Sex: Does it mean anything?
A friend of mine is knee-deep in a relationship that she didn’t go looking for. Apparently, it was one of those booty call to boyfriend kind of transitions that isn’t necessarily premeditated.
One could argue that once sex is introduced in a dating relationship, it changes the dynamics. Does it have to mean the same thing to both of you? When do you know that it does or when it doesn’t?
Sex doesn’t always mean exclusivity, but do you think it should?
What impact, if any, do you think sex has on a new relationship?
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506 comments Add your comment
MzNewy
October 19th, 2011
7:50 am
It clouds your judgment. Some folks equate sexual compatibility with overall compatibility. See if you like him/her as a person before introducing sex into the relationship.
Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)
October 19th, 2011
7:52 am
1) Sex ALWAYS changes the dynamics of a relationship.
2) I’m just exclusive by nature, so if I offer my opinion, (as I have before), it is biased.
3) If it does not mean the same thing to both of you then it is pretty certain one of you will be hurting sooner or later (read sooner).
4) If you have a pleasant conversation rather than run for the door after sex…it means something IMHO.
At the end of the day, most of us are not going to consider the logic anyway, but instead are going to listen to our hormones and then try to justify it later. We generally aren’t that strong.
Okay boss, I get it, you pay me…talk to y’all later.
Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)
October 19th, 2011
8:03 am
re: “See if you like him/her as a person before introducing sex into the relationship”.
Sometimes they have been known to follow you home and scratch on your door, so this is essential for long term peace of mind.
Kym
October 19th, 2011
8:55 am
Good Morning All,
Well I am sure my buddy ForReal will explain this wayy better than I will . But it is my belief that if a person says I just wanna have sex with you..that is really all they want. Now RandyT..I have yet to have sex with someone and not hold some type of conversation..well maybe one time..but that was long long long time ago..but I digress. Look we are all adults. And we really have to learn to take what a person says as their word. So again it is all about presenting your case up front, if the other person is down..carry on. Remember you usually finish how you start in relationships. So if it starts out as a booty-call. It normally ends that way..
Disclaimer: This in no way means that booty-calls can’t lead to long term relationship..stranger things have happen.
Jamesu
October 19th, 2011
8:58 am
perhaps I misunderstand. You started this thread with:
“Apparently, it was one of those booty call to boyfriend kind of transitions that isn’t necessarily premeditated.”
I read that as the relationship started as a purely sexual one and then turned into a dating / romantic one. Your question is about the very opposite though.
Exiled!
October 19th, 2011
9:11 am
It shouldn’t mean nor change much.
It’s just sex y’all!
Good morning!
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
9:11 am
Good morning, good morning!!!
Does it have to mean the same thing to both of you? Of course not. Booty calls seem to be the norm, rather FWBs. The person on the receiving end should be able to discern the intent of the call. If not, shame on them!
Sex doesn’t always mean exclusivity, but do you think it should? No, I don’t. Sometimes people just want to get dusted off with no strings attached. As long as both parties know this, it’s all good! Women can walk away from good d… just like men can walk a few blocks after some good p….. before turning back around for a repeat (lolololol).
What impact, if any, do you think sex has on a new relationship? Sex is important to a relationship, but sex too soon will no doubt determine if a relationship will even develop
MsMarriedUp
October 19th, 2011
9:13 am
How many people get twisted up in this one?
Sex and love are two very different animals. EXAMPLE: I can love my brother, my sister, my kids, my parents… unconditionally… and have no desire to have sex with any of them.
Why then wouldn’t this be the same for anyone else I’m professing to love?
That’s because it isn’t the same. Sex is an act, that true toys with and ties up the emotions, but that’s only for those of us who get it twisted. For me, I align sex with food. Too much of either is not good, just as both are necessary to sustain life.
I don’t always have to love what I eat, but of course it’s better when I do. The only difference between the two is there hasn’t yet been a taboo written about eating food that stigmatizes people into feeling ashamed or guilty or dirty to the point that they go into hiding to eat!
czBrat
October 19th, 2011
9:13 am
HiYas!
what a commute. just ugh!
let’s see. when we went from BFs to FWBs, the dynamic changed only slightly. the sex was just fun!! it wasn’t supposed to change the course of our lives. and ultimately, it didn’t. we’re still great friends.
luv the list, randy.
hey Kym!
Just Me, Slim
October 19th, 2011
9:26 am
Good chilly willy Wednesday folks!
No, sex does not have to mean the same thing to both parties but it would be a good idea to have an understanding of the arrangement to prevent later issues.
Also, sex doesn’t automatically mean exclusivity but if you KNOW you’re sleeping with multiple partners, you should care enough of yourself and them to take safe sex precautions.
Impact of sex on a new relationship can cause you two to get off track and distracted by the mere physical portion of the courtship. Once that newness of banging each other wears off, you might be looking across the room wondering who the hell this stranger is and why did you think you initially liked them versus now…
Kym
October 19th, 2011
9:31 am
Hey Czbrat!!!
markie mark
October 19th, 2011
9:32 am
It shouldnt be a big thing if both parties are on the same page…..the problem is, this aint 1978. There are infections out there that don’t go away with a washcloth and a shot at the clinic. Your partner may be on the same page, but you are just one page in a chapter in his/her book. Like they say, it isnt just them you are going to bed with, but all of their partners, too. Now THAT can be a game changer in a most fatal way……..
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
9:34 am
Morning Lovelies
As Randyt put it, I’m exclusive by nature so for me yes, sex means exclusivity. Whether on the receiving or giving end per se (because both are “getting it”), bringing sex into the equations ALWAYS ALWAYS changes the dynamics. I’m of the mindset that all things are on the table and understood and relationshipdom is upon us went broaching the quest of becoming intimate and physical.
I for one have never done the FWB nor dusted for the sake of….too much of a sissy (lol) and catching feelings. I’d only be lying to myself and doing the grin and bear it thing…ut uh. I allowed my kid’s father (after becoming null to any emotions or attachment) to give a right nice thorough (lol) dusting a few times but that was solely during my “transition” phase and because of familiarity. And yes I know (and discovered) familiarity breeds contempt.
Anyway bringing things back in tow…yes, sex changes everything and the impact is the dynamic changing and beyond what you can control. I think if you’re going to operate under the guise of FWB, purely physical, no expectations, no exclusivity then be honest enough to deal with the impact of emotions getting drawn in. For me it’s just a deal that’s way too easy for the man and way too much in the way of him having it no other way.
Tech '10
October 19th, 2011
9:39 am
Communication of ones intentions upfront is key.
Sex doesn’t necessaily mean exclusivity, I am in the camp that thinks it should for multiple reasons, STD’s being the biggy.
Sex can have a huge impact in a new relationship if sex was never really discussed, but it doesn’t have to. Whether or not sex does have an impact depends on the individuals.
Bethany
October 19th, 2011
9:42 am
Yes, you betta believe sex changes things.
I used to be HIV-negative and NOT pregnant.
Sex with that cheating, no-good Tremaine sure enough changed all that.
MsMarriedUp
October 19th, 2011
9:50 am
Yes, on the matter of STDs… I still align it with food. Most wouldn’t pick food up out of garbage cans, or not wash it, clean it, cook it… in other words prepare it for consumption. STDs like food have been around as long as food too… something like all the other diseases that have plagued time.
Simple Man.....
October 19th, 2011
9:54 am
Good morning peeps!!!
Of course sex changes things….IMHO, it shouldn’t, But it does… I guess the key is controling what direction the relationship goes in AFTER its jumped the tracks….
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
9:59 am
Hey Simple Man…chocolate snow bunny yet?
Moraless
October 19th, 2011
9:59 am
Does anyone out there have any morals left or have we just turned into sluts and slutmongers????
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
9:59 am
Simple Man…do you still have my email addy? Want to tell you something.
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
10:00 am
Morning Moraless, I do
Legg Lover
October 19th, 2011
10:00 am
Hey Leggs!!!
Lady~
October 19th, 2011
10:02 am
Morning……yes it changes dynamics…..
Professor
October 19th, 2011
10:04 am
Hello everybody,
I concur. Sex changes everything.
Kym
October 19th, 2011
10:05 am
Aww we must have made it to the front page again this morning..
Harder...please.
October 19th, 2011
10:08 am
@ Moraless – (it should be spelled moralless) – even people in the bible had sex. Are you a sex-only-after-marriage type?
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
10:08 am
Simple Man did you leave?
Kym
October 19th, 2011
10:10 am
@Moraless..naww not everyone…but the rest of us heathens are working on them..
Mike P
October 19th, 2011
10:11 am
@Moraless: Yes! plenty of us still have our morals, we’re just hiding in our sluts and slut-mongers’ costumes! LoL
Better think about it
October 19th, 2011
10:11 am
My son had a two week fling at college, and now he is a dad with a child that lives3 states away and he has to pay $550 per month in child support which will go up in price as he gets raises for the next 22 years. It’s more than just sex. Think about it people… My sons life is ruined now, and I don’t know my first grandchild…
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
10:12 am
Regarding Moraless’ post
I can’t help but wonder if folks are just plain slow….seriously. I mean are the posts translated into something of another? Gotta be a troll trait.
czBrat
October 19th, 2011
10:15 am
@ Kym, speak for yourself.
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
10:15 am
If having sex with a person does not make the relationship exclusive….you are a whore…the both of you.
Mike P
October 19th, 2011
10:16 am
@Better think about it: you are so right about that, wish people took the time to think before they act, maybe even choose better, sooner.
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
10:16 am
Better think about it – You say……My sons life is ruined now, and I don’t know my first grandchild…
A bit dramatic ey??? It’s a beautiful life/baby. Okay so your son will have issues as well as the child’s mother. It’s his life to live and deal. Ever heard of making lemonade out of lemons?
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
10:18 am
@LL ~ ummmm….hey (lol).
@SimpleMan ~ good too see you!
@Better TAI ~ so sad!
Kym
October 19th, 2011
10:20 am
@CzBrat..ohh I was…well me and the rest of the heathens I know and those who pretend they are not..
Legg Lover
October 19th, 2011
10:22 am
@Leggs…loved your comments…actually laughed out loud. How are you???
abc
October 19th, 2011
10:22 am
First of all, booty call baby == ho.
Second, lack of sexual exclusivity == ho.
Third, ‘what impact does sex have on a new relationship’?! Ya kiddin, no?
Fion
October 19th, 2011
10:25 am
@ abc
I’m tired of ya’ll coming on here disrespecting whoe’s. In the world of Whoe’dum there are different levels of Whoe’s.
Pinky
October 19th, 2011
10:25 am
“Say _____! This is Pinky _____!
Good Morning All!
Sex better be exclusive especially if You spend the Time and Money to Invest in her…Pinky Ain’t About the Games…But at the Same Time I’m a Firm Believer of Sex 1st will lead to better things in the longterm of investing more and more time…
Pinky
October 19th, 2011
10:27 am
@Better Think About it
Co-Sign!
Thats why I always come strapped! There Are tons of Women out here in The A who get off on doing that to men…
czBrat
October 19th, 2011
10:27 am
oh i gotcha on the heathern part, Kym, but i don’t pretend to work on it.
i kid. lemme stop before the villagers appear at my door with torches blazing.
lmao @ leggs. hey lady!
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
10:27 am
@LL ~ I’m good this morning. Omelet sticking to my ribs, orange juice in my system. I had my morning fuel and now I’m revved up.
@Better TAI ~ have you tried to meet your new grandbaby? A newborn. You still have time to have an impact on your grandchild’s life! It’s to you.
UGA 1999
October 19th, 2011
10:29 am
Sex ALWAYS changes things….sooner or later emotions get involved and everything gets really jacked up.
BradSRQ
October 19th, 2011
10:29 am
Better think about it – your son should see the movie Courageous. This may change his thoughts about the woman he met in college and his son (your grandson). Good luck to both of you.
Legg Lover
October 19th, 2011
10:30 am
@Leggs…awesome!!! Gotta love a good breakfast…and a revved up woman!!! LOL
ronnie west
October 19th, 2011
10:30 am
hell yes——- SEX is one of the most powerful forces in the world, second to hunger in my opinion, become friends first, Sex is used as a bargining TOOL. Their’s a reason why some women choose to sell it, and most men will pay strong amounts in some form or another for it,HOPEFULLY DIEASES will slow this process down——- GOD IS WATCHING————HOTEP
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
10:31 am
@czB ~ hey there. I’m in some kind of mood this morning.
