First date mistake: Booze
If you plan on going out on a date this weekend or attending a party, perhaps you should consider having a “dry” weekend. Some people handle their alcohol with no problem. They know their limitations, they know what to steer clear of and what is safe. Unfortunately, some people are oblivious to their tolerance level and they pick the wrong time to get the hard lesson: on a first date.
I have been out with someone who got sloppy drunk and as fine as he was to look at, after the 4th drink he got really unattractive. He was the type to become obnoxious and loud when he had a couple of drinks in him. Although it was eye opening, I wonder if it was better to learn this sooner or later?
When you go out with friends, do you have a couple of drinks socially? Do you avoid drinking on dates?
Have you ever been on a date with someone who had too much to drink and their personality changed for the worse?
P.S. What are your plans for the weekend? Whatever you do, be safe!
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Pinky
October 28th, 2011
9:58 am
@Kym…Its My Friday off Day, So I’m Gonna Cool out to some old Toni Braxton and Janet Jackson…Perfect music for this weather!
Kym
October 28th, 2011
10:00 am
@Mdot..well alright then..Have Fun! you know my son has fussed at me for listening to what he calls “his generation music” I told him you do know Jay-z is my age.
Thank God I'm Married!
October 28th, 2011
10:08 am
Back in my dating days, I went on a first date with a guy I met at a singles event. He didn’t seem to drink much at the “mixer” and although, you wouldn’t call him a hunk, he was an average-looking guy with an above-average personality, loved my kind of music and had a great sense of humor. Our first date, we went to a nearby park, paddled a canoe around the lake, and I brought us a picnic lunch and neither one of us drank. Second date, we took me to dinner and although he got a little tipsy, he was funny and I had a good time.
The third date, he bought tickets to see the Allman Brothers at the Fox Theater. Ready for an awesome evening, I dressed up, picked him up at his house and off we went. By the time the Allman Brothers got on stage, he had downed at least three beers and continued to go back for more. Midway through the concert he pulls out a fattie and lights it up in the Fox! Now granted, this was 12 or 13 years ago, and I’m not a prude about this, especially at a concert, but I was surprised by this. So by the time the concert was over, he could barely walk.
The building I had parked under was just a block away, so I held him up as he staggered down the sidewalk. Oh and the building I had parked at was also where I worked, so I had to drag him through the lobby slobbering, singing, laughing loudly and obviously wasted to get to my car. I took him home and headed out the front door as he was rummaging around in the frig for something to eat.
He was a happy, funny little drunk (reminded me of the movie Arthur) but that was our last date. I still have the picture in my head of him staggering out of the house with a piece of baloney hanging out of his mouth, wanting a kiss goodnight. (He didn’t get one). Too bad for him, I really, really liked him and had he chosen not to get plastered, I would have enjoyed getting together again.
M. (pronouced M dot)
October 28th, 2011
10:09 am
@Kym
Lol
@Leggs
@Slim
Exactly because when you drink and you are winding down, its you winding down but they may think something is wrong with you.
I took a lot of mixology classes and it is pretty cool do be able to make your own unique cocktails and something different than cranberry vodka. I came up with 3 new drink recipes for the new Ciroc Peach
-Peach Cosmo
-Frost
-French Kiss
For the drinkers, whats your favorite drink or spirit?
SlimNu
October 28th, 2011
10:09 am
Actually, many of us are over 30 but who’s counting.
I’ve never gotten drunk on a DATE, but I may have had one too many drinks hanging out with a buddy friend of mine. I ended up calling Earl at the end of the night. Good times!
disco
October 28th, 2011
10:10 am
kym – my son is the opposite. he listens to hip hop and other music but he’s very old school at heart. one morning he was getting ready for school and I heard him singing “you got to give the people, give the people what they want”. he was like 16. I thought it was hilarious. before he got his first car he always talked about playing roger troutman and zapp computer love (think he got that from menace to society but it still tickled me).
abc
October 28th, 2011
10:11 am
I don’t drink in public, period. Think drunk driving. Even 1 drink is too many to be driving, in my opinion — you’re a safety risk to yourself and everybody else. Going to kill somebody because you want to party?
Celisea
October 28th, 2011
10:12 am
Grown Up – If you aspire to “climb the career ladder”, you need to be able to handle a few drinks with “the boss”.
