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New relationship? Avoid Facebook

So you are excited about your new guy/girl. Things are going so well, you just can’t believe it. You are both on the same page – Great! Just don’t get on the same Facebook page. No good can come from it.

Sometimes new relationships are fragile. The slightest bump can cause a crack and it all becomes a mess in a matter of hours. I just watched a new relationship plummet to the breakup abyss because a certain guy had not let it be known he was off the market.

What looked to be an innocent comment left on his Facebook wall by an ex-fling/girl of the week/booty call contact, became the source of a huge fight. Could this have happened if not for Facebook? It’s possible. I just believe that until you are in a solid, trusting relationship, Facebook contact with your new guy/girl should be avoided.

Do you think that social media is to blame for a lot of break ups and dating drama? So many things can be misconstrued and misinterpreted, but we insist on finding ways to put it all out there.

What is the best way to handle a misunderstanding that happens on Twitter, Facebook, etc.? Would you ever confront the person you are dating about something they said or had said to them?

Is this another dating challenge we have to contend with or is it really about how you handle it?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

294 comments Add your comment

Professor

October 24th, 2011
12:34 pm

Hello everybody,

Popping in to speak. Have a good day

disco

October 24th, 2011
12:37 pm

@willie d – sounds like you are shouting out love. love could most def use some shout outs. “here’s to love” – cheers.

@SCool – please don’t attempt to run in a wedding dress. not a good look. you might be able to wear all white running gear and maybe a small veil type something and let your girls wear matching running gear in bridesmaids colors.

SexyCool

October 24th, 2011
12:41 pm

Aw..shucks…WillieD…you are one of my inspirations. I love how you handle yours.

disco – it is actually a national BGR event. We will all be repping team t-shirts. (Looks like BGR is going to have a major presence at this event…especially with this last Saints win related discount.)

Mo (aka Moeisha)

October 24th, 2011
12:46 pm

Willie D/SCool – those Marta Chronicles are hilarious! Especially as a former MARTA rider, none of those things suprise me but just remind me how much I laughed daily on the ride home!

Kym

October 24th, 2011
12:49 pm

Okay I am gonna have to develop some kind of mantra to chant to keep me positive…cause some people’s children>>>>>Afternoon lack of chocolate..vent.

Kellibean

October 24th, 2011
12:51 pm

My S/O and I reconnected via Facebook. We had some challenges in the beginning with FB, but now we hardly have an issue over it. We both had to learn to keep each other in mind when making posts. There have been times when I’ve thought about deleting my account, but I do a lot with two non profit organizations and FB is a main way to reach a lot of people! My S/O has thought about deleting his account also, but he is a musician and FB is important for musicians to get the word out about their shows. Facebook can be very tough on a relationship, but you have to learn to deal and communicate the issues. Once communitcated, then hopefully the issues will be resolved. If not, then it’s not FB that broke you up…it’s the lack of respect…

Sweet Pea

October 24th, 2011
12:52 pm

@Celisea~ I know and don’t forget the “splits” they did in their performances!!!

kimmie

October 24th, 2011
12:55 pm

Pinky – Uhm, okay cool you cosigned, but I was talking about both genders that put, “it’s complicated” as a status. And as long as folk are upfront and honest and not “exclusive” with anyone, I don’t see anything wrong with dating multiple people. To each his/her own.

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
1:01 pm

I think that whole routine was staged. No way they got those people out of the audience. The performance was too precise.

NaturallyK

October 24th, 2011
1:04 pm

I think its most important to be transparent and able to discuss whatever issues come up, no matter where they’re from. If you have an FB page or social media account then FB isn’t your problem, you are.

Lord Velonese

October 24th, 2011
1:05 pm

Whats a Facebook? A book with my face on it????

NaturallyK

October 24th, 2011
1:09 pm

PS – I don’t have an FB but my husband does. We both have twitter. Never had a problem over it.

Celisea

October 24th, 2011
1:13 pm

Leggs/Sweetpea – I DEFINITELY could not have done it…LOL

cba

October 24th, 2011
1:13 pm

The idiot/crook who stole the lady’s purse as she went into the daycare center and later took pictures of himself with her phone. If he only knew that the pics automatically went to her FB and there is a crystal clear pic of his mugg……priceless

Sweet Pea

October 24th, 2011
1:21 pm

Celisea, me neither!

cba..there have been other crooks caught that way and folks rescued from home invaders so perhaps FB has it’s pros for catching criminals too!

Celisea

October 24th, 2011
1:24 pm

Sweet Pea/cba – I heard about the lady that posted (although dumb) her exact whereabouts for some concert she’d planned on attending. Yes, because she was dumb enough to post every intimate detail of her life and whereabouts, it was the perfect set-up for the dudes that robbed her. To boot, it was folks she “friended”….dummy

Alright…about to do the dreaded walk now…ugh

czBrat

October 24th, 2011
1:25 pm

o/t .. it’s a good sign when you have a coupon for a free micky-dee sammich and you don’t even want it. :) gonna enjoy my baked chicken and veggies.

SexyCool

October 24th, 2011
1:27 pm

Have fun, Cel…

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
1:38 pm

It will be an even better sign if you gave that coupon to someone else (lololol).

i'm swiss™

October 24th, 2011
1:38 pm

Facebook (or social media in general) is not the problem. Stupid people are the problem. The digital world is no different than the physical world. If you broadcast all your personal business to everybody in the physical world, you are an idiot; same is true of the digital world. Social media can be used to good effect without putting all of your dirty laundry on display for the whole world to see. It’s all in how you use it.

