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Do men like confidence?

While I was in DC this weekend, I hung out on U street a couple of nights. I noticed that a lot of women in DC seemed confident, chic, and polished. Not unlike the women I know and meet in Atlanta, but definitely confident. It is one of the things I think men are impressed by. Of course when the confidence crosses into arrogance, it could become a turn off.

My friend Brian once told me that when a woman tries to appear confident a lot of times, it comes across as bragging. When she starts talking about her degrees, wealth, or accomplishments, he starts to wonder who she is trying to convince.

I think that men do the same thing, but when a woman attempts to be overly confident, it is not received the same way. Most men don’t even care about the number of degrees or the number of zeros in her bank account.

Do you think that men like confident women? Isn’t it a good thing to be happy with who you are?

What do you think the difference is between confidence and arrogance?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

420 comments Add your comment

SexyCool

October 18th, 2011
12:54 pm

The Vine City MARTA station is nearly a mile away. This makeshift memorial was in front of the barbershops that are right across from where the Publix used to be. Could be that this is related, but seems just a bit out of a reasonable radius.

DreamsMaterialize

October 18th, 2011
1:02 pm

I’ll tell you this though…you gotta be kinda confident (or something) to take the body blows and knee shots the WLB throw at you and keep coming back. lol I love ya’ll man. Ya’ll are all softies underneath though…I can see it. Dudes just ain’t doing what needs doing. ;-)

Willie Dynamite

October 18th, 2011
1:04 pm

or something

Kym

October 18th, 2011
1:04 pm

Manties are now availble in a rainbow of colors..

Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

October 18th, 2011
1:05 pm

I’m not proud of this, but after reflecting on this, there is another aspect of this controversy. I can find “confident” women very sexy and I get some very powerful urges, but… The super confidence is not a trait I would want in someone I am getting serious about. In other words, for a man, you don’t have to like someone to want to “toss” them. I see a bunch of women I would like to jump partly because of their projected confidence, but that doesn’t mean I want to marry someone like that.

Okay, I am a jerk, but sex and love are not one and the same and the rules are different.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)

October 18th, 2011
1:06 pm

Dudes just ain’t doing what needs doing

Precisely…

Celisea

October 18th, 2011
1:06 pm

Dreams – you gotta be kinda confident (or something) to take the body blows and knee shots the WLB throw at you and keep coming back.

Okay, now this made me laugh. Stop it…LOL

Celisea

October 18th, 2011
1:07 pm

Hey Dreams – I honestly don’t think that’s the intent. It’s like when a dude is on point, I can see women pointing like “yep, that’s it right there, uh huh, yep what he said..he get’s it….ding ding ding ding”

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)

October 18th, 2011
1:08 pm

Manties are now availble in a rainbow of colors..

AND all sizes except small…not unless one of y’all needs a small. Don’t judge me….I’m trying to give the benefit of the doubt :mrgreen:

Leggs

October 18th, 2011
1:09 pm

@czB ~ must admit, good point. I thought he was saying people here on this blog. I stand corrected if that your thinking is along the same lines as czB’s, Cmon! I took it literally.

Celisea

October 18th, 2011
1:09 pm

OSHH – Your 12:00 :)

Celisea

October 18th, 2011
1:11 pm

AND all sizes except small…not unless one of y’all needs a small. Don’t judge me

Heck I was hoping the only sizes available or made are small and medium. I’m tossing a side eye if you need large or Xlarge and wearing rainbow manties. That should be stated together in one statement. Hi my name is Roy, I need rainbow manties in an EXTRA LARGE, please…bat bat bat (as in eyelashes).

Celisea

October 18th, 2011
1:11 pm

shouldn’t be stated is what I was saying….off to lunch

Leggs

October 18th, 2011
1:13 pm

@DreamsM ~ fun nee!

We can only react to the written word. Would have been different if he included people here in Georgia. But NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO, he conveniently left that part out (lolol).

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)

October 18th, 2011
1:18 pm

I’m tossing a side eye if you need large or Xlarge and wearing rainbow manties.

I was thinking about their junk…wouldn’t want it all mashed together like that..ain’t good for the babies(hint,hint)..

