Can you tell when she likes you?
I have a friend that is completely oblivious when a woman is flirting with him. He is super smart in his work life but when it comes to things like body language, wooing techniques, etc, he just doesn’t recognize the signs that women send his way.
I have literally had to point it out to him and let him know that “friends” don’t really cook for friends three times a week. Women also don’t volunteer to pet sit or do random domestic duties for guys unless they are investing in them. Basically, if a woman is consistently putting time, effort, and money in a man, she wants a relationship with him.
I understand the concept of mixed signals and coded behavior but women who are truly interested won’t hide behind those tactics, do they? Guys can you tell when a woman really likes you?
Ladies, how do you show men you are interested in them as a potential partner (as opposed to a buddy, friend, pal, sponsor etc..) or mate?
Do you ever have a hard time figuring out if someone likes you as more than a friend?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 13th, 2011
11:55 am
LOL……@Kimmie and ITL
Kimmie great piece.
ITL I went way back to bring that one out.
kimmie
October 13th, 2011
11:56 am
Cmon – Could have been, but like I said, it’s a fact of life in dating with everyone. You can’t take it personal because like I said, dudes probably get a lot of numbers, but for whatever reason don’t call. Just like women turn down guys for whatever reason, so guys shouldn’t take it so personal and whine like they do.
The cream always rises to the top. Real men get their women.
And this real woman, me, got her husband!
Pinky
October 13th, 2011
12:03 pm
@Audra
“As for Pinky – so you spend a lot of money on a chick and cook her lobster tails and she doesn’t like you so that means she’s shallow? Hmmm…seems like if she were shallow the big display of money would do the trick! Were you actually trying to get to KNOW this woman? B/c thinking that all women are only interested in the money you spend on them is, well, shallow…”
You damn Skippy I wanted to get to know the woman and all she does is come up with excuses as to why she doesnt have the time to spend with me…Fact of the matter is if you like someone you will make the time to spend with them and put some effort into it…instead of canceling plans all the time…
Into the Light
October 13th, 2011
12:05 pm
LOL@BF. In the country, we also use the variation “shucking and jiving”.
abc
October 13th, 2011
12:05 pm
Not everyone will dig you, just like not everyone appeals to you. If you’re not accustomed to that, well… get used to it.
SexyCool
October 13th, 2011
12:06 pm
Pinky – o’girl is punkin’ you big time. A person would not have an opportunity to cancel plans “all the time” with me.
Kym
October 13th, 2011
12:07 pm
Venting thought: Okay I have to wonder do homosexuals have these dating problems? I mean in same sex relationships..do you think they are more adapt at just going for it and not being shy if they like someone?
Celisea
October 13th, 2011
12:08 pm
In the country, we also use the variation “shucking and jiving”.
In the city too
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
12:16 pm
@Randyt ~ Calvin Klein’s “Obsession” may have me dropping the panties a lot quicker (LOL). I’m somewhat kidding. That’s some powerful stuff right there.
@kimmie ~ you must have read my mind @11:43. Excellent post.
@Kym ~ I think homosexuals have the exact same problems we heterosexuals go through. Same Gender still yields same dating quandries….
@abc ~ I hear what you are saying, but the question is geared toward does that in fact show that they are interested in you, that you are appealing to them.
The way you state it, it’s as though people are sitting back wondering “why isn’t this dude coming up to talk to me, do I stink?”
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 13th, 2011
12:16 pm
Kym:
They do it too, I have worked with some over the years. It is down right funny when they are upset with their partner or their lover has another lover. Funniest thing I know is when they go into a tirade about their lover or partner. They’re not shy at all, and could care less who hears them……..LOL
disco
October 13th, 2011
12:21 pm
calvin klein obsession always makes me think of doug e. fresh. “wearing calvin klein obsession cologne. etc. etc. in a cashmere sweater”…
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 13th, 2011
12:21 pm
Leggs “somewhat kidding”. Blushing at you. I would put up a blush sign, if I knew how you need one for that.
Kym
October 13th, 2011
12:24 pm
@Leggs and Blackfoote..yeah I would guess so…I just keep thinking all this could be avoid if folks would just say what they want up front.
Into the Light
October 13th, 2011
12:27 pm
sn: A co-worker just walked by my office singing (if you could call it singing) “Purple Rain”. Made me think of your serenade yesterday, Celisea.
Celisea
October 13th, 2011
12:30 pm
ITL – It took me the night sleeping that song off…lol Now I’m back to singing it again…thanks a bunch
No I’m kidding. I’m actually listening via ear plugs so I’m gooooood
Into the Light
October 13th, 2011
12:31 pm
Too funny! Wish you could have heard this guy…it would’ve turned you off that song for good. LOL
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
12:31 pm
@BF ~ can you breakdown your statement a little further for me. I don’t really know what you’re saying my little kumquat???
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
12:33 pm
Ummmm, my tall kumquat….
Celisea
October 13th, 2011
12:33 pm
Noddin’ my head like yea
Movin my hips like yea
I got my hands up,
They’re playin my song
I know im gonna be ok
Yea, It’s a party in the USA
Yea, It’s a party in the USA
Get to the club in my taxi cab
Everybody’s lookin at me now
Like “whos that chick, thats rockin’ kicks?
