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Dating the bad girls

Like a moth to a flame, some men are into women with a little edge. I am starting to wonder why I see so many men find themselves dealing with the fallout of the “bad girls” – the ladies that present a little danger.

I don’t think you have to have danger to make things interesting in dating, but I wonder if every woman should have a little bad in her? Does it really keep things interesting to be involved with someone that has a little edge to them?

I have one friend that is always attracted to the one woman that could turn his life upside down. The more unstable they appear, the more intrigued he seems to be.

When it comes to dating the bad girls/guys, what is your comfort level? How much “bad” are you intrigued by and how much is a turn off?

Have you ever dated that type? Did you discover something about yourself?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

262 comments Add your comment

Felix The cat

October 20th, 2011
7:49 am

“I need a Lady in Public and a freak in the bed.” I think they all draw to me.. the crazy, insane ones, the red heads, the I need you to take care of me, the ones that want “children” …………..etc.. I can find em like a bug finding a windshield..

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 20th, 2011
7:55 am

Crazy girls have the best sex.

Just Nasty & Mean

October 20th, 2011
8:01 am

Every many wants a Lady in public, and chef in the kitchen, and a whore in bed.

That Dude Devin

October 20th, 2011
8:09 am

Is it me or has Ted’s Montana Grill declined in quality (service and food) over the last year or 2?

oneofeach4me

October 20th, 2011
8:22 am

Hey Felix… lay off the red heads. We aren’t all crazy ;-)

As for the topic at hand, I do like a little bit of a bad boy, but more say maybe one who was “bad” in the past. I like to see that my man, or future man, will hustle (legally) to feed his family. The things you did as a kid, you do not have to continue to do as an adult. You just bring that drive with you into the adult world and apply it (hustle) to making your life and your families life better.

Still doing childish things that but your family at risk as an adult is a turn off. Be a man, be real, but have some hustle about yourself.

Call it like it is

October 20th, 2011
8:32 am

The above got it right. In school dated several wild childs, and the sex was off the hook, but I knew even then it was just for fun, no way I was going to have a long term thing with any of them. When I got married, I got the woman who was educated, good wife and a good mother. The times with the other girls were great but nothing long term there.

I keep up with many of them on facebook and each and every one has been divorced at least twice. Sometimes that wild child just doesnt go away.

TWASH

October 20th, 2011
8:38 am

I am a catch! I come from Charlotte and I seem to only attract “bad girls”. I’ve tried the bad boy image but I think women need an honest dude who likes to stay up all night listening, opening a door for a woman, letting them take the lead in bed, cleaning,cooking etc…I can do it all. I have a great job as a telemarketer and make some good coin…I have decided to quit with the “pretty ones” and started dating the big and ugly ones. They are easier to please and can be my slave in bed. I am now happy in Atlanta because of my new “outlook” on women….There are pleanty of frumpy women in Atlanta…you just have to sniff em out….

Mr. KnowitAll

October 20th, 2011
8:39 am

The best date, most fun, wild child, crazy sex, loose cannon date in our high school was the preacher’s daughter. She was a knock-out, too. On a date with her, you NEVER knew where you’d end up….. A RIOT! ……..Just strap in and hold on!!!

But a wife?….no way.

Exiled!

October 20th, 2011
8:39 am

Hey DK!

co-sign that!

a crazy one and some off the chain sexx is good every now and then,especially if u want to clear ur mind. Beats smoking a cigarette or kush, hands down!

Good morning

Leggs

October 20th, 2011
8:49 am

Good morning!

Hey there, InfamousDK!

I like being a bad girl every now and then, and definintely like a guy with an “edge” to him. But, I don’t want a “bad boy.”

Rock Gaines

October 20th, 2011
9:00 am

TWASH, keep your options open. There are some attractive women out there that are good people and that have all of the qualities you’re looking for. In baseball, they’re called 5-tool players (hit for power, hit for average, great throwing arm, fast runner, gold glove fielder).