But the visual of some super tight, n#t huggin manties is kinda funny…

Leggs

October 18th, 2011
1:18 pm

Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

October 18th, 2011
1:19 pm

Off topic…there is an app for the new iPhone4s called “Find my Friends”. It is now becoming known as the “cheating” app because some guy on line says he used it to confirm his wife was fooling around. Getting harder and harder to get away with anything in this age of modern technology. In the old days, spouse had to catch you at a no tell motel…now they just track you on line. LOL

Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

October 18th, 2011
1:23 pm

Manties just don’t work if the guy is hairy like a gorilla (Randy’s hand in air). Momma always said wear clean underwear in case you are in an accident…pink or floral might raise some eyebrows too.

(Can you tell it is a light day here at my office if I have time to respond to this type of useless commentary?)

Kym

October 18th, 2011
1:25 pm

@Randy there is a new Dexter book..Double Dexter..apparently there is another serial killer..copying Dexter.

czBrat

October 18th, 2011
1:26 pm

hungry. no idea what i want. bout to go deal with more rude azz folk in traffic, at the bank, and the p.o. this should be interesting.

Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

October 18th, 2011
1:29 pm

Dang Leggs, i thought I had dated some women who got really angry, but even my ex-wife at the peak of her PMS only scared me for the safety of my “you know what”. Using a hatchet and a Saws-All…I’m gonna hide my tools if I ever have a sleep over again with a crazy woman.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)

October 18th, 2011
1:29 pm

It is now becoming known as the “cheating” app

Yeah if that story’s true then she got what she deserves. The hubby bought the phone and had the app installed without her knowledge. Well now he has what he needs to get el divorco..

Didn’t that Strahan dude do that to Nicole Murphy and had gps devices put on her vehicls…WITHOUT telling her? It didn’t work regardless ’cause he stayed with her anyway…

DreamsMaterialize

October 18th, 2011
1:30 pm

Hey Dreams – I honestly don’t think that’s the intent.
Celisea I’m with you. Ya’ll go for the knees though. I’ve been around long enough to see a few blog careers ended. Maybe they weren’t pro material, but ya’ll be making dudes look like Joe Theismann. LOL

Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

October 18th, 2011
1:31 pm

Thanks Kym…oddly enough, the first copies of the Dexter books I saw were in a used book shop in England. I knew they couldn’t be that passive deep down LOL. I will download it to my Kimble. Thx

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)

October 18th, 2011
1:31 pm

Hell hath NO fury like a woman scorned..

cba

October 18th, 2011
1:31 pm

I think blogging is like texting, you leave a word or two out and you have a whole different interpertation. My interpertation was similar to CZB since the previous posts were about cities in the NE, I understood here to be the south/ATL.

PR, what is your take on the Jim Harbaugh hand shake with Lions’s coach. I don’t see all the fuss.
Now you talk about moist, BAB, wussifaction, that where the NFL is headed. I want the ole school football back :lol:

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)

October 18th, 2011
1:34 pm

Ya’ll go for the knees though.

:shock:

Nuh uhh….

Jake: Sweet Peeda Jeeda, TWB

October 18th, 2011
1:34 pm

On tpoic:
Kitchen and the Bedroom Florida, Kitchen and the Bedroom

Confidence is cool, but know your role lil lady, you be whoever you are, but if you are my woman, that’s exactly who what expect…

Requirements:

Cooking-you don’t need to be Chef, but know your way around that kitchen

Cleaning-Its OUR responsibilty, but you are in charge of the interior of this house, if its bad enough for me to comment, its bad

Sex Game- If daddy is happy, mama will be too

Now, those 8 hours you at work showing the world your intellect, do your thing baby, nobody is better than you; I support you to the fullest, but when you hit the door, we can talk about our professional adventures, but turn that ish off, I don’t want to hear it…..and where is my sandwich!!

Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

October 18th, 2011
1:35 pm

@ Sassy re: “Hell hath NO fury like a woman scorned.”

no kidding. I got a major taste of this last week. lady really knew where to stick the verbal knife…hellz a real knife doesn’t hurt that bad going in. Although that sawzall would have smarted I imagine.

Jake: Sweet Peeda Jeeda, TWB

October 18th, 2011
1:35 pm

what I expect

Kym

October 18th, 2011
1:37 pm

Every system can be beaten..now if I knew about the app on my phone..then I would just buy a throw away phone. Give side dude the throw away phone# and when tipping out leave tracker phone where ever it is I am suppose to be…heck even if I didn’t know about cheating app.. I will still roll with two phones….but I digress…what are we talking about now?

