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Dating the bad girls

Like a moth to a flame, some men are into women with a little edge. I am starting to wonder why I see so many men find themselves dealing with the fallout of the “bad girls” – the ladies that present a little danger.

I don’t think you have to have danger to make things interesting in dating, but I wonder if every woman should have a little bad in her? Does it really keep things interesting to be involved with someone that has a little edge to them?

I have one friend that is always attracted to the one woman that could turn his life upside down. The more unstable they appear, the more intrigued he seems to be.

When it comes to dating the bad girls/guys, what is your comfort level? How much “bad” are you intrigued by and how much is a turn off?

Have you ever dated that type? Did you discover something about yourself?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

262 comments Add your comment

Purple Reign

October 20th, 2011
12:25 pm

disco, crazy is in your DNA. DO you let potential suitors meet your family? LOL

Exiled!

October 20th, 2011
12:27 pm

PR…’they lurk beneath’

@Disco?

which projects are those u grew up in?

Have u upgraded or u still in the hood?

czBrat

October 20th, 2011
12:29 pm

the only certifiable nut in our family tree happens to be about 5′ tall. all her offspring are hobbits too, and a couple of them are of questionable mental fortitude.

i’ve always said little people have a lot to prove, so they probably start off with a hair-trigger temper and go downhill from there.

Purple Reign

October 20th, 2011
12:30 pm

Exiled, ok I got it now. LOL
CanalZone, my profile theory is very true.

Celisea

October 20th, 2011
12:32 pm

Been on a call since 11:00….I’M HUNGRY

Celisea

October 20th, 2011
12:33 pm

And my manager is still talking says she’s got a few more items :|

disco

October 20th, 2011
12:33 pm

I may have mentioned that I currently live in a city WITHOUT any of my family members. we speak often. I attend reunions, funerals and miscellaneous events but I can’t live in a city with my folks. it’s hazardous. I spent a week at home in july and a friend was looking at pics on my phone. she saw one of a male cousin (he was a part of the fight I mentioned previously), asked who he was and pointed out that that was the group that got the club shut down the previous night. apparently they weren’t so bold as to just get high in the club but they were so bold as to put their products on the table and roll and blaze in the club. (I did not go out with that group of cousins the previous night). I was raised in pennsylvania. this particular project fight took place in Cincinnati. English woods to be precise. exiled – I am still hood to the core but I clean up well and hide my hood well. folks who don’t me from back when have no clue where I’m from if I don’t tell them.

Exiled!

October 20th, 2011
12:39 pm

Umm,yeah Disco,it’s an eye opener for me at least.

Penn and Cinci..I know there are some hood places in Cinci coz I have cousins there.

So,whose got ur picture on the blog?
I wanna see that ‘clean up we’ll u talking about.

U nailed a date yet?

i'm swiss™

October 20th, 2011
12:39 pm

disco’s stories remind me of an old joke:

There was a revival going on at this little country church and the preacher was encouraging everyone in the congregation to come forward and cleanse themselves by confessing their sins.

One man comes forward and says, “Lord, please forgive me, I’ve sinned against you. I’ve been stealing eggs from my neighbor’s hen house and blaming the foxes. Forgive me, Lord.”

The congregation shouted, “Amen, brother!” and the preacher exclaimed, “The Lord washes away all sins! Who else will tell all to him?”

A woman comes forward and says, “Lord, please forgive me. I have sinned against you. I have been unfaithful to my husband. Forgive me, Lord.”

The congregation shouted “Amen, sister!” and the preacher bellowed “Halleluyah! Our Lord is a merciful and forgiving Lord! Who else will tell all to him?”

Another man comes forward and says, “Lord, please forgive me. I have sinned against you. Last week I made love to my goat.”

And the preacher said, “Brother, I don’t believe I’d have told that.”

Purple Reign

October 20th, 2011
12:42 pm

Exiled!

October 20th, 2011
12:44 pm

Swiss!

The Preacher was a collabo on that one,that’s why.