I have to make myself laugh this morning! It’s such a dreay day,
Kym
October 19th, 2011
10:32 am
@BradSRQ do you know Better or something cause I don’t remember reading reading that the grandkid was a boy. Just said grandchild.
Fion
October 19th, 2011
10:32 am
@Leggs
it’s not me.
Kym
October 19th, 2011
10:33 am
My male cousin always says..”Coochie-coo is the downfall of man..”
Pinky
October 19th, 2011
10:35 am
@UGA1999
Co-Sign on that 10:29 Post!
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
10:35 am
@LL ~ had to laugh at that!
Crassmaster
October 19th, 2011
10:35 am
There really is no better way to say “I love you” than a well-placed pinky.
Kirk
October 19th, 2011
10:35 am
I generally read this blog and seldom ever post, but the clubbiness (sic) of this blog by some of the most regular posters and those who try to be funny usually is not. Not that its a big deal, but I don’t see anybody on any of the other blogs wishing “Good Morning.” My comments are not directed to anyone in particular, and so if any there’s type of blowback, I’ll just have to take with a grain of salt. That being said, hardly anyone is interested in getting to know people without becoming sexually involved anymore, so its hard to see how it remains a precious thing.
UGA 1999
October 19th, 2011
10:35 am
Thanks Pinky….It is always the woman that says it is “just a physical thing” and everytime they are the one that start to get all emotional….i love you blah blah blah.
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
10:36 am
@Fion ~ you are cracking me up!
M'Karyl
October 19th, 2011
10:38 am
Of course sex changes everything…& it does not matter if it is a romantic or platonic relationship…once sex has been introduced the entire dynamic shifts based on the post-sex personalities of the individuals involved…
Some ppl become more space possessive of another person…others can become more aloof to the person…and then there are whatever emotional values we have that are attached to sex…meaning our personal emotional value…sex for some has a more profound emotional value and for some others not so much…
How we value sex and why we choose to become sexually involved with someone really depends a lot on our emotional-sexual well being, what we need from sex and why we need it…and it can get in the way if we let it…a friend’s mother once told me that a good piece of a$$…does not for a relationship make…indeed it does not…being able to enjoy sex with someone does not mean they will be good matey material…it means they are good in bed…& sometimes, that is all the relationship needs to be…anything else more seriously involved now has the sex in the way…
And some ppl will tolerate almost anything for as long the sex is gratifying, steady, etc…even a pseudo-relationship act…to keep it going…& no, sex is not exclusive and whether it should be or not depends on the ppl who are involved in that decision & what type of relationship they have to each other…sex is apt to be less exclusive the more casual the relationship and more exclusive the more serious the relationship…pretty much…
There are so many age demographics in the dating scene today…I recently read about how my age group (The Middle Age Baby Boomers) are facing the challenges of dating and when to have sex as an older more mature person…and it is not the same as it is for younger ppl who are maturing through the aging process and its experiences…one thing about it…all relationships loose their clarity without proper and effective communication between the ppl involved…& communicating about why you are sexually involved with someone should be done…
Mike P
October 19th, 2011
10:39 am
@Leggs: really? I find that today, the weather has brought a refreshing air about it, magical even… I woke up this morning, feeling really awesome!
Kym
October 19th, 2011
10:39 am
@Kirk..honey…sigh..normally when folks say its not a big deal..usually means for them.. its a big deal…
On the political blogs people post regularly and they know exactly which nuttyfruity..will get riled up at that days topic. Cynthia Tucker has her own happy band..of nuts who comment regularly. If got something to say join in.
czBrat
October 19th, 2011
10:40 am
@BradSRQ do you know Better or something cause I don’t remember reading reading that the grandkid was a boy. Just said grandchild.
rhut rho
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
10:40 am
Good morning Kirk and “WELCOME”
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
10:41 am
@Kirk ~ it’s a blog of regular folk. Personally, I see nothing wrong with well wishes in the morning. I treat the invisible the same way I treat the visbile. Be kind to all, even through a computer screen.
Legg Lover
October 19th, 2011
10:41 am
@Leggs….you are too funny! Love that! So how can we chat off of this blog???
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
10:42 am
I see hugs are needed today. Heck I need a hug.
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
10:42 am
Simple Man, I responded
BluEyedGurl
October 19th, 2011
10:43 am
Morning! Have to say I’m a new responder but read the blog everyday…so take it easy on the newbie.
To me sex changes everything. I was in a FWB relationship for 3 years, recently ended, and have sworn to never take that route again. It was emotionally damaging to me and still recovering but have kept up with this blog for pick-me-ups…thanks for the relief!
SoldierMike6ft2
October 19th, 2011
10:43 am
I think women tend to get more caught up in the act of sex than most of us men do. So it probably changes things for a lot of women because after they choose a guy they’re obviously attracted to and then have sex with him, most times the “where are we going with this?” statement soon follows.
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
10:43 am
BluEyedGurl – Welcome!!
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
10:43 am
@M’Karyl, M’Karyl, is that YOU CHILE….So glad to read you!
@Mike P ~ that’s fabulous. Ooops, according to Kirk, we shouldn’t be pumping each other up!
Welcome Kirk.
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
10:45 am
I think the dynamics changes for men as a result the emotional change that happens in women….after sex. They gotta (well not really) deal with you dealing with your emotions. Everybody is affected.
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
10:46 am
@czB ~ good catch!
Legg Lover
October 19th, 2011
10:47 am
@blueyedgurl Welcome…I’m a newbie here too. I understand totally what you mean regarding FWB’s…not the ideal situation for sure.
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
10:48 am
@LL ~ let’s keep it here on the blog…we are doing fine right here!
Exiled!
October 19th, 2011
10:48 am
Cracking UP!!
so far,Crassmaster…u in the Lead!
Ima chill today!
Legg Lover
October 19th, 2011
10:49 am
@Leggs….LOL…alll right then. Cool with me…just brand new here.
rudy
October 19th, 2011
10:50 am
booty-calls are awesome!!!!!!
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
10:50 am
@BlueEye ~ thank you for finding relief through this blog. No doubt it can be entertaining, insightful, even scary. 3 years in a FWB relationship can be draining. You took off your color coated glass and can now see the forest for the trees….Stay strong!
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
10:53 am
Welcome Rudy!!
czBrat
October 19th, 2011
10:53 am
uga, careful how you throw around the “always” and “everytime”.
HiYa, gurl. sorry to hear you’re reeling from the end of the relationship. we also comingled for a little over 3 years. i know what made our situation work and transition back into a healthy friendship was clear communication as to what we were doing, why, and what our expectations were. as soon as we started wanting different things from each other, we talked it out and decided how best to handle it.
be thankful for whatever personal growth you take away from the experience and look forward to applying it in your next relationship. you’ll be fine!
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
10:55 am
@LL ~ Welcome. Nice that you like my rants and you love ME! I have arrived!!!!
gapeach
October 19th, 2011
10:55 am
Yes sex changes a relationship. Period.
For the people talking about sexing up before a relationship well that happened to me. I met my bf right after he got out of marine boot camp and we had sex the second day after knowing each other (call me a slut or what you will) but we have been together 4 years and plan on getting married. Neither of us planned on meeting each other and doing the deed that fast, but it happened. I felt very awkward the next day (since those actions were very out of character for me), but I wouldn’t change a thing.
Fion
October 19th, 2011
10:56 am
” Apparently, it was one of those booty call to boyfriend kind of transitions that isn’t necessarily premeditated.”
Aye baby, it was a jump off and you knew it. Ok, you earned a spot in the line-up. Now you want more playin’ time.
That was not part of the contract you signed. Your rotational day is Thursday, with the potential to upgrade to Saturday if you play ya cards right. You keep up all this complainin’ you gonna end up cut from the squad.
UGA 1999
October 19th, 2011
10:57 am
Czbrat….ok you are right, but in all of my experiences. And I have had a few!
Humble Man
October 19th, 2011
10:57 am
What I think everybody is missing here is that we’re confusing sex with exclusivity and confusing exclusivity with a committed relationship and all three factors can be mutually exclusive of one another. They shouldn’t be but they often are. If the sex is just a booty call, then, of course there’s no exclusivity, but if you’re in a committed relationship with your partner, then there’s got to be exclusivity, or the relationship just isn’t going to work and is not going to be healthy, physically or emotionally.
I contracted herpes from my wife because she slept around a lot before our relationship, but I still love her and we’ve been married for twenty five years. She says she regrets it every day, but when we were dating, she went out with other guys and she describes herself as a “broken woman” now, and she’s walked away from that lifestyle and is a different person.
To say that it’s just sex and doesn’t mean anything is a bit naive and, yes, sex changes a relationship and can be quite harmful.
Whoz53
October 19th, 2011
10:57 am
Come On Man! SEX is a POWERFUL agent.That’s like telling me that a person can be introduced to HEROIN walk away with no opinion. Again, SEX changes everything!
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
10:58 am
Would you really want to be involved with a person in which sex changes nothing for them at all?
Legg Lover
October 19th, 2011
10:58 am
@Leggs….you better believe it!!! Leggs get me everytime!!! So keep em coming! LOL
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
11:00 am
Welcome Welcome Welcome to all the new folks
SoldierMike6ft2
October 19th, 2011
11:01 am
LOL @ Fion!! Playa-Playa!! LOL
Legg Lover
October 19th, 2011
11:01 am
@celisea…thanks glad to be here…this is fun!!!
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
11:02 am
Who are you??
Exiled!
October 19th, 2011
11:03 am
Leggs and Czbrat?
why are hugging that chic(blue(pink)eyed) as if she just lost a loved one?
Really? a grown woman in a 3 year,consensual FWB needs a compassionate hug?
It’s not as if s.e.x is cocaine is it.
It’s funny to me tho how ..I mean….
I doubt dudes that know her dude are doing same thing…
(in hoarse Mandingo voice):
‘Sorry dawg for that FWB breakup and shaking off that girl!!! Be strong dawg’
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
11:04 am
*******************************WELCOME BANNER******************************************
TO ALL THE NEWBIES! RUN, WALK, FROLIC IN THE MADNESS!!!!!!
Legg Lover
October 19th, 2011
11:04 am
Who am I?!?!?
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
11:05 am
Dagnabit, I was hoping for the right number of asteriks to make it on one line!
gapeach
October 19th, 2011
11:05 am
fail lol
I like it here…why havent I came here before?
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
11:06 am
Hush Ex. She gets a hug for ending it. The demise of any sexual relationship can be devastating. To give 3 years mean a lot of feelings, a part of her life was given.
UGA 1999
October 19th, 2011
11:07 am
I find that women get much more attached and clingy than the men once sex is introduced into the relationship.
Lady~
October 19th, 2011
11:08 am
wow
gapeach
October 19th, 2011
11:08 am
@ UGA “I find that women get much more attached and clingy than the men once sex is introduced into the relationship.”
TRUTH.
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
11:09 am
You are you.
UGA 1999
October 19th, 2011
11:09 am
gapeach….glad we agree.
HST
October 19th, 2011
11:10 am
Enter your comments here
Legg Lover
October 19th, 2011
11:10 am
@gapeach…don’t we all! It’s a very exciting fun thing between a man & a woman…sex heightens the intimacy level tremendously…and there’s nothing wrong with that.
HST
October 19th, 2011
11:10 am
wow, talk about a sensitive submit button…sheesh. haha.
Legg Lover
October 19th, 2011
11:11 am
@Leggs…and you liking me for me???
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
11:11 am
@BlueEye ~ dare I say this, but were you having a FWB relationship with a married man????
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
11:12 am
Yep, for you being you.
gapeach
October 19th, 2011
11:12 am
@UGA – I don’t see how people can’t agree with that statement.
@Leggs – *GASP* oh no she didnt!! lol
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
11:12 am
If she answers things will get interesting for a couple of pages
Exiled!
October 19th, 2011
11:13 am
HST?
sensitive submit button akin to premature ejaculation
fits right in
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
11:14 am
PINK has a nice voice
gapeach
October 19th, 2011
11:14 am
Should I pop some popcorn?
Legg Lover
October 19th, 2011
11:14 am
@Leggs…awesome!!! My charm comes thru even a computer screen…LOL.
