I think i struggle with that guilt thing too if I don’t leave a tip. lol

SexyCool

November 7th, 2011
1:41 pm

Exactly, kimmie – sometimes, I really wanna give some places a side eye for the tip line on the receipt.

And then there are some places that I go to that I think needs one, but doesn’t have one – like this nail shop that I go to sometimes. I don’t always carry cash and I really wouldn’t mind tipping Soon-Li for getting the line on my french tips just right, but don’t have the cash and they don’t have the tip line.

And speaking of tips, why is it that the food industry can get away with paying their employees less than minimum wage based on tips, but other industries, like the beauty industry don’t have that standard? Seems unfair…

i'm swiss™

November 7th, 2011
1:55 pm

“And speaking of tips, why is it that the food industry can get away with paying their employees less than minimum wage based on tips, but other industries, like the beauty industry don’t have that standard?”

My guess would be that the restaurant lobby has more $$ than the beauty salon lobby. I don’t know that for a fact, but that’s usually the way things go…

SexyCool

November 7th, 2011
1:56 pm

Swiss – you know I was thinking that as I typed it…”lobbyists.”

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
1:56 pm

The ‘itis’ is rolling in strong….Where is everybody?

i'm swiss™

November 7th, 2011
2:01 pm

On the subject of tipping guilt…

I was in L.A. last week for an interview & took a cab from LAX to my hotel, which was literally a 5 minute ride away. So, the metered fare was like $16, but apparently in L.A. they have a minimum fare of $19 for any taxi trip originating from the airport (no idea why, but whatever). So, I give the guy a $20. The guy says, “you realize the minimum fare is $19, right?” And I replied, “you realize I gave you $20, right?” :lol:

Exiled!

November 7th, 2011
2:01 pm

Enter your comments here

Exiled!

November 7th, 2011
2:05 pm

Swiss, I that LA example is because of strong Democrats and labor presence.

LA is deemed expensive.sp is NY

there is money but the labor costs/rates there,relatively speaking are ^….

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
2:07 pm

swiss – Heyal YEAH! That’s what I would’ve said! So are you thinking about leaving the old “Hotlanta” Area?

Exiled!

November 7th, 2011
2:09 pm

this woman here at the bank made a move in me

I kid u not ….and I’m confused :lol:

did she or did she not…..? :???:

CoNuNdrUM

let’s see…

Exiled!

November 7th, 2011
2:10 pm

i'm swiss™

November 7th, 2011
2:12 pm

Me.lo — Maybe so. I just thought it was funny the guy was trying to guilt me into giving more $$ when I’m already getting screwed by the minimum fare deal. Plus, all I had on me was $20’s and I wasn’t going to break another one just for this dude.

Slim — Fear not, your friendly neighborhood swissie isn’t going anywhere. Well, not permanently, anyway. For this gig I would be working out of my house when not traveling to client sites. I may occasionally be in LA, especially early on, but I wouldn’t have to relocate.

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
2:12 pm

Seems like a tip of a dollar is frowned upon these days, swiss.

disco

November 7th, 2011
2:14 pm

back from a mediocre lunch but since I packed it I guess I can’t complain. I don’t mind tipping when tipping is called for but I really get perturbed at some of the bathroom attendants that think they deserve a tip just because they are standing there. I don’t need you to help me wipe or wash and I didn’t eat one of your little mints. why are you shooting daggers at me when I don’t tip you on my way out of the restroom?

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
2:14 pm

@Ex ~ you seem to always be confused on whether a woman is hitting on your or not!

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
2:16 pm

YAyyy! We’d shole hate to see another one bite the dust round deez herrr parts. Next thing we know, they’ll only be tumbleweeds, abandoned blog bars and sand storms.

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
2:16 pm

MMeello – She did not…lol

Random – My coworker (yes the fairly new one that’s called in at least once a week since being hired), for the 2nd time in 11 months called in sick…….taking an entire week. Funny thing too, on the call this morning someone asked if he was feeling better and he was like oh yes…much. Well there’s a cashier in the cafe sees him every morning and sometimes chat and sometimes she sees us together. She asked last week where he was and I didn’t know. Funny a minute ago she said, I asked where’d he been on vacation and he said, it was lovely :| (blank stare).

