I was having dinner with my BFFs this weekend and a couple of guys approached our table. We struck up a friendly conversation and someone brought up Facebook. One of the guys said he did NOT Facebook/Tweet, etc. and I seriously wanted to hug him. I don’t know, it just seemed so .. refreshing!
As much as I love social media and consider myself more of a digital girl than an analog one, I have to admit that dating in the digital age can pose a few challenges. It’s almost becomes a blessing and a curse at times. You can find a lot out, but should you do it in that way, without proper context?
I can definitely appreciate not hitting up Google, or Facebook “researching” or digging up details on someone before the first date. It’s a bad habit that I am happy to break.
A reader sent me a clip of VH1’s Tough Love Miami. This reality show features women who go to a “boot camp” with a “dating expert” to help correct their bad dating habits. The clip showed the women being confronted with all their poor choices in social media.
This made me think about the online narrative we set for ourselves when we put photos, Facebook statuses, or Twitter our thoughts for everyone to see (FYI The Library of Congress Archives Twitter).
The question then becomes what kind of image are you projecting? Would you actually say the same things you put on the web?
If someone were to flash a timeline of your digital past, would you be embarrassed? Proud? Humored?
Do you ever wonder if you have turned off a potential date/romance because of how you portray yourself through social media, text messages, etc.?
Have you ever find out something about a potential online and decided to take a pass on getting to know them further? What did you find that made you have second thoughts?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog