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What really attracts a man?

There was a poll of about 20, 000 men to find out what they were attracted to. The results listed the top traits that most men put at the top for initial attraction:

1. Sexual chemistry
2. Smile
3. Kindness
4. Sense of humor
5. General body type
6. Eyes
7. Intelligence
8. Communication skills
9. Teeth/Lips
10. Hair

The list of traits that men are attracted to for “long term”:
1. Kindness
2. Sense of humor
3. Communication skills
4. Sexual prowess
5. Intelligence
6. Smile
7. Listening skills
8. Money/Wealth
9. General body type/fitness
10. Eyes

I have to admit, I expected body type to be at the very top but I am not surprised it’s listed in the top 10. Also, men are into eyes? Who knew! I believe that if women were polled, a lot of the same traits would be listed, but it is hard to predict how they would rank the traits.

Guys do you agree with the lists? Do you have others that should be placed on the list?

I think a lot of us are attracted to the same traits, but do we actually possess the traits we seek out? Do you think that what attracts you initially is similar to what you are attracted for the long term?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

367 comments Add your comment

Leggs

November 3rd, 2011
5:08 pm

That was for you Reio! Kindness is front and center.

Into the Light

November 3rd, 2011
5:08 pm

Seeing “apathetic” reminds me of what someone said the other day. She said that many people think the opposite of love is hate, but the opposite of love is really indifference.

Interesting thought….

disco

November 3rd, 2011
5:10 pm

aww nawww. not running for the gun line. here I go “swing low, sweet chariot, coming for to carry me home”

disco

November 3rd, 2011
5:12 pm

leggs – that one sounds like a shorter version that I hear a lot. “if you aren’t adding or multiplying, you are subtracting or dividing”

SexyCool

November 3rd, 2011
5:13 pm

ITL – I used to say that on here all the time. (lol) There was somebody that used to be on here that would argue me down about the love/hate/indifference of it all.

Into the Light

November 3rd, 2011
5:23 pm

I can see the validity of her point, SCool, especially if you approach it from the perspective that hate is as passionate as love, but indifference is a complete lack of love or hate.

i'm swiss™

November 3rd, 2011
5:28 pm

“I can see the validity of her point, SCool, especially if you approach it from the perspective that hate is as passionate as love, but indifference is a complete lack of love or hate”

ITL — That would seem to contradict the assertion. Love and hate are, as you say, both intense passions, but they are on opposite ends of the spectrum — one intensely positive the other intensely negative. Thus, they are opposites. Indifference, then, lies directly between the two opposites, being the complete lack of passion.

Into the Light

November 3rd, 2011
5:30 pm

That is true, Swiss, if you are thinking of love and hate on a linear spectrum. But consider a circular scale (i.e. “there is a fine line between love and hate”)

i'm swiss™

November 3rd, 2011
5:34 pm

I think I need some weed to continue this discussion. :lol:

i'm swiss™

November 3rd, 2011
5:36 pm

[puff, puff] But what if the scale were a rhombus, dude?

Into the Light

November 3rd, 2011
5:47 pm

LOL@Smarta$$ Swiss. A rhombus! How about a parallelogram?

Seriously, though, what if the scale is circular??? 360 degrees (and not of Kevin Bacon). Ooooh, bacon…bet that gives you the munchies, huh? :lol:

Reio

November 3rd, 2011
5:53 pm

Any movement on a circular scale, in any direction, will send one away from, and towards, the starting point simultaneously. If that makes any sense.

Into the Light

November 3rd, 2011
6:01 pm

It makes complete sense, Reio. I’m suggesting that love and hate are directly next to each other on the circular scale and movement away from one, takes you toward the other. But directly opposite (at 180, if you will) is indifference.

Reio

November 3rd, 2011
6:06 pm

So, on a 180 scale, indifference, is at the absolute middle?

Into the Light

November 3rd, 2011
6:09 pm

We may be pushing the limits of my mathematical skills. I’m suggesting that on a 360 scale, if 180 is opposite, then indifference is at 180 and love and hate are at 359 and 001, respectively. The 360 is the gray area, that “fine line between love and hate” you always hear about.

Into the Light

November 3rd, 2011
6:14 pm

A rhombus! How about a parallelogram?

See? Duh! Every rhombus is a parallelogram. That’s what I get for trying to be mathematically savvy and funny! :lol:

Into the Light

November 4th, 2011
8:24 am

(ITL sneaking in the back door, lighting a candle…..)

Hellur??????