UGA 1999
October 19th, 2011
11:14 am
Gapeach…..it amazing what some of the things mothers will do for a coach to get their kid to run the football.
GracieL
October 19th, 2011
11:15 am
Sex is natural; sex is fun! But I’m off it now. Clouds my judgement. Clouds theirs too.
Legg Lover
October 19th, 2011
11:15 am
@gapeach…pop away…make some for me too….LOL
UGA 1999
October 19th, 2011
11:16 am
Gracie…so you are “off of sex’ for good? OUCH!
gapeach
October 19th, 2011
11:17 am
UGA dang…it was like that huh? I hope it was atleast good & worth it.
LeggLover popping some for all. *wiats for blueeyes*
gapeach
October 19th, 2011
11:17 am
OFF SEX FOR GOOD?! WHAT?? crazy talk.
UGA 1999
October 19th, 2011
11:17 am
Gapeach….I coach for a very large football program in Gwinnett…Yes in most cases it is fun and and in most cases it is worth it., haha
czBrat
October 19th, 2011
11:19 am
me-lo, she got empathy from me because she expressed being in a bad place. now if she chooses to stay in that place and whine about it, i’ll have to turn a deaf ear. but for now, can i just be nice? damn.
uga, me thinks you would have met your match in me.
this is fun, but i gotta project on my desk.
gapeach
October 19th, 2011
11:19 am
UGA haha oh wow…I bet those women fell like a whore after that.
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
11:20 am
Please, no recycled discussions on marital affairs.
Legg Lover
October 19th, 2011
11:20 am
@gapeach…me too! This oughtta be interesting.
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
11:20 am
IT AIN’T CUTE NOR FUNNY NOR INTERESTING
gapeach
October 19th, 2011
11:21 am
I don’t think blueeyes is coming back
HST
October 19th, 2011
11:21 am
Sex changes everything but it doesn’t mean the same to all individuals.
Sex doesn’t mean exclusivity. Monogamy is something that is decided between two people.
If sex affects a new relationship then it does; however, no single relationship should be a base for such a hypothesis. Every relationship is different, the instances and the involved. This is about as subjective as it gets.
If I were looking for a LTR with the possibility of marriage…I’d wait on the sex until later.
Have a good y’all.
UGA 1999
October 19th, 2011
11:21 am
gapeach….i dont think so.
gapeach
October 19th, 2011
11:22 am
Well that just mean they f^*$ their way through life. SAD!
GracieL
October 19th, 2011
11:22 am
UGA 1999 — Ack! I certainly hope NOT off it for good! But clearly I need to make better relationship decisions, and want a man who loves me for my mind, spirit, and sweet soul as well! Someone I can admire for his non-sexual qualities too. Kind of important when you’re thinking about somebody to grow old with! But once the hot freaky stuff gets cranked up, nobody is thinking clearly anymore. The better the sex, the greater the loss of logical faculties. Time to clear my head.
UGA 1999
October 19th, 2011
11:23 am
Gracie…I guess it is all dependant on what youre looking for….
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
11:23 am
@Celisea ~ exactly.
Here we go again. You love wearing the badge of “Unscrupulous Coach Willing to Bang!”
Legg Lover
October 19th, 2011
11:24 am
@gapeach…i agree…came and left…oh well.
@czbrat…blow off the project…thats what I’m doing
UGA 1999
October 19th, 2011
11:24 am
Leggs….no badge needed.
gapeach
October 19th, 2011
11:25 am
For some reason I feel like I’m the baby of the group.
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
11:26 am
face
palm
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
11:26 am
@gapeach ~ you immediately took me to the song Rapper’s Delight….
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
11:27 am
Leggs – I could feel this happening slowly. UGAman don’ went and recruited some folks that will exchange with him because we’ve muted him. Nothing cute about indiscretions and degrading folks and then wanting to dish and hee haw about it.
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
11:28 am
Why the face palm, Mr. Reign?
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
11:28 am
I can’t until one of those little league daddies give his ass a thorough beat down. If it ain’t indiscretions it’s race.
gapeach
October 19th, 2011
11:29 am
Lets rock!! Don’t stop!
lol old school!
UGA 1999
October 19th, 2011
11:30 am
Celisea…why the hostility?
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
11:30 am
I’ll be back at the turn of topics. I got a spreadsheet I need to work on.
gapeach
October 19th, 2011
11:30 am
UGA why do you think? What you are doing is wrong and you are going around boasting about it. SICK.
Legg Lover
October 19th, 2011
11:32 am
@gapeach…I was feeling the exact same way…lol. Love the verbal play & sense of humor on here….I’m having a blast!
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
11:32 am
@Celisea ~ we’ve seen stranger things happen in Blogsville.
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
11:33 am
To top it off, Celisea, he gave a big clue. The beatdown is a lot closer (lolololol).
UGA 1999
October 19th, 2011
11:34 am
gapeach…boasting NO….this is a blog this what people do is talk! hahaha
gapeach
October 19th, 2011
11:35 am
Sex obviously doesn’t mean anything to some people here, just looking to get there rocks off. gross.
Legg Lover
October 19th, 2011
11:36 am
Sex heightens the intimacy level…its awesome when it happens with someone that you know and like.
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
11:37 am
Leggs, it was for some of the stuff that I am reading.
hazel
October 19th, 2011
11:39 am
It all depends on the individuals. To some, its just for entertainment, for some it is everything.
But It should mean a lot in reality, as you are sharing something very special. Also, make sure that the other person is on the same page so that you do not waste it on anyone worthless.
UGA 1999
October 19th, 2011
11:39 am
It is amazing to me how judgemental some of the people are on this blog.
Exiled!
October 19th, 2011
11:42 am
Legg lover?
You know and like = FWB with a friend?
that’s what u mean??
I can see cuddling there if it’s a real friend
Someone u want just for their physical attributes does not equate to liking them
There,u don’t cuddle. Just znutt and Go
gapeach
October 19th, 2011
11:42 am
Hard not to judge someone that comes off rather crude.
But my judgement means nothing, but His does.
BluEyedGurl
October 19th, 2011
11:42 am
@Leggs – no he was a manager at my old company. I thought we were more than FWB but apparently not. One nt we were laying in bed and he pulled out an engagement ring…he confessed it was not for me but for his gf he had been seeing for 5 weeks…that’s when it ended. We had had the discussion many times and I always got the answer of you are the only woman I’m seeing but we can’t go public because of my position at the company…shouldve read the signs I know. Turns out there were 5 other girls at the company doing the same thing with him. I feel shameful and dirty but am a more attentive person from it. And yes, he is now engaged and the fiance and child are living with him
hazel
October 19th, 2011
11:44 am
there should be a lot more to a relationship than being physical. a lot more…
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
11:44 am
UGA I don’t think it’s being judgmental some people just don’t want to hear or read about certain things….but you are free to type what you want…sometimes there will be some who disagree with what is typed and will express so
Legg Lover
October 19th, 2011
11:48 am
@blueyedgurl…OUCH!!! That stinks! What a tool!!!!
UGA 1999
October 19th, 2011
11:48 am
Nah it is cool….I am out….you guys have a great day.
cba
October 19th, 2011
11:50 am
…….tail between legs……..
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
11:52 am
Well BlueyedGirl, hope you learned your lesson
Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)
October 19th, 2011
11:56 am
…….tail between legs……..
happens errtime…
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
11:56 am
WHAT!!!! A man actually had the nerve to do that, while lying in bed together. You should have gone to the kitchen and thrown hot grits on him just for being stupid. I digress….
That’s deep, BlueEye.
@cba ~ YEP!
Exiled!
October 19th, 2011
11:57 am
BlueEyed??
now when u hear of ’sweet nothings’,u know what that means!
it’s a he’ll of a drug…these droppings man got!
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
11:58 am
Maybe not stupid, but for being so insensitive…..
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
11:59 am
The deposit pouch is also a he’ll of a drug, Ex!!!!
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
12:01 pm
Leggs, do you really believe it went down like that? Besides she should have been out of the relationship once he decided to keep her out of public view.
BluEyedGurl
October 19th, 2011
12:04 pm
He did, he did. My fault tho…shouldve read the warning signs
And so sorry for telling the details lol…guess I needed to vent to the unknowns
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
12:04 pm
When there are only two things you’re limited to discussing and usually slickly thrown up in the mix…RACE and extra-marital affairs, well…. Never an ebb and flow, never anything new, just RACE and how cute you find it banging the little league mommies
But yeah, come on back and chat awhile
Exiled!
October 19th, 2011
12:04 pm
If u say so Leggs but if u lay,we mount.
and don’t be aksing after,’are we exclusive?’
and if I say ‘No’ u retort,’so why u f-ck me?’
grrrrrrrrrr!
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
12:05 pm
BluEyedGurl – I dunno, I can’t be empathetic but no knocks. Glad you got out.
cba
October 19th, 2011
12:06 pm
Leggs~ i had to concentrate and only type one “g”
Legg Lover
October 19th, 2011
12:06 pm
It’s great to vent…you can’t hold onto that kinda stuff…it will eat you up.
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
12:06 pm
Hoped “not going public” meant just at their place of employment. I sure hope he took her out sometimes and they didn’t just do the do every time they met.
Is this the case, BlueEye??? Also any man that says “ou are the only woman I’m seeing but we can’t go public because of my position at the company” should have been a gigantic red flag for you.
Kym
October 19th, 2011
12:07 pm
@Blueeyes…honey don’t let anyone make you feel bad for this…8 million stories and everyone has a story of believe, going along with and doing something foolish. It happened..you know better now..so you will hopefully past on this experience to someone else involved in the same situation. The more you know…
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
12:07 pm
I can’t see how you went for the not going public either. If you ain’t married then, well…if it’s a work policy thing then it would just have to be a no go.
kimmie
October 19th, 2011
12:08 pm
Afternoon gang!
Sorry, but I’m not buying it Blu. Just don’t believe anyone is that stupid or that crass.
On topic – Sure physical changes things. How it changes things vary. No, it doesn’t mean anything until it does – someone catches feelings, a disease, a baby. We aren’t animals, though some of us behave as such.
What’s going on with everyone this rainy Wednesday?
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
12:08 pm
“if you aint’ married” being him
But yeah, what matters is that you’re out and moving on.
Legg Lover
October 19th, 2011
12:08 pm
Totally agree Kym…we all have past regrets…not here to judge or whatever. Live, learn, and move on.
UGA 1999
October 19th, 2011
12:09 pm
WOW it is nice to see that you all are sympathetic to the females on the blog….not so much for the males.
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
12:10 pm
@Ex ~ you must have been boning some young foolish girls if ever an exchange like that took place.
@cba ~ too funny. I do understand.
Legg Lover
October 19th, 2011
12:11 pm
@Kimmie..what’s up??? Just procrastinating at work…LOL
Exiled!
October 19th, 2011
12:11 pm
Kimmie?
some women are desperately foolish(for marriage or boyfriend or both)…and they swallow hook line and sinker..every morsel of playadom..
Yes they are there
disco
October 19th, 2011
12:11 pm
hey everybody. as many have stated – you just never know. I know several people who married the so called one-night stand. I’ve got one friend who married her next door neighbor. I know of several interoffice romances that turned into marriages. I’m not the overly emotional type, far from clingy. in fact I’m often mistaken as being cold and emotionless. I was just raised to “check my feelings at the door”. not saying I don’t have them but I don’t get caught up in them and certainly don’t hang them on my sleeve for public view.
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
12:12 pm
Crass is much bettern than insensitive…thanks.
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
12:13 pm
As a man I don’t need sympathy. Live learn fight another day.
disco
October 19th, 2011
12:14 pm
blueyedgurl – dang. while in bed he pulled out a ring and said it was for someone else? that’s deep…
Exiled!
October 19th, 2011
12:14 pm
Leggs?
u are now a woman that’s why u say that
these chronicles start the moment u go past puberty
U tell me,in ur entire lifetime,nobody got some from u but went away coz they weren’t feeling u like that?
Really?
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
12:16 pm
Not, Ex! Even as a young woman I would never have said any of that!
In my ENTIRE life, I’ve always had repeats.