This is funny. You should think about what it means to be an adult. SUCKING UP ain’t it…lol Being able to have a few drinks and kiss azz don’t make you grown. I got a 26 and 31 year old right now buying into that bullcrap. You want to move up? Do it like most of us have done, earn it. No short cuts in life.
Celisea
October 28th, 2011
10:13 am
I got a 26 and 31 year old right now buying into that bullcrap.
That works in my group…not mine per se
DJ Sniper
October 28th, 2011
10:15 am
I’ve never gotten drunk on a date, nor have I ever been on a date with anyone who got drunk. I guess I’ve been lucky.
Wow, there’s someone on here who admits to wanting to see Twilight? lmao
MsMarriedUp
October 28th, 2011
10:15 am
I certainly should have held back on the drinks while…ugh…dating…, & not that I got sloppy drunk, but definitely didn’t help me learn to say no a whole lot, if ever. In fact, i don’t know what I was saying.
At least on the date that mattered, I was sober as water, though scared sH$$less too. Definitely could have used a drink that time, though I’m glad I didn’t.
i'm swiss™
October 28th, 2011
10:15 am
Pffft…. amateurs.
Some folks just can’t handle their liquor. Of course, there are some here on the ol’ blog that I’m pretty sure can hang with anyone — ahem — Leggs, Slim. And, of course, kimmie, being a UGA chica, I know you can hold it down… 
Kym
October 28th, 2011
10:19 am
@Disco..oh he listens to as he likes to say ” our 1900’s music” and for whatever reason he loves Jeffery Osborne, knows all the lyrics to the Woo Woo Song,..and I caught him one day singing Float On..
They know we had the quality music back in the day.
SlimNu
October 28th, 2011
10:20 am
Mdot – I have been looking for a new drink but I’m not really into the sweet sweet stuff with a whole bunch of juices in it. Seems like those drinks are a recipe for headache. Mainly I drink Goose and Cranberry, Goose and Red Bull, or Heneiken with shots of Goose in it
I’m not fan of Ciroc
kimmie
October 28th, 2011
10:21 am
Morning Gang!
Now this is a way to start the weekend!! Is the blog bar open? YAY!!!
I’ve never really been out with someone that did not know their limit. At least to the point of embarassing themselves or putting us in danger. I did date a guy that when he drank a little heavy he could not “perform”. He tried to put the blame on me, but didn’t work! Another guy I realized in hindsight and when his mother pointed it out, was a functioning alcoholic. He would literally down a large pitcher of apple martini every night after work. And it was more martini than apple!
The hubs & I like a nice drink or two. He mixes some wonderful drinks. We love good wine. We know our limits and those of our friends.
Dang, I’m missing Vegas, cause I sure had some good drinks there!
Not saying I couldn’t deal with a non-drinker, but it would not be as much fun. Especially if he expected me to remain dry too. No fun at all. I did go to a fun AA Haloween party with a good friend years ago. She & her husband were recovering alcoholics. They were a fun couple and all of their parties at their home were dry. It can be done.
kimmie
October 28th, 2011
10:22 am
swiss – Yes Dawg, UGA trained us WELL!!!!
disco
October 28th, 2011
10:25 am
dag. had my first post disappear. not sure why. I only said that midori is my signature drink. midori sours worked as a conversation starter because they were green. I’ve since started mixing midori with vodka and either 7up or pineapple juice.
Kym
October 28th, 2011
10:25 am
My favorite mixed drink has to be the blueberry lemonade at Six Feet..those sneak up on you..so have to be careful. Blueberry Vodka and Lemonade..I can make at home..but must have Chik fil la lemonade. I also like a great Texas Gold Mango Rita.. or I just a good 1800 Gold Rita..
Leggs
October 28th, 2011
10:26 am
@I’m Married ~ he fired up a blunt at The Fox…oh my!
@swiss ~ yes sir, I can handle my liquor (for the most part). I’m already mouthy (yes I am aware of this). Liquor makes me even more playful. If I mixed it with a toke or two, I would become Socrates or Plato’s long lost cousin. That’s how it affected me back in the day.
@DJ Sniper ~ ummmm, I admitted to trying to win tickets to see the pre-screening Twlight with some of the stars in attendance for my 17 year old child.
Kym
October 28th, 2011
10:26 am
@Swiss and Kimmie..why do I have a picture of you two in that Katy Perry video,..Last Friday night..
