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What are irreconcilable differences, anyway?

If you have not heard the shocking news, a reality tv show star is divorcing her athlete husband of a whopping 72 days. I know, it’s become downright strange to watch the circus that is surrounding this entire pop culture phenomenon. You are probably like me, tired of seeing the letter K, right?

I have read a lot of commentary about this entertainment news story, but I can’t figure out why people are trying to find meaning in it. I mean, the behavior of celebrities and public figures doesn’t always reflect on what we do and think in the real world does it?

In this case, though, I have to acknowledge that a lot of us are marrying for the wrong reasons and many are divorcing quite quickly. There even seemed to be a trend of having “starter marriages” to sort of try on marriage like it’s something we may or may not keep. When things don’t go like we want or expect, then everyone likes to site irreconcilable differences. A legal term that is about as vague as Herman Cain’s debate responses.

What are irreconcilable differences, anyway? It seems that going into a marriage with a distorted view of what marriage is supposed to be has convinced us that it’s not worth the work it takes to make it last.

Do you think that you know – definitively, what is irreconcilable to you? Would you be able to know when it is clearly over?

Why do you think our marriages have such weak foundations (not referring to the Hollywood ones) today that cause them to come undone?

By Wise Diva, Misadventure in Atlanta Dating Blog

246 comments Add your comment

Exiled!

November 1st, 2011
1:53 pm

1:45 is not right!

That’s why God gave the body a chute out option. If u get too full,u gotta breathe from down below.:lol:

Divorce has to be on the virtual table.

No consequences No reward!

Leggs

November 1st, 2011
1:54 pm

I said I wasn’t going to attend, but have since changed my mind. We are having an ice cream social here in 8 mins. I’ve been wanting some icream with pecan chips all month (well all last month). I going to have some today. May even through in some other toppings…

@SexyC ~ that definitely is not a good endorsement. :lol: :lol: :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 1st, 2011
1:55 pm

Im getting married 8 more times.. Liz Taylor-ish

Kym

November 1st, 2011
1:55 pm

I wanted to see the first one..where she talks about the weight loss and ego and anger..

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 1st, 2011
1:56 pm

No actually.. I dont wanna get married again.. I just wanna have me an old school companion.. She’s in the will and Im in her will.. We have an understanding and thats that. Come on with it let me hear it..

Leggs

November 1st, 2011
1:56 pm

@SexyC ~ meaning you falling asleep after watching the show for 3 mins. Not the same when a comment appears on a separate page than the original comment.

SexyCool

November 1st, 2011
2:01 pm

LOL – I understood.

Exiled!

November 1st, 2011
2:02 pm

DK!

that’s not a bad arrangement,in fact it is good.

The one bad thing about getting old being solo is the lack of companionship and one to make u some soup when u catch a cold,rub yr feet or swing to the movies with.

Having to sign in a new partner eve now and then or keep a rotation is just too much juvenile work.

You got my endorsement!

kimmie

November 1st, 2011
2:06 pm

On this being friends before & during marriage thing, I gotta agree.

I have to want to be with you thru the good times if I’m going to sign up to be with you thru the bad.

Might not make sense to some, but that’s how I think.

SlimNu

November 1st, 2011
2:41 pm

Soo, how did Halloween go last night for the folks that participated?

kimmie

November 1st, 2011
2:48 pm

Slim – We had fun last night. Baby girl was a vampire cheerleader and boy was some kind of zombie ninja. SO was the grim reaper, complete with scary eyes that lit up and I was a sexy vampiress. I got sick of my fangs though. They kinda stuck out like buck teeth and were not comfortable. Not very sexy!!

SexyCool

November 1st, 2011
2:49 pm

Slim – From my FB status last night – “Apparently, all of the kids in my neighborhood were dressed as “neighborhood kids” for Halloween. Since they didn’t bother with costumes, I don’t feel bad that I didn’t bother to buy any candy.”

Oh…this morning, there are candy wrappers everydamnwhere…

Leggs

November 1st, 2011
2:57 pm

“neighborhood kids” for Halloween. Since they didn’t bother with costumes,…

This made me laugh and want to pluck someone at the same time. No constume NO CANDY!!!!

Leggs

November 1st, 2011
2:57 pm

And, they didn’t have any nuts for my ice cream!!!

