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Dating the bad girls

Like a moth to a flame, some men are into women with a little edge. I am starting to wonder why I see so many men find themselves dealing with the fallout of the “bad girls” – the ladies that present a little danger.

I don’t think you have to have danger to make things interesting in dating, but I wonder if every woman should have a little bad in her? Does it really keep things interesting to be involved with someone that has a little edge to them?

I have one friend that is always attracted to the one woman that could turn his life upside down. The more unstable they appear, the more intrigued he seems to be.

When it comes to dating the bad girls/guys, what is your comfort level? How much “bad” are you intrigued by and how much is a turn off?

Have you ever dated that type? Did you discover something about yourself?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

262 comments Add your comment

Celisea

October 20th, 2011
2:38 pm

czBrat

October 20th, 2011
2:39 pm

thank you, disco. i’m kicking and screaming but headed down the aisle just the same.

celisea, you want encouragement? whenever i head out with the intention of putting in 3 miles, if i change my mind and go back in after .5, i just say “well. that was better than sitting on the couch”. so there!

Leggs

October 20th, 2011
2:41 pm

@czB ~ girl, you only kicking and screaming because you’re so in love. Your independence will only be shrunk a little bit…you won’t even notice that part missing (lol).

O/T ~ made a big pot of homemade chicken noodle soup last night. Can’t wait to get home to a bowl (awwww, cheap thrills) :lol:

Celisea

October 20th, 2011
2:41 pm

czBrat – LOL…I was teasing Purp because a few weeks back he passed out a “plan” and SexyC is about the only one that’s really keeping with. Maybe not his but consistently getting some sort of work out. So I was asking him do I get any kudos for walking outside…lol

disco

October 20th, 2011
2:42 pm

kicking and screaming sounds like a story…. did I miss something else? dag.

kimmie

October 20th, 2011
2:43 pm

Leggs – I made chicken noodle soup last week. Last night made white chicken chilli, a speciality of mine. Yummy!

Brat – When are your nuptials?

Lord Velonese

October 20th, 2011
2:47 pm

Wow way to assume, no you ladies are hypocrites because you ladies do the same, I guess I have spell it for the Mentally challenged, if you had half a brain you would have known exactly what I was talking about.

Leggs

October 20th, 2011
2:50 pm

Well excuse me, LordV! . If you re-read your post, the implication is that you’re are in fact referring to the topic at hand!

Willie Dynamite

October 20th, 2011
2:50 pm

Afternoon All,

On topic – Bad girls, been there, stayed there, lived that life. I grew up in the game so that was part of the deal that i signed up for. Lucky me I recognized that and moved on but it took quite a few years to grow out of my tendencies so to speak.
As for me, I guess I was a bad guy. I grew up reckless and cold. I’ve done plenty of things to plenty of folks that as i look back on i’m not very proud of. I’m in a much better place now but i fully understand I am upside down on my Karma tab.
As a Father I have a hard time reconciling some things especially with my Son (15) that knows how i use to live back down south. He’s heard the stories and met a few of my old friends but like always its a work in progress.

Leggs

October 20th, 2011
2:51 pm

kimmie

October 20th, 2011
2:54 pm

Leggs – Why did you even bother?

Celisea

October 20th, 2011
2:55 pm

Lord V – Wow way to assume, no you ladies are hypocrites because you ladies do the same, I guess I have spell it for the Mentally challenged, if you had half a brain you would have known exactly what I was talking about.

Stop ya fussing and name calling and explain yourself. You make a one line statement and as frigid as you are, what the heck are we suppose to assume. Now, EXPLAN IT AGAIN (said very very slowy). That was rude by the way.

Leggs

October 20th, 2011
2:55 pm

I don’t even know why!!! I knew I shouldn’t have. I wrote something else, but deleted it.

Celisea

October 20th, 2011
2:56 pm

Lord V – And if you don’t want to be asked then be more explicit

Celisea

October 20th, 2011
2:56 pm

SexyCool

October 20th, 2011
2:58 pm

I found it to be a rather cryptic statement open to interpretation.

Leggs

October 20th, 2011
3:01 pm

Thereby make our interpretation part of that cryptic outline.

Celisea

October 20th, 2011
3:01 pm

Leggs

October 20th, 2011
3:02 pm

Sorry, can’t type today (what else is new)…

Celisea

October 20th, 2011
3:03 pm

And I find it way more mental to say a word and expect for folks to pull a paragraph from that.

Jake: Sweet Peeda Jeeda, TWB

October 20th, 2011
3:05 pm

Had a few bad girls in my time, it was fun, but once I decided that real companionship and luv was more important, I changed it up….but now, the bad girls be callin me like the crack did to pookie…they are so nasty wit it, and Sweet Peeda like it nasty.

Willie Dynamite

October 20th, 2011
3:07 pm

Jake – headnod (couldn’t co sign out loud). 1 day at a time. hahaha

Lord Velonese

October 20th, 2011
3:08 pm

Oh like you ladies are not rude, and don’t name call, that back peddling tripe gets you no where. What’s that old saying “a hypocrite is as a hypocrite does.”

disco

October 20th, 2011
3:08 pm

jake. no offense and i’m certainly not insinuating anything but when i read sweet peeda jeeda twb i thought sweet peeda jeeda the woman beata. i know. i’m off. sorry.

Chink

October 20th, 2011
3:08 pm

I see you guys still at it in here..lol. By the way I dislike working downtown too many homeless people around…midtown and buckhead seem to be better… atmosphere wise…

Chink

October 20th, 2011
3:09 pm

I don’t know how the tent folks can do it!

Leggs

October 20th, 2011
3:11 pm

One old head comes on praising working downtown and now another old head comes on disliking it…awwww, America!