But yes, that’s really none of my business.

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
2:19 pm

To boot, he has no shame.

i'm swiss™

November 7th, 2011
2:22 pm

disco — Oh man, the toilet jockeys are the worst. Who needs that? I personally get a little creeped out by it — especially if the place isn’t busy & it’s just you and a dude watching you p!ss. The sh!tter should always be self service, IMHO… :lol:

i'm swiss™

November 7th, 2011
2:23 pm

Ladies, do they have that in the ladies room anywhere? Or do they only try to sucker us dudes?

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
2:24 pm

Seems like a tip of a dollar is frowned upon these days

Leggs – Yeah but that’s exactly how much I tipped the chick at the wing spot today. Oh well, a dollar is better than nothing and if you want to complain, Gimme back my 3 quarters, two dimes and a nickle!!! :lol:

disco – I Hate those bathroom people. They have gotten slick over the years. I used to get my own paper towels at the sink farthest away from the attendent. But now they don’t put any towels or soap anywhere else so you’ll almost HAVE to get it from them. I don’t tip myself when I’m at home and I sure as heyal ain’t paying you to hand me a paper towel or squeeze soap in my hand. PUH-LEAZE! :roll:

Exiled!

November 7th, 2011
2:25 pm

Leggs…I know right..

I guess in my mind its unbelievable coz I will be like ,’ u shole know what u trying to get urself into?’ :lol:

Cel..if he ain’t producing he be gone soon. Numbers don’t lie

Lord Velonese

November 7th, 2011
2:26 pm

Like Stewie Griffen said: “Is there any tread left on the tire or is it like throwing a hotdog down a hallway.” I’d have serious problem if it is like that.

Peach Blossom

November 7th, 2011
2:28 pm

LEGGS

Thank you.

SEXYCOOL

That’s funny. It is what it is and nothing more. He’s a good guy, he just slept with a lot of women prior to me. So from my standpoint, numbers do matter, but honesty matters more. We should have talked and been honest with each other earlier in the relationship.

SLIMNU

No, no it’s nothing like that. He’s not in the public eye and he’s not a porn star. It’s more like his old girl friends haven’t heard he’s been married for a while and they still call him at home. Stuff like that. We run into his old girl friends at restaurants and they talk to him, and women know when another woman was involved with their SO; we can just tell. He even deleted his Facebook page because women would send him old pictures.

It’s herpes and the outbreaks are getting less and less frequent and less intense. He’s extremely remorseful about the whole thing and has told me if he had to do it again, it would be different. He’s not a bad guy and he loves me. Regardless of the herpes, we have a good relationship and if you would forgive me for the humor, but that’s much like the old saying: “Other than that, Mrs. Lincoln, how’d you like the play.”

How’d we move from numbers to tipping?

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
2:28 pm

Mmeello – I use to cover for him but I don’t any longer. If someone calls and say he didn’t hook something up right and he ain’t here I hand it right off to the next in line. If he’s here, I’ll send the person his way. One thing though he does when he’s doing that is “working from home.” So he’s not totally absent but that’s a means for when it’s snowing or you’re sick FOR REAL, or you have personal appointments and need to be in an out. Not to be abused.

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
2:30 pm

@swiss ~ it’s funny to hear about the attendees in the men’s room…we have it alot in our restrooms. If I’m not using any of your items, I see no need to tip you. The water in the sinks are provided by the club, I always have lotion, mints in my bag, don’t need to give you a $1.00 for your service. Now, if I’m in the chatting with you and you shooting the breeze back with me, I may tip. If you’re in their acting Iike I’m obligated, I’ll probably just leave. Believe it or not, it takes a special personality to be up in the ladies’ room. If you have no convo, you get no $$….

Exiled!

November 7th, 2011
2:30 pm

but the chicks at the bootey club are ok with $tips

Yea Swiss?

SexyCool

November 7th, 2011
2:32 pm

Toilet jockeys – lmao. True story – I went into the bathroom at Uptown Comedy Corner and I didn’t have any cash on me. I told the attendant chick that I didn’t have any cash on me. Her response, “What’s your table number? I’ll come out there and get it.”

