Can you tell when she likes you?
I have a friend that is completely oblivious when a woman is flirting with him. He is super smart in his work life but when it comes to things like body language, wooing techniques, etc, he just doesn’t recognize the signs that women send his way.
I have literally had to point it out to him and let him know that “friends” don’t really cook for friends three times a week. Women also don’t volunteer to pet sit or do random domestic duties for guys unless they are investing in them. Basically, if a woman is consistently putting time, effort, and money in a man, she wants a relationship with him.
I understand the concept of mixed signals and coded behavior but women who are truly interested won’t hide behind those tactics, do they? Guys can you tell when a woman really likes you?
Ladies, how do you show men you are interested in them as a potential partner (as opposed to a buddy, friend, pal, sponsor etc..) or mate?
Do you ever have a hard time figuring out if someone likes you as more than a friend?
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CmonSeriously
October 13th, 2011
7:40 am
Simple answer, NO, I can not tell.
Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)
October 13th, 2011
7:46 am
My answer to this quandary might sound a little too much like Exiled/MEEEELLLOOOWWW, so I think i willstay on the sidelines.
I do know that a lot of women miss the signs especially when the male is significantly younger. If a MILF gets hit on by a younger man that is closer in age to her children, she often has no clue.
Speaking of that, hey LEGGS, whatever happened to the boy toy?
Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)
October 13th, 2011
8:02 am
The problem with this “dilemma” is that if the lady isn’t really interested, then the guy (read Randyt) makes a complete azz of himself and screws up the friendship. Have several of those t-shirts.
Men just aren’t that smart. They look for logic where logic doesn’t exist. That’s why women have the upper hand, because they understand men much better than men understand them (okay except ofr what they used to term on the blog, the “chicken heads”…we get them).
CmonSeriously
October 13th, 2011
8:11 am
That is where liquid courage comes into play, if it is a friend, you can blame it on the booze if you get turned down as long as you do it in a somewhat respectful manner.
CmonSeriously
October 13th, 2011
8:13 am
As for the men aren’t that smart, very true, all you need to know about a man to understand how he thinks is A + B = C
JustMe, Slim
October 13th, 2011
8:24 am
Good morning,
For the most part, I can tell when a guy is interested. As far as interested on whatever level, that takes a little longer to figure out because sometimes dudes will use the, trying to be friends deal to get in on the sneak tip…get your guard down and before you know it you’re wondering to yourself, like dang, I think i may like this cat.
mark
October 13th, 2011
8:41 am
short of her writing HEY do you LIKE me on asheet of paper. no i cant tell:(
Tired Out
October 13th, 2011
8:47 am
I have to agree, women have become masters of mixed signalling. You think they’re giving you the signals to move, and when you move they get upset, but then when they don’t give signals at all (at least that I can detect) they wonder why you don’t do anything. Just be forward with us and we’ll be forward with you. The games were fun in high school, but last I checked most of us are adults now, it’s time for different games…if you know what I mean.
LeeH1
October 13th, 2011
8:48 am
Women hide behind different coded messages that other people (like men) don’t get. Surprise! Men are not mind readers!
And if women can’t be up front and honest with her man, then she is not really all that interested in him.
Deer leave signs that deer hunters follow. However, deer often try to hide their trail. Women who leave signs instead of honest communication often end up in the same situation- they have left signs behind to be followed, then muddied their trail to confuse the hunter.
CoolShadow
October 13th, 2011
8:55 am
Sometimes you can tell when a woman is interested and sometimes not. It seems as if all women think their hints of interest are clear and universal, but they’re not. Some do more projecting than actual exhibiting hints (i.e., expect men to be mind readers) and some men will pick up on them, some will miss the hints. For the men that miss the hints, women will then assume he’s not interested (and maybe they’re right) and move on.
I’ve been in scenarios when I thought I was vibing with someone and reading their signals clearly and when I tried to progress things, I got pushback. I think in those cases I was a test subject to determine if they still had it to draw men to them. Conversely, there’s been situations when I’ve been around women who I thought acted cool towards me or as if I wasn’t there, and got notice later that they were interested. Really?
Lucinda
October 13th, 2011
9:06 am
So men, what SHOULD a woman do to let you know she is interested?? What’s an unmistakable sign, short of anything physical?
CmonSeriously
October 13th, 2011
9:08 am
Say “hey you seem pretty fillintheblank I like you, can we go somewhere and fillintheblank”
Lucinda
October 13th, 2011
9:10 am
@Cmon
Perfect!
I had a guy once tell me that he wasn’t sure I liked him until one day I said “I think you’re interesting. I like you.” Guess THAT made it clear
CmonSeriously
October 13th, 2011
9:11 am
Any woman that thinks every guy understands the “come hither” look, is wrong!!! We can’t tell the difference most of the time, we look at you giving us a look and say to ourselves “hey she is looking at me”
Southern Boy Who Needs Advice
October 13th, 2011
9:12 am
LADIES, PLEASE HELP!
There is female coworker who I have given automotive maintenance advice to i the past and who occasionally tells me I am a “nice guy.”
Yesterday, as I was walking by her desk she got up and showed off an automotive gift card book that she had just purchased for herself at a very deep discount from a vendor who came by our office.
While standing & looking at the book she handed me, she stood up to point out some of the deals in the booklet.
During the time she was standing (very closely) next to me to point out the deals, her breasts were touching (even not-so-gently pressing against) my right arm. This suddenly made it very hard (no pun intended) for me to concentrate on the booklet, as both my heart & mind started racing with thoughts over what this meant, whether this was revealing body language or completely innocent on her part.
She is rather intellectual, ladylike, of Hispanic descent and not outwardly erotic/sexual by any means. Wearing glasses only until a summertime switch to contacts, she is quite beautiful but never gives any indication that she realizes it.
Ladies, do you think this was completely innocent on her part, something that ladies of her ethnicity and culture might not even give a second thought about doing or that she was subconsciously (maybe consciously) trying to show that she liked me and felt safe next to me?
As my grandmother tried to raise me to be a Southern Gentleman, and I do NOT need to get a call from Human Resources for making a wrong interpretation and possibly offending a female coworker, I don’t know how to react (especially IN CASE something similar happens again).
Thanks.
CmonSeriously
October 13th, 2011
9:12 am
Bravo Lucinda, most girls won’t do that.
CmonSeriously
October 13th, 2011
9:16 am
Not at work dude, no exceptions, if it ends, it will ruin both of your jobs.
Mike
October 13th, 2011
9:19 am
Mixed signals are the name of the game. My opinion is that most women, especially in a bar scene, get off on the attention more than they’re actually looking for a companion at any given time. What I mean is, a women would rather get hit on by 10 guys and take one home at the end of the night as opposed to speaking to one or two guys and choosing one of them.
The mixed signals allow her to draw out potential suitors to judge while keeping enough uncertainty that she can move on to the next beau. Women are greedy in “love,” as are men.
Married Guy
October 13th, 2011
9:20 am
Hi Lucinda, and other ladies asking the same question. Most guys don’t pick up on hints you think are obvious. If a guy’s good at reading your signals, he’s had a lot of practice hooking up, and you’re next. If you’re interested in us, try being INTERESTING. Linger and talk to us, ask us a question or two that shows you want a conversation. Worse case, ask us out. I met a girl at work who asked me to help her with something and bought me a cup of coffee as a Thank You. We’ve been married for 25 years.
michael
October 13th, 2011
9:23 am
If the two has never met then eye contact or body language is the first sign.After the initial contact,conversing is the next sign.Finally, just be honest with each other.If you are interest in that person let that person know don’t hint.
Lucinda
October 13th, 2011
9:24 am
@Southern Boy
Cmon is right. Don’t date co-workers, unless you’re ready to be fired.
If she’s pressing her breasts on you, she likes you. No woman does that accidentally, and if there were an accidental brush, she would pull right away. We know where our breasts are! It has nothing to do with ethnicity or culture, but it’s cool that you’re considering that as a factor, since ethnicity and culture are different among various people.
But like Cmon said, don’t date coworkers. Recipe for disaster.
