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Romantically challenged?

After you get past the early stages of dating, the relationship turns to the familiar and comfortable. Most couples settle into a routine, sometimes dull relationship but there is still a spark there. Keeping the romance fresh and still hot can be a challenge. Especially when it doesn’t come naturally to everyone.

To make matters more challenging, men and women may view romance differently. If you don’t make the effort to find out what your significant other considers romantic, you could end up spinning your wheels.

What was romantic to your ex-girlfriend won’t necessarily work for your new woman. Ladies, just because the last guy liked something you did, doesn’t mean the new one will.

What do you do when the person you are dating is romantically challenged? Do you clue them in or drop hints?

How do you define romance?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

227 comments Add your comment

CmonSeriously

October 10th, 2011
7:38 am

From my point of view honestly, this is an impossible question to answer, that is one of the main reason women read so many romance novels. How many of those novels actually go into the troubles of the years after the hot and heavy. Yeah the spark goes out a bit, once you start living with what you view as the other person’s short comings, we all have them. For a guy trying to keep everything romantic for as long as we can is to say the very least exhausting, and we can’t keep it up forever, as hard as we may try. Getting a long standing relationship is enjoying the SO’s personality and enjoying the simple life. The chase is hard on most people, and anyone who thinks that is the way it is gonna be forever and expects the same effort the entire time is delusional.

Ron Burgundy

October 10th, 2011
8:03 am

Is doggie style romatnic? If so, I am VERY romantic?

CmonSeriously

October 10th, 2011
8:05 am

Really depends if you yank the hair.

Ron Burgundy

October 10th, 2011
8:12 am

Oh yes! Of course I have dated some girls where I yanked the hair and a wig…..that my friends is NOT romantic.

Carrie

October 10th, 2011
8:30 am

Wild passionate sex on the couch and floor followed by chineese food.

Leggs

October 10th, 2011
8:43 am

Good morning.

Dorinder

October 10th, 2011
8:45 am

Ignorance is truly bliss. Please help me understand the thrill of practing idiocrisy?? Can not the moderator do something about these that continues to cause disruptions???

Leggs

October 10th, 2011
9:00 am

They will only keep changing their monikders. It’s a shame that someone comes on a MIA just to be crass and disrespectful!

Reio

October 10th, 2011
9:02 am

Never thought much about it. I tried to find out what she liked, by asking. I was nice, respectful, & kind, but I was always myself. So, as the newness wore off, she did’nt have a major let down, cause there was no major up tick, beyond her just getting to know me, and I, her. As I have always said, “Take me as I am, or not at all.” At least if we don’t make it, she will know why. I asked my wife, after almost 19 years of maerriage, “have I changed much since we met?”, she replied, “no.”

Mike Vick

October 10th, 2011
9:04 am

I find it romantic to send the girl flowers and a card after relations.

“Thanks for the great time, you now have herpes. Sincerely, Ron Mexico”

Reio

October 10th, 2011
9:16 am

I could have been more romantic, but what good would it have done? All of that stuff would have come to a halt at some point down the road, then what? I can recall one incident that occured during our dating phase. I called her at least once a day for, I think, 5 straight days. on the 6th day, late, she called me and asked why I had’nt called her. I said “I did’nt have a question for you.” She said, “Well, you could have called to say hello or see how I was doing or something.” I replied ” I called you several times this week already and I did’nt detect any concern on your part obout your health or anything, and frankly, I did’nt want to call you today, so, I did’nt” She hung up in my face.

Leggs

October 10th, 2011
9:33 am

@Reio ~ that is nice!

Reio

October 10th, 2011
9:33 am

To continue the 9:16am story on that incident : I called her the next day to ask why she hung up on me. She said that she “figured that I did’nt want to be bothered.” I replied “You figured that I did’nt want to be bothered? or you are just upset that I told you the truth?” She said “It’s not what you said, but how you said it.” So, I decided to continue to tell the truth and give it to her straight, by telling her “Honey, you are, without a doubt, without question, hands down, the most wonderful, decent,caring, bright, witty, lovely lady I have ever dated. I’m so glad I met you. But it sounds like you are expecting something from me that I’m not able or willing to give you, and I don’t even know what it is. She replied, while laughing, “You just answered just about every other question I had for you down the road. Thanks for explaining yourself and being you.” I think we went to dinner later that evening,

Leggs

October 10th, 2011
9:36 am

I was referring to your first post (lol) about you not changing much in 19 years. Not that she hung up in your face (lololol).

Leggs

October 10th, 2011
9:41 am

@Reio ~ I’m going through something similar to your phone conversation. The person I was talking to for 2 weeks straight all of sudden got scared and stopped with the “Good morning” texts and calling when he said he would. I got a chance to talk with him over the weekend and he said he thought he was moving too fast so he’s backing off. Wow…ummmm, ok!

Can’t force something one doesn’t want. Glad your story turned out differently (lol).

Reio

October 10th, 2011
9:43 am

@ Leggs – She looked up at the ceiling for about 15-20 seconds before answering “No”. So, I was’nt sure, for a while, how she would respond.

Reio

October 10th, 2011
9:46 am

@ Leggs – It’s possible that he thought about it for a while and decided that “This is a good one, don’t want to mess this up, so I’ll back off a bit. Rather not scare her off.” Who knows?

OJ

October 10th, 2011
9:48 am

Reio – I agree its hard in a relaitonship when daily contact has become the norm.. You gotta be you. I used to text Nicole EVERY day with romantic npothings like “WHO YOU WITH HO!” and if she did not answer I would be come bery upset. One day I just had had enough and…well…you know….

Exiled!

October 10th, 2011
9:50 am

Good morning!

Aaagh,I mean,um,I am romantically challenged.

I am more practical than romantic.

It was her birthday yesterday so I did say ‘happy burthday’ early on whilst still in bed.
She asked if we were doing something,I said ‘No!’ but i paid the mortgage.

She wasnt too happy but Iam kinda like that. I don’t pay too much attn to annivesaries,birthdays and stuff like that. I don’t even care to celebrate my own birthday but for her and the kids. I just play along.

Thankfully,the kids made her a cake and blew candles!

CmonSeriously

October 10th, 2011
9:51 am

On a side note, one thing I like about this blog is it helps me know when I do something, I can feel more justified in my actions. I talked with a girl all night, had a great time with her, and called her a few days and at one point during the first night she had told me something, then less than a week later she told me something completely different, I calmly explained to her, that she was just caught in a lie, and I cannot get any more involved with you than I already have. I will be your friend, but starting out anything with lies isn’t something that I am willing to deal with.

kimmie

October 10th, 2011
9:56 am

Morning All!

The only thing I can say to both sides is don’t start something you can’t reasonably keep up. And don’t expect everyone you meet to be the same as the one you dated before. That goes for the good stuff as well as the bad.

That’s all I really have to contribute to this topic.

4 Real, please tell me what you thought about that Breaking Bad finale!!! I thought it was off the chain!

Reio

October 10th, 2011
10:01 am

I’ve just never been the romantic type. Seems like you’re always under the gun. Her birthday, Valentines day, our first meeting anniversary, my birthday, wedding anniversary… forget something, and it’s like you committed a felony or something. I’m still working on this after all of these years. Just don’t know. Just don’t know.

Leggs

October 10th, 2011
10:08 am

@Reio ~ interesting you say that because he told me that he thought he was moving too fast and “didn’t want to ruin my life.” That statement stopped me dead in my tracks. Who says that? But, I guess I understand. What I don’t understand is why people go out to meet someone to connect with and when they do they become a jack rabbit retreating back into the woods.

