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First date mistake: Booze

If you plan on going out on a date this weekend or attending a party, perhaps you should consider having a “dry” weekend. Some people handle their alcohol with no problem. They know their limitations, they know what to steer clear of and what is safe. Unfortunately, some people are oblivious to their tolerance level and they pick the wrong time to get the hard lesson: on a first date.

I have been out with someone who got sloppy drunk and as fine as he was to look at, after the 4th drink he got really unattractive. He was the type to become obnoxious and loud when he had a couple of drinks in him. Although it was eye opening, I wonder if it was better to learn this sooner or later?

When you go out with friends, do you have a couple of drinks socially? Do you avoid drinking on dates?

Have you ever been on a date with someone who had too much to drink and their personality changed for the worse?

P.S. What are your plans for the weekend? Whatever you do, be safe!

320 comments Add your comment

Hellanta

October 28th, 2011
8:12 am

I love drinking ;)

Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

October 28th, 2011
8:18 am

Hmmm. I’ve been on both sides of this…moderately. Dumb!!! There were a couple of times I had too much wine on a first date and frankly became too aggressive (not a lot, but should have restrained myself to a minor good night kiss). Also, I have been with women who I met for lunch and frankly got scared away when they ordered drinks in the middle of the week in the middle of the day. It made me wonder if it were the evening what would they order.

As the trite but VERY TRUE expression goes…”You never get a second chance to make a first impression”. Reign it in or risk not having a second chance.

Kym

October 28th, 2011
8:27 am

Good Morning All,,

I am a socially drinker..so a couple of drinks and I am done. I have control issues so the idea of being sloppy drunk and waking up not knowing what happen the night before..nawww not for me.

Now I have dated guys who got all kinds of liquid courage when they got on the whiskey..and you are right Wisey..that is not attractive at all.

My plans for the weekend..I’m gonna get my FOOTBALL on. I’m gonna get my grocery shopping on I’m gonna get my sleeping on..all weekend long.

Button

October 28th, 2011
8:34 am

Good morning! Hey Randyt it’s 5 o’clock somewhere :)

For me, I don’t tend to drink on the first date unless I know it’s going to be a doozer so I say what the heck and order me something strong to muster me thru the date. I’ve been on a date where the guy showed up drunk! I’ve been on a date where the guy got wasted and tried to get me wasted by pushing drinks on me while I kept telling him no thank you. Dude was determined to get me wasted so I can join him on his pitty party of being a scorned ex. He was so drunk, if I put a glass next to him I would have a margarita, his pores oozed likka. I hope he made it home that night, I hadn’t heard from him since. Yep, I’ve had my share of drunk dates and shall I say weed date too. I am too happy that my current doesn’t drink, what a relief!

when I’m out with friends I’m more worried about getting pulled over, so I make sure I have one drink of whatever and nurse it until I leave.

No plans for the w/e. I just want to get some zzzz and watch my fav sitcoms.

sfw

October 28th, 2011
8:44 am

First date or not, drinking to the point of stupidity is a bad idea, it shows a lack of maturity and a lack of self control. The people that get that wasted are the same people that pick fights at bars.

Fighting for guys in public is no different than chicks crying in public, you didn’t get your way, so you are going to make a big deal about it and pick a fight or start crying. GROW UP!!!!

Kym

October 28th, 2011
8:45 am

I would like to say that if per chance anyone wanted to give me some Watch the Throne tickets…I wouldn’t be mad at all.

Leggs

October 28th, 2011
8:50 am

Good morning.

Although it was eye opening, I wonder if it was better to learn this sooner or later? – I’ll lean toward it was good to see this right out the gate.

When you go out with friends, do you have a couple of drinks socially? – Yep

Do you avoid drinking on dates? – Nope. But I will only have about two. I’m fully aware of my tolerance level and know what to avoid (Vodka).

Have you ever been on a date with someone who had too much to drink and their personality changed for the worse? – Can’t say I ever have.

In your case, WD, he could have been very nervous which can also heighten the affects of alcohol on a person.

I have a dinner date this evening. He said he would call, let’s see if that actually happens.

Kym

October 28th, 2011
8:54 am

@Leggs..that great! I bet he will honor his word..otherwise..tell that joker..KIM..

SlimNu

October 28th, 2011
8:55 am

I like dranking (Said in my Forest Gump voice)

Pinky

October 28th, 2011
9:01 am

@Kym

“My plans for the weekend..I’m gonna get my FOOTBALL on. I’m gonna get my grocery shopping on I’m gonna get my sleeping on..all weekend long.”

“Head Boppin Like Hell Yea!!!”

truth

October 28th, 2011
9:02 am

white boy wasted lol rookies

Pinky

October 28th, 2011
9:06 am

Drunken Dates are all about maturity…I have gotten drunk on a few dates but I can still handle myself…Oh and I do Get Loud…I have a deep voice that carries when Im sober, so it goes intofull effect mode when Im Tuned Up…Oh Yeah I dont F with the Brown Liquor! Whiskey and Brandy make dudes Violent!