DreamsMaterialize
October 19th, 2011
12:19 pm
Not that its a big deal, but I don’t see anybody on any of the other blogs wishing “Good Morning.”
kirk That’s because the other blogs dispense with the pleasantries, immediately drawing their left/right lines in the sand, all jockeying to make the most witty personal attack of the day.
gapeach
October 19th, 2011
12:19 pm
Purple I like the way you think. (:
kimmie
October 19th, 2011
12:20 pm
Exiled – I don’t doubt such airheadness exists with some women and men too. It’s some panty-wearing dudes out there. I’ve seen such on display with both genders. I think we’ve all had our turn at stupid to varying degrees.
I also have a hard time believing dude pulled out a ring for some other chick when he supposedly told her she was the only one he was seeing. Stuff like that will get your d– chopped off. She could have snapped on him.
Something about this whole thing is just not adding up to me, just get a vibe. Not saying it’s not possible, but like Purple, just don’t think it all went down that way.
Exiled!
October 19th, 2011
12:22 pm
Repeats… u asked for a repeat and not in a carrot and stick,bargaining tool type deal?
Leggs:hey Buga,can I come over?
Buga: agghh,I told u Leggs we done!
Leggs: just this one time baby,I like how u move
Buga
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
12:23 pm
“…pulled out a ring for some other chick when he supposedly told her she was the only one he was seeing.” Excellent point.
Exiled!
October 19th, 2011
12:23 pm
Bug:: ok just once more, bring some Altoids
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
12:24 pm
Stuff like that will get your d– chopped off. She could have snapped on him.
Believe that! We won’t be having a “casual” conversation, having been bed buddies for years under the guise or relationship. Even if and say the only drawback was not getting caught in public because of company policy (I’m stretching). Otherwise, it’s been a secret thing going on for years and you was obviously cool with it. I know it’s all cliched and stuff but a man can only do what you allow. Without knowing, I think you went along hoping for a change towards “relationship.”
And again, it’s behind you know. Live, learn, extract and DO NOT repeat.
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
12:24 pm
Not once did I say I asked for a repeat. I’m not even going to follow your line of thinking anymore.
kimmie
October 19th, 2011
12:29 pm
Purple – I’m with you on the not needing sympathy, especially with something like this. In fact, hopefully my REAL friends would not offer sympathy if I was being that foolish and slap some sense in me!
Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)
October 19th, 2011
12:31 pm
Side note: I just read about a couple that reminded me of the ending of the movie The Notebook. They were married the day she graduated from highschool and stayed married for 72 years until they were in an accident. At the hospital they were in the same ICU room and passed away an hour apart…holding hands. Love is a powerful thing…
GlammourGirl
October 19th, 2011
12:41 pm
Newbie here…I read daily, and I’ve posted once before.
Anyway…I was also in a 3 year FWBs “relationship” but different from blueyed’s. I was the one that wasn’t interested in making it something permanent, but he thought he could change my mind. I just wasn’t interested in that…with him. I told him time and time again that he should find someone else, because we wanted different things, but he wouldn’t. I can’t even remember how it officially ended…possibly when I left the company, because we also worked together. I rejoined the company about 6 months later (which was a little over a year ago). At this point he was engaged…he always moves fast. We bumped into each other, and there he was again trying to get back in, saying that he would break off his engagement if I just said the word, which I didn’t. I told him not to ever contact me again. He doesn’t know how to just be my friend. He gets caught up every time, which is how the 3 years off-and-on dragged on so long.
Fion
October 19th, 2011
12:45 pm
@GG
So, GG if he could maintain and stay in his lane. Accept it for what it is (FWB only), would you open the door for Ol’ Boy???
Kym
October 19th, 2011
12:45 pm
Speaking of FWB….Did anyone watch that FWB movie with Ashton K and Natalie Portmon..how did that end?
gapeach
October 19th, 2011
12:48 pm
Kym I watched it, how do you think it ended? lol
cba
October 19th, 2011
12:48 pm
Sassy~ i think when couples are together that long, their hearts beat at the same rhythm…..when one goes out the other follow.
If I could plan my exit (in about 40 yrs) that would be the way, but not in an accidetnt…….holding the remote
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 19th, 2011
12:49 pm
Sex mean something different to each individual. Have it or not it’s your choice, I like to call it making love, being sensual, intimate. What ever you call it, it will mean something different for everyone.
Afternoon Everybody:
i'm swiss™
October 19th, 2011
12:50 pm
Afternoon, folks. How’s everybody been?
Glammour — First, welcome to Blogsville. Second, D@MN girl! What exactly did you do to ol’ dude? And are there videos?
GlammourGirl
October 19th, 2011
12:50 pm
@Fion…that’s a big if. We had the discussion many times, and he said he would accept it for what it is, and he would get caught up again. Even to the point where he was planning to move to be closer to me. Mind you it wasn’t long distance. He lived in Cobb and I lived in Gwinnett. But he said he wanted to be closer, so that when I had time to do something, he didn’t want that 30 minute drive to limit our time together. That was one of the many times I broke it off with him.
Lady~
October 19th, 2011
12:52 pm
awww cba too cute!
DreamsMaterialize
October 19th, 2011
12:53 pm
It is amazing to me how judgemental some of the people are on this blog.
Copy the above statement, paste it in every ajc blog, and it will be true each time.
Fion
October 19th, 2011
12:54 pm
@GG
Dayyyyyum!!! GG. Fion (note to self) stay the hell out of Gwinnet Co. GG staright flippin’ em.
I’ll holla playa.
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
12:54 pm
lol laying in bed right after sex and then he pulls out a ring and says it;s not for her. LOL
Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)
October 19th, 2011
12:57 pm
their hearts beat at the same rhythm…..when one goes out the other follow.
It kinda happened like that actually. While they were in ICU holding hands the husband passed first but because he was holding hands with his wife a heart beat still registered on the EKG monitor. A nurse came in and checked and explained to the family that since the two were still holding hands that it was her heartbeat was beating through him and the EKG machine was picking it up…so touching. They were hardly ever apart from one another in 72 yrs…wow!!
cba
October 19th, 2011
12:58 pm
Lady~ are you the teacher?? If so, I hope you are doing well. Miss your optimism
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 19th, 2011
12:58 pm
Purp:
That’s a bad dude if something like that went down, seem like he was beggin to get doused with hot oil……..LOL
i'm swiss™
October 19th, 2011
12:58 pm
Purp — Yeah, I had a laugh at that, too. The only thing better would be if he had acted like he was about to get down on 1 knee & then stand up and shout, “PSYCH!!!!! GOTCHA, B!TCH!” (In a Dave Chappelle voice)
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 19th, 2011
1:01 pm
Leggs Fan Club?
What have you put in the water? Folks breaking out from everywhere falling in love with you.
kimmie
October 19th, 2011
1:01 pm
Sounds like somebody wanted to be on an episode of SNAPPED!!
Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)
October 19th, 2011
1:01 pm
That was one of the many times I broke it off with him.
Key word being many….so there was a cycle of yoU breaking things off and yoU letting him come back…oookay. You live and at some point you learn..it is what it is.
kimmie
October 19th, 2011
1:04 pm
Sassy- You read my mind. In cases like that, neither party has a right to complain.
Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)
October 19th, 2011
1:04 pm
seem like he was beggin to get doused with hot oil
Oil?!…either that or ole girl might’ve gone Al Greene style and cooked a pot of grits…
DreamsMaterialize
October 19th, 2011
1:06 pm
Dang Glammour, sounds like you unleashed that tilt-a-whirl on dude…got him dazed and walking funny. haha
Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)
October 19th, 2011
1:07 pm
I don’t think anybody oughta complain either seeing as BOTH were complicit in the affair…
Kym
October 19th, 2011
1:07 pm
@Gapeach.. Its hollyweird the most likely ran off into the sunset together. Hey you wouldn’t happen to work for the ajc would ya!!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 19th, 2011
1:08 pm
Sassy Me:
LOL…..hot grits will do the trick too.
Kimmie:
Right no complaining allowed, when you going back and forth.
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
1:11 pm
Oil?!…either that or ole girl might’ve gone Al Greene style and cooked a pot of grits…
I vote for hot grits
Lady~
October 19th, 2011
1:12 pm
miss your wisdom too but I am in and out….in the background chillin’ cba!!! Thanks sir!
GlammourGirl
October 19th, 2011
1:13 pm
Yeah, I did let him come back, but that was on him. I was good, no complaints from me. I wasn’t the one getting caught up.
gapeach
October 19th, 2011
1:15 pm
@Kym, that is basically what happened. Who didn’t see that coming? lol
No I do not, what gave you that idea? Do I suck a grammar and spelling that badly?
DreamsMaterialize
October 19th, 2011
1:15 pm
Ok so dude was wrong as hell for dragging ol’ girl through the mud like that, flaunting the shiny engagement ring in front of her and all. But hot grits/grease, really? Over some ish you allowed and likely knowingly participated in? Will you be sprinkling some of those grits on your own a$$ too for your role in it?
gapeach
October 19th, 2011
1:16 pm
suck at* geez
Fion
October 19th, 2011
1:17 pm
Tell’em GG. You were doing the flippin’. Had Ol’ Boy turned inside out like a old sock!
Kym
October 19th, 2011
1:17 pm
@gapeach…naw…you remind me of the ajcbuzz reporter..she is a bit of a character..but pretty cool.
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
1:18 pm
@BF ~ too funny. What can I say, I’m precious cargo (LOL).
That is a touching story, SassyMe.
O/T: I’m eating the best darn tunafish sammich known to mankind!
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
1:19 pm
Will you be sprinkling some of those grits on your own a$$ too for your role in it?
C’mon Dreams, you know ole boy wasn’t making it known that she was a fill in until the real thing….yep that calls for grits…lol
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 19th, 2011
1:20 pm
GlammourGirl:
You gave him good loving, you let him come back. How would you put that on him, any man that gets it like he got it will certainly come back for more. Something suggest you had feelings too.
Fion
October 19th, 2011
1:20 pm
Dreams, Dreams. That’s all Hyperbole. C’mon Man.
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
1:20 pm
Leggs you beat me to it:
O/T – I’m eating the best Tortilla Soup with cheese sprinkled and a side of Tortialla Chips
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
1:21 pm
@DreamsM ~ remember, he told her she was the only woman he was seeing. But, I agree she was compliant with the arrangements for it to go on for 3 years.
Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)
October 19th, 2011
1:22 pm
Dreams who got your panties in a bunch?!…Blackfoote started it off as a joke about the oil and I added my $0.02 about the grits instead…go back and re-read. Now if someone here really did do that then that’s their damned bidnezz unless they decided to come on a dating blog and air it out. Sprinkle grits on that and STFU already…fkn moist:30 soundin azz. Reading is fundamental.
Yeah, I did let him come back, but that was on him
Babygurl, yoU just said yoU let him come back..so how is that on him if yoU let him? Just a question but either way hopefully all worked out for the best for all involved.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 19th, 2011
1:22 pm
Leggs:
You can count me in too. Your Fan Club……LOL
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
1:23 pm
@BF ~ of couse she had feelings, she had feelings for his d…..that’s it!
gapeach
October 19th, 2011
1:24 pm
@kym well I’ll take that as a compliment. (:
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
1:24 pm
Awwww, come here so I can rub the top of your head. Wait, I have to get the step ladder….
Thanks!
kimmie
October 19th, 2011
1:25 pm
Dreams – If, and only if it actually happened that way, all I’m saying is dude has some nerve. You just don’t know what will push some seemingly calm person over the edge. You don’t play with people’s feeling like that.
Karma is a big B however. Folks like that will get theirs, trust. He’ll be the very one a few years down the road crying moist on a blog like this, because his wife decided to trade him in for a newer, better, richer, taller model. He’ll be calling all women dogs.
Frankly, when it comes to him, Blu had nothing and so does the fiance’.
Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)
October 19th, 2011
1:25 pm
Dang Leggs you got a following…go head mami
GlammourGirl
October 19th, 2011
1:28 pm
@Blackfoote/Sassy…I let him back, but I wasn’t the one with the hurt feelings in the end. I had feelings for him, like I cared about his general well-being, I enjoyed the time we spent together, but in the end he was no one that I saw any long-term potential with. Yes, I let him come back…when it was convenient for me. That was on him for allowing me to do that to him.
Fion
October 19th, 2011
1:28 pm
@Dreams
some of these same chicks hollin’ bout I would do this that and the other, are the same chicks
that have written how they made booty calls, let dudes Hit it and Quit it and on and on ect. ect. ect.