Willie Dynamite

October 20th, 2011
3:11 pm

Occupy folks – other than being somewhat disorganized and not having a concrete message i think what they are doing is very noble.

Leggs

October 20th, 2011
3:12 pm

Hey there, Chink!

Celisea

October 20th, 2011
3:12 pm

Hush ya belly aching Lord Velonese…just hush up. Say something relative to the topic outside of you don’t do this that or the other….on every topic :)

Chink

October 20th, 2011
3:14 pm

what is your comfort level? How much “bad” are you intrigued by and how much is a turn off?

From my experience those real bad boys always tend to be a little softie at heart….because you know there are the fake bad ones out there who are playing a role and all of the time you should stay away from them…

Jake: Sweet Peeda Jeeda, TWB

October 20th, 2011
3:14 pm

@Disco, its the Womb Beater…never put nothin of mine on a woman that she doesn’t want…but I will stick it where she likes, if her ear got wet, I would literally fugg her brains out…I know thats nasty, but I also know some ya’ll ladies like it that way…the nastier the better…lol

Chink

October 20th, 2011
3:15 pm

Hey Leggs !

Willie … other than being somewhat disorganized and not having a concrete message i think what they are doing is very noble…hmmmm lol

disco

October 20th, 2011
3:20 pm

well all right then jake. make it do what it do.

Leggs

October 20th, 2011
3:22 pm

@SexyC ~ Michael Baisden just gave a shout out to “Black Girls Run.”

SexyCool

October 20th, 2011
3:24 pm

Oh…yeah…the founders did an interview that is supposed to be airing this afternoon. I can’t hear it down here in the dungeon.

Leggs

October 20th, 2011
3:25 pm

Well, it’s more than a shoutout, he’s speaking with Ashley Hicks, founder (?) of Black Girls Run.

Leggs

October 20th, 2011
3:26 pm

You can join by going to http://www.blackgirlsrun.com. (lol)

SexyCool

October 20th, 2011
3:27 pm

Trying to stream live…IT is going to *kill* me…(lol)

Exiled!

October 20th, 2011
3:31 pm

Scool?

u alone down there,is there some privacy?

SHUT THE DOOR and LOCK IT

@Disco it’s past 3pm chic!

Let’s roll with them crazy

I’m coming over…put the one on vibrate and thell Dude u in a meeting.

SexyCool

October 20th, 2011
3:32 pm

Looks like I missed the interview. I will have to check it out when I get home.

disco

October 20th, 2011
3:36 pm

it is past 3 indeed. a sister is trying to get past 5. past 6 would be even better. work has slowed down which means time will slow down with it.

Jake: Sweet Peeda Jeeda, TWB

October 20th, 2011
3:36 pm

As for the Occupiers…if I didn’t have nothin else to do, I would be down there too, who the hell am I kiddin, it already to cold for me….with that said….EVERYBODY…go home, purge your closet, and DONATE THE COATS you know you aren’t gonna wear again, if you wanna get something for your effort, call Burlington Coat Factory and find out when they are staring their coat drive, they give a percentage for every coat you bring off of whatever you are purchasing…

Celisea

October 20th, 2011
3:37 pm

MMEELLOO – You do realize chicks ain’t the only one possessing the crazies.

I say he get a few crazy stories from you men. Purple gave one of nearly drowning a woman all because she spoke when not spoken to…lol

Folks was on a roll and basking in a woman’s “badness” this morning and looking at the womenfolks like we’d grown two heads yesterday for having the check a few brothers that thought otherwise.

Okay…..let the good times roll. MMEELLO – you’re up 2nd (Purp was first).

Celisea

October 20th, 2011
3:42 pm

Me too disco. I’m sooo sleepy right about now.

disco

October 20th, 2011
3:47 pm

you’re sleepy and it looks like everyone else is already asleep. it’s gotten “ver-wy ver-wy qwiet” said in elmer fudd voice.

SexyCool

October 20th, 2011
3:48 pm

About a month ago, I was getting into my truck and there was a black fleece pullover on the ground right beside it. I picked it up and threw it in the cargo hold. I forgot it was in there until yesterday morning when I went to the back of the truck to get something out.

Yesterday, TheDude and I were going to run some errands and were going down Ivan Allen/Joseph P. Boone/But is really still Simpson Road. At one of the intersections, there was a chick who was obviously drugged out and “working.” She had on a pair of capri tights, a tank top under a white t-shirt looking top and flip flops. She was freezing and was trying to pull her arms inside of her tank top.

As we pulled through the intersection, I remembered the fleece. TheDude agreed to turn around so we could go back and offer it to her. As we pulled up and held the fleece out the window, she took it, but instead of saying “Thank you,” she asked if we had “a few dollars” so she could get her something to eat.

Needless to say, we did not give her any money.

Exiled!

October 20th, 2011
3:49 pm

Celisea?

I thought of PR’s while in the shower and truly burst out laughing.

I’m gonna think,I don’t think I have any under my belt.

I avoided crazies or potential ones

If a chic wants marriage bad = crazy(if u negate her plan)

A die hard church chic = crazy,that’s why she there

The quiet chics that don’t talk= crazy,their souls are troubled that’s why they’re quiet

Loud mouths and talkative= Craziest!

I have avoided all these for the most part.

My only interaction with them was on a touch and go basis(knwwhatimean)

Celisea

October 20th, 2011
3:49 pm

Disco – Full tummy, heater going so I’m all toasty and eyes heavy. I’d say I’m right pitiful right about now.

SexyCool

October 20th, 2011
3:51 pm

When I picked the jacket up last month, I remember asking myself, “Why the heck was I picking this thing up off the ground?” Now, I know.