Dating the bad girls
Like a moth to a flame, some men are into women with a little edge. I am starting to wonder why I see so many men find themselves dealing with the fallout of the “bad girls” – the ladies that present a little danger.
I don’t think you have to have danger to make things interesting in dating, but I wonder if every woman should have a little bad in her? Does it really keep things interesting to be involved with someone that has a little edge to them?
I have one friend that is always attracted to the one woman that could turn his life upside down. The more unstable they appear, the more intrigued he seems to be.
When it comes to dating the bad girls/guys, what is your comfort level? How much “bad” are you intrigued by and how much is a turn off?
Have you ever dated that type? Did you discover something about yourself?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)
October 20th, 2011
11:01 am
You right Celisea…we’ll never know what we’re totally capable of unless put in that situation. Granted some of us are a lil more high strung than others, therefore, making our “potential” to go there obvious…that being said, there are those who one would never guess or expect to have that gene and then it comes out and the S.O. is looking like
and thinking Harpo?!…who dis woman?
Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)
October 20th, 2011
11:01 am
Dating bad girls is one thing…a Long Term Relationship, nahhh. IMHO, a “bad girl” is like a disposable razor, you use it a few times and then you throw it away and buy a new one. Cruel but I think that is more often the reality. Again, there is a major difference between love and sex (to a man at least, a man doesn’t even have to like someone to want to nail them)…and this is the recipe for only half of that equation. (Now that I think about it, some of the ones I wanted to bag the most were ones I almost hated).
Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)
October 20th, 2011
11:05 am
But back then, you couldn’t tell them anything and they didn’t want the “nice girl” then.
Yep but he expects her to blindfully be his ride or die chick regardless…
I said heyall naw (in my Madea voice)…
Celisea
October 20th, 2011
11:06 am
Sassy – Granted some of us are a lil more high strung than others, therefore, making our “potential” to go there obvious…that being said, there are those who one would never guess or expect to have that gene and then it comes out and the S.O. is looking like and thinking Harpo?!…who dis woman?
So so so true. I would advise any person to look before you leap. You never EVER know what you’re dealing with.
Celisea
October 20th, 2011
11:07 am
Granted some of us are a lil more high strung than others, therefore, making our “potential” to go there obvious
And this is funny
SexyCool
October 20th, 2011
11:10 am
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i'm swiss™
October 20th, 2011
11:11 am
czBrat — Oh, Mrs. Swiss can most definitely stand up for herself & doesn’t take BS from anyone. But I don’t consider that crazy — I consider that having a backbone. You can stand your ground without being psycho. Then again, maybe I’m just misinterpreting what folks mean by “bad” or “crazy” or “edge.”
SexyCool
October 20th, 2011
11:12 am
They have a new line of women’s workout wear that is pretty AWEsome!!!
GracieL
October 20th, 2011
11:15 am
They say, “Never date anyone crazier than you are.” But in any relationship, one person is always going to be crazier than the other! One of my rules is that *I* am that person. If you’re crazier than I am, keep walkin’ buddy.
THE INFAMOUS DK
October 20th, 2011
11:15 am
Hola everyone!!! Been a little busy.. Changed jobs. Got re-married.. (Sike on the re-married part).. Still the same old D doing me to the fullest travelling and raising my son.. Loving this life O’ mine..
kimmie
October 20th, 2011
11:21 am
IDK – Are you loving your new job? You sound happy!
Celisea
October 20th, 2011
11:23 am
Yes GracieL – Crazy and even crazier is not good…lol
THE INFAMOUS DK
October 20th, 2011
11:28 am
Kimmie – I am working downtown is magnificient.. Umm yes.. All the ladies in their business suits and cute shoes.. Ya’ll know Im a shoe whore so Im in hog heaven..
czBrat
October 20th, 2011
11:28 am
sc, i got a couple pieces of that line a week or so ago. most definitely gonna use the promo to pick up more. thanx, chica.
code FF2011 on levi’s site to get 30% off. good through monday.
disco
October 20th, 2011
11:30 am
dumb and dumber. crazy and crazier. hmm. wonder if there is a movie concept there. who would play crazy and who would play crazier?
czBrat
October 20th, 2011
11:31 am
is the blog monster dormant today? i’ve seen “ass” and “whore” get right past him.
(now watch my post get blocked!) LOL
idk, since there’s no chance you’ll spot any of those ladies sporting flip-flops with their suits, i bet you are in hog heaven indeed.
Albert
October 20th, 2011
11:32 am
I’ve never dated a bad girl. Somehow I have the feeling that I’ve missed out on something.