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
1:28 pm
So 6 side chicks and a girlfriend that he had an engagement ring for. And at no point did she have a clue that there were other women in his life until he pulled the ring out that wasn’t for her. She is probably to dumb to cook grits if she did not notice anything up until that point.
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
1:30 pm
So glad swiss isn’t here right now!
kimmie
October 19th, 2011
1:32 pm
Yall dudes keep that ish up. Wake up one day and have some “dumb chick” standing over your d– with a knife! Or a pot of hot grits!!
All this, “but he/she let me” – better watch it!
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
1:34 pm
Brutal I tell ya…lol Just saying. You men have called BluEyedGurl all sort of names,
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
1:34 pm
Yeah she fell for it but he’s not guiltless.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 19th, 2011
1:34 pm
GlammourGirl:
“That was on him for allowing me to do that to him”.
I must admit, a woman getting back is priceless……..LOL
Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)
October 19th, 2011
1:35 pm
That was on him for allowing me to do that to him.
In my Dr. Phil Voice…dearheart you have some accountability in that b/c you let him come back…what do you mean for him allowing yoU to do that to him…you didn’t have to do it…yoU CHOSE to knowing how vulnerable he was so what does that say about yoU and your character to prey on someone solely for your entertainment when you KNEW it would never work? Again..it’s just a question not an accusation. If it works for yoU then cool…you know what they say about Karma right?
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 19th, 2011
1:36 pm
LOL…..@Purple
Too dumb to cook grits…….LOL
gapeach
October 19th, 2011
1:37 pm
Sassy, I’m pretty sure he knew what he was in for with GG. Seems like she made herself pretty clear and just wanted some D.
kimmie
October 19th, 2011
1:38 pm
Sassy – Finally, somebody else gets it!!
Fion
October 19th, 2011
1:38 pm
That’s why the game is all out of order and off kilter. All these poachers, imposters and wannebe’s .
Danm shame. And supposed to GROWN. Get out the Game and go to the sideline.
Ya littering the field of play.
Kym
October 19th, 2011
1:39 pm
@ga peach..she is.. I follow her on the twitter…actually the ajc tweets are pretty funny.
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
1:41 pm
Finally, somebody else gets it!!
It’s the men that don’t get it, their applauding GG yet slamming BluEyedGurl. Situations are not really that far apart. Not one of them have said anything negative but woo hoo go girl (Fion put your tongue back in…you ain’t getting any).
Call me a cynic on the GG story but……
i'm swiss™
October 19th, 2011
1:41 pm
“So glad swiss isn’t here right now!”
Hey… WTF? Et tu, Legg-e?
kimmie
October 19th, 2011
1:42 pm
The thing is, GG could have told dude what was up until she was blue in the face. It’s obvious, after she told him what was up & he STILL came back, even wanting to pick up & MOVE closer to her, that he was CRAZY!! You don’t play with CRAZY!!
Like I said, keep that ish up.
GlammourGirl
October 19th, 2011
1:42 pm
I didn’t prey on him for my entertainment. It was never me going back to him. I was honest with him from jump. He was the one that felt as if he could change my mind. I never led him to believe that there would ever be anything more.
kimmie
October 19th, 2011
1:43 pm
Celisea – I’m cynic on it too, but I’ll play along!
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
1:43 pm
Kimmie – Holes so big I’m staying away from for fear of falling through…lol
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
1:44 pm
What was GG’s story? Timestamp?
gapeach
October 19th, 2011
1:45 pm
@kym, well its too bad I never use my twitter, maybe i should?
who do i follow?
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
1:45 pm
GG why did you keep toying with him? if you did not want him why not leave him alone?
Fion
October 19th, 2011
1:45 pm
@ Celisea
A hit dog will holla everytime. BTW, ya tail wags when you howl.
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
1:46 pm
It’s over now, swiss…how you be?
kimmie
October 19th, 2011
1:46 pm
Purple – 12:41 & 12:50
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 19th, 2011
1:46 pm
GlammourGirl:
Hopefully he’s gotten over you, and moved forward you have to understand you laid something on him that made him almost become stalking material.
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
1:46 pm
Fion – Dear…please move on past me
gapeach
October 19th, 2011
1:47 pm
HE HAD THAT GOOD GOOD!
cba
October 19th, 2011
1:49 pm
PR 1:28, he had six side chicks at the same damn company!!! Hell, he should get manager of the decade if he pulled that off and still has his dk intact.
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
1:50 pm
“GG why did you keep toying with him? if you did not want him why not leave him alone?”
WTH! Men do this all day everyday….
i'm swiss™
October 19th, 2011
1:50 pm
Leggs — I was doing great until I looked up & saw you all happy that I wasn’t around…
And I thought I was your boy, Leggs… 
GlammourGirl
October 19th, 2011
1:51 pm
@Purple…I did eventually end it with him. He kept saying he was good with the arrangement, but a month or so down the line, he would start talking about marriage. I was sick of the cycle. He was never going to get that I didn’t want anything more. The benefits were great, but he needed to move on with his life.
I hope he’s gotten over me too. He is a great guy, but just not great for me.
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
1:53 pm
Leggs, you almost always act as if women are the victim. I am glad I am unbiased in my views. So you want to give blueeyes a hug because she opened her eyes and GG a high five because she is doing what men do all day everyday? Sounds like you have some underlying issues against men. LOL
kimmie
October 19th, 2011
1:53 pm
Leggs – Sure do & then wonder when some of these women they toy with snap on their behinds. Even if it’s just a good cussing out via text!!LOL!!!
Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)
October 19th, 2011
1:53 pm
It was never me going back to him.
Po-tay-to..po-ta-to.. It doesn’t matter who went back to whom..the fact alone is you still had some accountability b/c you did it..you didn’t have to do it…yoU …CHOSE to. Still do you playa…do you.
Neeeext!!
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
1:53 pm
@swiss ~ as I read one of my posts, I saw you twisting the words around, that’s all. You always good with me!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 19th, 2011
1:54 pm
Leggs that’s the kicker we’ve (men) are best at doing shi like that, and to hear a woman say she done break all the laws of physics and manpower.
Fion
October 19th, 2011
1:55 pm
Everybody Funking but they don’t know how
Shoulda seen the Bull when he Funked the Cow
Funked so hard ‘til he saw some smoke
Said, come on baby let’s get in the bed and Funk like folks.
“Gammin’ on ya”.
kimmie
October 19th, 2011
1:56 pm
GG – Yeah, you did go back, for more D—!
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
1:57 pm
Blackfoote – to hear a woman say she done break all the laws of physics and manpower
…..makes me wait for the name calling to start. To have a woman do what men do (which ya’ll are always saying women can’t do) you find commendable versus a woman doing what women do (getting caught up) but yet she’s the wh@re…
Unbelievable.
gapeach
October 19th, 2011
1:57 pm
aint nothing wrong with getting your fck on.
i'm swiss™
October 19th, 2011
1:58 pm
Leggs — Oh, okay. Well, in that case, I forgive you.
Now, here, let me rub your mini-donk & we’ll make up. 
GlammourGirl
October 19th, 2011
1:58 pm
Yeah Sassy, call it how you want to. But I’m good.
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
2:00 pm
@PR ~ no siree. Not acting like women are always the victim. I find it absolutey hysterical that men are questioning the very same tactics of GG when they do the same thing. It seems to be cool when a man does it, but for a woman to use a man it’s met with negative criticism.
I’m only standing up against the double standardness [sic] that is blatantly heaped here in Blogsville.
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
2:01 pm
And, you don’t sound unbiased in your views.
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
2:02 pm
Leggs so what guy are you referring to here on this blog who has done what you stated?
Alright Alright alriiiighhhhttttttt, you gone learn today! Loooonggggggg dyyyyycckk! you gon learn today!
i'm swiss™
October 19th, 2011
2:02 pm
I always kinda enjoyed being used.
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
2:03 pm
@BF ~ exactly. So to question her as to why she didn’t just leave him alone is comical on every level..
kimmie
October 19th, 2011
2:03 pm
Sassy/Celisea – See, this is the kind of stuff that is more than likely been going on behind the scenes after things come to a head and you read about these folks getting stalked and worse on the news. Or it doesn’t even have to go that far – a lot of these folks that come on the blog whining cause someone has done them wrong are probably getting a nice double-dose of KARMA!
czBrat
October 19th, 2011
2:04 pm
not sure where we’re at but i do like celisea’s 1:57
leggs, where’s my recap?
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 19th, 2011
2:04 pm
Celisea:
No it’s not good for anyone to lead or use somebody for their own personal gain. I wouldn’t call her or any other woman a W, something I personally wont do. Men are known for this behaviour it’s strange when a lady says it.
disco
October 19th, 2011
2:04 pm
I know I’m a bit late. went to lunch. y’all got jokes talking about hot grits. I wouldn’t have gone the hot grits route but I might have snatched the ring, run to the bathroom and pretended to flush it down the toilet while secretly hiding it in a jar of cotton balls or something. I don’t generally condone stealing but in that situation I would have justified it by saying that I had earned that ring…
Kym
October 19th, 2011
2:05 pm
@gapeach..I can tell you who not to follow..but right now I am liking Samuel L. Jackson..he cusses all the time in his tweets..its refreshing.
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
2:07 pm
Don’t speak around me speak to me. Alright alright allllllright! You gon learn today!
kimmie
October 19th, 2011
2:08 pm
disco –
You probably wouldn’t have had to steal anything. Just be real cool when he pulled it out & said “ooh that’s pretty, let me hold it so I can see it up close”.
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
2:08 pm
disco and what did she do to earn it that the other five didn’t do? LOL
gapeach
October 19th, 2011
2:08 pm
@kym whats your twitter? do you actually tweet or just follow?
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
2:11 pm
Tweet deez!
disco
October 19th, 2011
2:11 pm
all I’m saying is what I would have done. if none of the other five had the good sense to get the goods then shame on them. again – in general I’m not a thief but I’d have been like if I can’t have it, she can’t have it. he’d know not to be pulling stuff out around me. I’m the chick who once set money on fire to keep baby daddy from spending it on his other chick. the message was I don’t need it but she won’t get it.
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
2:12 pm
I referring to the same guys BF is referring to…ask him (lol).
Lady~
October 19th, 2011
2:13 pm
wow disco…chuckle
Kym
October 19th, 2011
2:13 pm
I am not putting my twitter on the blog..I would spend half the night blocking loonies.,
Kym
October 19th, 2011
2:14 pm
Well Raider Nation..Carson Palmer is your new QB..
gapeach
October 19th, 2011
2:14 pm
oh okay nevermind.
kimmie
October 19th, 2011
2:15 pm
Purple – Disco is a prime example of what I’m talking about. You don’t know who might set something afire or slash some tires or something!!LOL!!!
Kym
October 19th, 2011
2:19 pm
Wait..someone set money on fire?? Disco…here you are the winner for today..passing crazy torch..
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
2:19 pm
Leggs, I am asking YOU! Let’s get rid of being vague! LOL
disco you are crazy, I bet you have some good vajayjay. Crazy women always do. For the record if you ever burnt up some of my money….well we would just have to burn you up right along with it. LOL
czBrat
October 19th, 2011
2:19 pm
oh okay nevermind.
lmao
gapeach
October 19th, 2011
2:21 pm
why is that so funny?
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 19th, 2011
2:22 pm
LOL…..@disco
You sat money on fire so baby daddy couldn’t share the wealth. That’s what I mean by priceless. I know men and women will do a lot, I’m glad I’ve haven’t made any lady that pissed at me.
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
2:24 pm
Blackfoote, women know that I have a “streak” so they kind of know not to act to crazy with me. LOL
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 19th, 2011
2:25 pm
I’m fortunate is what I should say, I haven’t made anybody that angry.
disco
October 19th, 2011
2:26 pm
I like to think of myself as formerly crazy or crazy in retirement. I don’t deny I was way wild back in the day but I’m older now and a little bit calmer. I still have some verbal tirades every now and again but nothing like the stuff I used to do back in the day. boy the stories I could tell.
and purple – i’ve got exes from 10-15 years back talking about hooking up for old time sake if that’s any indication. of course, it could just mean they are old and tired and their game probably isn’t as strong so they want a shot at reliving the “glory days”.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 19th, 2011
2:26 pm
LOL…..@Purple
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
2:27 pm
Blackfoote, I’ve had to put one or two in place back in my 20’s, but that was due to the life I lived at the time.