I had no response.

disco

November 7th, 2011
2:33 pm

well – i was having a somewhat stressful workday but now I’m going to say a little prayer of appreciation that I’m not a bathroom attendant.

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
2:34 pm

Me, I’be be in their working for my tips:

Girl, you wearing those shoes..hope you have a good evening.

Oh my, turn around, let me see that dress…looking good, chica, looking good.

Now, when you go out, don’t hurt no body….keep representing!!!

Smile. Ummm, your make up is very nice…so on and so forth (LOLOLOL).

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
2:35 pm

SexyCool ~ I would have given her my table number and when she arrived, handed her a quarter…damn, that’s a bit much!!!

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
2:35 pm

swiss – At least we have stalls in the womens’ restroom so you don’t have to worry about the attendant checking out the goods. lol But I have seen one of them call a chick out when she tries to leave the restroom without washing her hands. LOL

i'm swiss™

November 7th, 2011
2:36 pm

“but the chicks at the bootey club are ok with $tips “

Me.lo — Now if they really want me to tip in the potty, put a buck-nekkid, smoking hot chick in there instead of some dude & I’ll be tipping all night. (And I’ll also be taking more p!ss breaks than a middle aged dude in a prescription drug commercial). :lol:

i'm swiss™

November 7th, 2011
2:37 pm

“But I have seen one of them call a chick out when she tries to leave the restroom without washing her hands”

Slim — Well now that I fully support. That’s what they should be there for — hygiene enforcement. :lol:

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
2:39 pm

SC – Maybe her daytime job is working for the IRS or a debt collection agency :lol: I don’t normally call other females the B word but her response might’ve made me come back with “Bytch please!” :shock: :lol:

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
2:40 pm

Calling them out is one way to ensure NO SOUP FOR YOU…..

kimmie

November 7th, 2011
2:44 pm

I’ll never forget the time me & a buddy were leaving Dugans. Apparently our server was unhappy with the tip we left and ran after us in the parking lot to let us know! :shock:

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
2:47 pm

Still talking tips….brb

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
2:47 pm

@kimmie ~ Me and 3 gfs just arrived to Georgia. May have been here 1 month. We went out to eat. Our server was horrible. We left $.3 on the table since it was 3 of us. She ran after us and threw the pennies at us. We laughed as we got into the car.

disco

November 7th, 2011
2:51 pm

oh. y’all are cutting up. not that servers are chasing folks out to the parking lot now behind their tips. and 3 cents as a tip sent a message loud and clear. it might have been less painful for her if you just didn’t leave a tip but to leave 3 cents. dang.

kimmie

November 7th, 2011
2:57 pm

Leggs – That’s wild!LOL!! Our service was decent, but we were poor just out of college. I literally had cleaned out my wallet. We probably had left her about 10% thinking back. She came out telling us she had a kid to support. I felt a little bad for her on one hand, but on the other….

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
2:58 pm

That’s what they should be there for — hygiene enforcement.

Bathroom Attendant uniform: I can picture them fully equipped with a plunger on their utilty belt, emergency baby wipes, a badge with the picture of a toilet on it, a mask and gloves.

Leggs – 3 pennies WOW!!! :lol:

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
2:58 pm

We were treated like “these damn Yankees are stinking up my table,” so we stunk it up!!!

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
2:59 pm

.03 cents…that’s mean. I would have tipped but I would have definitely told the manager…for sure

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
3:03 pm

My folks and I went to Cracker Barrel Saturday. Our waiter was very nice…so two of us ordered meatloaf…talked and waited on our food. Here comes the waiter to tell us they no longer have meatloaf. He ended up telling the manager to come to our table because he didn’t want it to reflect on him or his tip. He said they should’ve told him what the deal was, when the order was placed. So the manger comes out to apologize and asked first for another choice then offered some dessert. I’m looking at her like, I don’t want no dayum dessert but you can give me a discount. She sort of paused for a second but said sure. Long story short, we got our meal free. ;-)

Lady~

November 7th, 2011
3:05 pm

LOL slim!!!!! I miss Mick’s meatloaf too!!!! love meatloaf! too funny!