Fion

October 10th, 2011
10:26 am

@Leggs

I usually don’t comment on folks personal stuff, but if Ol’ Boy told you “I don’t want to ruin your life”
Why not take it face value and say, “ok”! Thanks.

Just sayin’

Reio

October 10th, 2011
10:26 am

@ Leggs – It depends on his intentions. Us guys are’nt as good at reading signs and signals as I wish we were, but if his intentions were to trick you into thinking that he was really into you, thereby, maybe, having a roll in the hay sooner rather than later, he realized that you probably would’nt fall for it, so now instead of telling you to hit the road, he wants to kind of let you go slowly. Or maybe he feels that if he continues on the original course, you will come to expect that, and more, from him, but he won’t be able to keep it up, therebu “ruining” your life, in his eyes, at least, in the short term. So he backs off for that reason. I don’t know.

disco

October 10th, 2011
10:26 am

good morning everyone. I am a far more practical woman than I am romantic. while most women say they want the romantic gifts my best gifts have been the practical ones that most women would draw blood for if presented with: vacuum cleaners, electric skillets, crockpots, tool kits. once years ago when my child was young and I was working two jobs to get by a guy presented me with two dozen roses. all I could think about was that those roses could have bought groceries or paid some utility bills or something. what was I really supposed to do with some flowers. I know the guy meant well but I so was not feeling those roses.

Reio

October 10th, 2011
10:32 am

@ disco – My kind of woman! Yes indeed!

Exiled!

October 10th, 2011
10:32 am

@Leggs!

People retreat because, sometimes, they perceive things,based on talking,differently than the other party.

So rather than saying,’let’s take it slow’,they wld rather pull away.
If a chic appeared more than ready when I thought maybe,she’s gonna take some time to woo,a man might have second thoughts.

Too thirsty,seen from the man’s or woman’s perspective is not a good look.

abc

October 10th, 2011
10:32 am

That’s kind of funny, immediately associating that which is romantic with gifts and cash. Hm! And then, not appreciating the gifts because they’re not what one wanted.

Totally not feeling the romantic thing today. Even a girl as wonderful as mine gets bouts of self absorption. Chicks. Not a lot of fun sometimes.

CmonSeriously

October 10th, 2011
10:32 am

@Leggs
Shake it off, there are better guys out there.

Leggs

October 10th, 2011
10:34 am

@Fion ~ I had no choice but to accept exactly that. I’m not pursuing. I’m a very good listener.

@Reio – I have to agree with you as well.

What I find weird is people wanting to meet and date and when they find someone they’ may be compatible with they get scared. I guess there are many levels that a person wants to meet one on. Perhaps, the level they see me on is not the level they want in a woman (LOL). That is too funny, but I’ll take it as a compliment and K.I.M…..

Leggs

October 10th, 2011
10:34 am

This is MIA, and since I’m finally experiencing something to contribute, I thought I get your take.

disco

October 10th, 2011
10:49 am

abc – personally I don’t necessarily equate romantic with gifts and cash though it has been my personal experience that most fellows when making efforts at being romantic will present a woman with a gift of some sort. (note I left out cash – cash never registers as romantic with me. don’t get me wrong – I’ll take it. it’s just not romantic). I’ll mention another old boyfriend of mine. this guy was the romantic, poetry writing type brother. my girlfriends loved it and I was personally put off by it. in general, I appreciate poetry but I was just unable to give this guy romantic cool points for writing me poetry. I’d much rather he come over and help me change the air filters or something.

Leggs

October 10th, 2011
10:50 am

@Ex ~ please, give me a break. No body was coming off thirsty. Not at all and if you heard our conversations you would understand. And yes, I know the signs of thirsty when I receive them as well as if I’m giving them off.

I’m good over here. Just like Beyonce’s new song, I may have dodged a bullet. Always look for the positive.

Reio

October 10th, 2011
10:54 am

@ disco – Had I met you before my wife, I would have tried like hell to keep you. True love does not have to manefest itself in cards, gifts, trinkets, or cash. If it’s there. it’s there. If not, oh well. Love your posts.

i'm swiss™

October 10th, 2011
10:58 am

There is nothing more excruciating than bad poetry. And, unfortunately, most poetry is bad.

Reio

October 10th, 2011
11:00 am

@ Leggs – I think I understand where you’re coming from. He made a dramatic shift in his behavior towards you. You’re not longing for an explaination, you’re just curious as to why the abrupt change. That’s all. Understandable. And Justifiable.

disco

October 10th, 2011
11:00 am

thanks reio. I am indeed “special”. I know it and my friends and family know it. funny thing is – guys I happen to date don’t get it at least not at first. guess a girl like me takes getting used to.

SlimUno

October 10th, 2011
11:00 am

Leggs – We might want to consider an involuntary moniker change for Exiled. He always come in wayyy off in left field saying all kinds of random stuff, not sure if it’s the Devil’s Advocate in him or what. He’s a Loose Cannon so maybe he should be LC for short

Leggs

October 10th, 2011
11:06 am

@Reio ~ thank you. That was all I was “attempting” to express. Sometimes, when people find what they believe they want, it scares them. I definitely understand that. Some have the fortitude to ride and explore and others scare themselves off. As long as I’m in tact and not harmed, believe you me, I’m good!!!

@SlimNu ~ I think LC is an excellent fit.

Reio

October 10th, 2011
11:08 am

@ disco – You’re welcome. I’ll just tell the truth here, we are all just passing through life. No matter how young or old. I figure, why not be yourself, and if you find someone that you connect with, you will know that it’s you that’s keeping them around, not something else. That’s the way I’ve always approached it. And I was always ready to move on when the handwriting was on the wall.

abc

October 10th, 2011
11:10 am

all I could think about was that those roses could have bought groceries or paid some utility bills

Sounds like a preference for cash to me. Being Mr. Fixit around the house is romantic? News to me — but then, I suppose lots of chicks would value things like that along the lines of “acts of service”, that being more valuable to them than anything material. Still doesn’t seem to have anything to do with romance, in my opinion. Then again, I’m not feeling the romantic vibe today. Thppt.

Fion

October 10th, 2011
11:12 am

@Leggs / Slim

As defender of all that’s good and right in the world, I think ya’ll are coming down to hard on Exiled. Granted he’s views may be extreme, but I challenge ya’ll to reach and dig deeper for understanding.

SlimUno

October 10th, 2011
11:14 am

Romance does not have to equal anything related to something monetary. A sweet note left for you to find in the mornings before work is sweet/romantic to me…You SO grabbing your hand to go for a walk around the neighborhood or nearby park is romantic to me…picking off a flower from the yard and placing it in her hair is romantic to me. Cooking dinner or breakfast for your SO is romantic to me…a “just because’ card…etc And these things are all ways I personally show my SO I care of that i’m thinking of them. So it’s nothing that I would ask of another that I wouldn’t do myself.

Leggs

October 10th, 2011
11:14 am

@abc ~ being Mr. Fixit is definitely romantic. It’s sexy, and stirs the nether regions for many women. Watching a man fix things around the house, build things for the house is definitely an aphrodisiac

Leggs

October 10th, 2011
11:16 am

@Fion ~ not coming down too hard on him. I think he’s comind down too hard with continuous responses that a woman was “thirsty,” or “gave it up too quickly now she feel used,” etc….not hard at all on him.