DreamsMaterialize
October 19th, 2011
2:27 pm
Dreams who got your panties in a bunch?!…
Sassy lol You ok sweetie? Sounds like you took my post personally. Come on, I’ve been on the blog long enough for you to know that whenever I’m addressing someone I put there quote in italics and then bold their name under it so they know I’m talking to them. Been that way since my very first day on the blog. You also know that I don’t insult people, resort to personal attacks, or generally get involved blog “beef”. Your venom is misdirected, but it’s no sweat. I got love for you still. Hope you’re ok.
disco
October 19th, 2011
2:27 pm
blackfoote – my son is now 22 years old and his father will bring that up and more. i think the fact that I was the baby momma from heck is the reason why I can’t stand the phrase to this day.
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
2:28 pm
@czB:
1. BlueEyeGurl has recently ended a 3 -year FWB relationship. She unwittingly believed she was the only woman in her man’s life even though he told her they couldn’t “go public” with the relationship. One night, while in bed, he pops out an engagement ring and shows it to her but planned on asking another woman to marry him. He tells her all this why laying in bed with her….That’s why that crime show has one word SNAPPED!
2. GG was also in a FWB relationship for 3 years. The difference is she only only the D and told the guy. He got strung out and thought he could change her.
3. PR thinks I have man issues.
4. I have two fans
5.
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
2:28 pm
Gotcha Blackfoote
You don’t strike me as a name caller
Kimmie/czBrat – Exactly…to what Kimmie siad.
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
2:28 pm
It’s just the old cats that would no doubt pass worms at the first sight of getting nookie that’s first to name call…oh and a few traditional dudes.
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
2:29 pm
disco, are you small in stature?
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
2:30 pm
@disco ~ your scenario may have you on the bathroom floor chocked to death.
@PR ~ I wasn’t referring to anybody on this blog. Heck, I don’t know what THSES particular men do.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 19th, 2011
2:31 pm
Damn sho is some good stuff out here, you ladys got stuff better than lobster tails and a bone in rib-eye steak.
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
2:31 pm
At least I am consistent. LOL
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
2:32 pm
Blackfoote, these ladies have that ooo weee “sunshine”
Kym
October 19th, 2011
2:32 pm
@disco..I still got to give it up..that was a 10 plus on the crazy/loon scale. Heck it puts a few of my hissy-fits to shame.
I did adopt a new saying for this phase of my life after all crazy may go on vacation.. it does not die.. “YOU WILL RESPECT MY CRAZY”
disco
October 19th, 2011
2:33 pm
5′3″ at the time of said offense i might have weighed 100 pounds or so.
leggs – if i had a dollar for every time a guy told me he would like to choke me. i actually hear that one a lot.
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
2:36 pm
@disco ~ I am truly laughing out loud. When you feel free, please share one of your crazy stories.
But for right now, how much money did you burn up?
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
2:36 pm
disco, yep those little petite women have the most crazy in them. LOL
kimmie
October 19th, 2011
2:36 pm
Dang disco!
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
2:37 pm
choking in an angry way = bad
choking in a sexual way = good
choking during angry sex= heavenly
i'm swiss™
October 19th, 2011
2:37 pm
I’m thinking abc paid some of these ladies to come on here & prove him right.
disco
October 19th, 2011
2:38 pm
leggs i’m typing a crazy story now. give me a minute…
Fion
October 19th, 2011
2:39 pm
@kym 2:14
Ya, Yeah!!!! A Commitment to Excellence.
R.I.P. Al
Kym
October 19th, 2011
2:40 pm
Come take a ride on the Crazy Train!!! sorry that is the first song that popped in my head..
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 19th, 2011
2:40 pm
“these ladies have that ooo weee “sunshine””
And moonlit nights makes me want to howl.
czBrat
October 19th, 2011
2:40 pm
yikes!
1. how the heck did i miss the actual details on gurl’s fwb experience? oh well. lemme try and ease up outta that hug.
2. uh. yeah, GG. been there. escaped relatively unscathed. won’t do it again.
3. you do. (muah!!)
4. well it’s your day, lil lady! make sure they’re not blowing smoke just to get blog vests before they complete probation.
5. as always, thanx for the rundown!
disco
October 19th, 2011
2:42 pm
okay – I’ll tell y’all one more crazy story and then I’ll stop putting my business in the street. this too was back before I was even 21. guy was juggling me and another chick. she was older (like 30 something but back then I thought she was ancient). anyway, to shorten the story oldhead chick stepped to me out. he made her leave where we were so she was likely feeling some kind of way. that same night I spent the night with him and went outside to his car after he went to sleep. I stabbed the leather seats with a knife and squirted dark and lovely hair dye on his paint job. I then went back inside and got back into bed with him. to this day he swears that the oldhead chick did it. I saw him a couple of years ago and we talked about. cool believe I never let on that it was me.
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
2:44 pm
See Leggs, CZ agrees with me that you have men issues. LOL
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
2:44 pm
I had to go back to my #3. Not cute (lol).
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
2:45 pm
I see that, PR!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 19th, 2011
2:46 pm
disco:
Youre’ way passed priceless, you set your own price or I’ll just give you the cauldron.
Kym
October 19th, 2011
2:46 pm
@Disco…OHhhh I do like a sneaky chica..yes…yes..you are the winner..chicken and gravy..mac and cheese dinner..LMAO!! Love IT!!
GET READY FOR THE BIG PAY BACK!
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
2:47 pm
disco – My kind of gal. We’re all operating with some sort of crazy. Just depends on the level in which it’s brought to surface.
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
2:47 pm
disco you just happened to have some hair dye on you? Yes you are certified crazy, straight looney tunes. You need your ass whooped!
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
2:48 pm
I mighta sliced and diced some stuff back in the day. I’ve only been blind with fury, no holds barred twice. The first was kid’s dad…I was young and let loose IN EVERY WHICH WAY. The 2nd I had to be all reserved and classy cause I was a grownup.
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
2:48 pm
@disco ~ any man should be scared of you. You cut deep,
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 19th, 2011
2:49 pm
Kym:
See you on same page with disco, a man can sleep with one eye open only for a short length of time……..LOL
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
2:49 pm
Dudes have been letting disco get away with that crazy stuff. I would have locked her in the attic for a good two weeks, shaved all of her hair off and then burned my initial into her scalp with a clothes hanger….yep that’ll teach her.
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
2:50 pm
@PR ~ don’t you know any woman with a big purse has a box of hair dye in it!!!!! It’s an accessory.
czBrat
October 19th, 2011
2:50 pm
oh me, oh my. me thinks disco is surely tons of fun.
tell me, have you mellowed with age?
leggs, you know i luv ya! your men issues are that you attract fruitcakes.
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
2:50 pm
Dang all of the crazy stories are coming out now.
i'm swiss™
October 19th, 2011
2:51 pm
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
2:51 pm
I think Leggs and Randyt should go on a date.
As crazy as disco is, some blog dude would still want to take her on a date.
kimmie
October 19th, 2011
2:52 pm
Yall dudes that’s thinking about juggling a few women on the DL & pulling out a ring for somebody else while in bed with another – betta watch it!
disco
October 19th, 2011
2:52 pm
now – so that y’all don’t think I’m that bad I have to try to redeem myself by saying. I was young and a product of my environment. I’ve grown, matured and moved away from my family. it’s a shame that that is part of the solution but my family is wild and at heart I’m just like them (kids don’t take after strangers). so I live in a different city, visit on occasion and try not to get in trouble while I’m home.
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
2:52 pm
Leggs, I did not know that.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 19th, 2011
2:52 pm
LOL
Kym
October 19th, 2011
2:54 pm
@Blackfoote….I have put the fear of God in a man or two..I actually put my son’s father and his roommates out of their own apartment. Clothes..shoes…peanut butter..all went flying out the door…but disco..that was just plain beautiful..Oscar worthy!
czBrat
October 19th, 2011
2:54 pm
ok that 2:48 sounds NOTHING like my mental image of celisea. (the first part, that is)
meeting. bummer.
czBrat
October 19th, 2011
2:55 pm
uh. 2:54 is exactly what i would imagine from Kym. lmao.
brb
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
2:55 pm
I have a young cousin whose husband went and sold her furniture (this past weekend…cause he needed money. WHO DOES THAT???
Now he ain’t my man and naturally I won’t be that upset but had I been her in her shoes with 2 little ones and a trifling husband. Upon entrance, I would have broke a bone or two with a bat….seriously.
Sometimes I think a bit of crazy unleashed on some of these dudes will help learn better for the next chick. For BluEyedGurl, I ain’t gon lie, if I was her and a few years younger, Idda got that joker.
DreamsMaterialize
October 19th, 2011
2:56 pm
to this day he swears that the oldhead chick did it.
disco I’m glad you’ve moved past that stage if it was indeed a stage. I’ve just never thought anyone was worth all that extra. Me breezing by them in life always seemed to make them more angry than anything else I could have done.
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
2:57 pm
kimmie, yeah it’s best no to pull the ring out.
disco
October 19th, 2011
2:57 pm
purple – I just happened to have some hair dye in my apartment. he spent the night with me which is probably part of why he didn’t suspect me. it’s funny, when I talked to him a few years ago I mentioned how that other woman (the OLD one – ha ha) used to always pick at me. he swears he didn’t know and says I should have told him (like he would have handled it). still he and I are still really cool to this day. If I wasn’t “so mature” now I’d give him some for old time sake. I digress….
Kym
October 19th, 2011
2:59 pm
She can still get him if she wants too..Cause he not married quite yet.. she could invite him over..break him off until he passes out..take some pics of him and her and send them to the SO..but I digress. Or she could..oh wait I am doing it again..no pointers.
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
2:59 pm
Celisea fits the profile:Short, cute and petite = crazy The other profile is: above average height a little on the hefty side= crazy enough to fight you.
kimmie
October 19th, 2011
3:01 pm
Kym – He would forever be looking over his shoulder.
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
3:01 pm
I see crazy has met crazy and is clapping (said with much love, Kym)!
@PR ~ you do kknow I was joking, right?
@disco, I want to hear another…{banging on my desk, me want more, me want more, me want more}}
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
3:01 pm
czBrat – ok that 2:48 sounds NOTHING like my mental image of celisea. (the first part, that is)
My kid’s dad respects me in EVERY way and knows not to play with me. Granted I’m grown and over him (which is part of what fueled my anger). Girl I could you stories where I reacted in “the moment” that would have you thinking twice about me. On one Court visit for Child Support, his new stepmom wanted to get all huffy and I looked at him (and his dad) and asked them, “umm do she know me?” The both said at the same time, ummm naw so and so you might want to back up…you don’t know her like that and I don’t think you want to. Yes after a few words, she sat on down…all up in my koolaide and not knowing the flavor.
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
3:03 pm
Purp – First profile
Kym
October 19th, 2011
3:04 pm
@kimmie..that is kind of my motivation..Don’t go to sleep..Watch yo Step!
kimmie
October 19th, 2011
3:04 pm
I’m just shaking my head – Blog women going GANGSTA!!!
disco
October 19th, 2011
3:05 pm
I would love to say that I’m past all that but the real truth is that no one has taken me there lately. I know it’s still in me but just dormant. heck, I let it be known that I come from a long line of crazy. true story. my grandparents have 12 kids. around about the time when they only had 4 or 5 kids my grandfather came home drunk and slapped my grandmother. my grandmother says she took her kids to her sister. went home and tied my grandfather to the bed and commenced to beating his drunk behind. after she got tired of beating him she called the police on herself. she says because she was afraid to untie my grandfather. she ended up spending the weekend in jail. it was written up in the local paper (she still has the yellowed clipping in a photo album) and my grandmother says my grandfather never raised his hand to her again.
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
3:05 pm
Leggs yes I know
Kym why are you giving her hints to go mess with that man. That situation has been long gone and she already ripped his seats.
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
3:06 pm
Sometimes in gest he was call me crazy (not proud…just saying) but I’ll be daggone if a dude thinks Imma lay down and take what’s on the bottom of your shoe.
I think though “growing up” changes the dynamics of crazy to some degree. I use to tell him “you bring it out of me” but I dunno, you sort of grown and learn how to hold it down, how not to let your emotions rule you. A woman ruled by emotions can get tossed from one end of the spectrum to the other. From allowing herself to get used and abused to allowing crazy run her.