She gotta be from out of town”
So hard with my girls all around me
Its definitely not a Nashville party
Cause’ all I see are stilletos
I guess I never got the memo
My tummys turnin and I’m feelin kinda home sick
Too much pressure and I’m nervous
That’s when the D.J. dropped my favorite tune
and a Britney song was on
and the Britney song was on
and the Britney song was on
This is what I’m listening to now. Tinyboobperish I know but hey I’m not the DJ…LOL
Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)
October 13th, 2011
12:34 pm
Link to an article about CK Obsession attracting “big cats”. No mention of cougars but “non-cougar” Legs has somewhat confirmed that it may have the same effect on “non” but “almost” cougars LOL. In the interest of science, I may have to investigate this more closely.
http://www.towleroad.com/2010/06/tigers-jaguars-cheetahs-prefer-calvin-klein-obsession-for-men.html
Celisea
October 13th, 2011
12:35 pm
ITL – It’s funny to me when I think of music and singing. Some folks “have it” and can hear it and some don’t. We’re born singers (and musicians) in my family but someone off pitch or out of tune makes intrigues me how some have the gift to hear and recognize it and some don’t.
Just wondering…….
JustMe, Slim
October 13th, 2011
12:36 pm
kumquat sounds like a dirty word
SexyCool
October 13th, 2011
12:38 pm
Slim – actually the combination of two wordy dirds….lol
Into the Light
October 13th, 2011
12:38 pm
Randyt: ummmmm, “A Site with Homosexual Tendencies”??????????
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 13th, 2011
12:42 pm
“may have me dropping the panties a lot quicker”
This statement, think I’ll have get me a bottle if it have that kind of effect. Life would be easier for both sexes……LOL
SexyCool
October 13th, 2011
12:42 pm
TheDude is a slow driver. 55 on the expressway. Yesterday, he comes home a bit late for an appointment that we had. He was apologizing. “It took longer than I thought it would had Home Depot. And I didn’t realize what time it was until I got on the expressway. I knew I needed to hurry. So, I sped up………..to 65.”
(LMAO!!!!! Seriously!!!!)
Kym
October 13th, 2011
12:45 pm
I think I am in a rap frame of mind today….Kanye West your up!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 13th, 2011
12:45 pm
I don’t know what a kumquat is, but it sounds nicer than the other names I’ve been called…….LOL
Into the Light
October 13th, 2011
12:46 pm
Awwww, SCool.
Sweet story (unless I’m the one behind The Dude, then I’m thinking unsavory things about his mental capacity). 
Leggs
October 13th, 2011
12:48 pm
@Randyt ~ you are cracking me up today.
@BF ~ can you only imagine how men would react if they knew Obsession was the key all along.
Kym
October 13th, 2011
12:48 pm
I thought kumquat was a fruit..like a kiwi..
Randyt (aka...Been There, Done That, Have a Closet Full of T-Shirts)
October 13th, 2011
12:50 pm
link to video (and not a gay site)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=znbIkKXM2p8
Into the Light
October 13th, 2011
12:53 pm
Kumquats are small citrus fruits, about the size of grapes. Very thin peel that is completely edible.
SexyCool
October 13th, 2011
12:56 pm
ITL – when we first started dating, it used to drive me crazy. Now, I actually drive as slow as he does most of the time.
CmonSeriously
October 13th, 2011
1:05 pm
When I was married, I would drive like a bat outta hell, less time in the car was better.
JustMe, Slim
October 13th, 2011
1:15 pm
I’d like to throw some frozen kumquats at my co-workers head…
Exiled!
October 13th, 2011
1:16 pm
@ComeonS?
Were u cheated on?
u seem to have some anger issues,re yesterday!
Purple Reign
October 13th, 2011
1:17 pm
Yes I can tell when she likes me or does not like me. How can one get confused? If in doubt then ask. Men are supposed to be hunters by nature and every good hunter knows to take their best shot…but sometimes you miss. If I like a woman I would probably let her know before she had a chance to let me know.
Random
October 13th, 2011
1:21 pm
Call me crazy but for some reason I wouldn’t mind seeing Tu Pac’s adult shenanigans tape…
CmonSeriously
October 13th, 2011
1:22 pm
While ago I was cheated on, not by the wife though, she just irritated the hell out of me in the car
Celisea
October 13th, 2011
1:23 pm
“CRAZY” lol
CmonSeriously
October 13th, 2011
1:24 pm
She had a spending problem and she put me about 20k in the hole, money problems drove us apart.
Purple Reign
October 13th, 2011
1:27 pm
And you just noticed her spending problem after you two were married?
CmonSeriously
October 13th, 2011
1:32 pm
She came in with debt, and it just got worse, I was stupid enough to give her the benefit of the doubt
Kym
October 13th, 2011
1:32 pm
Best line so far today “She said can we get married at the mallllll? I said look you need to crawl fo you ball..!!!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 13th, 2011
1:33 pm
Hey Purple what’s up how’s that leg doing?
Purple Reign
October 13th, 2011
1:50 pm
Blackfoote everything is squared away and fine!
Exiled!
October 13th, 2011
1:53 pm
ComeOn?
How far ago was ur divorce?
Are u now done fu-cking away the anger of the divorce ,and are now looking for a serous relationship with a curvy woman?
Random
October 13th, 2011
1:54 pm
Where did errrybody go???
CmonSeriously
October 13th, 2011
1:55 pm
Got over it a while ago, outta debt now, would love to find a serious relationship, but I still think marriage is out. Gotta love those in shape curvy women