SlimUno

October 10th, 2011
11:16 am

Fion – Not to worry, it’s not like we raised a vote to have him RE-exiled off the island but honestly he does come off a bit crass at times or just plain vulgar. However, I think Leggs and I (correct me fi i’m wrong Leggs) pretty much know how he rolls and how to deal with him. It’s been years lol

Exiled!

October 10th, 2011
11:18 am

Leggs?

In no way did I insinuate that U were thirsty. I just gave one if many examples.

@ Slim,bounce.

Exiled!

October 10th, 2011
11:20 am

Fion thanx

I don’t know what Slim is reading

Where did I say Leggs was thirsty?

i'm swiss™

October 10th, 2011
11:22 am

“being Mr. Fixit is definitely romantic. It’s sexy, and stirs the nether regions for many women.”

You know who gets tons of puddy? This guy.

Leggs

October 10th, 2011
11:22 am

@Ex ~ reading your post, it can be taken both ways. You directly talking to me or you making a reference.

CmonSeriously

October 10th, 2011
11:24 am

Do chicks really dig scars lol

Leggs

October 10th, 2011
11:25 am

@im swiss ~ he was the maintenance man on that show with McKenzie Phillips and that other famous lady I can’t remember her name who was married to that rocker who’s name I too can’t remmber.

i'm swiss™

October 10th, 2011
11:26 am

“that rocker who’s name I too can’t remmber.”

Leggs — Blasphemy! “That rocker” was Eddie Van Halen, and don’t you ever forget it! ;-) :lol:

Exiled!

October 10th, 2011
11:28 am

U didn’t even read my first sentence I suppose

@Leggs

one ‘bad’ word u not like set the tone for u I guess.

I think Fion was right about reading deep

Leggs

October 10th, 2011
11:31 am

It wasn’t a bad word, Ex. I was just letting you know, since I thought you were talking to me, that I wasn’t coming off at thirsty.

And yes, I read your first sentence and it was negative as well. I understand all you are saying, but when expectations were the same on both parties, scared is scared.

disco

October 10th, 2011
11:33 am

I hate to make it all literal but I guess some folks here would have to go into what romantic means to them. sure I can take it as a simple act of intimacy. sharing time, bonding and all that is good but where I’m coming from right now today when I’m thinking “romantic” I’m not thinking about warm, fuzzy feelings and goo goo eyes – I’m thinking like gabrielle union in deliver us from eva “and then we burned a hole in the floor”. the things that make me want to burn a hole in the floor are more practical in nature than romantic.

Fion

October 10th, 2011
11:33 am

Pissst!!!!!, Hey Exlied listen, you got to wait on the rest of the fella’s to get here before you start up. All I got are smoke grenades in my bag.

Leggs

October 10th, 2011
11:38 am

@im siwss ~ I do ask that you forgive me. Yes sir, Eddie Van Halen, and he was married to Valerie ?

Exiled!

October 10th, 2011
11:40 am

Leggs,the outcome of this encounter with the dude was negative even tho it probably started positive. There is no question.

And as for him,he may have read into it a little differently than urself. I’m sure I potrayed that.

That does not mean that U were bad or are bad or should you necessarily read it as reflecting that about ur character.
I don’t understand the hullabaloo

CmonSeriously

October 10th, 2011
11:45 am

As for what I have seen recently dating, horrible as it is when dating someone, you have to be shallow and kind of closed off, since I took my emotions out of the mix and I go to just have some fun, I seem to get more dates and better receptions. So my advice, get rid of the drama, don’t care what anyone thinks and after you date a person for a while then you can open yourself up. Look at every guy and girl as just that, don’t look at them as a potential mate and let the cards fall as they may. Just come up with your list of things you can tolerate and which ones you can’t. Go by the numbers.

i'm swiss™

October 10th, 2011
11:49 am

Leggs — Valarie Bertanelli (sp?) or something like that. But she’s not a guitar god, so who cares? :lol:

abc

October 10th, 2011
11:49 am

Leggs, sounds to me like the guy has met someone else. Abrupt behavior change, ‘ruin your life’, ‘moving too fast’, umhm. Yep.

SlimUno

October 10th, 2011
11:55 am

abc – Or it could have been an old love or recent ex-love to come back around. Seems like some break-ups take months (or years in some cases) before it ever actually ends lol

CmonSeriously

October 10th, 2011
11:55 am

Who cares Leggs, he wasn’t right for you, move on, there is a whole world out there, why let a guy like that bug ya.

Leggs

October 10th, 2011
11:56 am

@Ex ~ there is no question. Correct.

Thank you, Valerie Bertinelli.

@abc ~ I don’t think he met someone else. I think he still has someone and perhaps not willing to tighten up his loose strings.

Camille

October 10th, 2011
11:57 am

@Disco…. I agree with you. Love does not equat to gifts/flowers/etc for me. They are appreciated from time to time, but that is not love to me.

Everyone is different when it comes to what they need out of a relationship.

I would suggest the book, “Five Love Languages” ….

Leggs

October 10th, 2011
11:57 am

@Cmon ~ I don’t think he’s necessarily bugging me. Just wondering why bother to get out and meet people if that’s not your true intent. But, you are right, he wasn’t right for me. NEXT……

CmonSeriously

October 10th, 2011
11:58 am

Why should an obvious “fill in the blank” take this much time on the blog, he’s gone, throw him out like the trash and forget about him.

Randyt (aka, Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

October 10th, 2011
11:59 am

As I’ve indicated before on here, when I’m in a relationship that ends, I don’t waste my time reflecting much on what the other party could have done better. I spend time reflecting on what I could have done better. One topic I always address in my reflection is the “romantic” issue. If I should have been more aware of and responsive to my SO’s needs, I consciously make specific plans for the next one…before I even figure out who the next one is. I try to improve my game a little at a time.

One can get busted though. Current lady has noticed the “cheek stroking”, the soft look in the eyes, the “eyelid kisses” etc., and figured out I got it from a book or something and put it in my bag of tricks ;-)

Fion

October 10th, 2011
11:59 am

“What do you do when the person you are dating is romantically challenged? Do you clue them in or drop hints?”

Straight talk, on the real. If the person you are dating is romantically challenged, they just aren’t that into you.
Bottom line, no one knows anyone when they meet and start out dating and forming a relationship. The question is are you willing to invest the time and make an effort to learn what the other likes and what turns them on. If you got to coach somebody up on Love, they aren’t that into you.

Just sayin’

Leggs

October 10th, 2011
11:59 am

@SlimUno ~ yes ma’am. That’s my take as well. On point!!!

Leggs

October 10th, 2011
12:02 pm

“why should fill in the blank” take this much time on the blog, he’s gone, throw him out like the trash and forget about him.”

Ummmmm, this is a blog for this type of discussion. It was just a conversation piece, nothing that one needs to lay down on a therapist’s couch and break down what it all really means. We fill our time with worse mundane topics…

Randyt (aka, Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

October 10th, 2011
12:04 pm

@ Camille, the “Five Love Languages” (Gary Chapman, is that the right author) is one of the best books out there for figuring out the other partner’s wants and needs. It, and a basic awareness of Myers Briggs/Kiersey Temperament Sorter, can go a long way toward doing things “she/he” appreciates. It is too easy for both sexes to try to please theeir partner with waht they themselves like, rather than what the partner likes or responds to.