Optimus Prime
October 13th, 2011
9:24 am
I had a pretty good idea that she liked me when she grabbed my hand after dinner and we were walking to the car. Then when we had wine and conversation, she leaned in to hug me. Then she asked me to stay over, but not to expect “anything”, I could tell we were vibbing. The next morning, still no sex, but we engaged in everything else. I think she likes me a LOT. Then she asked me to come over again the next night and she unleashed a predetory attack on me that lasted well into the night. She DEFINATELY likes me. The next morning she told me that at first, she didn’t think it was going to “fit in there”. OK, now I DEFINATELY like HER!
disco
October 13th, 2011
9:25 am
good morning guys. I can’t comment much on how well men pick up on signals from females but I will say that I subscribe to the theory of “a closed mouth doesn’t get fed”. open your mouth and express yourself, ask for what you want, tell me what you need, let me know how I can help you. I cannot stand when grown men send in reinforcements to make their pitch for them. once I literally sat next to a guy for hours at a friend’s birthday celebration in a restaurant only to have her call me the following week to tell me that he had expressed interest in me and wanted to know if he could have my number. I’m like he sat next to me all night but sends a message through you – please – tell him I’m not interested and also explain to him why I’m not interested. one of my girlfriends is quick to defend them announcing that perhaps they are shy but I feel like shy is for kids. if you can’t man up and go for yours by the time you are old enough to date me then shame on you.
JustMe, Slim
October 13th, 2011
9:25 am
We are always talking about what sex does then the other sex. Basically, both sexes are capable and have histories of doing some of the same things…whether or not one is exposed as much as the other is pointless. Why is it so freaking hard to simply date these days. It’s quite frustrating and as-i-nine to say the least. Let’s just stop getting in our OWN ways and keep it dayum simple. Sheesh!!!!
Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)
October 13th, 2011
9:30 am
So Optimus Prime, then I take you follow the old adage, “when in doubt, whip it out”. LOL
Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)
October 13th, 2011
9:33 am
On the blog in the past, there have been many who supported and encouraged the idea of dating co-workers. I 100% cosign CMON…it is almost never a good idea to fish off the company pier. I have to admit though, several years ago someone on here had the gonads to start dating the HR Manager. More ballsy than I am, so I tip my hat.
Optimus Prime
October 13th, 2011
9:35 am
LOL@Randy. Her professional and conservative attire (she’s the VP at a high profile media station) did not bear any resemblance to her enthusiasm for “the dance”. We have now been dating for two months and she’s had two UTI’s since then from the frequency…lol. The woman is simply relentless…not that I’m complaining…lol
Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)
October 13th, 2011
9:37 am
Another reason that men have a hard time reading the signals is that they have a bad habit of staring at the breasts rather than the eyes and miss the “look”
I may have been guilty of this myself…maybe.
Guy 101
October 13th, 2011
9:37 am
I think most of the time that when a guy puts time into a girl, he is truly interested. I dont mean hooking up at the bar, I mean asking a girl out, making plans, etc… So with guys it is pretty easy to see when they have interest – they call, text, make plans. If a guy is not doing this, then the lady friend is just a hoop-up.
With women, it is much more difficult to tell (at least for me). I wish women would be more up-front. Ladies, honesty is the best policy. If you are digging us, let us know (we don’t get it); if you are not, that’s fine too – you cant get mad or upset over someones true feelings. Sometimes that’s just the way it goes…
Kym
October 13th, 2011
9:38 am
Good Morning Sunshines..
While I am pretty quick on the up take on alot of things. My friends can testify that I have not the least clue when a man is interested in me. Example, this summer I was having dinner with a friend and I got up to go get something from the counter. Guy at the next table ask my friend who was I waiting on… my boyfriend..she said no..then he asked her what was I upset about? Apparently according to her I looked like I was frowning..(I bet I was customer service at this BBQ place was horrible) When I return to the table, the fellow struck up a conversation with me about the local news and other current events. He then said good evening and walked out. We got up to leave and then stood outside talking and sure enough..the fellow rode up and said something else to me..about a business he was starting up..again I talked and he drove off. My friend had a hissy fit. She swears the man was throwing off hints. I felt like well why didn’t he just say so? If you like me just say so…
Kat
October 13th, 2011
9:46 am
@disco. Awww – give the guy a chance. Nothing wrong with being “shy.” He might think you are out of his league, which could mean he has low self-esteem or you have a very strong personality. Give him a chance; he could be the one for you!
Optimus Prime
October 13th, 2011
9:46 am
I agree. At the very least ACT interesting or interested. I always try to read signals, tone of voice, things she says. But if she’s just monotone and keeps a certain amount of space between us, I’m betting the house that she’s not interested (or interesting). But then I get “I didn’t want to come on too strong.” How about just acting like you have a pulse? The more engaging women tend to get engaged more frequently. It’s like tasting food. If the first bite doesn’t suit your tatse buds, it’s a pretty safe bet that you won’t be sampling any more of the dish.
Kat
October 13th, 2011
9:48 am
Randyt: Consider changing your screen name (t-shirts, etc). It’s too long and outdated. Shows your (presumed) age and is not humorous.
Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)
October 13th, 2011
9:50 am
If you like me just say so…
Exactly Kim…short,sweet and to the point. Sometimes things get lost in translation for some folk.
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
9:51 am
Good morning.
Oh boy, first thing I thought of the gazillion times the men would say they are clueless when a woman is liking/flirting. Perhaps moreso on the flirting part.
Celisea
October 13th, 2011
9:54 am
Morning lovelies,
Just go for it. I have to agree, not sure I get or understand men saying “they can’t tell”, even so, if YOU’RE INTERESTED….simply ask. It can only go one of two way….hit or miss.
markie mark
October 13th, 2011
9:58 am
I like the comments here today….most of them are sensible and respectful. Women, this is not 1965…if you like a man, ask them out in whatever way you are comfortable with, but let them know. “Would you like to go to a movie/concert/etc sometime?” is a fair example. Inviting someone new to dinner may be slightly too forward, because you are not meeting on neutral ground. But we really are NOT good at subtlety, and all to often dont get or dont trust the hints/gazes/etc. I will bet EVERY man on this blog at some time followed their instinct and what they thought was happening, and ended up feeling like a complete fool.
JustMe, Slim
October 13th, 2011
9:59 am
If you like me just say so
Aaaaaaaaamen!
disco
October 13th, 2011
10:04 am
@ kat – that argument has been made repeatedly by my circle of friends but I just don’t have it in me. I need a man who will step up and speak up for what he wants (whether it’s me or something out of life in general). we laughed, talked, shared appetizers but he couldn’t speak his piece. not the man for me.
Pinky
October 13th, 2011
10:05 am
Markie Mark
Co-sign on that 9;58 post…
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
10:06 am
Ladies, how do you show men you are interested in them as a potential partner (as opposed to a buddy, friend, pal, sponsor etc..) or mate? After conversing, one would be clear in knowing I’m not in the market for a buddy, a sponsor. I have no intention of being anyone’s jumpoff and I;m not interested in “cuffing.”
I pretty much know when someone is interested in me.
@Randyt ~ it is absolutely amazing how when you ask about “boy toy” he would have called me within the same week of you asking. Are you prompting him to call me at those times (J/K). He seems to be well and is making sure he stays in contact (LOL). Heck, perhaps he feels he may give me one of those calls and I’ll be at my weakest.
“I’ve been in scenarios when I thought I was vibing with someone and reading their signals clearly and when I tried to progress things, I got pushback.” – CShadow. I can identify. There this guys who says he’s interested in me but rarely ever calls (not referring to the guy who didn’t want to ruin my life guys). I mean what’s up with that?
Pinky
October 13th, 2011
10:08 am
Easiest Way to read women…Spend A lot of money on them and Cook Grilled Lobster Tail dinners for her and see where it leads you…Then you can really tell how naive men are about women when they still don’t get the affection for the Chick he has done this for numerous times…Women are sooooo shallow
Kym
October 13th, 2011
10:08 am
@disco I am with you. Why wait a week later to say something? He was chatting you up all night why not go ahead and ask you out?
Professor
October 13th, 2011
10:09 am
Hello all,
Don’t hold back. Go for what you’re interested in.
Cosign disco.
Talk to you soon!