Dude was reprimanded for that confession.

abc

October 20th, 2011
12:45 pm

In my younger days, I went through a phase when I myself could be characterized as bad, so I feel like I have some insight into motivation and risk of dating similarly bad girls. On the other hand, dealing with psycho beeyotch bad girls has proven itself as bad juju as far as I’m concerned. I resolved to not be so bad myself, and let the bad girls go make trouble with and for somebody else.

One needn’t be bad to be good. That’s a falsehood, something that one only fools one’s self about.

disco

October 20th, 2011
12:46 pm

exiled – I don’t even go to Cincinnati anymore if I can help it. haven’t been there since 1998 when a cop threatened to cite/arrest me for “issuing a false report” in response to my answering “I don’t know” to a question. (aunt – one I previously mentioned. got pulled over, had an outstanding warrant, attempted to use her daughter’s license number and cop wanted me to verify everything. I instinctively went into “I don’t know anything” mode).

Exiled!

October 20th, 2011
12:52 pm

So u don’t have any inkling of beyeotch in u left Disco?

Serously?

I said which hood do u live in Now,here in Atlanta?

Purple Reign

October 20th, 2011
12:53 pm

Be careful Exiled! LOL

disco

October 20th, 2011
12:58 pm

y’all got jokes. I’m still bout it exiled. don’t let my moving on up fool you. one’s upbringing is their foundation and all of my accomplishments in adulthood can’t take away from or erase who I was raised up as. I’m in NC. I’m off to lunch. back in an hour or so…

SexyCool

October 20th, 2011
12:59 pm

Purp – yes…I am really attracted to myself these days and so is TheIncredibleShrinkingDude (who has dropped around 20 pounds in the last two or three months.)

Yet while I am getting smaller all over, I’m still not completely to my goal. I’m thinking that I should be right where I want to be by the end of the year.

My pace has improved to an average of 11:30 – closing in on 10/min!!!

Purple Reign

October 20th, 2011
1:03 pm

I know this probably means nothing but I’m a fan of yours Sexy Cool. You said you were going to become a runner and you did..even better that you and TheDude are dong it together!

Celisea

October 20th, 2011
1:08 pm

Purp – What do I get for walking outside? I’m headed out in a few minutes.

czBrat

October 20th, 2011
1:16 pm

sexy that is awesome! are you doing any weight training along with the cardio? i hate running. i rely heavily on the resistance and flex training (along with diet control) to stay fit.

kimmie

October 20th, 2011
1:20 pm

SCool – So are you still going to wait until you reach your goal to look for a dress?

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)

October 20th, 2011
1:20 pm

I’m thinking that I should be right where I want to be by the end of the year.

Me,tooo!!! Good for you Sexy…do the damn thang!!

kimmie

October 20th, 2011
1:22 pm

Gadhafi is dead!!

SexyCool

October 20th, 2011
1:26 pm

Thanks, Purp. It is certainly a journey. I just talked TheDude into doing a 5K while we are in Miami the Saturday before we go on our cruise in December.

czB – I run four days a week and strength train two.

Thanks, SlimGoody!!

And yes, mrs. kimmie, I will not be wedding dress shopping until January.

SexyCool

October 20th, 2011
1:27 pm

Sorry…that was SassyBlack with the kudos…Thank you so much, PBG!!!

Leggs

October 20th, 2011
1:28 pm

@Sassy ~ mail call.

SexyCool

October 20th, 2011
1:30 pm

I’m actually thinking that I want to go with something that is silver/gray…like so…

http://www.vampal.com/Products/348-dazzling-satin-sheath-strapless-asymmetrical-beading-gray-2010-prom-dresses.aspx

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)

October 20th, 2011
1:38 pm

Okay Leggs…but it’ll have to wait til later…gubment blocked all of that stuff so I have to check it later.

You’re more than welcome Sexy!!

kimmie

October 20th, 2011
1:44 pm

SCool – Girl, that is smoking!!! That is the my other wedding color – the men wore silver gray ties. I actually was looking for something silver/gray or ice blue before I walked up on my blush pink dress.

Leggs

October 20th, 2011
1:47 pm

@SexyC ~ that dress is HOT! You would look fabulous in it.