SlimUno

October 10th, 2011
12:07 pm

I feel sort of bad for a friend of a friend that recently moved down here from another state for their job. He has four kids and has not yet been able to find a place of his own (sort of crashing with a friend in the meantime)…It’s going to be hard to find something to sign on for a struggling guy with 4 kids.

Leggs

October 10th, 2011
12:10 pm

@SlimNu ~ I gather he didn’t move down with the four kids????

SexyCool

October 10th, 2011
12:12 pm

abc – I see you over there with “The Five Languages of Love.”

CmonSeriously

October 10th, 2011
12:17 pm

@Leggs
I have absolutely no sympathy for a guy that is no good for anyone, I figured the blog was more about people that are trying to get things to work as opposed to people that break up saying things like they will ruin someone’s life. Sorry if I came off as a little harsh.

SlimUno

October 10th, 2011
12:21 pm

Leggs – No, they are living back at his home state with his ex-wife. That’s a whole lot of child support..not one, not two…not even three…but FOE kids dayum :lol: Said they were trying for a girl and that last time when they saw it was another boy, they gave up lol

SexyCool

October 10th, 2011
12:21 pm

And I see that some other folks have mentioned it subsequently.

The two things that I find the most romantic about TheDude is that #1 – he pays attention to me – the things that I say, that I like, that I don’t like – he just really pays attention. #2 – he is open to and as committed as I am to using whatever relationships resources, tools and even classes that we have access to in order to make our relationship successful.

kimmie

October 10th, 2011
12:25 pm

Slim – Why is he having a hard time finding a place? Is he looking to rent or buy? Is he having a hard time finding something he can afford, is the company helping with moving expenses? Are the kids going to come down to live eventually or just for regular visit? Lots of questions.

kimmie

October 10th, 2011
12:30 pm

SCool – That’s what it’s really all about – paying attention. Finding out the others wants and needs and then figuring out if it’s something you can provide.

If they are not open, like you said on your #2, to making the relationship work, they are probably just not into you.

Leggs

October 10th, 2011
12:30 pm

@Cmon ~ not harsh at all, but to be honest with you, unless you’ve been lurking for a long time, you haven’t been around long enough to figure much out as to how this blog works. Haven’t you noticed our Zaning Fridays. That definitely has nothing to do with “getting things to work” or “people breaking up.” There’s a plethora of topices discussed on this blog daily. We jump around daily from the deepest of topics to the more mundane, i.e., poots.

@SlimUno ~ I thought about that when you said he’s crashing at a friend’s place. Figured he may be getting even more antsy in that he can’t support his children.

SexyCool

October 10th, 2011
12:31 pm

Um…yeah…no…Ope, I am not excited about Rosie O’Donnell.

BlackMagicWoman

October 10th, 2011
12:32 pm

Greetings from a very sunny and unseasonably warm NYC!!!

LEGGS…ole dude was driving the train full speed ahead and just decided to pull the emergency break????? He’s a sucka! You need to get off at the next stop and exit the station! :lol:

As far as romance…I am a very romantic person. I think some men need a nudge in that department. But first thing is first….men do NOT think it makes you soft if you don’t be your normal annoying macho selves. Machisimo makes me vomit! A man who isn’t afraid to show how he feels is wht separates the real men from the little boys playing dress up in men’s clothing. Now men say they like to make the first move. Ok, you either shhhh or get off the pot. So ladies, getting a man to be romantic is like potty training. (I know bad analogy, but it’s all I have right now :lol: ). Lead by example. I have done really romantic things for my exes. Such as running a bath for HIM, send a gift to his job (something he liked), etc. Hopefully this will help him on that. It worked for me.

Leggs

October 10th, 2011
12:32 pm

Oh, and I too wasn’t trying to be harsh.

BlackMagicWoman

October 10th, 2011
12:32 pm

“I meant “Brake” not Break.

kimmie

October 10th, 2011
12:33 pm

Leggs – And to add my 2 cents, the blog IS named MISadventures in Atlanta!

CmonSeriously

October 10th, 2011
12:33 pm

my bad….just came in here, i think it was last week

Leggs

October 10th, 2011
12:33 pm

If BMW was here she would end my post with “Come on, Son!” :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

Leggs

October 10th, 2011
12:34 pm

Oh Snap, she is here. You scared me when I just scrolled back up…that isht is eerie!!!!

SlimUno

October 10th, 2011
12:34 pm

kimmie – Whew, lemme catch my breath from that storm of questions lol Ok, I think he has something on his credit from a past apartment complex but he does state he was hoping they would look more at his rental history vs credit. He job only paid the rent at his previous residence for the duration of his lease. Anything else, I believe is on him. He is looking to rent a small place in the meantime but he does want his kids to be able to visit at some point but not to live. I’m not sure if they have dual custody or what…not sure of all those details.

Leggs

October 10th, 2011
12:36 pm

Rosie O’Donnell’s shape of her mouth and voice gives me the creeps. The Thrump’s mouth is in second’s place.

Leggs

October 10th, 2011
12:38 pm

@Cmon ~ had to laugh…very nice and well deserved retreat. Yousa quick learner….we likes that. You cool.

Leggs

October 10th, 2011
12:38 pm

Exactly, kimmie ~ MISadventures….I like to add to the pot when I can (lol).

kimmie

October 10th, 2011
12:39 pm

Slim – Sorry didn’t mean to hit you will all the questions, but it makes better sense now.

Any transition can be hard, even in the best of circumstances. Hopefully he can find someone that will give him a break and he’ll be able to find a place he can afford that’s in a decent neighborhood. I wish him well.

Fion

October 10th, 2011
12:40 pm

@ BMW
It’s not about being soft. Truth be told, I have to trust you first. For that my dear takes time.

Celisea

October 10th, 2011
12:41 pm

Telepathy Leggs

BlackMagicWoman

October 10th, 2011
12:43 pm

LEGGS…you bellowed???? Well I answered. And yes you are correct. I was thinking, “Come on son! For real?” :lol:

Oh I have an update on my scandal…..call me later :-)

BlackMagicWoman

October 10th, 2011
12:48 pm

Romance requires how much trust? Of course I will not be romantic with any fool. But If I am diggin’ you a lil’ bit won’t hurt. If I feel no romance, I’m out! Plenty of other guys who would do it. Just like a man says when a woman won’t give up the goods they go to someone who will. Well….

Lucky for me, the guys that I go out with now have no problem showing me romance. But the one who is showing me the most is who I’m feeling.

abc

October 10th, 2011
12:48 pm

I’m over here with the “shut myself the hayell up” language of love today. Approximately monthly, it becomes clear to me that the best thing for me to do is say and do nothing, because no matter what it is, I’ll be wrong about it. Chicks can be just plain no fun at all. Preaching to the choir as it is and all.

i'm swiss™

October 10th, 2011
12:49 pm

“I have an update on my scandal…..call me later”

BMW — I don’t care what the test says, I am NOT the father! :lol:

i'm swiss™

October 10th, 2011
12:52 pm

“Approximately monthly, it becomes clear to me that the best thing for me to do is say and do nothing, because no matter what it is, I’ll be wrong about it.”

abc — And you know what makes it even worse? Correctly predicting, “you’re about to start, aren’t you?” :lol: This month, Mrs. Swiss got mad at me for not being enthusiastic enough when helping her do some sh!t for her job. :lol:

CmonSeriously

October 10th, 2011
12:53 pm

Fion

October 10th, 2011
12:57 pm

@ Swiss / abc

Fellas, not here. Wait for the union meeting.

abc

October 10th, 2011
12:58 pm

And there you have a real-time example of it.

i'm swiss™

October 10th, 2011
1:01 pm

Unions? We still have those?