Pinky
October 13th, 2011
10:10 am
I gotta Co-Sign on the poster who said earlier that women get off at the bar seen talking and flirting with dozens of dudes just for the attention…I been through that route in college…It usually leads to dudes fighting over her…I stay away from that Reality Drama…
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
10:10 am
I feel the same way, disco. Hunt me, I don’t want to hunt you!
Exiled!
October 13th, 2011
10:10 am
Cracking up Big Time!
I will Lurk and read along!
good morning.
Pinky
October 13th, 2011
10:10 am
“And I Ain’t Playin ____!!!!”
Exiled!
October 13th, 2011
10:11 am
Hey Proff!
Professor
October 13th, 2011
10:12 am
What it do Exiled
Pinky
October 13th, 2011
10:16 am
Gotta step out Brb
CmonSeriously
October 13th, 2011
10:28 am
Wish guys had as many weapons for seduction as women have.
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
10:29 am
@Cmon ~ your best and sexiest weapon is your brain.
CmonSeriously
October 13th, 2011
10:32 am
Gotta say, I love a woman’s curves!!!
Southern Boy Who Needs Advice
October 13th, 2011
10:34 am
SIGH….
After that incident with close standing & breasts on my arm, I drove home from work yesterday afternoon all giddy and blushing like I was 13.
Into the Light
October 13th, 2011
10:38 am
Morning, all!
“If you like me, let me know”….seems simple and straightforward. Wonder why more folks don’t do this???
kimmie
October 13th, 2011
10:38 am
Good morning!
Everyone just needs to grow up.
One thing I noticed when I was dating is that even the shyest man will go for if he’s really interested. As for women & men that send mixed signals, who has time for that? Why would you be interested in someone playing games right out of the gate?
I guess I was never into the cutsy-coy way of acting. Either I liked a dude or didn’t. If I didn’t it was quite clear. You can’t mistake my kind demeanor that I show everyone for flirting, unless you’re trying to project what you’re feeling onto me. Never worked.
Shy men have never been cute to me either. That’s a little too childlike and I’m into men, not boys.
Southern Boy Who Needs Advice
October 13th, 2011
10:39 am
I think I am starting to understand women LESS with each passing year of life instead of more.
If only we all had a REQUIRED Facebook status field labeled “The Full Name of the Person I Like & Who Wish Would Pursue Me Is:” that the whole world could see and that we all HAD TO update whenever our affections targeted someone, there would be so much less relationship anxiety in the world…
Celisea
October 13th, 2011
10:40 am
Tough one Southern Boy…not sure I’d touch that one. If it doesn’t work out, work will become awkard.
Dekalb County Guy
October 13th, 2011
10:40 am
Being blunt will get the job done… But its a risk a lot of people aint secure enough to take. There have been times that I’ve been SHUT DOWN being blunt (Lol) but I have also had several “I didn’t know you liked me like that” moments that remind me that serve as a constant reminder that “you have not, because you ask not”. There’s no time for all that beating around the bush when you’re dealing with someone you may never see again. If you like them OPEN YOUR MOUTH!
@Kym Yeah, he was interested. Most people I know down here aren’t friendly like that to hold a conversation with a random stranger at a restuarant and not want anything. That whole “if you like me just say so” thing is hard for a lot of people. You might of intimidated him with the frown. Lol. But seriously, if he was gonna go through the trouble of driving back around to talk to you two again, he should have just asked for your telephone number or something.
abc
October 13th, 2011
10:43 am
Of course I can tell if a chick is interested. Body language is pretty obvious: hair toss, coy gaze, unbalanced stance, hand gestures, there’s lots of stuff like that. I can’t say I’ve ever experienced a chick hiding her interest in me from me, but then, maybe they were effective enough in so doing that I really didn’t notice. Their loss, no biggie.
abc
October 13th, 2011
10:45 am
Southern boy, if you’re dealing with chicks primarily through Facebook, I’d say that’s your problem in understanding chicks right there. Cancel that stupid crap. Talk to them in real life only.
Kym
October 13th, 2011
10:46 am
@DC Guy..well I wasn’t frowning for the 10 mins we sat there talking about oil prices and China..but my friend said I was suppose to offer my number that maybe that was what he was waiting for.
kimmie
October 13th, 2011
10:46 am
Kym – Yeah, why was it up to you to “get it”? Dude should have gone for you if he was interested.
Southern Boy – Back away slowly from that. Like others said, you don’t need a visit to HR. Rubbing up on someone at work – unprofessional as all get out. She knew exactly what she was doing.
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
10:47 am
@abce ~ Southern Boy was being facetious.
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
10:47 am
sorry, @abc.
Southern Boy Who Needs Advice
October 13th, 2011
10:48 am
Sorry, Facebook was just an analogy.
I don’t use FB or even have account.
However, I would definitely consider one if that Required information had to be posted.
Southern Boy Who Needs Advice
October 13th, 2011
10:55 am
Just to clarify, she was only standing very close and pressing, not rubbing in any sort of way. (No friction).
That alone had me suddenly standing at attention, but I digress…
Her breasts appear rather small, so it isn’t like she intentionally/unintentionally had them “all over me,” may but I confess I really liked how they felt against my forearm in that intense, yet confusing (to me), moment.
ahsoisee
October 13th, 2011
10:55 am
I was curious as to how the younger people relate, so I decided to read this article for curiosity. I have grandchildren probably your ages and wondered how they thought, so I read the article and variious remarks.
Why make something so simple to be so mystic? If you are a male, ask the girl for a date. If she accepts, she is interested. If she determines by the date that she is not interested anymore, she will not accept additional requests from you for a date. However, many girls will even ask you to be their partner at a prom or some big event, just to have a date. Do not use these kinds of dates as a sure sign that she is interested, sometimes they just want to attend the event.
If you call the lady back for another date and she puts you off, ask her if you should call for a date at another time? If she says yes, there may be other reasons she does not want to date during the particular time you asked (time of the month, some kind of problem, other conflicts, etal). If she refuses after a couple of times, then move on.
A woman is different in her dating scheme. She does more fishing than men. She is more curious about the qualities of a man than the man is of the woman. She may lbe ooking at various men as possible candidates for her lifemate and likes to evaluate each one. There is nothing wrong with this, but it is not a bad thing for the lady to tell the man when he calls again, “I appreciate the date, had a good time, but I don’t think we are a good match”. If cornered by the man for a reason, you do not owe him any explanation other than to say you will not date him again.
If a lady is interested in a man, there is nothing wrong for her to invite him to take her to dinner, a show, event, etal. If the man appeals to you, but does not ask for a repeat date, there is nothing wrong with asking him one more time for another date because he might have gotten some vibes that you did not like him on the first date. After the second date, leave it up to him to make further contacts. He may be spoiled and did not call back for additional dates because he did not get what he wanted. If that is all he wanted, then it could present future problems. If he really likes you, he will call back even though he did not get what he wanted.
It is not all that mystic!!!
The Old Man
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
10:56 am
Southern Boy, how old are you?
Dekalb County Guy
October 13th, 2011
10:56 am
@Kym Lol. I was joking bout the frown thing. Im with Kimmie on this one tho – When you really want something, you go for it. If you’re afraid to be blunt… you buy business cards to leave with people as you walk away. Lol
Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)
October 13th, 2011
10:57 am
@ Leggs…now you and I both know you are in a position to provide said boy toy with an invaluable education
LOL
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 13th, 2011
10:57 am
I haven’t met any women who didn’t let you know upfront if she was into you or not. There’s nothing embarrasing about a lady turning you down, we as men need to get over the hump. If your self esteem won’t allow you to approach her leave it alone. As for subtle signs it could be a sharade or it can be for real, it’s up to us as men to carry the load. Communicate ask for what you want. They’ll let you know in hurry.
Good Ole Morning:
Celisea
October 13th, 2011
10:58 am
Applaud Applaud Blackfoote. Please know I’m thinking the same thing. What’s up with all the whining…EVERYDAY now on all topics of what women are not doing or not getting done??????
Dekalb County Guy
October 13th, 2011
10:59 am
@ahsoisee Well said. 300% right.
Celisea
October 13th, 2011
11:00 am
No matter how much evolving we’re doing as a people, nation, sex (gender), men are still suppose to be men. The hunter, the pursuer…. (shrugs). If a woman does it great, if a man does it EVEN BETTER.
