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New relationship? Avoid Facebook

So you are excited about your new guy/girl. Things are going so well, you just can’t believe it. You are both on the same page – Great! Just don’t get on the same Facebook page. No good can come from it.

Sometimes new relationships are fragile. The slightest bump can cause a crack and it all becomes a mess in a matter of hours. I just watched a new relationship plummet to the breakup abyss because a certain guy had not let it be known he was off the market.

What looked to be an innocent comment left on his Facebook wall by an ex-fling/girl of the week/booty call contact, became the source of a huge fight. Could this have happened if not for Facebook? It’s possible. I just believe that until you are in a solid, trusting relationship, Facebook contact with your new guy/girl should be avoided.

Do you think that social media is to blame for a lot of break ups and dating drama? So many things can be misconstrued and misinterpreted, but we insist on finding ways to put it all out there.

What is the best way to handle a misunderstanding that happens on Twitter, Facebook, etc.? Would you ever confront the person you are dating about something they said or had said to them?

Is this another dating challenge we have to contend with or is it really about how you handle it?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

294 comments Add your comment

Mr_NYC

October 24th, 2011
7:11 am

OK this should be a good one to watch!

Button

October 24th, 2011
8:35 am

Good morning, I don’t FB nor does my boyfriend, in fact I don’t think I’ve ever been in a relationship with a guy with a FB page. To get into an argument in a new relationship over a comment made by an ex on FB is so UNHEALTHY. The relationship is new, I’d give the person time to clean up is page if he’s going to announce the “in relationship” status but then that would make the vultures circle around even more and we’ll deal with those issues when/if it arises. And if he chooses not to do the “in relationship with me on his page, then I know he’s not serious and then I’ve got bigger problems.

Tommy

October 24th, 2011
8:41 am

I found out my steady girlfriend was cheating me when I saw her online Facebook profile updated with photos of her arm-in-arm with another guy… taken with the digital camera I bought for her… after she’d been telling me I was “The One” and how much she wanted to “marry me” and how much the thought of ever being touched by another man made her skin her crawl.

Lying, Slutty Piece of Trash!

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
8:57 am

Good morning.

Perhaps it’s just me, but updating your relationship status on FB is stupid and childish. This is my my opinion. I don’t need the world (meaning my friends and/or acquaintances) following my relationship. Actually, they can’t follow it if I don’t post about it. I will tell them what I want them to know in person. Out of everything one needs to pay attention to in a relationship, remembering to change their status shouldn’t be one of them. FB seems to be a necessary evil.

GoldPig

October 24th, 2011
9:02 am

Facebook is for 12 year old girls.

GoldPig

October 24th, 2011
9:03 am

It’s arrogance and hubris to think that everyone wants to read about your sad life.

There’s this new thing called face-to-face conversation. People should try it sometime.

Lucinda

October 24th, 2011
9:06 am

@Leggs
I’m kinda with you on that one. My status is “single”, even though I’m “in a relationship.” I choose not to put a lot of personal information on FB, so why would I post about my relationship status? Only exception would be if I were married and had “single” as my status. That would be disrespectful to my spouse, and might cause me soon to be “single”once again!

Button

October 24th, 2011
9:12 am

Twitter tweeter twit, limited characters.

Celisea

October 24th, 2011
9:13 am

Good morning lovelies,

I know this is going to sound cynical but it’s really not intended….
I don’t take FB nor it’s trappings serious enough to do “status” and follow folks.

My private life is just that…private. I wouldn’t have a SO that’s hanging out on FB. I don’t even post here every nook and cranny about my personal life. I have no problem “mentioning” things or talking about the past (sort of on the surface) as it relates to topic but the intimate details of my personal life? Not so much. I will say though I like it here much much better than FB :)

Button

October 24th, 2011
9:18 am

How is updating your status on your FB page stupid and childish? if that’s the case shouldn’t the whole thing be such as? It’s that the jest of FBing? updating, updating friending, defriending, like and so on and so forth..LOL

I think the whole thing is comical myself that’s why I said IF the person chooses to do so……not that it’s written in stone that one should.

mom of 3

October 24th, 2011
9:21 am

Bingo, GoldPig. Facebook is for insecure, immature people who are hungry for attention.

lame dot com

October 24th, 2011
9:23 am

the best way to handle potential misunderstandings from social media? talk them out. what ever happened to good old fashioned communication?

my fiance and i met through myspace. we had the same potential mishaps early on, but that is what dating is about. it’s getting to know another person, getting comfortable with who they are, and being confident enough in your budding relationship to let each other be who you are.

i think we should prolly write a relationship guide for people like the couple that broke up over facebook – and even for some of the people making comments here.

HST

October 24th, 2011
9:25 am

I do not do FB or twitter. The topic of today is one of many reasons I don’t.

HST

October 24th, 2011
9:26 am

“The best way to handle potential misunderstandings from social media? talk them out. what ever happened to good old fashioned communication?”

FB, twitter and texting.

kimmie

October 24th, 2011
9:31 am

Morning All!

On Topic – Are you kidding me? Sigh.

I’ll be back when we get on another subject.

Tootles!!

czBrat

October 24th, 2011
9:34 am

HiYas!

i have most certainly witnessed several relationships hit the rocks over stuff posted in social media. some recovered, some didn’t. i also have had to tell s/o not to read more into a post than what is actually there.

a friend once told me that if you go looking for something long enough, you will find it. to get bent out of shape or start an argument with the person you are dating because you saw/read something that made you suspect; you were probably expecting your partner to do something foul to begin with. THAT’S the convo you two should be having. not about the evils of FB.

anywho, my status is “single” and will remain as such until i change it to “married”. i doubt any of my FB friends is losing sleep over how we’re actually progressing from the one to the other. :lol:

Lucinda

October 24th, 2011
9:35 am

so some of you don’t like fb, good for you. It doesn’t make those of us who use it attention whores. For me, it lets me share photos with people I ACTUALLY KNOW, and keep up with other people’s lives as well. I don’t post every little detail of my life…its just not that interesting.

The issue isn’t the existence of social media, the issue is how you use social media.

Lucinda

October 24th, 2011
9:36 am

@czBrat
I’m with you on the relationship status :)

KJ

October 24th, 2011
9:40 am

It appears “I don’t use facebook” is the new “I don’t own a TV”.

TwitterisforLosers

October 24th, 2011
9:40 am

I Agree with Leggs on this one. Why would anyone update their relationship status on FB? If you don’t update it, your so called friends will not be in your business. reall people? the reason why some of you guys are single is because you are on this crap all day. GET A LIFE.

Ole Guy

October 24th, 2011
9:45 am

Whatever happened to those meaningless encounters at the local gin mill? Technology certainly has it’s place in modern contemporary society, however, “HEin an SHEin” was never meant to be directed by them “sillycone diodes”. Eyes-on in the target-rich environment was always the way to “do stuff” and shall always be the best way. These sites are simply another way of labeling self “LIMP D”.

OUCH ! i bumped my head

October 24th, 2011
9:45 am

Iv’e known FB to rekindle old flames that resulted in divorces a guy I work with and a neighbor in my neighborhood Both women found their HS
sweetharts and left the marrage for greener pastures One guy was left
with 4 kids 18mos to 4 1/2 years old the other with 7 3 biological and
4 adopted If you Facebook you gotta be careful what you get yourself caught up in

Celisea

October 24th, 2011
9:53 am

Iv’e known FB to rekindle old flames that resulted in divorces a guy I work with and a neighbor in my neighborhood Both women found their HS sweetharts and left the marrage for greener pastures

See…who does this? And folks are asking why someone would not want to associate with the trappings of FB? Really though you can’t blame FB for folks’ behavior. In this case they went looking for trouble and trouble found them. When folks lack character they’ll find the means to do whatever it is they do.

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
9:54 am

@Button ~ I say it’s childish because those that I do know posts every activity of their day down to bathroom time. I think that’s childish for a grown person to do. Of course, a lot don’t do this, but I had a few people in mind when I said what I said. Do I have an account, yep. Am I on it often, nope. I think this year I’ve been on perhaps 6x.

She left the kids with her soon to be ex for another man…HELL TO THE NO!

czBrat

October 24th, 2011
9:57 am

to me, FB, myspace, twitter, etc. are not that much different from this blog. it’s social media communication with masses as opposed to any one individual. you connect if/when you feel like it and share as much or as little as you choose to share.

if the exchanges are causing probs in your relationship, then one of you is hiding something and/or one of you is insecure. again, THAT should be the topic of discussion. not whether or not the social media outlet is to blame.

mom of 3

October 24th, 2011
9:57 am

Please, so tired of hearing the “it lets me share photos” excuse, and the “FB lets me keep up with the lives of others” excuse. If the people you are keeping up with are your good friends, you know about their lives because you TALK to them. If they are not your good friends, then you don’t need to know about their lives. Maybe some people do use FB responsibly, but most do not. Most use FB to brag and to be nosy about the lives of others.