CmonSeriously

October 10th, 2011
1:01 pm

@abc
Yup, get used to it, guys are used, abused, always wrong, and impatient when a woman wants to show up to a dinner reservation 1 hour late because she wants to get ready.

CmonSeriously

October 10th, 2011
1:03 pm

I think the correct way a man should act is “shut up and color”

Camille

October 10th, 2011
1:04 pm

@Randyt.. when I discovered the book it was tooo late to save my marriage. However, when I enter another relationship, this will be one book we both need to read. Somethings don’t move me while others do and vice versa….I/We must learn that with any relationship.

SexyCool

October 10th, 2011
1:05 pm

TheDude says all the time that the best lesson that he has learned so far is “When in doubt, fall back on the “Yes, Dear.” Rule. Just stop talking and start saying “Yes, Dear.”

He thinks he’s a comedian…

Exiled!

October 10th, 2011
1:09 pm

I wonde whether women,in their very private convos with other women,are advising each other of or showcasing how to take care of or pamper their men or they are talking more about or showcasing how their men take care of them?

I wonder what’s really paramount!on their minds,especially the single ones.

CmonSeriously

October 10th, 2011
1:09 pm

SC
Like I said, we’re always wrong, I had a woman tell me that the most dangerous type of tornandoes are the ones that don’t form in clouds cause you couldn’t see them. She got really mad when I didn’t budge and went and found the actual definition of what a tornado was. I hate standing for stupidity.

abc

October 10th, 2011
1:14 pm

I think the correct way a man should act is “shut up and color”

And stay inside the lines. Or, why do you always insist on coloring within the lines? And, ain’t no such thing as green hair. Etc. etc.

Boaz

October 10th, 2011
1:14 pm

Disco is the standard as far as I am concerned. I if women don’t get on her page. Parafisr lost. It’s nice to see the guys clue some of the women in. They nred are crass perspective. I mean donz’t disrespect or burt

CmonSeriously

October 10th, 2011
1:15 pm

@abc
you must be married to know that kind of behavior so well.

abc

October 10th, 2011
1:16 pm

Is that English?

Last input I have on it, though, is don’t go wondering why a man chooses to be by himself sometimes. We need a break from all the BS. Let’s just go play a round of golf by ourselves, or something, anything!

CmonSeriously

October 10th, 2011
1:17 pm

@abc
And don’t forget, the lack of the words “thank you”, once you have broken your back workin, doin what they say :)

Leggs

October 10th, 2011
1:17 pm

@Cmon ~ why sit there and wait an additional hour for the date to arrive. I would have been GHOST, especially if there wasn’t any communication between the two of us while I’m sitting there waiting.

Exiled!

October 10th, 2011
1:18 pm

@abc?

but by shutting up,are U making urself happy?

Or u just making Her happy?

I don’t believe in that pacification

But I think most American men are

Or why they stay single:

The balls Revocation of the modern day American Man(??) :lol:

Leggs

October 10th, 2011
1:20 pm

Telepathy indeed.

Yes, BMW, you definitely answered. Ok, I’ll call you later.

abc

October 10th, 2011
1:21 pm

It quickly becomes a scenario where it’s not a confrontation worth having, E. It passes soon enough. It doesn’t solve any problems, but it does avoid the symptoms, primary among which leads me to seek some solitude. I digs me some solitude.

CmonSeriously

October 10th, 2011
1:21 pm

@Exiled
Most guys I know, including myself want to avoid being “bit___ed at” so to avoid argument, they just do what their woman says, thus “yes dear”. And since dating is a pain in the butt, instead of breaking up, they just take it.

Boaz

October 10th, 2011
1:24 pm

Disco, U, 2me get it. We are wired different (women & men) more women need to take a page from your playbook. Ladies I know what u want but adjust a little or you will get very little. Unless u want a man 10-15 yrs older that will cake u cuz he is glad ur younger then him, but can’t do it for u long term. Cause only ur Dad is gonna just let u have it ur way completely.

Leggs

October 10th, 2011
1:27 pm

What’s funny to me is that most of the women here are like Disco. Not materialistic at all. Sure flowers every so often are cool. I could give a rat’s tail if you ever bought me a box of candy. But I get the sense a lot of women are like Disco.

kimmie

October 10th, 2011
1:29 pm

Leggs – Have you ever watched The Cooking channel? Not Food Network, it’s the Cooking channel. There is this show called Chucks Day Off. I stumbled on the show yesterday. That was one episode where I would have eaten every dish he prepared. He made fish tacos with homemade tortillas, pico and spicy avocado creme, marinated balsamic chicken wings, cobb salad and peach tea. He catered this same meal for a big rock band on tour, forgot which band. But it all looked fantastic and easy to prepare.

abc

October 10th, 2011
1:33 pm

I don’t do the ‘yes dear’ bit. I just disappear for awhile.

kimmie

October 10th, 2011
1:35 pm

Leggs – I beg to differ – I’m a chocoholic and love anytime I get candy! LOL!! But seriously, I think I’m a nice mix of practical and romantic. It’s a place and time for it all. It’s just a matter of recognizing the other’s style and needs.

Most of it is not that hard or serious, especially if you really care for the person. But if you don’t, any request or desire is bound to be a chore to the other person. Resentment sets in when you feel you HAVE to do something you don’t want to do. Instead of you WANTING to make another person happy.

It’s an absolute joy to do the things that make my husband happy. Always has been.

i'm swiss™

October 10th, 2011
1:37 pm

abc — There are definitely times when having a bigger house than you really need is exactly what you really need. :lol:

Leggs

October 10th, 2011
1:53 pm

@kimmie ~ not tallking about the candy part, just that a lot of women can take gifts that most wouldn’t necessarily deem romantic girly gifts. If I need a vaccum cleaner and that’s what you gave me, I would be happy.

Exiled!

October 10th, 2011
1:53 pm

The wussyfication(Yes dear) of the modern American man!

kimmie

October 10th, 2011
1:59 pm

Leggs – I know, I was joking, kinda. That’s why I said I’m a mix of practical and romantic. I can appreciate any gift and the spirit in which it’s given.

When husband & I were dating, he once presented me with a GPS. He knew I didn’t have one and needed it. It showed he was listening to me and he cared about my safety. I didn’t have to throw tacky hints. He just got it. Now that is romantic to me. The candy & flowers I got on V day were romantic as well.

He’s a great mixture of both.

abc

October 10th, 2011
1:59 pm

Yeah Swiss, and when the house can’t possibly be big enough, we try out that ‘absence makes the heart grow fonder’ premise.

abc

October 10th, 2011
2:03 pm

I gave my girl a GPS some years back (when the best nuvi’s were still going around $800) and I don’t think she thought it was very romantic. I almost always get a tech gadget along with whatever jewelry or whatever — an iPhone here, a iPad there, ya know. There’s always a practical need for the techno junk. Romantic and practical don’t live on the same side of the street, to me.

CmonSeriously

October 10th, 2011
2:03 pm

Leggs
Love it, I love clean floors, I know it’s just an example but when I got my Kirby a couple years back that was having me smiling ear to ear!!!

Leggs

October 10th, 2011
2:06 pm

It helps if you read past the first line of someone’s post (lol).

kimmie

October 10th, 2011
2:07 pm

Again, depends on the people involved, their style and the spirit behind the gift given.