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
11:00 am
@Randyt ~ I know, I know. He’s hungry for a sample that I do know.
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
11:01 am
That’s my point too, Celisea! This isn’t rocket science. Sheesh!!!
Matt
October 13th, 2011
11:08 am
No I can’t tell, because every woman I meet sends mixed signals and has an unquenchable thirst for game-playing. And then there are the ones who just frown all the time. Not interested in those.
It’d be nice to meet an intelligent, compassionate, mature woman for once. I’m tired of the games.
I Like Mark!
October 13th, 2011
11:08 am
I Like you Mark
Into the Light
October 13th, 2011
11:09 am
@ Leggs…now you and I both know you are in a position to provide said boy toy with an invaluable education LOL
Hmmmmm…..”you and I both know”…..is there a story here???? LOL
Sorry, Leggs and Randyt, I couldn’t resist.
Audra
October 13th, 2011
11:09 am
Southern Boy – I disagree with the posters on here who say not to date at work. Two different couples in my office did so and now are happily married. I’ve seen it more than once. Just keep the work relationship professional, keep the PDA and whatnot out of the workplace.
As for what to do, ASK HER OUT!!! Dang, you’re never gonna know if you don’t try!
Good Luck Southern Boy!
As for Pinky – so you spend a lot of money on a chick and cook her lobster tails and she doesn’t like you so that means she’s shallow? Hmmm…seems like if she were shallow the big display of money would do the trick! Were you actually trying to get to KNOW this woman? B/c thinking that all women are only interested in the money you spend on them is, well, shallow…
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
11:12 am
@ITL ~ no story, just an inside running commentary.
Robert
October 13th, 2011
11:14 am
“Can you tell when she likes you?”
Young men between the ages of (25-35) beware of older women (40-60) who call themselfs “cougars” because you are bait. Most “cougars” are “flirty” and will send you all kinds of signals. For example they will initiate eye contact and lure you in their lustful trap. Just like a black widow spider, they are only interested in you for sex and hopefully they will not kill you and eat you.
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
11:15 am
Cold cut artist is Monica (404) 741-1075…tickets to see Ledise at Civic Ctr.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 13th, 2011
11:15 am
Celsiea:
I do understand where the guys are coming from, I’ve been shot down so many times it aint funny. It does affect a man’s ego only through strenght will we overcome the effect. I saw a lady who knew I was about to approach her, she got up and walk the other direction……LOL Hey that’s what you have to go through it shook my esteem briefly, the only thing to do is keep trying.
Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)
October 13th, 2011
11:17 am
@ robert …and that’s a bad thing?
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
11:17 am
Great example, Robert. That’s why I don’t consider myself a cougar! That was funny.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 13th, 2011
11:20 am
Oh well my lack of spelling shows up again, sorry goes out to the grammar stewards.
Albert
October 13th, 2011
11:22 am
No. I tend to jump to conclusions because I want a girl to really fall for me, and I usually end up really falling for her when she wants only to be my friend. I have only been able to tell the difference once, when my first serious girlfriend and I started to date. She practically spelled it out for me, but not because I was too obtuse not to notice. That’s just the way she was. and she’s the one who broke it off with me three years later.
Celisea
October 13th, 2011
11:22 am
Blackfoote – I hear them too. However, when did it turn to men not doing anything or making move unless there’s a marquee or chest banner before they can pursue? But really it’s not that deep for me. Nothing ventured nothing gained…lol
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 13th, 2011
11:25 am
“Strength” I know I can spell it and I didn’t have to write it a hundred times.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 13th, 2011
11:35 am
In my experience women aren’t going to tolerate men juking and jiving when it comes to potentionally gaining a mate. I suck it up dust myself off and get back on the Bronco. Mostly all women are beautiful anywhere around the world, that’s not an excuse not to ask one for what you want or like. Take a deep breath and go.
Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)
October 13th, 2011
11:37 am
@ Leggs and Robert (and ITL for laughs)…I was reading an article that nature photographers had discovered in the jungles of India, that sprinkling a little Calvin Klein’s Obsession for Men on a rock, would attract female tigers from miles away. I was wondering what effect it might have on cougars at Johnny’s Hideaway, LOL
kimmie
October 13th, 2011
11:43 am
I have very little patience with the guys moaning & whining about this topic. For the simple reason that however the phone numbers are exchanged, be it the guy asking or the lady offering, men are notorious for not calling or following thru. It was my experience more often than not when dating and just had a convo with a friend that is going thru it now. Meet a guy, he seems interested, you show your interest and exchange numbers and he gets ghost.
You guys complain about not wanting rejection, yet it’s a fact of life in dating. That’s the other side of the coin – we women get rejected too, often on the backend. We learn to deal with it. I got to where when I was in a club or bar I would not even take the guys I met there serious because more often than not, if I gave them my number I was just one among many they got numbers from that night.
So this dating thing ain’t easy for either party. You won’t make a love connection until you both stop with the silly games.
There, I said my piece!
CmonSeriously
October 13th, 2011
11:47 am
@Kimmie
I have gotten womens number and didn’t call lots of times, for one reason or another, the top being that they got caught lying to me or they tried to do things that were juvenile. If I get a number I want to set up a date with a mature woman, not a girl.
kimmie
October 13th, 2011
11:48 am
Cmon – Whatever. You all have an excuse. It happens too often than not.
CmonSeriously
October 13th, 2011
11:49 am
Maybe it’s not them it’s you?
SexyCool
October 13th, 2011
11:51 am
Southern Boy – ask her if she would like to go to lunch. At lunch, ask her about what she does after work, say that you would like to take her to dinner sometime. Leave it at that. If she interested, she will indicate such.
Unless…you are looking for a hit and run, that is.
Into the Light
October 13th, 2011
11:51 am
juking and jiving
I had to LOL when I saw this; I haven’t heard that phrase in years!
LOL@Randyt. I think you should contact CK and ask for a grant to fund your research.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 13th, 2011
11:55 am
LOL……@Kimmie and ITL
Kimmie great piece.
ITL I went way back to bring that one out.
kimmie
October 13th, 2011
11:56 am
Cmon – Could have been, but like I said, it’s a fact of life in dating with everyone. You can’t take it personal because like I said, dudes probably get a lot of numbers, but for whatever reason don’t call. Just like women turn down guys for whatever reason, so guys shouldn’t take it so personal and whine like they do.
The cream always rises to the top. Real men get their women.
And this real woman, me, got her husband!
Pinky
October 13th, 2011
12:03 pm
@Audra
“As for Pinky – so you spend a lot of money on a chick and cook her lobster tails and she doesn’t like you so that means she’s shallow? Hmmm…seems like if she were shallow the big display of money would do the trick! Were you actually trying to get to KNOW this woman? B/c thinking that all women are only interested in the money you spend on them is, well, shallow…”
You damn Skippy I wanted to get to know the woman and all she does is come up with excuses as to why she doesnt have the time to spend with me…Fact of the matter is if you like someone you will make the time to spend with them and put some effort into it…instead of canceling plans all the time…
Into the Light
October 13th, 2011
12:05 pm
LOL@BF. In the country, we also use the variation “shucking and jiving”.
abc
October 13th, 2011
12:05 pm
Not everyone will dig you, just like not everyone appeals to you. If you’re not accustomed to that, well… get used to it.
SexyCool
October 13th, 2011
12:06 pm
Pinky – o’girl is punkin’ you big time. A person would not have an opportunity to cancel plans “all the time” with me.
Kym
October 13th, 2011
12:07 pm
Venting thought: Okay I have to wonder do homosexuals have these dating problems? I mean in same sex relationships..do you think they are more adapt at just going for it and not being shy if they like someone?
Celisea
October 13th, 2011
12:08 pm
In the country, we also use the variation “shucking and jiving”.
In the city too
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
12:16 pm
@Randyt ~ Calvin Klein’s “Obsession” may have me dropping the panties a lot quicker (LOL). I’m somewhat kidding. That’s some powerful stuff right there.
@kimmie ~ you must have read my mind @11:43. Excellent post.
@Kym ~ I think homosexuals have the exact same problems we heterosexuals go through. Same Gender still yields same dating quandries….