In my experience, I found you know you’re in a really good relationship when she’s willing to be with you – even if you’re doing something boring at the time. Also, I believe every woman has tigress in her – it’s just with some of them you have to bring it out.

Good luck in your search, but remember to keep your options open.

Mr_NYC

October 20th, 2011
9:01 am

Married young and divorced after 22 years and didn’t stray – the bad girls saw me coming 2 states away and ate my lunch
Them girls scared me a little lol
Dating and roles between the sexes sure have changed

TWASH

October 20th, 2011
9:06 am

Thanks Rock…I will….it just seems to be an uphill battle. I am marriage material and want to be a family man for someone if only given a chance.

disco

October 20th, 2011
9:07 am

good morning y’all. this topic is almost like déjà vu after yesterday’s “crazy” stories. my son coined a phrase a while back when he indicated he would like to date a “ghetto goodie goodie”. he meant a girl with a street/hood background who knew how to check the street at the door. I’m the same way. I don’t want a thug but I do want a man that can be about it if he has to be. I’d hate for something to jump off only to find out I was tougher than my man.

A B Normal

October 20th, 2011
9:20 am

Depends on what you consider “a little edge.” The gal who is just as comfortable in a dress and heels as she is on her Harley is “edgy” enough for me. The one who is on indefinite probation, has a recent bankruptcy, and no home, no car, no job, etc. would be a bit OVER the edge. Even though the sex might be incredible, the excess baggage is a turn off.

Miss A

October 20th, 2011
9:21 am

I dated a younger guy a year ago that was from New York….the sex was crazy good!!! He was somewhat of a bad boy but was really nice and sweet. After a while, we started having problems, and we everntually broke up because, according to him, I didn’t have enough of an edge. His ex-girlfriend had issues…multiple baby daddy’s, insanely jealous ex-boyfriend, etc., and he stayed with her for years! I now date a guy with a good heart and a little edge, but he is a gentleman that treats me like a lady. Because of that, I am a lady in public and around his family, but a freak in the bedroom!

Matt

October 20th, 2011
9:26 am

Psycho women don’t sit well with me. I prefer a smart woman with a good head on her shoulders.

Fion

October 20th, 2011
9:32 am

@ Leggs
Thanks for keeping it 100% .

Single and Happy!!!

October 20th, 2011
9:36 am

We date the bad girls so we can be CAPTAIN SAO (save a h**)

Single and Happy!!!

October 20th, 2011
9:36 am

Excuse me , CAPTAIN SAH

czBrat

October 20th, 2011
9:41 am

HiYas!

vanilla is too safe, too boring. i’m sure we all prefer to be with someone sane, stable and reliable, but everybody should have at least a touch of danger in them. at least the potential to be a little bad azz when the time is right.

IDK!! hola, dude :)

czBrat

October 20th, 2011
9:44 am

matt, the smartest and most rational of women are capable of psychotic behavior if put in the right situation.

Fion

October 20th, 2011
9:51 am

“When it comes to dating the bad girls/guys, what is your comfort level? How much “bad” are you intrigued by and how much is a turn off?”

You just ain’t lived until you’ve had a couple of credit cards and your identity stolen.
Taken to court for a kid that ain’t yours, and given a $100 to get her weave tightened up.
Yeah, those were the good old days when dating was simple.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)

October 20th, 2011
9:57 am

Mornting All :mrgreen:

Sometimes being a bad girl is fun ;-) I’ve dated guys who liked that about my personality but once we got together they became wet blankets b/c even though they claimed to want that they couldn’t really deal with it. I know I can be work at times but nothing good comes easy.

How much “bad” are you intrigued by and how much is a turn off?

I don’t want bad…I want a man with edge that handles himself in a professional in the office and can knuckle up on the street if he had to.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)

October 20th, 2011
10:00 am

*in a professional manner* in the office..

SexyCool

October 20th, 2011
10:06 am

“The more unstable they appear, the more intrigued he seems to be.”
As it was stated earlier this week, “Water seeks its own level.”