Diva – I think having a day of folks (men and women) posting “crazy” stories should be fun.
i'm swiss™
October 19th, 2011
3:06 pm
Um, these are jokes, right? I hope…?
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
3:07 pm
@PR ~ Cool.
@discoo ~ that is one funny story.
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
3:07 pm
Excuse my typos
kimmie
October 19th, 2011
3:08 pm
Swiss – It’s best sometimes to have folk wondering.
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
3:09 pm
@swiss ~ see this is what happens when SEX MEANS SOMETHING (back to the topic…LOL).
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
3:09 pm
Crazy things happen…..
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
3:10 pm
Swiss, these are not jokes!
kimmie
October 19th, 2011
3:11 pm
Like I said, you don’t eff with people.
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
3:12 pm
Look, if you’ve been young and in love, YOU GOT A STORY TO TELL. Stop acting like you arrived from birth. No all of us have not experienced d@ck marks or getting used repeatedly but somewhere, if because of nothing but being young and dumb, you have a story. You ain’t gotta tell it but you have one.
Kym
October 19th, 2011
3:12 pm
@Purple I am the second..5′11 and I was talking about the Blue Eyed girl..Also I am more of a destroyer of life type chick..than property..but I will cap a joker in the knees with a tire iron if it calls for it..
kimmie
October 19th, 2011
3:13 pm
Celisea – We all gotta a story!
DreamsMaterialize
October 19th, 2011
3:14 pm
Well I’m thankful to say that I’ve never had my windows smashed or property vandalized. I’ve only dealt with one TRULY certifiable crazy woman, and even she later admitted that the fact that I never got upset about anything really frightened her. She claimed that it was just a matter of time before I exploded on someone and that she truly felt sorry for that person. I don’t know if that’s true or not, but I just try to stay out of crazy situations…that way I never have to find out if she’s right.
kimmie
October 19th, 2011
3:15 pm
I’m bout to go now. Please don’t meet me in the parking lot!LOL!!
Seriously, you all be safe on your ride home.
Kym
October 19th, 2011
3:15 pm
Do you think crazy is genetic?
I mean I did watch my Grandma beat a bum with a waterhose..he was on her front porch and she told him to get up and go home..he told her to kiss his a$$ and so she did with the water hose..all the way down the steps..
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
3:16 pm
And for where I am, nothing is that serious with me and a dude..not to the point of clowning. For my kid that at the tender age of 16, yep I will do it without thinking twice. Because she’s young, gullible and naieve. Because right now she believes in love love and love (not that I don’t…just not like it is in her window) and because plainly a dude won’t be doing nothing but using and tossing. Yes, I will go there for her sake.
disco
October 19th, 2011
3:16 pm
see kym. now it’s my turn to laugh. he should have raised up off her porch.
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
3:17 pm
Thank goodness Dreams. Just because it’s the lid has not blown don’t mean you can’t.
i'm swiss™
October 19th, 2011
3:18 pm
Well, there’s being young & dumb and then there’s being a sociopath. Some of these stories are leaning heavily toward the latter. Just sayin’…
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
3:20 pm
I think it’s genetic.
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
3:21 pm
I guess. Althought I’d venture to say young and dumb means you’re on the receiving end….and that’s all. Young, dumb and (I guess) sociopath would be not finding an appreciation for someone’s intended bullcrap and throwing it back.
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
3:23 pm
Well at least I don’t have a history of “crazy” with every dude I’ve met. Just one…my kid’s dad. Like I said blind with fury but no reactions. I dropped the mic and walked away for the sake of sanity
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
3:24 pm
Like I said blind with fury but no reactions….on the 2nd dude
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
3:25 pm
@disco ~ I’m asking early so you have time to think about it. Would you be so kind and leave the EOD anytime after 4:55 (lol).
Kym
October 19th, 2011
3:26 pm
Yeah that’s right my hell-fire only showed on a few dudes..heck Army dude turns me into pudding. I have no idea what that’s about.
DreamsMaterialize
October 19th, 2011
3:27 pm
Thank goodness Dreams. Just because it’s the lid has not blown don’t mean you can’t.
Celisea Yeah I know. I’m a Libra, so I know there’s another side. lol I just try to avoid crazy situations. From what I know about myself though, anything I would do would be far worse than a crazy episode. It would be something I planned for a long time, the effects of it would last a lifetime, and I would never be suspected for it. I don’t ever want to be in that mindframe though. Life has been pretty good to me, and I’m thankful for that.
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
3:28 pm
Dreams – It would be something I planned for a long time, the effects of it would last a lifetime, and I would never be suspected for it. I don’t ever want to be in that mindframe though
Ummm Dreams, boo…this has crazy written all over it….lol
Kym
October 19th, 2011
3:29 pm
Aww Dreams you are a Libra? Awww
GlammourGirl
October 19th, 2011
3:30 pm
Did you all hear about the Amber Cole incident?
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
3:30 pm
Well good to know my two crazy profiles of women are accurate.
My crazy story. I have choked a woman and held her face in the toilet.(I was younger and wild in my early 20’s) A few years later she told me that she had prayed and thought that she was going to die that night. I told her that her prayers must have been heard because that was the plan. All of this happened because she had a little to much sassy mouth and did not know when to shut up.
DreamsMaterialize
October 19th, 2011
3:32 pm
Ummm Dreams, boo…this has crazy written all over it….lol
Celisea lol Everyone has a breaking point. I just try to stay away from mine, whatever it is. Besides, didn’t Purp say he would burn his initials into a chicks scalp with a hot hanger? Not deflecting or anything… LOL
i'm swiss™
October 19th, 2011
3:33 pm
D@mn. Just d@mn.
I see… crazy people…
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
3:34 pm
That is not a good read, PR. All because she had a sassy mouth! WOW, face in the toilet.
disco
October 19th, 2011
3:34 pm
dang. I’m not sure what EOD means.
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
3:36 pm
Leggs, oh well I am not a saint and I do have a past. I’m not into choking women and shoving them face first in the toilet anymore. But to much mouth is to much mouth, thank goodness I don’t have to hear that kind of crap anymore.
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
3:36 pm
LOL…I thought you’ve been lurking before posting. An E.O.D. is “End Of Day” quote.
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
3:37 pm
But that girl is dead now. Her then boyfriend killed her then shot himself.
DreamsMaterialize
October 19th, 2011
3:38 pm
Aww Dreams you are a Libra? Awww
Kym Yeah my bday was Friday. I’m still celebrating though. lol
Did you all hear about the Amber Cole incident?
Glammour I heard about this, but I didn’t listen long. I don’t like to hear about stuff like this because I have a daughter, and I can’t help but to think if it were her. and I don’t like letting my mind go down that road.
Simple Man....
October 19th, 2011
3:38 pm
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QBlbaR1NKwE&feature=related
This is whats up this afternoon….At least for me anyway!! Njoy
Kym
October 19th, 2011
3:39 pm
@GG I heard the name not sure what it was about…I have only been paying attention to politics the last few days…Republican/conservative/Mad Tea Party..debates and OWS(occupy wall street)
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
3:40 pm
Did you all hear about the Amber Cole incident?
Let’s not. I’m with Dreams. I have a kid. That’s heartbreaking and can’t be easy for her parents.
Boaz
October 19th, 2011
3:40 pm
Hey, Disco. I was wondering what EOD ment as well.
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
3:40 pm
@PR ~ stuff like that makes me think of this guy that lived in my neighborhood. We were at Studio 54 (my only time there). This woman walks by and accidentally bumped into him with cigarette in hand spilling ashes on his jacket sleeve. He immediately punches the woman in the eye knocking her out. It wasn’t that seriousl….
In your case, did you drag her to the toilet or was she already in the bathroom.
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
3:40 pm
Amber Cole ordeal is wrong from every side.
Imagine of they had cell phone and camera/video phone when we were kids and teenagers.
disco
October 19th, 2011
3:40 pm
I have lurked but it slipped right by me. plus I use acronyms all the time to talk in code. i don’t know if it’s the weather, the work or the blog but suddenly i’m tired. i still have hours to go.
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
3:42 pm
Leggs she was a “coke head” and your example is totally different. A random bumping into someone versus someone who just did not know when to shut up. But anyway it’s nothing I am proud of. Think what you may.
GlammourGirl
October 19th, 2011
3:43 pm
I don’t have kids, but it’s disturbing to me as well. I feel for her and her parents. I can’t believe those boys would even post that.
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
3:44 pm
I really don’t understand the smashing of windows, cutting car seats or damaging inanimate things.
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
3:45 pm
@SimpleM ~ I can’t hear a thing!
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
3:45 pm
GlamGirl, those boys should not have posted it at all. But on the other hand why did she think it was okay to give a bj to a boy…and in front of a group of boys at that? I blame her parents.
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
3:45 pm
Like Frank Ski (yes, and I don’t even do V103)said they’ll have daughters one day. Not wishing and hoping stuff on folks but you cannot and will willfully and spitefully hurt folks without it coming back full circle. Oh yes
i'm swiss™
October 19th, 2011
3:47 pm
Just googled Amber Cole — glad I work in a totally relaxed office.
Speaking of which, I was about to post a link to a new job opening here, but I don’t know if I want any of you crazy motherf@#kers working in the same office as me.
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
3:47 pm
I havent seen the video and only read a small part of the story. Was the 14 year old forced to perform oral sex or did she do so willingly?
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
3:47 pm
My brother bought a brand new porshe just out of high school and he was beating the chicks off with a stick. His (now)kid’s mama and another chick (the one he ended up marryng) was giving her a run for her money…with him. She (kid’s mom) toss a brick through his porsche window.
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
3:48 pm
@PR ~ I was thinking along the lines of disrespecting a woman! Men should not fight women like they’re fighting a man! Nor should any man put a woman’s face in the toilet.
Simple Man....
October 19th, 2011
3:48 pm
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QBlbaR1NKwE&feature=related
Oh…and this one too….
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
3:48 pm
but I don’t know if I want any of you crazy motherf@#kers working in the same office as me
LOLOLOL…good thing no one is here cause that was funnnneeeee. Go ahead I might be interested
Kym
October 19th, 2011
3:48 pm
Okay nevermind someone filled me in on the details..just..lawd..just..just.
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
3:48 pm
What’s going on with Amber Cole????
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
3:50 pm
Swiss you need to stop acting like you ain’t never experienced crazy
You’re a lover to the 100th degree
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
3:50 pm
Kym, email me the details.
GlammourGirl
October 19th, 2011
3:50 pm
@Purple…she did it willingly.
disco
October 19th, 2011
3:51 pm
swiss that was hysterical. believe it or not my workplace persona is so far from my real life persona. I should get paid extra for my daily acting performances. i shut off workplace me at 5:30 sharp.
Kym
October 19th, 2011
3:51 pm
I will talk to “the boy” and make sure he has not seen the video..ha..(sigh) or passed it on..he knows more than I do dang near about..
Kym
October 19th, 2011
3:53 pm
@Leggs I don’t think anything new is going on from what was posted here I had not heard the details of the story..I know the video has been taken down..but that means nothing in these days and times.
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
3:54 pm
Leggs, but guess what she learned to not get sideways after that when she was buying.
Amber Cole is not a victim. She willingly gave a kid a bj outside the school door on the steps in the broad daylight. I don’t feel sorry for her or her parents.
i'm swiss™
October 19th, 2011
3:55 pm
C — Thankfully, I never have — at least not nearly to that degree. The craziest thing I’ve ever personally encountered is an ex admitting to me after the fact that she staked out my house after we split & watched from her car to see what girls were coming/going from my place. But no property or body parts were damaged.
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
3:55 pm
I didn’t watch nor do I want to watch the video. I bet that will get you arrested for having kiddie porn on your computer if you do watch it.
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
3:57 pm
WOW….
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
3:58 pm
Swiss – an ex admitting to me after the fact that she staked out my house after we split & watched from her car to see what girls were coming/going from my place
Swissy…boo…that was tettering on crazy. If you can use the words gun, knife, drown, stalk, stab, lurk then you’re in the realm of crazy. Doesn’t matter if you’re the recipient or giver
GlammourGirl
October 19th, 2011
4:01 pm
Even doing it willingly, she didn’t know she was being recorded for the world to see. When I googled it, an article from the UK came up. People are talking about it everywhere. It was the top trending topic on twitter. I feel for her.
disco
October 19th, 2011
4:01 pm
well on a different happy note – I just mailed off the final car payment. I did a little happy dance and I’ll do another happy dance when the title comes in the mail. one less bill – Yippee!!!