It wasn’t necessarily what the gift was, but the fact that he took note of what I needed to ensure my well-being.

disco

October 10th, 2011
2:07 pm

thanks boaz. while I appreciate that you get me I most def know not to issue advice. like I said earlier – “I’m special” and I know it. I am so far from the norm but I do me. I can’t advise others to try to be me and do or say things that I would do or say. and besides all that – I am one of the single chicks. maybe someone should be advising me.

Ron Burgundy

October 10th, 2011
2:09 pm

Pearl necklaces are romantic….but not fake ones.

Leggs

October 10th, 2011
2:09 pm

@Cmon ~ purchasing a Kirby will either leave you smiling from ear to ear or crying in your beer. :wink:

Leggs

October 10th, 2011
2:09 pm

Exactly, kimmie. That fact that he listened and took note is romantic which makes the gift romantic.

Barrack ussein Obama

October 10th, 2011
2:11 pm

Michelle finds it romantic when i fire up the 747 and jet us to Marthas Vineyard for lobster and relaxation. Its fun to spend tax payers money for the sake of romance!

Michael Jackson's Ghost

October 10th, 2011
2:16 pm

I always found sitting around in PJs eating sundaes and drinking Jesus juice to be very romantic.

disco

October 10th, 2011
2:17 pm

okay speaking of listening and gifts. last year at Christmas I was really pushing for a new nook from barnes and noble. me and the guy I was expecting to purchase the nook for me made several trips to barnes and noble where I pointed out the nook, played with the nook, all but jumped up and down in the aisles and said “buy me nook, buy me nook”. at the time steve harvey’s latest book was on display and he commented that maybe I’d like to read that to which I replied I don’t care for steve Harvey. not a fan of his comedy, not a fan of his acting, hardly listen to his radio show. no desire to read his book. fast forward to xmas gift exchange and I get all excited to open my new nook and it’s a hardcover copy of steve harvey’s book (apparently this man bought a copy of this book for practically every woman on his shopping list). I understand the whole concept of it being the thought that counts and appreciating that someone did something for you but I honestly felt disrespected. I mean really – if I repeatedly say I don’t want this and you present me with it anyway… he was dead wrong but we laugh about it now.

CmonSeriously

October 10th, 2011
2:20 pm

Leggs
I bought it for myself, last vaccuum I will ever need. That thing is freakin awesome.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

October 10th, 2011
2:21 pm

We all have our own definitions of romantic one size don’t fit all, what’s romance for them don’t have to be romantic for you. I installed a garbage disposal in a friends kitchen sink and she said how romantic that was. We never had any interest in each other but it made me rethink what romantic is about. Romantic is being kind.

Exiled!

October 10th, 2011
2:23 pm

@Disco?

did u ask him why he boght that especially after telling him u didn’t like him.,,did u read the book?

Anything u gained from reading the book?

Barrack Hussein Obama

October 10th, 2011
2:23 pm

My wife bought me back a nice Tag huer watch from her diplomatic trip to Spain. Very romantic gesture from her…..AND THE TAXPAYERS!

kimmie

October 10th, 2011
2:25 pm

Romantic is being kind.

Blackfoote – Bears repeating. Thank you for posting that!

disco – See that’s what I’m talking about. Good you can laugh about it now. When a person does stuff like that, it’s almost a case that they know what you would really like but are determined to do what THEY want. Even if he wasn’t able to get you the Nook and got you something totally different, it would feel better than getting you something you expressly said you didn’t want.

CmonSeriously

October 10th, 2011
2:26 pm

Worst gift I have ever gotten was the promise of my ex to do her stretches for her back so she wouldn’t get injured again, that lasted a week before she got lazy and wouldn’t do them, she thought it was much better to buy a massage therapist, when we didn’t have the money.

Mike Vick

October 10th, 2011
2:28 pm

The most romantic thig I ever did was give my girl a pit bull puppy.

The most unromantic thig I ever did was drown that puppy when it couldn’t fight.

Reio

October 10th, 2011
2:28 pm

@ disco – This is off topic, but I feel the same way about Steve Harvey. Have’nt listened to him in a while( a year or so). What I can’t understand, is why the group of people on the show with him, feel the need to laugh hysterically at every word spoken. Tom Joiner and his crew are the same way. If cybal says ” Look outside, the grass is green.” Everyone, including Cybal, starts lsughing. No matter what is said, it’s immediately followed by laughter. I Just don’t get it.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

October 10th, 2011
2:30 pm

I admit hit me like a ton of bricks it’s the way some women get emotional, when you think of it romance is DOING something for a friend or a sweetheart no matter what it is.

Celisea

October 10th, 2011
2:30 pm

Romance for me is tangible mixed with intangible. Consideration, thoughtfulness. Whether it’s an occasion or event or whether efforts done as a result of caring or taking care.

Ron Burgundy

October 10th, 2011
2:30 pm

Reio – try The reguklar Guys…they actually ARE funny.

disco

October 10th, 2011
2:32 pm

I so did not read that book! in fact I pitched a soft-spoken fit re him not only giving me the book but giving me the same gift that he gave everyone else in his life. I was LIVID at the time. looking back I laugh and consider it a gag gift (though he did not gift it in a gagging spirit, he really thought that I didn’t mean what I was saying and that because the book was on a bestseller list it was worth reading). I actually returned the book to the store and got a gift card for the purchase price. I meant I had ZERO desire to read that book. and I neglected to mention that he did put cash in the cover of the book – enough to allow me to purchase the nook but I still just felt like he completely ignored my wishes re that particular book. yeah – that whole incident was something.

Reio

October 10th, 2011
2:32 pm

@ Ron Burgundy – Who are ‘The reguklar Guys’?

Exiled!

October 10th, 2011
2:35 pm

I once got a wrist watch from my wife’s step sister.

Ian not a jewel wry type dude and don’t wear a watch. Anyway,I wore it for a couple of days/weeks before I shoved it in my bathroom drawer.

Everytime we met she wld ask,’u don’t like the gift I gave u?’ I told her I appreciated the gift even tho I wasn’t big on watches. Man she was so high horse about herself and that watch that it almost bordered on being more of a curse!

That gift became so uncomfortable!

Ron Burgundy

October 10th, 2011
2:35 pm

Reio – the top rated morning radio show…they do funny bits.

This morning they did a bit where they went and interviewed some of the morons at the occupy Atlanta sit it…one guy lived in a freind backyard in a treehouse. Good stuff.

Exiled!

October 10th, 2011
2:36 pm

Wrist watch type dude

kimmie

October 10th, 2011
2:40 pm

Exiled – That is uncomfortable – when someone asks you about a gift you really don’t care for.

Reio

October 10th, 2011
2:41 pm

Ron Burgundy – Sounds like a local show. I’m in Birmingham. We can pick up V103 near the state line, but Birmingham is 150 miles west of ATL. Fred Shuttlesworth just died here, so locally, he is the big news now.

Ron Burgundy

October 10th, 2011
2:42 pm

Hey everybody, look at me! I am f@#king retarded! Woot!

Ron Burgundy

October 10th, 2011
2:44 pm

Reio – they have podcast…god stuff.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

October 10th, 2011
2:44 pm

My impression of romance was giving things like bracelets, flowers sent to her job, candy on Valentines. All those things are good, and they shouldn’t be left out of the equation, the real romance comes from the inside out to be felt by the other person.

