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Sex: Does it mean anything?

A friend of mine is knee-deep in a relationship that she didn’t go looking for. Apparently, it was one of those booty call to boyfriend kind of transitions that isn’t necessarily premeditated.

One could argue that once sex is introduced in a dating relationship, it changes the dynamics. Does it have to mean the same thing to both of you? When do you know that it does or when it doesn’t?

Sex doesn’t always mean exclusivity, but do you think it should?

What impact, if any, do you think sex has on a new relationship?

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Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

October 19th, 2011
2:04 pm

Celisea:

No it’s not good for anyone to lead or use somebody for their own personal gain. I wouldn’t call her or any other woman a W, something I personally wont do. Men are known for this behaviour it’s strange when a lady says it.

disco

October 19th, 2011
2:04 pm

I know I’m a bit late. went to lunch. y’all got jokes talking about hot grits. I wouldn’t have gone the hot grits route but I might have snatched the ring, run to the bathroom and pretended to flush it down the toilet while secretly hiding it in a jar of cotton balls or something. I don’t generally condone stealing but in that situation I would have justified it by saying that I had earned that ring…

Kym

October 19th, 2011
2:05 pm

@gapeach..I can tell you who not to follow..but right now I am liking Samuel L. Jackson..he cusses all the time in his tweets..its refreshing.

Purple Reign

October 19th, 2011
2:07 pm

Don’t speak around me speak to me. Alright alright allllllright! You gon learn today!

kimmie

October 19th, 2011
2:08 pm

disco – :lol: You probably wouldn’t have had to steal anything. Just be real cool when he pulled it out & said “ooh that’s pretty, let me hold it so I can see it up close”.

Purple Reign

October 19th, 2011
2:08 pm

disco and what did she do to earn it that the other five didn’t do? LOL

gapeach

October 19th, 2011
2:08 pm

@kym whats your twitter? do you actually tweet or just follow?

Purple Reign

October 19th, 2011
2:11 pm

disco

October 19th, 2011
2:11 pm

all I’m saying is what I would have done. if none of the other five had the good sense to get the goods then shame on them. again – in general I’m not a thief but I’d have been like if I can’t have it, she can’t have it. he’d know not to be pulling stuff out around me. I’m the chick who once set money on fire to keep baby daddy from spending it on his other chick. the message was I don’t need it but she won’t get it.

Leggs

October 19th, 2011
2:12 pm

I referring to the same guys BF is referring to…ask him (lol).

Lady~

October 19th, 2011
2:13 pm

wow disco…chuckle

Kym

October 19th, 2011
2:13 pm

I am not putting my twitter on the blog..I would spend half the night blocking loonies.,

Kym

October 19th, 2011
2:14 pm

Well Raider Nation..Carson Palmer is your new QB..

gapeach

October 19th, 2011
2:14 pm

oh okay nevermind.

kimmie

October 19th, 2011
2:15 pm

Purple – Disco is a prime example of what I’m talking about. You don’t know who might set something afire or slash some tires or something!!LOL!!!

Kym

October 19th, 2011
2:19 pm

Wait..someone set money on fire?? Disco…here you are the winner for today..passing crazy torch..

Purple Reign

October 19th, 2011
2:19 pm

Leggs, I am asking YOU! Let’s get rid of being vague! LOL

disco you are crazy, I bet you have some good vajayjay. Crazy women always do. For the record if you ever burnt up some of my money….well we would just have to burn you up right along with it. LOL

czBrat

October 19th, 2011
2:19 pm

oh okay nevermind.
lmao

gapeach

October 19th, 2011
2:21 pm

why is that so funny?

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

October 19th, 2011
2:22 pm

LOL…..@disco

You sat money on fire so baby daddy couldn’t share the wealth. That’s what I mean by priceless. I know men and women will do a lot, I’m glad I’ve haven’t made any lady that pissed at me.

Purple Reign

October 19th, 2011
2:24 pm

Blackfoote, women know that I have a “streak” so they kind of know not to act to crazy with me. LOL

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

October 19th, 2011
2:25 pm

I’m fortunate is what I should say, I haven’t made anybody that angry.

disco

October 19th, 2011
2:26 pm

I like to think of myself as formerly crazy or crazy in retirement. I don’t deny I was way wild back in the day but I’m older now and a little bit calmer. I still have some verbal tirades every now and again but nothing like the stuff I used to do back in the day. boy the stories I could tell.

and purple – i’ve got exes from 10-15 years back talking about hooking up for old time sake if that’s any indication. of course, it could just mean they are old and tired and their game probably isn’t as strong so they want a shot at reliving the “glory days”.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

October 19th, 2011
2:26 pm

LOL…..@Purple

Purple Reign

October 19th, 2011
2:27 pm

Blackfoote, I’ve had to put one or two in place back in my 20’s, but that was due to the life I lived at the time.