Into the Light

November 7th, 2011
3:07 pm

Afternoon, y’all!

Skimming to catch up. I’m glad the subject of tipping on a pick-up/carryout was discussed. I always stand there, pen in hand, like “do I or don’t I??”, unsure of the right thing to do.

Did I see someone say they don’t tip at the nail salon?

There has only been one time that I’ve ever not left a tip, and that was at Smith’s Old Bar. Our drinks sat on the counter so long waiting on the server to pick them up they weren’t cold anymore. We even offered to go pick them up, and the server got mad. We asked for the tab after one round, and left the exact change.

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
3:12 pm

Yes, it was very mean, and so was she! At 19, I’ll probably do it again.

SexyCool

November 7th, 2011
3:14 pm

ITL – I said that there is a nail shop that I go to sometimes that does not have a tip line on its receipts, but that it should.

If I remember when I am headed there, I will make sure to have some cash for tipping on me, but usually, the only cash that I carry is the emergency twenty dollar bill stashed at the back of my wallet.

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
3:14 pm

.03 cents…that’s mean. I would have tipped – ummm I did tip, only problem is it was an inappropriate tip. I’m not tipping bad, insolent, better than tho behavior. Nor do I need a manager that may feel the same way to side with her. I handled it how I felt best at that time. I bet she’ll never forget her .3 cent tip!

Into the Light

November 7th, 2011
3:17 pm

Gotcha, SCool! I’m glad you clarified, bc I was thinking, “Dang…you mean all this time I’ve been tipping 20% or better and it’s not expected???” :lol:

disco

November 7th, 2011
3:17 pm

speaking of tips. this morning on a radio call in show they were talking about creepy situations. so a server calls in. she worked at some restaurant and said there was a guy who was somewhat of a regular. she said he was old (like 55) but age is relative and I think she was maybe 22 or 23. anyway she said one day he left her a nice tip with a note asking her to call him. she said she tossed the note. she says at some point a friend told her to check out a section on craigslist for people looking for folks they had random encounters with. apparently the guy who left her the note was on there making comments about the hot waitress (her) and how he wished she would call and how he tries to go to the restaurant when he thinks she’s working and on and on. she said the guy had been leaving messages on there for months.

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
3:19 pm

Now THAT’S creepy

kimmie

November 7th, 2011
3:22 pm

Creepy with a capital C!!!

Have any of you guys ever seen that show “Why Am I Still Single?” or Tough Love Miami? Talk about folks without a clue!!!

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
3:24 pm

I was under the weather this weekend and tuned into Tough Love Miami. Dreadful that they are so freaking clueless…

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
3:24 pm

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
3:25 pm

I haven’t really been able to get into Why Am I still Single…I’ve seen a few episodes of Tough Love though. Much of what he says makes sense with regard to each of the ladies, plus it gives you a good perspective of what men actually think.

Anyone see Housewives of ATL last night?

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
3:31 pm

@SlimNu ~ his best visual was the “deal breakers” they had on their list and the 50-100 gentlemen in the audience representing the working man.

I saw the 30 min premier of HOA, but turned it off after 20 mins of the actual show airing because NeNe is a damn airhead…..

kimmie

November 7th, 2011
3:33 pm

I stopped watching all those Housewives shows. They are not fun anymore. The Basketball Wives, especially BWLA, have more drama, but they are trash too.

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
3:34 pm

Me too Kimmie…not much patience for that. I did watch Black Girls Rock…that was awesome!!!

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
3:35 pm

@kimmie ~ that’s how I felt about the show last night so I turned it off…too much cackalacking cackling….

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
3:35 pm

Leggs – Yeah I saw that episode and I meant to bring it up on the blog but I guess I got side tracked. I want to say the chick on the other show (why still single) did a similar exercise for a chick that had a long list of MUST HAVES…

Nene has really turned into an ego-driven ditz

kimmie

November 7th, 2011
3:37 pm

Slim – Why am I Still Single tries to be too much like Millionaire Matchmaker, but I like MM much better.