@abc ~ I hear what you are saying, but the question is geared toward does that in fact show that they are interested in you, that you are appealing to them.
The way you state it, it’s as though people are sitting back wondering “why isn’t this dude coming up to talk to me, do I stink?”
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 13th, 2011
12:16 pm
Kym:
They do it too, I have worked with some over the years. It is down right funny when they are upset with their partner or their lover has another lover. Funniest thing I know is when they go into a tirade about their lover or partner. They’re not shy at all, and could care less who hears them……..LOL
disco
October 13th, 2011
12:21 pm
calvin klein obsession always makes me think of doug e. fresh. “wearing calvin klein obsession cologne. etc. etc. in a cashmere sweater”…
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 13th, 2011
12:21 pm
Leggs “somewhat kidding”. Blushing at you. I would put up a blush sign, if I knew how you need one for that.
Kym
October 13th, 2011
12:24 pm
@Leggs and Blackfoote..yeah I would guess so…I just keep thinking all this could be avoid if folks would just say what they want up front.
Into the Light
October 13th, 2011
12:27 pm
sn: A co-worker just walked by my office singing (if you could call it singing) “Purple Rain”. Made me think of your serenade yesterday, Celisea.
Celisea
October 13th, 2011
12:30 pm
ITL – It took me the night sleeping that song off…lol Now I’m back to singing it again…thanks a bunch
No I’m kidding. I’m actually listening via ear plugs so I’m gooooood
Into the Light
October 13th, 2011
12:31 pm
Too funny! Wish you could have heard this guy…it would’ve turned you off that song for good. LOL
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
12:31 pm
@BF ~ can you breakdown your statement a little further for me. I don’t really know what you’re saying my little kumquat???
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
12:33 pm
Ummmm, my tall kumquat….
Celisea
October 13th, 2011
12:33 pm
Noddin’ my head like yea
Movin my hips like yea
I got my hands up,
They’re playin my song
I know im gonna be ok
Yea, It’s a party in the USA
Yea, It’s a party in the USA
Get to the club in my taxi cab
Everybody’s lookin at me now
Like “whos that chick, thats rockin’ kicks?
She gotta be from out of town”
So hard with my girls all around me
Its definitely not a Nashville party
Cause’ all I see are stilletos
I guess I never got the memo
My tummys turnin and I’m feelin kinda home sick
Too much pressure and I’m nervous
That’s when the D.J. dropped my favorite tune
and a Britney song was on
and the Britney song was on
and the Britney song was on
This is what I’m listening to now. Tinyboobperish I know but hey I’m not the DJ…LOL
Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)
October 13th, 2011
12:34 pm
Link to an article about CK Obsession attracting “big cats”. No mention of cougars but “non-cougar” Legs has somewhat confirmed that it may have the same effect on “non” but “almost” cougars LOL. In the interest of science, I may have to investigate this more closely.
http://www.towleroad.com/2010/06/tigers-jaguars-cheetahs-prefer-calvin-klein-obsession-for-men.html
Celisea
October 13th, 2011
12:35 pm
ITL – It’s funny to me when I think of music and singing. Some folks “have it” and can hear it and some don’t. We’re born singers (and musicians) in my family but someone off pitch or out of tune makes intrigues me how some have the gift to hear and recognize it and some don’t.
Just wondering…….
JustMe, Slim
October 13th, 2011
12:36 pm
kumquat sounds like a dirty word
SexyCool
October 13th, 2011
12:38 pm
Slim – actually the combination of two wordy dirds….lol
Into the Light
October 13th, 2011
12:38 pm
Randyt: ummmmm, “A Site with Homosexual Tendencies”??????????
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 13th, 2011
12:42 pm
“may have me dropping the panties a lot quicker”
This statement, think I’ll have get me a bottle if it have that kind of effect. Life would be easier for both sexes……LOL
SexyCool
October 13th, 2011
12:42 pm
TheDude is a slow driver. 55 on the expressway. Yesterday, he comes home a bit late for an appointment that we had. He was apologizing. “It took longer than I thought it would had Home Depot. And I didn’t realize what time it was until I got on the expressway. I knew I needed to hurry. So, I sped up………..to 65.”
(LMAO!!!!! Seriously!!!!)
Kym
October 13th, 2011
12:45 pm
I think I am in a rap frame of mind today….Kanye West your up!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 13th, 2011
12:45 pm
I don’t know what a kumquat is, but it sounds nicer than the other names I’ve been called…….LOL
Into the Light
October 13th, 2011
12:46 pm
Awwww, SCool.
Sweet story (unless I’m the one behind The Dude, then I’m thinking unsavory things about his mental capacity). 
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
12:48 pm
@Randyt ~ you are cracking me up today.
@BF ~ can you only imagine how men would react if they knew Obsession was the key all along.
Kym
October 13th, 2011
12:48 pm
I thought kumquat was a fruit..like a kiwi..
Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)
October 13th, 2011
12:50 pm
link to video (and not a gay site)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=znbIkKXM2p8
Into the Light
October 13th, 2011
12:53 pm
Kumquats are small citrus fruits, about the size of grapes. Very thin peel that is completely edible.
SexyCool
October 13th, 2011
12:56 pm
ITL – when we first started dating, it used to drive me crazy. Now, I actually drive as slow as he does most of the time.
CmonSeriously
October 13th, 2011
1:05 pm
When I was married, I would drive like a bat outta hell, less time in the car was better.
JustMe, Slim
October 13th, 2011
1:15 pm
I’d like to throw some frozen kumquats at my co-workers head…
Exiled!
October 13th, 2011
1:16 pm
@ComeonS?
Were u cheated on?
u seem to have some anger issues,re yesterday!
Purple Reign
October 13th, 2011
1:17 pm
Yes I can tell when she likes me or does not like me. How can one get confused? If in doubt then ask. Men are supposed to be hunters by nature and every good hunter knows to take their best shot…but sometimes you miss. If I like a woman I would probably let her know before she had a chance to let me know.
Random
October 13th, 2011
1:21 pm
Call me crazy but for some reason I wouldn’t mind seeing Tu Pac’s adult shenanigans tape…
CmonSeriously
October 13th, 2011
1:22 pm
While ago I was cheated on, not by the wife though, she just irritated the hell out of me in the car
Celisea
October 13th, 2011
1:23 pm
“CRAZY” lol
CmonSeriously
October 13th, 2011
1:24 pm
She had a spending problem and she put me about 20k in the hole, money problems drove us apart.
Purple Reign
October 13th, 2011
1:27 pm
And you just noticed her spending problem after you two were married?
CmonSeriously
October 13th, 2011
1:32 pm
She came in with debt, and it just got worse, I was stupid enough to give her the benefit of the doubt
Kym
October 13th, 2011
1:32 pm
Best line so far today “She said can we get married at the mallllll? I said look you need to crawl fo you ball..!!!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 13th, 2011
1:33 pm
Hey Purple what’s up how’s that leg doing?
Purple Reign
October 13th, 2011
1:50 pm
Blackfoote everything is squared away and fine!
Exiled!
October 13th, 2011
1:53 pm
ComeOn?
How far ago was ur divorce?
Are u now done fu-cking away the anger of the divorce ,and are now looking for a serous relationship with a curvy woman?
Random
October 13th, 2011
1:54 pm
Where did errrybody go???
CmonSeriously
October 13th, 2011
1:55 pm
Got over it a while ago, outta debt now, would love to find a serious relationship, but I still think marriage is out. Gotta love those in shape curvy women
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
2:10 pm
I hope the cock-eyed person can tell if it’s the right person that’s liking them.
CmonSeriously
October 13th, 2011
2:17 pm
Prolly not
Kym
October 13th, 2011
2:18 pm
@Leggs..that’s it..that about put me over for today.____________Flatlined_____LMAO
CmonSeriously
October 13th, 2011
2:22 pm
Kinda lost?
Random
October 13th, 2011
2:22 pm
This day is dragging by like molasses…so I went for a brief walk to curve some of my restless energy. I practiced my old skool pimp walk for 15minutes…equipped with the George Jefferson swinging arm
kimmie
October 13th, 2011
2:23 pm
Random –
Into the Light
October 13th, 2011
2:24 pm
LOL@Random…. (ITL now humming The Jeffersons theme song….)
kimmie
October 13th, 2011
2:26 pm
The Jeffersons used to be one of my favorite shows!