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
10:01 am

I definitely agree with you, czB. Not necessarily the social media outlet, but the people themselves involved in the relationship. FB shouldn’t destroy a relationship. Must have been cracks all along for that to happen.

Sunny

October 24th, 2011
10:02 am

I would suggest not befriending your S/O on Facebook until the two of you have built a solid relationship.

On the flipside, Facebook saved me from a potentially disatrous situation with my ex. Because he wasn’t smart enough to use the (then) privacy settings, all comments that he made to others showed up on his wall. With his profile still marked as single, he was constantly caught making totally inappropriate comments to his “lifelong friends” who I later found out he was meeting through a porn website.

Those comments and the blatant lies led me to install a keylogger program on my computer that he frequently used and lo and behold, I was dealing with a full blown porn/sex addict. D.I.S.G.U.S.T.I.N.G.

abc

October 24th, 2011
10:03 am

Just avoid Facebook, period. So-called social media is FOR MORONS. Absolutely nothing good will result. This blog is NOT SOCIAL MEDIA unless you make it so. Otherwise, it’s a not-so-anonymous exchange of ideas, nothing more.

Celisea

October 24th, 2011
10:08 am

czBrat – I actually agree with your 9:57. This place and any other social forum all resemble, if not in fact are all about the same. I agree to that if someone lacks character you’ll see that on FB, a notebook, a playbook….any kind of “book”, any time any place anywhere. I honestly don’t think you can blame the platform or channel in which things can be communicated. Folks wanna live without discretion and act less than favorable, no matter the means.

I just think grown folks don’t really take it that seriously. Pictures, updates, whatchu doing, what’s your status, etc.

Button

October 24th, 2011
10:10 am

@ Leggs maybe I was reading it as the notion of stating your ” status” as childish…my bad but on the other hand-if you are FBing and your FB friends are your friends in real life then posting your status will not be counterproductive it will just be an update of what you’ve already anounced orally. JMO

Button

October 24th, 2011
10:12 am

some things just seems logical.

I like reading celebrities twitter beef..LOL

Celisea

October 24th, 2011
10:13 am

Even to blogging here, I’ve met one person. I’m not interest in swapping pictures, meeting folks, exchanging numbers. I like the anonymity of talking and exchaning chats and ideas, jokes and some days a good laugh, but that’s the extent of where I want it to go.

Button

October 24th, 2011
10:14 am

I’m with you @Celisea @ 10:13

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
10:15 am

If a relationship falls apart because one of the parties did not change their status from “single” to “dating” then Houston We Have a Problem!

Pinky

October 24th, 2011
10:16 am

Is It 430 Yet?

@Tommy

“I found out my steady girlfriend was cheating me when I saw her online Facebook profile updated with photos of her arm-in-arm with another guy… taken with the digital camera I bought for her… after she’d been telling me I was “The One” and how much she wanted to “marry me” and how much the thought of ever being touched by another man made her skin her crawl.

Lying, Slutty Piece of Trash!”

Ouch! I felt that out here in Stone Mountain!

J

October 24th, 2011
10:16 am

I am not seeing anyone currently, but I don’t have to worry about ex GF’s commenting on any of my Facebook statuses because I am not friends with any of them. Not Facebook friends, or real life friends. I don’t communicate in any way, shape, or form with my ex’s. They are an ex for a reason.

Button

October 24th, 2011
10:17 am

LOL @ Leggs! and for most there will be a problem!

Celisea

October 24th, 2011
10:18 am

Did everyone have a great weekend? I did :)

Pinky

October 24th, 2011
10:19 am

Having Been On Facebook for 8 years…That Site has gone to the Toilet…And There are some serious attention whores on there who feel the need to post every 10 minutes…

And the Real Tip…Facebook can be used to catch someone Living Foul in a relationship…The Divorce rate has seriously gone up since the advent of facebook

Relationship is important to me…so I would post my online status for everyone to know…

Pinky

October 24th, 2011
10:20 am

@Celisea

Drank a 30 pack Grilled Steaks and Greek Shrimp and watched football all weekend…My Narrow Ass was the Couch King!

Peaches

October 24th, 2011
10:20 am

The key to surviving any social media site is maturity and intelligence!! Both you and your partner have to use your brains and not your hormones when viewing any information put out there for the entire world to see! There are some who will post on a person’s page just to see if they can start something! I personally am a certified FB addict! I have children in college and living across country, yes we talk, but a great deal of our communication is through FB. This does not make us shallow or immature! I love sharing pics and stories with my friends, I have never been one to talk on the phone so this is perfect!!

czBrat

October 24th, 2011
10:24 am

oh. ok. we exchange personal thoughts, experiences and opinions on this blog, but let’s not call it social. ok.

mom, i understand folks in your world may come with those “excuses”, but i can honestly say that i only started an FB account so that i could see pics of my many grandnieces and grandnephews. the younger generation completely stopped doing paper pics or even emailing pic attachments. the answer to “i wanna see the kiddies” was always “i posted some pics on FB!” so there you have it.

Celisea

October 24th, 2011
10:25 am

Good for you Pinky. I love couch weekends, especially when it’s good food and good company :)

Sweet Pea

October 24th, 2011
10:25 am

The issue isn’t the existence of social media, the issue is how you use social media.

EXACTLY!! I’ve used it as a circuit to reconnect with friends and have discovered relatives I didn’t know existed for those purposes only.

To each his/her own if you choose to post every single detail of your life such as you’re on an excursion somewhere and have freely given an open invitation for a thief to go shopping in your home is your fault! Like many have mentioned…everybody ain’t privy to my personal information ;)

Do you think that social media is to blame for a lot of break ups and dating drama?

Hmmmmmmm, I don’t know anyone in my age group that relationship came to a demise because of it. However, I am thinking that if you are in your 30s and beyond and FB postings caused a rift, perhaps you need to re-evaluate your maturity level, get out of the virtual world, and have face to face interactions!

Exiled!

October 24th, 2011
10:26 am

Good morning!

Facebook is very invasive for the most part so u gotta be careful with it. It is invasive because,even when u don’t want to interface with some pple,they will still invite u to friend them. Much like the Latter Day folks knocking at ur door! Lol

And I have seen very immature convo,bragging and nosy behavior from supposedly grown folks!

I use Facebook and mostly to be in touch with my dispesersed same last name relatives as well as cousins,aunts,uncles etc and selected few friends. Even at that,I tried to use my real first name,not the first name I go by, which most people know. That has kept all the former hangers ons,former beyeotches etc in my prior life at bay.

Coz I don’t need that nonsense any more.

I am not interested in seeing anybody latest pics,nor do I care that u got a new job,car,raise etc,unless clearly its a death or a new birth or wedding etc…something really important to me. More like email for notification purposes.

Other that that I think uber users of Facebook and twitter are just lame!

Get a lyfe!

kimmie

October 24th, 2011
10:27 am

Leggs/others – Did you hear the Strawberry letter this morning?

Celisea

October 24th, 2011
10:27 am

I think we’re about done with the FB topic….at least I hope :)

Pinky

October 24th, 2011
10:27 am

@Peaches

” I have never been one to talk on the phone so this is perfect!!”

I will cosign on that! I used to you facebook to find out where the party was at on the weekends…Now too many people use facebook and twitter to promote themselves…

Celisea

October 24th, 2011
10:28 am

Kimmie – I heard only the premise of the letter…some guy with 14 kids responding to what his mom’s initial letter? I turned to the Bert show (not that much better…ouija boards).

Celisea

October 24th, 2011
10:29 am

Every dang this is getting blocked here. I can’t even access the Strawberry letter to READ anymore…gheesh.

Pinky

October 24th, 2011
10:29 am

And Halloween Is Coming Up…So get Ready for everyone and They Mama To Post their Halloween Pics on Facebook…

I need to get the Pink Limo Reservation..lol

Tech '10

October 24th, 2011
10:33 am

facebook went down the tube once it expanded to people outside of college age. Facebook used to be a really efficient way to organize events and keep in contact with college aged people. Now, facebook is pretty much a waste of time and effort and I wouldn’t bother dating someone who had their entire life on facebook anyways. Why do I want to see pictures of you and your ex from last year, I don’t. Mark Z is the real life Ken Castle, look it up (imdb) if you don’t know who I’m talking about.