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)

October 18th, 2011
1:42 pm

Although that sawzall would have smarted I imagine

Yep would’ve smarted like a S.O.B.

now if I knew about the app on my phone..then I would just buy a throw away phone.

That’s the thing Kym,she didn’t know. So he texted her asking her where she was(even though he knew already) and she lied….so he did it again a little later and she lied AGAIN..

DreamsMaterialize

October 18th, 2011
1:44 pm

Didn’t that Strahan dude do that to Nicole Murphy and had gps devices put on her vehicls
Sassy Strahan is still paranoid from the fallout from his divorce. Dude got one of the worst divorce settlements ever. His ex wife got 70% of his assets, plus 18k a month in child support. That ish probably got him tracking his own mama. lol

Leggs

October 18th, 2011
1:44 pm

@Randyt ~ are you saying your old gf of a few months cussed you out before the official break up?

Kym

October 18th, 2011
1:45 pm

Oh..well then she is not bright..you always need a throw away phone…if you creeping…

Kym

October 18th, 2011
1:47 pm

Yeah Strahan..is gonna be selling 5.00 footlongs for a long time..

Leggs

October 18th, 2011
1:47 pm

@Kym ~ stop giving pointers (lol).

Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

October 18th, 2011
1:48 pm

Leggs…much worse than a cussing. Right up there with my ex filing a protection order against me during our separation/divorce even though we both know I hadn’t hit a female since the 8th grade (my sister and even then mostly self defense). And up there with getting thrown out of my own house the day after my birthday by my ex. Yup, near the top.

Kym

October 18th, 2011
1:51 pm

AWWW RandyT…why don’t ya’ll buy RandyT one of those Sims virtual table dances or something…

Leggs

October 18th, 2011
1:51 pm

Not to get too personal, but she breaks up with you then proceeds to berate you. WOW. Bet most of it was over your relationship with your daughter….there you go, you were with the wrong woman!

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)

October 18th, 2011
1:51 pm

That ish probably got him tracking his own mama

Awww then po baby(pun kinda intended) dude has issues…yep he better keep selling those 5 doller footloooongs…any..any :lol:

Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

October 18th, 2011
1:52 pm

Actually Leggs, technically she texted me (never liked to talk on the phone)…so I could read and reread. She was great though for awhile, just had a major temper obviously.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)

October 18th, 2011
1:54 pm

you were with the wrong woman!

totally…just be glad she’s gone. It’s gonna sting a little but better now than later…it’s always the ones you care about most that can hurt you the most..

Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

October 18th, 2011
1:54 pm

Yup. Before I got in to the dating game after my divorce, I had never heard of the term “near miss”. (referring to dating) I’ve had several of those now ;-) It’s all good.

Exiled!

October 18th, 2011
1:55 pm

Randyt?

So she texted u talking about u and ur daughter?

and she’s mad? And u sore from it?

Leggs

October 18th, 2011
1:56 pm

I’ll be damned if I’m going to cuss someone out via text. You need to hear the venom in my voice! Not only that, text msgs can be saved!

Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

October 18th, 2011
1:57 pm

Hey at least I can fondly remember going skinny dipping in my pool with a hottie. Probably POed the neighbors though. ;-)

Leggs

October 18th, 2011
1:57 pm

@Randyt ~ what percentage did you play in the downfall of this relationship?

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)

October 18th, 2011
1:59 pm

technically she texted me (never liked to talk on the phone)…

:shock:

WHAT?!

RANDY?!?!?! You’ve gotta be sh!ttin me…you really are bored over there cause I know you’re joking…at least I hope you are. You’re missing a woman who didn’t respect you enough to converse with you but break up via TEXT?…naw playa I ain’t buying that. Say it ain’t so, Tito!!!!

Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

October 18th, 2011
2:01 pm

The daughter issue was supposedly it. She wanted me to act forcefully and I know my daughter well enough to know I had to ease into it or lose her. At the end of the day, I can always find a new lady, but not another daughter. Daughter was wrong to snub her, but I chewed my daughter out unmercifully, and felt I had a handle on the situation, but wanted to take care of it slowly. Oh well.