Celisea

November 1st, 2011
3:00 pm

neighborhood kids” for Halloween. Since they didn’t bother with costumes,…

lolololol

Celisea

November 1st, 2011
3:03 pm

Apparently, all of the kids in my neighborhood were dressed as “neighborhood kids” for Halloween. Since they didn’t bother with costumes, I don’t feel bad that I didn’t bother to buy any candy.”

I’m in a meeting….ya’ll can’t just have these kind of comments on the screen unexpectedly….

Leggs

November 1st, 2011
3:05 pm

Blogging is the best way to stay awake at some of these meetings…..IJS!!!

Exiled!

November 1st, 2011
3:05 pm

I switched off the front porch lights when the door bell rung

SlimNu

November 1st, 2011
3:06 pm

SC – I think I put something similar on my fb status. I just saw kids with bookbags on walking in the damn street like I won’t run them over. lol Then someone had the nerve to ring the doorbell at almost 10 last night. HELLO? It’s a freaking School night!

SlimNu

November 1st, 2011
3:08 pm

I was at the beau’s crib at first when the Trick or treating began. Please tell me why they were ringing the doorbell AND knocking like they got locked out of the house or something. Fool’s knocking like the police

Leggs

November 1st, 2011
3:09 pm

That’s not the way to do it, Ex….you purposely wanted to be mean!

Celisea

November 1st, 2011
3:12 pm

Blogging is the best way to stay awake at some of these meetings

You’re right Leggs…I laughed out…:(

I was not home but at my mom’s. My kid was at rehearsal. They didn’t have candy so when the first person knocked, I didn’t go to the door. I just yelled “they forgot to get candy” and he yelled back “okaaay”…lol

Celisea

November 1st, 2011
3:13 pm

The little snot that went missing because he left the house without permission (he was being punished), should have had a hole torn out of his frame. For making the news if no other reason.

Leggs

November 1st, 2011
3:17 pm

@Celisea ~ when they said he was carrying a bag of some sort, perhaps to trick or treat I immediately thought he ran away.

Leggs

November 1st, 2011
3:20 pm

Now, now, attend the meeting, but don’t draw attention to yourself. Stop that laughing and stop all that taping on your phone (esp. if no one else is tapping).

I was coming out of my house to run across to my neighbor’s house. When I opened the door a little girl was standing there. I told her I didn’t have any candy and she pouted and turned to the car saying “I told you mommy, the light was off for a reason!” I gave her a dollar.

Celisea

November 1st, 2011
3:20 pm

Leggs – I didn’t know what to think. I was scared for him. I hope he got it. His parents said no to TT because of his lack in school work and went anyway. Little snot.

Exiled!

November 1st, 2011
3:21 pm

No!

I purposely wanted to give the sign that we don’t trick/treat but had forgotten to turn them off earlier.

The knock on the door brought a ‘HELLO! Kinda realization.

Reio

November 1st, 2011
3:23 pm

Just dropped in, been laid up(surgery) lately. What is this “little snot” stuff about?

Celisea

November 1st, 2011
3:25 pm

Reio – Hope you feeling better/well. Some kid went missing because he went TT against his parent’s permission and made the news

Leggs

November 1st, 2011
3:25 pm

I was scared thinking someone is might brazen to snatch a kid on Halloween with so many adults on alert either from the window, driveway, garage, etc.

So he took it upon himself to go trick or treating after his parents said no. The kids these days don’t really know what it means to have a sore a$$!!

Like that 7-year old that took his family’s car on a joy ride (driving extremely well and fast) all because he didn’t want to go to church. Cops were in disbelief when he jumped out from behind the wheel. Both need beatings down to the white meat! They need to feel the difference between a whipping and a sure nuf whuupping….

SlimNu

November 1st, 2011
3:26 pm

Random: I wonder how many folks got served with court papers yesterday thinking it was just a trick or treater knocking?

No offense on “out of towners” but there are some folks in my office right now that don’t smell very nice. My senses are offended right now.

Leggs

November 1st, 2011
3:27 pm

@Ex. Oh, it didn’t come across like that. That was still mean, because although that was your reminder, you could have opened the door or talked through the door that you don’t have any candy. Turning the lights off while they’re on your step is like throwing a piece of coal in their bag.

Reio

November 1st, 2011
3:28 pm

Celisea – I see. How old is he, by the way?