@Tommy- that is a pretty terrible way to find out about cheating, not gonna lie.

Celisea

October 24th, 2011
10:34 am

thing not this

Pinky

October 24th, 2011
10:34 am

@Tech 10

Cosign on that Post about facebook just needs to limit itself to the college cats…I joined there in 2004 when I was 20 and in college…That site goes more and more to the toilet the more it changes…

czBrat

October 24th, 2011
10:36 am

wow! peaches, soooo feeling your post.

i may only check in a couple times a week, but when i do i make it a point to be supportive of anything positive that folks are putting out there. i offer encouragement where i think it’s needed. i gloss over trivial stuff simply because it is of no concern to me,

and you can always block posts from people who do the real time play-by-play of their life as it happens.

ironic

October 24th, 2011
10:38 am

I find it funny all the people that criticize those on FB….are hanging out on a blog.

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
10:38 am

@Pinky ~ keep drinking those 30 packs and I guarantee your ass won’t remain narrow. :lol: :lol:

@kimmie ~ I heard the letter and was so hoping you were listening. That mama needs to be tarred and feathered. That young man needs to stay focus, but it won’t be easy. What I found interesting to be omitted was his notion of self-worth. You are only a product of your environment if you let it be. So what his mother told him all men were nasty dogs. He didn’t have to go out and prove her right by disrepecting those young ladies he found willing to deal with him. This time, Steve gave some good advice.

@Celisea ~ Had to switch form the Ouija boards. I would never touch one (yep, I’m a punk in that regard).

czBrat

October 24th, 2011
10:38 am

celisea, we did the cocktails and canvas in brookwood this weekend; my future SIL & her daughter, my daughter and myself. it was fun!! definitely going to do it again.

and yeah. it was kinda sweet to wake up sunday and see that thing 1 had checked in and posted on her FB page that she was “having fun painting with mommy”. <3

Celisea

October 24th, 2011
10:39 am

Even to LinkedIn. I was getting updates from folks when they just “thought” about changing careers. I simply don’t care what other folks are doing. Naturally I blocked any feeds or updates from populating my profile. :)

Celisea

October 24th, 2011
10:41 am

czBrat – celisea, we did the cocktails and canvas in brookwood this weekend; my future SIL & her daughter, my daughter and myself. it was fun!! definitely going to do it again.

Awwww, that sounds like it was a blast. Good for you and the FB posting…lol

abc

October 24th, 2011
10:41 am

I find it funny all the people that criticize those on FB….are hanging out on a blog.

That’s because you’re an idiot. ‘Hanging out on a blog’? Now, a lot of folks posting here appear to have little else to do during the course of a day, that’s true; but ‘hanging out on a blog’? Come on.

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
10:41 am

I for one am not necessarily criticizing FB. I’m criticizing relationships falling in the gutter as a result of FB.

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
10:42 am

:lol: :lol: @abc. Good one. I didn’t quite know how to say it.

GlammourGirl

October 24th, 2011
10:43 am

@kimmie – I kinda half heard the strawberry letter, wasn’t fully paying attention. Did he say that his mom was putting holes in his condoms or did I mishear that?

Tech '10

October 24th, 2011
10:44 am

Pinky: I had to be invited to FB from a current member who was in college already. Now everyone and anyone can get on it. I am extremely private with my postings, but its still not the same. There are too many people trying to spy on everyone else.

kimmie

October 24th, 2011
10:45 am

Celisea – A woman wrote in about 3 or 4 weeks ago about her 19 year old son that she found out had fathered 14 kids. She supposedly had DNA tests done on I think 18 women & 14 of the kids turned out to be his. Her biggest concern? She was worried she would show favoritism to some of the grandkids!!

The 19yr old supposedly heard the letter and responded. He said his mother always told him growing up that all men were no good including him. He said 10 of those kids are her fault because she got into his condoms and poked holes in them! He said he is working at a plant that pays $1000 per week and is taking college classes online. He said he does what he can to help the mothers out, they all know about each other and he sees the kids when he is off. He said 5 of the kids are out of state, so he calls them often. He is trying to be a good father but is scared he will have to turn to the streets to get more money to provide for them.

Celisea

October 24th, 2011
10:47 am

Ironically ironic all you know here are monikers. No real names, birthdays, hair color, size, s

Celisea

October 24th, 2011
10:48 am

Somehow I must have press a “hot button” because I didNOT hit enter…I wasn’t finished.

Ironically ironic all you know here are monikers. No real names, birthdays, hair color, size, state of residence, place of employment, whether or not siblings, children, if in relationship, etc… Nothing else do you know outside of a moniker. While I agree it’s a form of social media, the intended purpose to talk and exchange ideas and thoughts. Not quite the same as FB.

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
10:50 am

@abc ~ hopefully, I didn’t ruin the streak by responding to you. I know you like to ignore me. Just thought that was funny! :wink:

@Celisea ~ don’t forget what FB is truly for, the exchange of pictures. We don’t do that here (well kinda sorta we don’t do that (lololol).

Celisea

October 24th, 2011
10:54 am

Kimmie – She was worried she would show favoritism to some of the grandkids!!

Please please please say it ain’t so. Then to poke holes in his condoms?? Just wow to having 14 kids. I think he’s going to have a long road. I think all the mamas are going to have to be understanding that he won’t be able to provide sufficient income. I don’t know how he can divide his time in spending quality time with each kid. I would say though where there’s a will there’s always a way.

And if it’s true what he says about his mama (cause I’m wondering how he now knows), he still can shriek the responsibility of having sex all willy nilly. Of course if what he says is true, his mama should have been teaching him early on how not to just stick it any and everywhere but rather……..never mind. I feel bad for him. It will be a hard road but if he’s a man of true intent he’ll make it happen.

Celisea

October 24th, 2011
10:56 am

Exactly Leggs. Even so (to picture exchaning), this is not the engine like FB. That’s something folks decide to do absent of the blog.

Celisea

October 24th, 2011
10:59 am

Why do folks at work call me when really what they need is something they can do but requires too much effort???

One of our clients need money advanced and someone is sending me an IM. Ummm, pick up the phone and call the area that handles. I was all nice and pleasant but deferred to someone else. Even to that she was too lazy to find the extension. I gave suggested the tool to look the number up….she wanted me to do it for her…..NOT!!!

SexyCool

October 24th, 2011
10:59 am

There is an option of FB to not display your relationship status at all.

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
11:00 am

@Celisea ~ her main area of concer question of how can she avoid showing favoritism was met with disbelief by many. Now, knowing she poked holes is the condoms helps one better understand that bizzare concern.

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
11:03 am

Heck,how did he get 14 women to sleep with him in one year? Well, perhaps there are some twins among all these children. Those young, fast girls also bear some of the blame!

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
11:05 am

I see my typing is way off too early this morning.

Kym

October 24th, 2011
11:06 am

Good Morning All,

Okay not sure if everyone is still on topic..but I think I saw a posting of how FB is for staying intouch with love ones. It was because of FB that I was able to get back intouch with cousins on my mama’s side of the family. My mama was an only child and her side of the family is fairly small. One of my cousin’s saw me on FB and they got in touch and we all reconnected. It also allows my son to stay in touch with his Dad’s family..they can keep up with him and see photos from his football games. Again if used properly it works just fine

Mo (aka Moeisha)

October 24th, 2011
11:07 am

Wow! So FB is this much a nuisance huh?

Now granted there are some that I feel post way too much personal info on FB but hey, to each his own. But in terms of affecting relationships? Now THAT is something altogether different.

Ive had no issues with FB period, however I always thought the ’status’ thing was a bit much.

Im going to keep lurking on this one, but like someone said ‘hopefully we are done with this issue’.

Oh and good morning everyone!

SexyCool

October 24th, 2011
11:08 am

I am quite comfortable with my use of FB. I FB for myself and regardless of what my reasons are, I could care less what others think. Anyone that is an FB friend of mine and does not approve of my use of FB is more than welcome to unfriend. Anyone else is welcome to NEVER friend me. And for the rest who don’t even have an FB account, well, then…I guess it’s a moot point, huh?

Celisea

October 24th, 2011
11:09 am

Leggs – Which is about as stupid as stupid can get. Never once did she think about bringing children into an environment shared by 14 children, the children of a boy himself…heck he’s only 19 and no doubt (some) will fall prey and through the cracks. I could be wrong but in this case, not saying he can’t overcome but those baby mamas will need to be on point and “act” as sole support and provider to ensure they’re grounded and gotten off on a good foot. I mean I hope he can but in this case I’m leaning to the mamas. His mama should be put away somewhere and grow the heck up. As For Real would assume, she must be about 3 years older than him.

