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Social life keeping you single?

Earlier this week we talked about knowing what we really want in a mate and ending up with someone totally different. It reminded me of another dating conundrum: the thing that attracts you to someone in the beginning is often the same thing that drives a wedge between you two later.

For example, a man meets a woman out at a party. She is vibrant, friendly, full of life and is pretty active on the social scene. At first, he loves this about her. They get together and suddenly it’s a problem that his little social butterfly won’t sit home with him in a quiet cocoon of an existence. See what happened there? It’s a classic example of how things become a little more complicated when expectations kick in.

A lot of people I know who go out a lot are ready and willing to take on domestic/married/coupled up life. I believe that you can actually strike a nice balance of both if you wanted to. A little compromise goes a long way, doesn’t it?

Is it possible partying is keeping some people single? Yes, especially when they are out in the clubs, bars, every single night getting numbers, getting wasted – rinse, repeat, etc. That is not the same as living it up and enjoying the freedom of singlehood, though, is it? What do you think?

Have you ever dated someone who told that you go out too much?

How many times a month do you go out with friends, party, or attend some social event? Do you think this improves your chances of meeting someone? Has it been a distraction from exploring things with someone special?

When does going out and partying too much become a red flag for you?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

291 comments Add your comment

Celisea

October 7th, 2011
3:29 pm

LOLOLOLOL

LOVE IT BLACKFOOTE…..Good one!!!!

SexyCool

October 7th, 2011
3:29 pm

LMAO….Blackfoote is Dr. Seuss!!!

Raqi

October 7th, 2011
3:30 pm

Howdy Blackfoote.

Celisea

October 7th, 2011
3:30 pm

I’m laughing out loud….FOR REAL….AND Da man is still here…

Leggs

October 7th, 2011
3:31 pm

Well, if that’s not a pluck on Mark’s forehead, I don’t know what is (lol).

Celisea

October 7th, 2011
3:32 pm

Leggs – Stooooop….LOLOLOLOL

Leggs

October 7th, 2011
3:33 pm

@Celisea ~ who expected that from BF…that was funny. A may byt*ched slapped another man :lol:

Leggs

October 7th, 2011
3:33 pm

A man byt*ched slapped another man….

Celisea

October 7th, 2011
3:34 pm

I tell ya Legs, didn’t know he had it in him. Sweetly done.

BlackMagicWoman

October 7th, 2011
3:53 pm

Chiming in late as hell from the Rotten Apple! What’s up folks?

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)

October 7th, 2011
3:54 pm

Today was anything but good at work and I couldn’t wait to get out of there. Time was crawling by and I had a three day weekend coming that I was anxious to get started since my fiance and I just gotten engaged and I wanted to celebrate…only with him. He must’ve been thinking the same thing ’cause he texted me saying, “I’ve got a surprise for you”, so you already know the last hour of the day seemed like four. When I got home, there were the biggest bouquet of pink roses I’d ever seen on the table along with a beautiful card. I noticed large red arrows on the floor and followed them to my bedroom…where I found a pretty strapless pink dress along with accessories and a FIERCE pair of pumps. A note next to it read,”Go ‘head n get pretty Pretty and I’ll oick you up at 8″.

I gave myself a once over in the mirror and liked what I saw..and as soon as I heard my doorbell ring I squealed in delight. When I opened the door there he was smiling at me and looking good enough to eat. He’d gotten us a limo and took me to the Sun Dial…our favorite spot. After dinner we took a long limo ride around the town as we sipped champagne and got a lil flirty with each other. “I’m hungry” he said but I looked at him and said,”We just ate”, and he replied, “That’s not what I’m talking about eating”. I felt a warm flush rush over me as he slid my g-strings down and motioned for me to sit on his….face. All I can say is thank goodness it was a stretch limo and the driver couldn’t hear or see us. My leggs were shaking like jello by the time we got back to his place and after he tipped the limo driver(who happened to be a good friend of his)we damn near ran into the house. We barely made it into the foyer when…

Leggs

October 7th, 2011
4:07 pm

Silly arse me. I’m over here jumping for joy that SassyMe got engaged so quickly. I sho fargot we were Zaning….

We barely made it into the foyer when I had to get some right then and there. I slowly let my fingers massage his manhood while I wrapped my right leg around his waist. I started thrusting and grinding, kissing him ever so passionately. I nibbled his ear then whispered, wait right here. I have something for you…..

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)

October 7th, 2011
4:15 pm

I’m over here jumping for joy that SassyMe got engaged so quickly. I sho fargot we were Zaning….

:lol:

awww how cute Leggs…

Exiled!

October 7th, 2011
4:16 pm

now I am wide awake ;-) carry on!

Leggs

October 7th, 2011
4:19 pm

I saunter back to the foyer with a blanket, fruit and honey. I unbutton his shirt, licking his chest from neck down to his navel. I ask him to lay down. He takes off his pants. I dim the hallway lights all while I’m pouring honey over his chest. I lick as much of it off with my tongue as I possibly can. He’s moaning and I’m liking the sound of it. I put his shaft in my mouth where is quivering is more palpable. As he releases himself he smiles at me. I lay on my back taking a piece of fruit and dipping it in the honey…I place a piece of it in me asking him to eat it for me….He……

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)

October 7th, 2011
4:21 pm

you should contribute as well exiled..it’s more fun when the guys chip in,too…

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)

October 7th, 2011
4:23 pm

now would be a good start exiled…i’m calling you out…you talk alot of sh!t so back it up.

