New relationship? Avoid Facebook
So you are excited about your new guy/girl. Things are going so well, you just can’t believe it. You are both on the same page – Great! Just don’t get on the same Facebook page. No good can come from it.
Sometimes new relationships are fragile. The slightest bump can cause a crack and it all becomes a mess in a matter of hours. I just watched a new relationship plummet to the breakup abyss because a certain guy had not let it be known he was off the market.
What looked to be an innocent comment left on his Facebook wall by an ex-fling/girl of the week/booty call contact, became the source of a huge fight. Could this have happened if not for Facebook? It’s possible. I just believe that until you are in a solid, trusting relationship, Facebook contact with your new guy/girl should be avoided.
Do you think that social media is to blame for a lot of break ups and dating drama? So many things can be misconstrued and misinterpreted, but we insist on finding ways to put it all out there.
What is the best way to handle a misunderstanding that happens on Twitter, Facebook, etc.? Would you ever confront the person you are dating about something they said or had said to them?
Is this another dating challenge we have to contend with or is it really about how you handle it?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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294 comments Add your comment
czBrat
October 24th, 2011
11:25 am
interesting take, sexy. i’ve often thought that, but i think it’s more my unwillingness (is that a word?) to admit these things are really happening in the world. i rather stay in my happy place where such scenarios are pure fiction.
so the letters are made up by attention hungry listeners or desperate show producers? or perhaps a little of both???
ctfu @ hazel. now THAT was funny!!!
Leggs
October 24th, 2011
11:25 am
@SC ~ that running is definitely paying off for you. You look totally different (in a good way).
SexyCool
October 24th, 2011
11:26 am
Ran 4.4 miles in 47minutes on Saturday morning. (Personal PR)
Leggs
October 24th, 2011
11:28 am
And they constantly insist the letters are real.
SexyCool
October 24th, 2011
11:30 am
Personal Record – PR, that is…lol!
Leggs
October 24th, 2011
11:31 am
There’s a button that says “it’s complicated?” Sounds disrespectful to me to be putting that on FB. Why blast your relationship like that? Is that code for “I’m hope to explore new things if you’re interested” to anyone reading that status?
czBrat
October 24th, 2011
11:32 am
Ran 4.4 miles in 47minutes
well now, that sounds like someone or something was after you, sistah. good job!
aight. like celisea, i gotta get some work done. later!
czBrat
October 24th, 2011
11:32 am
Ran 4.4 miles in 47minutes
well now, that sounds like someone or something was after you, sistah. good job!
aight. like celisea, i gotta get some work done. later!
Leggs
October 24th, 2011
11:33 am
Ummmm, not that you looked bad…..awww, never mind!
kimmie
October 24th, 2011
11:36 am
Leggs – That’s exactly what “it’s complicated” is saying, basically I’m just in this particular relationship until something better comes along!!
Stank!
SexyCool
October 24th, 2011
11:37 am
Leggs – I got you…(lol)
Leggs
October 24th, 2011
11:40 am
Cool.
@Celisea ~ it could only be that. Just pure d foolishness….
disco
October 24th, 2011
11:41 am
hey y’all. good morning – almost afternoon. I was laying in the cut waiting for the topic to jump off of facebook and steve Harvey. still, enough is enough, I need some interaction.
kimmie
October 24th, 2011
11:42 am
What’s shakin, disco?
disco
October 24th, 2011
11:46 am
right about now I wish I was shakin something. work is slow and lunch hour is way off in the distance. quitting time is even further away than that.
kimmie
October 24th, 2011
11:47 am
disco – LOL!! I like your style!!
Kym
October 24th, 2011
11:48 am
nice to see I am not the only one wanting to click their heels and scream..there’s no place like home..there’s no place like home.
disco
October 24th, 2011
11:49 am
don’t know if any of you are AAA members or use your card for discounts but starting Wednesday it’s 40% off at reebok stores and next week it’s 25% off at new York and company. i apologize to the fellas for getting the shopping thing going again but I’m all about the discounts.
