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Dating: Ready to hear the magic number?

The next time you get the crazy idea to bring up the “magic number”, really think carefully if it’s worth it. It is important to have an honest discussion about your partner’s sexual health, but too much detail could end up being problematic.

I know we all say we are mature enough to handle info about our partner’s past, but the reality is, that’s not always the case. One thing we seem to get hung up on is not knowing about the context of the number. You wonder if there were multiple relationships or multiple hook-ups – or both. As soon as we get the digits (digit?), we start doing the mental math of how many partners, per year of sexual activity.

The number starts doing a number on the relationship and then there is trouble in paradise. I have seen it happen a lot! So are you really ready to talk about the magic number or do you just think you are?

How do you handle the discussion of the magic number? Do you opt for full disclosure or do you go the “need to know” route?

Have you ever told someone you were dating your actual magic number or did you fudge the numbers to appear less or more?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating

246 comments Add your comment

kimmie

November 7th, 2011
4:10 pm

disco – LOL!!! Hey, the pot can’t call the kettle black on ANY of those shows!!

kimmie

November 7th, 2011
4:12 pm

I tell you who comes off sweet and that’s La La Anthony. I’ve seen her show a few times. At least she IS a real WIFE!

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
4:13 pm

Leggs – Nice summation lol

Didn’t Doug Christie and Jackie split? Or did I just make that up?

Man oh man, I saw the Wendy Williams episode where she interviewed Draya from BBWLA…she was so disrespectful towards her…even asked her about being a ‘trick’… really!

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
4:13 pm

Random – The beginning drum beat on Rolling in the Deep always remind of the drum beat in the movie Jumanji…ALWAYS make me think of that movie.

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
4:14 pm

Everybody’s got a hustle.

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
4:16 pm

I love Adele’s voice

SexyCool

November 7th, 2011
4:17 pm

I think I posted something about not being into toys and not buying them from Kandi if I were, but don’t know what happened to the post.

At any rate, Miss Lawrence (I think that’s his name) is quite disturbing to me. And no, I didn’t watch the show last night, but I did have some of the preview shows on as background noise yesterday afternoon. And it seems as if there was something mentioned that I could probably use in my day to day life, but right this moment, I cannot remember what that was to save life or limb.

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
4:18 pm

@Celisea ~ that’s my ring tone. First ever ringtone.

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
4:19 pm

I must admit, some of those toys look down right dangerous or just plain scary

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
4:20 pm

Conrad has been found GUILTY of involuntary manslaughter.

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
4:21 pm

@SexyC ~ Miss Lawrence may be trying to walk in the footsteps of Derek. The plump hairdresser who always wears pumps. There’s an interesting story as to how he started wearing pumps.

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
4:22 pm

Leggs – That doesn’t surprise me…he was recklace with regards to the practices outside of a hospital with adequate monitoring devices.

RIP MJ Hee HEE ;-)

SexyCool

November 7th, 2011
4:22 pm

Conrad Murray guilty…

SexyCool

November 7th, 2011
4:23 pm

oh..well…lol…

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
4:24 pm

withOUT oops

Interesting pumps story? I’ve never heard it…

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
4:25 pm

Miss Lawrence (I think that’s his name)

He’s freaking nightmare….scary is minimum.

Awww mayne, I feel like they needed to blame somebody, anybody for MJ’s death.

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
4:25 pm

Next time, SexyC…LOL

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
4:26 pm

And a chunky dude in pumps should be a violation of something..anything

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
4:27 pm

Celisea – Well you can’t put the violation under Man Law codes because i’m sure that would start a riot. lol

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
4:28 pm

Derek was going out one evening with friends and something happened with his shoes (regular men’s shoes at that time). The only pair available were a pair of his female friends pumps. He liked the look and the rest is history….that’s the short version (the only verion I remember).

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
4:29 pm

LOLOL…A chunky dude in pumps no doubts automatically defaults to violations of all rules.

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
4:29 pm

They just read the verdict, someone tried to screamed but was hushed. Wonder who that was?

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
4:30 pm

Could have been LaToya.