GlammourGirl
October 19th, 2011
4:03 pm
According to V103, she deactivated her twitter and facebook, because she was getting so many harrassing messages. And they say (not sure how they know) that she was considering suicide.
i'm swiss™
October 19th, 2011
4:04 pm
“…that was tettering on crazy”
I suppose, but it’s still a far cry from vandalizing property & or beating the sh!t out of someone. Good thing she didn’t break any of my sh!t, too, ‘cos then I’d have had to choke a b!tch.
(That was a joke, BTW)
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
4:05 pm
So GlamGirl, her being 14 years old giving a boy a bj at school with another boy sitting right beside her..is not a problem..and yet another boy behind her video taping it unbeknownst to her is? I think it was safe to assume that someone would have seen them out there
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
4:07 pm
Well when you have strippers becoming stars and women making sex tapes and becoming celebs…these kids need their parents more than ever
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
4:08 pm
I don’t care…that’s a young girl who will never live that down. It’s not cute, it’s not funny and it’s easy to blame her. Kids today think they know…they think they know live, love and living so no, I don’t fault her. Is she some fast hot tail…proably. But then who is not at that age. And being fast don’t mean you do EVERYTHING….but it’s nature and it’s what you do at that age. How can you NOT have compassion on kid doing something and obviously and rightfully have no clue of the ramifications? How can you look down on a kid that sees trash and crap going on everyday? Most think it’s the norm. Parents have got to realize the extent you have to go to keep you kid out of harm’s way. When you have kids or when they reach this age, you see how challenging it can be. And guess what? My kid don’t give me the problems I’m sure a lot of kids are dishing. She’s not an angel but I tell her. Which is key. My coworker is a SS teacher and she was telling me last week how disappointed she is right now in her 7th grader. She just found out she has a boyfriend in the 11th grade. Half the problem is parents looking out there at other kids believing their kid won’t the same. The just figure that without telling them anything. Sure we talk on a grandscale but what kid will tell you of the naughty things they’re doing or want to do or being persuaded to do?? Right and because they won’t tell you….you tell them ahead of the game…”looka here I better not catch…” or “I know you see this that and the other all day everyday here’s where your life is going if you do this that and the other…” Never make assumptions about kids. Never think your kid is above reproach. And as the good books says, “Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child. Take the rod and drive it out of him” The rod being a switch, sometimes, a belt sometimes and more than anything the Word of God…it’s a rod within itself.
Okay that is all.
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
4:11 pm
That is horrible!!!!
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
4:12 pm
Good thing she didn’t break any of my sh!t, too, ‘cos then I’d have had to choke a b!tch.
(That was a joke, BTW)
LOLOLOL….stooop
Okay there was a ton of typos and my heart was racing while I typed that….lol I’m just so passionate when it comes to kids because folks become judgemental when if you dig a little deeper, it may not be the exact same thing but you can find them in yourself.
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
4:13 pm
So blog ladies what made you NOT give bj’s in highschool outside the doors of the school in broad daylight with other boys around at the age of 14. Why did you all not do that?
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
4:18 pm
Because at 14 I valued myself. I really did. It was disgusting and I was still a virgin!
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
4:19 pm
@14, it never entered my mind to put someone’s D in my mouth!
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
4:21 pm
Purp – Because first of all, at that age sucking anybody’s anything was nasty. And if I left HS a virgin (which I did), sucking nuts was definitely not on the list. Because void of my mama telling me, it’s an act that’s no matter how much men love it’s always associated in a demeaning manner. Make a dude made and what does he say??? “Suck my nuts” Or let me talk about a woman in a less than favorable light and what comes up…blowjobs. IMO that’s something I learned early on that it’s ain’t rolling up in the act…for me it’s not “casual” like that. And because of how my mother raised me.
We are far far removed from principles and awareness. Most kids in high school have parents that are preoccupied with their relationships and they think a word here or there will do it. You gotta look past a kid getting an attitude cause you’re up in their business. Heck your business is my business until you can “see” straight. BJs in high school now is the going thing and if a parent won’t put some sort of gauge on things and acts and activities and it’s something they see all around them everyday, how else will they know really what’s cool to do versus not.
When my kid went to middle school it was like culture shock for me and I’m not that shockable. Now take a kid wanting to fit in and get with it. They’re gonna have to do most if not all to get in where they fit in. A parent will have to knock that theory out the box and teach otherwise.
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
4:21 pm
Leggs, how did you learn to value yourself?
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
4:24 pm
@PR ~ with righteous teachings from my mother, religious instructions and staying in Church. I learned early that my body was an important vessel and shouldn’t be given to any Tom, Dick or Harry!
Lessons I carry to this day.
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
4:24 pm
So would any of you agree that the issue of her doing the act is actually a bigger issue than it getting posted to the web?
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
4:25 pm
Also, I always believed I was to be respected and not manhandled. I put out that which I want back.
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
4:27 pm
And had I not done a few drop-ins and unexpected visits I would have (believed it if told) not believe such things go on. Sex, cussing, smoking weed, cutting class….all of it…and yes middle school. One time I “dropped in” and before I left the stairwell to enter the hall on which my kid had a class I would not have believed it. I could hear from the stairs the yelling and screaming coming out of this one class. So I approached, then stopped then knocked. There was so much noise that they couldn’t hear me. So, I borrowed some kid’s stick and started banging. The teacher unlocked the door and what did I find? The class was TOTALLY out of control. She looked frazzled and afraid. I asked um, why are you holed up in here like this with these kids acting like animals. She said she’d tried to put in a movie but no avail. I’m talking jumping, screaming, throwing, cussing, fighting…I stepped in there for a sec and they calmed down. I went and found the assistant principle and said you have so many minutes to get down there and take control or else I’m dialing 911.
disco
October 19th, 2011
4:28 pm
video or no video. what goes on in the dark always come to light. in our pre-technology day she would have still been dogged for doing the deed it just would have been word of mouth and not as wide spread.
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
4:31 pm
I hope she’s not suicidal. No doubt she’s humilated, but it will pass. Something is wrong with her line of thinking to believe if she did this act she would get her boyfriend back. Young, dumb and gullible.
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
4:34 pm
Leggs, she did it to get her boyfriend back? This just gets deeper and deeper. Is her dad in her home?
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
4:36 pm
I haven’t read anything that answers that question, PR!
Exiled!
October 19th, 2011
4:38 pm
Is her dad in the home?
12% chance he is!
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
4:40 pm
Before Amber is any of the names she has been called, she is someone’s daughter first. Where are the men in this child’s life? Judging off her desperation to win back an old boyfriend that she shouldn’t have had in the first place, Amber is completely vulnerable.
Perhaps there is a male void in her life which lead to her seeking validation from boys. This easily leads back to a popular community slogan, “Protect Our Children.”
I copied this from an article…I agree. And what about the boys? I bet no one will talk to them on what it is to respect…just bet.
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
4:43 pm
Let’s not handle young girls seeking and looking for love in all the wrong ways and all the wrong places. Let’s save the name calling and judgement for grown folks making dumb stupid decisions….if you will.
On on that note (cause I know some folks are proably cussing me out…lol) Night folks!
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
4:44 pm
Did any of you see the video of the girl crying for folk to leave Amber Cole alone? She has scary eyes
Exiled!
October 19th, 2011
4:45 pm
This is more than peer pressure at 14
She got that from home….
Mama’s house is proly a revolving door of boyfriends.
Dad is not there but mama is getting her ho on,in full view of Amber
Like mama like daughter!
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
4:46 pm
@Celisea ~ I read that article you took that from. I agree, she doesn’t need to be villified. She needs help RIGHT NOW. This video and the backlash may send her over the edge….
Exiled!
October 19th, 2011
4:47 pm
Celisea,u going to bible study?
u need Chuurch tonite to cool if today’s crazy that re-surfaced a bit
Good nite!
DreamsMaterialize
October 19th, 2011
4:47 pm
Leggs, she did it to get her boyfriend back?
I thought she did it in exchange for a pair of sneakers.
Either way, everyone involved needs their a$$ whooped. That girl is lacking something in her life. Where is her father? What role has he played in her life? I know my own daughter will grow and make mistakes along the way like the rest of us, but she’ll never under any circumstances be under the impression (real or imagined) that I don’t have her covered. She knows I handle my business, and she know I never halfstep when it comes to her. As her father, she trusts me, believes in me, looks to me for guidance, believes I will protect her at all costs. I bust my a$$ everyday to make sure I don’t lose that. That’s why I always do what I tell her I’ll do. I don’t break promises. She has to know and believe with all of her being that I’ve got her covered, no matter what. If she believes that, then she won’t be tempted to believe other people’s empty promises. Certainly not the promise of some damn shoes. I take my role seriously. I’ve been blessed and deemed worthy of the honor of raising my child. Under no circumstances can I mess that up. You only get one shot. Failure is not an option.
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
4:47 pm
@Ex ~ YOU HAVE A PROBLEM, DUDE!
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
4:48 pm
Exiled – I was trying to go home..lol I need church all the time silly man. No crazies surfaced today. Trust me you would recognize my crazies. Those are long ago put away.
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
4:49 pm
Who is calling her names other kids?
I just read where the girl promoted her twitter page after the incident video was posted and that her parent made her delete her twitter page
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
4:50 pm
Exactly Dreams exactly. I heard she did it for sneakers too. It’s easy to say things but when you have your own you can’t help for feel for other kids too.
I too expect my kid to make mistake some now and many many more later. But for all that I can do and prevent now, I’ll die trying. And the best thing for a kid that’s fallen is to hand them a helping hand. The rest of the world will handle stepping on and judging them.
disco
October 19th, 2011
4:51 pm
well if it’s EOD time. I’ll throw this in since it’s kind of fitting for the crazies and the misguided.
“kindness is the oil that eases the friction of life” – unknown
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
4:58 pm
Well done, disco.
Exiled!
October 19th, 2011
5:02 pm
For sneakers?
Lawd have mercy!
Look after ur kids
these ho s
Good nite!
GlammourGirl
October 19th, 2011
5:06 pm
I hadn’t heard that she did it for sneakers or to get her boyfriend back. I just know that she did it. I’m not in any way saying it was ok for her to do it. She shouldn’t be doing that at her age, but unfortunately, it’s the norm. And at her age, no I wasn’t doing that in broad daylight or behind closed doors. I knew better. And I agree that the issue is that she did it. But with all that being said…I still feel for her.
I think this is a good opportunity for parents to talk to their children. I mentored girls for over 8 years with a couple of different organizations. And the girls confided in me a lot. There’s so much going on in these girls’ lives that their parents have no clue about. They are seeing so many things that their parents are doing that the parents aren’t aware of. And sometimes I had to take some of the things that they told me in confidence to their parents, because I know if that was my child, I would want to know.
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
5:09 pm
I would beat my sons butt if he were involved in something like that…after I give him a high five for his first bj. LOL just kidding
Exiled!
October 19th, 2011
5:11 pm
Me to PR!
Lol
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
5:11 pm
LOL
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
5:13 pm
GG – There’s so much going on in these girls’ lives that their parents have no clue about. They are seeing so many things that their parents are doing that the parents aren’t aware of. And sometimes I had to take some of the things that they told me in confidence to their parents, because I know if that was my child, I would want to know
And this is what I said earlier. Some parents are just clueless and assume their kid won’t do certain things. Make no assumptions on one end and assume all things on the other. Not cynical not putting a kid down but enough to have lines of communication for them to tell you or for you to get in and find out for yourself. And I agree, there were many many things I put aside in the name of “fun” once my kid came along.
I said I was going home…night night for real this time. I was actually on the phone with my kid
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
5:13 pm
Exiled – Bible study with me? LOL
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
5:21 pm
Celisea do you want to play hose and grown up with me? LOL
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
5:22 pm
house
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
5:24 pm
Purp – Ummm, not sure what hose and grown up is….that sounds painful. And if you talking about hitting or choking um yeah let’s play
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
5:24 pm
Ahhh, house…gotcha. Ummm, nah I’ll pass
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
5:25 pm
Bye
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
5:29 pm
Doctor?
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
5:31 pm
Nope…take another pass
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
5:31 pm
Lawyer maybe?