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
11:09 am

@Kym ~ that’s how FB should be used…not as a mechanism to find past loves and cheat.

SexyCool

October 24th, 2011
11:10 am

I think both of those Strawberry letters are made up. I think they should begin screening the letters…unless…it is actually a marketing ploy. (Gotta keep selling those books….)

Celisea

October 24th, 2011
11:10 am

Most times I do too.

SexyCool

October 24th, 2011
11:11 am

Yep…I do believe the Strawberry Letter has “jumped the shark.”

Celisea

October 24th, 2011
11:12 am

That’s why most days I tune in somewhere else.

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
11:12 am

Cold Cuts Artist is Patrice Rushen (404) 741-1075. Tickets to see La La Hathaway this weekend.

Exiled!

October 24th, 2011
11:13 am

Scool?

Why are u so defensive and not positive about ur use of FB?

:???:

Are U an attention whore on there?

Leon Phelps....Live and In color!!!

October 24th, 2011
11:13 am

Well Damn!!! Blaming Facebook for grown folks doing stupid isht is kinda like blaming the shot glass for dude being a drunk, or the miniskirt for that girl being a Wh**re………

SexyCool

October 24th, 2011
11:15 am

If you interpreted my post as defensive, that is certainly a position to which you are entitled.

kimmie

October 24th, 2011
11:17 am

Those young, fast girls also bear some of the blame!

Leggs – There is enough “blame” to pass around in this case. I would not necessarily put the “fast” label on all the women either. That’s too easy to do and done too often, in my opinion. Looks like an attempt at birth control was made because condoms, though tampered, were used. Yeah, his mom is totally foul, but I still have a lot of questions for him. Looks like he’s been sticking it everywhere he can, so looks like most of the “fastness” lies with him. And how did he find out about his mom poking holes is my question too. Seems a bit suspicious.

hazel

October 24th, 2011
11:19 am

gud morning
the whole status thing on facebook is high school Unless you are married, don’t be putting, “its complicated” and stuff like that. We dn’t care.

Celisea

October 24th, 2011
11:19 am

And how did he find out about his mom poking holes is my question too

Exactly…thus there’s a cast of “fake” over the entire scenario. But that’s what I was thinking. How come (yes…how come) his mama didn’t talk to him about sticking everything with a pulse??? THAT’S my question.

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
11:21 am

@kimmie ~ you made excellent points, especially about the label “fast.” We do tend to automatically think a young pregnancy occurred because of some fast arse teenybopper. I stand corrected and will think in the future before actually using that word.

Is Mama may write another letter herself explaining the holes or even call in. They just may have found their 15 mins of fame.

kimmie

October 24th, 2011
11:21 am

SCool – I also think the letters were made up. I’m talking about them as if they were not, but deep down I think they are. The SL actually jumped the shark with me awhile back. Most of them are stupid, and usually I just listen to see how stupid they are & don’t wait on the response. This morning I did not want to hear the seance stuff on Q100, so the Letter won out!LOL!!

SexyCool

October 24th, 2011
11:24 am

Today…this promotion is good for a $55 dollar discount on the New Orleans Half Marathon to be held on March 4, 2012

http://runrocknroll.competitor.com/2011/09/new-orleans/saints-victory-savings_19053

Celisea

October 24th, 2011
11:24 am

Too, IMO it’s a ploy (if indeed fake) for Steve to spout advice. It’s just so amazing how all the letters resemble in nature. Dumb women caught up and BAM, Steve is there to rescue with his “do better” advice. Every blue moon a man is tossed in the mix but c’mon, I don’t know too many folks (period) having affairs and if so, writing in or advice on how to transition from side to main chick or some other dumb stuff.

Lauren

October 24th, 2011
11:25 am

I have been in a relationship with my man for 5 years. I have no interest in being his FB friend. We trust each other, and don’t see the need to invite drama to our good thing. He has a lot of girl friends, I have a lot of guy friends. And both sides of the fence know that he and I are in a relationship. There is no need to “post” on each other’s wall, nor “poke” each other. So why be FB friends? If he questioned me and my intentions, he could ask me to see my page and that would not be a problem, and likewise me to him. People get so bent out of shape over silly things. If you don’t trust your partner over something as trivial as FB, then how in the world can your relationship be sustainable in a healthy fashion? Don’t invite drama, and you won’t get any drama.

SexyCool

October 24th, 2011
11:25 am

Seance? (lmao)

Celisea

October 24th, 2011
11:25 am

Let me be specific…I don’t know any folks having affairs :)

Alright I gotta work….coffee/breakfast break over

czBrat

October 24th, 2011
11:25 am

interesting take, sexy. i’ve often thought that, but i think it’s more my unwillingness (is that a word?) to admit these things are really happening in the world. i rather stay in my happy place where such scenarios are pure fiction. :lol:

so the letters are made up by attention hungry listeners or desperate show producers? or perhaps a little of both??? :shock:

ctfu @ hazel. now THAT was funny!!!

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
11:25 am

@SC ~ that running is definitely paying off for you. You look totally different (in a good way).

SexyCool

October 24th, 2011
11:26 am

Ran 4.4 miles in 47minutes on Saturday morning. (Personal PR)

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
11:28 am

And they constantly insist the letters are real.

SexyCool

October 24th, 2011
11:30 am

Personal Record – PR, that is…lol!

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
11:31 am

There’s a button that says “it’s complicated?” Sounds disrespectful to me to be putting that on FB. Why blast your relationship like that? Is that code for “I’m hope to explore new things if you’re interested” to anyone reading that status?

czBrat

October 24th, 2011
11:32 am

Ran 4.4 miles in 47minutes
well now, that sounds like someone or something was after you, sistah. good job!

aight. like celisea, i gotta get some work done. later!

czBrat

October 24th, 2011
11:32 am

Ran 4.4 miles in 47minutes
well now, that sounds like someone or something was after you, sistah. good job!

aight. like celisea, i gotta get some work done. later!

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
11:33 am

Ummmm, not that you looked bad…..awww, never mind!

kimmie

October 24th, 2011
11:36 am

Leggs – That’s exactly what “it’s complicated” is saying, basically I’m just in this particular relationship until something better comes along!!

Stank!

SexyCool

October 24th, 2011
11:37 am

Leggs – I got you…(lol)

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
11:40 am

Cool.

@Celisea ~ it could only be that. Just pure d foolishness….

disco

October 24th, 2011
11:41 am

hey y’all. good morning – almost afternoon. I was laying in the cut waiting for the topic to jump off of facebook and steve Harvey. still, enough is enough, I need some interaction.

kimmie

October 24th, 2011
11:42 am

What’s shakin, disco?

disco

October 24th, 2011
11:46 am

right about now I wish I was shakin something. work is slow and lunch hour is way off in the distance. quitting time is even further away than that.

kimmie

October 24th, 2011
11:47 am

disco – LOL!! I like your style!! :lol:

Kym

October 24th, 2011
11:48 am

nice to see I am not the only one wanting to click their heels and scream..there’s no place like home..there’s no place like home.

disco

October 24th, 2011
11:49 am

don’t know if any of you are AAA members or use your card for discounts but starting Wednesday it’s 40% off at reebok stores and next week it’s 25% off at new York and company. i apologize to the fellas for getting the shopping thing going again but I’m all about the discounts.

Mo (aka Moeisha)

October 24th, 2011
11:50 am

Kym – Raising my hand slowly…..Im tired as hell. As much as I enjoyed the concert Im paying for it right now and this Coca-Cola will not give me the jolt I need!

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
11:50 am

I have a question. While at a meet this weekend a friend asked about online dating and some of the pros and cons. I told her one of the cons for me is people asking for your number and not using it. She said it wouldn’t matter to her if he never called, if he’s who she wants, she has no problem doing all the calling. Do you agree with that. Doesn’t seem right to me. Let the man at least show some interest in pursuing you other than asking for the number.

disco

October 24th, 2011
11:53 am

leggs – I thought she was going to say it doesn’t matter if he doesn’t call because that makes it easier for her to eliminate him as a contender. she shocked me with being willing to make the calls. still, some chicks are like that and not just about phone calls. don’t get me started on the tales I know of women paying for the company of men in one form or another.

