A guy once told me that he was advised by his mother to never give women money. It seems to be a way to suss out which women wanted him as a sponsor instead of a partner. If a man showed no desire to help a woman out financially, would that be a sign that he is smart or inconsiderate?

Women today generally prefer to hold their own financially. I don’t know a lot of women who have a salary requirement for the men that they date. I wonder if they would look to test a man to see if he would be a good provider, though. How important is being a provider to women?

Do you think men today use wealth to attract women?

Guys, what are your thoughts about your money and your confidence? Are the two related?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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There is an ongoing debate whether women can’t handle strictly physical relationships. Some believe that women can do it – but not for extended periods of time. Others believe that women “convince” themselves that it is fine with them, while secretly holding out for a real romance to bud.

Let’s take a little totally unscientific poll here:

Do you believe that women can handle casual sex? In your experience, is it a good idea or bad idea?

Are there circumstances that casual sex with no strings attached recommended?

For the record, I believe it is completely possible to be involved with someone and not be emotionally attached. But enough about me. What do you think?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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One thing I know for sure is that the best dates are the ones where both people leave feeling like they have a great connection.

You can always take the easy route and plan for dinner and a movie. I’ve done that and had a wonderful time, mainly because there was intense chemistry. So is chemistry fundamental to a great date?

I think it is! A great date can be adventurous or quiet, romantic or playful, sexy or mysterious. If you don’t feel strong chemistry, chances are your great date won’t go beyond date one.

Should you go on a second date if the first date was fun but zero chemistry?

What do you think is the anatomy of a great date? What makes a date great in your opinion?

When was the last time you had a great date?!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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If you are perpetually single and want to get married, you may have to start sending out your “marriage material” signals. There are some people who do live their lives in a way that is conducive to marriage. Then there are others who talk, live, and conduct their lives in a way that screams “Single for life!” – and maybe that is turning people off.

When you first meet someone you are interested in, they may size you up and put you under “marriage material” scrutiny. How do you think you would come off? Single for life or ready for marriage?

Do you ever worry that your fabulous single life may send the message that you are not willing, ready, or able to give it up and merge with someone else?

What changes, if any, should be made so that you can prove that you are indeed ready for love and marriage?

P.S. I hope everyone has a safe and spectacular holiday!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Most of us have been subjected to the mixed signals of dating. You get a green light, then you get a red one. Things get red hot, then suddenly they turn cold. What gives?!

A friend of mine is dating a guy who only kicks up his efforts when she acts as if she is not interested in him. She will ignore his calls and text messages for a few days and put him on the back burner. That is when he kicks it into high gear and pursues her more. Their most romantic dates usually occur after she decides he is out of her life.

Perhaps it is about having a challenge; maybe he is dating multiple people and wants to keep her in the mix. Do you think that mixed signals is really just a sign that someone is being played?

What do you do when the person you are seeing starts to get a little flaky and inconsistent? If you really like them, do you try to be a little patient or can mixed signals be the deal breaker?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Have you ever been excited over a potential romance, started to feel hopeful, and later discovered they were less then truthful about who they are? The lies we tell only come back to haunt us, so why do we lie so much!?

What should you do if you catch the person you are dating in a lie? Not a huge, disturbing lie – but something small, insignificant? Is that a sign of a bigger problem with truth telling?

I know a lot of guys think lying is a part of relationships. They believe in order to keep the peace, it’s better to leave things out, conceal the truth. It’s a simpler way of dealing with the complicated part of dating and relationships.

How much truth can we handle in dating? Is lying a necessary evil that we all have to contend with just so we can hook up?

Happy Monday!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Sometimes the dating scene can be like sliding doors. We are constantly passing one another, rarely slowing down long enough to connect. What does it take to get the attention of someone you like? How do you get the “right” kind of attention?

When you don’t have a lot of confidence, it isn’t always easy to get the attention of someone you are interested in. If you are shy, especially a shy woman, it’s particularly difficult to stand out from the crowd. What get a man’s attention?

Ladies, what turns your head and get’s you interested?

When was the last time someone got your attention and made you take notice? What did they say or do to make you perk up?

Happy Friday!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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There is this perception that women today are treated with less chivalry. I always consider chivalry another form of kindness. I am optimistic and a bit of a romantic, so I don’t like the idea that women are treated with less kindness in today’s society.

When I am on Marta, I still see men giving up their seats to women and children. I still notice men taking up for their women if they notice any signs of disrespect. So when people ask what happened to chivalry, I like to answer with another question: What happened to kindness?

Do you believe that we are generally less kind to one another? If women are treated with less chivalry, do you think men are less appreciated?

How do you define chivalry? Do you think it is necessary and needed?

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A lot of new couples find out just how serious things are this time of year. When it is time to decide where you two will spend the holidays – together or apart, things get pretty clear.

Some people place a lot of meaning in meeting family members. If you are not invited to Thanksgiving dinner, should you be worried?

It depends, really! I believe that when the time is right, you will meet the family of the person you are seeing. It should not happen before you both feel ready to meet family.

I think that the important thing to remember is when and if you meet someone’s family, you have to be your authentic self. Don’t pretend to be someone you aren’t to impress them. Family members can spot a fake person from a mile away. Well, my family members can!

What do you think is important to know when you are ready to meet the family?

Have you ever dated someone who did not introduce you to their family? I know someone who dated a young woman for years and never met her …

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No one likes to be rejected. Unfortunately, it is a part of dating. It happens to everyone and the size of your ego determines how you are going to handle it when it happens. We try to tell ourselves that we are resilient, but every now and again..it kind of stings.

When you devote a lot of energy and effort to a budding romance and things fade to black, fizzle out, or worse they “trade up” to someone else, it’s hard not to take it personal!

How do you keep things in perspective when you feel slighted? Does it become easier to deal with rejection if you keep your ego in check?

How do you keep your ego in check when dating?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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