DJ Sniper
October 28th, 2011
10:30 am
Leggs, you have officially been acquitted. I was starting to worry about you. LMAO!
Celisea
October 28th, 2011
10:31 am
Okay what’s Twilight?
Leggs
October 28th, 2011
10:33 am
Is it toke or puff???
I like the drink The Green Hulk (Alize and Brandy) I think that’s what’s in it. Only had it 2x at a neighbor’s house, but it was delicious.
I like a really good apple martini. When I was practicing with the girls for our dance recital, we practiced with a pitcher or apple martinis. Man o man we did a lot of laughing and lot of twirling in the wrong direction bumping into each other. Yet, come recital time, we nailed our numbers.
Kym
October 28th, 2011
10:33 am
Ohh yeahh I forgot I like Swizzle..my friends introduce me to it..one cup of that..scratch that..half a cup and I am done..
I think if I felt safe enough I might get drunk..but I am just going to sleep and that’s no fun.
i'm swiss™
October 28th, 2011
10:34 am
“Okay what’s Twilight?”
It’s what teenage girls think about when masturbating.
Leggs
October 28th, 2011
10:35 am
Leggs
October 28th, 2011
10:38 am
You might have a point there, swiss. Team Jacob or Team Edward. The entire thing is hysterical to me. Took her to the midnight show of the second Twlight movie. Watching those kids scream and carry on was truly fascinating and scary at the same time. Of course, I couldn’t sit with her. I sat with a few other adults while the kids acted a fool.
DJ Sniper
October 28th, 2011
10:40 am
Celisea, Twilight is a book series that was turned into a very lucrative film franchise. The books were written by a Mormon lady, and they are about vampires, except these vampires are extremely b***h made. They don’t drink blood, they sparkle in the sunlight, and they are generally the emo type. It’s geared towards teenage girls, although there are plenty of grown a** women who have fallen for it too.
I wish Blade would show up in the final movie and kill them all. lmao
Celisea
October 28th, 2011
10:41 am
Stop it Swiss. I know the show Twilight. They way it was getting tossed around I thought something different or “special” was happening. Never mind.
Leggs
October 28th, 2011
10:42 am
You know, one drunk dance number older woman need to be watchful of is the puddy thrust gyration. It looks horrible, but so many drunk older women swear they’re getting down. Picture Moms Mabley puddy thrusting. That’s what I see when I see older women drunk dancing….
Of course I’m not included in that picture (LMAO).
Pinky
October 28th, 2011
10:43 am
Celisea
“Grown Up – If you aspire to “climb the career ladder”, you need to be able to handle a few drinks with “the boss”.
This is funny. You should think about what it means to be an adult. SUCKING UP ain’t it…lol Being able to have a few drinks and kiss azz don’t make you grown. I got a 26 and 31 year old right now buying into that bullcrap. You want to move up? Do it like most of us have done, earn it. No short cuts in life.”
Co-Sign!
Celisea
October 28th, 2011
10:43 am
DJ Thanks. I know about the book series. I thought something special was coming or happening. No, that’s not my thing.
DJ Sniper
October 28th, 2011
10:44 am
It ain’t my thing either. Sparkly vampires suck. lol
Leggs
October 28th, 2011
10:44 am
I’m cracking up at you DJ Sniper saying some grown a… women have fallen for it then go on to wishing Blade would show up and kill them all….seems like some grown a… men are watching!
Celisea
October 28th, 2011
10:44 am
DJ – Not Blade? LOLOLOL
Kym
October 28th, 2011
10:45 am
LMAO @ DJSniper..
Excuse but for all of you tech savy people..tell me again why Plasma tv’s are bad and why I should not buy one..
Leggs
October 28th, 2011
10:45 am
Twlight is not a show, it’s a movie. The 3rd one is the wedding of Bella and Edward.
Celisea
October 28th, 2011
10:48 am
Leggs – Yes I know it’s a movie…didn’t mean “show” as in t.v. show.
DJ Sniper
October 28th, 2011
10:48 am
Kym, I’ve heard that plasma TV’s don’t have as long of a shelf life as LCD’s, and they used to have an issue with burn ins. If you don’t play video games, then you shouldn’t have an issue with that.
Leggs, I’m a movie buff, so that’s why I know the little bit I do know about Twilight. I have never seen any of the movies, and even if they were on bootleg cable, I still wouldn’t watch them. Give me some real vampires dammit. lol
kimmie
October 28th, 2011
10:49 am
Celisea – I agree with that “No shortcuts in life” statement all the way. My mom used to preach that and, as expected, once i became an adult I totally understood what she meant.
