What really attracts a man?
There was a poll of about 20, 000 men to find out what they were attracted to. The results listed the top traits that most men put at the top for initial attraction:
1. Sexual chemistry
2. Smile
3. Kindness
4. Sense of humor
5. General body type
6. Eyes
7. Intelligence
8. Communication skills
9. Teeth/Lips
10. Hair
The list of traits that men are attracted to for “long term”:
1. Kindness
2. Sense of humor
3. Communication skills
4. Sexual prowess
5. Intelligence
6. Smile
7. Listening skills
8. Money/Wealth
9. General body type/fitness
10. Eyes
I have to admit, I expected body type to be at the very top but I am not surprised it’s listed in the top 10. Also, men are into eyes? Who knew! I believe that if women were polled, a lot of the same traits would be listed, but it is hard to predict how they would rank the traits.
Guys do you agree with the lists? Do you have others that should be placed on the list?
I think a lot of us are attracted to the same traits, but do we actually possess the traits we seek out? Do you think that what attracts you initially is similar to what you are attracted for the long term?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Leggs
November 3rd, 2011
3:16 pm
He may not even be pining, just sitting over there plotting to see if he can get to her and make her weak at the knees…
SlimNu
November 3rd, 2011
3:17 pm
Leggs – I think that him having pics up of me was just a ploy for the chicks he deals with to see he’s not looking to get serious with them, only to get Busy with them. lol (and I’m not even kidding) Plus I could never understand why a chick would mess with a dude who had pics of some random chick around his house…
Leggs
November 3rd, 2011
3:18 pm
Either reason, SlimNu, would have me leaving.
men lie, women lie
November 3rd, 2011
3:19 pm
my bad was working a lil, but I APPRECIATE everyone on this blog ya’ll keep it 100 and thats what’s NEEDED, thanks
Mo (aka Moeisha)
November 3rd, 2011
3:21 pm
Celisea – yeah had to have something entertaining to watch, braiding takes too long!!
Celisea
November 3rd, 2011
3:21 pm
Yes yes MLWL, if you’re looking for honesty and keeping it 100, you’re in the right place…lol
kimmie
November 3rd, 2011
3:21 pm
Slim – Oh. Now THAT would be a technological breakthru with cell phones if you could!LOL!!
That is creepy though, the pic he sent.
Celisea
November 3rd, 2011
3:23 pm
Mo – Exactly…no such thing as going to the shop and having it done. You got braids done at home. My kid hair was almost to her waist before her perm and I use to braid her hair. Folks would as if a shop did it. Ut uh, I got the phone book (or in her case, the chair to her table and chairs…tea time), put in a movie and braided away…lol
For Real
November 3rd, 2011
3:23 pm
1. A pic of Slim
2. Quite secluded place
3. Freshly washed towel
17 seconds of bliss!!!
Leggs
November 3rd, 2011
3:25 pm
I am struggling, really struggling to stay awake. The heater under my desk isn’t helping matters.
kimmie
November 3rd, 2011
3:32 pm
Leggs, you’ve made it too cozy to work!
SlimNu
November 3rd, 2011
3:33 pm
Foe Real – i’m not sure I could handle 17 seconds of anything with you. I’d probably wake up hanging upside down in a tree with 12 bangles around my ankles, a banana peel in my pocket and a melted snickers bar stuck to my back.
Leggs
November 3rd, 2011
3:33 pm
I suppose so, kimmie.
i'm swiss™
November 3rd, 2011
3:35 pm
Slim — I’m pretty sure that mental image you just provided is all For Real needs to achieve his 17 seconds of bliss. Or at least, that’s all I needed… Thanks, BTW…
kimmie
November 3rd, 2011
3:35 pm
Slim, you bout as funny as 4 Real!
SlimNu
November 3rd, 2011
3:36 pm
kimmie/Leggs – Plus the clouds have rolled in and it’s making it feel like I should be at home on the couch under a blanket dozing off. Only 85 minutes to go till quitting time
For Real
November 3rd, 2011
3:36 pm
Slim: But you will feel wonderful and you will not be pregnant. Sticky, dazed,confused and wondering if God will forgive you? Yes! Pregnant? No!
Celisea
November 3rd, 2011
3:42 pm
Not bangles, banana peel and a melted snickers…LOL Oh and 17 seconds.
Into the Light
November 3rd, 2011
3:42 pm
LOL@Slim. My co-workers are looking at me like, “What the french is so funny over there?!?”
SlimNu
November 3rd, 2011
3:42 pm
For Real – Silly, you know I know I wouldn’t end up pregnant. You must’ve forgotten that I lost my ovaries in the truth or dare game with you that included a unicycle and a shake weight a few years back.
Celisea
November 3rd, 2011
3:43 pm
Okay on this call….why are folks so quick to want to “escalate” on other folks. That mess is just wrong. Everybody tryna sell their own self all the while selling out others. Dang shame.
