New relationship? Avoid Facebook
So you are excited about your new guy/girl. Things are going so well, you just can’t believe it. You are both on the same page – Great! Just don’t get on the same Facebook page. No good can come from it.
Sometimes new relationships are fragile. The slightest bump can cause a crack and it all becomes a mess in a matter of hours. I just watched a new relationship plummet to the breakup abyss because a certain guy had not let it be known he was off the market.
What looked to be an innocent comment left on his Facebook wall by an ex-fling/girl of the week/booty call contact, became the source of a huge fight. Could this have happened if not for Facebook? It’s possible. I just believe that until you are in a solid, trusting relationship, Facebook contact with your new guy/girl should be avoided.
Do you think that social media is to blame for a lot of break ups and dating drama? So many things can be misconstrued and misinterpreted, but we insist on finding ways to put it all out there.
What is the best way to handle a misunderstanding that happens on Twitter, Facebook, etc.? Would you ever confront the person you are dating about something they said or had said to them?
Is this another dating challenge we have to contend with or is it really about how you handle it?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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294 comments Add your comment
disco
October 24th, 2011
4:16 pm
I’m not an animal person but I understand folks love their pets. co-worker just spent about $1500 on a dog. to each his own but I wouldn’t do it.
i'm swiss™
October 24th, 2011
4:17 pm
SexyC — I can accept a chick setting up a FB page for her little fru-fru dog. But no self-respecting man’s dog should have a FB page. There has got to be a MLB rule prohibiting this…
Leggs
October 24th, 2011
4:21 pm
That is nice, SexyC.
@Sassy ~ it’s all good, it didn’t really happen. I was making a jokey joke. She already had altoids at home (lol).
SexyCool
October 24th, 2011
4:23 pm
I’m not a pet lover. I am a responsible pet owner. GiGi and I are cool. And we treat her very well, but, er, um….at the end of the day, she is just a dog.
(Waiting to get slammed…..lol)
Leggs
October 24th, 2011
4:24 pm
@SexyC ~ that’s how I feel about my child’s cat. He’s treated nicely, but he’s a damn cat.
SexyCool
October 24th, 2011
4:24 pm
Swiss…point taken…
Celisea
October 24th, 2011
4:24 pm
You know like Celesia sneeking back and buy those altoids and new panties
Um, did someone ring? Did I buy panties and altoids?
Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)
October 24th, 2011
4:25 pm
Y’all funny
Leggs
October 24th, 2011
4:26 pm
It was a while back when we were joking around. I always say it occured with you Celisea when in fact it happened to someone else. I don’t remember who now…
DreamsMaterialize
October 24th, 2011
4:28 pm
(Waiting to get slammed…..lol)
SexyC I got ya back. Dogs are a..n..i..m..a..l..s! They should be sleeping outside under the porch, not in your bed. lol
disco
October 24th, 2011
4:29 pm
y’all won’t get slammed by me. I appreciate a pet owner that recognizes that their pet is an animal. folks want to treat their pets like people (fine by me) but don’t ask me to treat your pet like it’s a person. one of my cousins once did the “ramses wants to talk” thing on the phone. ramses is a freaking dog!!!
Exiled!
October 24th, 2011
4:32 pm
Me too on dogs although to be honest dogs are more loyal than most humans
That’s why pooches(sp) are a fav of most jaded older females
(u think I’ll be slammed too)
it’s ok
i'm swiss™
October 24th, 2011
4:36 pm
““ramses wants to talk”
disco — You should have told your cousin Ramses would probably rather lick his own ballz or sniff some other dog’s azz…
disco
October 24th, 2011
4:38 pm
I don’t remember what I told her but she knows I didn’t hardly want to talk to her kids until they’d mastered the language. that’s another pet peeve of mine – folks who want to put their non-speaking toddlers on the phone. I’ll pass.
DreamsMaterialize
October 24th, 2011
4:40 pm
One of my biggest pet peeves is a dog owner who doesn’t have his dog on a leash. Then their dog wants to jump all over you, and the owner is 50 yards away saying, “don’t worry, he doesn’t bite!” GTFOH He’s 80lbs and has sharp a$$ teeth. But I would be the bad dude if I kicked the sh%t out of him right.
Leggs
October 24th, 2011
4:41 pm
My pet peeve is being low on $$ but still have to buy food for the cat….