GracieL

October 24th, 2011
11:57 am

Sociopathic ex-BF (whose juggling skills were slipping due to an oxy addiction) busted himself out last winter, after layering the poo on me once again about how much he loved and cared for me. First, the woman he went skiing with kept tagging him in her “where am I now” mobile app, alerting all his other female “friends” on FB to his vacation with her. (Business trip, huh?) I stopped taking his calls. A few weeks later, he messages me with the whole, “Hey baby, need you, can’t wait, kiss kiss” nonsense, trying to set up some comfort for his impending return home… only, he sends the same message to another woman too, not realizing that FB made it a three-way convo. Heh… THEN I went off on him — at which point he turned on me in a frightening way for “making him look like an ayy-hole” to the other woman who was in the process of doing his taxes for him for free. SOCIOPATHS: Walk away, people. Don’t ever look back!

Furthermore, if you bust yourself out on FB, you officially no longer have “game.”

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
11:57 am

@disco ~ her stance was “I go after what I want.” If you want me too, we can work together. But damn….

She said it with just fierceness I got scared. She could just be talking smack because she’s been married forever.

Pinky

October 24th, 2011
11:59 am

abc

[I find it funny all the people that criticize those on FB….are hanging out on a blog.]

“That’s because you’re an idiot. ‘Hanging out on a blog’? Now, a lot of folks posting here appear to have little else to do during the course of a day, that’s true; but ‘hanging out on a blog’? Come on.”

Ouch

Exiled!

October 24th, 2011
11:59 am

So if the men don’t get the number how do they pursue her or any woman for that matter.

If the men don’t call it means they have enough on their buffet.

If she does all the calling….well…

She’s after the dyicks,it seems…

And those dudes will smell it from afar!

Let her make some mistake,she’s grown!

disco

October 24th, 2011
12:00 pm

married forever as is in recently no longer married? in that case I give her a free pass to go out there and handle her business, have some fun and then get back serious. seems like a lot of folks do tend to go buck wild after a divorce. they get to thinking they missed something out here but it doesn’t take long to realize they haven’t missed much.

SexyCool

October 24th, 2011
12:00 pm

Leggs – that is flawed logic.

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
12:01 pm

Furthermore, if you bust yourself out on FB, you officially no longer have “game.”

DAMN SKIPPY!!!

Button

October 24th, 2011
12:02 pm

Leggs some couples are like that from the very beginning and it works for them, I can’t see myself doing all of the calling though, I can say that I do most of the calling in this relationship because I want to and I have too much to talk about but my calls are limited to once a day :)

BRB

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
12:02 pm

If the men don’t call it means they have enough on their buffet. – then think you’re being polite by asking for the number.

Willie Dynamite

October 24th, 2011
12:04 pm

Afternoon All,

FB – I don’t have a problem with it. If I did i wouldnt be part of it. Find your lane and if whats posted (pics, status, relationship, etc) then stay away. It is another form of Social media. Some folks prefer to interact that way and some don’t. It is another form of choice, exercise yours. Simple as that to me.

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
12:04 pm

@disco ~ she’s still married.

meant DON’T think you’re being polite by asking for the number…

disco

October 24th, 2011
12:05 pm

still married is a whole new ballgame but it makes since that she’d want to initiate the calls.

Exiled!

October 24th, 2011
12:07 pm

It happens in real lyfe too,a chic giving a guy a number but never wanting to puck up the phone.

The guy has to look that as one that was not really interested.

So it would not be surprising for one to see some chic,get interested enough to ask for a number but not follow thru because somebody ‘better’ or more desirable came along.

Just online Misadventures.

KIM

Exiled!

October 24th, 2011
12:09 pm

SexyCool

October 24th, 2011
12:10 pm

I have decided that the N.O. Half Marathon is going to be my Bachelorette Road Trip.

Celisea

October 24th, 2011
12:11 pm

Sorry to hear that GracieL but that sounds like too much work for someone not work the effort…even to just show him up. That foolishness would make my head hurt. Just get the door for dudes like him. Any effort over that is a waste.

Celisea

October 24th, 2011
12:12 pm

I have a video someone just sent me from Universoul…my people my people. All I can do is SMH

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
12:12 pm

@Ex ~ no doubt it happens both way, she asked my thought.

@WillieD – that’s the bottom line.

Pinky

October 24th, 2011
12:13 pm

kimmie

“Leggs – That’s exactly what “it’s complicated” is saying, basically I’m just in this particular relationship until something better comes along!!

Stank!”

Co-Sign! Those are also the same Chicks that think its ok to date multiple dudes at once

Exiled!

October 24th, 2011
12:16 pm

She asked my thought

Right

and u invited us to it with:’ I have a question’

Now u saying what???? :lol:

Willie Dynamite

October 24th, 2011
12:22 pm

Oh the horror, A man getting a Womans phone number and not calling. Say it aint so. i’m shocked appalled and just downright offended that a man would do such a thing. hahahaha

Sweet Pea

October 24th, 2011
12:22 pm

@Leggs~ I agree, if they ask for my number and don’t follow up then I keep it moving as I care not be jumbled in your juggling. If the woman initiates the calls, and it is not reciprocal then that would be a flag for me…no thanks!

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
12:23 pm

@Ex ~ You’re right I did invite feedback on women taking the time to always do the calling. My question was from a woman taking the bull by the horns. Not women taking numbers and not calling the dude!

Now what???

disco

October 24th, 2011
12:23 pm

SCool – your road trip made me think “running of the brides”.

Sweet Pea

October 24th, 2011
12:25 pm

@Celisea~Is it the video with the two couples lipsyncing and dancing??

If so, my co-workers and I watched it last week…comical indeed!

Willie Dynamite

October 24th, 2011
12:28 pm

SC – If I hadn’t told you before I am a fan of yours. Your genuine happiness with “The Dude” just makes me happy. You have opened up and shared your travails and it is refreshing. As for FB dayum what everybody else says. I love your (numerous) posts and you honestly keep me laughing (marta chronicles will make you some $$$ one day) while I skim and steal some of the happenings around town. Thank You.

Celisea

October 24th, 2011
12:29 pm

Sweet Pea – Yes. The chick from the 2nd couple took off her wig. She was performing to Jennifer Holiday’s You’re Gonna Love Me….same one you saw??? OMGosh I did laugh out loud. I definitely didn’t see that coming.

Celisea

October 24th, 2011
12:32 pm

Alright, got get this dreaded “walk” on today.

SexyCool

October 24th, 2011
12:32 pm

ooo….disco….I could run in a wedding dress (lol)….um, yeah…no….

Professor

October 24th, 2011
12:34 pm

Hello everybody,

Popping in to speak. Have a good day

disco

October 24th, 2011
12:37 pm

@willie d – sounds like you are shouting out love. love could most def use some shout outs. “here’s to love” – cheers.

@SCool – please don’t attempt to run in a wedding dress. not a good look. you might be able to wear all white running gear and maybe a small veil type something and let your girls wear matching running gear in bridesmaids colors.

SexyCool

October 24th, 2011
12:41 pm

Aw..shucks…WillieD…you are one of my inspirations. I love how you handle yours.

disco – it is actually a national BGR event. We will all be repping team t-shirts. (Looks like BGR is going to have a major presence at this event…especially with this last Saints win related discount.)

Mo (aka Moeisha)

October 24th, 2011
12:46 pm

Willie D/SCool – those Marta Chronicles are hilarious! Especially as a former MARTA rider, none of those things suprise me but just remind me how much I laughed daily on the ride home!

Kym

October 24th, 2011
12:49 pm

Okay I am gonna have to develop some kind of mantra to chant to keep me positive…cause some people’s children>>>>>Afternoon lack of chocolate..vent.

Kellibean

October 24th, 2011
12:51 pm

My S/O and I reconnected via Facebook. We had some challenges in the beginning with FB, but now we hardly have an issue over it. We both had to learn to keep each other in mind when making posts. There have been times when I’ve thought about deleting my account, but I do a lot with two non profit organizations and FB is a main way to reach a lot of people! My S/O has thought about deleting his account also, but he is a musician and FB is important for musicians to get the word out about their shows. Facebook can be very tough on a relationship, but you have to learn to deal and communicate the issues. Once communitcated, then hopefully the issues will be resolved. If not, then it’s not FB that broke you up…it’s the lack of respect…

Sweet Pea

October 24th, 2011
12:52 pm

@Celisea~ I know and don’t forget the “splits” they did in their performances!!!

kimmie

October 24th, 2011
12:55 pm

Pinky – Uhm, okay cool you cosigned, but I was talking about both genders that put, “it’s complicated” as a status. And as long as folk are upfront and honest and not “exclusive” with anyone, I don’t see anything wrong with dating multiple people. To each his/her own.

