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Sex: Does it mean anything?

A friend of mine is knee-deep in a relationship that she didn’t go looking for. Apparently, it was one of those booty call to boyfriend kind of transitions that isn’t necessarily premeditated.

One could argue that once sex is introduced in a dating relationship, it changes the dynamics. Does it have to mean the same thing to both of you? When do you know that it does or when it doesn’t?

Sex doesn’t always mean exclusivity, but do you think it should?

What impact, if any, do you think sex has on a new relationship?

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Celisea

October 19th, 2011
3:16 pm

And for where I am, nothing is that serious with me and a dude..not to the point of clowning. For my kid that at the tender age of 16, yep I will do it without thinking twice. Because she’s young, gullible and naieve. Because right now she believes in love love and love (not that I don’t…just not like it is in her window) and because plainly a dude won’t be doing nothing but using and tossing. Yes, I will go there for her sake.

disco

October 19th, 2011
3:16 pm

see kym. now it’s my turn to laugh. he should have raised up off her porch.

Celisea

October 19th, 2011
3:17 pm

Thank goodness Dreams. Just because it’s the lid has not blown don’t mean you can’t.

i'm swiss™

October 19th, 2011
3:18 pm

Well, there’s being young & dumb and then there’s being a sociopath. Some of these stories are leaning heavily toward the latter. Just sayin’… :lol:

Leggs

October 19th, 2011
3:20 pm

I think it’s genetic.

Celisea

October 19th, 2011
3:21 pm

I guess. Althought I’d venture to say young and dumb means you’re on the receiving end….and that’s all. Young, dumb and (I guess) sociopath would be not finding an appreciation for someone’s intended bullcrap and throwing it back.

Celisea

October 19th, 2011
3:23 pm

Well at least I don’t have a history of “crazy” with every dude I’ve met. Just one…my kid’s dad. Like I said blind with fury but no reactions. I dropped the mic and walked away for the sake of sanity :)

Celisea

October 19th, 2011
3:24 pm

Like I said blind with fury but no reactions….on the 2nd dude

Leggs

October 19th, 2011
3:25 pm

@disco ~ I’m asking early so you have time to think about it. Would you be so kind and leave the EOD anytime after 4:55 (lol).

Kym

October 19th, 2011
3:26 pm

Yeah that’s right my hell-fire only showed on a few dudes..heck Army dude turns me into pudding. I have no idea what that’s about.

DreamsMaterialize

October 19th, 2011
3:27 pm

Thank goodness Dreams. Just because it’s the lid has not blown don’t mean you can’t.
Celisea Yeah I know. I’m a Libra, so I know there’s another side. lol I just try to avoid crazy situations. From what I know about myself though, anything I would do would be far worse than a crazy episode. It would be something I planned for a long time, the effects of it would last a lifetime, and I would never be suspected for it. I don’t ever want to be in that mindframe though. Life has been pretty good to me, and I’m thankful for that.

Celisea

October 19th, 2011
3:28 pm

Dreams – It would be something I planned for a long time, the effects of it would last a lifetime, and I would never be suspected for it. I don’t ever want to be in that mindframe though

Ummm Dreams, boo…this has crazy written all over it….lol

Kym

October 19th, 2011
3:29 pm

Aww Dreams you are a Libra? Awww

GlammourGirl

October 19th, 2011
3:30 pm

Did you all hear about the Amber Cole incident?

Purple Reign

October 19th, 2011
3:30 pm

Well good to know my two crazy profiles of women are accurate.

My crazy story. I have choked a woman and held her face in the toilet.(I was younger and wild in my early 20’s) A few years later she told me that she had prayed and thought that she was going to die that night. I told her that her prayers must have been heard because that was the plan. All of this happened because she had a little to much sassy mouth and did not know when to shut up.

DreamsMaterialize

October 19th, 2011
3:32 pm

Ummm Dreams, boo…this has crazy written all over it….lol
Celisea lol Everyone has a breaking point. I just try to stay away from mine, whatever it is. Besides, didn’t Purp say he would burn his initials into a chicks scalp with a hot hanger? Not deflecting or anything… LOL

i'm swiss™

October 19th, 2011
3:33 pm

D@mn. Just d@mn.

I see… crazy people…

:lol:

Leggs

October 19th, 2011
3:34 pm

That is not a good read, PR. All because she had a sassy mouth! WOW, face in the toilet.

disco

October 19th, 2011
3:34 pm

dang. I’m not sure what EOD means.

Purple Reign

October 19th, 2011
3:36 pm

Leggs, oh well I am not a saint and I do have a past. I’m not into choking women and shoving them face first in the toilet anymore. But to much mouth is to much mouth, thank goodness I don’t have to hear that kind of crap anymore.

Leggs

October 19th, 2011
3:36 pm

LOL…I thought you’ve been lurking before posting. An E.O.D. is “End Of Day” quote.

Purple Reign

October 19th, 2011
3:37 pm

But that girl is dead now. Her then boyfriend killed her then shot himself.

DreamsMaterialize

October 19th, 2011
3:38 pm

Aww Dreams you are a Libra? Awww
Kym Yeah my bday was Friday. I’m still celebrating though. lol

Did you all hear about the Amber Cole incident?
Glammour I heard about this, but I didn’t listen long. I don’t like to hear about stuff like this because I have a daughter, and I can’t help but to think if it were her. and I don’t like letting my mind go down that road.

Simple Man....

October 19th, 2011
3:38 pm

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QBlbaR1NKwE&feature=related

This is whats up this afternoon….At least for me anyway!! Njoy :)

Kym

October 19th, 2011
3:39 pm

@GG I heard the name not sure what it was about…I have only been paying attention to politics the last few days…Republican/conservative/Mad Tea Party..debates and OWS(occupy wall street)

Celisea

October 19th, 2011
3:40 pm

Did you all hear about the Amber Cole incident?

Let’s not. I’m with Dreams. I have a kid. That’s heartbreaking and can’t be easy for her parents.

Boaz

October 19th, 2011
3:40 pm

Hey, Disco. I was wondering what EOD ment as well.

Leggs

October 19th, 2011
3:40 pm

@PR ~ stuff like that makes me think of this guy that lived in my neighborhood. We were at Studio 54 (my only time there). This woman walks by and accidentally bumped into him with cigarette in hand spilling ashes on his jacket sleeve. He immediately punches the woman in the eye knocking her out. It wasn’t that seriousl….

In your case, did you drag her to the toilet or was she already in the bathroom.

Purple Reign

October 19th, 2011
3:40 pm

Amber Cole ordeal is wrong from every side.

Imagine of they had cell phone and camera/video phone when we were kids and teenagers.

disco

October 19th, 2011
3:40 pm

I have lurked but it slipped right by me. plus I use acronyms all the time to talk in code. i don’t know if it’s the weather, the work or the blog but suddenly i’m tired. i still have hours to go.

Purple Reign

October 19th, 2011
3:42 pm

Leggs she was a “coke head” and your example is totally different. A random bumping into someone versus someone who just did not know when to shut up. But anyway it’s nothing I am proud of. Think what you may.

GlammourGirl

October 19th, 2011
3:43 pm

I don’t have kids, but it’s disturbing to me as well. I feel for her and her parents. I can’t believe those boys would even post that.

Purple Reign

October 19th, 2011
3:44 pm

I really don’t understand the smashing of windows, cutting car seats or damaging inanimate things.

Leggs

October 19th, 2011
3:45 pm

@SimpleM ~ I can’t hear a thing!

Purple Reign

October 19th, 2011
3:45 pm

GlamGirl, those boys should not have posted it at all. But on the other hand why did she think it was okay to give a bj to a boy…and in front of a group of boys at that? I blame her parents.

Celisea

October 19th, 2011
3:45 pm

Like Frank Ski (yes, and I don’t even do V103)said they’ll have daughters one day. Not wishing and hoping stuff on folks but you cannot and will willfully and spitefully hurt folks without it coming back full circle. Oh yes

i'm swiss™

October 19th, 2011
3:47 pm

Just googled Amber Cole — glad I work in a totally relaxed office. :shock:

Speaking of which, I was about to post a link to a new job opening here, but I don’t know if I want any of you crazy motherf@#kers working in the same office as me. :lol:

Purple Reign

October 19th, 2011
3:47 pm

I havent seen the video and only read a small part of the story. Was the 14 year old forced to perform oral sex or did she do so willingly?

Celisea

October 19th, 2011
3:47 pm

My brother bought a brand new porshe just out of high school and he was beating the chicks off with a stick. His (now)kid’s mama and another chick (the one he ended up marryng) was giving her a run for her money…with him. She (kid’s mom) toss a brick through his porsche window.

Leggs

October 19th, 2011
3:48 pm

@PR ~ I was thinking along the lines of disrespecting a woman! Men should not fight women like they’re fighting a man! Nor should any man put a woman’s face in the toilet.

Simple Man....

October 19th, 2011
3:48 pm

Celisea

October 19th, 2011
3:48 pm

but I don’t know if I want any of you crazy motherf@#kers working in the same office as me

LOLOLOL…good thing no one is here cause that was funnnneeeee. Go ahead I might be interested :)

Kym

October 19th, 2011
3:48 pm

Okay nevermind someone filled me in on the details..just..lawd..just..just.

Leggs

October 19th, 2011
3:48 pm

What’s going on with Amber Cole????

Celisea

October 19th, 2011
3:50 pm

Swiss you need to stop acting like you ain’t never experienced crazy :) You’re a lover to the 100th degree

Leggs

October 19th, 2011
3:50 pm

Kym, email me the details.

GlammourGirl

October 19th, 2011
3:50 pm

@Purple…she did it willingly.

disco

October 19th, 2011
3:51 pm

swiss that was hysterical. believe it or not my workplace persona is so far from my real life persona. I should get paid extra for my daily acting performances. i shut off workplace me at 5:30 sharp.

Kym

October 19th, 2011
3:51 pm

I will talk to “the boy” and make sure he has not seen the video..ha..(sigh) or passed it on..he knows more than I do dang near about..

Kym

October 19th, 2011
3:53 pm

@Leggs I don’t think anything new is going on from what was posted here I had not heard the details of the story..I know the video has been taken down..but that means nothing in these days and times.