I don’t like the chicks that start balling over petty stuff when they get drunk. The ones who cry about their Ex BF’s And I have To Play The Ricki Lake (That show was da bomb in the mid 90’s) Role and comfort Them

Reio

October 28th, 2011
9:06 am

Morning all. Been out of pocket as of late. Had surgery at the VA Medical Center here in Birmingham. Recuperating and progressing well. Been drunk only once. My, then, girlfriend, now, wife, and I were out with friends and I had too many. Never happened again. I was serving in the Navy and stationed in the Philippines at the time. I don’t drink. Not for religious reasons or anything like that, I just don’t like the taste of the stuff. Beer, wine, rum & coke….Yuck!

Celisea

October 28th, 2011
9:07 am

Happy Friday!!

Let’s see do I drink? Not any longer.

Do I go out with someone that will have a couple? Yep

Have I ever been out with someone that didn’t know enough was too much and too much was beyond enough? Yep

Did he become obnoxious? No, he was already that….that just turned it up a notch or two…lol

What would I do now if someone got to drinking too much? LEAVE HIM THERE….seriously No if ands or buts. No discussing and nope don’t call me ever again.

What am I doing this weekend? It’s up in the air right now. Got a tentative.

Celisea

October 28th, 2011
9:10 am

Oh for certain though (on my weekend agenda), is my hair and breakfast Saturday morning.

Celisea

October 28th, 2011
9:11 am

No way am I sticking around for a drunk dude to embarrass me. He’s gonna do that to himself.

lucinda

October 28th, 2011
9:13 am

Never been on a first date where dude drank too much. Had one trying to press other substances on me, even though I kept declining…. first — and last — date with that one.

Not much of a drinker myself, but I do like wine with dinner sometimes.

Now caffeine….that’s another story. Love me some coffee any time/any place.

@Leggs if the dude doesn’t call, it’s his loss. But, he will.

Celisea

October 28th, 2011
9:13 am

Hey NY2GA, I didn’t see your comment until late yesterday, I wasn’t igging you :)

M. (pronouced M dot)

October 28th, 2011
9:14 am

Good day everybody.

I went on a first date with a woman and it went totally left but I blame myself because it was her actual birthday that we went out on. I should have rescheduled but we decided to go out for a pregame appetizer/drink outing but boy was that a #fail! She started out with a martini that she downed in 2 sips! Then after complaining to the waitress that her martini was not strong enough, she ordered 5 (yes 5) mimosas at one time and slamed them like shots. What was really bad was how flirty she got and started slurring and being rude to the waitress. Needless to say, that was our first and last date!

Celisea

October 28th, 2011
9:18 am

Wow Mdot, bummer.

M. (pronouced M dot)

October 28th, 2011
9:20 am

@Wise

Another question is what do you do if you are dating someone that drinks more than you? Do you embrace it or shun it? Eventually they will draw you in!

Also I won 2 tickets to Watch the Throne tonight. Do they start on time? Something tells me they arent starting at 7:30 on the dot right?

disco

October 28th, 2011
9:21 am

good morning guys. I DO NOT drink and drive. did it one time years ago, made it home safe but swore that I would never ever do that again. so I generally don’t drink when out unless I’m not driving. I’ve been fortunate in that a lot of the guys I’ve dated are non-drinkers who don’t mind that I drink. I can’t get with the non-drinkers who are trying to get me to be a non-drinker too.

button – I had a guy show up at a date smelling like a brewery. I won’t say he was drunk. he handled himself well enough but the smell was undeniable.

Kym

October 28th, 2011
9:23 am

@truth..I was waiting for someone to say it.

I have a natural high..so alcohol tends to mellow me out and make me sleepy. I am soooo very glad it’s Friday..and pay day..

Kym

October 28th, 2011
9:25 am

@Mdot..you won my tickets?!!! @@$#@ of *((& I have been trying for the last two weeks to win..

Chri

October 28th, 2011
9:26 am

When I’m on a date, I’m usually the one driving. That makes it easy for me to not drink. Honestly, I don’t mind if my date drinks; however, I’ve got the mindset that if she’s drinking a lot, she must want to get drunk more than she wants to be on the date. Makes a second-date decision easier too!

Socially, as long as I’m not driving, I’ll have a drink (Wet Willies) or two. Not enough to get drunk, but enough to get relaxed.

Celisea

October 28th, 2011
9:26 am

Eventually they will draw you in!

Not necessarily. I will say though either that or you’ll eventually go in the other direction.

SlimNu

October 28th, 2011
9:28 am

Mdot – Where did you originally meet that chick??

Celisea

October 28th, 2011
9:31 am

Wait…let me rewind. What was the name of the place at Underground where you couldn’t even get in the door on the weekends? I remember having my drink mixed by a date, talk about being a bit more than buzzed. That was a 191 Octane (I think) and something else. Usually I have to consume a lot to even get a buzz but that hit me from the left. That’s the only time I can recall being effected by alcohol.