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
1:01 pm

I think that whole routine was staged. No way they got those people out of the audience. The performance was too precise.

NaturallyK

October 24th, 2011
1:04 pm

I think its most important to be transparent and able to discuss whatever issues come up, no matter where they’re from. If you have an FB page or social media account then FB isn’t your problem, you are.

Lord Velonese

October 24th, 2011
1:05 pm

Whats a Facebook? A book with my face on it????

NaturallyK

October 24th, 2011
1:09 pm

PS – I don’t have an FB but my husband does. We both have twitter. Never had a problem over it.

Celisea

October 24th, 2011
1:13 pm

Leggs/Sweetpea – I DEFINITELY could not have done it…LOL

cba

October 24th, 2011
1:13 pm

The idiot/crook who stole the lady’s purse as she went into the daycare center and later took pictures of himself with her phone. If he only knew that the pics automatically went to her FB and there is a crystal clear pic of his mugg……priceless

Sweet Pea

October 24th, 2011
1:21 pm

Celisea, me neither!

cba..there have been other crooks caught that way and folks rescued from home invaders so perhaps FB has it’s pros for catching criminals too!

Celisea

October 24th, 2011
1:24 pm

Sweet Pea/cba – I heard about the lady that posted (although dumb) her exact whereabouts for some concert she’d planned on attending. Yes, because she was dumb enough to post every intimate detail of her life and whereabouts, it was the perfect set-up for the dudes that robbed her. To boot, it was folks she “friended”….dummy

Alright…about to do the dreaded walk now…ugh

czBrat

October 24th, 2011
1:25 pm

o/t .. it’s a good sign when you have a coupon for a free micky-dee sammich and you don’t even want it. :) gonna enjoy my baked chicken and veggies.

SexyCool

October 24th, 2011
1:27 pm

Have fun, Cel…

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
1:38 pm

It will be an even better sign if you gave that coupon to someone else (lololol).

i'm swiss™

October 24th, 2011
1:38 pm

Facebook (or social media in general) is not the problem. Stupid people are the problem. The digital world is no different than the physical world. If you broadcast all your personal business to everybody in the physical world, you are an idiot; same is true of the digital world. Social media can be used to good effect without putting all of your dirty laundry on display for the whole world to see. It’s all in how you use it.

Oh, and afternoon, everybody!

kimmie

October 24th, 2011
1:41 pm

swiss – Hey, Boardwalk has been pretty good the last 2 weeks. I hate Nucky’s brother, I was hoping he would beat him up!

SexyCool

October 24th, 2011
1:44 pm

kimmie – mail call…

Exiled!

October 24th, 2011
1:44 pm

Yea Swiss!

Coz if u broadcast’in relationship’ and u get dumped,then next time u single everybody is commenting that u can’t keep a man,’what’s the deal’??

Or just got a promotion

Just got my hair did

pleasaaase!

czBrat

October 24th, 2011
1:47 pm

now, leggs, that would be impressive indeed. but you know i might be dead broke and starving one day soooo …..

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
1:51 pm

rainy day coupon…ok (lol)….

I’m eating something I haven’t eaten in many years…cracker jacks!

kimmie

October 24th, 2011
1:56 pm

SCool – Have not gotten it yet.

kimmie

October 24th, 2011
1:57 pm

Did anyone watch that new show Boss?

Gansta!!

Exiled!

October 24th, 2011
1:59 pm

Eating and eaten in years?

U lost me there….unless u had used a different verb. :lol:

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
2:00 pm

Why were you lost??

SexyCool

October 24th, 2011
2:01 pm

That is so interesting. I responded at 1230p. (Just re-sent it…)

cba

October 24th, 2011
2:03 pm

Leggs~ what’s the prize (lol)
Everytime I think of cracker jacks, it reminds me of my senior yr in college and my roommate and another guy went to Richway (similar to Target) and they had cracker jacks 10 for a dollar. Each of us bought ten and went back to the dorm and proceeded to eat all those dam cracker jacks. I tell ya, cracker jacks and weed don’t go together :lol:

kimmie

October 24th, 2011
2:08 pm

SCool – Sorry about that, I did get it around 12:30 – thought you had sent another one.

i'm swiss™

October 24th, 2011
2:15 pm

kimmie — Yeah, it has been… I liked it when Jimmy when all “native” on the rich dude & scalped his azz… :lol:

kimmie

October 24th, 2011
2:21 pm

swiss – I knew when that old dude hit Jimmy it was going to be ON! I like Jimmy, he’s cool, but you don’t eff with him.

You need to check out Boss on Starz. It has a very “mob” feel to it!

SexyCool

October 24th, 2011
2:24 pm

kimmie – it’s a better story when I tell it. Call me when you have 5minutes.

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
2:26 pm

@cba ~ didn’t eat it all. Had to go and see what the prize is…it’s a boring cut out of George Wasinghton.

My first credit card was a Richway’s card! Loved that store.

SexyCool

October 24th, 2011
2:28 pm

And if that was you that I just hung up on, call me back. (lol)

Willie Dynamite

October 24th, 2011
2:34 pm

mic check one two one two

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
2:35 pm

People may be having heavy eye lids like I am????

Exiled!

October 24th, 2011
2:36 pm

The chic stole condoms

Crazy beyeotch!

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
2:38 pm

Someone said she should have stolen some hair dye and makeup. Hilarious.

Celisea

October 24th, 2011
2:42 pm

Did the walk…ugh…yeah SexyC it was no fun climbing that hill. Needless to say I felt like I needed oxygen..lol

Did someone mention Richway? I remember the orange looking signature blocks on the top/front of each store. We had Richway and Zayres. I got my ears pierced at Zayre. My cousin had a birthday party and that was the “after party” treat….we all jumped in the car and got our ears pierced. :)

Exiled!

October 24th, 2011
2:44 pm

Of all things surely? Not food not gas nothing of necessity

Ribbed condoms?

Yea!

Into the Light

October 24th, 2011
2:44 pm

Afternoon, all!

Nothing much on topic, except to echo the sentiment that FB is an application and not capable on its own of causing any damage. PEBCAK, garbage in – garbage out, etc, etc, etc….

Willie Dynamite

October 24th, 2011
2:44 pm

26 boxes. that’s either lot of cuddling or alot of $$ changing hands.

abc

October 24th, 2011
2:45 pm

I don’t mean to ignore you or anybody, Leggs. I just get wrapped up in work most of the time.

Into the Light

October 24th, 2011
2:48 pm

Richway and Zayre’s….man, that takes me back. I got my ears pierced there, too, Celisea.

I remember one of them used to do a midnight madness sale (can’t remember the name, but it was a late-night sale) that was SO COOL back then, because 24-hour stores were unheard of.

As to the condom bandit, I cannot think why you would steal all those condoms, and then get an ovulation test kit and baby wipes…. smh…

Celisea

October 24th, 2011
2:50 pm

Anybody know how to get the unlock code from a phone???

Celisea

October 24th, 2011
2:54 pm

Or should I have asked how to retrieve the code for unlocking a phone. I changed carriers and I don’t want to buy a new phone…I just got this one dernit

Exiled!

October 24th, 2011
2:55 pm

ITL?

Baby wipes and condoms

U don’t know why?

:lol:
all those condoms? Just a lil is fine,ha?

:lol:

English?

Willie Dynamite

October 24th, 2011
2:55 pm

Condom Bandit sounds like one of 4Real’s skits.

Celisea

October 24th, 2011
3:01 pm

I guess not ey?

Exiled!

October 24th, 2011
3:04 pm

I need PR for this next comment

Willie Dynamite

October 24th, 2011
3:05 pm

What I wanna know is did the getaway driver get charged with anything?

Willie Dynamite

October 24th, 2011
3:06 pm

I bet she had a box of Cracker Jacks that wasn’t in the tally. hahaha

Exiled!

October 24th, 2011
3:06 pm

So folks what do u think of Herman?

Obama vs Herman

SexyCool

October 24th, 2011
3:07 pm

I just got off the phone with the insurance company adding my engagement ring rider to my homeowner’s insurance policy.

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
3:07 pm

Oh, oh, ok (lol)….

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
3:08 pm

My credit union is giving away an IPad. All you have to do is have an account there….so, you know what I did (lol).

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
3:09 pm

My oh oh ok was for abc. I thought that was the last post.