Me? Adventurous? Yes. Fiesty? Yes. Passionate? Yes. Sassy? Yes.
Bad? Um, yeah…no.
Crazy? Depends on who you ask.

kimmie

October 20th, 2011
10:09 am

Morning All!

Hey IDK!! What’s shakin?

Topic – Turnabout is fair. The dudes that go for these “bad girls” are the same lame-o’s that come on here whining about so many women that want the “bad boys” and don’t appreciate a good guy!LOL!!

Bottom line, vanilla is a great flavor in baking, but in life it’s bland and boring. Everyone craves a little more flavor, a little spice! Walking around blank with no personality, no life, no fun, no passion, no imagination is frankly not attractive. It won’t get you a job in a field where you need to be creative or innovative. It won’t get you a date.

But, like everything in life, that spice is best in moderation. A little edge is fantastic, but go overboard to reckless and criminal and that’s stupid.

That fantasy of the librarian that takes off her glasses and lets down that hair bun is real.

Celisea

October 20th, 2011
10:11 am

Morning Lovelies,

Bad = stupid IMHO, and stupid does not mean edgy. Plainly I’ll take a pass on stupid…lol

I’m not getting this “freak in the bedroom lady in the streets.” Oh I’ve heard the saying for years so I know the intent behind the saying. What I can’t seem to get away from is “wh@re/freak” is often associated with the negative according to men, yet you want a wh@re for pleasure but a lady for all else? Call me stupid…lol Since obviously I have no sunshine to add to this topic I’ll go back to lurking until it gets interesting.

Give it a day or so when the topic is long forgotten…every man on here will be running from “wh@re.”

Mike P

October 20th, 2011
10:13 am

Good Morning

I want the good wife in the streets and a good mother to our children at home. I can’t do bad, bad isn’t good, its bad.

Based on the bad girls types I’ve met in my life, I will never marry, date, hangout, take out, treat, or even respect the bad girl as a potential “anything-mate.” They’re cheaper than a professional; however, im just saying.

Celisea

October 20th, 2011
10:13 am

And hanging out and around with a chick that’s a criminal and steal, planting a bastid on you and all that other mess is just plain retarded. How cute can that be? LOL

Lawd help us

Celisea

October 20th, 2011
10:14 am

Good most Mike P – That’s twice :)

You seem to be in the minority this morning.

Celisea

October 20th, 2011
10:14 am

Not twice as in a good post…twice in a week or so that I’m agreeing…

Mike P

October 20th, 2011
10:18 am

@Celisea: understood. :)

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)

October 20th, 2011
10:18 am

The dudes that go for these “bad girls” are the same lame-o’s that come on here whining about so many women that want the “bad boys” and don’t appreciate a good guy

Couldn’t have said it any better…they seek out that bad girl only to get burned/played and their ego crushed and have the nerve to whine afterwards.

Celisea your 10:11 speaks on one of the many double standards that exist….it’s any way the wind blows on that one. Cause the same wHOre/freak they claim to want is NOT the one they take home to mama or marry…

Celisea

October 20th, 2011
10:22 am

Sassy – Celisea your 10:11 speaks on one of the many double standards that exist….it’s any way the wind blows on that one. Cause the same wHOre/freak they claim to want is NOT the one they take home to mama or marry…

Exactly….you hit the nail on the head. That’s why a woman better be thinking for herself rather than being led because some of these dudes will take you right over a cliff. Furthermore, contrary to the theme on top this morning, many of them DON’T want wh@re at home….between the sheets, they want her on the side.

Mike P

October 20th, 2011
10:27 am

@Celisea: you said, “Furthermore, contrary to the theme on top this morning, many of them DON’T want wh@re at home….between the sheets, they want her on the side.”

You are 100% right on that point.