Celisea
October 13th, 2011
2:26 pm
That and the Good Times. Of course Good Times could get depressing some days…lol
Celisea
October 13th, 2011
2:27 pm
What’s up with
Gaga oh la la, rapapa oh ah ah????
Celisea
October 13th, 2011
2:28 pm
Oh, make sure to roll the tongue while singing.
Shuddup MMEELLOO
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
2:30 pm
You lost, Cmon????
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
2:31 pm
@Kym, I rather see one flatline than me being escourted to the corner!
That doesn’t sound right, but I’m going to leave it…the intent is there.
Into the Light
October 13th, 2011
2:32 pm
@SC: I could take a lesson from you and The Dude. I know I have a lead foot.
Celisea, that song will make me change the station EVERY TIME, no exceptions. Ugh!
CmonSeriously
October 13th, 2011
2:32 pm
what flat lined kym?
SexyCool
October 13th, 2011
2:32 pm
Cel – I was just thinking that the other night – The Evans’ family STAYED struggling. Hell, even when it looked like they might come up because Thelma was marrying Keith, the football player, he tripped over JJ and broke his leg AT THE WEDDING.
Kym
October 13th, 2011
2:34 pm
@Cmon I was laughing at Leggs comment about cockeyed people..flatlined is like saying die laughing. or you could say..DEAD..
disco
October 13th, 2011
2:35 pm
the jeffersons still is one of my favorite shows (even though i couldn’t stand weezy). i watch it on tv one before leaving for work in the mornings.
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
2:35 pm
escorted….
Celisea
October 13th, 2011
2:36 pm
ITL – Gaga oh ah ah, rapapa oh my my…LOL
Me too, I’m just digging my music today, so I left it there.
Now the song playing is some dude saying he’s had a different girl every night and haven’t seen the sun in 3 damn days. Now she’s saing “she ain’t seen him” in 3 nights and put his picture away. Said she can’t see him while laying next to him. Now he’s saying she reminds him of brighter days. She’s saying she hope he’s coming home. Now they’re mutually singing saying they’ve thought about (each other) for a long time…can’t understandy why (either) are living life this way and call to say come back home….lol
Hey it’s slow here today.
Random
October 13th, 2011
2:38 pm
JJ always looked like his breath smelled bad…call me crazy
Celisea
October 13th, 2011
2:39 pm
SexyC – I still watch the reruns. If I’m at my mom’s my bother shakes his head in disgust. He swears I the sole person keeping syndication going. LOL I still laugh but more so cause just watching now versus back then is so not the same. Yeah, they never got their comeuppance until the last show. The spirit of Schleprock (sp) hung over that show.
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
2:39 pm
@Celisea ~ I love that song. It’s Pamela Anderson’s ex hubby. Dang, can’t think of names this week. Tommy?????
It’s sad. He’s hurting she’s hurting, but they can’t look at each other pictures (something like that). Haven’t heard the song in a long time, but loved it the first time I heard it.
Celisea
October 13th, 2011
2:39 pm
I’m
disco
October 13th, 2011
2:40 pm
I’m just returning from lunch. I was sitting in my car reading before coming in (I don’t get back on the clock until it’s time to be back on the clock) and noticed a lady whose car wouldn’t start. it’s a dreary, rainy day and having car trouble sucks even on a sunny day. I absolutely felt for her but i impulsively cranked my car up to make sure it started like it was supposed to. i guess that’s kind of bad on some level.
Celisea
October 13th, 2011
2:40 pm
Leggs – Really? Is that Pam calling him home? She sounded equally depressed…LOL
kimmie
October 13th, 2011
2:41 pm
SCool – It got too depressing after a while when it was apparent the Evans were never gonna “move up to the eastside”!!! Until the very end!
Celisea
October 13th, 2011
2:42 pm
disco – i impulsively cranked my car up to make sure it started like it was supposed to. i guess that’s kind of bad on some level.
That was funny. Is that the same as (when younger), picking up the phone to make sure it was still working when you was expecting a call…that was taking too long to come through? Aaaahhhh the days of youth.
Lord Velonese
October 13th, 2011
2:42 pm
I have never had a woman do those things that WD described to “Woo” me but that would be cool. But I’d say 50/50 of the time I do know if a woman likes me but, like for women it is the individual’s “Choice” to Reciprocate, if they are not interested don’t push your luck.
Celisea
October 13th, 2011
2:43 pm
Kimmie – The last episode. They could have at least play it up a couple weeks in advance. Nope, no silver lining, sunshine, brighter days until the last day.
Damn Damn Damn!!!
Random
October 13th, 2011
2:44 pm
I used to like Shirley on that show “What’s Happening” with Rerun, Rog and Dee
SexyCool
October 13th, 2011
2:44 pm
Yeah…that finale was a bit of a fairytale.
Celisea
October 13th, 2011
2:46 pm
Random – “Hay Hay Hay” We thought he was the shiznit back then…Dwayne
SexyCool
October 13th, 2011
2:46 pm
The crazy thing about it – some folks’ real lives are like that….with no happy ending written in. They just STAY struggling.
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
2:48 pm
@Celisea ~ had to look it up.
It’s Kid Rock (well he looks like a Tommy) and Sheryl Crow. Name of song is “I Put Your Picture Away.” Nice song!
Celisea
October 13th, 2011
2:49 pm
You’re right. If the sun won’t shine, move the dang clouds and have yaself a dose of sunshine….dernit!!
Celisea
October 13th, 2011
2:50 pm
Thanks Leggs
Into the Light
October 13th, 2011
2:50 pm
@Leggs: You’re still right. Kid Rock was married to Pamela Anderson for like 2 hours.
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
2:51 pm
Y W
Into the Light
October 13th, 2011
2:51 pm
(after she and Tommy Lee, of Motley Crue fame, divorced)
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
2:52 pm
Didn’t they remarry a 2nd time for a brief spell????
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
2:53 pm
Awwww, I knew there was a Tommy Lee in her life…that’s the one she married a 2nd time.
Into the Light
October 13th, 2011
2:53 pm
I think they got back together, but I don’t know if they remarried. The did make celebrity s@x tapes a whole new industry, though.
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
2:55 pm
♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪
(Kid Rock) Livin’ my life in a slow hell
Different girl every night at the hotel
I aint seen the sun shine in 3 damn days
Been fuelin’ up on cocaine and whisky
Wish I had a good girl to miss me
Lord I wonder if I’ll ever change my ways
I put your picture away
Sat down and cried the day
I can’t look at you while I’m lyin’ next to her
I put your picture away, sat down and cried today
I can’t look at you while I’m lyin’ next to her
(Sherly Crow)
I called you lastnight in the hotel
Everyone knows but they wont tell
But their half hearted smiles tell me
Somethin’ just ain’t right
I been waitin’ on you for a long time
Fuelin’ up on heartaches and cheap wine
I ain’t heard from you in 3 damn nights
I put your picture away
I wonder where you been
I can’t look at you while I’m lyin’ next to him
I put your picture away
I wonder where you been
I can’t look at you while I’m lyin’ next to him
I saw ya yesterday with an old friend
(Kid Rock)
It was the same ole same “how have you been”
(Both)
Since you been gone my worlds been dark & grey
♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪
Random
October 13th, 2011
2:55 pm
The crazy thing about it – some folks’ real lives are like that….with no happy ending written in. They just STAY struggling
Instead of that song, “Everyday i’m hustling” it would be “Everyday I’m strugglin’ strugglin’”
Anybody wanna play ‘Paper Rock Scissors’?
CmonSeriously
October 13th, 2011
2:57 pm
Rock flys through paper, I win
Into the Light
October 13th, 2011
2:58 pm
I like Kid Rock. For awhile, the “Devil Without a Cause” CD was always playing in my car. Bawitdaba da bang a dang diggy diggy diggy said the boogy said up jump the boogy….
Celisea
October 13th, 2011
3:00 pm
Paper covers rock. Rock crushes sissors. Sissors cuts paper.
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
3:00 pm
That’s not Kid Rock, ITL.