Celisea
October 20th, 2011
11:34 am
I think I hear the Varsity calling me for lunch. I’ve been doing salad until it’s coming out of my ears
Celisea
October 20th, 2011
11:34 am
My soup yesterday was good
THE INFAMOUS DK
October 20th, 2011
11:34 am
No flip flops down here CZ.. And i love it.. About as close as they come to flip flops is their walking shoes and their suits.. Cutie Pies.. Oh and I love wearing suits to work everyday.. forgot how much I missed that..
kimmie
October 20th, 2011
11:36 am
IDK – That is so cool!LOL!! I love reading about folks that are actually happy and enjoying life! And I know what you mean about being downtown – I had a blast when I worked there! My new husband works in Midtown and he likes it.
What you said about the ladies looking nice in their suits & shoes brought to mind something my mom used to tell me. She said if a woman is a stay-at-home or work-from-home wife to take care to keep herself up. She said hubby is out in the work world where all the ladies he comes in contact with are looking nice and together. You don’t want him coming home to see you looking like a hag!LOL!!
Exiled!
October 20th, 2011
11:37 am
I always thought Varsity was for college kids and football beer guzzling fans.
I never see u as a German tanker Celisea..,u drink and smoke?
czBrat
October 20th, 2011
11:37 am
eeeewwww. celisea, varsity? just eewww. but i know i’m in the minority with my dislike of the varsity and coca-cola here in good ol’ atl.
lunch today: italian wedding soup from ‘my friend’s place’. yum!
SexyCool
October 20th, 2011
11:39 am
czB – every now and then, I go by the Varsity just to see if the food has actually gotten as good as everyone says it is. So far, it hasn’t. (shrugs)
disco
October 20th, 2011
11:39 am
a dieting co-worker just announced she’s having carrots and hummus. I’m like whatever. I had to play with her will power by pointing out that I’m hitting a spot after work where I can get a fried chicken club sandwich (fabulous. chicken breast, ham, bacon, lettuce, tomato, cheese on texas toast). not healthy but definitely good. if I luck up on a good drink special that’ll be icing on the cake…
Celisea
October 20th, 2011
11:40 am
MMEELLOO – Nope, haven’t had a drink in a number of years…never smoked. You’re funny dude. I’m going for a hotdog and order of fries and a DIET COKE
czBrat/SexyC – Give one more run…lol
kimmie
October 20th, 2011
11:41 am
Celisea – I can only do Varsity maybe once a year, but love the onion rings, chilli dogs and the FO – frosted orange! Oh and the fried pies.
Heart attack waiting to happen!
Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)
October 20th, 2011
11:41 am
Good luck at the Varsity Celisea….
cz soup on a day like this would be great but I CANT have soup without one of thos huuuge cornbread muffin thingys they make here so instead I’m having a really busy salad.
oneofeach4me
October 20th, 2011
11:42 am
@tallmom ~ don’t give up, never give up.. just don’t enable the drug abuse and self mutilation. I worked with a lady once, who’s oldest daughter got hooked on heroin at 16. She had a baby with her “herion” introducer. DFACS took the baby from her and the father’s parent’s raised it for the first 6 years or so. It took multiple stints in rehab and a few years for her to get clean. She is now in college, has another kid with a new man and has custody of her daughter back. You have to find what means the most to her (your daughter) and use that as her motivation to get clean. Just be prepared that it may take a while.
i'm swiss™
October 20th, 2011
11:43 am
“I think I hear the Varsity calling me”
And in about an hour or so, you’ll hear the toilet calling.
oneofeach4me
October 20th, 2011
11:43 am
dangit yall.. sorry.. posted in wrong blog!! LMAO!!! wow I am all over the place today
Celisea
October 20th, 2011
11:43 am
Dern it – No other Varsity fans? Kimmie yes yes yes. Actually I only eat the Varsity a couple of times a year. I took my mom there a couple of Saturdays ago when we left the ER…she LOVES the Varsity
SexyCool
October 20th, 2011
11:44 am
The first 6 subs on the menu at Jimmy Johns are a dollar today from 11a to 3p.
czBrat
October 20th, 2011
11:44 am
it’s probably been 20 years since i ate there last. all i can remember is that the chilli on the chilli dog tasted gritty. like it had sand in it.
i’ve got about another 30 days of really watching what i eat. as soon as i get back from st. thomas the holiday chow down will be in full force!
Exiled!
October 20th, 2011
11:44 am
Disco,hit us with some crazy ish from ur past.
