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Social life keeping you single?

Earlier this week we talked about knowing what we really want in a mate and ending up with someone totally different. It reminded me of another dating conundrum: the thing that attracts you to someone in the beginning is often the same thing that drives a wedge between you two later.

For example, a man meets a woman out at a party. She is vibrant, friendly, full of life and is pretty active on the social scene. At first, he loves this about her. They get together and suddenly it’s a problem that his little social butterfly won’t sit home with him in a quiet cocoon of an existence. See what happened there? It’s a classic example of how things become a little more complicated when expectations kick in.

A lot of people I know who go out a lot are ready and willing to take on domestic/married/coupled up life. I believe that you can actually strike a nice balance of both if you wanted to. A little compromise goes a long way, doesn’t it?

Is it possible partying is keeping some people single? Yes, especially when they are out in the clubs, bars, every single night getting numbers, getting wasted – rinse, repeat, etc. That is not the same as living it up and enjoying the freedom of singlehood, though, is it? What do you think?

Have you ever dated someone who told that you go out too much?

How many times a month do you go out with friends, party, or attend some social event? Do you think this improves your chances of meeting someone? Has it been a distraction from exploring things with someone special?

When does going out and partying too much become a red flag for you?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

291 comments Add your comment

Raqi

October 7th, 2011
1:32 pm

I meet more married women ready to have sex…

You may be right HST. I am married and haven’t had sex in 5 loooooong days, so yeah I may be a little ready. LOL I’ll probably fall asleep in the tub after making dinner, cleaning the kitchen, washing and putting to bed babies, and doing that final load of laundry. But if The Man wants some he stands a good chance of getting it tonight. LOL

Let me stop.

HEY SEXYCOOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I pulled up the blog just to say hello to you. Hope all is well.

Celisea, 9 times out of 10 its always the one that you set straight or called out the day before. LOL The other 1 chance is someone that claims to be cool with you under one name but in reality don’t care too much for you so they take those occasion jabs at you as a release to keep up the “fake virtual friendship”.

On topic, don’t go looking for a settled relationship material in a “Girls Gone Wild” and Freaknic environment. What you see is what you are going to be getting.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)

October 7th, 2011
1:33 pm

What’s everybody got planned for the weekend?

I’m meeting some friends at the No Mas Cantina this evening and who knows after that. I don’t know what’s up for tomorrow but I want to get out and go to a good reggae spot and dance ’til my feet hurt. Sunday I’m chilling with my niece & brother and since Monday is a holiday I ain’t doin isht…

Celisea

October 7th, 2011
1:34 pm

Exactly Leggs. That’s someone that THINKS they’ve observed all there is to know about me. They’ve made all sorts of assumptions about me from tidbits but don’t don’t know jack. It’s a freaking blog. I have my wits about me and intelligence in tact all day….because number one I’m a woman, number two a black woman and I must must represent. But that again speaks to people trying understand or have insight into something they natually know nothing about. Anybody reading and “know” can tell the difference in not being able to speak intelligently and speaking colloquially. About as different as night and day. But I can’t explain something to someone they don’t naturally possess.

Alright gotta eat. I’m not even sweating. That’s a wannabe on the outside looking in, wishing they could “get it.”

HST

October 7th, 2011
1:34 pm

Leggs, unfortunately it has on me as well. BGC is so damn funny to me. What are those women (loosely said) thinking? A topic probably best for another day.

No one has figured out my SN. I’ve asked if anyone knows what it means. I figured if posters knew what it was then they’d know I wasn’t the others who bring such suspect to the multiple SN or moniker issue.

No guesses? No ideas really?

SexyCool

October 7th, 2011
1:35 pm

Waving frantically, seriously experiencing a case of Rocky Withdrawal.

Me miss you.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)

October 7th, 2011
1:37 pm

That has got to be one of the corniest phrases I’ve ever heard on BGC.

Speaking of BGC did you see the episode where Julie throw milk and cereal on one girl and promptly got a thorugh a$$ whoopin afterwards…

Leggs

October 7th, 2011
1:37 pm

Hello Raqi. Hope all is beautiful with you.

SlimUno

October 7th, 2011
1:38 pm

Sassy – Have you ever been to Loca Luna? My cousin and I are trying to find a cool spot to grab drinks at tomorrow evening. I want to say I’ve heard they do free salsa lessons and stuff but wasn’t sure.

HST

October 7th, 2011
1:38 pm

Yes and it was epic. Judi is freakin’ nuts!