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
3:01 pm
Well, maybe it is. I instantly thought of The Sugar Hill Gang’s “Rapper’s Delight” (probably one of the longest original rap songs in history)!
Into the Light
October 13th, 2011
3:03 pm
Yeah, that’s a song called “Bawitdaba”….his breakout hit, I think.
Into the Light
October 13th, 2011
3:04 pm
Sugar Hill Gang: “Hotel, motel, Holiday Inn…..” used to love that song!
Into the Light
October 13th, 2011
3:09 pm
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Random
October 13th, 2011
3:11 pm
Cmon – Awwww Cmon, I wasn’t even ready yet, Cheater! I’on even like that game anyway. How about some Thumb War….1 2 3 4, I declare thumb war.
CmonSeriously
October 13th, 2011
3:12 pm
5 6 7 8 try to keep your thuumb straight
Kym
October 13th, 2011
3:15 pm
I predicted that hail and lighting might drive the little occupy folks out of downtown..not to say they wont come back..
Into the Light
October 13th, 2011
3:16 pm
oooooh. I love games! Can we play that game with all the dots where you draw lines and try to get the most squares?
Exiled!
October 13th, 2011
3:19 pm
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Into the Light
October 13th, 2011
3:21 pm
Rock flys through paper, I win
That made me LOL. I had this image of Random (in his George Jefferson finest 3-pc suit) getting bonked in the head with a rock and standing there with his ripped paper like, “Wha had happened??”
CmonSeriously
October 13th, 2011
3:23 pm
1 2 3 Redlight!!!
Random
October 13th, 2011
3:24 pm
Simon says, jump up and down…
Lord Velonese
October 13th, 2011
3:24 pm
(Darts through board)Mwuhahahahhaha
CmonSeriously
October 13th, 2011
3:25 pm
Red Rover Red Rover, Send Leggs Over!!!
Celisea
October 13th, 2011
3:27 pm
Look at Lord V getting his “kiddie” on
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
3:28 pm
@Cmon ~ that was funny. One point for you!
Random
October 13th, 2011
3:28 pm
STOP…….uh ahhhh, Simon didn’t say…You Lose
Into the Light
October 13th, 2011
3:29 pm
Mother may I???
CmonSeriously
October 13th, 2011
3:30 pm
I spy with my little eye something with keys and a cord going into my computer, what is it!!!
Into the Light
October 13th, 2011
3:30 pm
Psssst, Celisea and Leggs…. y’all wanna jump rope?
Cinderella, dressed in yella
Went upstairs to kiss a fella….
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
3:30 pm
Left foot on blue circle, right hand on yellow circle….
now you talking!
October 13th, 2011
3:30 pm
I’m all in with some 1,2,3 redlight, who got the sidwalk chalk, i know its raining but I’m up for some hop-scotch! And pass the hula-hoop(you let it hit the floor too many times) and hold up your end of the jump ropes, its double dutch time. At my age by the time I did all that, I would be on a gurney waiting in the hallway of the ER at grady!!
But, oh to be a kid again.
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
3:31 pm
Ms. Mary Mack Mack, all dressed in black black….
Kym
October 13th, 2011
3:32 pm
Apparently the game is Hide and Seek.
Celisea
October 13th, 2011
3:32 pm
My mama’s bread is burning and she can’t get out, my mama’s bread is burning and she can’t get out.
Yep ITL, just can’t do double dutch. I tried but never got that down.
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
3:32 pm
Hell, I can do all that, why can’t you?
I would love to jump double dutch, then sit on the stoop playing a game of jacks!
Random
October 13th, 2011
3:33 pm
With silver buttons buttons buttons all down her back back back
Down down baby down the roller coaster…sweet swweet baby, I’ll never let you go. Chimmy chimmy coca pop, shimmy shimmy PoW!
disco
October 13th, 2011
3:34 pm
I think it’s too funny that y’all are bringing up the old school kiddie games. I don’t know if any of you are familiar with the boardgame outburst but a group of us were playing once (adults against kids) and the kids had the question “name a children’s game that you don’t have to buy”. the poor kids couldn’t think of anything though they gave it a good try. they were shouting out things like jumprope, marbles and Frisbee but the real answers were things like hide and seek, mother may I and red rover.
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
3:35 pm
She jumped so high high, she reached the sky sky and….
Celisea
October 13th, 2011
3:36 pm
Here we go zoodio zoodio zoodio, here we go zoodio all night long…
Celisea
October 13th, 2011
3:37 pm
Here comes Michael Jackson riding ‘cross the field, if you want a boyfriend then Buffalo Bill. If you want the boyfriend, tell you want to get some salt and peppa and shake it on your shoes…now gon girl shake that thang gon girl shake that thang
This is one we sang around the house…waaay far away from mama ‘nem. Can’t be sure of the words but that’s what it sounded like to me when I was 10
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
3:37 pm
Any of you had the board game “Head of the Class?”l I loved, loved that game!
SexyCool
October 13th, 2011
3:38 pm
Good Morning, Judge.
I used to HATE this one. I have a rather distinct sounding voice. I could NEVER, ever, EVER win this game.
Kym
October 13th, 2011
3:38 pm
@Celisea…OHHHH my goodness that was our chant too!!!
CmonSeriously
October 13th, 2011
3:39 pm
Leggs leggs bobeggs banana fana fo feggs me my mo meggs LEGGS
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
3:39 pm
That is freaking hysterical, Celisea.
Celisea
October 13th, 2011
3:40 pm
Kym – Yes, yes. We knew not to chant that one under the car port or front yard/lawn. Ut uh. And the “gon girl shake that thang” was done shaking your hips with all your might
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
3:40 pm
Celisea
October 13th, 2011
3:40 pm
Not garage….carports. Every house had a carport
SexyCool
October 13th, 2011
3:41 pm
Duck, duck, goose.
Celisea
October 13th, 2011
3:41 pm
Leggs –
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
3:41 pm
Come on, Random, finish the last part of the Mrs. Mary Mack Mack???
Celisea
October 13th, 2011
3:42 pm
Duck, duck, goose had folks hitting you on the head nearly causing a concussion
CmonSeriously
October 13th, 2011
3:42 pm
SC Awesome!!!
now you talking!
October 13th, 2011
3:42 pm
PLEASE let’s get some kick ball going….I got home and I’m rollin the ball to u…Leggs
i remember back when I use to tell my friends:
imma ask my momma can we run thru the sprinklers, cause she aint gonna let me break out the slip & slide. straight in draws and a tee shirt acking like I was next in line at white water!
Into the Light
October 13th, 2011
3:43 pm
LOVED duck, duck, goose. ‘Cept when that mean old Andrew B was it – he always hit too hard if you were the goose.
How about Telephone?? (I’ve also heard it called Gossip)
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
3:43 pm
I broke my foot playing kickball…..man those where some fun times.
Where’s my basketball, I want to play some dodgeball….I was the Champ!!!!
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
3:44 pm
Loved when we got a chance to turn on the fire hydrant.
Celisea
October 13th, 2011
3:44 pm
This one we did in a big circle:
Hands up, to 85….Gonna give, names of, peo-ple
Then you went around and around naming folks. If you skipped, hesitated, “uhhh”, then you got tossed out.
And DODGE BALL!!! Remember Dodge Ball?
Into the Light
October 13th, 2011
3:45 pm
imma ask my momma can we run thru the sprinklers, cause she aint gonna let me break out the slip & slide. straight in draws and a tee shirt acking like I was next in line at white water!
We didn’t even have a slip n slide…we had a tarp!! LOL But man, when you squirted Dawn on there and turned the sprinker on……you’d get to the bottom and still be sliding. Come inside with grass everywhere!!
Celisea
October 13th, 2011
3:45 pm
We did the fire hydrant too…the entire block would come.
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
3:46 pm
How about a game of handball? I will be aceing the ball A LOT!!!
Celisea
October 13th, 2011
3:47 pm
And after playing all day, a trip to the Candy Lady
Koolaide frozen in cups sold for .25 cents. That was a treat treat treat…mmm mmm mmm
Into the Light
October 13th, 2011
3:48 pm
Cel, I was just about to say we have to all go get a slush puppy and a blow pop when we’re finished playing!
now you talking!