DreamsMaterialize

October 19th, 2011
2:27 pm

Dreams who got your panties in a bunch?!…
Sassy lol You ok sweetie? Sounds like you took my post personally. Come on, I’ve been on the blog long enough for you to know that whenever I’m addressing someone I put there quote in italics and then bold their name under it so they know I’m talking to them. Been that way since my very first day on the blog. You also know that I don’t insult people, resort to personal attacks, or generally get involved blog “beef”. Your venom is misdirected, but it’s no sweat. I got love for you still. Hope you’re ok. ;-)

disco

October 19th, 2011
2:27 pm

blackfoote – my son is now 22 years old and his father will bring that up and more. i think the fact that I was the baby momma from heck is the reason why I can’t stand the phrase to this day.

Leggs

October 19th, 2011
2:28 pm

@czB:

1. BlueEyeGurl has recently ended a 3 -year FWB relationship. She unwittingly believed she was the only woman in her man’s life even though he told her they couldn’t “go public” with the relationship. One night, while in bed, he pops out an engagement ring and shows it to her but planned on asking another woman to marry him. He tells her all this why laying in bed with her….That’s why that crime show has one word SNAPPED!

2. GG was also in a FWB relationship for 3 years. The difference is she only only the D and told the guy. He got strung out and thought he could change her.

3. PR thinks I have man issues.
4. I have two fans
5.

Celisea

October 19th, 2011
2:28 pm

Gotcha Blackfoote :) You don’t strike me as a name caller

Kimmie/czBrat – Exactly…to what Kimmie siad.

Celisea

October 19th, 2011
2:28 pm

It’s just the old cats that would no doubt pass worms at the first sight of getting nookie that’s first to name call…oh and a few traditional dudes.

:) :)

Purple Reign

October 19th, 2011
2:29 pm

disco, are you small in stature?

Leggs

October 19th, 2011
2:30 pm

@disco ~ your scenario may have you on the bathroom floor chocked to death.

@PR ~ I wasn’t referring to anybody on this blog. Heck, I don’t know what THSES particular men do.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

October 19th, 2011
2:31 pm

Damn sho is some good stuff out here, you ladys got stuff better than lobster tails and a bone in rib-eye steak.

Purple Reign

October 19th, 2011
2:31 pm

At least I am consistent. LOL

Purple Reign

October 19th, 2011
2:32 pm

Blackfoote, these ladies have that ooo weee “sunshine”

Kym

October 19th, 2011
2:32 pm

@disco..I still got to give it up..that was a 10 plus on the crazy/loon scale. Heck it puts a few of my hissy-fits to shame.

I did adopt a new saying for this phase of my life after all crazy may go on vacation.. it does not die.. “YOU WILL RESPECT MY CRAZY”

disco

October 19th, 2011
2:33 pm

5′3″ at the time of said offense i might have weighed 100 pounds or so.

leggs – if i had a dollar for every time a guy told me he would like to choke me. i actually hear that one a lot.

Leggs

October 19th, 2011
2:36 pm

@disco ~ I am truly laughing out loud. When you feel free, please share one of your crazy stories.

But for right now, how much money did you burn up?

Purple Reign

October 19th, 2011
2:36 pm

disco, yep those little petite women have the most crazy in them. LOL

kimmie

October 19th, 2011
2:36 pm

Purple Reign

October 19th, 2011
2:37 pm

choking in an angry way = bad

choking in a sexual way = good

choking during angry sex= heavenly

i'm swiss™

October 19th, 2011
2:37 pm

I’m thinking abc paid some of these ladies to come on here & prove him right. :lol:

disco

October 19th, 2011
2:38 pm

leggs i’m typing a crazy story now. give me a minute…

Fion

October 19th, 2011
2:39 pm

@kym 2:14

Ya, Yeah!!!! A Commitment to Excellence.

R.I.P. Al

Kym

October 19th, 2011
2:40 pm

Come take a ride on the Crazy Train!!! sorry that is the first song that popped in my head..

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

October 19th, 2011
2:40 pm

“these ladies have that ooo weee “sunshine””

And moonlit nights makes me want to howl.

czBrat

October 19th, 2011
2:40 pm

yikes!
1. how the heck did i miss the actual details on gurl’s fwb experience? oh well. lemme try and ease up outta that hug.

2. uh. yeah, GG. been there. escaped relatively unscathed. won’t do it again.

3. you do. (muah!!) :lol:

4. well it’s your day, lil lady! make sure they’re not blowing smoke just to get blog vests before they complete probation.

5. as always, thanx for the rundown!

disco

October 19th, 2011
2:42 pm

okay – I’ll tell y’all one more crazy story and then I’ll stop putting my business in the street. this too was back before I was even 21. guy was juggling me and another chick. she was older (like 30 something but back then I thought she was ancient). anyway, to shorten the story oldhead chick stepped to me out. he made her leave where we were so she was likely feeling some kind of way. that same night I spent the night with him and went outside to his car after he went to sleep. I stabbed the leather seats with a knife and squirted dark and lovely hair dye on his paint job. I then went back inside and got back into bed with him. to this day he swears that the oldhead chick did it. I saw him a couple of years ago and we talked about. cool believe I never let on that it was me.

Purple Reign

October 19th, 2011
2:44 pm

See Leggs, CZ agrees with me that you have men issues. LOL

Leggs

October 19th, 2011
2:44 pm

I had to go back to my #3. Not cute (lol).