Leggs

October 7th, 2011
4:25 pm

@SassyMe ~ not only that I’m thinking “Damn I want a dude to do that for me, have a dress and a pair of pumps waiting for me with a note sayiing what time he’s coming to pick me up. I finally realized I was caught up in your fantasy which I thought was real (lol)….

Exiled!

October 7th, 2011
4:25 pm

Lol

I’m in a meeting

Leggs

October 7th, 2011
4:28 pm

Punk move….Ex

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)

October 7th, 2011
4:33 pm

Punk is as it does…now I remembered why I usually skim over their posts or ig them all together :lol:

I finally realized I was caught up in your fantasy which I thought was real

Leggs I was thinking about the movie “Pretty Woman” and typed what came to mind…I was also thinking about the episode of “Single Ladies” when ole dude gave Stacy’s character a bath and put her to bed…

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)

October 7th, 2011
4:35 pm

So you mean to tell me there aren’t any blog guys who aren’t afraid to stop lurking and add some spice to these last few minutes here?!

Oh well…

Celisea

October 7th, 2011
4:36 pm

Let me just say this has been an interesting blog week.

If you want to convert from troll to regular, kill the sniper moves, grab a moniker and join in the fun.

If you don’t want us to get specific to race, don’t bring it here.

If you don’t want to find out how deadly the MOD SQUAD can be and bring it, don’t start nothing.

If you can’t take it don’t dish first. No back pedaling, you put it out there it’s on HST…you back pedaled twice this week.

Please learn and understand the sort of dialog we have here. This is not grammar or high school nor college. We like to kick back and let it flow…if you don’t “get it” ask first.

And Don’t EVER get it twisted for that I’ll say:

Don’t let the smooth taste fool you :)

Diva didn’t give me permission but I’m just saying.

Leggs

October 7th, 2011
4:37 pm

@SassyMe ~ I was thinking about myself (lololol).

Celisea

October 7th, 2011
4:37 pm

Carry on Zane Girls/Guys :)

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)

October 7th, 2011
4:43 pm

Leggs I was kinda thinking about myself,too…I would love for that to happen to me!

Celisea I guess this chapter will have to wait til whenever as Leggs and I are the only ones contributing…no biggie.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)

October 7th, 2011
4:50 pm

Have a grrreat weekend blog!!

peace…

BlackMagicWoman

October 7th, 2011
4:51 pm

SASSY..congrats girl! Your boo needs to give some guys tips and classes on being romantic. Some think it’s for pansies…..but NEWSFLASH we don’t see you as less of a man. In fact it makes you more of a man because you are not trying to be hard (macho). You put it all out on the line without playing games! Now DAT’S a real man! Girl where did you find him in ATL? Because it’s plenty a frogs and not enough princes. Now there are lots of Princesses though! :lol:

You should write erotic short stories girl as a side gig. Your name could be “Sassy Jenkins”! :lol: They would for sho’ know you were a permanent wearer of the “brown suit”! :lol:

BlackMagicWoman

October 7th, 2011
4:53 pm

LEGGS & SASSY..I can add to the book with stories of me and my ex with our “Vehicular BJs, C00chie snacks and down right freakiness”! I think there is a permanent gear shift make in my back! :lol:

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)

October 7th, 2011
4:54 pm

No Black Magic I didn’t get engaged…sometimes on Friday’s we write our own version of The Zane Chronicles and this was my chapter.

I like your suggestion about a side gig…gotta look into that.

Leggs

October 7th, 2011
4:54 pm

@BMW ~ the man is a figment (not the Blog’s Figment lolol) of her imagination (lol). I see you got fooled like I did.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)

October 7th, 2011
4:55 pm

I think there is a permanent gear shift make in my back!

That’s what we’re talking ’bout right there!!!

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)

October 7th, 2011
4:56 pm

Next Friday Black Magic you’ve gotta add your chapter ;-)

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)

October 7th, 2011
4:56 pm

Okay the No Mas Cantina calls….

Leggs

October 7th, 2011
4:57 pm

BMW ~ the next poster is to pick up where the last sentence leaves off. We only do this on Fridays and not every Friday. It was weak today since only 2 posted. Girl, I have no doubt your stories will fog up our computer screens (LOLOLOL)….

Leggs

October 7th, 2011
4:57 pm

We will continue with “The Engagment” next Friday. I’ve saved the 3 sections….until then.

PEACE!

Leggs

October 7th, 2011
4:58 pm

Oh, we may need to invest in some bibs for Exiled….and some vaseline so he can take care of himself at his desk!

BlackMagicWoman

October 7th, 2011
4:59 pm

Well see I’ve been gone a minute. Ok…Im on the same page now! :lol:

SlimUno

October 8th, 2011
9:55 am

Hello, hello, hello….anybody in here?

HST

October 8th, 2011
3:45 pm

Not every one eats to be gluttonous at FoGo’s. The service is just about unparelled in the ATL. I can’t believe anyone would use Golden Coral and FoGo’s as a comparison or in the same sentence. Social retards.

Obesity is rampant in the US and it doesn’t take an all you eat anything to be obese or even fat.

HST

October 8th, 2011
3:52 pm

In case you women didn’t know, you shut yourselves down also. Moreover, WD said she didn’t mean to shut down posting. So I’m not sure what y’all think you accomplished. Instead y’all sound like a bunch of bitter women who can’t stand not to have their way.