SexyCool

October 20th, 2011
1:48 pm

Yeah…I just gotta get to my goals by December so that I actually look like that in it.

SexyCool

October 20th, 2011
1:50 pm

Or…I would have to wear a shaper in August…not really feeling that.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)

October 20th, 2011
1:51 pm

that dress is HOT! You would look fabulous in it

cosign

Yes that is VERY nice Sexy….sexy is as it does and you’re gonna do it regardless!

kimmie

October 20th, 2011
1:55 pm

SCool – You are like me about the shapers. I bought a Spanx to wear under mine, but ended up not wearing it. I needed it when I first bought it but I lost weight thank God and did not need it. It is lightweight, but still uncomfortable. I feel like I’m in a sausage caseing in it!LOL!!

Leggs

October 20th, 2011
1:55 pm

@SassyMe ~ it’s a very nice musical dedication to the couple who died while holding hands.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)

October 20th, 2011
1:58 pm

For real Leggs?! That story was just soooooo touching when I read it and I can only imagine how nice the musical piece is…I’m definitely going to make sure I look at it later.

Thank you for sending that to me.

czBrat

October 20th, 2011
2:18 pm

i luv the mermaid look, sexy. and yeah, you could actually rock that right now! i also thought about going with a very, very pale silver color. something just a step away from white. i’ll probably just end up doing off white cuz i don’t even know if the color i have in my head is reproducible. LOL

leggs, sassy … ya’ll make me feel bad for being so non-romantic. everyone on FB is going on about that story and i’m just like … meh!

SexyCool

October 20th, 2011
2:22 pm

czB – my reaction to the story – “How special…I’m hungry. It’s cold outside. Damn, I GOTta go to the office today since I called out yesterday. Dang, they had married a long time. He was dead. How was he holding her hand? Is it Friday yet?”

LOL – I know…going to sit in corner.

disco

October 20th, 2011
2:23 pm

pardon me for butting in. I’m out of the loop. there’s two upcoming weddings? sexy cool and cz brat?

Purple Reign

October 20th, 2011
2:27 pm

Celisea, you don’t get anything for walking outside. lol

SexyCool

October 20th, 2011
2:27 pm

kimmie

October 20th, 2011
2:27 pm

SCool – Sorry to say, that was my reaction to the story as well. Sweet,okay, next.

czBrat

October 20th, 2011
2:27 pm

lmao @ sexy. yup. always in good company with my blogettes. :)

no worries, disco. you are now in the loop.

SexyCool

October 20th, 2011
2:29 pm

Sassy and Leggs are obviously a bit more sentimental than the rest of you hardasses. (lol)

disco

October 20th, 2011
2:31 pm

congratulations to both of you. there’s no escaping the bridal fever. my workplace is hopping with the bridal showers and baby showers.

Lord Velonese

October 20th, 2011
2:31 pm

A moot topic. I don’t deal with Hypocrites.

Celisea

October 20th, 2011
2:34 pm

Lord V – I don’t deal with Hypocrites.

I’m assuming you’re talking about the “bad girls” in Diva’s post. You think bad girls are hypocrites?

Well, I walked to Jimmy Johns and the one thing I just didn’t consider was everybody else cashing in…the sidewalk was packed. Needless to say a sub for 1.00 wasn’t worth the cold or the line. At least I walked though :)

Leggs

October 20th, 2011
2:34 pm

Too funny. It’s a very good love story. Stayed together for 72 years. Pretty sure they had their share of peaks and valleys. In just about every picture shown, they are touching or hugging each other. I liked that fact that they are going to buried as one. Their ashes will be mixed together. WOW, morbidly beautiful.

Ok, when I want to get really wussy, I’ll speak with you, SassyMe. :lol: :lol:

Celisea

October 20th, 2011
2:36 pm

Purp – You could have at least gave me encouragement to do it again tomorrow…lol

Leggs

October 20th, 2011
2:37 pm

Since when did bad girls become hypocrites…if anything, they’re real and keep it real. May not be to your taste, but they ain’t fronting on any level!