Sex: Does it mean anything?
A friend of mine is knee-deep in a relationship that she didn’t go looking for. Apparently, it was one of those booty call to boyfriend kind of transitions that isn’t necessarily premeditated.
One could argue that once sex is introduced in a dating relationship, it changes the dynamics. Does it have to mean the same thing to both of you? When do you know that it does or when it doesn’t?
Sex doesn’t always mean exclusivity, but do you think it should?
What impact, if any, do you think sex has on a new relationship?
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Fion
October 19th, 2011
1:28 pm
@Dreams
some of these same chicks hollin’ bout I would do this that and the other, are the same chicks
that have written how they made booty calls, let dudes Hit it and Quit it and on and on ect. ect. ect.
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
1:28 pm
So 6 side chicks and a girlfriend that he had an engagement ring for. And at no point did she have a clue that there were other women in his life until he pulled the ring out that wasn’t for her. She is probably to dumb to cook grits if she did not notice anything up until that point.
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
1:30 pm
So glad swiss isn’t here right now!
kimmie
October 19th, 2011
1:32 pm
Yall dudes keep that ish up. Wake up one day and have some “dumb chick” standing over your d– with a knife! Or a pot of hot grits!!
All this, “but he/she let me” – better watch it!
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
1:34 pm
Brutal I tell ya…lol Just saying. You men have called BluEyedGurl all sort of names,
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
1:34 pm
Yeah she fell for it but he’s not guiltless.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 19th, 2011
1:34 pm
GlammourGirl:
“That was on him for allowing me to do that to him”.
I must admit, a woman getting back is priceless……..LOL
Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)
October 19th, 2011
1:35 pm
That was on him for allowing me to do that to him.
In my Dr. Phil Voice…dearheart you have some accountability in that b/c you let him come back…what do you mean for him allowing yoU to do that to him…you didn’t have to do it…yoU CHOSE to knowing how vulnerable he was so what does that say about yoU and your character to prey on someone solely for your entertainment when you KNEW it would never work? Again..it’s just a question not an accusation. If it works for yoU then cool…you know what they say about Karma right?
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 19th, 2011
1:36 pm
LOL…..@Purple
Too dumb to cook grits…….LOL
gapeach
October 19th, 2011
1:37 pm
Sassy, I’m pretty sure he knew what he was in for with GG. Seems like she made herself pretty clear and just wanted some D.
kimmie
October 19th, 2011
1:38 pm
Sassy – Finally, somebody else gets it!!
Fion
October 19th, 2011
1:38 pm
That’s why the game is all out of order and off kilter. All these poachers, imposters and wannebe’s .
Danm shame. And supposed to GROWN. Get out the Game and go to the sideline.
Ya littering the field of play.
Kym
October 19th, 2011
1:39 pm
@ga peach..she is.. I follow her on the twitter…actually the ajc tweets are pretty funny.
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
1:41 pm
Finally, somebody else gets it!!
It’s the men that don’t get it, their applauding GG yet slamming BluEyedGurl. Situations are not really that far apart. Not one of them have said anything negative but woo hoo go girl (Fion put your tongue back in…you ain’t getting any).
Call me a cynic on the GG story but……
i'm swiss™
October 19th, 2011
1:41 pm
“So glad swiss isn’t here right now!”
Hey… WTF? Et tu, Legg-e?
kimmie
October 19th, 2011
1:42 pm
The thing is, GG could have told dude what was up until she was blue in the face. It’s obvious, after she told him what was up & he STILL came back, even wanting to pick up & MOVE closer to her, that he was CRAZY!! You don’t play with CRAZY!!
Like I said, keep that ish up.
GlammourGirl
October 19th, 2011
1:42 pm
I didn’t prey on him for my entertainment. It was never me going back to him. I was honest with him from jump. He was the one that felt as if he could change my mind. I never led him to believe that there would ever be anything more.
kimmie
October 19th, 2011
1:43 pm
Celisea – I’m cynic on it too, but I’ll play along!
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
1:43 pm
Kimmie – Holes so big I’m staying away from for fear of falling through…lol
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
1:44 pm
What was GG’s story? Timestamp?
gapeach
October 19th, 2011
1:45 pm
@kym, well its too bad I never use my twitter, maybe i should?
who do i follow?
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
1:45 pm
GG why did you keep toying with him? if you did not want him why not leave him alone?
Fion
October 19th, 2011
1:45 pm
@ Celisea
A hit dog will holla everytime. BTW, ya tail wags when you howl.
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
1:46 pm
It’s over now, swiss…how you be?
kimmie
October 19th, 2011
1:46 pm
Purple – 12:41 & 12:50
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 19th, 2011
1:46 pm
GlammourGirl:
Hopefully he’s gotten over you, and moved forward you have to understand you laid something on him that made him almost become stalking material.