I did see a funny preview for Still Single. It was this crazy dude telling this woman that his dream was to father a child by a woman from all the different countries of the world. He said he was the black Brad Pitt! :shock:

kimmie

November 7th, 2011
3:38 pm

Slim – Turned into? How about she always has been!!LOL!!

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
3:39 pm

This is the 2nd time I’ve turned into a radio station and Candy is marketing her toys.

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
3:39 pm

Candi Candie Candy…whatever her name.

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
3:40 pm

kimmie – I also like MM, but Patti can be a bit harsh when it comes to telling the women about how they look. Sometimes it’s not what you say but how you say it.

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
3:42 pm

kimmie – Well she is now even more of one…who goes around blasting how RICH they are??? C’mon now. I think the song from Housewives of New York is appropriate here. Money can’t buy you class. lol

kimmie

November 7th, 2011
3:42 pm

Slim – Yeah she’s harsh, but that’s tv. It’s for ratings. What makes it hillarious to me, though, is that Pattie really should follow some of her own advice! Because most of the time she looks a hot mess, especially that weird lip liner/lipstick thing she has going.

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
3:43 pm

kimmie

November 7th, 2011
3:45 pm

Slim – No it cannot buy you class at all. But the word “class” should really not be used in the same sentence to describe ANY of those women from ANY of those Housewives shows. Class would not be on reality tv airing your laundry, dirty or not.

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
3:46 pm

The jury has reached a verdict after 9 hrs. of deliberation to be announced soon.

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
3:47 pm

kimmie – It’s her bad plastic surgery job in my opinion. She should’ve kept it to the neck lift and left the other part of her face alone. She looks like Jason from the Halloween movies with that weird pale face :shock: —>to the corner I go

SexyCool

November 7th, 2011
3:47 pm

Patti Stanger needs a stylist/mirror.

There is nothing about Kandi that would make me want to buy a sex toy from her. This is quite obviously an attempt to capitalize on the exposure from RHOA. And perhaps she will do well with it, it’s just not something that interests me.

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
3:49 pm

SexyC – I agree….regarding Kandi

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
3:50 pm

@SexyC ~ She’s trying to extend her Kandi Coated Sexapades (dialoge) into a sex toy franchise.

kimmie

November 7th, 2011
3:51 pm

SCool – I agree about Kandi, but hey, not knocking her trying to get her hustle on and milk her 15 minutes. The K sisters getting theirs.

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
3:51 pm

What’s very interesting to me about Kandi is how she talks through her teeth. It’s amazing…

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
3:51 pm

kimmie – What do you think about the model chick on HWOA, Cynthia I believe is her name? She seems to be the most low key of them all not including Candi who tends to just be upfront and keep it norm.

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
3:52 pm

I’m not big on toys anyway…but that’s just me. I think the mind and body is built the all the possibilities. I have never owned a sex toy for that matter. I have a couple of girlfriends that did/does/do….lol Just not my style.

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
3:53 pm

FOR all the possibilities

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
3:53 pm

Guess that’s another topic for another day.

WD you reading? That’ll get you an audience I bet.

disco

November 7th, 2011
3:56 pm

there was a comedian on tom joyner recently who said that basketball wives should have been called “lucky beeyotches”. don’t remember his name but he was kind of funny.

kimmie

November 7th, 2011
3:59 pm

Slim – She seemed nice enough from what I saw of her that 1st season she was on. I’ve seen her in some magazine ads before she went on the show. Kandi is okay with me too. I really can’t stand anyone else on the show, which is another reason I don’t watch anymore. I don’t like Cynthia & Kandi enough to watch it. I think I can’t stand Phaedra with her nasty-looking lips & stank attitude the most.