Mo (aka Moeisha)
October 24th, 2011
11:50 am
Kym – Raising my hand slowly…..Im tired as hell. As much as I enjoyed the concert Im paying for it right now and this Coca-Cola will not give me the jolt I need!
Leggs
October 24th, 2011
11:50 am
I have a question. While at a meet this weekend a friend asked about online dating and some of the pros and cons. I told her one of the cons for me is people asking for your number and not using it. She said it wouldn’t matter to her if he never called, if he’s who she wants, she has no problem doing all the calling. Do you agree with that. Doesn’t seem right to me. Let the man at least show some interest in pursuing you other than asking for the number.
disco
October 24th, 2011
11:53 am
leggs – I thought she was going to say it doesn’t matter if he doesn’t call because that makes it easier for her to eliminate him as a contender. she shocked me with being willing to make the calls. still, some chicks are like that and not just about phone calls. don’t get me started on the tales I know of women paying for the company of men in one form or another.
GracieL
October 24th, 2011
11:57 am
Sociopathic ex-BF (whose juggling skills were slipping due to an oxy addiction) busted himself out last winter, after layering the poo on me once again about how much he loved and cared for me. First, the woman he went skiing with kept tagging him in her “where am I now” mobile app, alerting all his other female “friends” on FB to his vacation with her. (Business trip, huh?) I stopped taking his calls. A few weeks later, he messages me with the whole, “Hey baby, need you, can’t wait, kiss kiss” nonsense, trying to set up some comfort for his impending return home… only, he sends the same message to another woman too, not realizing that FB made it a three-way convo. Heh… THEN I went off on him — at which point he turned on me in a frightening way for “making him look like an ayy-hole” to the other woman who was in the process of doing his taxes for him for free. SOCIOPATHS: Walk away, people. Don’t ever look back!
Furthermore, if you bust yourself out on FB, you officially no longer have “game.”
Leggs
October 24th, 2011
11:57 am
@disco ~ her stance was “I go after what I want.” If you want me too, we can work together. But damn….
She said it with just fierceness I got scared. She could just be talking smack because she’s been married forever.
Pinky
October 24th, 2011
11:59 am
abc
[I find it funny all the people that criticize those on FB….are hanging out on a blog.]
“That’s because you’re an idiot. ‘Hanging out on a blog’? Now, a lot of folks posting here appear to have little else to do during the course of a day, that’s true; but ‘hanging out on a blog’? Come on.”
Ouch
Exiled!
October 24th, 2011
11:59 am
So if the men don’t get the number how do they pursue her or any woman for that matter.
If the men don’t call it means they have enough on their buffet.
If she does all the calling….well…
She’s after the dyicks,it seems…
And those dudes will smell it from afar!
Let her make some mistake,she’s grown!
disco
October 24th, 2011
12:00 pm
married forever as is in recently no longer married? in that case I give her a free pass to go out there and handle her business, have some fun and then get back serious. seems like a lot of folks do tend to go buck wild after a divorce. they get to thinking they missed something out here but it doesn’t take long to realize they haven’t missed much.
SexyCool
October 24th, 2011
12:00 pm
Leggs – that is flawed logic.
Leggs
October 24th, 2011
12:01 pm
Furthermore, if you bust yourself out on FB, you officially no longer have “game.”
DAMN SKIPPY!!!
Button
October 24th, 2011
12:02 pm
Leggs some couples are like that from the very beginning and it works for them, I can’t see myself doing all of the calling though, I can say that I do most of the calling in this relationship because I want to and I have too much to talk about but my calls are limited to once a day
BRB
Leggs
October 24th, 2011
12:02 pm
If the men don’t call it means they have enough on their buffet. – then think you’re being polite by asking for the number.