Celisea

October 7th, 2011
1:38 pm

Exactly Raqi Mark you can hit me up on the side, I have no problem setting you straight and settlling your wonderment in my personal life….whether not someone is available for my dusting :)

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)

October 7th, 2011
1:39 pm

it ain’t that deep…let the air out…

Celisea

October 7th, 2011
1:40 pm

We hope you can stick around….Raqi

kimmie

October 7th, 2011
1:41 pm

watch out these girls think they’re witty and their crap doesn’t stink

HST – How about we KNOW we are witty and well, errbody’s crap stank!LOL!!

Exiled – You know exactly what this topic is about. Nobody said you had to have your spouse joined to the hip. Time on your own, with interests and friends of your own, keeps things fresh. We are talking about folks that are acting SWM – single while married. There is a difference. But you are right, each couple has to “do them”.

Exiled!

October 7th, 2011
1:42 pm

Hot Source Tomatoes?

thats it?

and what does BGC mean?

SexxyCool/Raqi?

so is ur virtual friendship fake too?

I wonder wonder!

But I hate folks who are spineless and are ‘castrated’ and ‘censored’ coz somehow the think they ‘know folks on a blog!

Really!!???

SlimUno

October 7th, 2011
1:42 pm

Sassy – My bestie and I would always go to Vibes off Glenwood…But beware, those guys are A G G R E S S I V E lol…I love to ‘whine it up’ :oops:

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)

October 7th, 2011
1:42 pm

Celisea you damned sure dusting ‘em like an old a$$ rug chile!

SlimUno Loca Luna is nice…I heard they give out free salsa lessons but I don’t know how often. I think you and your friends would like it.

Leggs

October 7th, 2011
1:43 pm

@SassyMe ~ this season is truly wack. Of course no one is a lady on this show, but these girls are beyond stupid. Judy needs theraphy and AA. She’s a hot mess. They beat her down to the ground!

Celisea

October 7th, 2011
1:43 pm

Raqi

October 7th, 2011
1:43 pm

SexyCool, I miss talking to yall too but I had to come to grips with I was hanging out here too much. There a things that I should have been doing that blogging was keeping me from doing.

I don’t how but I deleted my gmail account and lost all of you all email addresses. I told myself maybe it was for the good being that I did not need the distraction (not said in a bad way) with a new tiny little fragile baby coming home. He was on oxygen when he came home so I was sleeping with one eye open on him and had him in sight at all times.

I do think about yall and always hope things are going good for everyone.

You be good. :wink:

HST

October 7th, 2011
1:45 pm

Raqi, if it’s only been 5 days and you have all that going on, my married buddies could use some tips. You sound like a good wife and dedicated mother. Such a rare quality these days.

SexyCool

October 7th, 2011
1:47 pm

No worries. We have always be/will always be good. It is totally understood. And if you need to, you can always get to me at ThreeWordsDaily.

SexyCool

October 7th, 2011
1:48 pm

have always BEEN/will always be

kimmie

October 7th, 2011
1:48 pm

Exiled – Did you see the one that came at me the other day? Said I was very, very mean spirited and that I absolutely refused to listen to anyone other than myself? LOL!! I got such a good laugh about that, I told hubby about it!!

Leggs

October 7th, 2011
1:48 pm

How’s little man doing? If you care not to answer, I understand.

kimmie

October 7th, 2011
1:50 pm

Raqi – I understand completely. If you get to SCool, she will pass along my email addy.

Exiled!

October 7th, 2011
1:54 pm

Kimmie?

those are weak folks who don’t have an argument of their own.

I hope,for the sake of manhood,that wasn’t a man.

I may be wrong.

But if that was a man Kimmie,let him be gay! :lol:

I be aaaight with that.

kimmie

October 7th, 2011
1:58 pm

Exiled – They just referred to themself as Duluth. But you know I had a smarta$$ comeback: “Since I’m the best thing since sliced bread, why wouldn’t I only listen to myself?” :lol:

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)

October 7th, 2011
1:59 pm

Judy needs theraphy and AA. She’s a hot mess.

Leggs she needs something ’cause baby gurl ain’t right in the head. I saw a preview and Stasi is tired of her drunken behavior…they’re gonna target her next to get booted from the house.

Raqi

October 7th, 2011
2:02 pm

Quickly…

SexyCool, my promise still stands. You know what I am talking about.

Hey Leggs. He is doing good. We have finally gotten to where Liz is not trying to “get rid of him” out of jealousy. Now she tries to play with him which I think is even more dangerous. LOL She is always wanting to put one of her large stuffed animals in his bassinet or hold him like he’s her doll or something.