OUCH ! i bumped my head

October 24th, 2011
3:11 pm

Herman Cain 2012

Celisea

October 24th, 2011
3:16 pm

OKAY NO ONE ANSWERED…that’s okay, I’m on the internet and almost there…dernit

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
3:17 pm

@WillieD ~ that was real cute (LOLOL).

Into the Light

October 24th, 2011
3:18 pm

Celisea, I think you can buy them online. I think I saw some on Amazon, but I can’t swear to it.

Into the Light

October 24th, 2011
3:19 pm

LOL@Willie D’s 2:55….For Real would have a ball with this one.

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
3:19 pm

@Celisea ~ I have a friend who knows a codethat will unlock most phones. I’m waiting to hear back from him. Don’t know how long that will take.

kimmie

October 24th, 2011
3:19 pm

Leggs – Look at the other 3:07 post!

SCool – :) from ear to ear!!

SexyCool

October 24th, 2011
3:21 pm

Yep…we are so official. (lol)

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
3:22 pm

@kimmie ~ I saw the other “3:07″ above my post. Didn’t want her to think I was trivalizing the addition to her policy. That’s a good thing to do.

Celisea

October 24th, 2011
3:22 pm

Thanks ITL and Leggs

SexyC – Did I read you got a ring? Awwwwwww

Into the Light

October 24th, 2011
3:22 pm

WOW!!! Congrats, SCool! :)

Celisea

October 24th, 2011
3:24 pm

Leggs, shoot me an email once you hear back

kimmie

October 24th, 2011
3:27 pm

Do a little dance
Make a little love
Get down tonight!!

:lol: Congrats SCool!!!

Celisea

October 24th, 2011
3:28 pm

My coworker said to call the carrier and they’ll provide. Still let me know Leggs if you hear back. I’m calling them now

Pinky

October 24th, 2011
3:29 pm

@Kimmie

Mostly only Women put the “Its Complicated” on Their Facebook status..I have never met a dude who lists that…

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
3:30 pm

@SC ~ I’ve been waiting for you to make the announcement!

SexyCool

October 24th, 2011
3:31 pm

We’ve only been unofficially engaged for forever. But now…I’ve got hardware and a proposal story. (lol)

And the short version of the proposal is that he proposed at my birthday dinner (that I didn’t want to have and practically refused to invite anyone to and that he had to talk me into having) with *some* of our friends and family. We were at South City Kitchen. Everyone knew but me. I had no clue.

kimmie

October 24th, 2011
3:32 pm

Pinky – Well I guess you would know. Though absolutely, the only ones I’ve ever heard do that are dudes.

But whatever.

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
3:34 pm

You looked surprised.

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
3:35 pm

It sounds like something dudes would say not females. Much like the man saying “I’m married, but we are in a loveless marriage.” NEXT……

kimmie

October 24th, 2011
3:35 pm

The best kind of surprises! :wink:

Exiled!

October 24th, 2011
3:41 pm

Well, dudes don’t congratulate each other on that

we just look sternly in each other’s eyes and say,’ u serious bout this TheDude?’

Ok bro!

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
3:41 pm

Yes indeed, kimmie, yes indeed.

Exiled!

October 24th, 2011
3:42 pm

Congrats SexxyCool!

SexyCool

October 24th, 2011
3:53 pm

Preshate’ yall…

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
3:55 pm

What type cut is your ring?

SexyCool

October 24th, 2011
3:58 pm

DreamsMaterialize

October 24th, 2011
3:58 pm

Hey everyone. I know we can’t possibly be on topic, but I’ll just say that FB isn’t the reason for your relationship woes, you are. FB may have just happened to be the outlet this time. I have an FB page, and I’ve NEVER had any problems of any kind. People with questionable behavior will express that, no matter the outlet. Same for upstanding people.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)

October 24th, 2011
3:59 pm

Congrats Sexy!!!

Side note: I’ll be going to Hartsfield-Jackson this Sunday wearing only a trench coat and Fedora when I pick up my import from Bermuda ;-)

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
4:02 pm

Whatever you do, SassyMe, please do not post the time. I think if few here won’t be able to contain themselves.

SexyCool

October 24th, 2011
4:02 pm

LOL – Sassy ^^^^LOVES this!!!!

SexyCool

October 24th, 2011
4:02 pm

Will you be wearing red stilettos?

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
4:03 pm

@SexyC ~ sounds pretty! By chance did you guys go rink shopping he snuck back and got the ring you gushed the most over. You know like Celesia sneeking back and buy those altoids and new panties (LOLOL).

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)

October 24th, 2011
4:11 pm

No Sexy but I’ve got a fierce pair of pumps that I haven’t worn yet so it’s all set…and of course he doesn’t know a thing about it so it’s all the way liiiiive

i'm swiss™

October 24th, 2011
4:11 pm

Somewhat back on topic…

I just hopped on FB to find that this dude I know has created a new FB page… for his dog. Are any of you blog ladies available to deliver some pretty pink manties to this dude for me? :lol:

SexyCool

October 24th, 2011
4:12 pm

WooHoooooooo!!!

i'm swiss™

October 24th, 2011
4:12 pm

Size extra-smedium, I assume.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)

October 24th, 2011
4:12 pm

You know like Celesia sneeking back and buy those altoids and new panties

:shock:

SexyCool

October 24th, 2011
4:14 pm

Swissie — there are a lot of folks that set up pages for their dogs. People start following them and next thing you know, the dog is getting appearance fees and ish. Seriously….

SexyCool

October 24th, 2011
4:16 pm

Leggs – no, but what he bought is really similar to most of what I looked at. What he did do was let me think that I had lost one of my favorite rings for the last two months while he used it to get it sized. (He gave it back to me Saturday night when we got back to the car.)

disco

October 24th, 2011
4:16 pm

I’m not an animal person but I understand folks love their pets. co-worker just spent about $1500 on a dog. to each his own but I wouldn’t do it.

i'm swiss™

October 24th, 2011
4:17 pm

SexyC — I can accept a chick setting up a FB page for her little fru-fru dog. But no self-respecting man’s dog should have a FB page. There has got to be a MLB rule prohibiting this… :lol:

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
4:21 pm

That is nice, SexyC.

@Sassy ~ it’s all good, it didn’t really happen. I was making a jokey joke. She already had altoids at home (lol).

SexyCool

October 24th, 2011
4:23 pm

I’m not a pet lover. I am a responsible pet owner. GiGi and I are cool. And we treat her very well, but, er, um….at the end of the day, she is just a dog.
(Waiting to get slammed…..lol)

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
4:24 pm

@SexyC ~ that’s how I feel about my child’s cat. He’s treated nicely, but he’s a damn cat.

SexyCool

October 24th, 2011
4:24 pm

Swiss…point taken…

Celisea

October 24th, 2011
4:24 pm

You know like Celesia sneeking back and buy those altoids and new panties

Um, did someone ring? Did I buy panties and altoids?

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)

October 24th, 2011
4:25 pm

Y’all funny :lol:

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
4:26 pm

It was a while back when we were joking around. I always say it occured with you Celisea when in fact it happened to someone else. I don’t remember who now…

DreamsMaterialize

October 24th, 2011
4:28 pm

(Waiting to get slammed…..lol)
SexyC I got ya back. Dogs are a..n..i..m..a..l..s! They should be sleeping outside under the porch, not in your bed. lol

disco

October 24th, 2011
4:29 pm

y’all won’t get slammed by me. I appreciate a pet owner that recognizes that their pet is an animal. folks want to treat their pets like people (fine by me) but don’t ask me to treat your pet like it’s a person. one of my cousins once did the “ramses wants to talk” thing on the phone. ramses is a freaking dog!!!

Exiled!

October 24th, 2011
4:32 pm

Me too on dogs although to be honest dogs are more loyal than most humans

That’s why pooches(sp) are a fav of most jaded older females

:lol:

(u think I’ll be slammed too)

it’s ok

i'm swiss™

October 24th, 2011
4:36 pm

““ramses wants to talk”

disco — You should have told your cousin Ramses would probably rather lick his own ballz or sniff some other dog’s azz… :lol:

disco

October 24th, 2011
4:38 pm

I don’t remember what I told her but she knows I didn’t hardly want to talk to her kids until they’d mastered the language. that’s another pet peeve of mine – folks who want to put their non-speaking toddlers on the phone. I’ll pass.

DreamsMaterialize

October 24th, 2011
4:40 pm

One of my biggest pet peeves is a dog owner who doesn’t have his dog on a leash. Then their dog wants to jump all over you, and the owner is 50 yards away saying, “don’t worry, he doesn’t bite!” GTFOH He’s 80lbs and has sharp a$$ teeth. But I would be the bad dude if I kicked the sh%t out of him right.