Willie Dynamite
October 24th, 2011
12:04 pm
Afternoon All,
FB – I don’t have a problem with it. If I did i wouldnt be part of it. Find your lane and if whats posted (pics, status, relationship, etc) then stay away. It is another form of Social media. Some folks prefer to interact that way and some don’t. It is another form of choice, exercise yours. Simple as that to me.
Leggs
October 24th, 2011
12:04 pm
@disco ~ she’s still married.
meant DON’T think you’re being polite by asking for the number…
disco
October 24th, 2011
12:05 pm
still married is a whole new ballgame but it makes since that she’d want to initiate the calls.
Exiled!
October 24th, 2011
12:07 pm
It happens in real lyfe too,a chic giving a guy a number but never wanting to puck up the phone.
The guy has to look that as one that was not really interested.
So it would not be surprising for one to see some chic,get interested enough to ask for a number but not follow thru because somebody ‘better’ or more desirable came along.
Just online Misadventures.
KIM
Exiled!
October 24th, 2011
12:09 pm
Pick
SexyCool
October 24th, 2011
12:10 pm
I have decided that the N.O. Half Marathon is going to be my Bachelorette Road Trip.
Celisea
October 24th, 2011
12:11 pm
Sorry to hear that GracieL but that sounds like too much work for someone not work the effort…even to just show him up. That foolishness would make my head hurt. Just get the door for dudes like him. Any effort over that is a waste.
Celisea
October 24th, 2011
12:12 pm
I have a video someone just sent me from Universoul…my people my people. All I can do is SMH
Leggs
October 24th, 2011
12:12 pm
@Ex ~ no doubt it happens both way, she asked my thought.
@WillieD – that’s the bottom line.
Pinky
October 24th, 2011
12:13 pm
kimmie
“Leggs – That’s exactly what “it’s complicated” is saying, basically I’m just in this particular relationship until something better comes along!!
Stank!”
Co-Sign! Those are also the same Chicks that think its ok to date multiple dudes at once
Exiled!
October 24th, 2011
12:16 pm
She asked my thought
Right
and u invited us to it with:’ I have a question’
Now u saying what????
Willie Dynamite
October 24th, 2011
12:22 pm
Oh the horror, A man getting a Womans phone number and not calling. Say it aint so. i’m shocked appalled and just downright offended that a man would do such a thing. hahahaha
Sweet Pea
October 24th, 2011
12:22 pm
@Leggs~ I agree, if they ask for my number and don’t follow up then I keep it moving as I care not be jumbled in your juggling. If the woman initiates the calls, and it is not reciprocal then that would be a flag for me…no thanks!
Leggs
October 24th, 2011
12:23 pm
@Ex ~ You’re right I did invite feedback on women taking the time to always do the calling. My question was from a woman taking the bull by the horns. Not women taking numbers and not calling the dude!
Now what???
disco
October 24th, 2011
12:23 pm
SCool – your road trip made me think “running of the brides”.
Sweet Pea
October 24th, 2011
12:25 pm
@Celisea~Is it the video with the two couples lipsyncing and dancing??
If so, my co-workers and I watched it last week…comical indeed!
Willie Dynamite
October 24th, 2011
12:28 pm
SC – If I hadn’t told you before I am a fan of yours. Your genuine happiness with “The Dude” just makes me happy. You have opened up and shared your travails and it is refreshing. As for FB dayum what everybody else says. I love your (numerous) posts and you honestly keep me laughing (marta chronicles will make you some $$$ one day) while I skim and steal some of the happenings around town. Thank You.
Celisea
October 24th, 2011
12:29 pm
Sweet Pea – Yes. The chick from the 2nd couple took off her wig. She was performing to Jennifer Holiday’s You’re Gonna Love Me….same one you saw??? OMGosh I did laugh out loud. I definitely didn’t see that coming.
Celisea
October 24th, 2011
12:32 pm
Alright, got get this dreaded “walk” on today.
SexyCool
October 24th, 2011
12:32 pm
ooo….disco….I could run in a wedding dress (lol)….um, yeah…no….