She had nothing to be jealous about. She has had her dad to give her attention. Mase wouldn’t hold him that much at first because he was so tiny so she and he would just hang out together and leave me to tend to the little man alone.

Kimmie, thanks. And will do.

See this thing is addicting. LOL I have to go. You all be good.

Celisea

October 7th, 2011
2:05 pm

I missed out on the good wings…dernit

HST

October 7th, 2011
2:05 pm

I will be doing a track day this weekend testing my new track car. I’m really excited about it, I’ve been overseeing the build for 3 months. Time to dial it in!

Sunday, as usual I’ll be shopping & dining downtown. I definitely will be at Buckhead Dinnner for breakfast. I’m craving Fogo De Chao really bad but my GF could have other ideas about our dining. Either way a day at the malls should have us ready to eat.

EVERYONE have a great weekend and enjoy themselves.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)

October 7th, 2011
2:10 pm

Glad all is well with you and the fam Raqi!!

HST

October 7th, 2011
2:10 pm

HST = Health, Sciences and Technology

Celisea

October 7th, 2011
2:12 pm

Hugs and smooches to the little ones…Raqi

Leggs

October 7th, 2011
2:13 pm

Thanks, Raqi. I was wondering how Liz was handling things. I wish all you the best. Stay strong!!

Exiled!

October 7th, 2011
2:13 pm

@HST?

other ideas?

I thought u said u don’t compromise?

But fogo

Exiled!

October 7th, 2011
2:14 pm

but For go de chao is my joint

Next time we meet there maybe I’ll be with a new girl!

Exiled!

October 7th, 2011
2:16 pm

Excuse me,U’ll be not I’ll be

HST

October 7th, 2011
2:16 pm

That’s not really compromising Exiled, that’s being .5 of the equation.

“but fogo” what do you mean by that?

HST

October 7th, 2011
2:18 pm

Too funny.

I dine at Fogo a lot which is why my GF might not wanna go.

Exiled!

October 7th, 2011
2:19 pm

Is there any particular chic on here that u like,HST?

what’s ur email add?

SlimUno

October 7th, 2011
2:21 pm

I’ve never been to Fogo but the beau said he likes it. I am just not that big of an eater to spend that type of money to not eat. I would love to at least try it out once though. I had just mentioned it to him today since i’m getting a bit of OT for a project we’ve been working on at work. Told him I’d take him out for a nice dinner ;-)

Randyt (aka...DON'T HAVE ONE OF THESE T SHIRTS)

October 7th, 2011
2:22 pm

AWWW Raqi, once again you remind me just how bad my marriage was. I doubt she would have noticed it had been awhile until she realized several birthdays and anniversarys had rolled around. Five days, I’d have been lucky if she noticed in five months…been trying for eleven years now but still am nowhere near caught up ;-) I’d have to do two and three a days for the rest of my life to be batting .500.

Celisea

October 7th, 2011
2:25 pm

Randyt – Any upates on the new lady?

Celisea

October 7th, 2011
2:25 pm

Is there any particular chic on here that u like,HST?

That’s funny because I thought it was a woman…lol

kimmie

October 7th, 2011
2:26 pm

Slim – I’ve not been either & would like to go. Try it out for lunch and then you would not have to spend as much.

Randyt (aka...DON'T HAVE ONE OF THESE T SHIRTS)

October 7th, 2011
2:31 pm

Hi Celisea…took her to the airport this afternoon so she could fly to NY to see her daughter. Could have been some time to bring things back a little but as ususal my daughter had an emergency that I ahd to deal with. Kind of awkward but I think we are going to go away for a weekend and turn our moth*&^&**&g cell phones off and try to bring things back from the abyss.

abc

October 7th, 2011
2:31 pm

I call it Go Fo Da Chow. Even though the food and service was really pretty good, I was most impressed by all the really fat people that camped out in there for (apparently) hours, eating enough for 4 people each. The joint is a fatso’s paradise. Not quite worth the dough, though, IMHO.

Celisea

October 7th, 2011
2:33 pm

Okay 6 wings will NOT get it for me today. Great…all I need is a reason to eat snacks. :(

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

October 7th, 2011
2:36 pm

Afternoon Folks:
The phantoms have dropped in, that’s a usual thing latley. It seem like a day reckoning should be in order for folks who have multi moniker disorder.

If a woman wants to party, more than spend time with me I’ll tell her go ahead I’ll be fine. I know how to party too and mine could last longer. Since our party together never got off the ground it’s over for both of us.