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
3:59 pm

We were all sitting around last night talking about we need to have a reality show called the Broke Bytches or the Real Broke Wives of Conyers…and of course, being a wife is not a requirement of the show lol

Leggs – I like when that stylist dude does impressions of all the girls. I nearly died when he did Kandi… :lol:

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
4:05 pm

I can’t stand Phaedra with her nasty-looking lips & stank attitude the most

It’s funny you said that because I was thinking to myself, why does she put so much on and she wants to use the frosty colored gloss. :???:

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
4:05 pm

The show is horrible:

Sheree – a conceited, “bless your little heart” mess
NeNe – ghetto is as ghetto does. Keeps it real, but she needs some tact. And the fact that you can buy a car for $13,500 cash does not make you rich. It’s makes you stupid because he’s going to wreck that one too. A smart, rich person would have gone to the auction block. And, a $1,000 discount isn’t much if you were really balling with an ex!!!!
Kim ~ she may have calmed down just a tad
Phaedra ~ was wearing that hat at the funeral.
Cynthia ~ she has a funny face/cheekbones.

No, I didn’t watch the show (lol).

kimmie

November 7th, 2011
4:06 pm

What trips me out about BWLA is that Imani chick. Her claim to fame is that she is an EX-FIANCE’ of 10 years to some b-ball player!! 10 years and 3 kids later you are the EX-FIANCE’!!! I would be embarrased to claim that on national tv!!

disco

November 7th, 2011
4:08 pm

kimmie – you are crazy re the ex fiancé. could she at least save face by saying they lived in a common law state? hey, it’s worth a shot.

kimmie

November 7th, 2011
4:10 pm

disco – LOL!!! Hey, the pot can’t call the kettle black on ANY of those shows!!

kimmie

November 7th, 2011
4:12 pm

I tell you who comes off sweet and that’s La La Anthony. I’ve seen her show a few times. At least she IS a real WIFE!

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
4:13 pm

Leggs – Nice summation lol

Didn’t Doug Christie and Jackie split? Or did I just make that up?

Man oh man, I saw the Wendy Williams episode where she interviewed Draya from BBWLA…she was so disrespectful towards her…even asked her about being a ‘trick’… really!

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
4:13 pm

Random – The beginning drum beat on Rolling in the Deep always remind of the drum beat in the movie Jumanji…ALWAYS make me think of that movie.

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
4:14 pm

Everybody’s got a hustle.

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
4:16 pm

I love Adele’s voice

SexyCool

November 7th, 2011
4:17 pm

I think I posted something about not being into toys and not buying them from Kandi if I were, but don’t know what happened to the post.

At any rate, Miss Lawrence (I think that’s his name) is quite disturbing to me. And no, I didn’t watch the show last night, but I did have some of the preview shows on as background noise yesterday afternoon. And it seems as if there was something mentioned that I could probably use in my day to day life, but right this moment, I cannot remember what that was to save life or limb.

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
4:18 pm

@Celisea ~ that’s my ring tone. First ever ringtone.

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
4:19 pm

I must admit, some of those toys look down right dangerous or just plain scary

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
4:20 pm

Conrad has been found GUILTY of involuntary manslaughter.

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
4:21 pm

@SexyC ~ Miss Lawrence may be trying to walk in the footsteps of Derek. The plump hairdresser who always wears pumps. There’s an interesting story as to how he started wearing pumps.

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
4:22 pm

Leggs – That doesn’t surprise me…he was recklace with regards to the practices outside of a hospital with adequate monitoring devices.

RIP MJ Hee HEE ;-)

SexyCool

November 7th, 2011
4:22 pm

Conrad Murray guilty…

SexyCool

November 7th, 2011
4:23 pm

oh..well…lol…

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
4:24 pm

withOUT oops

Interesting pumps story? I’ve never heard it…

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
4:25 pm

Miss Lawrence (I think that’s his name)

He’s freaking nightmare….scary is minimum.

Awww mayne, I feel like they needed to blame somebody, anybody for MJ’s death.

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
4:25 pm

Next time, SexyC…LOL

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
4:26 pm

And a chunky dude in pumps should be a violation of something..anything

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
4:27 pm

Celisea – Well you can’t put the violation under Man Law codes because i’m sure that would start a riot. lol

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
4:28 pm

Derek was going out one evening with friends and something happened with his shoes (regular men’s shoes at that time). The only pair available were a pair of his female friends pumps. He liked the look and the rest is history….that’s the short version (the only verion I remember).

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
4:29 pm

LOLOL…A chunky dude in pumps no doubts automatically defaults to violations of all rules.

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
4:29 pm

They just read the verdict, someone tried to screamed but was hushed. Wonder who that was?