Leggs
October 24th, 2011
4:42 pm
Don’t let a dog jump on me. We both will wind up injured.
Exiled!
October 24th, 2011
4:43 pm
Not leash(ing) is a pet peeve of mine to Dreams
while taking our regular Sunday walk around the hood,my bestie and I had to make a u-turn after spotting a unleashed dog.
We now prefer to drive to the public park up the street and walk the trail.
SexyCool
October 24th, 2011
4:43 pm
She has her shots. She has been spayed. We feed her the good dog food. We mix it wet with dry (and even add rice when her poops aren’t firm enough.) We give her heartworm pills. We walk her daily and run with her at least twice a week. We take her to PetsMart for her baths (because we’re lazy.)
But…she is not allowed to lick me. TheDude lets her lick his hand sometimes. She is not allowed on the furniture. She is not allowed in my kitchen. She is not allowed upstairs.
SexyCool
October 24th, 2011
4:43 pm
Oh…yeah…she is not allowed to jump on ANYbody.
Exiled!
October 24th, 2011
4:44 pm
So SexxyCool is officially off the market?!
Hmpfff
disco
October 24th, 2011
4:45 pm
oh… but dreams. I have kicked a neighbor’s dog while said neighbor stood by and watched said dog jump all over me as I retrieved my mail. now it wasn’t a full frontal tip of the toe kick but I did take my leg and use the side of my foot to shove the dog aside (one of those little pocket dogs). when she saw me do it then she called her dog. now I did kick a cat once though it wasn’t really on purpose. I got home late one night and I heard a jingling sound but dismissed it as my keys since I was busy gathering all my belongings. lo and behold I stepped out of the car and seemingly out of nowhere this cat comes from under the car and brushes up against my leg. I hauled off and kicked as hard as I could without hitting my leg on the car door.
Celisea
October 24th, 2011
4:45 pm
They should be sleeping outside under the porch, not in your bed. lol
Back in the day dogs didn’t live in anybody’s house. They got a fence, doghouse, doggie bed, fed and that was it…and they survived.
Leggs
October 24th, 2011
4:45 pm
I don’t even let my cat press his cold tiny nose on my leg. Always moving and skirting around that joker. Don’t want any animal licking or pressing up on me.
SexyCool
October 24th, 2011
4:46 pm
Oh…and I am paranoid about dog hair – the main reason she is not allowed in my kitchen.
In fact, the hair problem is what keeps her with one foot out the door, on the way to me giving her away. I sweep almost daily to combat hair. And just said to TheDude yesterday, “My favorite color is black. Why do we have a dog that has golden brown hair?”
Leggs
October 24th, 2011
4:46 pm
Wait, wait, let’s make that any animal with 4 legs…..much better!
i'm swiss™
October 24th, 2011
4:46 pm
I have to say… my people are the worst offenders when it comes to pets and kids — specifically, assuming everybody else thinks your pet and/or rugrat is a cute as you think he/she/it is. Drives me crazy…
SexyCool
October 24th, 2011
4:47 pm
Oh…and I don’t automatically assume that everyone is a dog person.
Exiled!
October 24th, 2011
4:48 pm
So basically black folk don’t love pets like white folks. Right?
I was mistaken in this
Or it’s just black folk on here
Leggs
October 24th, 2011
4:48 pm
I’m not letting my dog lick my face, nor am I going to swim with him. I never understood that. If I owned a pool, I wouldn’t want my dog in it with me.
Exiled!
October 24th, 2011
4:48 pm
On this not in this
Leggs
October 24th, 2011
4:49 pm
Not too many black folk have cats, Ex.
DreamsMaterialize
October 24th, 2011
4:55 pm
There’s this woman who lives by me, and she has a dog named Teddy. I have no clue what her name is, but I know her dog’s name well because she’s always calling his name. “come here Teddy. no Teddy. where are you Teddy. Teeeeeeeeeddy. Come on Teddy. Stop it Teddy. Teddy, Teddy, Teeeeeeeddy.” Dog’s looking at you like “You know I’m listening to a damn thing she’s saying right.”
Celisea
October 24th, 2011
4:57 pm
I have to say… my people are the worst offenders when it comes to pets and kids — specifically, assuming everybody else thinks your pet and/or rugrat is a cute as you think he/she/it is.