SexyCool

November 1st, 2011
3:29 pm

You know I read that story thinking, “No, this little mphcka didn’t just take his OWN ass trick or treating.” I would have called someone to make sure they had bail money for how bad I tore his tail UP!!! I wanna whup him and he ain’t even my kid.

Exiled!

November 1st, 2011
3:31 pm

No offense to’ out of towners’

@Slim?

meaning ‘out of towners’ routinely smell foul?

You offensive to my kntry sensibilities!

kimmie

November 1st, 2011
3:31 pm

Leggs – That was so sweet, you giving that little girl a dollar!

Leggs

November 1st, 2011
3:31 pm

Nevermind, Ex. I don’t know why I typed that…I know you don’t care.

Exiled!

November 1st, 2011
3:32 pm

Leggs?

that’s my property ya naw!

Leggs

November 1st, 2011
3:34 pm

@kimmie ~ I immediately put myself in that little girl’s shoes. I can see me walking back to the car almost annoyed because I told Mama that house didn’t have any candy, but she wouldn’t listen to me. I had to give her something because she was me (lol)…

Celisea

November 1st, 2011
3:35 pm

You know I read that story thinking, “No, this little mphcka didn’t just take his OWN ass trick or treating.” I would have called someone to make sure they had bail money for how bad I tore his tail UP!!! I wanna whup him and he ain’t even my kid.

……..and again..LOL…I smirked and some of the laugh came out. I’m already the only one typing in the middle of hte meeting.

Reio – 10

SexyCool

November 1st, 2011
3:35 pm

I was sitting on my couch with the porch lights and every other light in the house off. I didn’t even have the t.v. on. Sitting there, thinking, “It’s a damn shame that I’m hiding from some kids in my own damn house.” (lol)

Fortunately, the doorbell only rang twice. But with all of the folks walking by so close to the house, GiGi was still about to lose it. She can sense when people are close to the house…and she doesn’t like it.

Leggs

November 1st, 2011
3:35 pm

Of course it’s your property. That’s not what we, well not what I’m talking about and you know it. I was coming from a sensitive place…has nothing to do with who the heck pays the mortgage.

Reio

November 1st, 2011
3:37 pm

Well my youngest went TTing last evening. Came back with a pillowcase full of stuff. Yes a pillowcase, wish I had thought of that when I was his age. Anyway, we had to take his stuff, cause while he was out, his school bus driver called and said that my son and a few others refused to be quiet on the way home, and will kick him off the bus if he continues. Always something, it seems.

Leggs

November 1st, 2011
3:39 pm

I was sitting on my couch with the porch lights and every other light in the house off. I didn’t even have the t.v. on. Sitting there, thinking, “It’s a damn shame that I’m hiding from some kids in my own damn house.” (lol)

I was asked if I was going to turn off my lights, and I said NOPE. Not going to sit in the dark in my own home because I didn’t buy candy. Plus DWTS was on when they were doing their tricking and treating (lol)….Porch light automatically mean this house is the dead zone. I almost didn’t want to put the light on over the garage, but it’s mighty dark in the cul-de-sac. My doorbell didn’t ring at all. It would have rung once, but I had alrady opened the door to go out.

SlimNu

November 1st, 2011
3:40 pm

Exiled – You know certain cultures have different practices. I’m merely stating that the particular people who have different practices have an odor that is a bit off putting at the moment. So I only stated out of towners as a loose way to describe them…But again, no offense…

Exiled!

November 1st, 2011
3:41 pm

Hmmmmff Leggs.

do u always like to have the last word!?

u see why some man wld hazard throwing a woman in a pool..

:lol: :lol:

Exiled!

November 1st, 2011
3:42 pm

I was kidding Slim

Leggs too

:lol:

SexyCool

November 1st, 2011
3:46 pm

TheDude is working at night right now, so…a LOT of the tv watching that we were doing has been replaced by me being online. So…I actually wouldn’t have had the tv on anyway. But I did consciously not turn on as many lights.

SlimNu

November 1st, 2011
3:57 pm

Exiled – You little stinker you…well not literally but you know what I meant lol

Into the Light

November 1st, 2011
3:59 pm

Afternoon, all!

I love handing out candy. But I will say this: if you are over 16 and a foot taller than I am – get a job and buy your own candy!! I swear I had entire families at the door!