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
4:30 pm

Could have been LaToya.

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
4:32 pm

Not being mean, but it’s a wonder Derek doesn’t start a fire between his legs with his pigeon-toed self….

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
4:34 pm

Derek was going out one evening with friends and something happened with his shoes (regular men’s shoes at that time). The only pair available were a pair of his female friends pumps. He liked the look and the rest is history….that’s the short version (the only verion I remember).

OMG…LOL That’s like running out of undies and feeling okay with a man’s short/bvds/boxers…whatever and feeling okay with “manly” vibe in them. Like an epiphany happens and you realize you was made for them and never want to return to panties again.

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
4:35 pm

I hope I don’t offend anyone but that dude should be taken out back and worked over (i.e. beaten) for feeling okay with pumps. IJS That might be severe but c’mon you feel okay and never want to return again? I saw that dude in pumps and he looked awfully uncomfortable.

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
4:37 pm

@Celisea ~ that may not be as far fetched as you think….boy shorts!!!!

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
4:39 pm

Well, I like to lounge around in the Hanes boxer briefs for women and I never feel manly. It might be the fact that the womens’ briefs don’t have that opening in the front for a person to drain their weasel lol

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
4:39 pm

You might have a point there Leggs. I have many pairs of boy shorts. I guess though when I think men’s shorts/briefs and that example I was thinking about a woman feeling like the cup is cool…lol

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
4:40 pm

I wear boy shorts and hipsters. I cannot do undies that go over my belly button. I think those or anything past the belly button are officially “granny panties” I don’t like french cut either

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
4:44 pm

Hipsters are so comfortable.

disco

November 7th, 2011
4:44 pm

granny panties? i think of mama flora’s family when old boy said he was just trying to buy his wife a nice pair of bloomers.

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
4:44 pm

Okay…another smell (and no I’m not crazy)…the dude in the office right next to the ballplayer is an older dude. Nice as ever. Very quiet and everybody loves loves loves him. Okay he’s wearing something today that’s got the left side of my head hurting. It’s actually a pleasant smell, very clean but he’s passed me like 100 times today and now it’s getting to me. Ugh…it’s either funk or perfume….I feel like Charlie Brown. I better be thankful cause funkmiester will be back tomorrow :evil:

I know ya’ll think I’m mean really I’m not…ain’t that right Purple :)

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
4:48 pm

We went from “what’s your number” to “panties.”

Almost the same thing…(LOLOL).

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
4:49 pm

Wait, they’re playing it again, it could have been someone in Michael Baisden’s office that screamed when the verdict was heard cuz I realize it was him I was hearing “hushing” her up.

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
4:49 pm

Well, at least you don’t share an office with some smokers but the one closes to me smells not only like cigs but like a hot closed up attic full of wet cardboard boxes. —-> to the corner I go again

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
4:50 pm

“We went from “what’s your number” to “panties”

So we’ve come Full Circle :lol:

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
4:51 pm

Just about, SlimNu, just about (lol).

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
4:51 pm

Was that PR that said something about sucking a chicks panty juice or was that swiss?

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
4:53 pm

I think it was swiss, cuz we sho know it wasn’t Ex!

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
4:55 pm

Knowing Ex, he probably makes Queen remove the draws herself. Be like, naw that touched the secret garden, I’m not touching that!!

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
4:56 pm

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
4:56 pm

Hipsters are so comfortable.

Yes they are and very lady like too…

That was probably PR AND Swiss that said…horny jokers

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
4:57 pm

I’d be nauseated (like today) from the smell of stale smoke. Ugh

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
4:59 pm

Changed my EOD at the last minute

There is no security on this Earth. There are only opportunities.

PEACE!

shaboo

November 8th, 2011
6:58 pm

Need advice – I’ve been seeing a guy (52) for over two years. We have kept it low key because we have both been hurt badly in the past but we were SUPPOSE to be exclusive. I got a call last night from “the other woman.” She called because he wouldn’t send things we me when she pushed him to.

I’m wondering if I will ever find a faithful man. My exhusband cheated after being married 21 years.

Advice…be kind I’m pretty beat up today.