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
1:46 pm
Fion – Dear…please move on past me
gapeach
October 19th, 2011
1:47 pm
HE HAD THAT GOOD GOOD!
cba
October 19th, 2011
1:49 pm
PR 1:28, he had six side chicks at the same damn company!!! Hell, he should get manager of the decade if he pulled that off and still has his dk intact.
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
1:50 pm
“GG why did you keep toying with him? if you did not want him why not leave him alone?”
WTH! Men do this all day everyday….
i'm swiss™
October 19th, 2011
1:50 pm
Leggs — I was doing great until I looked up & saw you all happy that I wasn’t around…
And I thought I was your boy, Leggs… 
GlammourGirl
October 19th, 2011
1:51 pm
@Purple…I did eventually end it with him. He kept saying he was good with the arrangement, but a month or so down the line, he would start talking about marriage. I was sick of the cycle. He was never going to get that I didn’t want anything more. The benefits were great, but he needed to move on with his life.
I hope he’s gotten over me too. He is a great guy, but just not great for me.
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
1:53 pm
Leggs, you almost always act as if women are the victim. I am glad I am unbiased in my views. So you want to give blueeyes a hug because she opened her eyes and GG a high five because she is doing what men do all day everyday? Sounds like you have some underlying issues against men. LOL
kimmie
October 19th, 2011
1:53 pm
Leggs – Sure do & then wonder when some of these women they toy with snap on their behinds. Even if it’s just a good cussing out via text!!LOL!!!
Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)
October 19th, 2011
1:53 pm
It was never me going back to him.
Po-tay-to..po-ta-to.. It doesn’t matter who went back to whom..the fact alone is you still had some accountability b/c you did it..you didn’t have to do it…yoU …CHOSE to. Still do you playa…do you.
Neeeext!!
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
1:53 pm
@swiss ~ as I read one of my posts, I saw you twisting the words around, that’s all. You always good with me!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 19th, 2011
1:54 pm
Leggs that’s the kicker we’ve (men) are best at doing shi like that, and to hear a woman say she done break all the laws of physics and manpower.
Fion
October 19th, 2011
1:55 pm
Everybody Funking but they don’t know how
Shoulda seen the Bull when he Funked the Cow
Funked so hard ‘til he saw some smoke
Said, come on baby let’s get in the bed and Funk like folks.
“Gammin’ on ya”.
kimmie
October 19th, 2011
1:56 pm
GG – Yeah, you did go back, for more D—!
Celisea
October 19th, 2011
1:57 pm
Blackfoote – to hear a woman say she done break all the laws of physics and manpower
…..makes me wait for the name calling to start. To have a woman do what men do (which ya’ll are always saying women can’t do) you find commendable versus a woman doing what women do (getting caught up) but yet she’s the wh@re…
Unbelievable.
gapeach
October 19th, 2011
1:57 pm
aint nothing wrong with getting your fck on.
i'm swiss™
October 19th, 2011
1:58 pm
Leggs — Oh, okay. Well, in that case, I forgive you.
Now, here, let me rub your mini-donk & we’ll make up. 
GlammourGirl
October 19th, 2011
1:58 pm
Yeah Sassy, call it how you want to. But I’m good.
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
2:00 pm
@PR ~ no siree. Not acting like women are always the victim. I find it absolutey hysterical that men are questioning the very same tactics of GG when they do the same thing. It seems to be cool when a man does it, but for a woman to use a man it’s met with negative criticism.
I’m only standing up against the double standardness [sic] that is blatantly heaped here in Blogsville.
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
2:01 pm
And, you don’t sound unbiased in your views.
Purple Reign
October 19th, 2011
2:02 pm
Leggs so what guy are you referring to here on this blog who has done what you stated?
Alright Alright alriiiighhhhttttttt, you gone learn today! Loooonggggggg dyyyyycckk! you gon learn today!
i'm swiss™
October 19th, 2011
2:02 pm
I always kinda enjoyed being used.
Leggs
October 19th, 2011
2:03 pm
@BF ~ exactly. So to question her as to why she didn’t just leave him alone is comical on every level..
kimmie
October 19th, 2011
2:03 pm
Sassy/Celisea – See, this is the kind of stuff that is more than likely been going on behind the scenes after things come to a head and you read about these folks getting stalked and worse on the news. Or it doesn’t even have to go that far – a lot of these folks that come on the blog whining cause someone has done them wrong are probably getting a nice double-dose of KARMA!
czBrat
October 19th, 2011
2:04 pm
not sure where we’re at but i do like celisea’s 1:57
leggs, where’s my recap?