Mike P

October 20th, 2011
10:28 am

going to a meeting, catch you all later…

kimmie

October 20th, 2011
10:28 am

Sassy/Celisea – A lot may not marry the freak, but will engage in wreckless behavior with one than affects their lives down the road, like having a baby with one or getting caught up in some criminal behavior that goes on their record. Then the “nice lady” that they do marry later down the line has to put up with the effects of the bad decisions they made back when they were dumb & stupid.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)

October 20th, 2011
10:29 am

many of them DON’T want wh@re at home….between the sheets, they want her on the side.

Tell it like it t-i-z!!

czBrat

October 20th, 2011
10:33 am

hey now. i don’t go trolling for dates outside the prison fence. i certainly don’t equate having an edge with being a criminal. like sassy said, it’s that dude that dominates the boardroom, the bedroom and the street (should something unexpected go down). that’s HOT!

Celisea

October 20th, 2011
10:34 am

i don’t go trolling for dates outside the prison fence

LOL….please get this said

Kimmie – Exactly. Then she’s gotta deal with baggage that could have been prevented but naaaw, he was too busy having fun.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)

October 20th, 2011
10:38 am

Exactly Kimmie…they get caught up with the freak(get a charge/babies) and the nice lady they do marry has to play clean up woman and deal with that isht…and it’s totally unfair to her. Now she has to put on her Wonder Woman suit and play Captain SAH…

i'm swiss™

October 20th, 2011
10:38 am

Morning folks.

Yeah, this is pretty much a carry over from yesterday afternoon.

As far as the “lady on the streets, freak/wh0re in bed” sentiment, I think that’s more a case of poor semantics than anything else. If you take “freak/wh0re” to include being promiscuous, then certainly, that’s not what I want, and I’m pretty sure not what most guys would want. I do want a woman who will be completely uninhibited with me, as I’m sure every dude would want from his wife/SO.

As for the larger notion of “bad girl” or “edge” or “crazy” or whatever you want to call it. Uh, no thanks. I’ll take sanity, please.

And happily, that’s exactly what I have… :-D

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)

October 20th, 2011
10:39 am

it’s that dude that dominates the boardroom, the bedroom and the street (should something unexpected go down). that’s HOT!

oooh yes it certainly is…

czBrat

October 20th, 2011
10:49 am

swiss, i used to work with a white dude married to a black chick. he swore she was waaay too classy to ever go into ABW neck-roll mode. i told him she most certainly could, given the right circumstance.

i don’t doubt mrs. swiss is every bit the lovely you say. not at all. but i’d bet good $$ she is capable of some kinda crazy.

and btw, i was right about my co-worker’s wife too. :)

Celisea

October 20th, 2011
10:55 am

Unless you’re born with the doormat gene, use depending on the day of the week and the circumstance, the crazy gene is there. Dormant maybe but there. I don’t mean so much walking around and just letting it out of the cage. I’m talking the point of survival or abuse being inflicted. I bet there’s a place we all could go if pushed to that point.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)

October 20th, 2011
10:57 am

but i’d bet good $$ she is capable of some kinda crazy.

shhhh..cz you ain’t s’posed to tell him ;-)

Celisea

October 20th, 2011
10:58 am

Which was my point yesterday. A dude will call a woman crazy for not tolerating and yes REACTING to bullcrappery being inflicted. Is acting an ass the best thing to do? No…not at all. But IMO it’s either you’re dumb or crazy. Most know (even if a long long long long time ago) they’ve done something to a woman that left her broken or crazy or both. I just say don’t call a woman crazy when you know in your heart of hearts you had a hand in the matter.

I’ll take crazy for $1,000,000 Alec :)

kimmie

October 20th, 2011
10:58 am

Sassy- You don’t know how many “nice guys” I know who have had their lives turned upside down dealing with the after effects of mistakes from their past. But back then, you couldn’t tell them anything and they didn’t want the “nice girl” then.

Swiss – You are right, I think we all want a mate that’s open and uninhibited and passionate WITH THEM.

Rod

October 20th, 2011
10:59 am

“Every many wants a Lady in public, and chef in the kitchen, and a whore in bed.”
Yep, sounds about spot on to me.

And every guy should live by one simple rule – Never, EVER, stick your D in crazy.