SlimNu

October 28th, 2011
9:32 am

I would not want to date a guy who was a non-drinker. I like to drink and for me to be around a guy who doesn’t understand I likes to get it in every now and then, it would make me feel like I was under constant scrutiny with him being sober. I’m a happy drunk, I just get more silly, more lovey dovey and become the best dancer (in my mind at least)

Leggs

October 28th, 2011
9:32 am

I am cracking up. She downed a martini (yuck) in 2 sips, complained it wasn’t strong, and then ordered 5 Mimosas…I’m dying over here. Alky written all over that one. How do you spell alky?

Kym

October 28th, 2011
9:33 am

That would be Fat Tuesday’s Celisea.

Celisea

October 28th, 2011
9:34 am

Yeah, that’s it….thanks Kym

Celisea

October 28th, 2011
9:34 am

L…U…S…H

Leggs

October 28th, 2011
9:34 am

I’ve been trying to win Twlight pre-screening tickets with some of the cast members in attendance. I cannot get through.

Check this out. I’ve been playing 9431 in two different combinations hoping will hit straight. Would you believe GA Five number Wednesday evening was 9 4 0 3 1 :shock:

Leggs

October 28th, 2011
9:35 am

@Celisea – are you talking about Fat Tuesdays?

Leggs

October 28th, 2011
9:36 am

Oops, I now see Kym answered.

Celisea

October 28th, 2011
9:36 am

Leggs – Yeah that’s the place.

Celisea

October 28th, 2011
9:36 am

Oppps, now I see you saw

Leggs

October 28th, 2011
9:37 am

I would not want to date a guy who was a non-drinker. I like to drink and for me to be around a guy who doesn’t understand I likes to get it in every now and then, it would make me feel like I was under constant scrutiny with him being sober. I’m a happy drunk, I just get more silly, more lovey dovey and become the best dancer (in my mind at least)

That’s me to a T :lol:

Leggs

October 28th, 2011
9:38 am

disco

October 28th, 2011
9:40 am

wine is fine but liquor’s quicker. gin will make you sin and that “yak” will break your back.

leggs – you are the numbers person. I’ve been dreaming numbers for a week but I don’t play them. I usually call my mother and tell her the dreams and numbers.

I wonder if y’all really do dance better drunk. you all should ask some of your friends/family members who have witnessed this drunk dancing and report back to us.

Leggs

October 28th, 2011
9:48 am

@disco ~ lately I’ve been having all the right numbers, but for the wrong game or didn’t play when the number dropped. I have a connection to 9431 so I’m going to play that for a while trying to outsmart the system. I’ve learned if you just play your number straight, the lottery likes to mix it up with something like 9430 or 9432 would fall. It’s a challenge trying to beat the system. So far, I’ve only beat Cash 4 twice.

M. (pronouced M dot)

October 28th, 2011
9:49 am

@Slim

I met her at a speed dating event. She seemed cool but I think she didnt drink that much normally or maybe she did lol. She lives in Charlotte.

@Kym

LOL Sorry I won your tickets! Funny thing is I was going to Chicago but I won and had to change my flight to tomorrow. The reason I won is there is a blog that had a contest and you had to pick a line from any song on the Watch the throne album and write 400 words on what it means to you. The line I picked was from Murder to Excellence-”Domino, Domino, Only spot a few blacks the higher I go”.

M. (pronouced M dot)

October 28th, 2011
9:51 am

@Leggs
@Slim

I agree it really is hard to date a non drinker because it makes you self conscious. In your mind you are thinking, thats my 3rd cosmo man these are good, in their mind, they are thinking that’s their 3rd cosmo, I wonder if they go to AA meetings? LOL

disco

October 28th, 2011
9:54 am

Mdot – it wasn’t me. I swear. I hit the A sometimes but it wasn’t me.

again, I don’t mind dating non-drinkers as long as they don’t have problems with me drinking. so far it’s worked out but if I detect a bit of judgmental I might change my tune.

Leggs

October 28th, 2011
9:54 am

Right, M., Right!!!!

SlimNu

October 28th, 2011
9:54 am

Mdot – Plus with a non-drinker, I can’t see “drunk sex” being as fun because all while you think you’re being frisky & wild, you partner just see’s you as being sloppy. lol Not a good look.

Kym

October 28th, 2011
9:54 am

I am dancing right now in my chair and I am not drunk..matter of fact..I am gonna crack open the book of Kanye…for a quote..”I’m not lovin you..way I wanted to.. So keep your love locked down..”

Pinky

October 28th, 2011
9:55 am

SlimNu

“. I’m a happy drunk, I just get more silly, more lovey dovey and become the best dancer (in my mind at least)”

Co-Sign! I usually do a lot of Keith Sweat/old R. Kelly Karoke When I’m Tuned Up!

Grown up

October 28th, 2011
9:56 am

Most of you, commenting on this blog, sound under age. Learning how to drink socially is very important in the real world. If you aspire to “climb the career ladder”, you need to be able to handle a few drinks with “the boss”.
As for dating…..be yourself. If you have a few, and your date doesn’t, you won’t see her again anyway, so, she’s done you a favor.