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Chasing dreams?

Greetings everyone! I am in Washington, DC this morning after attending the Martin Luther King, Jr. Memorial Dedication yesterday. It was a wonderful weekend of events and ended with a great tribute concert featuring Sheryl Crow, James Taylor, Ledisi, and the great Stevie Wonder.

Throughout the weekend, I kept thinking of Dr. King’s dream speech. It is always inspiring to hear it each time and it reminds me to never give up on following my own dreams. Although we all have things we want to achieve and accomplishments that we are striving for, we often forget that it would be lonely reaching these milestones alone.

It reminds me of that scene in the film Mahogony starring Diana Ross and Billy Dee Williams: Success is nothing without someone you love to share it with you.

A lot of us delay marriage and dating because we are chasing our dreams, but do we believe that it would be as meaningful if we are alone?

Do you think that your success would be nothing without someone to love and share it with you?

Happy Monday!!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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CmonSeriously

October 17th, 2011
7:05 am

Depends on the person really, some people are better off alone, then again some other people are dependant on having someone to share their success with and fallback on those people during times of hardship and failure for support. I would like to think that I could do it all by myself, but I would prefer to share my life with someone else. If that makes me co-dependant in some way, then in some way I am.

Kym

October 17th, 2011
8:10 am

Good Morning Sunshine Gang!

Do you think that your success would be nothing without someone to love and share it with you?

Uhhh I would have to say..I do have someone to share it with and cheer me on..My family and my true friends. I know there is the school of thought that says you need “a man or a woman” to complete you. But I just can’t get with that. I think my road to completeness is my own journey…I share the road with others..but it is still my journey. To quote the old cigarette ad “You’ve come a long way baby!” and I am still on a journey..

JustMe, Slim

October 17th, 2011
8:10 am

Good morning all,

The boss man is supposed to be here from PA this week so it’ll be hard to check in as much…bummer.

I would much rather have someone there to share the milestones, accomplishments and mini-steps to success with. True, it feels good on a personal level to accomplish things but there is something about knowing you have that special someone cheering you on from the sidelines as well. If we were all meant to be alone, would there have even been an Eve made? (for those who believe)

Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

October 17th, 2011
8:17 am

“Do you think that your success would be nothing without someone to love and share it with you?”

I guess I absolutely believe this. If I didn’t want to share my life with someone, then the dude in Maui who rides a moped, feeds the fish under a glass bottom boat four times a day, and shaves every third or fourth day, and drinks margueritas on the beach at night would be me because he has it made. I have tons of sky miles and Marriott/Hilton/Radison points and a beautiful home in the suburbs, and I can travel all over the USA and Europe on business, but at the end of the day I’m still alone (right now again). Not near as much fun as being with someone enjoying this together.

I think that the “single again” class has the worst of all worlds. We know what we want and we know what we can’t take (instead of that wonderful ignorance of youth). The problem is that finding both in the same person is tough, but finding two people who match up is dayum near impossible. Oh well, I guess I’m in a thoughtful mood today.

Lady~

October 17th, 2011
8:22 am

Kym Cosign!!!! I applaud those you have mastered the journey to share with a great mate but not every story is written the same and we are not less valuable bc we don’t have a specific mate to share our success with. Being unique is acceptable~

CmonSeriously

October 17th, 2011
8:26 am

I think Randy hit the nail on the head on this one, coming from someone that is in a near similar situation, you have your success, but you can’t share it with someone, you know what you want and don’t and you don’t have the mindset to let certain things go. It’s really a double edged blade.

Lady~

October 17th, 2011
8:34 am

yes randy your last paragraph id a accurate assessment and I agree!

Lady~

October 17th, 2011
8:34 am

*is that is smh lol #monday

Purple Reign

October 17th, 2011
8:40 am

Man is not meant to be alone……(ever since the start of it all)

JustMe, Slim

October 17th, 2011
8:48 am

PR – How’s everything going with you these days…knee, mind and the rest of your body?

Lady~

October 17th, 2011
8:48 am

Purple I admire your traditional values…….Hello too! been a while!

lucinda

October 17th, 2011
9:10 am

I share the road with others….but it is still my journey.
well said, Kym.

