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Do men like confidence?

While I was in DC this weekend, I hung out on U street a couple of nights. I noticed that a lot of women in DC seemed confident, chic, and polished. Not unlike the women I know and meet in Atlanta, but definitely confident. It is one of the things I think men are impressed by. Of course when the confidence crosses into arrogance, it could become a turn off.

My friend Brian once told me that when a woman tries to appear confident a lot of times, it comes across as bragging. When she starts talking about her degrees, wealth, or accomplishments, he starts to wonder who she is trying to convince.

I think that men do the same thing, but when a woman attempts to be overly confident, it is not received the same way. Most men don’t even care about the number of degrees or the number of zeros in her bank account.

Do you think that men like confident women? Isn’t it a good thing to be happy with who you are?

What do you think the difference is between confidence and arrogance?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

420 comments Add your comment

2CPTG

October 18th, 2011
11:53 am

Exiled……as usual, we see eye to eye…..confidence will cause you to keep it movin….whether in a favorable, or adverse, situation, your level of confidence in yourself (i.e. your skills, abilities, ism,) it doesn’t matter, will see you through it……lil faith don’t hurt either….

czBrat

October 18th, 2011
11:54 am

lmao @ leggs. k, chica. thanx for the added confusion. :lol:

Purple Reign

October 18th, 2011
11:56 am

Kimmie she is fine and its another boy! She ran six miles with me this morning!

I am reading people saying that they are confident but yet and still their blog entries reek of low self esteem.

CmonSeriously

October 18th, 2011
11:57 am

O/T
Did anyone hear about those people in Philly, how could someone do that.

Leggs

October 18th, 2011
11:57 am

I believe they said one was there for 11 years!

Leggs

October 18th, 2011
11:58 am

Only a souless person could do something like that…

czBrat

October 18th, 2011
11:58 am

awwww! reign, that’s just the sweetness. you’ll get to use giulia next go-round. :)

Kym

October 18th, 2011
11:58 am

@Cmon is that the folks who locked the people in the bomb shelter? If so, they need their natural..**** beat to the white meat.

Fion

October 18th, 2011
11:58 am

@Exiled

What the superior man seeks is in himself; what the small man seeks is in others.

-Confucius

OSHH

October 18th, 2011
12:00 pm

Celisea @ 10:25, RIGHT & THANK YOU for saving me some keystrokes.

Exiled @ 10:44 I toally disagreee……. maybe for some, but I”m from DC not rolling in doe(yet) but I am wealthy in spirit, and fully confident most days of the week!!!!!

czBrat

October 18th, 2011
12:01 pm

o/t …. i think my desk calendar is defective. how the he!! is it that october has only one week left? geez!

CmonSeriously

October 18th, 2011
12:02 pm

Wasn’t even a bomb shelter it was a boiler room, chained to the boiler

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)

October 18th, 2011
12:03 pm

Did anyone hear about those people in Philly

Yeah and it’s just sad…what’s worse is that there were other victims in other states and the woman arrested spent 8 years in prison for starving her sister’s boyfriend to death. Since he wouldn’t agree to take care of her sister’s unborn baby, she locked him up in a closet and starved dude til he died…he was 25 y.o.a.

CmonSeriously

October 18th, 2011
12:04 pm

I think those people need to be put in the great care of Mike Vick back in the day.

Lady~

October 18th, 2011
12:05 pm

@Exiled! U gotta be confident enough to get judged and KIM Cmon. <—– Love It!

CmonSeriously

October 18th, 2011
12:05 pm

Sas
I heard about that too, what the heck was she doing out of prison

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)

October 18th, 2011
12:06 pm

Wasn’t even a bomb shelter it was a boiler room

with no food, only a bottle of orange juice to drink and a bucket for a bathroom.

Kym

October 18th, 2011
12:06 pm

Uhh how is confidence or whatever the heck it is we are trying to describe is all of a sudden regional? So now all the confident people live up north and all the low-esteem folks live south? So what does that mean for the west coast and the mid-west? West coasters- are flakes, Mid-west folks are lames..and if you choose to move to this area of the country what does that say about you?

Exiled!

October 18th, 2011
12:07 pm

Exactly fellas(Fion/2Can)!

March to ur own drum.
Some may not like it but that’s the way of the world.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)

October 18th, 2011
12:09 pm

I don’t know why she was out of prison in the first place and still SHE should’ve had the wherewhithall to NOT want to go back, but she’ll get her deserved comeuppance…they all will. Unjust doesn’t prosper..

Fion

October 18th, 2011
12:10 pm

@Kym
Just stop it, right now. You are out of order. You tryin’ to make sense out of what
some of these folk say. :)

CmonSeriously

October 18th, 2011
12:12 pm

True true, people here make about as much sense as they do anywhere else, all bs!!!

Kym

October 18th, 2011
12:17 pm

@Fion my bad..sorry I just went and re-read some comments..back to the music..”Snap your fingers do your step..you can do it all by yourself.”

2CPTG

October 18th, 2011
12:20 pm

“people here make about as much sense as they do anywhere else, all bs!!!”

yep….and if you play ya cards right, you’ll take heed to your surroundings, and peep game! Soak up your environs, and take that knowledge with you…..