Sorry, just heard some of these biddies tryna sell their own product
SlimNu
November 3rd, 2011
3:44 pm
swiss – Would you like to clean up with the 12year old rag? It maybe a little stiff but it’s nothing a little dab of water couldn’t cure
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 3rd, 2011
3:45 pm
That is creepy though, the pic he sent
Yeah that’s kinda cute but more on the creepy side since he sent a pic… Just hope he wasn’t playing Breathe Again in the background.
Side note: Vivica might have to pull a Halle and find her a stud for a baby daddy since her and her boy candy Slim broke up….
Celisea
November 3rd, 2011
3:46 pm
Heard that this morning…about Vivica. She’s had too much plastic surgery (that was just a side note I threw up in my comment)
Into the Light
November 3rd, 2011
3:47 pm
Swiss – the rag will be easy to find; it’s the one standing in the corner staring at you.
i'm swiss™
November 3rd, 2011
3:48 pm
No, thank you, Slim, that won’t be necessary. I always carry my own. You never know when the urge may strike.
SlimNu
November 3rd, 2011
3:49 pm
ITL
swiss – You carry your own stiff towel?
Exiled!
November 3rd, 2011
3:50 pm
Slim?
Ur attempt to explain why u don’t want him but still caring for him is the reason why most savvy men don’t close deals with exes.
U such caring species!
O/T
a day like today,weatherwise, is when a single and Independent chic tosses that rabbit away in frustrastion coz it just can’t give her that warm coziness in the covers she needs.
Ogh well!
Into the Light
November 3rd, 2011
3:50 pm
swiss – You carry your own stiff towel?
Looks like a flying carpet…
Celisea
November 3rd, 2011
3:52 pm
a day like today, weatherwise…….tosses that rabbit away in frustrastion
What does this mean? Just screw cause it’s cold or raining?
i'm swiss™
November 3rd, 2011
3:53 pm
Slim — Indeeeeeeeed….
SlimNu
November 3rd, 2011
3:55 pm
ITL – With the weight of that thang, i’m not it would get off the ground that easily….sinking submarine may be more appropriate lol
Exiled – Care as in I don’t wish any ill will on him but not care as in, I wanna jump your bones because you sending me that 12yr old number has turned me on And creeped me out all at the same time
Leggs
November 3rd, 2011
3:56 pm
What’s wrong, Ex…you whimpering because you won’t be called on from one of those single independent chicks. Sure, Queen is your rock, but you shouldn’t even be thinking about this whether an independent single chicks (lol)…
@Celisea ~ EXACTLY. Just throw caution to the wind because this is sleeping weather….yeah right.
kimmie
November 3rd, 2011
3:57 pm
Sassy/Celisea – I think V is still in love with 50 cent.
Yeah, crazy I know.
Celisea
November 3rd, 2011
3:58 pm
Leggs – And good sleeping weather means GOOD SLEEPING WEATHER…lol Mmeelloo is warped in his thinking…lol
Celisea
November 3rd, 2011
3:59 pm
Kimmie – I agree. That’s that young (for her) thug love that got next to her. Can’t shake it.
SlimNu
November 3rd, 2011
4:00 pm
swiss – For whatever reason, I just pictured you saying Indeeeeed with your pinky up to the corner of your mouth like Austin Powers. The only difference is, instead of a Mini Me next to you, your stiff towel shares the seat beside you.
i'm swiss™
November 3rd, 2011
4:02 pm
Slim — Are you spying on me?
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 3rd, 2011
4:03 pm
I think V is still in love with 50 cent.
uhh huh…him and that good ole ghetto D
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 3rd, 2011
4:04 pm
you whimpering because you won’t be called on from one of those single independent chicks.
SlimNu
November 3rd, 2011
4:05 pm
swiss – Yeah, I drilled a peephole in your rag.
Any of yall been to the restaurant Wild Fire out in the Perimeter area?
men lie, women lie
November 3rd, 2011
4:08 pm
Into the Light
November 3rd, 2011
3:50 pm
swiss – You carry your own stiff towel?
Looks like a flying carpet…
LOL like the one in Aladdin
i'm swiss™
November 3rd, 2011
4:10 pm
“Yeah, I drilled a peephole in your rag”
Slim — I believe the correct term is “glory hole”
DreamsMaterialize
November 3rd, 2011
4:13 pm
Any of yall been to the restaurant Wild Fire out in the Perimeter area?
Slim I’ve been there.
Celisea
November 3rd, 2011
4:15 pm
Dreams – What’s up?
Leggs
November 3rd, 2011
4:16 pm
@DreamsM – that is funny. Pretty sure she wanted a little more feedback that that.
Leggs
November 3rd, 2011
4:17 pm
But, you did answer the question.
DreamsMaterialize
November 3rd, 2011
4:18 pm
Celisea I’m good. How’s everything on your end? I see you been tied up in conference. Just got off one myself…excuses, a$$ covering, and getting thrown under the bus. All in a day’s work.
Celisea
November 3rd, 2011
4:19 pm
Dreams – We must be on the same call….lol I’m still on though
Celisea
November 3rd, 2011
4:21 pm
Dreams did ya’ll have a visual? I don’t mean to be mean but I’ve been looking at the cleavages of 200/300 pound women for a couple days now. Oh and . That’s ain’t cute.