Michelle Obama

October 10th, 2011
2:46 pm

Barrack used to not be romantic but he is now. man we go to NYC for dinners, Europe, Marthas vineyard, napa vallye. Since he got to be President we do all sorts of romantic stuff. Expensive stuff too and I get to take all my family and friends for free!

Leggs

October 10th, 2011
2:48 pm

@disco ~ I am cracking up at him buying you that book. Prime example of a guy listening with his 3rd ear. Heck $19.95 is a lot better than spending $199 (or however much it cost).

(ummmmm, 199…nope, don’t it, Leggs.)

Exiled!

October 10th, 2011
2:49 pm

We might have all people in and around Atlanta,lefties,rigties,racists,rednecks,peodos,gays,blacks,mexicans,white etc of different shades But we all drink water from the same source, for the most part!

That’s why the Braves,Falcons,Hawlks Suck!!

Take that Ron! :lol:

Ron Burgundy

October 10th, 2011
2:52 pm

Lets leave the beloved Falcons and Braves out of this. I stoped caring for the NBA when the NBA stopped caring about winning games and started caring about winning beauty contest.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

October 10th, 2011
2:53 pm

Kimmie:
Grown people ought to know it aint hard to be romantic.

disco

October 10th, 2011
2:54 pm

well, my folks always said “kids don’t take after strangers”. last year at the holidays, my son (age 22) had a friend/girl (not girlfriend) who had twin toddlers. he said he bought each of her babies a bag of pampers for xmas. I was too tickled that he bought pampers but he said he figured the kids would get plenty of toys from other sources but they would both need pampers. he definitely got that from me. I generally buy all children books for gifts. I figure most of them will get toys/games from everyone else so I always buy books.

disco

October 10th, 2011
2:56 pm

leggs – I didn’t bother mentioning that he put cash inside the front cover of the book. I guess that was for me to buy myself something. I was just so angry that he bought the book at all after I said “don’t buy me that book”. I was serious about it. heck, if steve Harvey wrote a book about my momma I wouldn’t read it. nope, I go right back to that purchase bordered on being disrespectful.

Exiled!

October 10th, 2011
2:56 pm

They ALK suck buddy,no coddling here!

In fact the Braves collapsed so bad this season,it was sad!

Let’s just give those water rights to Alabama and maybe we get our water from another source.

As for the Falcons,maybe Arthur should have brought Ron Mexico back!

Matt Ryan is a wimp!

His arm is garbage!

Exiled!

October 10th, 2011
2:58 pm

Reio

October 10th, 2011
2:59 pm

Can’t speak from a woman’s perspective, but I’ve always wanted to see who She really was. Never wanted to be impressed with thoughtful gifts. Long, interesting conversations with her(my wife), were very romantic to me, way back when. And they continue to this day. Just had a long, interesting conversation with her on what needs to be done in Sudan, Ethiopia, Somalia….to not just supply aid, but to prevent these famines in the future. Love just talking with her.

kimmie

October 10th, 2011
2:59 pm

Blackfoote – Exactly.

Ron Burgundy

October 10th, 2011
3:00 pm

Exiled – I am not into bringing felons back onto the team. I think Philly is reaping what they sow for letting that clown become a multi millionaire again. What did he have…3 or 4 picks yesterday. 100 million well spent. Matt Ryan is no Tom Brady for sure though and getting Julio Joned was dumb for what we gave up.

i'm swiss™

October 10th, 2011
3:02 pm

Hey folks, another hiring update — my company is looking for a Sales Engineer, if anyone out there interested.

SlimUno

October 10th, 2011
3:05 pm

swiss – since you’re the techjunkie, give me your thoughts. I was considering getting the beau one of those touch screen universal remotes. He already had like 4 different remotes but now that he’s just gotten one of those 3D led tv’s, I feel we’re surrounded by remotes. I thought it would make a good bday gift but then wondered if this was like buying a woman a vacuum. He likes the techy stuff too but was on the fence on whether this is a good gift idea or not.

Guys chime in if you have an opinion

abc

October 10th, 2011
3:05 pm

Disco, it wouldn’t have surprised me if he’d never bought you another gift, and would have cut you loose to boot. Your perspective on that whole story is entirely appalling. I mean really! Even including cash for the Nook was insufficient for you, with all your high-and-mighty sense of supposed receipt of supposedly disrespectful behavior — in the form of a gift! Then you turn right around and say you buy books for all the children you know — do you not think they’d feel they were treated with disrespect because you didn’t get them a video game instead?

Very odd.

Reio

October 10th, 2011
3:14 pm

disco – I hear you loud and clear. No matter what abc says. SlimUno – Would be more cost effective to just get a regular universal remote.

disco

October 10th, 2011
3:15 pm

abc – understood. but I was telling this the shortened comedic version because I do think the whole thing was comical. I didn’t say that this particular man is into restoring classic cars. I didn’t say that I knew he was looking for a particular accessory for a car he was working on. I didn’t say that I researched and hunted and put considerable effort into finding said accessory for him in addition to ordering him two books on the history of this particular car. he was very excited about the gifts that I presented to him. yes, I was quite perturbed that I did all of that and surprised him to boot when he couldn’t even purchase me the gift that I opened my mouth and asked for. as it stands now – I just accept that he’s not a good gift giver and he doesn’t always necessarily take direct instructions well. I have adjusted and adapted and if I wind up buying myself the gift that I want, so be it.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

October 10th, 2011
3:16 pm

Slim1:
Get it, anytime you DO something or Fullfill somebody needs it’s romantic.

Leggs

October 10th, 2011
3:17 pm

@disco ~ I’m with you on this one. Being appreciative of the gift wouldn’t even fit in my demeanor. I would say “thank you, but why the H.. did you buy this freaking book, when you clearly knew I didn’t want it. Do you really believe this mo fo can teach me a thing or two about relationships?” Come on baby, what were you thinking?”

:lol:

disco

October 10th, 2011
3:18 pm

oh. and as for buying kids books. I do it primarily because the kids that I am in contact with most come from households where folks generally do not encourage reading. heck, I pointed out to a cousin of mine once (said cousin has 4 children) that it was a shame that the yellow pages was the only book in her house. this was no exaggeration. so, yes I buy books for children and I encourage them to read. I even call them (I live in another state than my family members) to discuss books that I send to them in the mail. they have parents, grandparents or whoever to buy video games and toys.

Leggs

October 10th, 2011
3:19 pm

@abc ~ she said he included cash. Didn’t sound like it was enough to cover the nook.

Exiled!

October 10th, 2011
3:22 pm

Disco

I commend u on not buying video games for the kids.

Video games are bad for literacy and bad for kids physical health!

Period

abc

October 10th, 2011
3:27 pm

he did put cash in the cover of the book – enough to allow me to purchase the nook but I still just felt like he completely ignored my wishes

Hey, whatever floats your boat, yall. Just sayin. I don’t anticipate that many here would agree with me, and that’s okay.

Leggs

October 10th, 2011
3:31 pm

Oh, thanks, abc. I was going with her first post at 2:56. where she just mentioned he put cash in the front cover.

i'm swiss™

October 10th, 2011
3:33 pm

Slim — I don’t know of any guy who would be upset at receiving a tech gadget. For the remote, specifically, just make sure you do your homework about the brands/devices it supports (as well as the specific functions supported for each) — and compare that to the brands of the devices your dude has. In general, unless you have some really obscure brand devices, most universal remotes will cover you for at minimum basic functions.