Yeah cause Saturday a dude walked up into Radio Shake, dog and all and proceed to browse….as if….as if it was normal. I’m looking like he’d grown two head and the store associate being nice said, umm is that a seeing eye dog, cause if not you need to take the dog out. That dude was like “oh, oh, um no dogs allowed…oh um, okay” DUDE YOU ALREADY KNEW THIS!!!!!
disco
October 24th, 2011
5:00 pm
wow, I’ve never seen a guy with his pet in a store. always women. at least the radio shack folks called him on it because I swear I get sick of chicks out shopping with their little dogs in their purses like it’s cute. maybe it is cute but they needed to leave their little pups in the car. irks my nerves. and I have yet to see a store employee call anyone on their dog.
Exiled!
October 24th, 2011
5:02 pm
SAY IT CELISEA!!!
Lol
Gd nite!!
i'm swiss™
October 24th, 2011
5:08 pm
C — When Mrs. Swiss & I were in Mexico earlier this year, we took a little group bike tour from the resort down to this little town called Puerto Morelos — more of a typical little Mexican port village, not a resort place at all. So, while we’re all there looking around at the local shops, this dog wanders down the street past us. Now, this was a dog in Mexico, so this dog was, shall we say, a good bit leaner than most dogs you’d see back home.
So this one chick in the group decides that the dog looks hungry & she goes to this little restaurant near the shops and tries to order food for the dog. Those folks looked at her like she was from Uranus. 
I don’t speak Spanish, but I’m pretty sure their reaction went something like, “This crazy American b!tch wants to by a plate of food for a f@cking DOG???” Meanwhile, they didn’t buy or offer to give sh!t to the poor merchants who where their trying to make a living…
i'm swiss™
October 24th, 2011
5:12 pm
*were there
Celisea
October 24th, 2011
5:25 pm
Swiss – Those folks looked at her like she was from Uranus.
Because that was just nasty. If PETA could go back to my time as a kid we’d all be charged with animal cruelty. Heck we fed the dog table food, chicken bones, dog food…whatever and the dog was no worse off…lol Okay okay, if I had a dog, I wouldn’t do table food and such and I would do the shots/doghouse/doggie bed thing but the garage is about as “inside” as it would get…lol
You know, I can’t help but wonder what changed (DNA-etically, Gene-etically) on dogs since back in the day that we’ve gone from they cannot endure “the outside” to them being a part of the family if not the family or ahead of the rest of the family. I don’t remember not one dog or animal that was considered abused. Can’t speak for all but that was the norm for my neighborhood.
Celisea
October 24th, 2011
5:26 pm
I sort of missed the blog today after page 2. I was actually working. I tried to skim but I either missed a post or missed the point…LOL See can’t blog and work…not well anyway
i'm swiss™
October 24th, 2011
5:35 pm
C — Yeah, it’s no wonder Americans have a bad rep, with shenanigans like that. I mean, they couldn’t have made it more clear that they were more concerned about a dog than about people. Mrs. Swiss & I were looking at the tour guide like, “uh, lets get our azzes back to the resort before we piss these folks off any more…”
Celisea
October 24th, 2011
5:39 pm
Mrs. Swiss & I were looking at the tour guide like, “uh, lets get our azzes back to the resort before we piss these folks off any more…”
and this my friend Meanwhile, they didn’t buy or offer to give sh!t to the poor merchants who where their trying to make a living… makes me proud to be an American….riiight But yes, yes yes sooo true. Knowing most foreign countries don’t give a hootinanny about Americans, yeah not ticking anybody off in the slightest would be the safest route. Idda sold that chick out for “for sure” safety…LOL
Alright Swissy I’m out.
Celisea
October 24th, 2011
5:43 pm
One last one….for the road:
The ballplayer stinks something awful. I sooo don’t get that funk. I’m about 5 feet away from him and when he opens his door from being holed in his office all day, there’s a raging funk I cannot describe. It’s not normal didn’t take a bath funk, it’s like in his skin or coming from his pours. It’s like a man’s order but to the 10th power. Very very very overwhelming and got my face cringed even to just typing this. Not being ugly but I’m soooo not getting why he can’t conquer that funk. Gheesh. I bet when he played ball he was a stankin joker. Some days I smell it, some days I don’t. It use to be unbearable as I think he was working out in the mornings because the entire hallway would be funked out. But it’s been present here of late.
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