Leggs

October 18th, 2011
12:22 pm

@Cmon ~ why are you here? You like hanging out with BSers? It is unreal how people complain about this blog, add their three cents, and then complain some more. If you don’t like it, don’t comment, just climb back out the window. It really is that simple. IJS….

kimmie

October 18th, 2011
12:23 pm

March to ur own drum.
Some may not like it but that’s the way of the world.

Exiled – So true. And you’ll drive yourself crazy worrying about what everyone else thinks of you.

CmonSeriously

October 18th, 2011
12:24 pm

Easy there killer, I just made one comment, don’t bite my head off, what did I do to you.

Celisea

October 18th, 2011
12:27 pm

CmonSeriously – Really dude, why all the whining….EVERY DAY? It’s America which is situated within this big world we live in. You need to grow up and stop getting mad because people don’t agree or conform to your ideas. You forget we are all separate individuals and entitled to think and feel the way we want to freely think and feel. Only children pout when they can’t have their way. Gheesh dude

Leggs

October 18th, 2011
12:28 pm

Not biting your head off, just commenting. It’s offensive to me to tell people on this blog that all they spit is BS.

Fion

October 18th, 2011
12:29 pm

….and that’s the real trip. The ones spittin’ the most BS, swear they are kickin’ logic right up there with Socrates and Plato.

CmonSeriously

October 18th, 2011
12:30 pm

Dude, I am not whining at all, I don’t care if anyone agrees with me or not.

BlackMagicWoman

October 18th, 2011
12:30 pm

CELISEA…girl is somebody in need of a bottle or a pacifier? :lol:

CmonSeriously

October 18th, 2011
12:31 pm

Leggs read it again, I said everyone spits bs everywhere, making a funny comment

Celisea

October 18th, 2011
12:32 pm

BMW – Okaaaaaay???!!! We talked yesterday about manties, panties mancelets, B.A.B. tshirts (HINT HINT) and obviously that fell on deaf ears. LOL

Leggs

October 18th, 2011
12:34 pm

I read it twice….

Celisea

October 18th, 2011
12:34 pm

Cmon Seriously – Go back and re-read some of your posts. I have done it. When you read it in retrospect sometimes what you intended is not what’s relay. Trust me I’ve done it. It’s a good lesson for one’s self when you can’t see or hear what others see or hear. I’m a bit brash but it don’t feel that way when I’m saying it. When I go back and read sometimes I think, gheesh that was hard girlie. Just saying

Celisea

October 18th, 2011
12:36 pm

And trust me it helps moving forward

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)

October 18th, 2011
12:36 pm

@12:12 the post readpeople here make about as much sense as they do anywhere else, all bs!!!

BUT !12:35 that’s morphed into I said everyone spits bs everywhere,

Is that the same sentence? I’m jus asking..

CmonSeriously

October 18th, 2011
12:38 pm

No not the same question, I was saying people will spit bs anywhere/everywhere, one place is as good as another, not saying it’s specific to here

Willie Dynamite

October 18th, 2011
12:39 pm

Afternoon All,

Some really good comments thus far.
On Topic – confidence to me is very sexy. Arrogance, bragging, bitchiness, etc in a woman tends to turn me into a short-term conqueror. I do however believe that confidence does not equate to Love. relationships are a give and take. A dominant personality from either side does not dictate that love is absent on the other side. We’ve all met a strong Woman that seems to run their husband but has been happily (outwardly) happy for years. As with everything I say know your lane and find someone to ride with you regardless of the driver.
However, I have a confident personality and that translates into Leadership. My co-rider recognizes and understands that.

czBrat

October 18th, 2011
12:40 pm

well damn. i guess some days you step into blogsville and just get whooped. we all take our turns.

for the record, i didn’t take “people here” to mean bloggers. i thought he was talking about people in ga or atl.

Leggs

October 18th, 2011
12:40 pm

That’s my point SassyMe! “people here…”

Leggs

October 18th, 2011
12:41 pm

@czB ~ you dust yourself off and rejoin the fray (lol).

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)

October 18th, 2011
12:44 pm

You know we’re on it Leggs…call a spade a spade.

CmonSeriously

October 18th, 2011
12:44 pm

Dang you guys are ultra sensative here

Celisea

October 18th, 2011
12:46 pm

Dang you guys are ultra sensative here

Noooooo buddy that would be you….hence the whining

Celisea

October 18th, 2011
12:46 pm

Now, let the name calling began

Purple Reign

October 18th, 2011
12:46 pm

Must be “moist:30″

SexyCool

October 18th, 2011
12:46 pm

I thought the statement that there is a lot of anger and judging on this blog sounded angry and judgemental…but…um…yeah…that’s just the view from my window on the world.

In other news….

I am pretty sure someone was killed a couple of blocks from my house very recently. This morning, I was walking GiGi and the candles were still lit at the little memorial site. (Gotta find out what happened on MLK/near the AUC in the last few days.)

czBrat

October 18th, 2011
12:50 pm

sc, would that be near the vine city marta station?