October 13th, 2011
3:48 pm
and we stayed outside from 8-till the street light came on…i knew not to “let dark catch me”….LOL
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
3:49 pm
We went to the man on the corner and got a greasy bag of french fries.
Kym
October 13th, 2011
3:49 pm
@Celisea did you live in my hood? Or go to my summer camp? Man folks would say we are going to name colors..you could go thru a whole 74 box of crayons.
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
3:50 pm
And we knew not to let light catch us sitting in the house.
We got out and played (didn’t realize we were exercising) (LOLOLOL).
Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)
October 13th, 2011
3:52 pm
Playing and naming these school games makes me think back. I went straight to poker in the fourth grade on the playground summer program at Andrew Johnson Elemeentary School. Hardly looked back.
Into the Light
October 13th, 2011
3:53 pm
And I thought I was hot stuff on my bike. There were two trees in our front yard just far enough apart to drive a bike through. That was the gas station, where I would get the car filled up all the time, while I talked to my boyfriend, Peter Brady.
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
3:53 pm
Dang, a hustler in the making (lol)….did you play 5-card Molly????
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
3:54 pm
You would like Peter Brady!
Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)
October 13th, 2011
3:55 pm
Straight draw poker and 5 and 7 card stud. Didn’t graduate to Texas Holdem until years later.
Into the Light
October 13th, 2011
3:56 pm
LOL@Leggs. I know, right? I was (and still am!) such a nork.
disco
October 13th, 2011
3:56 pm
us up north also played king of the mountain in the winter after the plows had pushed all of the snow into huge piles. the little kids never really had a chance but I guess tumbling down the mountain was part of the fun. (notice I didn’t say getting shoved off although that was usually the case).
@randy t – our older cousins had us little ones out back learning how to shoot craps with monopoly money. we had to have been in grade school walking around talking about “fading”
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
3:56 pm
5-card Monte????
Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)
October 13th, 2011
3:57 pm
Actually did a major stint with blackjack and match the pot games in college.
Celisea
October 13th, 2011
3:58 pm
Kym – Celisea did you live in my hood? Or go to my summer camp? Man folks would say we are going to name colors..you could go thru a whole 74 box of crayons.
You know, it’s a small small world…LOL And yes, summer camp 3 times. That was funny (going through the box of colors). Funny too, once you started the game you’d go blank.
Leggs – Love the freezies when they starting to melt. As soon as it thawed just a little bit, I would flip mine upside down in the cup. The sweetness was on the bottom. By the time you was done sucking that thing all the red was gone and nothing left but ice. You was done at that point…LOL
Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)
October 13th, 2011
3:59 pm
hey disco…love a good crap game, but boy the dice were cold at the Trump Tower in AC. Dayum cold.
Celisea
October 13th, 2011
4:00 pm
ITL – while I talked to my boyfriend, Peter Brady.
You know he was the “white boy” you crushed on (please please please nobody get offended) but would NEVER SAY. Matter of fact saw a fine all grown up Peter Brady jogging this morning. I CANNOT LIE, he was chiseled and sexy as ever. Jogging with no shirt on…mmm hmmm
Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)
October 13th, 2011
4:00 pm
Never did the Monte but saw it plenty in Manhattan. may have done the ful Monte at some private parties, but that wasn’t the card game LOL.
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
4:00 pm
@Celisea ~ that’s the joy of the icees, flipping them over to get the gelatin sweetness from the bottom.
Celisea
October 13th, 2011
4:01 pm
Oh and being the baby of 8, I was all Donna Summer’d out. Afro puffs and all. Wasn’t allow to have a “grown up” fro. Mama wasn’t having that.
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
4:02 pm
@Randyt ~ if was in full swing in Manhattan. I always had a keen idea and won some. Lost once big time. I thought I was slick and good at it. They got my freaking watch.
Celisea
October 13th, 2011
4:02 pm
Leggs – Childhood memories
I know For Real knows about the candy lady.
disco
October 13th, 2011
4:05 pm
yeah randy – now my thought process has gone from childhood games to the fact that we were some bad A kids. we used to crumble leaves and practice rolling. pitching pennies turned into pitching quarters turned into “shoot one” turned into “shoot five”. and we were hot enough back then to be playing “hide and go get it”.
Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)
October 13th, 2011
4:05 pm
@ Leggs. Never saw many people win. Those hucksters are dayum fast with those cards.
SexyCool
October 13th, 2011
4:05 pm
I suck at checkers. And I cheat at Monopoly.
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
4:05 pm
meant a keen “eye”
Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)
October 13th, 2011
4:06 pm
Ahhh the memories. Off to a meeting. Y’all have a great evening.
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
4:07 pm
Awwww, pinching pennies, then quarters.
@Randyt ~ some, meaning twice. The 3rd time I got got.
Boaz
October 13th, 2011
4:10 pm
U people are killing me. I am in the library trying not to bust out laughing. C’mon has me crying. Disco I would love to meet U! U are the s__t. Learned alot. The oldman…ahisee kilt w/his input.
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
4:11 pm
Anyone here played the game “Knick Knack” where this is a Knick and this is a Knack. Involved a lot of memorization but it was fun!!
SexyCool
October 13th, 2011
4:13 pm
Leggs – the memory game that we played at the bus stop was “My Father Owns a Grocery Store”
SexyCool
October 13th, 2011
4:14 pm
http://www.ivillage.com/mind-blowing-sex-can-cause-amnesia/4-a-391947
disco
October 13th, 2011
4:15 pm
gee… thanks boaz. I’ll take my compliments as they come. truth is – we just had a real “round the way” upbringing. we grew up on the block where our grandparents owned the houses and so our parents grew up with all of the other kids on the block and by our time around we – all the grandkids – were playing with each other. even now the great-grandkids are growing up with each other. to this day I refer to all the kids off the block as my “play cousins”. we had good times and have good memories but, like I said, we were some bad A kids.
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
4:15 pm
See, SexyC ~ we were playing games back then not realizing we were developing our mind through play.
SexyCool
October 13th, 2011
4:17 pm
I was gonna say something after that last post…….
but….
I can’t remember what it was.
(lol)
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
4:18 pm
@SexyC ~ I’ve talked about how that has happened to me. I couldn’t recall anything. My friend was scared. Said he was considering taking me to the Emergency Room. It took me about 2 hrs to recover. I remember me struggling to remember. My culprit was anticipation…..it can assist in blowing your mind.
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
4:20 pm
@disco ~ exactly we had “play cousins.” And as a grown woman, my play cousin from back in the day is still considered my “blood” cousin. We are still in contact since our first meeting at age 12.
Exiled!
October 13th, 2011
4:27 pm
that’s why I couldn’t remember my childhood chronicles Sexxy and thus went ghost this afternoon..yeah,the amnesia!
disco
October 13th, 2011
4:27 pm
leggs – I have long since relocated from home but as it turns out several of my play cousins from the block happen to have landed in the same city. we’re not all super-tight but we all know that we have each others backs and if any of us have visitors from home the others of us are usually included in the festivities.
SexyCool
October 13th, 2011
4:27 pm
Interesting Video –
http://screen.yahoo.com/why-do-men-cheat-26858346.html
Thought it was just a bunch of mumbo jumbo to start…but the fellas wrapped it up nicely.
Giving the side-eye to the chunky dude talking about a woman getting to comfortable and letting herself go. Obviously, he owns fun house mirrors.
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
4:30 pm
@disco ~ although I don’t see my play cousin often, we stay in contact via skyp, email and telephone convo. The underlying knowledge is we know push come to shove if the “slap-a-hoe” tribe has to be called, will be there in a minute.
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
4:33 pm
Girl, you definitely have a way with words. Had to laugh at “he owns fun house mirrors.”
Celisea
October 13th, 2011
4:47 pm
Obviously, he owns fun house mirrors.
LOLOL
Celisea
October 13th, 2011
4:48 pm
Not “play cousins” We had tons of those.
Celisea
October 13th, 2011
4:53 pm
Interesting video. Yeah, the chucky dude was a bit outspoken in that regard.
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
4:57 pm
Good night, folks. Nice turning back time!
First rule of holes, when in one stop digging!”
PEACE!
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
4:58 pm
Rather remembering yesteryear!
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