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
4:41 pm

My pet peeve is being low on $$ but still have to buy food for the cat….

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
4:42 pm

Don’t let a dog jump on me. We both will wind up injured.

Exiled!

October 24th, 2011
4:43 pm

Not leash(ing) is a pet peeve of mine to Dreams

while taking our regular Sunday walk around the hood,my bestie and I had to make a u-turn after spotting a unleashed dog.

We now prefer to drive to the public park up the street and walk the trail.

SexyCool

October 24th, 2011
4:43 pm

She has her shots. She has been spayed. We feed her the good dog food. We mix it wet with dry (and even add rice when her poops aren’t firm enough.) We give her heartworm pills. We walk her daily and run with her at least twice a week. We take her to PetsMart for her baths (because we’re lazy.)

But…she is not allowed to lick me. TheDude lets her lick his hand sometimes. She is not allowed on the furniture. She is not allowed in my kitchen. She is not allowed upstairs.

SexyCool

October 24th, 2011
4:43 pm

Oh…yeah…she is not allowed to jump on ANYbody.

Exiled!

October 24th, 2011
4:44 pm

So SexxyCool is officially off the market?!

Hmpfff

disco

October 24th, 2011
4:45 pm

oh… but dreams. I have kicked a neighbor’s dog while said neighbor stood by and watched said dog jump all over me as I retrieved my mail. now it wasn’t a full frontal tip of the toe kick but I did take my leg and use the side of my foot to shove the dog aside (one of those little pocket dogs). when she saw me do it then she called her dog. now I did kick a cat once though it wasn’t really on purpose. I got home late one night and I heard a jingling sound but dismissed it as my keys since I was busy gathering all my belongings. lo and behold I stepped out of the car and seemingly out of nowhere this cat comes from under the car and brushes up against my leg. I hauled off and kicked as hard as I could without hitting my leg on the car door.

Celisea

October 24th, 2011
4:45 pm

They should be sleeping outside under the porch, not in your bed. lol

Back in the day dogs didn’t live in anybody’s house. They got a fence, doghouse, doggie bed, fed and that was it…and they survived.

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
4:45 pm

I don’t even let my cat press his cold tiny nose on my leg. Always moving and skirting around that joker. Don’t want any animal licking or pressing up on me.

SexyCool

October 24th, 2011
4:46 pm

Oh…and I am paranoid about dog hair – the main reason she is not allowed in my kitchen.

In fact, the hair problem is what keeps her with one foot out the door, on the way to me giving her away. I sweep almost daily to combat hair. And just said to TheDude yesterday, “My favorite color is black. Why do we have a dog that has golden brown hair?”

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
4:46 pm

Wait, wait, let’s make that any animal with 4 legs…..much better!

i'm swiss™

October 24th, 2011
4:46 pm

I have to say… my people are the worst offenders when it comes to pets and kids — specifically, assuming everybody else thinks your pet and/or rugrat is a cute as you think he/she/it is. Drives me crazy…

SexyCool

October 24th, 2011
4:47 pm

Oh…and I don’t automatically assume that everyone is a dog person.

Exiled!

October 24th, 2011
4:48 pm

So basically black folk don’t love pets like white folks. Right?

I was mistaken in this
Or it’s just black folk on here

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
4:48 pm

I’m not letting my dog lick my face, nor am I going to swim with him. I never understood that. If I owned a pool, I wouldn’t want my dog in it with me.

Exiled!

October 24th, 2011
4:48 pm

On this not in this

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
4:49 pm

Not too many black folk have cats, Ex.

DreamsMaterialize

October 24th, 2011
4:55 pm

There’s this woman who lives by me, and she has a dog named Teddy. I have no clue what her name is, but I know her dog’s name well because she’s always calling his name. “come here Teddy. no Teddy. where are you Teddy. Teeeeeeeeeddy. Come on Teddy. Stop it Teddy. Teddy, Teddy, Teeeeeeeddy.” Dog’s looking at you like “You know I’m listening to a damn thing she’s saying right.”

Celisea

October 24th, 2011
4:57 pm

I have to say… my people are the worst offenders when it comes to pets and kids — specifically, assuming everybody else thinks your pet and/or rugrat is a cute as you think he/she/it is.

Yeah cause Saturday a dude walked up into Radio Shake, dog and all and proceed to browse….as if….as if it was normal. I’m looking like he’d grown two head and the store associate being nice said, umm is that a seeing eye dog, cause if not you need to take the dog out. That dude was like “oh, oh, um no dogs allowed…oh um, okay” DUDE YOU ALREADY KNEW THIS!!!!!

disco

October 24th, 2011
5:00 pm

wow, I’ve never seen a guy with his pet in a store. always women. at least the radio shack folks called him on it because I swear I get sick of chicks out shopping with their little dogs in their purses like it’s cute. maybe it is cute but they needed to leave their little pups in the car. irks my nerves. and I have yet to see a store employee call anyone on their dog.

Exiled!

October 24th, 2011
5:02 pm

SAY IT CELISEA!!!

Lol

Gd nite!!

i'm swiss™

October 24th, 2011
5:08 pm

C — When Mrs. Swiss & I were in Mexico earlier this year, we took a little group bike tour from the resort down to this little town called Puerto Morelos — more of a typical little Mexican port village, not a resort place at all. So, while we’re all there looking around at the local shops, this dog wanders down the street past us. Now, this was a dog in Mexico, so this dog was, shall we say, a good bit leaner than most dogs you’d see back home. :lol: So this one chick in the group decides that the dog looks hungry & she goes to this little restaurant near the shops and tries to order food for the dog. Those folks looked at her like she was from Uranus. :lol: I don’t speak Spanish, but I’m pretty sure their reaction went something like, “This crazy American b!tch wants to by a plate of food for a f@cking DOG???” Meanwhile, they didn’t buy or offer to give sh!t to the poor merchants who where their trying to make a living…

i'm swiss™

October 24th, 2011
5:12 pm

Celisea

October 24th, 2011
5:25 pm

Swiss – Those folks looked at her like she was from Uranus.

Because that was just nasty. If PETA could go back to my time as a kid we’d all be charged with animal cruelty. Heck we fed the dog table food, chicken bones, dog food…whatever and the dog was no worse off…lol Okay okay, if I had a dog, I wouldn’t do table food and such and I would do the shots/doghouse/doggie bed thing but the garage is about as “inside” as it would get…lol

You know, I can’t help but wonder what changed (DNA-etically, Gene-etically) on dogs since back in the day that we’ve gone from they cannot endure “the outside” to them being a part of the family if not the family or ahead of the rest of the family. I don’t remember not one dog or animal that was considered abused. Can’t speak for all but that was the norm for my neighborhood.

Celisea

October 24th, 2011
5:26 pm

I sort of missed the blog today after page 2. I was actually working. I tried to skim but I either missed a post or missed the point…LOL See can’t blog and work…not well anyway

i'm swiss™

October 24th, 2011
5:35 pm

C — Yeah, it’s no wonder Americans have a bad rep, with shenanigans like that. I mean, they couldn’t have made it more clear that they were more concerned about a dog than about people. Mrs. Swiss & I were looking at the tour guide like, “uh, lets get our azzes back to the resort before we piss these folks off any more…” :lol:

Celisea

October 24th, 2011
5:39 pm

Mrs. Swiss & I were looking at the tour guide like, “uh, lets get our azzes back to the resort before we piss these folks off any more…”

and this my friend Meanwhile, they didn’t buy or offer to give sh!t to the poor merchants who where their trying to make a living… makes me proud to be an American….riiight But yes, yes yes sooo true. Knowing most foreign countries don’t give a hootinanny about Americans, yeah not ticking anybody off in the slightest would be the safest route. Idda sold that chick out for “for sure” safety…LOL

Alright Swissy I’m out.

Celisea

October 24th, 2011
5:43 pm

One last one….for the road:

The ballplayer stinks something awful. I sooo don’t get that funk. I’m about 5 feet away from him and when he opens his door from being holed in his office all day, there’s a raging funk I cannot describe. It’s not normal didn’t take a bath funk, it’s like in his skin or coming from his pours. It’s like a man’s order but to the 10th power. Very very very overwhelming and got my face cringed even to just typing this. Not being ugly but I’m soooo not getting why he can’t conquer that funk. Gheesh. I bet when he played ball he was a stankin joker. Some days I smell it, some days I don’t. It use to be unbearable as I think he was working out in the mornings because the entire hallway would be funked out. But it’s been present here of late.

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