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
4:32 pm

Not being mean, but it’s a wonder Derek doesn’t start a fire between his legs with his pigeon-toed self….

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
4:34 pm

Derek was going out one evening with friends and something happened with his shoes (regular men’s shoes at that time). The only pair available were a pair of his female friends pumps. He liked the look and the rest is history….that’s the short version (the only verion I remember).

OMG…LOL That’s like running out of undies and feeling okay with a man’s short/bvds/boxers…whatever and feeling okay with “manly” vibe in them. Like an epiphany happens and you realize you was made for them and never want to return to panties again.

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
4:35 pm

I hope I don’t offend anyone but that dude should be taken out back and worked over (i.e. beaten) for feeling okay with pumps. IJS That might be severe but c’mon you feel okay and never want to return again? I saw that dude in pumps and he looked awfully uncomfortable.

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
4:37 pm

@Celisea ~ that may not be as far fetched as you think….boy shorts!!!!

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
4:39 pm

Well, I like to lounge around in the Hanes boxer briefs for women and I never feel manly. It might be the fact that the womens’ briefs don’t have that opening in the front for a person to drain their weasel lol

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
4:39 pm

You might have a point there Leggs. I have many pairs of boy shorts. I guess though when I think men’s shorts/briefs and that example I was thinking about a woman feeling like the cup is cool…lol

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
4:40 pm

I wear boy shorts and hipsters. I cannot do undies that go over my belly button. I think those or anything past the belly button are officially “granny panties” I don’t like french cut either

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
4:44 pm

Hipsters are so comfortable.

disco

November 7th, 2011
4:44 pm

granny panties? i think of mama flora’s family when old boy said he was just trying to buy his wife a nice pair of bloomers.

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
4:44 pm

Okay…another smell (and no I’m not crazy)…the dude in the office right next to the ballplayer is an older dude. Nice as ever. Very quiet and everybody loves loves loves him. Okay he’s wearing something today that’s got the left side of my head hurting. It’s actually a pleasant smell, very clean but he’s passed me like 100 times today and now it’s getting to me. Ugh…it’s either funk or perfume….I feel like Charlie Brown. I better be thankful cause funkmiester will be back tomorrow :evil:

I know ya’ll think I’m mean really I’m not…ain’t that right Purple :)

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
4:48 pm

We went from “what’s your number” to “panties.”

Almost the same thing…(LOLOL).

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
4:49 pm

Wait, they’re playing it again, it could have been someone in Michael Baisden’s office that screamed when the verdict was heard cuz I realize it was him I was hearing “hushing” her up.

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
4:49 pm

Well, at least you don’t share an office with some smokers but the one closes to me smells not only like cigs but like a hot closed up attic full of wet cardboard boxes. —-> to the corner I go again

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
4:50 pm

“We went from “what’s your number” to “panties”

So we’ve come Full Circle :lol:

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
4:51 pm

Just about, SlimNu, just about (lol).

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
4:51 pm

Was that PR that said something about sucking a chicks panty juice or was that swiss?

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
4:53 pm

I think it was swiss, cuz we sho know it wasn’t Ex!

SlimNu

November 7th, 2011
4:55 pm

Knowing Ex, he probably makes Queen remove the draws herself. Be like, naw that touched the secret garden, I’m not touching that!!

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
4:56 pm

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
4:56 pm

Hipsters are so comfortable.

Yes they are and very lady like too…

That was probably PR AND Swiss that said…horny jokers

Celisea

November 7th, 2011
4:57 pm

I’d be nauseated (like today) from the smell of stale smoke. Ugh

Leggs

November 7th, 2011
4:59 pm

Changed my EOD at the last minute

There is no security on this Earth. There are only opportunities.

PEACE!

shaboo

November 8th, 2011
6:58 pm

Need advice – I’ve been seeing a guy (52) for over two years. We have kept it low key because we have both been hurt badly in the past but we were SUPPOSE to be exclusive. I got a call last night from “the other woman.” She called because he wouldn’t send things we me when she pushed him to.

I’m wondering if I will ever find a faithful man. My exhusband cheated after being married 21 years.

Advice…be kind I’m pretty beat up today.