Oh, and afternoon, everybody!

kimmie

October 24th, 2011
1:41 pm

swiss – Hey, Boardwalk has been pretty good the last 2 weeks. I hate Nucky’s brother, I was hoping he would beat him up!

SexyCool

October 24th, 2011
1:44 pm

kimmie – mail call…

Exiled!

October 24th, 2011
1:44 pm

Yea Swiss!

Coz if u broadcast’in relationship’ and u get dumped,then next time u single everybody is commenting that u can’t keep a man,’what’s the deal’??

Or just got a promotion

Just got my hair did

pleasaaase!

czBrat

October 24th, 2011
1:47 pm

now, leggs, that would be impressive indeed. but you know i might be dead broke and starving one day soooo …..

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
1:51 pm

rainy day coupon…ok (lol)….

I’m eating something I haven’t eaten in many years…cracker jacks!

kimmie

October 24th, 2011
1:56 pm

SCool – Have not gotten it yet.

kimmie

October 24th, 2011
1:57 pm

Did anyone watch that new show Boss?

Gansta!!

Exiled!

October 24th, 2011
1:59 pm

Eating and eaten in years?

U lost me there….unless u had used a different verb. :lol:

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
2:00 pm

Why were you lost??

SexyCool

October 24th, 2011
2:01 pm

That is so interesting. I responded at 1230p. (Just re-sent it…)

cba

October 24th, 2011
2:03 pm

Leggs~ what’s the prize (lol)
Everytime I think of cracker jacks, it reminds me of my senior yr in college and my roommate and another guy went to Richway (similar to Target) and they had cracker jacks 10 for a dollar. Each of us bought ten and went back to the dorm and proceeded to eat all those dam cracker jacks. I tell ya, cracker jacks and weed don’t go together :lol:

kimmie

October 24th, 2011
2:08 pm

SCool – Sorry about that, I did get it around 12:30 – thought you had sent another one.

i'm swiss™

October 24th, 2011
2:15 pm

kimmie — Yeah, it has been… I liked it when Jimmy when all “native” on the rich dude & scalped his azz… :lol:

kimmie

October 24th, 2011
2:21 pm

swiss – I knew when that old dude hit Jimmy it was going to be ON! I like Jimmy, he’s cool, but you don’t eff with him.

You need to check out Boss on Starz. It has a very “mob” feel to it!

SexyCool

October 24th, 2011
2:24 pm

kimmie – it’s a better story when I tell it. Call me when you have 5minutes.

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
2:26 pm

@cba ~ didn’t eat it all. Had to go and see what the prize is…it’s a boring cut out of George Wasinghton.

My first credit card was a Richway’s card! Loved that store.

SexyCool

October 24th, 2011
2:28 pm

And if that was you that I just hung up on, call me back. (lol)

Willie Dynamite

October 24th, 2011
2:34 pm

mic check one two one two

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
2:35 pm

People may be having heavy eye lids like I am????

Exiled!

October 24th, 2011
2:36 pm

The chic stole condoms

Crazy beyeotch!

Leggs

October 24th, 2011
2:38 pm

Someone said she should have stolen some hair dye and makeup. Hilarious.

Celisea

October 24th, 2011
2:42 pm

Did the walk…ugh…yeah SexyC it was no fun climbing that hill. Needless to say I felt like I needed oxygen..lol

Did someone mention Richway? I remember the orange looking signature blocks on the top/front of each store. We had Richway and Zayres. I got my ears pierced at Zayre. My cousin had a birthday party and that was the “after party” treat….we all jumped in the car and got our ears pierced. :)

Exiled!

October 24th, 2011
2:44 pm

Of all things surely? Not food not gas nothing of necessity

Ribbed condoms?

Yea!

Into the Light

October 24th, 2011
2:44 pm

Afternoon, all!

Nothing much on topic, except to echo the sentiment that FB is an application and not capable on its own of causing any damage. PEBCAK, garbage in – garbage out, etc, etc, etc….

Willie Dynamite

October 24th, 2011
2:44 pm

26 boxes. that’s either lot of cuddling or alot of $$ changing hands.

abc

October 24th, 2011
2:45 pm

I don’t mean to ignore you or anybody, Leggs. I just get wrapped up in work most of the time.

Into the Light

October 24th, 2011
2:48 pm

Richway and Zayre’s….man, that takes me back. I got my ears pierced there, too, Celisea.

I remember one of them used to do a midnight madness sale (can’t remember the name, but it was a late-night sale) that was SO COOL back then, because 24-hour stores were unheard of.

As to the condom bandit, I cannot think why you would steal all those condoms, and then get an ovulation test kit and baby wipes…. smh…

Celisea

October 24th, 2011
2:50 pm

Anybody know how to get the unlock code from a phone???

Celisea

October 24th, 2011
2:54 pm

Or should I have asked how to retrieve the code for unlocking a phone. I changed carriers and I don’t want to buy a new phone…I just got this one dernit

Exiled!

October 24th, 2011
2:55 pm

ITL?

Baby wipes and condoms

U don’t know why?

:lol:
all those condoms? Just a lil is fine,ha?

:lol:

English?