Reio

October 10th, 2011
3:33 pm

abc – Wondering, why not just buy the nook? Leave the book in the store. He knew she wanted the nook, but not the book. If she does use the money to get the nook, now she’s got to lug it home herself, when he could have done it all for her, and saved the price of the book to boot. Just sayin.

Leggs

October 10th, 2011
3:40 pm

He was being assertive. He wanted her to have the book whether she wanted it or not. Heck I received the book as well, and to this day, haven’t cracked the spine!

Leggs

October 10th, 2011
3:42 pm

@Cmon ~ do you think enough time has been languished on this non-nook buying chap??? :wink:

Reio

October 10th, 2011
3:42 pm

Leggs – Better check it out. Might be some cash in it!

disco

October 10th, 2011
3:43 pm

well heck blog regulars. I’ve eased up in the spot a few times over the last week and have not been officially initiated and/or issued a blog vest. can we consider the picking apart of my pettiness re not being grateful/appreciative of a gift as my initiation?

abc

October 10th, 2011
3:43 pm

Maybe he thought the book held worthwhile information of which she was not aware; maybe there was something in it that he wanted her to know. One can only guess. I’ve put copies of the Autobiography onto folks who expressed a lack of interest in it — I figured back then, maybe they’ll change their mind and will have a copy handy if/when they did. ‘Course, I gave up on that a long time ago.

Maybe it’s just me. I’ve only rarely received a gift that was something that I’d asked for, even if in response to a query as to what I’d like. I’ve long since adopted a practice where if it’s something I want, I just go get it for myself. Now people complain that because of that, I’m hard to buy gifts for.

Oh wait, we weren’t going to talk about that anymore! :-)

Reio

October 10th, 2011
3:47 pm

disco – Still kind of new here myself. Don’t have enough cred to help you yet(I don’t think).

Exiled!

October 10th, 2011
3:49 pm

One think I know is if a man pouted about a ‘wrong’ gift he got from a romantic interest it wld be considered as killing the ‘romance’ or not being romantic.

@Disco/abc

difference is most men would say,’thank u’ and just put it aside.

No questions asked.

Not so,with our Loud counterparts!

SlimUno

October 10th, 2011
3:50 pm

make sure you do your homework about the brands/devices it supports (as well as the specific functions supported for each) — and compare that to the brands of the devices your dude has

swiss – That’s the tedious part lol Something like researching all that would be his perfect night home. I on the other hand see one that looks cool, have some good reviews and I’m like that’s good. lol

Exiled!

October 10th, 2011
3:50 pm

Yes Dear

Thank you Dear!

:lol:

Leggs

October 10th, 2011
3:52 pm

I know Reio. When I don’t play is when my numbers tend to fall..

@disco ~ dang, what a way to tell me I’ve been lax in my duties. You are correct. I don’t even remember if I’ve greeted you with a Welcome to Blogsville!

Vests aren’t handed out all willy nilly. A week’s stay here doesn’t warant you a vest…You have a probation period to see if you can cut the mustard and it seems like you can. However, if you should start to get hit with shrapnel from opposing members, we may or may step in and help defend you. It depends on if you made an arse out of yourself, or if whether someone has truly misunderstood what you said… :lol: :lol:

Welcome!

i'm swiss™

October 10th, 2011
3:55 pm

Slim — You could also take him to his favorite electronics store & tell him to pick out what he wants. ;-) I know personally, I would be just fine with that. :-D

disco

October 10th, 2011
3:56 pm

not calling you out leggs. I just figured I’d try to sneak in a blog acceptance on a slow day. it was worth a shot.

Leggs

October 10th, 2011
4:01 pm

does warrant you…..

@Reio ~ you’re right, you haven’t established street cred here yet, but you are working on it.

@abc ~ that would be the only logical deduction for me as well…something in the book he wanted her to read without him pointing a particular behavior out to her.

i'm swiss™

October 10th, 2011
4:02 pm

disco — You are a Blogette, correct? In that case, the final step before full initiation (and receiving your very own blog vest) is that you need to send tastefully done photo of yourself, buck nekkided to myself, Purple, and Me.lo (aka Exiled) for review. For convenience, you can just send it to me & I’ll pass it along to those other chumps blog bros. :lol:

Leggs

October 10th, 2011
4:02 pm

@disco ~ you still a newbie with milk behind your ears…you can’t sneak a darn thing into Blogsville. Heck the word itself is banned (lololol).

I gotcha!

Leggs

October 10th, 2011
4:03 pm

O/T – anybody seen the movie “Unknown” with Niam Leison (sp?)….very, very good movie!

SlimUno

October 10th, 2011
4:06 pm

‘You could also take him to his favorite electronics store & tell him to pick out what he wants’

Yeah right….have me walking out of there with every electronic device that sounds cool: Old 8 track players, vcr’s and separate rewinder, 8mm film projection screen…

Fion

October 10th, 2011
4:07 pm

What about “Ides Of March ” I want to catch that this week????

disco

October 10th, 2011
4:08 pm

I have not seen unknown but I just looked it up on imdb. liam neeson plays some pretty good parts.

Fion

October 10th, 2011
4:09 pm

This is about the 5th remake of “The Thing” and I’m still going to see it.

SlimUno

October 10th, 2011
4:10 pm

Leggs – I’ve seen it and I totally didn’t expect the outcome…I enjoyed it

Celisea

October 10th, 2011
4:12 pm

We did movie weekend a couple weekends ago. Unknown was first on the list. Good choice ;)

Celisea

October 10th, 2011
4:19 pm

Taken was also a good movie

Barrack Hussein Obama

October 10th, 2011
4:33 pm

Michelle thinks its romantic when I take her to paris for an overnight jaunt on air force one where rent out and enitre luxury hotel and bring as many handlers as possible, Its a lovely time that I am sure my constituents dont mind be doing since I am so stressed,

Leggs

October 10th, 2011
4:34 pm

@SlimUno ~ I am very good at solving quite a few plots and I didn’t see that one coming AT ALL.

@Celisea ~ his acting style isn’t that much different than that in Taken. Taken was a freaking good movie.

BlackMagicWoman

October 10th, 2011
4:38 pm

SWISS…you ARE the father! :lol: Maury said so!

OJ

October 10th, 2011
4:44 pm

The most romantic thing I have ever done is propose over a candlelight dinner.

The most unromantic was when I kilt a girl.

Celisea

October 10th, 2011
4:45 pm

Leggs – Here of late I’m liking his movies.

SlimUno

October 10th, 2011
4:45 pm

In my Carolanne voice from Poltergeist They’re baaaaaaccccck…

Leggs

October 10th, 2011
4:47 pm

Leggs

October 10th, 2011
4:51 pm

@disco ~ very interesting how I changed the letters in his name.

Ron Burgundy

October 10th, 2011
4:51 pm

Is whipped cream underwear considered romantic?

Leggs

October 10th, 2011
4:57 pm

“…One thing we all should do: Forget } what is behind and strain oward what is ahead.” ~ Philippians 3:13

PEACE!!

i'm swiss™

October 10th, 2011
5:05 pm

BMW — Maury LIES!!! I pulled out! :lol:

SlimUno

October 10th, 2011
5:08 pm

I’ll be in here for a little while longer…work project

LeeH1

October 10th, 2011
6:25 pm

People today know how to have sex, but they don’t know how to flirt. People today know all about seduction, but not about romance. They can’t learn these skills from the movies and TV, since the writers don’t know about them, either.