It’s slow in here…
and then one more crazy for the road around 3pm ish..
kimmie
October 20th, 2011
11:46 am
SCool – I think it’s just a nostalgic thing with locals.
I discovered this dynamite burger place down the street from my job called Smashburger! They have these garlic, rosemary and olive oil fries that are da bomb. Great burgers, huge salads and a tasty grilled chicken sandwich. I’m going to try the sweet potato fries today. Can’t eat there too often though.
Celisea
October 20th, 2011
11:47 am
Swiss – And in about an hour or so, you’ll hear the toilet calling.
At least a day
SexyCool
October 20th, 2011
11:48 am
Oh…and for my fellow exercising folks…my latest fave workout accessories – besides all things reflective and neon:
http://www.bondiband.com
Did 2.5 miles in 28minutes this morning? Love cold weather runs!!
Celisea
October 20th, 2011
11:48 am
The first 6 subs on the menu at Jimmy Johns are a dollar today from 11a to 3p.
Okay there’s one that off Iven Allen Blvd…maybe I’ll walk down there and do this
Celisea
October 20th, 2011
11:50 am
Yep, think I’ll get out and walk….that should be refreshing. Got my sneakers under my desk too….
czBrat
October 20th, 2011
11:52 am
sweet mother! jimmy johns beach club is sublime!
kimmie, we’ve done smashburger. the fries where awesome. right up there with the parmesan steak fries at red robin.
disco
October 20th, 2011
11:53 am
see – exiled. now I gotta be the “crazy” blog chick. dag. but here goes. true story. have an aunt who has been on and off various drugs for decades. she got arrested some years back and another aunt went to clean out her apartment. during the cleaning of the apartment second aunt found a crack pipe and an open bible on the bed. of course, this prompted jokes among family members about which came first – the get high or the redemption. first aunt did 6 months in jail. she went to jail a size 4, came out a size 16. her comment “I’ll never eat peanut butter or oatmeal again”. (note my attempt to shift crazy from me to family members).
Leggs
October 20th, 2011
12:01 pm
So glad that training class is over!
@czB ~ I’m with you on The Varsity and Cca-Cola. I find neither one of them appealing.
Being a bad girl for your man is like adding spice to any dish. That special treat that only he gets because only he can bring the badness out of you. Not everyone is able to tap into that!
Exiled!
October 20th, 2011
12:03 pm
@Disco,folks on drugs are sick not crazy.
she was trying to kick one habit and get hooked on another,Jesus!
Wrong and complicated cure in my view. The way to stop is not to read the bible but just stop coz there is no real benefit in drugs,no protein,no fat nothing. So u don’t have to find Jesus to cure it.
I think Ur crazies are better fun!
Purple Reign
October 20th, 2011
12:09 pm
I’m the baddest mutha (watch yo mouth) in my house. She knew my ways of old and know they lurk beneath of the time comes but I am a big ol’ teddy bear with her. Now she has tons of spark and I know she can handle herself anywhere…anytime. I like her spark, her fire, her passion…even when she gets riled up and I have to sit her down or calm her because she is pissed I still appreciated that same spark! When it is directed at another woman I just get out of the way. LOL
disco
October 20th, 2011
12:14 pm
we – the family – get a kick out of her antics (this and others). and trust, she’s crazy sober and she’s crazy high. again, she’s been on again off again for many, many years. still, I take it you prefer the violent type crazy stories to the inside joke type stories. I’ll keep that in mind.
Purple Reign
October 20th, 2011
12:15 pm
Sexy Cool, your times are getting better! You are in stride now that is awesome for you! How is your body doing and looking?(Not saying this in a perverted way..but once you get into that running groove you start to become more attracted to yourself lol)
Exiled!
October 20th, 2011
12:17 pm
PR?
Just make sure u keep ur guns locked away.
We don’t wanna read a crazy story out of Minnesota in the ajc,with a connection to Atlanta.
U know how Darrel on fox 5 do.
Purple Reign
October 20th, 2011
12:18 pm
Exiled you lost me on that one.
disco
October 20th, 2011
12:19 pm
to co-sign on purple’s theory that it’s always the tiny chicks… this particular aunt is about 4’10” (which is why that 16 didn’t look so hot on her). when I was a child she whooped me, her daughter and another cousin. she was about 7/8 months pregnant at the time and we, of course, tried to outrun the beating. she literally lept over furniture to get at us. another time, a group of us (about 7 cousins or so) were in a fight in the projects (of course) with another group. a guy threw a trash can at us (think Oscar the grouch trash can) and this teeny, tiny aunt turned around in enough time to reach up, catch the trash can and throw it back. no lie – this happened.