There was this guy on V103 this morning that made it big in the music and advertising business. He has a book out now and was talking about some of his more successful ad campaigns like McDonald’s “I’m Lovin It”. He said the biggest problem with this generation is that they want to shortcut their way to success. They want to fast-forward to the end result, but don’t want to pay their dues and work to get there.
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
October 28th, 2011
10:50 am
When you go out with friends, do you have a couple of drinks socially? Yes I do…things get more interesting
Do you avoid drinking on dates?No I don’t I just limit myself to two. I know my tolerance and how to pace myself so as to not get slizzard in public.
What are your plans for the weekend? I don’t know about tonight b/c I like to stay home when it rains. Tomorrow is still up in the air and as for Sunday…well it’s too early to Zane but Mr. Bermuda will be here soooo…
disco
October 28th, 2011
10:51 am
I work with an office full of grown women who are into twilight. they swap books and posse’d up to go see the movie. one co-worker even has a poster in her office. yep. not making that up.
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
October 28th, 2011
10:52 am
They want to fast-forward to the end result, but don’t want to pay their dues and work to get there.
I heard that interview as well. His name is Steve Stoute and he made alot of sense…he said the young people want to invest in the end result but not the process to get there. That’s real talk!
Celisea
October 28th, 2011
10:55 am
Kimmie – I bet that person thought he/she dropped a gem on us…lol
DJ – My kid, nieces and a couple of friends all gathered at my sister’s to watch Twilight. Seriously. The room was quiet and each of them just lost in the movie. I watch one movie and really that was enough for me. It was always raining (Seattle I believe), all the men looked like they wore red lipstick, no one every smiled and it was just dreb dreb dreb…lol
DJ Sniper
October 28th, 2011
10:55 am
Disco, I’m not surprised. I’ve read a couple of articles about that.
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
October 28th, 2011
10:57 am
I like the drink The Green Hulk (Alize and Brandy) I think that’s what’s in it.
I like that,too…last Christmas my cuzzins were drinking this tooty fruity mixed drink they called The Pink Panty and they were leaning REAL hard to the left…looking all wounded n isht. Too funny
Leggs
October 28th, 2011
11:00 am
Gotcha, Celisea. The show Twilight Zone popped in my head when you said show.
My daughter insisted I watch it with her. As a matter of fact, the first Twilight was on Wednesday night and she wanted to watch it downstairs. As much as I like to watch tv with her, I couldn’t bear watching this again and had to tell her to watch it in her room. That’s what she did…there’s but so much I can give of myself (lolol).
Celisea
October 28th, 2011
11:01 am
Talk about wanting to get ahead in every way but earning it. My two coworkers 26 and 31 play the game so much that it’s just dang obvious. The painted on smiles in conferences and meetings, the bobble head walk (from him), the waaaay over the top giggling and grinning, the making sure they do something heck anything to ensure the big boss sees them, the tryna get in on every conversation (as in looking for an opening) when the execs come to garner kudos, the “team player” cape in they both adorn, the looking and acting engaged but on the back end when ain’t nobody here gossip about folks and what they had to do under “grin and bear it” but was really irked. Aaaah yeah, it just makes so much more sense and seems so much easier to just get it done natually, in your own space under your own abilities and worry free of who sees or knows it. Good work habits and ethics never goes unnoticed.
Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)
October 28th, 2011
11:02 am
It is interesting reading this today because I notice how much culture has changed due to MADD and other very worthwhile organizations. So many of you have indicated that you have very seldom drunk alcohol, at least to excess. I was coming into manhood at a time when drinking and driving weren’t verboten like they are now and the “Three Martini Lunch” was still common (and smoking in offices which I hated with a passion because smokers have no idea how they affect non-smokers with a little asthma). I’m not proud of the times I am still not sure how I got home, but those are way back in the rear view mirror. The only times I get plastered are when i am mourning or celebrating privately (at home) the passing of a relationship…kind of a purgative. LOL
As Bob Dylan put it so well “The Times They are a Changin”.
Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)
October 28th, 2011
11:05 am
Oh and the days of the left handed cigarettes ended about the time I stopped liking Doritos so much (many years ago)…strange coincidence LOL.