At the end of the day, I think life is incredibly lonely. You may have friends and family around, but sometimes the relationships you think would last forever, or the relationships you believed would truly support you over time, don’t do that. They just don’t always last. Or, last in the same manner. Thus, it is a lonely road we travel.

So, it IS all about your own journey and crossing with people who support and love you —when they are there. Then, they aren’t, so you are back on your own.

Purple Reign

October 17th, 2011
9:13 am

Hey Slim! I’m 100% physically my mind on the other hand….well I think its 100% but others may say I’m not lol..that’s nothing new

Lady…where have you been and when did you get back? Lol

lucinda

October 17th, 2011
9:16 am

I think that the “single again” class has the worst of all worlds.
Randyt sigh, true that.

Then again, you also know when you have something special, even if the package might not appear as you envisioned.

Purple Reign

October 17th, 2011
9:19 am

My sort of random thoughts of the morning. I’m readung the words “my, mine, I ,you and you’re” a lot this morning….seems kind of selfish. Get in the “we” mindset and hold to it. Annnd maybe its me but I’m trying to follow the transition from a speech about racial equality, non violence and freedom transitions to dating.

JustMe, Slim

October 17th, 2011
9:25 am

PR – Well, if your mind is at least at a 85-89% level of sanity, i’d say that falls in line with the Almost Sane part of society. Because I don’t know anyone who is 100% all there…lawd knows I’m not. ;-)

CmonSeriously

October 17th, 2011
9:27 am

Co sign slim

Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

October 17th, 2011
9:28 am

I think everybody but you and me are crazy…and confidentially, I have my doubts about you.

CmonSeriously

October 17th, 2011
9:28 am

I like to say “I’m the normal one, everyone else is insane”

Purple Reign

October 17th, 2011
9:28 am

Insane in the membrane……insane in the brain!

Purple Reign

October 17th, 2011
9:30 am

I’m schizophrenic….and I am too!

Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

October 17th, 2011
9:31 am

We are also PR, both me and myself, but I keeps straying…not sure about him. Kind of like Norman Bates, he’s off his rocker.

Purple Reign

October 17th, 2011
9:35 am

The voices in my head are calling me….I will be right back

Leggs

October 17th, 2011
9:35 am

God morning!

“Do you think that your success would be nothing without someone to love and share it with you?” – It wouldn’t be “nothing,” but it sho would be enhanced if I were able to share it with someone.

Single and Happy!!!

October 17th, 2011
9:35 am

We’ll said lady~ Being an older and wiser single male, dreams are great when you don’t forget about reality. I’ve found that most people that have dreams, always have dreams! Thats great, but don’t forget when you have a significant other, and families. They need your support, just like you need theirs!! If you can’t balance the dream with reality, maybe it’s best that you are by yourself!! My success would be great if I had someone to share it with, but that doesn’t make it any less meaningful to me.

Single and Happy!!!

October 17th, 2011
9:41 am

Correction: It would be great to have someone to share my success with, but that doesn’t make it any less meaningful to me!!

Life is too short to regret what we don’t have and not enjoying what we have!!

Single and Happy!!!

October 17th, 2011
9:43 am

@Randyt (aka…Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts): Give me those sky miles and Marriott/Hilton/Radison points, I have no problem traveling alone (rotflmao)

CmonSeriously

October 17th, 2011
9:45 am

To piggyback and elaborate more on the mindset I believe Randy has, it is far harder to deal with being successful and recently single, most people don’t want success to just be successful, they want it to do something else, raise a family, provide, etc, etc. An empty home is just that unless you have someone to share it with. I was planning a family and doing what I could, before things got totally jacked up. Now I have all this stuff, and still feel like I am mearly renting my own place, the motivation to excel got stalled for me. I wonder if anyone else is like that.

Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

October 17th, 2011
9:51 am

@ Single and Happy…I’m not despondent and travel by myself quite a bit. The times it bothers me are when I’m in a place like Paris, or Rome, or Barcelona, where sharing with someone romantically would enhance the event greatly. That said, there is something to be said, I suspect, for just ‘ahem’ buying entertainment and/or companionship. Certainly easily available but I’m not exactly sure how to discern between high class and street product.. LOL

JustMe, Slim

October 17th, 2011
9:53 am

I’m not exactly sure how to discern between high class and street product The first :lol: of the day….I don’t blame you Randy because it’s amazing how they’ve enhanced the packaging these days to make it hard to spot the fakes…bootlegging at its best lol

Leggs

October 17th, 2011
10:02 am

@Randyt ~ sorry things weren’t able to work themselves out.

Lady~

October 17th, 2011
10:04 am

purple randy summed it i think —– “single again” no excuse but many are single again……..a thought

Leggs

October 17th, 2011
10:05 am

Ok, I’m going to squat at International Gate T and wait for someone carrying a suitcase with a boatload of tee-shirts.

Lady~

October 17th, 2011
10:05 am

so the self centered attitude comes in………..I need to find a balance though bc my “all about me” attitude is showing to much i think

Lady~

October 17th, 2011
10:06 am

but purple your point is accurate as normal…..

Lady~

October 17th, 2011
10:07 am

I think its a tguard not to be hurt again but I have to take that risk one day I guess….ok digressing

Lady~

October 17th, 2011
10:07 am

Single and Happy!!!

October 17th, 2011
10:11 am

@Randyt (aka…Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)

High class = you paid a high price, treat her like a gf and you’re bored to death!!

Street product = you pay a low price and she rocks your world (LOL)

not like I’m speaking from experience (rotflmao)

But like a said, when I travel “alone” I don’t walk around regretting what I don’t have, but do things that I like to do and enjoy myself!! and I’m not saying it works for everyone, I just know it works for me!! I’ve taking 4 vacations to exotic beaches this year, and only one with my gf (because of travel restrictions) and I’ve enjoyed all of them.

I just find it odd that people will travel alone for business and think nothing about it, But will not travel for pleasure because there is no one to share it with. When I go to my favorite place in the world, (Waikiki) always ocean view on the beach, and walk down the beach with someone special during sunrise it’s great, but does that mean when I go alone I shouldn’t take the same walk that I enjoy so much??

Leggs

October 17th, 2011
10:15 am

@Single and happy ~ guess you are one of those who believe they’re single until married, although you have a girlfriend. I’m with you on that!

Lady~

October 17th, 2011
10:23 am

thanks Single and Happy!!!~~~~ you have great points too!!!!

Single and Happy!!!

October 17th, 2011
10:26 am

@Leggs: yes haven’t seen the check box for “in a relationship” (LOL) Being older, and having been in many relationships, I realized at times that my life stopped because my significant other, couldn’t/wouldn’t take time off, “can’t be away from my job/during the school year, or what ever the reason was at the time. I don’t have a problem planning around someone elses schedule, but I do have a problem with there always being someone reason that we can’t!! I decided not anymore, I’m single until we say I DO!!

Kym

October 17th, 2011
10:28 am

Okay off topic..I have an audible credit and I want to try..try to listen to something that doesn’t involve serial killers and murder and international spies. I will take suggestions.

Lady~

October 17th, 2011
10:35 am

@CmonSeriously I feel you seriously!

Lady~

October 17th, 2011
10:37 am

Single and Happy!! your 10:28 I like!

Purple Reign

October 17th, 2011
10:42 am

Okay I am back…and I am back too

JustMe, Slim

October 17th, 2011
10:42 am

O/T: So we’ve discussed before how women overlook the ‘nice guys’ for the bad boys…Do you all think that men do the same with overlooking the ‘nice chicks’ to deal with more challenging Bytches??? (i.e…bridezilla type chicks)

Lady~

October 17th, 2011
10:44 am

Leggs

October 17th, 2011
10:46 am

@Single ~ that’s how it should be looked at. Single until married. Now acting like you’re not in a relationship is another story, but technically, I’m with you.

Purple Reign

October 17th, 2011
10:50 am

Slim, I don’t think so. I think it is more risky for a woman not to get exactly what the are looking for. Where as a man can take a woman and mold her, train her or just beat her into what he wants her to be.

I’m on a horse…………and I am on a horse too.

Lady~

October 17th, 2011
10:51 am

screaming laughing @ you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LMBAO!!!! too funny!!!